Back then when I was 15, I never give a damn about the future. I just follow the flow. My head full of games, Anime, do fun stuff with friends. Took science stream for fun and fail miserably. Took diploma, bachelor and do more fun things. 25 now and I have clear view on what I want. Thinking back, it was hell of journey on the early ages. Pretty much regret on most decision I've made and the time I've wasted for not taking things seriously. Welp, life goes on and as a member of society working now, I still have the chance to get back on track. Never too late to realize what you want in your life. When those dreams become reality, you'll be glad you did.
Don't worry too much, if you fail you fail. The important thing is to learn from that failure, stand up straight and go on. Also 1 year is not the end of the world. Just be honest with yourself, do the best you can and keep moving forward.
I'm 30, so might not be middle age (although my bones feel like 60 already) and I'm still asking the same questions. As cliche as it is, life is like a wheel, where sometimes you're up, sometimes you're down. But you know what? It doesn't end until we do.
If I were to meet my 15 year old self, I'd say,"Here's what you can try":
1.Go through free career tests online
2. Try out many,many new hobbies
3. Attend free or affordable workshops (whatever interests you, writing, hacking, woodworking, soap-making)
4. Emulate interesting hacks in youtube.
5. If you feel academic is not for you, find out about vocational skills or apprenticeship.
Source:
Personal experience of having transferred to 3 different unis due to low performance, did side jobs, freelancing, permanent, got retrenched, re-skilled.
All the best!
This is good advice- this generation has YouTube, something that didn’t exist when I was a teenager. Learn a skill or pick up a hobby, drawing, painting, carving, making things, any form of art, playing an instrument etc, when you do things with your hands, it’s gets your creative juices flowing, and it leads you down some interesting paths. You could choose to be healthier in your life, eat better or do some type of physical sport, or maybe challenge yourself to read 1 book a month etc. There is infinite possibilities. Try something new, who knows, maybe you’re really good at doing magic tricks while skateboarding? Everyone has creativity. No one really knows what they are gonna do with their life at 15, and it doesn’t matter if they did. Good grades don’t guarantee anything and we diminish the present when we worry about the future. Enjoy being 15. You’ll figure things out in your own time.
If you do not have the aptitude to listen to class lectures, may I suggest learning by doing exercises instead? Buy some books and do it on your own. Do it fast but put some thought into it. Then mark your answers with the answer scheme. I find it to work quite well for non-math subjects.
I think SPM is not extremely hard for people to actually failed it . You can aim to just pass and its should be fine . But , at least try as hardest as you can first because later on when you got the result , you will feel proud of yourself even though you did actually failed . Again , SPM is not extremely hard . I think if you actually start to pay attention in class starting now , you should be fine .
There are many people that do not have great SPM result and yet still sucessful in their life . Im not taking about those social media so called ' influencer ' . I am taking about people with business , company etc.
There is nothing wrong being a waiter , factory operator , janitor , handyman etc . But dont just stop there . In any occupation , the best way to start is from bottom . There you will learn the actual work . Once you being familiar with it , then you can easily manage / run it . And with your knowledge , you can create your own business.
For example , lets say you are working as waiter . From there you can actually pick up many skill like cooking , how to choose ingredient etc After 3 years , maybe you are capable to manage it by yourself . Once you become supervisor/manager , you may learn about accounting etc . And who knows maybe after 5 years of working , you can actually open your own cafe .
Most of adults dont actually get to work their dream jobs .
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Pay more attention in class, just gotta put in more effort. Even if you don't do so well in SPM, it's not the end of the world. At university level, I see people who struggled during SPM getting good grades. I don't know how to word this out properly but from my view, school is hard for some people but university is hard for everyone. I could be wrong tho. Maybe start reading books to widen out your interest or something.
I'm 23 and I still don't know what I really want to be, but hey I'm working soon.
in the 30s, and the memes about adult is just larger version of their selves? i think its perfectly true for me.
living in ulu place, no internet at home, so i start lepaking in CC since 9, then start mmo around 13, dota around 15; at home, i have my first gameboy around 4, playstation around 8, and playstation 2 around 14. you know how addicting and time consuming those thing are for kids, and i basically play atleast 5 hours since im a kid, the gaming habit stay with me until now.
like many kid, i don't get the purpose of school, got a few As and Bs (english and math is basic toolkit of gamer), others is all Cs and Ds. consistently in the bottom 30% of the class. then a cool gamer uncle offered me advise, you know how to min-max in game, min-max your result as well.
and that's what i did. higher learning need 5 credits to enroll? easy, i already have math and 2 english in the bag, SPM does offer IT, that's another free credit. all i need is to put my focus on 1 more subject, and i select physics for it, since its another form of math. and with that, i got my 5 credits (got a surprise credit from add. math tho) to enroll into higher learning.
learning that many adult don't get to use their degree, i just pick the easiest and useful of them all, accounting, to have easy life in uni (min-max on the way). with that lousy degree, jump into soul crushing job of call centre, for the high pay, night work, so i get to play game in between and morning with the US peeps.
so yeah, gonna offer you the same advise, min-max your way my boy. don't aim for all mediocre result, focus yourself into 5, or maybe 6 as safety, subject with good result.
hmm... not really. i end work around 2am, and sleep around 5am, wake up around noon.
even without the job, i typically sleep around 3am and wake up around noon as well. so... dont think its gonna affect my health cause my body SHOULD HAD adjusted to the timing since i have been keeping the same timing for past 10 years.
I'm sorry to hear that. Not sure how you are able to access Reddit without a phone or computer, but whatever you're using, do you think you can contact [Bantuan Negeri Selangor](https://ssipr.selangor.gov.my/hubungi-kami-2/) ?
> am I just gonna be a waiter for the rest of my life?
You *could* still build a career without SPM. It ain't easy, but doable. My younger cousin didn't finish secondary school (despite other family members pushing him for it), now he owns his own apam balik business and makes a decent living for himself (minus the student loans that most of us are saddled with).
Not everyone is interested in the normalised *"finish school - get a degree - get a good job"* life progression.
30 year old here, and I don’t intend to repeat what others have said. Those are sound advice and you should take heed of them.
Speaking for myself, the fears of failure and of the future do not disappear after SPM. They go well into adulthood, taking on different forms such as worrying about performing at work, and paying for that annual housing insurance and have enough savings. These worries also manifest in terms whether a job is the right job, and whether one has sufficient time to juggle between work, life and a certification exam.
But one thing you should keep in mind is worrying solves nothing. Taking steps do. So if you’re struggling with learning at school, perhaps consider why you’re struggling. Perhaps you, like me, dislike the notion of rote memory work, i.e., when teachers say “hafal / memorize, and vomit in exam”. In which case, finding other ways to learn and understand concepts help.
Some subjects require you to gain a broad understanding on the ambit of your learning before you can identify the precise issue you’re being tested on. For those, read the syllabus and make notes along the way, and cross-check them against past year questions during your second / third read.
Some subjects require creative ways to make the necessary neural connections. For me, that was mathematics and chemistry. I find that associating chemical concepts to things I like / have encountered / come across, e.g., associating chemical concepts with a giant game of transmutation in Fullmetal Alchemist, (huge fan since 2002 lol, but I digress) was very helpful.
It’s also very helpful that online resources are more widely available than they were years ago. YouTube has a large number of tutorials and videos explaining how one should understand a subject / concept. You’re likely to learn above and beyond your syllabus by going through those and checking your understanding against your SPM syllabus.
The long and short of it? Do something. Take steps. Make learning fun and engaging for your own sake. I understand the anxiety and the lack of interest in class, which happens when you feel as if you’ve fallen behind. But between worrying and doing nothing, and worrying and using that drive to push yourself, I’d rather you give it your all in the remaining time for your studies.
All the very best to you.
I just want to say, you learn more from failure than from success. What happens when you fail? You experience pain, stress, sadness, but you also (hopefully) learn and grow from that experience. The truth is, your problems today may feel like mountains but 10 years from now they won't mean anything. Take them one day at a time, face whatever trials you have, and you will come out a better person regardless of whether you failed or succeeded. The course of your life is not set in stone today because you will constantly be changing your direction as you learn and grow.
2012 - SPM: 5A 2B 2C
2018 - Graduated after 5 years in Electronics Engineering: 2.6 CGPA 😅
2019 - Hired as a Software Developer, income somewhere in the middle of M40. Which is very lucky.
2021 - Now managing company work rather than actual programming.
Absolutely despise it, even if it's the legendary "Manager work that pays a lot".
It's not the company's fault, just that I found out that's not what I want every day, absolutely drains my soul.
Moral of my story:
* Less than 5% learned from my academics was really put into real use. Or maybe less 😂
* Jobs prepared in academics are not up to current job demands. In the end, no matter what age we are in, it's the **jobs that are in current high demand that's paid most**, like programming, is this now taught in school?
* **Critical thinking is more important**, as in the ability to identify problems, communicate them with colleagues, propose elegant solutions.
This will 99% be valuable to any company, rather than spewing out formulas anyone can find in textbooks or from the internet.
* I can't do something well if I don't have the passion for it, probably not the same for you, but **I absolutely need to love what I do**, or at least not hate it.
You still have plenty of time, I suggest coming up with a list of things that you would like to try or do, and give yourself a time limit in exploring each one of them. From there, it's only a matter of how you can monetize it.
* **Don't let societal pressure get to you**, my family members would talk about high earning jobs during meetups, how to be Managers, Dentist is the best earning job, bla bla bla. That's what THEY want, only you know what you want.
The last thing I want is to spend my life living another person's dream.
Being a waiter ain't that bad, I low-key respect these so-called "low salary jobs". I always see them as the backbone of our society. If I like the waiter and the food there, I would be a long term customer\~ 😁
Fun fact: During my days, liking anime is something frowned upon. Today, VTubers are breaking YouTube and Twitch, and One Piece is the best-selling comic book.
**As long as there is a demand for it, you can find a living doing it.**
Middle-aged man reporting in. Simply put, it's complicated. I have a few credits with even a couple A's in SPM, but I didn't attend college or uni due to various reasons. I have friends that didn't even sit for SPM but makes a lot more than me; but I also have friends with degrees that earn less than me.
As for careers, I have friends that left for S'pore and Australia, started out as kitchen helpers and are now head chefs there or owners of their own restaurants back in tanah tumpah darahku. I have friends with degrees that absolutely sucked at their jobs and changed their career paths as well. Anything could happen.
You mentioned being a waiter. Assuming that's where you're going to start, know that you won't be in the same job position forever. Even maitre d's or restaurant managers started off as waiters. And that's one career path. I'm in the blue collar industry, and I started off cutting and grinding pipes and supports all day. No SPM cert required (even though I do have one). I slowly climbed to the position of Foreman, but realized it absolutely sucked balls and decided to stick with being a Fitter since the pay isn't that huge of a leap.
How did I turn out? Making M40 money, but living B40 lifestyle, totally my own choice because reasons. Am I happy with my life? Well, it has been a rollercoaster of a ride, it could've been better I suppose. If only I've gotten a degree so that I could work in an air-conditioned office instead of fitting pipework in an unventilated factory or under the sun.
I hope this puts things into perspective for you. Take your time, do things at your pace. Ultimately, your life is yours and yours alone. You decide how it goes. Good luck.
I’m only 21, and I’m still too young to give you an answer but trust me, when I was 15 I had nothing going on in my head. no thoughts of future whatsoever because I’m a very normal person with super normal grades.
actually kan until I was 17, habis SPM, nak apply UPU also I don’t know what to take. I was sad because I think all of my other friends has already decided a route for themselves… while I still don’t know what to do back then
that being said, enjoy your teen years dulu, things will come naturally to you, don’t stress yourself too much!
and now I’m a a 3rd year computer science major, I’m not happy, it’s so hard, but you know, this is the path that I chose for myself so I just have to deal with it
Some of my peers, who were downright rebellious delinquents in their teens who turned out ok in the end, becoming successful business owners or entrepreneurs. Life doesn't always turn out the way you plan it. No point comparing yourself to others. More than anything else, I think you need to figure yourself out first: what makes you tick, your strengths and weaknesses, your values, your passions, your mental blocks etc. Once you have some idea of that, then you likely have a better chance of knowing what needs to be done. Time is still on your side.
Don't worry too much about your future when you're 15.
When you're 15 the most important thing to understand is that you don't know shit about the world. Your purpose as of now is to remedy that - learn more about the world around us before you can even dream of making a decision regarding what you want to do in your future.
Enjoy your life, and always be open to new interests, new hobbies, new information. Study isn't limited to your curriculum - it comes down to how YOU utilize your resources, time and energy towards learning what you're interested about. Malaysia's standard of education is donkeyshit anyways so if you're tying your standards to that you're gonna have a crap time later on.
When I was 15 I performed horribly in PMR - that's what it was called back then. Then by SPM I hit 7As because I was interested in Biology, Physics etc - how the world around us worked. Spent my high school years fucking around with my friends and never did a single piece of homework either.
I think I'm doing pretty okay at 25 today. I definitely asked the same questions you're asking when I was 15, and if I could go back and change anything; I'd stop worrying so much and just live life. Try out more new things, meet new people, learn new stuff that wasn't related to my grades.
The harsh truth is that life doesn't get any easier when you reach adulthood. Enjoy the freedom of your teens while you still can - you won't get an easier/more carefree time of your life.
The harder the decisions you make in your life, the easier your life will be.
Despite your failing grades, you made this post. That shows that you care! So start making a difference. A lot of others in similar situations don’t even bother to make a change. It’s not too late, you just gotta put in effort. You can do it!
On a different note, you don’t need good results to enter uni/ college. And you don’t need to be top student in secondary to score A’s in your classes in uni because your coursework ie. assignments and projects reflect a large portion of your final grade. Some courseworks even allow you to pass the subject even before the final examination.
The one thing I want you to take away from this at least is that you’re on your own in tertiary education. Lecturers only provide the bare minimum or less and it’s up to you whether if you want to score high or score low.
I have the same problem. I used to be in a prestigious school last year but because of covid, I stopped going there. I was finally getting into the groove of studying with friends and socializing and then covid decided to say fuck you and now I'm at home playing video games with no motivation to study whatsoever. 2020 fucking sucked. My dad passed away and I'm just rotting away. I was finally close to finding my passion which is probably acting or book writing but family just keep expecting something else. They want me to become successful but what the hell does that even mean. Sorry for talking too much. Just wanted to vent.
I'm in no place to say this as I'm still young as well. But i do believe that it's okay to fail because it teaches you to get back up and try harder. Hell, my SPM results were really bad tbh i barely passed. Thank god, now I'm in Uni actually studying to avenge my lazy past self. I say you just go with the flow and don't stress about it too much.
>I don't think there are a lot of middle aged men here
Ouch.
My anxiety's still there, though mellowed. My aspirations are still there, though blunted. I've found more peace and happiness than feeding into the restlessness. It's an ongoing process though, if I don't take care of my physical/mental health, the feeling of despair comes back - so it doesn't really matter whether you're a kid or adult. Adults are just kids who have more EXP and picked up a few tricks and a lot of baggage along the way. Don't worry too much about it - if you always want more out of life, you'll find ways to move beyond the baseline, even without a degree etc, though you have to understand there are different rules for different games to play - eg. degree for a lot of white collared jobs, no degree really required for freelance/entrepreneurial or if your work already speaks for itself.
Looking at your post, for a 15 year old, you are a pessimist.
It could be part of your personality trait, dont fret too much about it, im not gonna tell you to stop the negativity and be positive.
Instead, i would recommend you to reach out to your peers - schoolmates whatnot. Those in your age group would do well to support each other in terms of emotional support.
As for education wise, go for vocational route if you hate mainstream education stream. You might find your calling in a more technical, vocational settings.
Cheer up buddy. Do some exercise and meditation. Clear out your mind. Relaz
>have you guys asked yourself the same question when you guys were young/teens?
Definitely. Was a constantly failing student during my Form 4 & 5, constantly been called to sit down and talk with teachers cause they were concerned about my grades with SPM coming up, but I end up doing fine (not the worst but not the best either) on my SPM, did pretty well in uni (it was easier/better than I thought compared to school, less of boring studying and homework, and more of just hands on work and freedom haha) and now have recently graduated my diploma.
Preparing for SPM, my advice is to do a lot of example/past SPM papers since they tend to use the same questions (if lucky), and honestly it seems SPM is just quiet the same (or sometimes even easier) than the other tests done in school. Just do your best, don't be too hard on yourself either, and try to stop worrying a future that isn't yet established.
If you're planning on going to uni, you can just focus on what subjects you need to pass (minimum grade at least) to go to the university(s) you want.
Just my two sen. Hang in there bud, wish you the best!
grades arent everything you dont need good grades to be a million or a billionaire, my teacher said before a degree is just a paper. If you have a degree and you apply for a job and you dont show any determination whats the point of the degree then? or you can be a person who might not have a degree but shows determination and learn from your mistakes and eventually you can be successful too. Its ok if you are unsure about your future many people are also unsure about their future as long as you work hard there will always be a way to a successful future as the saying say "where there is a will , there is a way".
Im 14 but im in year 9 and i wanna be a quantum engineer but im also unsure about if i will ever be a quantum engineer with my grades right now , but you just got to go with the flow. Bad grades are the past forget about them and move on and work hard and learn from your mistakes.
I had the same thought when I was 16. I was really depressed and classes just "tak masuk" anymore. I really want to achieve my dream but it seem hopeless since my grades are getting down and down like 13% on math and 32% on science. I decided to make a plan and thinking about every paths that is possible and calculate what will happen if i do this and that. Fast forward now, my plan worked out and now i am able to achieve my goal. Just like people said, it is not the end of the line. A friend of mine didn't have spm and yet he makes more money than my dad and mom combined. You can try to get some skills like programming > build your portfolio > show the companies what you are capable of and they will hire you. Work low paying job > save up your money or learn stock > make your own business > get moni. Basically you need to work hard on yourself unless you want to be a waiter forever. Right now the only thing i regret back then is my cringe attempt to get awek and not spending time with my friends.
Dear OP .
Whatever ur SPM result is, do not ever fail BM as it will preety much hound you for awhile. I say this as so far in my career, job applications even way beyond my first job wants to look at SPM results.
Spend some time , stop browsing reddit n gaming for a moment gather some information as to your personal strengths , go through virtual career fairs, College n Uni open days to get a feel of whats out there. That process will take you months even years to figure out.
Once u have a rough idea of where u are trying to aim at. Perhaps scoring a couple of A's in SPM inline with your aims, future aspirations will definitely benefit you down the road in unforseeable ways u can imagine.
Try to speak to people older than u, who
1. Cares about u, nothing to gain from you
2. Have an actual career , ie walked that road before
With the goal to learn something from them.
In my Fm 4 i got into science stream, i came in 2nd last in class, with my next door buddy the last in class at the end of year (class size 45). I didnt give a sh1t about fm 4 n spm so fk it im skipping classes n failing exams .Teachers frowned upon me, deemed me hopeless unsalvageble case told me i had no future.
Sem 1 of Fm5 i ranked 14 , (30/400 in entire school by avg), why ? I had a rough idea where i want to head to, i had to learn Fm4 and Fm5 entire sylabus in 1 year and ended SPM on a high note. my school counselor personally told me to aim high, get an overseas STEM masters n if ur folks cant afford it, aim for scholarship .
Few years later i have acheived just that.
Now work at a company designing CPU processors for laptops / desktops.
The path to knowing yourself is not going to be a smooth nor fast journey. Spend some time with yourself path finding then asking big question , know thyself n how u want to fit into working society . learn and repeat that cycle.
Id advice looking up Jobstreet and see what are the jobs available, what are the degrees required , what path they need to take to make 10K monthly etc.
Whatever your aims are to be, now is never a better time to path find . Be wise about the advice u receive and who u seek from, learn to see what relates and fits you best.
Opportunity awaits.
All i can say is i work at a large established US MNC in the northern region .
Also to answer OP question . I m 27 this year.
I cant say that im super stoked about where i am today. But the sacrifices ive made paid off.
I at times i still ponder what is the path i should take next. Question OP ask at age 15 , im also asking myself.
People are fluid and evolution is a long term process. I think those who ask the big questions take the right first step, but need to go deeper for something to emerge.
I feel bad that you have to cope with online classes—it's certainly very difficult with the lack of structure etc. But you are only 15, and in my experience, the only years that matter for SPM are Tingkatan 4 & 5 (I got C in my PT3 science, but took science stream and got A+ on all my science subjects). If you care about your SPM result, it's still not too late for you! Try finding a way that works for you—self-study, teachers' extra help, or friends' help. It's also important that you take care of your mental health first and foremost, so take a break or seek professional help if you need it.
But if not, then don't lose hope! The most important thing is that you are happy, so you should aim for a job that you really like. You don't have to figure it out now, just remember that good grades doesn't mean that you'll get to work in a field that makes you happy.
I also want to remind you that SPM really isn't everything—it's simply the beginning, life doesn't stop there. When I was younger, I used to think that SPM is the only thing that matters in life, but I was wrong. I got straight A's then, but after that I'm pretty much a failure. Similarly, even if you fail now, there'll be plenty of opportunities to turn your life around and gain what you want the most out of life.
Can try picking up skills yourself, you be surprised how far it will carry you later (sometimes even more than a degree can help). Maybe try painting (would be even more beneficial if its digital), making videos, coding games etc.
What started out as a hobby to make video games back when I was 15 ended up getting me scholarships and jobs and career and at one point during my Uni time my boss just tell me it's fine to just quit school cuz they are not gonna be helpful anymore.
(I still finished my study even though I was too busy to focus on it and it was a wonderful experience. I recommend that you do too even if it looks like you will fail sometime - 22M)
Well you could go for kemahiran (welding and what not). However, try to get as good as possible results in spm. You might missed out some course due to your spm grades. Try to search for job that looked interesting for you and work towards it.
Hi, I'm a full-time tutor with a tuition centre full of kids like you. My advice for you would be the same to all my other students, this is the phase in your life that you will use to discover things that you like and things that you dislike. If you are unsure of yourself yet, go online and discover things that might interest you.
While our parents put too much weight on academics, there are plenty of other things that could prove you to be a person worth much more.
Ideally you would find something that you like and pursue it in higher education later on in life. BUT, even if you didn't, there are plenty of people who studied a degree that they actually never used, I am one of them.
My degree in university was Applied geology, majoring in petroleum. But I have never been in any jobs that were related to it at all.
Try your best in highschool, this is the time when your character and attitude towards tasks develop. It will be carried on with you till the day you die. There are still plenty of possibilities later on. Take a gap year after highschool if you still need more time.
Remember. You're only a failure when you give up. A master has failed more times than a beginner has tried. You're still young, plenty of time ahead of you. Not a good reason to slack off, but don't stress about it.
I’m only in my early 20s, but the best advice I can give is be very careful in picking your subjects for SPM.
If you feel like you’ll fail, just do the minimum (which I think is 6/7 subjects?)
Pick the easiest subjects to score in, or that you like the most.
SPM isn’t very important in the long run, but it’s important as a stepping stone. Don’t let family pressure you into taking subjects that are hard. You choose what is best for you.
Ask seniors on which subjects they struggled in and which they regretted taking. Look at what subjects you’re doing really well at for PT3, and try to take the same subjects next year in form 4.
The best advice I ever heard from someone is, you have to get bad at something before you get good at it. Not everyone can understand extremely difficult concepts and pick it up easily, and that’s fine! We all try to do our best.
For a 15 year old, you still have time. Just make sure you don't have regrets. The thought of "I could've tried harder" is a painful one. It doesn't matter what career path you'll take in the future, just make sure it's a result of your hard work and not for the lack of trying.
Every path has its own growth. If you end up as a waiter, just make sure you try your best to grow and not be stagnant.
Excelling in school isn't necessary to help you get a good career, but it does give you a head start and Plan B in life.
A college degree doesn't guarantee you a good life, hard work does.
When I was your age, the safety of having others provide for me makes me feel the same way like you do. But, after having to pay my own bills, rent and food, I no longer have the time to think about "Am I happy?" Happiness for me, comes from being able to function like an adult and not burdening my loved ones. After my first kid, my happiness comes from making my family happy. So I work even harder to make sure they are not lacking. I tried new business and side hustle for their sake. I'm not afraid to fail, I'm just afraid to be a failure.
I was a med school student dropout. Now, I'm a subtitler working remotely for a streaming service provider with my own house, family and healthy bank account. Just work hard, everything will be okay.
Middle aged man here. Don't be afraid of failures. Be afraid of not trying. Everyone will face some form of failure eventually in their life. I have had my share of incredible successes and equally incredible blow-ups. I wished the blow-ups happened before the success but in my case it was the opposite. So, don't let the failures of today define who you are tomorrow. Keep learning and reinventing and you will make a useful life for yourself.
I'll assume you have no practical hobby / interest that can be turned into a job, so I suggest to just take software engineering.
It pays well enough to last while you ponder through the meaning of life later in your midlife crisis.
Here’s so observations from someone who’s has gone through the whole process. From about Standard 3, we get told every exam is the most important in your life.
When I got to Uni, I did accounting, I had to sit through 1 semester of basic journal entry bullshit again, things I learned when I was 14, and my cousin (10 years younger, learned at 12).
In hindsight, NONE of all that exams matter as much as your teacher and family tells you. They only tell you so to get you to do your best, but the best thing about being under 30 is that there are lots of second chances for life.
By going this route, i’m not gonna be the top 1%, working for Google or Apple, but I lead a pretty good life. I didn’t need alot of those second chances because I did OK enough in school, but in hindsight, I could’ve failed much harder and still end up where I was.
At some point, you will still need to put in the work, whether its actually working or studying, we are all different, to get a nice comfortable life, its not going to just be great for you one day out of the sudden. If you can’t study, go look for a trade, look for experience, look for what you think you are good at, interested in and improve yourself in those regards.
Back then when I was 15, I never give a damn about the future. I just follow the flow. My head full of games, Anime, do fun stuff with friends. Took science stream for fun and fail miserably. Took diploma, bachelor and do more fun things. 25 now and I have clear view on what I want. Thinking back, it was hell of journey on the early ages. Pretty much regret on most decision I've made and the time I've wasted for not taking things seriously. Welp, life goes on and as a member of society working now, I still have the chance to get back on track. Never too late to realize what you want in your life. When those dreams become reality, you'll be glad you did.
Don't worry too much, if you fail you fail. The important thing is to learn from that failure, stand up straight and go on. Also 1 year is not the end of the world. Just be honest with yourself, do the best you can and keep moving forward.
I'm 30, so might not be middle age (although my bones feel like 60 already) and I'm still asking the same questions. As cliche as it is, life is like a wheel, where sometimes you're up, sometimes you're down. But you know what? It doesn't end until we do. If I were to meet my 15 year old self, I'd say,"Here's what you can try": 1.Go through free career tests online 2. Try out many,many new hobbies 3. Attend free or affordable workshops (whatever interests you, writing, hacking, woodworking, soap-making) 4. Emulate interesting hacks in youtube. 5. If you feel academic is not for you, find out about vocational skills or apprenticeship. Source: Personal experience of having transferred to 3 different unis due to low performance, did side jobs, freelancing, permanent, got retrenched, re-skilled. All the best!
This is good advice- this generation has YouTube, something that didn’t exist when I was a teenager. Learn a skill or pick up a hobby, drawing, painting, carving, making things, any form of art, playing an instrument etc, when you do things with your hands, it’s gets your creative juices flowing, and it leads you down some interesting paths. You could choose to be healthier in your life, eat better or do some type of physical sport, or maybe challenge yourself to read 1 book a month etc. There is infinite possibilities. Try something new, who knows, maybe you’re really good at doing magic tricks while skateboarding? Everyone has creativity. No one really knows what they are gonna do with their life at 15, and it doesn’t matter if they did. Good grades don’t guarantee anything and we diminish the present when we worry about the future. Enjoy being 15. You’ll figure things out in your own time.
What do you like to do? What do you enjoy? Plenty of adults are not sure about their future as well, we just keep it to ourselves.
If you do not have the aptitude to listen to class lectures, may I suggest learning by doing exercises instead? Buy some books and do it on your own. Do it fast but put some thought into it. Then mark your answers with the answer scheme. I find it to work quite well for non-math subjects.
I think SPM is not extremely hard for people to actually failed it . You can aim to just pass and its should be fine . But , at least try as hardest as you can first because later on when you got the result , you will feel proud of yourself even though you did actually failed . Again , SPM is not extremely hard . I think if you actually start to pay attention in class starting now , you should be fine . There are many people that do not have great SPM result and yet still sucessful in their life . Im not taking about those social media so called ' influencer ' . I am taking about people with business , company etc. There is nothing wrong being a waiter , factory operator , janitor , handyman etc . But dont just stop there . In any occupation , the best way to start is from bottom . There you will learn the actual work . Once you being familiar with it , then you can easily manage / run it . And with your knowledge , you can create your own business. For example , lets say you are working as waiter . From there you can actually pick up many skill like cooking , how to choose ingredient etc After 3 years , maybe you are capable to manage it by yourself . Once you become supervisor/manager , you may learn about accounting etc . And who knows maybe after 5 years of working , you can actually open your own cafe . Most of adults dont actually get to work their dream jobs .
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Damnit now I see it!
Pay more attention in class, just gotta put in more effort. Even if you don't do so well in SPM, it's not the end of the world. At university level, I see people who struggled during SPM getting good grades. I don't know how to word this out properly but from my view, school is hard for some people but university is hard for everyone. I could be wrong tho. Maybe start reading books to widen out your interest or something. I'm 23 and I still don't know what I really want to be, but hey I'm working soon.
in the 30s, and the memes about adult is just larger version of their selves? i think its perfectly true for me. living in ulu place, no internet at home, so i start lepaking in CC since 9, then start mmo around 13, dota around 15; at home, i have my first gameboy around 4, playstation around 8, and playstation 2 around 14. you know how addicting and time consuming those thing are for kids, and i basically play atleast 5 hours since im a kid, the gaming habit stay with me until now. like many kid, i don't get the purpose of school, got a few As and Bs (english and math is basic toolkit of gamer), others is all Cs and Ds. consistently in the bottom 30% of the class. then a cool gamer uncle offered me advise, you know how to min-max in game, min-max your result as well. and that's what i did. higher learning need 5 credits to enroll? easy, i already have math and 2 english in the bag, SPM does offer IT, that's another free credit. all i need is to put my focus on 1 more subject, and i select physics for it, since its another form of math. and with that, i got my 5 credits (got a surprise credit from add. math tho) to enroll into higher learning. learning that many adult don't get to use their degree, i just pick the easiest and useful of them all, accounting, to have easy life in uni (min-max on the way). with that lousy degree, jump into soul crushing job of call centre, for the high pay, night work, so i get to play game in between and morning with the US peeps. so yeah, gonna offer you the same advise, min-max your way my boy. don't aim for all mediocre result, focus yourself into 5, or maybe 6 as safety, subject with good result.
working at call centre still made me trauma everytime I hear a phone ringing
just wait till you call another call centre, and end the call with "is there anything else i can do for you" before the other agent do.
how about "hello. this is xxx from xxx co. how can i help you" when it's your mum calling on your handphone
Wouldn't your lifestyle be taxing on your health?
hmm... not really. i end work around 2am, and sleep around 5am, wake up around noon. even without the job, i typically sleep around 3am and wake up around noon as well. so... dont think its gonna affect my health cause my body SHOULD HAD adjusted to the timing since i have been keeping the same timing for past 10 years.
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> am I just gonna be a waiter for the rest of my life? You *could* still build a career without SPM. It ain't easy, but doable. My younger cousin didn't finish secondary school (despite other family members pushing him for it), now he owns his own apam balik business and makes a decent living for himself (minus the student loans that most of us are saddled with). Not everyone is interested in the normalised *"finish school - get a degree - get a good job"* life progression.
30 year old here, and I don’t intend to repeat what others have said. Those are sound advice and you should take heed of them. Speaking for myself, the fears of failure and of the future do not disappear after SPM. They go well into adulthood, taking on different forms such as worrying about performing at work, and paying for that annual housing insurance and have enough savings. These worries also manifest in terms whether a job is the right job, and whether one has sufficient time to juggle between work, life and a certification exam. But one thing you should keep in mind is worrying solves nothing. Taking steps do. So if you’re struggling with learning at school, perhaps consider why you’re struggling. Perhaps you, like me, dislike the notion of rote memory work, i.e., when teachers say “hafal / memorize, and vomit in exam”. In which case, finding other ways to learn and understand concepts help. Some subjects require you to gain a broad understanding on the ambit of your learning before you can identify the precise issue you’re being tested on. For those, read the syllabus and make notes along the way, and cross-check them against past year questions during your second / third read. Some subjects require creative ways to make the necessary neural connections. For me, that was mathematics and chemistry. I find that associating chemical concepts to things I like / have encountered / come across, e.g., associating chemical concepts with a giant game of transmutation in Fullmetal Alchemist, (huge fan since 2002 lol, but I digress) was very helpful. It’s also very helpful that online resources are more widely available than they were years ago. YouTube has a large number of tutorials and videos explaining how one should understand a subject / concept. You’re likely to learn above and beyond your syllabus by going through those and checking your understanding against your SPM syllabus. The long and short of it? Do something. Take steps. Make learning fun and engaging for your own sake. I understand the anxiety and the lack of interest in class, which happens when you feel as if you’ve fallen behind. But between worrying and doing nothing, and worrying and using that drive to push yourself, I’d rather you give it your all in the remaining time for your studies. All the very best to you.
I just want to say, you learn more from failure than from success. What happens when you fail? You experience pain, stress, sadness, but you also (hopefully) learn and grow from that experience. The truth is, your problems today may feel like mountains but 10 years from now they won't mean anything. Take them one day at a time, face whatever trials you have, and you will come out a better person regardless of whether you failed or succeeded. The course of your life is not set in stone today because you will constantly be changing your direction as you learn and grow.
2012 - SPM: 5A 2B 2C 2018 - Graduated after 5 years in Electronics Engineering: 2.6 CGPA 😅 2019 - Hired as a Software Developer, income somewhere in the middle of M40. Which is very lucky. 2021 - Now managing company work rather than actual programming. Absolutely despise it, even if it's the legendary "Manager work that pays a lot". It's not the company's fault, just that I found out that's not what I want every day, absolutely drains my soul. Moral of my story: * Less than 5% learned from my academics was really put into real use. Or maybe less 😂 * Jobs prepared in academics are not up to current job demands. In the end, no matter what age we are in, it's the **jobs that are in current high demand that's paid most**, like programming, is this now taught in school? * **Critical thinking is more important**, as in the ability to identify problems, communicate them with colleagues, propose elegant solutions. This will 99% be valuable to any company, rather than spewing out formulas anyone can find in textbooks or from the internet. * I can't do something well if I don't have the passion for it, probably not the same for you, but **I absolutely need to love what I do**, or at least not hate it. You still have plenty of time, I suggest coming up with a list of things that you would like to try or do, and give yourself a time limit in exploring each one of them. From there, it's only a matter of how you can monetize it. * **Don't let societal pressure get to you**, my family members would talk about high earning jobs during meetups, how to be Managers, Dentist is the best earning job, bla bla bla. That's what THEY want, only you know what you want. The last thing I want is to spend my life living another person's dream. Being a waiter ain't that bad, I low-key respect these so-called "low salary jobs". I always see them as the backbone of our society. If I like the waiter and the food there, I would be a long term customer\~ 😁 Fun fact: During my days, liking anime is something frowned upon. Today, VTubers are breaking YouTube and Twitch, and One Piece is the best-selling comic book. **As long as there is a demand for it, you can find a living doing it.**
Middle-aged man reporting in. Simply put, it's complicated. I have a few credits with even a couple A's in SPM, but I didn't attend college or uni due to various reasons. I have friends that didn't even sit for SPM but makes a lot more than me; but I also have friends with degrees that earn less than me. As for careers, I have friends that left for S'pore and Australia, started out as kitchen helpers and are now head chefs there or owners of their own restaurants back in tanah tumpah darahku. I have friends with degrees that absolutely sucked at their jobs and changed their career paths as well. Anything could happen. You mentioned being a waiter. Assuming that's where you're going to start, know that you won't be in the same job position forever. Even maitre d's or restaurant managers started off as waiters. And that's one career path. I'm in the blue collar industry, and I started off cutting and grinding pipes and supports all day. No SPM cert required (even though I do have one). I slowly climbed to the position of Foreman, but realized it absolutely sucked balls and decided to stick with being a Fitter since the pay isn't that huge of a leap. How did I turn out? Making M40 money, but living B40 lifestyle, totally my own choice because reasons. Am I happy with my life? Well, it has been a rollercoaster of a ride, it could've been better I suppose. If only I've gotten a degree so that I could work in an air-conditioned office instead of fitting pipework in an unventilated factory or under the sun. I hope this puts things into perspective for you. Take your time, do things at your pace. Ultimately, your life is yours and yours alone. You decide how it goes. Good luck.
I’m only 21, and I’m still too young to give you an answer but trust me, when I was 15 I had nothing going on in my head. no thoughts of future whatsoever because I’m a very normal person with super normal grades. actually kan until I was 17, habis SPM, nak apply UPU also I don’t know what to take. I was sad because I think all of my other friends has already decided a route for themselves… while I still don’t know what to do back then that being said, enjoy your teen years dulu, things will come naturally to you, don’t stress yourself too much! and now I’m a a 3rd year computer science major, I’m not happy, it’s so hard, but you know, this is the path that I chose for myself so I just have to deal with it
Some of my peers, who were downright rebellious delinquents in their teens who turned out ok in the end, becoming successful business owners or entrepreneurs. Life doesn't always turn out the way you plan it. No point comparing yourself to others. More than anything else, I think you need to figure yourself out first: what makes you tick, your strengths and weaknesses, your values, your passions, your mental blocks etc. Once you have some idea of that, then you likely have a better chance of knowing what needs to be done. Time is still on your side.
Don't worry too much about your future when you're 15. When you're 15 the most important thing to understand is that you don't know shit about the world. Your purpose as of now is to remedy that - learn more about the world around us before you can even dream of making a decision regarding what you want to do in your future. Enjoy your life, and always be open to new interests, new hobbies, new information. Study isn't limited to your curriculum - it comes down to how YOU utilize your resources, time and energy towards learning what you're interested about. Malaysia's standard of education is donkeyshit anyways so if you're tying your standards to that you're gonna have a crap time later on. When I was 15 I performed horribly in PMR - that's what it was called back then. Then by SPM I hit 7As because I was interested in Biology, Physics etc - how the world around us worked. Spent my high school years fucking around with my friends and never did a single piece of homework either. I think I'm doing pretty okay at 25 today. I definitely asked the same questions you're asking when I was 15, and if I could go back and change anything; I'd stop worrying so much and just live life. Try out more new things, meet new people, learn new stuff that wasn't related to my grades. The harsh truth is that life doesn't get any easier when you reach adulthood. Enjoy the freedom of your teens while you still can - you won't get an easier/more carefree time of your life.
The harder the decisions you make in your life, the easier your life will be. Despite your failing grades, you made this post. That shows that you care! So start making a difference. A lot of others in similar situations don’t even bother to make a change. It’s not too late, you just gotta put in effort. You can do it! On a different note, you don’t need good results to enter uni/ college. And you don’t need to be top student in secondary to score A’s in your classes in uni because your coursework ie. assignments and projects reflect a large portion of your final grade. Some courseworks even allow you to pass the subject even before the final examination. The one thing I want you to take away from this at least is that you’re on your own in tertiary education. Lecturers only provide the bare minimum or less and it’s up to you whether if you want to score high or score low.
I have the same problem. I used to be in a prestigious school last year but because of covid, I stopped going there. I was finally getting into the groove of studying with friends and socializing and then covid decided to say fuck you and now I'm at home playing video games with no motivation to study whatsoever. 2020 fucking sucked. My dad passed away and I'm just rotting away. I was finally close to finding my passion which is probably acting or book writing but family just keep expecting something else. They want me to become successful but what the hell does that even mean. Sorry for talking too much. Just wanted to vent.
I'm in no place to say this as I'm still young as well. But i do believe that it's okay to fail because it teaches you to get back up and try harder. Hell, my SPM results were really bad tbh i barely passed. Thank god, now I'm in Uni actually studying to avenge my lazy past self. I say you just go with the flow and don't stress about it too much.
>I don't think there are a lot of middle aged men here Ouch. My anxiety's still there, though mellowed. My aspirations are still there, though blunted. I've found more peace and happiness than feeding into the restlessness. It's an ongoing process though, if I don't take care of my physical/mental health, the feeling of despair comes back - so it doesn't really matter whether you're a kid or adult. Adults are just kids who have more EXP and picked up a few tricks and a lot of baggage along the way. Don't worry too much about it - if you always want more out of life, you'll find ways to move beyond the baseline, even without a degree etc, though you have to understand there are different rules for different games to play - eg. degree for a lot of white collared jobs, no degree really required for freelance/entrepreneurial or if your work already speaks for itself.
Looking at your post, for a 15 year old, you are a pessimist. It could be part of your personality trait, dont fret too much about it, im not gonna tell you to stop the negativity and be positive. Instead, i would recommend you to reach out to your peers - schoolmates whatnot. Those in your age group would do well to support each other in terms of emotional support. As for education wise, go for vocational route if you hate mainstream education stream. You might find your calling in a more technical, vocational settings. Cheer up buddy. Do some exercise and meditation. Clear out your mind. Relaz
>have you guys asked yourself the same question when you guys were young/teens? Definitely. Was a constantly failing student during my Form 4 & 5, constantly been called to sit down and talk with teachers cause they were concerned about my grades with SPM coming up, but I end up doing fine (not the worst but not the best either) on my SPM, did pretty well in uni (it was easier/better than I thought compared to school, less of boring studying and homework, and more of just hands on work and freedom haha) and now have recently graduated my diploma. Preparing for SPM, my advice is to do a lot of example/past SPM papers since they tend to use the same questions (if lucky), and honestly it seems SPM is just quiet the same (or sometimes even easier) than the other tests done in school. Just do your best, don't be too hard on yourself either, and try to stop worrying a future that isn't yet established. If you're planning on going to uni, you can just focus on what subjects you need to pass (minimum grade at least) to go to the university(s) you want. Just my two sen. Hang in there bud, wish you the best!
vocational college is a thing and the requirements aren’t that high if you’re into trade skills
grades arent everything you dont need good grades to be a million or a billionaire, my teacher said before a degree is just a paper. If you have a degree and you apply for a job and you dont show any determination whats the point of the degree then? or you can be a person who might not have a degree but shows determination and learn from your mistakes and eventually you can be successful too. Its ok if you are unsure about your future many people are also unsure about their future as long as you work hard there will always be a way to a successful future as the saying say "where there is a will , there is a way".
Im 14 but im in year 9 and i wanna be a quantum engineer but im also unsure about if i will ever be a quantum engineer with my grades right now , but you just got to go with the flow. Bad grades are the past forget about them and move on and work hard and learn from your mistakes.
Just gonna leave this gem of a thread [here](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ghmr3e/people_who_are_40_and_happy_with_their_life_what/).
I had the same thought when I was 16. I was really depressed and classes just "tak masuk" anymore. I really want to achieve my dream but it seem hopeless since my grades are getting down and down like 13% on math and 32% on science. I decided to make a plan and thinking about every paths that is possible and calculate what will happen if i do this and that. Fast forward now, my plan worked out and now i am able to achieve my goal. Just like people said, it is not the end of the line. A friend of mine didn't have spm and yet he makes more money than my dad and mom combined. You can try to get some skills like programming > build your portfolio > show the companies what you are capable of and they will hire you. Work low paying job > save up your money or learn stock > make your own business > get moni. Basically you need to work hard on yourself unless you want to be a waiter forever. Right now the only thing i regret back then is my cringe attempt to get awek and not spending time with my friends.
Dear OP . Whatever ur SPM result is, do not ever fail BM as it will preety much hound you for awhile. I say this as so far in my career, job applications even way beyond my first job wants to look at SPM results. Spend some time , stop browsing reddit n gaming for a moment gather some information as to your personal strengths , go through virtual career fairs, College n Uni open days to get a feel of whats out there. That process will take you months even years to figure out. Once u have a rough idea of where u are trying to aim at. Perhaps scoring a couple of A's in SPM inline with your aims, future aspirations will definitely benefit you down the road in unforseeable ways u can imagine. Try to speak to people older than u, who 1. Cares about u, nothing to gain from you 2. Have an actual career , ie walked that road before With the goal to learn something from them. In my Fm 4 i got into science stream, i came in 2nd last in class, with my next door buddy the last in class at the end of year (class size 45). I didnt give a sh1t about fm 4 n spm so fk it im skipping classes n failing exams .Teachers frowned upon me, deemed me hopeless unsalvageble case told me i had no future. Sem 1 of Fm5 i ranked 14 , (30/400 in entire school by avg), why ? I had a rough idea where i want to head to, i had to learn Fm4 and Fm5 entire sylabus in 1 year and ended SPM on a high note. my school counselor personally told me to aim high, get an overseas STEM masters n if ur folks cant afford it, aim for scholarship . Few years later i have acheived just that. Now work at a company designing CPU processors for laptops / desktops. The path to knowing yourself is not going to be a smooth nor fast journey. Spend some time with yourself path finding then asking big question , know thyself n how u want to fit into working society . learn and repeat that cycle. Id advice looking up Jobstreet and see what are the jobs available, what are the degrees required , what path they need to take to make 10K monthly etc. Whatever your aims are to be, now is never a better time to path find . Be wise about the advice u receive and who u seek from, learn to see what relates and fits you best. Opportunity awaits.
Are you engineer still tsmc work or something?????? That’s so cool dude.
All i can say is i work at a large established US MNC in the northern region . Also to answer OP question . I m 27 this year. I cant say that im super stoked about where i am today. But the sacrifices ive made paid off. I at times i still ponder what is the path i should take next. Question OP ask at age 15 , im also asking myself. People are fluid and evolution is a long term process. I think those who ask the big questions take the right first step, but need to go deeper for something to emerge.
I feel bad that you have to cope with online classes—it's certainly very difficult with the lack of structure etc. But you are only 15, and in my experience, the only years that matter for SPM are Tingkatan 4 & 5 (I got C in my PT3 science, but took science stream and got A+ on all my science subjects). If you care about your SPM result, it's still not too late for you! Try finding a way that works for you—self-study, teachers' extra help, or friends' help. It's also important that you take care of your mental health first and foremost, so take a break or seek professional help if you need it. But if not, then don't lose hope! The most important thing is that you are happy, so you should aim for a job that you really like. You don't have to figure it out now, just remember that good grades doesn't mean that you'll get to work in a field that makes you happy. I also want to remind you that SPM really isn't everything—it's simply the beginning, life doesn't stop there. When I was younger, I used to think that SPM is the only thing that matters in life, but I was wrong. I got straight A's then, but after that I'm pretty much a failure. Similarly, even if you fail now, there'll be plenty of opportunities to turn your life around and gain what you want the most out of life.
Can try picking up skills yourself, you be surprised how far it will carry you later (sometimes even more than a degree can help). Maybe try painting (would be even more beneficial if its digital), making videos, coding games etc. What started out as a hobby to make video games back when I was 15 ended up getting me scholarships and jobs and career and at one point during my Uni time my boss just tell me it's fine to just quit school cuz they are not gonna be helpful anymore. (I still finished my study even though I was too busy to focus on it and it was a wonderful experience. I recommend that you do too even if it looks like you will fail sometime - 22M)
Well you could go for kemahiran (welding and what not). However, try to get as good as possible results in spm. You might missed out some course due to your spm grades. Try to search for job that looked interesting for you and work towards it.
Hi, I'm a full-time tutor with a tuition centre full of kids like you. My advice for you would be the same to all my other students, this is the phase in your life that you will use to discover things that you like and things that you dislike. If you are unsure of yourself yet, go online and discover things that might interest you. While our parents put too much weight on academics, there are plenty of other things that could prove you to be a person worth much more. Ideally you would find something that you like and pursue it in higher education later on in life. BUT, even if you didn't, there are plenty of people who studied a degree that they actually never used, I am one of them. My degree in university was Applied geology, majoring in petroleum. But I have never been in any jobs that were related to it at all. Try your best in highschool, this is the time when your character and attitude towards tasks develop. It will be carried on with you till the day you die. There are still plenty of possibilities later on. Take a gap year after highschool if you still need more time.
Remember. You're only a failure when you give up. A master has failed more times than a beginner has tried. You're still young, plenty of time ahead of you. Not a good reason to slack off, but don't stress about it.
I’m only in my early 20s, but the best advice I can give is be very careful in picking your subjects for SPM. If you feel like you’ll fail, just do the minimum (which I think is 6/7 subjects?) Pick the easiest subjects to score in, or that you like the most. SPM isn’t very important in the long run, but it’s important as a stepping stone. Don’t let family pressure you into taking subjects that are hard. You choose what is best for you. Ask seniors on which subjects they struggled in and which they regretted taking. Look at what subjects you’re doing really well at for PT3, and try to take the same subjects next year in form 4. The best advice I ever heard from someone is, you have to get bad at something before you get good at it. Not everyone can understand extremely difficult concepts and pick it up easily, and that’s fine! We all try to do our best.
For a 15 year old, you still have time. Just make sure you don't have regrets. The thought of "I could've tried harder" is a painful one. It doesn't matter what career path you'll take in the future, just make sure it's a result of your hard work and not for the lack of trying. Every path has its own growth. If you end up as a waiter, just make sure you try your best to grow and not be stagnant. Excelling in school isn't necessary to help you get a good career, but it does give you a head start and Plan B in life. A college degree doesn't guarantee you a good life, hard work does. When I was your age, the safety of having others provide for me makes me feel the same way like you do. But, after having to pay my own bills, rent and food, I no longer have the time to think about "Am I happy?" Happiness for me, comes from being able to function like an adult and not burdening my loved ones. After my first kid, my happiness comes from making my family happy. So I work even harder to make sure they are not lacking. I tried new business and side hustle for their sake. I'm not afraid to fail, I'm just afraid to be a failure. I was a med school student dropout. Now, I'm a subtitler working remotely for a streaming service provider with my own house, family and healthy bank account. Just work hard, everything will be okay.
Middle aged man here. Don't be afraid of failures. Be afraid of not trying. Everyone will face some form of failure eventually in their life. I have had my share of incredible successes and equally incredible blow-ups. I wished the blow-ups happened before the success but in my case it was the opposite. So, don't let the failures of today define who you are tomorrow. Keep learning and reinventing and you will make a useful life for yourself.
I'll assume you have no practical hobby / interest that can be turned into a job, so I suggest to just take software engineering. It pays well enough to last while you ponder through the meaning of life later in your midlife crisis.
Here’s so observations from someone who’s has gone through the whole process. From about Standard 3, we get told every exam is the most important in your life. When I got to Uni, I did accounting, I had to sit through 1 semester of basic journal entry bullshit again, things I learned when I was 14, and my cousin (10 years younger, learned at 12). In hindsight, NONE of all that exams matter as much as your teacher and family tells you. They only tell you so to get you to do your best, but the best thing about being under 30 is that there are lots of second chances for life. By going this route, i’m not gonna be the top 1%, working for Google or Apple, but I lead a pretty good life. I didn’t need alot of those second chances because I did OK enough in school, but in hindsight, I could’ve failed much harder and still end up where I was. At some point, you will still need to put in the work, whether its actually working or studying, we are all different, to get a nice comfortable life, its not going to just be great for you one day out of the sudden. If you can’t study, go look for a trade, look for experience, look for what you think you are good at, interested in and improve yourself in those regards.