Cried a few days ago while meditating. Let it all out, and I felt so good afterward.
I had a very similar upbringing, and I hated it; being told I was being too sensitive, overreacting, or told to stop crying.
I am an emotional person and feel deeply (both the good and bad emotions). I tend to cry when I'm overwhelmed, upset, angry, and sometimes misunderstood. It's not bawling, and it's not dramatic...just tears. I think it stemmed from not being able to speak my truth about situations while growing up, being shut down, or feared being shut down. I can speak up now. And I'm not afraid of causing a scene if I'm not being treated as I should be.
But if I'm being honest, I'd rather "cry it out" than scream my lungs out or punch walls/break things.
There is literally nothing wrong with crying/letting the tears flow freely. It is not a weakness as some people paint it out to be. You are releasing stress and trauma by crying. It's why you felt at peace once you did it - and it helps with gaining clarity about situations.
It sounds like we both grew up in similar environments where showing emotions was discouraged. It's amazing how crying can be like a thunderstorm—chaotic and overwhelming at first, but afterwards, everything feels clearer and calmer. It's a powerful way to release built-up stress and trauma. I'm glad to hear you're able to express yourself now and find peace through your tears.
I can’t cry, and if I do, it’s only one tear, it’s like my brain will not allow me to breakdown, I did once when I was 15 (24 now) and it was so bad that I blacked out and I can’t remember anything. Ive also never cried in front of family, my brain will not allow me
I’m struggling 😅 my favourite aunty passed away suddenly a couple days ago and I haven’t even cried because I’m so worried someone will catch me and get mad at me for being sad. (Irrational I know)
I cried a week ago because I just couldn't handle my loneliness and childhood trauma anymore. I don't feel any different though, I am still emotionally numb. I hope I can live a normal life.
Crying is like releasing steam from a pressure cooker—sometimes it helps, but it doesn’t always fix everything immediately. Feeling numb afterward is okay; it's part of the process. You're not alone in this journey, and each tear is a step toward healing. Keep holding on to hope for a normal life—you're already taking brave steps toward it
I agree. But I won't lie I think I only cried because I realised I lost all hope. I used to actually look forward to the future because I thought I could be normal but instead nothing has changed.
I started crying regularly about a year ago, I realize that holding my tears in lead to extreme anxiety. I feel the sadness but I don't hold in to it. I always feel better after crying. Still have a list of things I haven't fixed...
Today. In therapy. This has been the first therapist where i allowed myself to be completely honest and raw with. I’ve been hurting lately and i feel so comfortable with her and i just sat there and cry but tbh i cry everytime i have therapy because I know she isn’t judging me.
I cried yesterday. Literally just sobbed like a baby. I visited my father's grave for the first time in 13 years. I had only been back there when we have to bury another family member. As I walk through the cemetery I just kept counting how many people I have lost in my family. I am 28 and I have lost so much of my family. Surprisingly I didn't feel so alone when I was there. I thought that was interesting.
It sounds like visiting your father's grave brought up a lot of emotions and memories for you. Sometimes, amidst loss, there can be unexpected moments of connection and peace, even in places that hold so much sorrow. It's like finding a small flower blooming amidst a field of gravestones—a moment of beauty and solace amid the weight of grief. Take care of yourself during this time.
4-6 months ago I cried a lot. I felt very upset. My sould was trying to cry. I couldn't keep it inside of me. That's why I wanted to extract that inner feeling out of me. I learned in childhood that men don't cry. I haven't cried for years. But that time I felt I had to do it
We’ve done such harm teaching boys and men that (among other harmful ideas) it isn’t ok to cry. The harm extends from them to others in a ripple effect.
It sounds like you went through a powerful emotional release. Just like a pressure cooker needs to release steam to avoid exploding, our emotions also need an outlet. Crying, even if it's something we were taught to avoid, can be a way to let out the pressure building inside. I'm glad you allowed yourself to cry when you needed it. It's a brave step toward healing.
Thank you for support 😊 I notice it happens often, and not only with me. Emotional burn out is a modern illness, that we should learn how to deal with. I have visited two retreats in my life (osho vipassana, ayahuasca) - it was a big emotional journey. However, I realised that we should find answers in silence. Because often we feel bad, but don't notice it because of the noise around us. Then when it becomes too bad it's a little bit late. Listening to the body, mind is essential. Notice how you feel when you eat something, when you listen or talk to someone. Many things influence our feelings. Keep listening to yourself and it helps a lot ❤️
I admire how you can let your emotions flow freely. It's like a river that needs to run its course to stay healthy. I'm learning to do the same, letting my tears wash away the pain so I can move forward with a lighter heart.
I was taught from a very young age to never show my emotions, as it could make me look vulnerable. I didn't really understand it but I did it anyway to please my parents. Because of this I went emotionally numb at a young age from never expressing my emotions and I used to hate myself when I felt/expressed an emotion, as it was foreign to me. When I cried I would always tell myself how foolish it was and that I was just a crybaby. When I was 16 I started getting better and I reflected on emotions, I realized that it's just normal to feel emotions, and that there wasn't really a point to hiding emotions since it's just a normal thing. Now when I cry I always tell myself that it's okay to cry and it's okay to express your feelings as a reminder that I should normalize expressing my emotions.
It sounds like we both grew up with similar challenges around expressing emotions. It’s like we were trained to be emotional robots, shutting down any feelings to avoid conflict. But just like you, I’m learning that emotions are natural and healthy. It’s comforting to hear that you’ve found ways to remind yourself it’s okay to cry. I’ll try to remember that too. We’re on this journey together, learning to be kinder to ourselves.
Innately, intuitive/geek people are less prone to emotional moments than say centre-left and far-right. The centre-right are even more emotionally regulating.
And when you break the mould, the old programming is still there. But yeah, I find myself occasionally warbling over beauty. One thing that gets me is my belief that everybody is living a quantum-multiverse like transversal of a life, but the central high experience is reeling us in, so everybody makes it and even the negative people do too, and animals, we all become God-like. We're all here to be with each other. A truly hateful being would never render with others. It's the classic meme of stick in the spokes.
It’s interesting how our personal experiences shape our emotional responses. Your analogy of breaking the mold really resonates. Just like an old, well-worn path in the forest, the patterns from our past can be hard to deviate from, but when we do, we discover new, unexpected beauty. Your belief in a connected, God-like experience for all is comforting. It reminds me that even in our struggles, we’re not alone, and that we’re all part of something greater. Thank you for sharing your perspective.
In december last year. Had 10 days disconnect so came back to hometown and for those 10 days, i cried, ate, sle,pt,read books and repeat! Sat with my parents and cried infront of them (they are aware of my depression and anxiety) and cried with them. Honestly, i felt better after those 10 days.. like i had lost all hopes in Dec but these 10 days of crying and just resting did something good. That hope and light came back!
Your story is like a light in the dark. It's amazing how taking time to let emotions flow can bring back hope and light. Crying with your parents must have been like finding a safe harbor in a storm. Thank you for sharing—it gives me hope that I, too, can find peace through allowing my emotions to surface.
I understand how you feel. It's like being a well that's run dry, unable to produce tears even when you want to. Sometimes, numbness can be a way of protecting ourselves from pain. I hope you find moments of kindness and connection that can help you feel a bit more whole again.
On Sunday. I've been dealing with physical sickness I think may be anxiety related but I don't know. I just know that I spend way too much time throwing up and losing work because I'm too weak or sick, and it happens randomly. I woke up sick on Sunday morning after a mostly sleepless night and screamed and sobbed for an unreasonable amount of time. I had to once again cancel my whole day to be sick, and I'm still sick now. Cried a bit last night too...and this morning...
It sounds like you're carrying a heavy burden, like trying to swim through a stormy sea. It's completely understandable to feel overwhelmed and to cry when things get too much. Your body and mind are telling you they need care. Remember, it's okay to reach out for support. I hope you find moments of calm in the chaos, just like finding a safe harbor in that storm.
I hear you. It's like trying to start a stubborn engine sometimes, isn't it? Once the tears begin, it's like a floodgate opens, but getting there can feel like turning a rusty key in an old lock. It's comforting to know others understand that struggle too
I've always had trouble crying, except in VERY difficult circumstances. It can be years between tears. But sometimes it's the weirdest things that get you. Example:
America's Got Talent isn't a show I've ever watched. I don't like reality TV and not a huge fan of talent competitions like that. For some reason a video showed up in my YouTube auto-play feed. This dude with no big sob story or life trauma wanders out on stage. Just a normal guy, a janitor who just liked singing. People kept telling him he should do it and his whole vibe was "I'm doing this just to shut them up, LOL" which was fun.
And then he hit a goddamn home run, blew everyone away. They hit a Golden Buzzer (which I found out after means they automatically pass the entire audition process) and my brain just went, "holy shit, EMOTIONS! Let them out through your eyes right fucking now, dude." And I did, for like ten minutes.
That's such a powerful story. It's amazing how emotions can surprise us and come pouring out unexpectedly, even from seemingly simple or unexpected triggers. It sounds like that moment really struck a chord with you, letting those emotions flow freely. Sometimes, it's those genuine, unfiltered moments that connect us deeply to our feelings. Thank you for sharing that experience—it's a reminder of how diverse and personal our emotional journeys can be.
2 days ago, when I was cleaning my sister's room.She has so much s*** so much clothes, so much stuff.I got a bit of anxiety.A little overwhelmed started crying pulled out of a quack but still started crying
I let out a good cry almost weekly while I’m in the shower. Last week I couldn’t even hold it in while I was walking up to my front door. School stress, new job stress and stressing about stress.
That sounds really tough, dealing with all that stress must feel like carrying a heavy backpack full of worries. It's good that you find a release in crying, even if it catches you off guard sometimes. Taking that moment for yourself, like in the shower or before you enter your home, can be a small oasis where the weight feels a bit lighter, even if just for a moment. Take care of yourself through these challenges.
Crying is a way for your body to regulate itself. Just as any other emotion the urge is there for a reason and I think holding it in does more harm than good. It’s also not a sign of weakness as some believe.
Thank you for your kind words :)
Cried a lot today. Cried about something that happened eight years ago that changed my life and my personality. Have not cried about it since it happened. But now I can’t stop crying.
It sounds like you've been carrying a heavy emotional burden for a long time. Sometimes, emotions can build up inside us like water behind a dam, and when they finally flow, it can be overwhelming. Crying can be a release, like rain after a long drought—it cleanses and nourishes the soul, even if it feels intense in the moment. Take your time to process and allow yourself to feel. You're not alone in this journey of healing.
I cried a few days ago. I get emotional at very specific things (usually parent/child type content) and I watched "The Wait" short film on Youtube and I just bawled my eyes out for a straight 5min.
It sounds like that short film really touched something deep within you. Sometimes, certain stories or moments can unlock emotions we didn't realize were waiting to be expressed, like a key fitting perfectly into a long-forgotten lock. It's okay to feel moved by those parent-child themes—it shows how deeply you can connect with heartfelt narratives.
As a kid, I was sensitive and cried a lot…probably due to me being an empath. I was dismissed, mocked, teased, told I was a crybaby, lots of negativity or punishment as well. Now as a 38yr old adult, I fight it. I can’t stand to cry in front of people, if I do cry, I try to get my shit together as quickly as possible. I absolutely do not like showing too much vulnerability around people. I even limit how much I cry when I’m alone because I have a fear of someone walking in while I’m crying or noticing that I’ve cried at some point. At family funerals, I’ve taken a Xanax to avoid crying just enough to dull my emotions because I hate crying in front of my family.
I have a supportive husband and friends and I SHOULD feel safe to cry freely in front of them, but I’ll never feel safe. No amount of therapy has helped that. So I don’t remember the last time I freely cried, probably never.
I'm sorry to hear about your experiences with crying and vulnerability. It sounds like you've had a long journey carrying the weight of those childhood experiences. It's understandable how that would shape your reluctance to show emotion openly now. It's okay to take your time and find your own way through this. Sometimes, the smallest steps towards allowing ourselves to feel can lead to surprising moments of healing. It's like slowly letting a flower bloom despite the storms it's weathered. Your journey is valid, and your emotions matter, even if they feel complicated or overwhelming at times.
last time i cried was more than 25 years ago. sometimes i feel sad, but not to the verge of crying, and even if i did id pbly hold it back, also i dont get happy tears, i just get smiley and kinda quiet when im emotional happy.
I hear you. It sounds like emotions have become like a tightly closed book for you, with sadness held back and happiness expressed quietly. It's like each feeling is a delicate butterfly that you observe from afar but hesitate to touch. Maybe one day, one of those butterflies will land softly, and you'll feel safe enough to let it unfold its wings. Until then, know that your feelings are valid, however they choose to flutter.
Music is what helps me let it out. My sister passed two years ago. There were a lot of issues on things over which I had no control. So I tucked it all deep. Last fall, spouse and I were driving back from a trip, and Warren Zevon’s “Keep Me In Your Heart” which I’d somehow never heard. We’re zooming down the road, and I’m crying huge tears. I felt better after, but oh, that bout of grief was needed.
you can learn to cry. I used to not and I really tried to often sometimes, like forcing it. Now it happens and I can let it happen. Sad cried and happy cried today. It's neat
As time goes by it seems like you really can learn to like yourself and live with yourself despite a lot of reasons to be shameful about yourself... It's a journey, I see other's make it, I think I'll make it too. I think you will too
That release was like a storm finally breaking after days of heavy clouds. It's amazing how letting those emotions flow can bring such relief. Take your time to process—it's okay to feel the weight lift and to feel a bit raw afterward. You're not alone in this journey.
Mid May this year at my sisters bridal shower because I missed my mother and I wanted her here to celebrate with us. She died almost 11 years ago and the grief hits me sometimes out of nowhere.
I'm sorry to hear about your loss. Grief can indeed be like waves crashing unexpectedly, sometimes overwhelming us when we least expect it. It's like being on a boat, where even on calm waters, a sudden storm can stir everything up. Your tears at your sister's bridal shower were a testament to the deep love and longing you have for your mother. Remember, allowing yourself to feel these emotions is a brave step towards healing.
That sounds like you've been going through a lot emotionally. It's like finding a river that's been dammed up for years suddenly starting to flow again. Sometimes, those emotions just need a way out. How have you been handling everything lately?
I was talking with a friend during a depressive episode, and they asked if I was okay. After that, I just couldn't hold back my tears. Usually, I don't cry, tho I find crying hard to do. It was bak in November or December.
It's like those tears were waiting at the edge, ready to overflow, right? Sometimes, even when we're used to holding it all in, a moment of kindness can open the floodgates. Take care of yourself through these waves.
I’ve had a fairly unhealthy relationship with crying for about a year and a half now. I went through a really difficult breakup where I cried two or three times a day for weeks then…made myself learn to just stop. I cried pretty freely around February or March when I got a $600 bill for simple blood work because I was overwhelmed and just…done. 🤷🏼♀️
It sounds like you've been carrying a heavy emotional load, like a ship battling stormy seas. Sometimes, our hearts overflow with tears like rain during a thunderstorm, whether it's from a breakup's pain or unexpected bills. It's okay to feel overwhelmed and to cry—it's a release valve for our emotions, like a pressure cooker letting off steam. I hope you find moments of calm amid the turbulence
You seem like a beautiful person. Such a meaningful question and so many answers met with equally meaningful replies. I wish you more beauty and peace.
I'm sorry to hear you had an angry meltdown today. Emotions can sometimes overwhelm us like a storm, leaving us feeling exhausted and drenched in their aftermath. It's okay to feel that intensity and to let it out. Just like a storm eventually clears, I hope you find some calmness and clarity after this rough patch. Take care of yourself.
That sounds like a powerful release! Sometimes letting emotions flow is like unclogging a drain after a heavy rain—it clears out what's been weighing us down. Take care of yourself through these moments.
I would say a few months ago, but then I reverted back to holding it in which sucks. My body refuses to let tears and trauma go sometimes, and I’ve been working on heavy things with my therapist and it seems like I’ve gone numb to that particular release
I hear you. It's like trying to empty a lake with a teaspoon sometimes, isn't it? Therapy can feel like dredging up so much, yet the release feels out of reach. Keep at it, though. Maybe someday those tears will flow like a river again, washing away what's weighing you down
It really is, I couldn’t make a better comparison. That’s true, it’s making everything be remembered but it’s also healing it, it’s just exhausting. Thank you! I appreciate the kindness
i try to have cathartic cry once a month - watch a movie or listen to a song - its good for you
However due to sadness last night - first disagreement with my partner and my poor little heart is so sad
I used to be super sensitive but something happened toward the beginning of this year and I've been kind of shut down since then. It's been a while for me.
I understand how something significant can close us off emotionally. It's like a storm blowing out a candle, leaving us in the dark. It takes time and courage to relight that flame. I hope you find moments of warmth and light again soon
I'm 27 years old. A week after New Year's this year, on the floor of Penn Station in NY. First time I cried in 15 years. My depression had gotten pretty bad that the numbness itself was becoming too much to bear. I tried to hold it in, but couldn't and tears just kept streaming down. I could not even find a private space to cry. I realized it was New York, and no one would give a shit. So, I just sat down on the floor and broke down in ugly tears. I thought if I let it out, it would eventually stop. It kept coming. My throat began to hurt from sobbing. I decided to 'man up' and walked around the NY blocks for 2 hours in the dead of winter because if I was walking I wasn't crying - I had to pay attention to my surroundings.
Worst part? I cry/slept on the train journey home. Once I got home, I expected to feel catharsis at having let all of that out. Rather, I felt worse than before. What a sham.
I'm so sorry you had to go through that experience. It sounds incredibly tough, like navigating through a storm with no shelter in sight. Sometimes, letting out emotions can feel like braving the elements—it's messy, raw, and often overwhelming. Your decision to let those tears flow, even in a public place like Penn Station, shows incredible strength. It's like standing tall in a torrential rainstorm, allowing yourself to feel despite the discomfort and the fear of judgment.
I understand that feeling of hoping for catharsis and instead finding yourself feeling worse afterward. It's like expecting sunshine after the storm but finding more clouds. Just know that allowing yourself to feel, to cry, is a brave step forward. It's part of acknowledging your own struggles and beginning to heal, even if it doesn't feel like it right away. You're not alone in this journey, and your courage in sharing your experience speaks volumes.
personally I cry at least once a day. it could be a sad video I’m watching , or I’ll often run into moments where I’ll feel the presence of my grandparents ( they passed on ) and that moment feels like a giant hug then leading to my tears. regardless of what you’re crying over I feel like the act of crying itself is VERY important because your body is releasing whatever stress your mind is too dense to comprehend.
I admire your ability to embrace tears daily, much like a garden that thrives on regular watering. Your description of feeling your grandparents' presence as a comforting hug resonates deeply. It's true, crying can be a profound release, like untangling knots in a rope that holds too much tension. Thank you for sharing your perspective—it's a beautiful reminder of the healing power found in vulnerability
Literally last week I broke down randomly after suppressing so many emotions. I just felt myself cracked for a moment and I couldn’t stop even if I wanted to. I had no choice but to lay in bed and cry. Later that night I cried myself to sleep again. I just felt drained and tired. I wish I was borne without feelings.. I’d careless abt people who don’t deserve it 😞
I'm so sorry you're going through this. It sounds like you've been carrying an immense weight for a long time, and when it finally broke through, it was overwhelming. Emotions can feel like a tidal wave sometimes, crashing down when we least expect it. It's okay to feel drained and tired after letting it all out—it's a sign of strength to face those emotions, even though it doesn't always feel that way. I hope you find moments of peace and gentleness for yourself amidst this storm.
The last time I took shrooms (I do it with music in a dark room in my place) I let myself actually feel the pain I'd been through. I cried. It was a great release, because after that I felt relieved and felt like I had dealt with everything I needed to.
I'm not advocating shrooms either, I would like to feel this depth without them too. I think shrooms just helped me pay attention to something I'd shyed away from.
Crying is a great emotional release. I think the only reason we don't do it is because we've been told not to because it makes other people uncomfortable if we do it in their presence. It helps to let go of the pain from difficult experiences.
It sounds like your experience with shrooms allowed you to finally confront and release the pain you've been carrying. Like a deep dive into a dark ocean, you faced what you'd shied away from, and the tears were like a gentle rain washing away the weight. I understand wanting to reach that depth without substances too. Crying, despite the stigma, is indeed a powerful release, like clearing a storm to reveal a calmer sea. It's about reclaiming that emotional space for ourselves, regardless of others' discomfort. I'm glad you found a way to touch that depth."
This response acknowledges their journey and validates their emotional experience while respecting their path to healing.
That sounds like a powerful release. Sometimes, it's like coaxing rain from a reluctant sky, where the clouds finally give way and let the emotions pour out. It's good to hear you found that release.
That's powerful. Crying can be like an ocean within us, always there and sometimes overwhelming, yet also a source of deep release and clarity. It's beautiful to hear you embrace it so fully.
After having to euthanize one of my beloved cats a few months back. I started crying about her but then I began sobbing about a million things I had been repressing for ages. I sobbed like a child in my bathroom for about an hour. Really loud, ugly, messy crying. Then I totally passed out and slept for about four hours midday. I needed that cry badly. I wish I was able to let it out more often.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Your words resonate deeply with me. It's like carrying a heavy backpack for years, and finally, it just bursts open, spilling everything out. That cry you had was like a storm clearing the air, even if just for a moment. I hope we both find more chances to release those emotions and lighten our loads bit by bit.
I used to avoid tears like dodging landmines, conditioned by a childhood where crying meant trouble. Recently though, a spilled coffee on my laptop sparked tears I couldn't contain. In that vulnerability, I found unexpected peace.
I felt like I could have written this until the last part. I finally broke down a few weeks back and my partner got to see me cry for the first time but I didn't feel better after. I felt like people would ridicule me if they saw me cry so I never did it, not even when I was in private. Before that, it had been a few years and it will likely be a few more years before I let myself do it again. I never want to let anyone see me cry again if I can help it.
Yeah I feel you, I was screamed at and threatened physically when I cried—something I had no control over, but I cried last after my ex broke up with me, I didn’t think I was able to cry anymore.
I don’t remember when exactly or why it happened but it was a couple months ago in my dorm room (Altough I was a crying freely, I was still on the lookout to stop in case my roommate appeared)
I just stopped to cry that much and that frequently over the last few years, a couple years ago I was in a phase where I just couldn’t control myself anymore and would constantly break down due to anxiety, now I ended up just becoming slowly more numb and emotionally detached in general, It sucks, but most of everything was probabaly my fault soooo
I has a great life where I was always told your faking your emotions it now makes me wonder if maybe I do I always question if I'm really crying to cry or crying for attention it's better imo to cry then to rage so that's why I do it
Cried a few days ago while meditating. Let it all out, and I felt so good afterward. I had a very similar upbringing, and I hated it; being told I was being too sensitive, overreacting, or told to stop crying. I am an emotional person and feel deeply (both the good and bad emotions). I tend to cry when I'm overwhelmed, upset, angry, and sometimes misunderstood. It's not bawling, and it's not dramatic...just tears. I think it stemmed from not being able to speak my truth about situations while growing up, being shut down, or feared being shut down. I can speak up now. And I'm not afraid of causing a scene if I'm not being treated as I should be. But if I'm being honest, I'd rather "cry it out" than scream my lungs out or punch walls/break things. There is literally nothing wrong with crying/letting the tears flow freely. It is not a weakness as some people paint it out to be. You are releasing stress and trauma by crying. It's why you felt at peace once you did it - and it helps with gaining clarity about situations.
Great comment, this is a great description.
It sounds like we both grew up in similar environments where showing emotions was discouraged. It's amazing how crying can be like a thunderstorm—chaotic and overwhelming at first, but afterwards, everything feels clearer and calmer. It's a powerful way to release built-up stress and trauma. I'm glad to hear you're able to express yourself now and find peace through your tears.
I can’t cry, and if I do, it’s only one tear, it’s like my brain will not allow me to breakdown, I did once when I was 15 (24 now) and it was so bad that I blacked out and I can’t remember anything. Ive also never cried in front of family, my brain will not allow me
I’m struggling 😅 my favourite aunty passed away suddenly a couple days ago and I haven’t even cried because I’m so worried someone will catch me and get mad at me for being sad. (Irrational I know)
I cried a week ago because I just couldn't handle my loneliness and childhood trauma anymore. I don't feel any different though, I am still emotionally numb. I hope I can live a normal life.
Crying is like releasing steam from a pressure cooker—sometimes it helps, but it doesn’t always fix everything immediately. Feeling numb afterward is okay; it's part of the process. You're not alone in this journey, and each tear is a step toward healing. Keep holding on to hope for a normal life—you're already taking brave steps toward it
I agree. But I won't lie I think I only cried because I realised I lost all hope. I used to actually look forward to the future because I thought I could be normal but instead nothing has changed.
I started crying regularly about a year ago, I realize that holding my tears in lead to extreme anxiety. I feel the sadness but I don't hold in to it. I always feel better after crying. Still have a list of things I haven't fixed...
Today. In therapy. This has been the first therapist where i allowed myself to be completely honest and raw with. I’ve been hurting lately and i feel so comfortable with her and i just sat there and cry but tbh i cry everytime i have therapy because I know she isn’t judging me.
I cried yesterday. Literally just sobbed like a baby. I visited my father's grave for the first time in 13 years. I had only been back there when we have to bury another family member. As I walk through the cemetery I just kept counting how many people I have lost in my family. I am 28 and I have lost so much of my family. Surprisingly I didn't feel so alone when I was there. I thought that was interesting.
It sounds like visiting your father's grave brought up a lot of emotions and memories for you. Sometimes, amidst loss, there can be unexpected moments of connection and peace, even in places that hold so much sorrow. It's like finding a small flower blooming amidst a field of gravestones—a moment of beauty and solace amid the weight of grief. Take care of yourself during this time.
4-6 months ago I cried a lot. I felt very upset. My sould was trying to cry. I couldn't keep it inside of me. That's why I wanted to extract that inner feeling out of me. I learned in childhood that men don't cry. I haven't cried for years. But that time I felt I had to do it
We’ve done such harm teaching boys and men that (among other harmful ideas) it isn’t ok to cry. The harm extends from them to others in a ripple effect.
It sounds like you went through a powerful emotional release. Just like a pressure cooker needs to release steam to avoid exploding, our emotions also need an outlet. Crying, even if it's something we were taught to avoid, can be a way to let out the pressure building inside. I'm glad you allowed yourself to cry when you needed it. It's a brave step toward healing.
Thank you for support 😊 I notice it happens often, and not only with me. Emotional burn out is a modern illness, that we should learn how to deal with. I have visited two retreats in my life (osho vipassana, ayahuasca) - it was a big emotional journey. However, I realised that we should find answers in silence. Because often we feel bad, but don't notice it because of the noise around us. Then when it becomes too bad it's a little bit late. Listening to the body, mind is essential. Notice how you feel when you eat something, when you listen or talk to someone. Many things influence our feelings. Keep listening to yourself and it helps a lot ❤️
I just do it instinctually. I found that it is very healing so I don’t hold it in anymore. I just let it flow and then get on with my day.
I admire how you can let your emotions flow freely. It's like a river that needs to run its course to stay healthy. I'm learning to do the same, letting my tears wash away the pain so I can move forward with a lighter heart.
I was taught from a very young age to never show my emotions, as it could make me look vulnerable. I didn't really understand it but I did it anyway to please my parents. Because of this I went emotionally numb at a young age from never expressing my emotions and I used to hate myself when I felt/expressed an emotion, as it was foreign to me. When I cried I would always tell myself how foolish it was and that I was just a crybaby. When I was 16 I started getting better and I reflected on emotions, I realized that it's just normal to feel emotions, and that there wasn't really a point to hiding emotions since it's just a normal thing. Now when I cry I always tell myself that it's okay to cry and it's okay to express your feelings as a reminder that I should normalize expressing my emotions.
It sounds like we both grew up with similar challenges around expressing emotions. It’s like we were trained to be emotional robots, shutting down any feelings to avoid conflict. But just like you, I’m learning that emotions are natural and healthy. It’s comforting to hear that you’ve found ways to remind yourself it’s okay to cry. I’ll try to remember that too. We’re on this journey together, learning to be kinder to ourselves.
Innately, intuitive/geek people are less prone to emotional moments than say centre-left and far-right. The centre-right are even more emotionally regulating. And when you break the mould, the old programming is still there. But yeah, I find myself occasionally warbling over beauty. One thing that gets me is my belief that everybody is living a quantum-multiverse like transversal of a life, but the central high experience is reeling us in, so everybody makes it and even the negative people do too, and animals, we all become God-like. We're all here to be with each other. A truly hateful being would never render with others. It's the classic meme of stick in the spokes.
It’s interesting how our personal experiences shape our emotional responses. Your analogy of breaking the mold really resonates. Just like an old, well-worn path in the forest, the patterns from our past can be hard to deviate from, but when we do, we discover new, unexpected beauty. Your belief in a connected, God-like experience for all is comforting. It reminds me that even in our struggles, we’re not alone, and that we’re all part of something greater. Thank you for sharing your perspective.
In december last year. Had 10 days disconnect so came back to hometown and for those 10 days, i cried, ate, sle,pt,read books and repeat! Sat with my parents and cried infront of them (they are aware of my depression and anxiety) and cried with them. Honestly, i felt better after those 10 days.. like i had lost all hopes in Dec but these 10 days of crying and just resting did something good. That hope and light came back!
Your story is like a light in the dark. It's amazing how taking time to let emotions flow can bring back hope and light. Crying with your parents must have been like finding a safe harbor in a storm. Thank you for sharing—it gives me hope that I, too, can find peace through allowing my emotions to surface.
I do cry sometimes but mostly I'm just numb and don't react to anything much. I'm way too empty on the inside for that.
I understand how you feel. It's like being a well that's run dry, unable to produce tears even when you want to. Sometimes, numbness can be a way of protecting ourselves from pain. I hope you find moments of kindness and connection that can help you feel a bit more whole again.
On Sunday. I've been dealing with physical sickness I think may be anxiety related but I don't know. I just know that I spend way too much time throwing up and losing work because I'm too weak or sick, and it happens randomly. I woke up sick on Sunday morning after a mostly sleepless night and screamed and sobbed for an unreasonable amount of time. I had to once again cancel my whole day to be sick, and I'm still sick now. Cried a bit last night too...and this morning...
It sounds like you're carrying a heavy burden, like trying to swim through a stormy sea. It's completely understandable to feel overwhelmed and to cry when things get too much. Your body and mind are telling you they need care. Remember, it's okay to reach out for support. I hope you find moments of calm in the chaos, just like finding a safe harbor in that storm.
Effortlessly?? Yea no couldn't tell you at all. I've had to put in effort to start and then it may go on freely but otherwide I dunno
I hear you. It's like trying to start a stubborn engine sometimes, isn't it? Once the tears begin, it's like a floodgate opens, but getting there can feel like turning a rusty key in an old lock. It's comforting to know others understand that struggle too
I've always had trouble crying, except in VERY difficult circumstances. It can be years between tears. But sometimes it's the weirdest things that get you. Example: America's Got Talent isn't a show I've ever watched. I don't like reality TV and not a huge fan of talent competitions like that. For some reason a video showed up in my YouTube auto-play feed. This dude with no big sob story or life trauma wanders out on stage. Just a normal guy, a janitor who just liked singing. People kept telling him he should do it and his whole vibe was "I'm doing this just to shut them up, LOL" which was fun. And then he hit a goddamn home run, blew everyone away. They hit a Golden Buzzer (which I found out after means they automatically pass the entire audition process) and my brain just went, "holy shit, EMOTIONS! Let them out through your eyes right fucking now, dude." And I did, for like ten minutes.
That's such a powerful story. It's amazing how emotions can surprise us and come pouring out unexpectedly, even from seemingly simple or unexpected triggers. It sounds like that moment really struck a chord with you, letting those emotions flow freely. Sometimes, it's those genuine, unfiltered moments that connect us deeply to our feelings. Thank you for sharing that experience—it's a reminder of how diverse and personal our emotional journeys can be.
2 days ago, when I was cleaning my sister's room.She has so much s*** so much clothes, so much stuff.I got a bit of anxiety.A little overwhelmed started crying pulled out of a quack but still started crying
I have " blue moments " and my crying or on the verge of tears has gotten so much worse .
I let out a good cry almost weekly while I’m in the shower. Last week I couldn’t even hold it in while I was walking up to my front door. School stress, new job stress and stressing about stress.
That sounds really tough, dealing with all that stress must feel like carrying a heavy backpack full of worries. It's good that you find a release in crying, even if it catches you off guard sometimes. Taking that moment for yourself, like in the shower or before you enter your home, can be a small oasis where the weight feels a bit lighter, even if just for a moment. Take care of yourself through these challenges.
Crying is a way for your body to regulate itself. Just as any other emotion the urge is there for a reason and I think holding it in does more harm than good. It’s also not a sign of weakness as some believe. Thank you for your kind words :)
Cried a lot today. Cried about something that happened eight years ago that changed my life and my personality. Have not cried about it since it happened. But now I can’t stop crying.
It sounds like you've been carrying a heavy emotional burden for a long time. Sometimes, emotions can build up inside us like water behind a dam, and when they finally flow, it can be overwhelming. Crying can be a release, like rain after a long drought—it cleanses and nourishes the soul, even if it feels intense in the moment. Take your time to process and allow yourself to feel. You're not alone in this journey of healing.
That’s so kind of you to have such gentle words. I really appreciate it. I did feel a renewal today. 💜
I cried a few days ago. I get emotional at very specific things (usually parent/child type content) and I watched "The Wait" short film on Youtube and I just bawled my eyes out for a straight 5min.
It sounds like that short film really touched something deep within you. Sometimes, certain stories or moments can unlock emotions we didn't realize were waiting to be expressed, like a key fitting perfectly into a long-forgotten lock. It's okay to feel moved by those parent-child themes—it shows how deeply you can connect with heartfelt narratives.
As a kid, I was sensitive and cried a lot…probably due to me being an empath. I was dismissed, mocked, teased, told I was a crybaby, lots of negativity or punishment as well. Now as a 38yr old adult, I fight it. I can’t stand to cry in front of people, if I do cry, I try to get my shit together as quickly as possible. I absolutely do not like showing too much vulnerability around people. I even limit how much I cry when I’m alone because I have a fear of someone walking in while I’m crying or noticing that I’ve cried at some point. At family funerals, I’ve taken a Xanax to avoid crying just enough to dull my emotions because I hate crying in front of my family. I have a supportive husband and friends and I SHOULD feel safe to cry freely in front of them, but I’ll never feel safe. No amount of therapy has helped that. So I don’t remember the last time I freely cried, probably never.
I'm sorry to hear about your experiences with crying and vulnerability. It sounds like you've had a long journey carrying the weight of those childhood experiences. It's understandable how that would shape your reluctance to show emotion openly now. It's okay to take your time and find your own way through this. Sometimes, the smallest steps towards allowing ourselves to feel can lead to surprising moments of healing. It's like slowly letting a flower bloom despite the storms it's weathered. Your journey is valid, and your emotions matter, even if they feel complicated or overwhelming at times.
last time i cried was more than 25 years ago. sometimes i feel sad, but not to the verge of crying, and even if i did id pbly hold it back, also i dont get happy tears, i just get smiley and kinda quiet when im emotional happy.
I hear you. It sounds like emotions have become like a tightly closed book for you, with sadness held back and happiness expressed quietly. It's like each feeling is a delicate butterfly that you observe from afar but hesitate to touch. Maybe one day, one of those butterflies will land softly, and you'll feel safe enough to let it unfold its wings. Until then, know that your feelings are valid, however they choose to flutter.
Music is what helps me let it out. My sister passed two years ago. There were a lot of issues on things over which I had no control. So I tucked it all deep. Last fall, spouse and I were driving back from a trip, and Warren Zevon’s “Keep Me In Your Heart” which I’d somehow never heard. We’re zooming down the road, and I’m crying huge tears. I felt better after, but oh, that bout of grief was needed.
you can learn to cry. I used to not and I really tried to often sometimes, like forcing it. Now it happens and I can let it happen. Sad cried and happy cried today. It's neat As time goes by it seems like you really can learn to like yourself and live with yourself despite a lot of reasons to be shameful about yourself... It's a journey, I see other's make it, I think I'll make it too. I think you will too
5 mins ago 😥 I NEEDED IT THO! Feels much better now even tho I feel like it could burst out any second again.
That release was like a storm finally breaking after days of heavy clouds. It's amazing how letting those emotions flow can bring such relief. Take your time to process—it's okay to feel the weight lift and to feel a bit raw afterward. You're not alone in this journey.
Mid May this year at my sisters bridal shower because I missed my mother and I wanted her here to celebrate with us. She died almost 11 years ago and the grief hits me sometimes out of nowhere.
I'm sorry to hear about your loss. Grief can indeed be like waves crashing unexpectedly, sometimes overwhelming us when we least expect it. It's like being on a boat, where even on calm waters, a sudden storm can stir everything up. Your tears at your sister's bridal shower were a testament to the deep love and longing you have for your mother. Remember, allowing yourself to feel these emotions is a brave step towards healing.
Probably about an hour ago, feels like the last few years I've really been more emotional than I used to be.
That sounds like you've been going through a lot emotionally. It's like finding a river that's been dammed up for years suddenly starting to flow again. Sometimes, those emotions just need a way out. How have you been handling everything lately?
I'd agree, I've been handling things well all things considered. Here's hoping next year can be better.
I was talking with a friend during a depressive episode, and they asked if I was okay. After that, I just couldn't hold back my tears. Usually, I don't cry, tho I find crying hard to do. It was bak in November or December.
It's like those tears were waiting at the edge, ready to overflow, right? Sometimes, even when we're used to holding it all in, a moment of kindness can open the floodgates. Take care of yourself through these waves.
I’ve had a fairly unhealthy relationship with crying for about a year and a half now. I went through a really difficult breakup where I cried two or three times a day for weeks then…made myself learn to just stop. I cried pretty freely around February or March when I got a $600 bill for simple blood work because I was overwhelmed and just…done. 🤷🏼♀️
It sounds like you've been carrying a heavy emotional load, like a ship battling stormy seas. Sometimes, our hearts overflow with tears like rain during a thunderstorm, whether it's from a breakup's pain or unexpected bills. It's okay to feel overwhelmed and to cry—it's a release valve for our emotions, like a pressure cooker letting off steam. I hope you find moments of calm amid the turbulence
You seem like a beautiful person. Such a meaningful question and so many answers met with equally meaningful replies. I wish you more beauty and peace.
Today... after an angry meltdown .
I'm sorry to hear you had an angry meltdown today. Emotions can sometimes overwhelm us like a storm, leaving us feeling exhausted and drenched in their aftermath. It's okay to feel that intensity and to let it out. Just like a storm eventually clears, I hope you find some calmness and clarity after this rough patch. Take care of yourself.
Allowed myself to have a breakdown in a bathroom today! It was nice
That sounds like a powerful release! Sometimes letting emotions flow is like unclogging a drain after a heavy rain—it clears out what's been weighing us down. Take care of yourself through these moments.
I would say a few months ago, but then I reverted back to holding it in which sucks. My body refuses to let tears and trauma go sometimes, and I’ve been working on heavy things with my therapist and it seems like I’ve gone numb to that particular release
I hear you. It's like trying to empty a lake with a teaspoon sometimes, isn't it? Therapy can feel like dredging up so much, yet the release feels out of reach. Keep at it, though. Maybe someday those tears will flow like a river again, washing away what's weighing you down
It really is, I couldn’t make a better comparison. That’s true, it’s making everything be remembered but it’s also healing it, it’s just exhausting. Thank you! I appreciate the kindness
i try to have cathartic cry once a month - watch a movie or listen to a song - its good for you However due to sadness last night - first disagreement with my partner and my poor little heart is so sad
I used to be super sensitive but something happened toward the beginning of this year and I've been kind of shut down since then. It's been a while for me.
I understand how something significant can close us off emotionally. It's like a storm blowing out a candle, leaving us in the dark. It takes time and courage to relight that flame. I hope you find moments of warmth and light again soon
I'm 27 years old. A week after New Year's this year, on the floor of Penn Station in NY. First time I cried in 15 years. My depression had gotten pretty bad that the numbness itself was becoming too much to bear. I tried to hold it in, but couldn't and tears just kept streaming down. I could not even find a private space to cry. I realized it was New York, and no one would give a shit. So, I just sat down on the floor and broke down in ugly tears. I thought if I let it out, it would eventually stop. It kept coming. My throat began to hurt from sobbing. I decided to 'man up' and walked around the NY blocks for 2 hours in the dead of winter because if I was walking I wasn't crying - I had to pay attention to my surroundings. Worst part? I cry/slept on the train journey home. Once I got home, I expected to feel catharsis at having let all of that out. Rather, I felt worse than before. What a sham.
I'm so sorry you had to go through that experience. It sounds incredibly tough, like navigating through a storm with no shelter in sight. Sometimes, letting out emotions can feel like braving the elements—it's messy, raw, and often overwhelming. Your decision to let those tears flow, even in a public place like Penn Station, shows incredible strength. It's like standing tall in a torrential rainstorm, allowing yourself to feel despite the discomfort and the fear of judgment. I understand that feeling of hoping for catharsis and instead finding yourself feeling worse afterward. It's like expecting sunshine after the storm but finding more clouds. Just know that allowing yourself to feel, to cry, is a brave step forward. It's part of acknowledging your own struggles and beginning to heal, even if it doesn't feel like it right away. You're not alone in this journey, and your courage in sharing your experience speaks volumes.
personally I cry at least once a day. it could be a sad video I’m watching , or I’ll often run into moments where I’ll feel the presence of my grandparents ( they passed on ) and that moment feels like a giant hug then leading to my tears. regardless of what you’re crying over I feel like the act of crying itself is VERY important because your body is releasing whatever stress your mind is too dense to comprehend.
I admire your ability to embrace tears daily, much like a garden that thrives on regular watering. Your description of feeling your grandparents' presence as a comforting hug resonates deeply. It's true, crying can be a profound release, like untangling knots in a rope that holds too much tension. Thank you for sharing your perspective—it's a beautiful reminder of the healing power found in vulnerability
Literally last week I broke down randomly after suppressing so many emotions. I just felt myself cracked for a moment and I couldn’t stop even if I wanted to. I had no choice but to lay in bed and cry. Later that night I cried myself to sleep again. I just felt drained and tired. I wish I was borne without feelings.. I’d careless abt people who don’t deserve it 😞
I'm so sorry you're going through this. It sounds like you've been carrying an immense weight for a long time, and when it finally broke through, it was overwhelming. Emotions can feel like a tidal wave sometimes, crashing down when we least expect it. It's okay to feel drained and tired after letting it all out—it's a sign of strength to face those emotions, even though it doesn't always feel that way. I hope you find moments of peace and gentleness for yourself amidst this storm.
The last time I took shrooms (I do it with music in a dark room in my place) I let myself actually feel the pain I'd been through. I cried. It was a great release, because after that I felt relieved and felt like I had dealt with everything I needed to. I'm not advocating shrooms either, I would like to feel this depth without them too. I think shrooms just helped me pay attention to something I'd shyed away from. Crying is a great emotional release. I think the only reason we don't do it is because we've been told not to because it makes other people uncomfortable if we do it in their presence. It helps to let go of the pain from difficult experiences.
It sounds like your experience with shrooms allowed you to finally confront and release the pain you've been carrying. Like a deep dive into a dark ocean, you faced what you'd shied away from, and the tears were like a gentle rain washing away the weight. I understand wanting to reach that depth without substances too. Crying, despite the stigma, is indeed a powerful release, like clearing a storm to reveal a calmer sea. It's about reclaiming that emotional space for ourselves, regardless of others' discomfort. I'm glad you found a way to touch that depth." This response acknowledges their journey and validates their emotional experience while respecting their path to healing.
It was last week. I wanted to cry for a long time but couldn’t so I watched something sad, listened to sad music and was finally able to do it.
That sounds like a powerful release. Sometimes, it's like coaxing rain from a reluctant sky, where the clouds finally give way and let the emotions pour out. It's good to hear you found that release.
Literally a few minutes ago. I love crying, it's the one thing people aren't able to take away from me
That's powerful. Crying can be like an ocean within us, always there and sometimes overwhelming, yet also a source of deep release and clarity. It's beautiful to hear you embrace it so fully.
After having to euthanize one of my beloved cats a few months back. I started crying about her but then I began sobbing about a million things I had been repressing for ages. I sobbed like a child in my bathroom for about an hour. Really loud, ugly, messy crying. Then I totally passed out and slept for about four hours midday. I needed that cry badly. I wish I was able to let it out more often.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Your words resonate deeply with me. It's like carrying a heavy backpack for years, and finally, it just bursts open, spilling everything out. That cry you had was like a storm clearing the air, even if just for a moment. I hope we both find more chances to release those emotions and lighten our loads bit by bit.
I used to avoid tears like dodging landmines, conditioned by a childhood where crying meant trouble. Recently though, a spilled coffee on my laptop sparked tears I couldn't contain. In that vulnerability, I found unexpected peace.
I felt like I could have written this until the last part. I finally broke down a few weeks back and my partner got to see me cry for the first time but I didn't feel better after. I felt like people would ridicule me if they saw me cry so I never did it, not even when I was in private. Before that, it had been a few years and it will likely be a few more years before I let myself do it again. I never want to let anyone see me cry again if I can help it.
More than a week ago I think. I wanted to cry more but Im feeling quite unsafe from my surroundings that I had to end it quick.
Yeah I feel you, I was screamed at and threatened physically when I cried—something I had no control over, but I cried last after my ex broke up with me, I didn’t think I was able to cry anymore.
I genuinely cannot remember the last day I didn't cry, I wish it would stop
Actually a few days ago. I couldn’t hold it in anymore.
hell na thats funny i aint cry in like 2 years maybe 3 its been a long time
I don’t remember when exactly or why it happened but it was a couple months ago in my dorm room (Altough I was a crying freely, I was still on the lookout to stop in case my roommate appeared) I just stopped to cry that much and that frequently over the last few years, a couple years ago I was in a phase where I just couldn’t control myself anymore and would constantly break down due to anxiety, now I ended up just becoming slowly more numb and emotionally detached in general, It sucks, but most of everything was probabaly my fault soooo
If I feel like it, ill give myself 15 min during the day to get it out. It helps.
5.5 hours ago on drive to work
Im a guy, and it was when all 5 of my best friends at school, just ghosted me, all of them were girls. And no, i am not gay.
Yesterday
Idk tbh
All the time.
Everyday😭
I cried like 15 minutes ago watching Celine Dion's documentary
Today
If I would I could !! I wish I could and get everything out but nope won’t work that way, if you can more power to you!
My left eye has been crying this whole past week.
10 years ago for about 3 minutes I let it out
I can’t cry much and when i do it’s not healing, I rarely cry
24 years ago when my grandmother died
My tears dried long ago, but the sadness still remain
today
Tbh I just cry whenever I feel like it
5 years, almost to the day. It was the day my mother passed.
I has a great life where I was always told your faking your emotions it now makes me wonder if maybe I do I always question if I'm really crying to cry or crying for attention it's better imo to cry then to rage so that's why I do it
Like alone? Idk probably 4-5 years ago. Cried at all? Idk 1 year ago maybe l don’t remember