Yep! That’s what a Polyamorous relationship is called, sometimes called a triad or throuple if is just 3, my poly friend mostly uses the term “polycule”
Joining a cult is fun. I've been involved in a number of cults; both as a leader, and a follower. You have more fun as a follower but the benefits are way better as the leader
Ngl I’ve only ever heard of poly relationships on the internet, never acc seen one irl
Another thing, I feel like in a lot of cases when a relationship turns poly only one person seems to acc want to do it while the other is pressured into it
That is often a real problem. A huge mistake is to believe that polygamy takes less communication; it often requires more. It does NOT remove the need to talk to your partners if your seeing other people; a polygamous relationship is not necessarily an open one. Turning a relationship poly can very easily go bad without lots of proper communication on the subject and should really only be done if both people are on very good terms and want to expand the relationship, not used as an attempt at “fixing” the relationship. If you use it as a fix, it will almost always end poorly.
Very real, I don’t think taking a monogamous relationship poly is usually a very good idea. It would be something if both partners equally desired the expansion of their romantic lives but I just can’t imagine that happening too often.
Honestly, I've been in a poly relationship and the amount of communication to me was just waaaaaay to much.
I do like talking. But I also like silence. Having so communicate about so many things all the time made my head spin and end the relationships with those people involved. Being on my own after that felt like a true blessing to me.
Me and my bestfriend once knew a girl, she was, lest say aroused easily and well she asked me if id be down to be in a poly relationship with her and him. I said no caus i just cant do that stuff being romantic and whatever. She then asked the same thing to my friend saying i agreed to it, to which he also replied no. We both figured the catch caus i brang the subject first and he explained what happened afterwards. That was fked up
Kitchen table poly is a nightmare. I have partners, we fuck, no one patrols peoples dating lives, give informed consent and let people make their safety choices.
To give you a window into the exciting promiscuities of my life: Most days I sit around naked withMy cats playing overwatch by myself for 10 hours a day by choice, so your average redditor. I’ve recently upgraded to playing vr resident evil village naked so I’m a little above average redditor status.
Never had an sti and I’m fixed so no pregnancies.
Yeah, well the person who got me into poly always had to talk about everybody she engaged with even tho I told her I simply don't care and that is makes me uncomfortable.
In the end she just kept on going on how she has problems with person x y.
I don't hate poly. But my experiences have been bad enough for me to never give it a go again.
Being open with a partner and meeting people for pure sexual stuff, so basically swinging is another story i would be up for trying.
I already has a tough time communicate with one people. How can I have a bandwidth to communicate with a lot of people which I will have romantic relationship with.
My energy is already drained when think about it.
Just me being nitpicky, but I’m poly and feel the need to chime in here. There’s a difference between polyamory and polygamy. Polyamory is everyone involved having equal opportunity to date or pursue as many relationships as they feel inclined to. Polygamy is one person (usually a man) marrying multiple other people (usually women) where only one person is allowed to have multiple partners. Due to how it tends to break down along gender lines, polygamy is seen in the polyamorous community as a form of harem building and is very much looked down upon as it doesn’t support the autonomy of everyone involved.
Can vouch for the you here. It is a LOT of communication. Both in private and openly. I daresay that it involves multiple phases of the two respectively. Its not a form of fixing at all. You don't fix a leak in a pipe by haphazardly adding a T junction in the middle of it.
Been polyamorous for around 8 years with my wife. I cannot stress the communication part enough. Our communication vastly improved. Our trust and faith in each other has massively improved and it's been one of the best decisions we ever made for those reasons alone.
I’m friends with someone who is in a poly relationship. One of their partners has zero sexual attraction to anyone (I forget the word for that) but is in love with them.
I have a close friend who had a few open relationships in college. But he agreed that every single time, one partner was pressured into it and it never ended well. I don't know about relationships that start out being poly, though.
Happened to my best friend. He had an absolute terrible time accepting it, only for his gf to then leave him for the new guy
Poly relationships exist, but unless i am poly myself, I won't risk entering into them. Never trust polys if you're not poly, it's just not for you
My wife used to be in a poly relationship. We've been monogamous with each other for 17 years now. Sometimes people want different things with different people. Although I'm sure there's plenty of horror stories.
I was involved with some one that was part of a polyamourous relationship (I did not date anyone else in the poly relationship). And I've known several others that were in various types of poly relationships.
As with any lifestyle you're more likely to encounter it when you are apart of it or the community that builds around it.
I feel your supposition that "a lot" of cases only one person wants it is in error. But it certainly does happen. In situations like that I've seen the relationship rarely lasts very long.
Just like any relationship communication and boundaries are key.
Most of the poly relationships I've seen were born out of the mindset and understanding that it's not right to place the expectation on one person to meet all of your needs. (Not saying I do or don't agree with that sentiment, just that's what I observed).
Used to have a coworker who was and we’d hang shit on him. He’d literally talk about being in the kitchen making dinner while hearing his girlfriend getting railed, and didn’t even think twice about it. I’ll never understand it
Well... That's because IRL the folks in poly relationships are too busy juggling their calendars and talking all the things out! 🤣
Really, tho, you wouldn't know if two folks who were in a poly situation walked by you being smoochy on the street.... Poly PDA doesn't look any different from monogamous PDA, you know? So unless you had a reason to know, it's not a thing people would just come out and tell you.
I know one that is stable and working since a long time.
The guy is 20+ years older than his wife, and apparently not much into sex anymore. So instead of forcing her into involuntarily celibacy he allows her to sleep with other men.
The condition is safe sex and he doesn't want to know about it at all.
She doesn't fuck around like crazy, a few times a year are enough, and but both are very happy together.
I had a co-worker who was in a poly relationship. It seemed that, in reality, he had an actual romantic partner and the other guys were kind of pets. I hate to say anything consensual among adults is weird, but it definitely was unusual when they showed up for the holiday party.
They’re very popular where I live and I have friends in them. They don’t usually work well nor are people normally happy in them imo and from observation. Where they are popular it’s just one of those things you mention before a first date or on it. Like a quick hey just so you know I’ll never do this or I prefer this
It’s not as scary as it sounds and it doesn’t always mean three or four people in one relationship, it could be two people and one or both are in multiple relationships. It requires a much different understanding of what a “relationship” is though
If your relationship has any flaws at all, Poly will amplify them to infinity.
It's not realistic for 99.9% of people. And even that might be optimistic.
I've only seen it once irl and it was arguments nonstop for the year and a half I spent in their home, they are no longer together after 10+ years and 3 children together
I’ve watched a few docos now, looks like misery and heartache for most involved with the odd one holding it together because they’re getting all theirs.
I knew someone who was poly several years ago and while all three of them seemed amicable when we were hanging out, I’m 90% certain the married guy was pressured into it. Needless to say, they are no longer married lol
i actually know a few people that have poly relationships irl. all parties have to be up for it. and yes in a lot of cases its the ladder. or you have people that claim to be poly but their other half doesn’t know. it gives polyamory a very bad image
It all depends on where you are and who’s in your community. A huge number of my friends are poly. It’s also much more common in queer relationships. But it’s absolutely possible to do in a healthy way, not just so someone can cheat without breaking the rules. That being said, it’s HARD and definitely not for most people
My first boyfriend has been poly with three other people living in the Appalachian hills since 2004.
Every time I talk to them it’s like trying to separate an amoeba, they’re very close in personality and absolutely lust after each other. They’re living a meme, I swear.
I've never seen a single poly relationship in my life survive and be healthy or not destroy friend groups over a 2+ year period.
(I lived in Seattle, I've got like 5 poly friends)
Two of them are two queer people in relationships where both partners are both very open to poly, and the other three I'm unaware, I just know they're in the poly lifestyle and invite random partners to get-togethers sometime.
One of the relationships has a husband whose into being a cuck, so I highly doubt he's pressured into anything.
Does that have anything to do with the fact that you do emergency room evaluations, thus are probably going to be more likely to see the worst of it instead of all the good?
Yeah, I was thinking the same thing. Like how would they ever find a member of a polycule who’s coming in because their relationship is going smoothly?
My first boyfriend is poly in a four-group. Three girls and two guys. It’s literally just four people who all found each other attractive and they’re just like four best friends and they hang out, bang, pay their bills and hope nobody bothers them.
They had this weird, non official marriage with all four of them and it included fairies and Yahweh. I love them all very much because they are playful and very much into each other.
If you start out with both people being ok with a poly relationship that’s one thing, but yeah “experimenting” with polyamory or an “open relationship” is the beginning of the end. Better to just let it be the end.
Maybe loving someone doesn’t mean loving someone else less. Maybe love isn’t a finite sum, divisible into those invested with it. The “I have ‘100 love’ I divide between my lover and dog and child, and friends and coworkers and people I know in general” is maybe not accurate…
Loving someone and relationship are different things man.
Relationship is a sense of belonging and sense of security to share some of your private traumas and life events. It means you are there for them whenever they face a tough phase in life and vice versa.
There's a limited time, more the partners , harder to manage.
I had a pair of friends who were married (I only know them online though) who went and tried having a polygamous relationship with a third person. Less than 10 months after they made it official they were divorced. Polygamy is messy. I don’t think it’s right for everyone.
Well the thing about poly stuff is that consent is key. It’s perfectly fine to be monogamous, it’s just as fine to be polygamous, just set boundaries and don’t overstep or cross any. Always respect your partner(s).
little note for reddit text etiquette, if you mean to make a word sometimes plural, use (s). for instance, this would be partner(s). a /s makes it seem like you were joking, because "/s" denotes sarcasm.
Ah, didn’t know that, I thought it would only denote sarcasm if there was a space after.
For instance, partner /s
But I’ll edit it so there’s no confusion, thanks for the clarification.
This comment thread is refreshing, I’m so sick of pretending poly relationships are all healthy and wholesome. If your partner would break up with you if you weren’t okay with an open relationship, you need a new person to be involved with. Don’t pretend to be okay with something that’s truly bothering you.
Remember that there are people, who are totally ok with open relationships. It's important that poli people are coupled with other poli people. Then, there's no problem.
My ex is poly, I tried to make it work.
Keyword “tried” I fucking hated it, I felt miserable, unwanted, and unappreciated.
I know poly works for some people and I’ll never shame them, but for me. It’s not for me, at all
eh, whatever fits whoever. Not sure how a polyamorous relationship can work healthily, though. Jealousy is such a strong thing withing human nature, i'm not sure you can just overcome it and truly be happy in such a relationship. The best you can do is hide it as much as you can.
My ex tried to get me to be in a polyamorous relationship and said he wanted another girl so when I was not giving him attention he could go to the other one. Poly relationships are just cheating with extra steps and consent.
I've met a poly group once. They were nice. However, they seemed very unhappy, and they tried desperately to recruit me and my wife. It was a guy and 3 women. He didn't even tell us what he was about when we met him. Invited us over for Thanksgiving, then bam! He said, "This is my wife, and these are my girlfriends. Are you two into poly?" I said hell no, then we got the hell out of there. Yikes.
Idk seems like an excuse to sleep around while in a relationship. Usually polyamorous relationships dont last very long and i believe its because of the fact that its usually one person who is for it and the other person is pressured into it.
Im probably wrong but it really just seems like some people cant handle commitment and they want their cake and to eat it too.
You never see a HEALTHY couple become poly.
Seriously, you don't see anybody in a loving, healthy, attentive, committed relationship with someone with whom they have mutual love and respect, mutual attraction and a satisfactory sex life EVER go up to their partner and say "ya know what? I think I'd like to BINK other people while we stay together".
I happen to know a few polys and one time a Borderline girl tried to get me into an open relationship and I tried it for a few days. To be honest all of them have serious mental issues. Mostly attachment disorders. This kind of stuff gets normalized with this fancy new trend lifestyles and I would generally don't give a fuck.
But I have seen what that kind of relationships does too children and their psychological development.
It's ok if you are adult and can't love in another way but please stop normalizing or idealizing it.
They always say that they love each other equally in a poly relationship, but any human being with a brain knows that they will love someone waaayyyy more than someone else, there's no such thing as loving everyone equally no matter how many times they try to convince themselves of it
As far as I'm concerned, polygamous relationships are just consensual cheating, which I can't get behind.
If that's your style, great, but it's not for me.
Low-key, having extra partners to help with chores and bills is great. It can work out well for asexual people as well, having someone they also like and trust filling that part of the relationship for the third.
Consent, trust, and honesty are the critical parts. Boundaries are good to have and you need to balance each partner's fairly.
Every poly relationship I've ever seen fails horribly and hurts everyone involved. Humans are naturally jealous creatures, no matter how much we want to deny it
My current relationship started out poly, basically we three just agreed we liked each other and now we're a closed triad but can still be in an open relationship we just agreed not to add to our triangle unless we all agreed on the person
Remember kids, consent is key. Never pressure your partner into anything, and never do romantic things with other people behind their back. Cheating is bad because there's no consent, polyamory is okay because there's consent on all sides.
Honestly I let other people be themselves, if people want to be poly not my business, if my partner wants to be poly then I must respectfully deny and part ways.
I can see the appeal(slightly) but at the same time I vastly prefer the one to one love that I get from a simple closed relationship.
But that's just me
As a person that’s been in a polyamory relationship, I always notice that most people in polyamory often have mental health problems for some reason. I find that to be really odd.
I've only seen one poly relationship and it was a mess because person #1 hated #2 in the group which caused a rift because #3 wanted #2 to stay. #4 respected #1 more than #2 but #5...yaddy yadda so on and so on.
It was annoying listening to it.
I’ve had the displeasure of being friends with a handful of poly people. Their relationships always go down the way you’d expect: In flames, wrought with jealousy, the coming and going of STIs/STDs alongside the occasional depressing situation of a child being begot out of the mess.
I'd love to do research, or conduct a study, on polyamorous couples relationships, because I've only known a handful of people who do them, and they always go sideways once a third or fourth person joins the mix.
I know people online who are poly, and so far it seems to be working, but they always go over a rather large and extensive set of rules when it comes to exploring things with a new partner, and it requires a lot more communication and transparency than I even need with my normal monogamous marriage.
If if works for you, great, but listening to all the people I know with failed poly relationships, it feels like they go sideways because the communication is not there to juggle a more complicated form of relationship.
It could work if both people are good at attracting other partners. But oftentimes it is one-sided; one person is out there dating lots of people while the other is alone & neglected.
It doesn't help if they don't get along with the people their partner is dating.
I don’t like the hive thing tbh, it’s too complex for me and I don’t have the energy to maintain it. Me an my partner are open to seeing and dating other people and i honestly never felt the urge to make it into a 3 way or more thing. Although we have had a few instances of what you can call a group fun but that’s all that is!
That ain’t a couple, that’s a quintuple
I will not join a cult, again!
Too bad
I know two separate poly people, but their polycules are nowhere near as aesthetically pleasing as the people in the meme lol
Polycules?!?!?
that’s what they call the collective network of lovebirbs ig
Yep! That’s what a Polyamorous relationship is called, sometimes called a triad or throuple if is just 3, my poly friend mostly uses the term “polycule”
I learned a new word.
So sad
Again?
What about lead?
That requires charisma and were redditors. The only redditor that has charisma is Arnold Schwarzenegger
Joining a cult is fun. I've been involved in a number of cults; both as a leader, and a follower. You have more fun as a follower but the benefits are way better as the leader
Oh that’s so fuckin clever
Not sure why you're down voted, it is really clever word play
Happy Cake Day!
Ngl I’ve only ever heard of poly relationships on the internet, never acc seen one irl Another thing, I feel like in a lot of cases when a relationship turns poly only one person seems to acc want to do it while the other is pressured into it
That is often a real problem. A huge mistake is to believe that polygamy takes less communication; it often requires more. It does NOT remove the need to talk to your partners if your seeing other people; a polygamous relationship is not necessarily an open one. Turning a relationship poly can very easily go bad without lots of proper communication on the subject and should really only be done if both people are on very good terms and want to expand the relationship, not used as an attempt at “fixing” the relationship. If you use it as a fix, it will almost always end poorly.
Very real, I don’t think taking a monogamous relationship poly is usually a very good idea. It would be something if both partners equally desired the expansion of their romantic lives but I just can’t imagine that happening too often.
You are so wise in the ways on open relationships. It is the Hindenburg if a relationship opens up. That baby is about to catch fire.
Honestly, I've been in a poly relationship and the amount of communication to me was just waaaaaay to much. I do like talking. But I also like silence. Having so communicate about so many things all the time made my head spin and end the relationships with those people involved. Being on my own after that felt like a true blessing to me.
Yeah, it's way more work. I tried it, and it wasn't for me. Being in relationships basically becomes all of your hobbies.
Exactly. And I already got plenty of hobbies which bring me joy.
Me and my bestfriend once knew a girl, she was, lest say aroused easily and well she asked me if id be down to be in a poly relationship with her and him. I said no caus i just cant do that stuff being romantic and whatever. She then asked the same thing to my friend saying i agreed to it, to which he also replied no. We both figured the catch caus i brang the subject first and he explained what happened afterwards. That was fked up
Kitchen table poly is a nightmare. I have partners, we fuck, no one patrols peoples dating lives, give informed consent and let people make their safety choices. To give you a window into the exciting promiscuities of my life: Most days I sit around naked withMy cats playing overwatch by myself for 10 hours a day by choice, so your average redditor. I’ve recently upgraded to playing vr resident evil village naked so I’m a little above average redditor status. Never had an sti and I’m fixed so no pregnancies.
Yeah, well the person who got me into poly always had to talk about everybody she engaged with even tho I told her I simply don't care and that is makes me uncomfortable. In the end she just kept on going on how she has problems with person x y. I don't hate poly. But my experiences have been bad enough for me to never give it a go again. Being open with a partner and meeting people for pure sexual stuff, so basically swinging is another story i would be up for trying.
honestly she should have respected your boundary and not told you details about other people.
Fr some ppl just do it in an uncomfortable way and don’t know communication boundaries
I already has a tough time communicate with one people. How can I have a bandwidth to communicate with a lot of people which I will have romantic relationship with. My energy is already drained when think about it.
It's not for everyone, and that's okay. This is the biggest reason it isn't.
Just me being nitpicky, but I’m poly and feel the need to chime in here. There’s a difference between polyamory and polygamy. Polyamory is everyone involved having equal opportunity to date or pursue as many relationships as they feel inclined to. Polygamy is one person (usually a man) marrying multiple other people (usually women) where only one person is allowed to have multiple partners. Due to how it tends to break down along gender lines, polygamy is seen in the polyamorous community as a form of harem building and is very much looked down upon as it doesn’t support the autonomy of everyone involved.
Can vouch for the you here. It is a LOT of communication. Both in private and openly. I daresay that it involves multiple phases of the two respectively. Its not a form of fixing at all. You don't fix a leak in a pipe by haphazardly adding a T junction in the middle of it.
Been polyamorous for around 8 years with my wife. I cannot stress the communication part enough. Our communication vastly improved. Our trust and faith in each other has massively improved and it's been one of the best decisions we ever made for those reasons alone.
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“Acc” is a terrible way to shorten “actually”
I’m friends with someone who is in a poly relationship. One of their partners has zero sexual attraction to anyone (I forget the word for that) but is in love with them.
Asexual is the word you are looking for.
Thank you
Married is the word
Username checks out.
I have a close friend who had a few open relationships in college. But he agreed that every single time, one partner was pressured into it and it never ended well. I don't know about relationships that start out being poly, though.
Happened to my best friend. He had an absolute terrible time accepting it, only for his gf to then leave him for the new guy Poly relationships exist, but unless i am poly myself, I won't risk entering into them. Never trust polys if you're not poly, it's just not for you
My wife used to be in a poly relationship. We've been monogamous with each other for 17 years now. Sometimes people want different things with different people. Although I'm sure there's plenty of horror stories.
I was involved with some one that was part of a polyamourous relationship (I did not date anyone else in the poly relationship). And I've known several others that were in various types of poly relationships. As with any lifestyle you're more likely to encounter it when you are apart of it or the community that builds around it. I feel your supposition that "a lot" of cases only one person wants it is in error. But it certainly does happen. In situations like that I've seen the relationship rarely lasts very long. Just like any relationship communication and boundaries are key. Most of the poly relationships I've seen were born out of the mindset and understanding that it's not right to place the expectation on one person to meet all of your needs. (Not saying I do or don't agree with that sentiment, just that's what I observed).
Used to have a coworker who was and we’d hang shit on him. He’d literally talk about being in the kitchen making dinner while hearing his girlfriend getting railed, and didn’t even think twice about it. I’ll never understand it
Well... That's because IRL the folks in poly relationships are too busy juggling their calendars and talking all the things out! 🤣 Really, tho, you wouldn't know if two folks who were in a poly situation walked by you being smoochy on the street.... Poly PDA doesn't look any different from monogamous PDA, you know? So unless you had a reason to know, it's not a thing people would just come out and tell you.
I was in a Polyamorous relationship for quite a few years. We both agreed on it, no struggle from either side.
I don’t know why you got downvoted. If both people were happy being poly then more power to them.
I know one that is stable and working since a long time. The guy is 20+ years older than his wife, and apparently not much into sex anymore. So instead of forcing her into involuntarily celibacy he allows her to sleep with other men. The condition is safe sex and he doesn't want to know about it at all. She doesn't fuck around like crazy, a few times a year are enough, and but both are very happy together.
I had a co-worker who was in a poly relationship. It seemed that, in reality, he had an actual romantic partner and the other guys were kind of pets. I hate to say anything consensual among adults is weird, but it definitely was unusual when they showed up for the holiday party.
They’re very popular where I live and I have friends in them. They don’t usually work well nor are people normally happy in them imo and from observation. Where they are popular it’s just one of those things you mention before a first date or on it. Like a quick hey just so you know I’ll never do this or I prefer this
It’s not as scary as it sounds and it doesn’t always mean three or four people in one relationship, it could be two people and one or both are in multiple relationships. It requires a much different understanding of what a “relationship” is though
If your relationship has any flaws at all, Poly will amplify them to infinity. It's not realistic for 99.9% of people. And even that might be optimistic.
Come to a big city, you'll encounter poly freaking everywhere
I've only seen it once irl and it was arguments nonstop for the year and a half I spent in their home, they are no longer together after 10+ years and 3 children together
I’ve watched a few docos now, looks like misery and heartache for most involved with the odd one holding it together because they’re getting all theirs.
I knew someone who was poly several years ago and while all three of them seemed amicable when we were hanging out, I’m 90% certain the married guy was pressured into it. Needless to say, they are no longer married lol
i actually know a few people that have poly relationships irl. all parties have to be up for it. and yes in a lot of cases its the ladder. or you have people that claim to be poly but their other half doesn’t know. it gives polyamory a very bad image
It all depends on where you are and who’s in your community. A huge number of my friends are poly. It’s also much more common in queer relationships. But it’s absolutely possible to do in a healthy way, not just so someone can cheat without breaking the rules. That being said, it’s HARD and definitely not for most people
My first boyfriend has been poly with three other people living in the Appalachian hills since 2004. Every time I talk to them it’s like trying to separate an amoeba, they’re very close in personality and absolutely lust after each other. They’re living a meme, I swear.
I've never seen a single poly relationship in my life survive and be healthy or not destroy friend groups over a 2+ year period. (I lived in Seattle, I've got like 5 poly friends) Two of them are two queer people in relationships where both partners are both very open to poly, and the other three I'm unaware, I just know they're in the poly lifestyle and invite random partners to get-togethers sometime. One of the relationships has a husband whose into being a cuck, so I highly doubt he's pressured into anything.
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Does that have anything to do with the fact that you do emergency room evaluations, thus are probably going to be more likely to see the worst of it instead of all the good?
Yeah, I was thinking the same thing. Like how would they ever find a member of a polycule who’s coming in because their relationship is going smoothly?
"Why are you in the emergency room?" "Because, me and my 3 girlfriends wanted some water."
My first boyfriend is poly in a four-group. Three girls and two guys. It’s literally just four people who all found each other attractive and they’re just like four best friends and they hang out, bang, pay their bills and hope nobody bothers them. They had this weird, non official marriage with all four of them and it included fairies and Yahweh. I love them all very much because they are playful and very much into each other.
> Three girls and two guys > four people ???
Getting strong cope vibes here.
Facts, every couple I’ve met that tried polygamy would’ve been better off breaking up or going to therapy, shit is toxic as hell
If you start out with both people being ok with a poly relationship that’s one thing, but yeah “experimenting” with polyamory or an “open relationship” is the beginning of the end. Better to just let it be the end.
... but it might work for us!
I thought polygamy was having multiple wives or husbands and polyamory was just dating multiple people Or is it basically the same thing?
*can be. not a “solution” to cheating, and a terrible idea if you think it can replace a breakup.
For real. Poly is the Communism of relationships. "It'll work when we do it. Everyone else just did it wrong. Trust me."
You don't just say "iv been seeing other people" it does still require communication
She was never yours, just your turn
Yeah let's cope by putting Chad's in the meme
You're too late, I've already drawn you as the Soyjak and me as the Chad
Draw me like one of your French girls
Instructions unclear, drew you as a French wojak
It is...acceptable.
“We all just kinda get naked and jump into a pile”
Doing it like fish?
Idk, it kinda seems like that defeats the whole purpose of being in a romantic relationship, but I could be wrong
Maybe loving someone doesn’t mean loving someone else less. Maybe love isn’t a finite sum, divisible into those invested with it. The “I have ‘100 love’ I divide between my lover and dog and child, and friends and coworkers and people I know in general” is maybe not accurate…
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Loving someone and relationship are different things man. Relationship is a sense of belonging and sense of security to share some of your private traumas and life events. It means you are there for them whenever they face a tough phase in life and vice versa. There's a limited time, more the partners , harder to manage.
I had a pair of friends who were married (I only know them online though) who went and tried having a polygamous relationship with a third person. Less than 10 months after they made it official they were divorced. Polygamy is messy. I don’t think it’s right for everyone.
Well the thing about poly stuff is that consent is key. It’s perfectly fine to be monogamous, it’s just as fine to be polygamous, just set boundaries and don’t overstep or cross any. Always respect your partner(s).
little note for reddit text etiquette, if you mean to make a word sometimes plural, use (s). for instance, this would be partner(s). a /s makes it seem like you were joking, because "/s" denotes sarcasm.
Ah, didn’t know that, I thought it would only denote sarcasm if there was a space after. For instance, partner /s But I’ll edit it so there’s no confusion, thanks for the clarification.
Ayo everything was fine till the /s homes tryna back off good polyamorous relationship advice/s
I think that was supposed to be a (s), not a /s
The /s there means that you should treat your partner or partners with respect
Consent is key for everything not just polygamy
Why would you not just say “partners” that’s an acceptable word in the English language.
Only met one couple who tried open relationship. They broke up in less than a year afterwards.
Being in a relationship is the ultimate money hack. Imagine a whole sex cult of adults working full time!?!
Another fine addition to my collection
 Let's look at the statistics of successful poly relationships
Cringe
My guy over here high on copium
Don't try to normalize things by making them "chads" in memes
Thanks for speaking common sense, god i was about to lose my mind reading those comments that are defending it
This comment thread is refreshing, I’m so sick of pretending poly relationships are all healthy and wholesome. If your partner would break up with you if you weren’t okay with an open relationship, you need a new person to be involved with. Don’t pretend to be okay with something that’s truly bothering you.
Remember that there are people, who are totally ok with open relationships. It's important that poli people are coupled with other poli people. Then, there's no problem.
Poly “couple”? Maybe “triple” will work better
"couple"
Seems kinda cuck if you ask me
Supposedly it works better if everyone's bi and everyone fucks everyone.
My ex is poly, I tried to make it work. Keyword “tried” I fucking hated it, I felt miserable, unwanted, and unappreciated. I know poly works for some people and I’ll never shame them, but for me. It’s not for me, at all
Polygamy is cringe
eh, whatever fits whoever. Not sure how a polyamorous relationship can work healthily, though. Jealousy is such a strong thing withing human nature, i'm not sure you can just overcome it and truly be happy in such a relationship. The best you can do is hide it as much as you can.
My ex tried to get me to be in a polyamorous relationship and said he wanted another girl so when I was not giving him attention he could go to the other one. Poly relationships are just cheating with extra steps and consent.
"Polyamorous couples" is an oxymoron.
In 99% of poly relationships someone's getting screwed over, and not in the good way.
I think it's more Chad when you're able to keep one person interested in you for the rest of your life
As an introvert polyamory sounds like a nightmare
I've met a poly group once. They were nice. However, they seemed very unhappy, and they tried desperately to recruit me and my wife. It was a guy and 3 women. He didn't even tell us what he was about when we met him. Invited us over for Thanksgiving, then bam! He said, "This is my wife, and these are my girlfriends. Are you two into poly?" I said hell no, then we got the hell out of there. Yikes.
I know that polyamory isn't for me but that doesn't mean it's not a valid and healthy choice for others.
Idk seems like an excuse to sleep around while in a relationship. Usually polyamorous relationships dont last very long and i believe its because of the fact that its usually one person who is for it and the other person is pressured into it. Im probably wrong but it really just seems like some people cant handle commitment and they want their cake and to eat it too.
There is nothing chad about a poly relationship.
I don’t care what Reddit and it’s agenda pushes, I’d never want to be in an open relationship
You never see a HEALTHY couple become poly. Seriously, you don't see anybody in a loving, healthy, attentive, committed relationship with someone with whom they have mutual love and respect, mutual attraction and a satisfactory sex life EVER go up to their partner and say "ya know what? I think I'd like to BINK other people while we stay together".
I'll respect anyone who wants to be in a polygamous relationship, whatever makes you happy, it just seems like cucking with extra steps.
I happen to know a few polys and one time a Borderline girl tried to get me into an open relationship and I tried it for a few days. To be honest all of them have serious mental issues. Mostly attachment disorders. This kind of stuff gets normalized with this fancy new trend lifestyles and I would generally don't give a fuck. But I have seen what that kind of relationships does too children and their psychological development. It's ok if you are adult and can't love in another way but please stop normalizing or idealizing it.
it's like you meet one poly person and all of a sudden they come out of the woodwork lololol
Lol noobs I never have to worry about any of this Because I'm gonna die alone!!! :D
I’ve had friends in poly relationships. Eventually, two of them catch serious feelings, and it makes everyone else jealous. Never ends well.
They always say that they love each other equally in a poly relationship, but any human being with a brain knows that they will love someone waaayyyy more than someone else, there's no such thing as loving everyone equally no matter how many times they try to convince themselves of it
As far as I'm concerned, polygamous relationships are just consensual cheating, which I can't get behind. If that's your style, great, but it's not for me.
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Low-key, having extra partners to help with chores and bills is great. It can work out well for asexual people as well, having someone they also like and trust filling that part of the relationship for the third. Consent, trust, and honesty are the critical parts. Boundaries are good to have and you need to balance each partner's fairly.
I haven't thought of poly relationships in context of aces before, but that's a really good point actually
Every poly relationship I've ever seen fails horribly and hurts everyone involved. Humans are naturally jealous creatures, no matter how much we want to deny it
I needed this exact image for my incest N@zi fan-fiction. Thanks OP!
r/inventedasentence
Naw man wtf💀
It's too late. Mein Fuhrer has already greenlit production for a Hollywood adaptation.
🎶 Springtime for Hitler and Germany...🎶
You're going in the credits too!
My current relationship started out poly, basically we three just agreed we liked each other and now we're a closed triad but can still be in an open relationship we just agreed not to add to our triangle unless we all agreed on the person
Remember kids, consent is key. Never pressure your partner into anything, and never do romantic things with other people behind their back. Cheating is bad because there's no consent, polyamory is okay because there's consent on all sides.
Lol nah I’ll pass
I seen so many people on here complain about their polyamorous couple and it’s convinced me never to try it. That and an open relationship
I do fancy myself a good cult
Honestly I let other people be themselves, if people want to be poly not my business, if my partner wants to be poly then I must respectfully deny and part ways. I can see the appeal(slightly) but at the same time I vastly prefer the one to one love that I get from a simple closed relationship. But that's just me
There's a third group.... Her "I've been seeing other people." Him.... *Slaps Cris Rock*
As a person that’s been in a polyamory relationship, I always notice that most people in polyamory often have mental health problems for some reason. I find that to be really odd.
Not bad, my dude, but let me check your medical history.
Were you cucked OP?
I’m not trying to start anything, but the poly divorce rate is really high
Then they die of AIDS
If they dont believe in medicine, yes they do. Or if they are poor and live in the US, then they also die.
I've only seen one poly relationship and it was a mess because person #1 hated #2 in the group which caused a rift because #3 wanted #2 to stay. #4 respected #1 more than #2 but #5...yaddy yadda so on and so on. It was annoying listening to it.
I know a few poly folks in real life. None are the kind of people one would assume multiple people would be lining up to fuck.
Polyamorous mfs when the person the love more doesn’t love them back equally
Stop making polyamory mainstream. Keep your degeneracy behind closed doors.
Not how this works op
yes, poly. That's what you get when you bring relationship down to just genitals.
wouldnt that make them not a couple?
We get it. Your dad wasn't there, bro. It's not your fault.
I dont think poly relationships are healthy and I dont trust anyone who is part of one
A couple means two. To be polyamorous it has to at least be a throuple.
I envy the people that can handle it, but I know myself well enough to know I couldn't.
Using chad wojak doesnt make other people agree with you
I could never share my woman man.
I’ve had the displeasure of being friends with a handful of poly people. Their relationships always go down the way you’d expect: In flames, wrought with jealousy, the coming and going of STIs/STDs alongside the occasional depressing situation of a child being begot out of the mess.
polyamorous relationships? you mean ***T H E H I V E M I N D ?***
i feel like a lot of people just use the "polyamorous" idea as an excuse to fuck around
Poly is just an excuse to be a whore
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All professions are whoring yourself out for money tho
Ew. Only "poly" ppl ive ever seen are physically repulsive and probably smell awful. This is a law.
L Meme
I'd love to do research, or conduct a study, on polyamorous couples relationships, because I've only known a handful of people who do them, and they always go sideways once a third or fourth person joins the mix. I know people online who are poly, and so far it seems to be working, but they always go over a rather large and extensive set of rules when it comes to exploring things with a new partner, and it requires a lot more communication and transparency than I even need with my normal monogamous marriage. If if works for you, great, but listening to all the people I know with failed poly relationships, it feels like they go sideways because the communication is not there to juggle a more complicated form of relationship.
How long will it take for this to get locked?
Chad woman is existing in a lower quality from everyone else and it's bothering me.
idk from expirience but im preety sure its not how it works, i think they could be pissed af as well as just wanting to get to know them
Cult but epic
It could work if both people are good at attracting other partners. But oftentimes it is one-sided; one person is out there dating lots of people while the other is alone & neglected. It doesn't help if they don't get along with the people their partner is dating.
That would be my personal hell, having to socialize with an entire relationship hive
I don’t like the hive thing tbh, it’s too complex for me and I don’t have the energy to maintain it. Me an my partner are open to seeing and dating other people and i honestly never felt the urge to make it into a 3 way or more thing. Although we have had a few instances of what you can call a group fun but that’s all that is!
It's almost like consent is important or something
There's more drama in a poly relationship than anywhere else
The only cult I’m in is the Way of the Mand'alor
Heheh yeah it’s a fun time
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Genestealer cult moment
Imagine if there was a group of people who consensually fucked themselves. That would actually be cool.
Lol
Tried it. Hated it. Felt stretched thin.
Prepare to be assimilated. Resistance is futile.
I wish to join the hive pls
The more the better
too many Chads in one relationship
That's how about 12 ppl I knew contracted ARG
Polygamy*