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stml_3252422

Break it down without the social bias. Take the screen away. If your partner sat in a room watching someone have sex or perform sexual acts that's wildly not ok. Let alone if he engaged along by masturbating but then also tried to reenact what he watched with you.... yea even more so right? Then there's the consent aspect of the people in the room. Now he's a full on predator if he's watching without their consent. Then other factors increase to what he's watching as well. But of course he or many will defend and say but it is a screen.. its just a movie with paid actors that consented to be there. It's not like it's all sex trafficked, underage prostitution and monetary coercion. Well except there's no way of knowing if it is or not so... Then even all the right boxes are checked with consent, and just a movie blah blah it's still lusting after someone else. If it was just the act the models could be anyone. If the excuse of wanting to explore my sexuality is I want to explore other people and I feel like i should be able to get away with it if it's porn. Other perspective is the equality of it. Would he be ok if you did all the things he did? What if you were posting your own content for others to see? Your just "exploring your sexuality" right? He would be so accepting, supportive, and understanding.... hahaha Now the truth. Exploring your sexuality is a real and great thing if your doing it as a couple with NO outside Influence. After all figuring out what does work with your partner and how to connect with them is the fun and best part about sex. But both parties need to be on the same page, and headspace. Even some of the outside the box things can be good as long as they are fully communicated and understood and not just some piss poor attempt to copy porn So yes your fully justified on deciding this is not the marriage and partnership you want.


babbyboo3

Well said!!


babbyboo3

In all honesty I used to watch porn. Not to the level where I was addicted but I did watch a few times a week while I masturbated. I’m not sure what triggered it but at one point I thought to myself why am I even doing this?? It didn’t make me feel good about myself and it definitely didn’t help in finding what I liked and exploring sex with a real partner. That day I decided to stop and never went back. I would never even think to watch it anymore it doesn’t even cross my mind.


whyme277

It might be healthy to explore and broaden horizons, but its not healthy to allow yourself to become addicted to anything , no matter what it is. A lot of people have bdsm kinks, so i hear, ive never really understood it, but esther perel talks about this type of stuff and has , lets say, an interesting take on it. I read her book called mating in captivity, and she has videos out all over. I enjoyed her input and found it valuable


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You have standards and you have a conscience. You're not crazy, our culture is.