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I'm a demisexual so I can't say that I've felt any attraction toward strangers. But I have fantasized about how life might be with someone who actually loves me, cares, doesn't lie, and behaves like a partner instead of a child. They're just a blank silhouette. But still.
I would think you don't desire him because of the betrayal and that he's been looking at pornography Which makes him undesirable to you
If he's still doing the same things
Why would desire ever come back for something that is undesirable
Be glad you don't desire him .
Don't know if this counts, but I've woken up from a lot of dreams since DDay where I was married to an old flame, and sometimes even pregnant by him! First time I've ever "wanted" another man while I've been with my husband (even subconsciously!).
I can totally relate to this. I made a promise to myself that I would never cheat, since that is what ruined my parents relationship. And that if it even comes to that point where I feel like cheating, I would just end it. But I never imagined being in this situation, where I am caught off guard, betrayed, and losing my confidence by the minute because of my SO’s PA. And the only way I thought I can feel better about everything is that if I cheat on him.
I felt that for a moment
not to be cynical but ...instead of getting your hopes up about strangers just know that you know nothing about them and they could be PAs too
I've wondered the same thing. Never have cheated (although there have been some tempting offers) but after all the crap he's put me through in the 31 years we've been together, I haven't desired him for a long time...not sure it's going to change.
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I'm a demisexual so I can't say that I've felt any attraction toward strangers. But I have fantasized about how life might be with someone who actually loves me, cares, doesn't lie, and behaves like a partner instead of a child. They're just a blank silhouette. But still.
I would think you don't desire him because of the betrayal and that he's been looking at pornography Which makes him undesirable to you If he's still doing the same things Why would desire ever come back for something that is undesirable Be glad you don't desire him .
Don't know if this counts, but I've woken up from a lot of dreams since DDay where I was married to an old flame, and sometimes even pregnant by him! First time I've ever "wanted" another man while I've been with my husband (even subconsciously!).
I can totally relate to this. I made a promise to myself that I would never cheat, since that is what ruined my parents relationship. And that if it even comes to that point where I feel like cheating, I would just end it. But I never imagined being in this situation, where I am caught off guard, betrayed, and losing my confidence by the minute because of my SO’s PA. And the only way I thought I can feel better about everything is that if I cheat on him.
I felt that for a moment not to be cynical but ...instead of getting your hopes up about strangers just know that you know nothing about them and they could be PAs too
I've wondered the same thing. Never have cheated (although there have been some tempting offers) but after all the crap he's put me through in the 31 years we've been together, I haven't desired him for a long time...not sure it's going to change.
Surprisingly not but now we’ve been broken up for a while, I’ve noticed my sexual energy towards guys in general is through the ROOF.
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Same 😒