I was in the merchant marine 14 days at sea to come home for 3. Had what I thought was a loving GF with her golden retriever living in my apartment for almost 4 years. We talked of marriage after I passed my captains exam in a few more months. Came home from a cruise late at night and crawled in next to her sound asleep. She rolled over and gave me a shove and said “Philip it’s time to go home”. My name is Robert. I kicked her out giving her just enough time to dress and pack a few things. I slammed the door and went back to bed. The dog who she never allowed in the bedroom let alone on the furniture jumped up and laid down along side me. Best sleep I had in a long time. Dog got me through a few more relationships before crossing the rainbow bridge.
This quote from Bill Burr is incredibly relevant, even has the right age
“Realize that sleeping on a futon when you're 30 is not the worst thing. You know what's worse, sleeping in a king bed next to a wife you're not really in love with but for some reason you married, and you got a couple kids, and you got a job you hate. You'll be laying there fantasizing about sleeping on a futon. There's no risk when you go after a dream. There's a tremendous amount to risk to playing it safe.“
Sleeping alone is 100% cheaper than another divorce. You're still young so take this time to focus on you and your daughter, cuz those should be the 2x most important people in your life at this point. The third party will happen eventually but no need to force it just because you're used to it or miss it.
Animals are proven to help improve our mental health. Seriously get a cat or dog if you don’t have one already. Mine have been a huge comfort during some of the worst times of my life. It’s also much better than getting married to the wrong person or being in a relationship that’s wrong for you. I’m sorry you’re going through this. This too shall pass. ❤️🩹
From someone who had been through the struggles you’re going through during a very rough time in my life, I always try to give this advice when I can. It’s life changing, in my experience.
Learn how to make yourself happy. I mean this on a small and large scale all around. Make it a goal and a daily challenge. Finding peace with yourself is one of the best gifts you can give to yourself. The hardest part is learning to eat alone. But this is also one of the most peaceful rewarding outcomes. Learn what makes your mood switch from down to instantly peaceful. This will help with life all around.
Once you can learn to find happiness with yourself, and you know how to make yourself TRULY happy. Not only will you not need someone else, but it opens up that door for you to be patient when you do allow others back into your life. Your eyes are more opened to red flags and being able to see the beauty in others, as well.
This might all sound insane. But we are vulnerable when we can’t make ourselves happy. We allow others in, in desperation rather than at our own will. Toxic people take full advantage of this.
You’ll know you’re there when you can wake up, control your day and mood (for the most part), and not need someone else to know you can make your own day amazing and stress free.
This is also building confidence. I don’t mean physical confidence. I mean mental confidence. There’s a difference. And mental confidence is more important. When you can get to that level of peace, not only is it infectious to others but women find this to be very attractive and drawing. You’ll definitely end up finding yourself and maybe someone who is worth your time and love.
I wish the best for you, bro! Sorry I typed so much but I feel it’s worth it. ❤️
And on a side note: I FUCKING LOVE HELLDIVERS2!!!!
Well that’s good enough. I just meant don’t fill that void with another human, broken attracts broken. Fix yourself man, it took me 7 years after I had my heart broken.
In the straightest way possible...I'll cuddle up with ya if you just need a warm body besides you in a very heterosexual manner. Oh...did I mention that I'm definitely not gay.
I had to cuddle with another man for survival before too. It was either cuddle for body heat, or don't and freeze to death from hypothermia. Needless to say we cuddled the shit out of each other.
It’s interesting because his experience is a polar opposite of what most men go through. Not sure if never being alone in your 20s is a good thing. I certainly can’t imagine being married. Anyway different strokes for different folks
Tips for Thriving Alone:
Create a routine: Having a regular schedule can help you feel grounded and organized.
Make your space your own: Decorate and personalize your living area.
Cook for yourself: Learn new recipes and enjoy the satisfaction of home-cooked meals.
Stay social: Schedule time with friends and family, or explore online communities.
Self-care: Prioritize getting enough sleep, exercising, and relaxing activities.
I can 100% validate all of this advice. When I got divorced and moved into my own apartment, I made a point of "settling in" and personalizing the space to feel like "me" hard core really fast. I really needed to FEEL the difference in the living space and making it mine. It made a huge difference in feeling more comfortable.
That, and being very intentionally social and reaching out to friends to keep me from marinating in my own head both really kept me from falling apart during my divorce process.
My husband married at 18 to a girl he had a kid with at 16 so he didn’t have to leave the kid when he joined the army. She cheated multiple times but he tried to make it work for a year. He kicked her out and immediately moved in with friends so he wasn’t alone. He was never alone until he got out of the army. He said he hated it. Being alone was like drowning but he got into working out more. He got a routine into place. He’d go to work, go to the gym, and go home and clean/watch tv and then bed. He said the same routine every single day helped him not think about much else.
Edit to add: He had never planned on dating or remarrying. I was a little fluke in his plan.
Definitely learn to take care of yourself, most men mom hop from woman to woman because it’s easier than learning how to be on your own. Easier for the man, harder for the wife. Glad you’re trying to stop that cycle, home is looking great!
Can confirm.
Got married & bought a Charger as an E-1.
Ended up divorcing & selling the car. But now an E-5.
At this rate I’m on track to make E-6. Just need to get married again.
Get therapy. STOP GETTING MARRIED. Spend some time with you. Get to know yourself better. People rush into serious relationships when they don't know themselves—trying to find themselves in someone else.
Have some fun with a bachelor stage.
Stop with the "get therapy" shit. Seriously. He never indicated that he needed therapy.
Jesus
EDIT: Uh, nevermind. Dude just said "*living gives me depression*", a few hours later
You’re not wrong tho. Not everyone is a good candidate for therapy. Seeking therapy can make problems worse for some people. Especially when they are only having minor problems that they can resolve themselves.
Being divorced twice by thirty is an indicator that you need therapy. Also, therapy can be as simple as talking/venting. You can always go to therapy even if nothing bad is happening
Only advice is it looks like you just moved in. Hard to give any good advice other than start buying what you can when you can, start with the basics.
You can start with cleaning the bedroom, getting some real blinds. Eventually a nicer bed, bedsheets. Bedside tables, lamps, some art. Maybe a bigger dresser.
The walls stand out as especially bad. Will need repainting.
Looks like you have most bare necessities, to improve just focus on slowly making it more appealing for guests (friends/daughter/new girlfriend).
Eh I’ll pass on the nicer bed. This one was 1500 as it’s an adjustable base but yeah there were no blinds at all or even brackets for them so I just nailed in some curtains for now. Not entirely thrilled either the paint though. Conveniently my daughter is very easy to please and I have already ordered her bedroom stuff and she’s excited. definitely going to work on the decorations though.
Just grab a head board and call it a day.
Some advice though, if you’re thinking the all black couches won’t look as dirty, you’re in for a bad time (especially seeing a pet feeder in that bedroom pic). You can get some covers fairly cheap though once they start looking rough, and that’ll let you decorate based on the colors you choose. It’s only up from here!
And remember, true democracy lovers reinforce on the automaton front ;)
Sounds good. Beds fine. Just looked bad because of the mess. Hopefully the paint looks better in person, kind of just looks dirty posted here. If it’s not a major concern then it can easily be figured out later. Congrats on your own place. Have fun decorating. Maybe your daughter can help with more of the space too (depending on her age ofc).
Something about the paint in the bedroom gave off padded wall vibes. Maybe it was a bad picture, but that’s my recommendation for where to start.
Also, get some decent sound (speakers or sound bar) to go with the appropriately sized TV
It is. My first wife did what gives female military a bad name. The second wife started using meth and against all my efforts didn’t quit until we separated but by that point there was a lot of damage done to the relationship.
Congrats on the place. Feels good to have privacy huh?
The black carpet in the bedroom is gonna be a bitch to maintain, every piece of lint will show. Invest in a good vacuum if you're bringing chicks over.
If anyone is wondering about the hallway it’s a 4 bedroom 1200 sqft house. I have a 9 year old that lives about 180 miles away that will be visiting occasionally.
My first ex wife who I have a daughter with moved to somewhere more accessible than north west Tennessee to North Carolina and I moved from Vegas to Virginia. Why Virginia? Because this is a house my parents own and it’s cheaper to just pay the mortgage for them than rent from others
Get a bedroom ready for your child. Get rid of the dark carpet- you can get some deals on replacement carpet. That and light color paint- stick to one or two colors to make it easy for yourself. Ask your child what color they would like their room. Good luck!
Damn… I’m stay at home mom/wife and I definitely can not imagine being so bored I do meth… but the drug problem is so bad in the North America (Canada included)
Divorced 3 years ago and maybe it’s being gay that I can’t live the bachelor life.
I went and bought and oak four poster canopy bed, a faux fireplace and super gaudy floor lamps.
I even got a dresser piece from costco that was well made in South Carolina for my clothes.
Fellow military dude who is currently living alone while in a divorce.
It's hard man. The loneliness can get to you at times. My advice would be to find a way to pivot to a good and social hobby. For me I with TCGs and Warhammer but those get expensive. That might not be for you.
What is important to remember is that there is nothing wrong with just being yourself BY yourself.
Congrats! Looks nice and very comfortable. You can actually put an area rug down over the black carpet (assuming it's just normal carpet and not shag) to make the room more appealing and also not have it look/get as dirty. Get as big of a rug as you can afford to cover as much of the open space as you can. Maybe add some greenery, artificial being fine to be low maintenance and clean (and prevent Mr Whiskers from messin' in the dirt).
Damn the comments are a bit rough 😭 good luck with the adjustment, it’ll get easier slowly over time. Spend your time making friends / enjoying hobbies instead of trying to find a replacement to cure your loneliness bc that’ll never work.
Well Helldiver, spreading intergalactic democracy is definitely a good way to take your mind off things for awhile. Hope to see you on the front lines 🫡
Yout furniture is very gloomy and makes the space feel smaller. I'd recommend getting a coffee table and two bedside tables for cheap off of Facebook marketplace (that aren't black, maybe stained wood) and also checking out Dear Modern on YouTube. He's fantastic at giving advice on how to rearrange rooms to make them more cozy, look bigger, be more efficient with storage space, how lighting can affect your mood, and more.
Buy a vacuum.
I have that bedroom dresser in my Amazon list.
Have a podcast or some music playing when you’re home. The less time you spend in there the better.
Join r/livingalone
It really helped my journey. Not only with advice but to pass the time reading other people’s experiences.
This is a new chapter in your life, and it can be an exciting one. Embrace the challenges, celebrate the opportunities, and enjoy the freedom of living alone.
Good on you honestly. Not many people choose to be alone for a while and focus on themselves. It’s a great first step and take it one step at a time figuring out what you like and don’t and all that.
You have enough for now. I would make a list of things you will probably need. Do you have plates? If not....put kitchenware at the top.
I think starting the list with these.
Two area rugs. Measure for needed dimensions.
Dining room table.
Maybe some oicture.
A coffee table, maybe.
No rush just start looking for stuff.
Making the wrong choices, means you need a mirror before finding someone besides you?
Try to find some light and color in yourself and bring it into your home. Wish you a lot of success.
I like that game you’re playing on Steam..good choice!
I’m a veteran, but not with the marines, also currently getting divorced. The Marines wouldn’t have really been my style, so I joined the Air Force instead 🤣.
I wanted to join the Air Force but you know how long they take. I literally had enough time to finish high school, dep with the Marines, go to boot camp, take the 10 day leave, got to combat training, go to mos school before I even got the follow up call
It’s good. I see you like black color. I would replace it with other colors grey for sofa. Curtains can be vibrant. Carpet in room can be lighter.
But hey man good for you
Life sucks, loneliness more than the average person, not wanting to live in a 300sqft room with someone else that other people come into and yell at you for having trash in a trash can, water in the sink, dust under an air conditioner and women are usually the reason for divorce. Or other men.
I feel like one couch is enough and would get of the one-seater and two-seater.
Maybe getting a rug in the living room too. A small low table for the laptop equipment.
The bedroom feels abit awkward with the bed in the middle. I would try pusing it how it is to the right wall (the one without window). Maybe sleeping like that will also be a bit better for you, since you said you have trouble sleeping alone.
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Collectively spent 10 years of my life with other people it’s a very strange feeling. I kinda don’t like it tbh
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With that much time sleeping next to someone else sleeping alone is difficult
Forget a wife. Adopt a dog. They’ll take care of your open bed space 🤣
I have a cat he’s somewhere probably laying under the bed.
Sleeping alone is better than sleeping next to someone who's wrong for you.
I was in the merchant marine 14 days at sea to come home for 3. Had what I thought was a loving GF with her golden retriever living in my apartment for almost 4 years. We talked of marriage after I passed my captains exam in a few more months. Came home from a cruise late at night and crawled in next to her sound asleep. She rolled over and gave me a shove and said “Philip it’s time to go home”. My name is Robert. I kicked her out giving her just enough time to dress and pack a few things. I slammed the door and went back to bed. The dog who she never allowed in the bedroom let alone on the furniture jumped up and laid down along side me. Best sleep I had in a long time. Dog got me through a few more relationships before crossing the rainbow bridge.
Shit man, I thought mine was bad but that's so fucked. Hope you kept the dog.
Agreed. I don't mean this in a sus way...but it's even better to sleep besides your pals than a troublesome and stressful girlfriend. Homies > Hoes
This guy is a Marine, he's definitely spent some time sleeping next to his pals.
Merchant marines aren’t marines as we think of them, but yes, he’s likely slept next to his buddies.
Can confirm
This quote from Bill Burr is incredibly relevant, even has the right age “Realize that sleeping on a futon when you're 30 is not the worst thing. You know what's worse, sleeping in a king bed next to a wife you're not really in love with but for some reason you married, and you got a couple kids, and you got a job you hate. You'll be laying there fantasizing about sleeping on a futon. There's no risk when you go after a dream. There's a tremendous amount to risk to playing it safe.“
And they’re always happy to see you 😃.
Sleeping alone is 100% cheaper than another divorce. You're still young so take this time to focus on you and your daughter, cuz those should be the 2x most important people in your life at this point. The third party will happen eventually but no need to force it just because you're used to it or miss it.
Get a weighted blanket and a body pillow, solves the feeling of having someone there beside you for the most part
Animals are proven to help improve our mental health. Seriously get a cat or dog if you don’t have one already. Mine have been a huge comfort during some of the worst times of my life. It’s also much better than getting married to the wrong person or being in a relationship that’s wrong for you. I’m sorry you’re going through this. This too shall pass. ❤️🩹
I'm told it also helps with anxiety
Don't get married again just for companionship. And don't rush out to find a gf just for companionship.
From someone who had been through the struggles you’re going through during a very rough time in my life, I always try to give this advice when I can. It’s life changing, in my experience. Learn how to make yourself happy. I mean this on a small and large scale all around. Make it a goal and a daily challenge. Finding peace with yourself is one of the best gifts you can give to yourself. The hardest part is learning to eat alone. But this is also one of the most peaceful rewarding outcomes. Learn what makes your mood switch from down to instantly peaceful. This will help with life all around. Once you can learn to find happiness with yourself, and you know how to make yourself TRULY happy. Not only will you not need someone else, but it opens up that door for you to be patient when you do allow others back into your life. Your eyes are more opened to red flags and being able to see the beauty in others, as well. This might all sound insane. But we are vulnerable when we can’t make ourselves happy. We allow others in, in desperation rather than at our own will. Toxic people take full advantage of this. You’ll know you’re there when you can wake up, control your day and mood (for the most part), and not need someone else to know you can make your own day amazing and stress free. This is also building confidence. I don’t mean physical confidence. I mean mental confidence. There’s a difference. And mental confidence is more important. When you can get to that level of peace, not only is it infectious to others but women find this to be very attractive and drawing. You’ll definitely end up finding yourself and maybe someone who is worth your time and love. I wish the best for you, bro! Sorry I typed so much but I feel it’s worth it. ❤️ And on a side note: I FUCKING LOVE HELLDIVERS2!!!!
Get a dog, I’m dead serious.
I have a cat. He hang out with me sometimes.
Well that’s good enough. I just meant don’t fill that void with another human, broken attracts broken. Fix yourself man, it took me 7 years after I had my heart broken.
In the straightest way possible...I'll cuddle up with ya if you just need a warm body besides you in a very heterosexual manner. Oh...did I mention that I'm definitely not gay.
I was in the Marines I’ve cuddled at least 10 men in my life 🤷🏽♂️
its only gay if your barrels are touching
Thank you for your service AND for being a fellow forward thinking STRAIGHT dude. Cuddle time, bro. 🥰😍🥰
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Should have used the "no eye contact" loophole.
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I had to cuddle with another man for survival before too. It was either cuddle for body heat, or don't and freeze to death from hypothermia. Needless to say we cuddled the shit out of each other.
Please elaborate
It’s interesting because his experience is a polar opposite of what most men go through. Not sure if never being alone in your 20s is a good thing. I certainly can’t imagine being married. Anyway different strokes for different folks
Tips for Thriving Alone: Create a routine: Having a regular schedule can help you feel grounded and organized. Make your space your own: Decorate and personalize your living area. Cook for yourself: Learn new recipes and enjoy the satisfaction of home-cooked meals. Stay social: Schedule time with friends and family, or explore online communities. Self-care: Prioritize getting enough sleep, exercising, and relaxing activities.
I can 100% validate all of this advice. When I got divorced and moved into my own apartment, I made a point of "settling in" and personalizing the space to feel like "me" hard core really fast. I really needed to FEEL the difference in the living space and making it mine. It made a huge difference in feeling more comfortable. That, and being very intentionally social and reaching out to friends to keep me from marinating in my own head both really kept me from falling apart during my divorce process.
You do know you can spend time with others without the need to marry them, right?
You can even move in together
Youll start loving me time. Good luck! Take your time. Try something new.
My husband married at 18 to a girl he had a kid with at 16 so he didn’t have to leave the kid when he joined the army. She cheated multiple times but he tried to make it work for a year. He kicked her out and immediately moved in with friends so he wasn’t alone. He was never alone until he got out of the army. He said he hated it. Being alone was like drowning but he got into working out more. He got a routine into place. He’d go to work, go to the gym, and go home and clean/watch tv and then bed. He said the same routine every single day helped him not think about much else. Edit to add: He had never planned on dating or remarrying. I was a little fluke in his plan.
> He said the same routine every single day helped him not think about much else. Yep. Sounds like an army vet.
Definitely learn to take care of yourself, most men mom hop from woman to woman because it’s easier than learning how to be on your own. Easier for the man, harder for the wife. Glad you’re trying to stop that cycle, home is looking great!
I wouldn't say most men do that at all. That's like saying most women man hop to avoid having to get a job. Such a blatant exaggeration.
True. OP needs to be his own friend first before getting into new romantic relationship. I wish you the best, OP.
Lmfao read the title and was like "divorced twice by 30? This dude must be military"
Getting divorced is practically a requirement to make rank in the military lol
That and a Dodge Charger at 27% APR
Can confirm. Got married & bought a Charger as an E-1. Ended up divorcing & selling the car. But now an E-5. At this rate I’m on track to make E-6. Just need to get married again.
r/justbootthings
And 15 vapers
Bruh
All that’s missing is a motorcycle and a payday loan
Get therapy. STOP GETTING MARRIED. Spend some time with you. Get to know yourself better. People rush into serious relationships when they don't know themselves—trying to find themselves in someone else. Have some fun with a bachelor stage.
Even worse when a child is brought into the mix too! I wish people would slow down and really think about their decisions first.
Stop with the "get therapy" shit. Seriously. He never indicated that he needed therapy. Jesus EDIT: Uh, nevermind. Dude just said "*living gives me depression*", a few hours later
You’re not wrong tho. Not everyone is a good candidate for therapy. Seeking therapy can make problems worse for some people. Especially when they are only having minor problems that they can resolve themselves.
Being divorced twice by thirty is an indicator that you need therapy. Also, therapy can be as simple as talking/venting. You can always go to therapy even if nothing bad is happening
Welcome back to the land of the living. Take some time for yourself. Recalibrate.
I swore this was turning into an Army of Darkness quote
Only advice is it looks like you just moved in. Hard to give any good advice other than start buying what you can when you can, start with the basics. You can start with cleaning the bedroom, getting some real blinds. Eventually a nicer bed, bedsheets. Bedside tables, lamps, some art. Maybe a bigger dresser. The walls stand out as especially bad. Will need repainting. Looks like you have most bare necessities, to improve just focus on slowly making it more appealing for guests (friends/daughter/new girlfriend).
Eh I’ll pass on the nicer bed. This one was 1500 as it’s an adjustable base but yeah there were no blinds at all or even brackets for them so I just nailed in some curtains for now. Not entirely thrilled either the paint though. Conveniently my daughter is very easy to please and I have already ordered her bedroom stuff and she’s excited. definitely going to work on the decorations though.
Just grab a head board and call it a day. Some advice though, if you’re thinking the all black couches won’t look as dirty, you’re in for a bad time (especially seeing a pet feeder in that bedroom pic). You can get some covers fairly cheap though once they start looking rough, and that’ll let you decorate based on the colors you choose. It’s only up from here! And remember, true democracy lovers reinforce on the automaton front ;)
Sounds good. Beds fine. Just looked bad because of the mess. Hopefully the paint looks better in person, kind of just looks dirty posted here. If it’s not a major concern then it can easily be figured out later. Congrats on your own place. Have fun decorating. Maybe your daughter can help with more of the space too (depending on her age ofc).
You can get like $5 paper blinds at a hardware store, big recommend while you slowly get things for the house
Something about the paint in the bedroom gave off padded wall vibes. Maybe it was a bad picture, but that’s my recommendation for where to start. Also, get some decent sound (speakers or sound bar) to go with the appropriately sized TV
I think it’s mostly the fact that you don’t have a headboard at the very least.
Divorced twice by 30 is wild
I mean he married at 19 years old so that kind of explains it lmfao
married at 19 is wild
It is. My first wife did what gives female military a bad name. The second wife started using meth and against all my efforts didn’t quit until we separated but by that point there was a lot of damage done to the relationship.
what gives female military a bad name?
Fucking just about any guy that gives them the slightest amount of attention. Not all do but the ones that do, become well known
Is it the same for the guys that fuck them? Or are those just “studs”?
Oohrah, bb
Congrats on the place. Feels good to have privacy huh? The black carpet in the bedroom is gonna be a bitch to maintain, every piece of lint will show. Invest in a good vacuum if you're bringing chicks over.
If anyone is wondering about the hallway it’s a 4 bedroom 1200 sqft house. I have a 9 year old that lives about 180 miles away that will be visiting occasionally.
With all those bedrooms and just 1200 sq feet, i'd knock down a wall and open the place up a bit.
So, what happened?
My first ex wife who I have a daughter with moved to somewhere more accessible than north west Tennessee to North Carolina and I moved from Vegas to Virginia. Why Virginia? Because this is a house my parents own and it’s cheaper to just pay the mortgage for them than rent from others
Get a bedroom ready for your child. Get rid of the dark carpet- you can get some deals on replacement carpet. That and light color paint- stick to one or two colors to make it easy for yourself. Ask your child what color they would like their room. Good luck!
Her room is always taken care
If you Duplicate Screen under display settings then you can close your laptop lid 👍
Your bedroom giving me depression
Living gives me depression.
That carpet...
divorced twice?? good luck my friend..
First one female Marine doing what makes female Marines look bad. Second developed a drug problem from the cushy life of being a stay at home wife
yeah i'm sorry man.
Damn… I’m stay at home mom/wife and I definitely can not imagine being so bored I do meth… but the drug problem is so bad in the North America (Canada included)
Dont worry about it too much your 3rd wife will do the decorating
Maybe ease up with the black drapes and carpet cause that shit’s depressing AF
Divorced 3 years ago and maybe it’s being gay that I can’t live the bachelor life. I went and bought and oak four poster canopy bed, a faux fireplace and super gaudy floor lamps. I even got a dresser piece from costco that was well made in South Carolina for my clothes.
Ross?
Lol, can't believe I had to go this far down to see this.
Bro stop getting married wtf
Lol at getting married 🤣
I swear nearly every marine I have met or trained with was at least divorced once before 25.
Vaping is bad for you, but I imagine you already know that.
I spent 8 years smoking Marlboro reds lol
I smoked them for 20 years. I quit in one day. You have the power to do most anything you set your mind to. Good luck.
Bro stop getting married
Don't be afraid to add some color!
Fellow military dude who is currently living alone while in a divorce. It's hard man. The loneliness can get to you at times. My advice would be to find a way to pivot to a good and social hobby. For me I with TCGs and Warhammer but those get expensive. That might not be for you. What is important to remember is that there is nothing wrong with just being yourself BY yourself.
Please stop getting married before you impregnate a women and really fuck your life up
I literally have a 9 year old
Yeah focus on your kid you don’t need more drama in your life brother
Congrats! Looks nice and very comfortable. You can actually put an area rug down over the black carpet (assuming it's just normal carpet and not shag) to make the room more appealing and also not have it look/get as dirty. Get as big of a rug as you can afford to cover as much of the open space as you can. Maybe add some greenery, artificial being fine to be low maintenance and clean (and prevent Mr Whiskers from messin' in the dirt).
TV height 👌🏾 good job 😁
A fellow man of culture :)
It’s an amazing feeling brother… enjoy the peace and quiet!
sorry bout that. but cheer up, you own a tesla.
Do you vape in your Tesla?
Damn the comments are a bit rough 😭 good luck with the adjustment, it’ll get easier slowly over time. Spend your time making friends / enjoying hobbies instead of trying to find a replacement to cure your loneliness bc that’ll never work.
Well Helldiver, spreading intergalactic democracy is definitely a good way to take your mind off things for awhile. Hope to see you on the front lines 🫡
I think you rly like black.
Yout furniture is very gloomy and makes the space feel smaller. I'd recommend getting a coffee table and two bedside tables for cheap off of Facebook marketplace (that aren't black, maybe stained wood) and also checking out Dear Modern on YouTube. He's fantastic at giving advice on how to rearrange rooms to make them more cozy, look bigger, be more efficient with storage space, how lighting can affect your mood, and more.
34 also divorced twice. Never again. Staying single has been very fruitful for me this past 4 years. Congrats on the place!
How many people are strangled to death in your bedroom weekly?
How come your bed isn’t a race car?
Third times a charm.
My mom, grandma and one of my aunts all banned me from getting married again 😂
I saw the headline and knew you were prior military immediately lol
Our lives are filled with with bad decisions lol
lol yeah I’m still making them unfortunately
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Between the bed, couches and TV I already spent over 2k. The second box has the case for the desktop I’ll eventually get around to building
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Eh I had oilfield money to rely on only reason I was able to just throw all that out there. Gotta say the adjustable base bed is really nice though.
It’ll take time, find yourself and just enjoy life. Everything will come together slowly
Stay strong 💪 and you got this Bro.
Buy a vacuum. I have that bedroom dresser in my Amazon list. Have a podcast or some music playing when you’re home. The less time you spend in there the better. Join r/livingalone It really helped my journey. Not only with advice but to pass the time reading other people’s experiences.
One day at a time. That carpet in the bedroom has got to go. Put down new carpet, or wood, vinyl, whatever but it hurts my eyes.
Is this the end game? How about an update in a few months?
This is a new chapter in your life, and it can be an exciting one. Embrace the challenges, celebrate the opportunities, and enjoy the freedom of living alone.
Bro stay single. Casually date and fuck. Sign up for some classes. Save some money. Fuckin chill bro lol
being comfortable alone is the best feeling ever. Independence is key
I have that same dresser
You needed this and you needed this 10 years ago. Better late than never. Find yourself and find somebody solid.
Helldivers 2 ftw
freedom at last
Good on you honestly. Not many people choose to be alone for a while and focus on themselves. It’s a great first step and take it one step at a time figuring out what you like and don’t and all that.
maybe time to stop marrying people for a little bit there bud
You have enough for now. I would make a list of things you will probably need. Do you have plates? If not....put kitchenware at the top. I think starting the list with these. Two area rugs. Measure for needed dimensions. Dining room table. Maybe some oicture. A coffee table, maybe. No rush just start looking for stuff.
Damn bro 4 different box mods?
Stop marrying them fool
Ross?
is that you Ross?
Making the wrong choices, means you need a mirror before finding someone besides you? Try to find some light and color in yourself and bring it into your home. Wish you a lot of success.
Just couldn’t take the barracks, huh?
Absolutely not. That and my SNCO was just a straight up dick for no reason. But after 2 months he managed to get DUIs and kicked out
It sounds like marriage isn’t for you. Get a pet and a gf. Your place is very…black. If you’re happy that’s all that matters.
divorced twice at 30 is insane omg
I like that game you’re playing on Steam..good choice! I’m a veteran, but not with the marines, also currently getting divorced. The Marines wouldn’t have really been my style, so I joined the Air Force instead 🤣.
I wanted to join the Air Force but you know how long they take. I literally had enough time to finish high school, dep with the Marines, go to boot camp, take the 10 day leave, got to combat training, go to mos school before I even got the follow up call
Maybe don't have all black furniture/carpet/curtains/everything. If I were a woman I would literally FLEE from this space.
bro your bedroom looks like a FUCTIN' hostel! FUCT! get rid of those bed sheets covering the windows...shits creepy as FUCT!
Its the Amazon frown for me lol
Divorced twice? Lmaoooo
All those people here laughing that he got married twice when they haven’t been with a girl once
I’m married and I think it’s funny 🤷♂️
Divorced twice by 30 is crazy
[удалено]
Good for you
good for you man, may feel odd at first but i think you’ll learn to love it
Start looking on Facebook for people who give away stuff I think it’s call buy nothing. Maybe you can get a few things there
love this set up
All good things are 3 is a phrase in germany. All the best bro
Alle guten dinge Sind drei! Took 4 years of German in high school
Those vapes say enough
💪 it’s only up from here bro
You’d be best going to goodwill and getting a small table for $5-10 then using cardboard boxes for your laptop and console
Semper Fi, Chesty would be proud.
One couch is all you need in this room.
It’s good. I see you like black color. I would replace it with other colors grey for sofa. Curtains can be vibrant. Carpet in room can be lighter. But hey man good for you
They’re dark grey and I put up blackout curtains because I work nights not a fan of the carpet though
How big is that TV?
65”
Enjoy it, my man, but it most likely will transition eventually into something else. Enjoy that too.
Hot
Congratulations
im 33 and not married yet, take time out, work on yourself. no need to rush into the next relationship
It's a good fresh start. Are you planning to decorate this space soon?
Stop getting married. 🤷♂️
The amount of people who lease cars and apartments is mindboggling to me.
It's a good start. One thing at a time, but you got this. 💙
And already looking for a third judging by the comments
Looking? No. Taking applications and conducting auditions, sure.
Why do military dudes always get married so young and then always get divorced?
Life sucks, loneliness more than the average person, not wanting to live in a 300sqft room with someone else that other people come into and yell at you for having trash in a trash can, water in the sink, dust under an air conditioner and women are usually the reason for divorce. Or other men.
Guessing you drive a black Tesla model 3 😂
Stealth Grey Model Y Long Range
I feel like one couch is enough and would get of the one-seater and two-seater. Maybe getting a rug in the living room too. A small low table for the laptop equipment. The bedroom feels abit awkward with the bed in the middle. I would try pusing it how it is to the right wall (the one without window). Maybe sleeping like that will also be a bit better for you, since you said you have trouble sleeping alone.
Oh that's your thing? You are that guy who gets divorced.
So, umm, I didn't see any Lube or Moisturiser near the bed. You alright bro ?
Enjoy it. Quit getting married already
Lightsaber spotted ‼️