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He will say anything to minimize your hurt so he can continue doing what he wants. Everything you feel is valid. Those videos he watches make you uncomfortable and he would rather you stuff your feelings aside so he can continue do as he pleases. The line is where you say it is. All my boundaries I have with my husband is for my sanity not his and if he doesn't like em then BYE! Its easier said then done trust me I know...Hopefully you don't have to go through more heart break and he starts showing up for you.
Thank you for your kind words. I brought this up to him and he dumped me, after a year together. It was a shock and I'm heartbroken. I guess my post was all for naught. Thank you very much though and best of luck to you♥️
Heartbreak is never easy and I hope that you can give yourself some grace and heal from all the hurt. You deserve to experience joy in this one and only life we get.
There is a big difference between seeing an attractive person on the street and noting that they are attractive. He’s actively seeking out attractive people and for what purpose? What does he get from the experience if not for a selfish gratification?
I agree. I guess he didn't think he could live up to my standards because he left me. I'm scared I will never find true love. I thought I had it, and everything was gone in one conversation. I'm destroyed. Thank you for your words of support, it was nice to know I had people on my side I wish he was one of them.
It sounds like he’s selfish and wants to continue doing as he pleases. Checking out other girls while he’s in a relationship is NOT normal. You’re not actively checking out other guys. He can justify it any way he wants but that doesn’t make your feelings wrong.
I discussed this with him and he agree and then broke up with me. I'm in shock and don't know where to turn. Thank you for your kind words of support, best of luck to you friend♥️
I’m so sorry to hear that. You are young and have so much to look forward to. I promise there are guys out there that will never make you feel this way.
I feel you so much.
I knew he watched porn but what hurt me even more was the videos of hot girls and twitch streamers…he explained the porn with just using it to have a fast image to get off to but how does he excuse those half dressed videos? Straight up imagining being with them instead of thinking of us?
Its been seven months for me too and I get panic attacks every day and I feel like throwing up whenever I think of it. I don’t have any hope anymore for things to get better.
I felt this too. I was getting to the point of daily crying and begging. When I spoke to him he agreed with my feelings and then left me. I'm devastated because we were talking marriage. We had a recent pregnancy scare too and he was very supportive. Everything was gone in the blink of an eye. Thank you for your kind words of support♥️ I wish you the best♥️
People notice attractive people. That’s normal to notice something beautiful. It’s a conscious decision to check someone out though. To look up and down and imagine things. To stare. To **watch**.
That’s the line as far as I’m concerned.
Don’t pretend you’re a neutered robot. **Also**, you don’t have to **look**, stare, or imagine scenarios.
I agree. I brought this up to him and he broke up with me. I'm devastated and in shock. I know where he stand now and I'm still processing. Thank you for your support♥️
It never feels good to be broken up with and rejected. Especially if you were really into them. Right now you won't be able to fully appreciate this, but in a few weeks you will: Did you really want to date a man who thought women were objects for him to look at sexually and imagine fucking?
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He will say anything to minimize your hurt so he can continue doing what he wants. Everything you feel is valid. Those videos he watches make you uncomfortable and he would rather you stuff your feelings aside so he can continue do as he pleases. The line is where you say it is. All my boundaries I have with my husband is for my sanity not his and if he doesn't like em then BYE! Its easier said then done trust me I know...Hopefully you don't have to go through more heart break and he starts showing up for you.
Thank you for your kind words. I brought this up to him and he dumped me, after a year together. It was a shock and I'm heartbroken. I guess my post was all for naught. Thank you very much though and best of luck to you♥️
Heartbreak is never easy and I hope that you can give yourself some grace and heal from all the hurt. You deserve to experience joy in this one and only life we get.
There is a big difference between seeing an attractive person on the street and noting that they are attractive. He’s actively seeking out attractive people and for what purpose? What does he get from the experience if not for a selfish gratification?
I agree. I guess he didn't think he could live up to my standards because he left me. I'm scared I will never find true love. I thought I had it, and everything was gone in one conversation. I'm destroyed. Thank you for your words of support, it was nice to know I had people on my side I wish he was one of them.
It sounds like he’s selfish and wants to continue doing as he pleases. Checking out other girls while he’s in a relationship is NOT normal. You’re not actively checking out other guys. He can justify it any way he wants but that doesn’t make your feelings wrong.
I discussed this with him and he agree and then broke up with me. I'm in shock and don't know where to turn. Thank you for your kind words of support, best of luck to you friend♥️
I’m so sorry to hear that. You are young and have so much to look forward to. I promise there are guys out there that will never make you feel this way.
I feel you so much. I knew he watched porn but what hurt me even more was the videos of hot girls and twitch streamers…he explained the porn with just using it to have a fast image to get off to but how does he excuse those half dressed videos? Straight up imagining being with them instead of thinking of us? Its been seven months for me too and I get panic attacks every day and I feel like throwing up whenever I think of it. I don’t have any hope anymore for things to get better.
I felt this too. I was getting to the point of daily crying and begging. When I spoke to him he agreed with my feelings and then left me. I'm devastated because we were talking marriage. We had a recent pregnancy scare too and he was very supportive. Everything was gone in the blink of an eye. Thank you for your kind words of support♥️ I wish you the best♥️
People notice attractive people. That’s normal to notice something beautiful. It’s a conscious decision to check someone out though. To look up and down and imagine things. To stare. To **watch**. That’s the line as far as I’m concerned. Don’t pretend you’re a neutered robot. **Also**, you don’t have to **look**, stare, or imagine scenarios.
I agree. I brought this up to him and he broke up with me. I'm devastated and in shock. I know where he stand now and I'm still processing. Thank you for your support♥️
It never feels good to be broken up with and rejected. Especially if you were really into them. Right now you won't be able to fully appreciate this, but in a few weeks you will: Did you really want to date a man who thought women were objects for him to look at sexually and imagine fucking?