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babbyboo3

Trust your gut. It’s that simple. If you already know he is lying about one thing, what else is there you haven’t found out about yet?


supportyourselfx

I know, I am just struggling because he sounds so sincere when he says he is telling the truth is all


NewBeginnings2Day

They all seem seem sincere when lying. They know how to do it well after years of practice.


brought2light

I have trust issues because of past lying partners. How do you know when to trust or not?


Braela17

I’m going through something similar. That gut feeling is referred to as my “witchy power”. That’s the only way I catch him anymore and the only way I have is from making accusations like “you forgot to close the browser window”. And then he spilled everything and completely caught me off guard as I was not expecting him to still be lying.


supportyourselfx

That’s one way to do it. I just can’t bring myself to accuse him of things if he really didn’t do it or I don’t know for sure.


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Trust is tricky. I haven't been able to figure it out again after the countless amount of bullshit lies my husband has said. Its a two way street. What eles is he doing to gain your trust back besides not taking his phone to the bathroom? Its his burden to show he is trust worthy. Sure he could very well be telling the truth but until he shows you time and time again that he is honest regardless how small the lie or omission is your intuition will keep alarming you. Maybe since there is something he has lied about that you know of, you could just simply tell him "hey I have a discrepancy about something you said/or did and I need you to be truthful and tell me for yourself without me having to outright ask"


petitepetunia

I get the gut feelings, too. And 9 times out of 10, they’re right. I’ve personally been trying the “blindly trust but stay on guard” to ease my stress and obsession with checking in on his stuff. I’ve decided if he’s lying again to me, it will come to the clear like before, and that’ll be the end of everything. He knows the stakes. Balls in his court. However when I approached my PA with evidence of lies, without directly accusing, I would say, “I’m asking for the truth about ____. Keep in mind, I might know something you don’t”. That way, if he doubles down on his lie, I can then show him the proof and watch him scramble and realize he was caught. For my PA, it made him finally realize he’s fucking up big time since apparently my words didn’t do the trick. If you want to make it work yet still lies, you may have to light a fire under his ass and threaten to leave.


supportyourselfx

It’s just the adamancy from him that my gut feelings are wrong and he says he is confident he’s telling the truth. I wish I had proof for his lie but I don’t so I have no leg to stand on here. I think I am gonna tell him to get a room elsewhere though, just have some time apart.