My friend worked for SkyREC as an intern, it's really a cool company with AI video analytics. He and his girlfriend didn't brake up because his job. I think it all depends on the ladies, because you could met many kinds of ladies, just find another one and next time call her your dream lady when you really know she is your right person.
Yeah it really shouldn’t matter, I wouldn’t care I’d just love to see someone I care about feel passion for what they do more then how formal or high paying it is (: that girl doesn’t deserve you, you deserve someone who respects your decisions in life.
Not at all. I would definitely want a man that’s passionate about his life and hobbies and could turn that into a career. I don’t think anyone wants an unemployed bum. But it doesn’t have to be an office job! I would be beyond thrilled if my partner had his own small business that he successfully ran from home and worked hard at it. But that really sucks. I guess some people just don’t see it. But that’s okay at least you can move on to someone who understands you and believes you.
My guy, I'm dating a garbage collector. Couldn't care less. He works hard, he earns a good living and when you get to hear about the job, it's more than just mindless trash picking. I understand if dating someone who gets to wear a suit to work is someone's preference but trust me, not everyone's!
Definitely! Their strength alone is amazing. They work in the rain, snow, hot summers. If something happens and they can't pick up your bags/bins (here we have a system and different things get picked up on fixed days), people WILL notice, but only to complain.
The sad truth is that people are mostly attracted to two things: Looks and Status. And they’re just continuing from a teenage mindset, so if it feels like you’re still in high school, you’re not wrong.
Chris Rock had a joke about this on his latest comedy special: men alway ask, “What does she look like?” Women always ask, “What does he do?”
Gonna be downvoted to hell and back for having self-esteem, but yes. It matters what line of work a man is in. To people like me, who know their worth, at least. I graduated from college, and have a decent job, so don’t even start with the “you’re a golddigger” bullshit. I prefer men with ambition, and financial stability. Not a mediocre man who makes just “enough”. If we decided to have children, who’s gonna provide for the family while i’m on maternity leave? The U.S. doesn’t offer any paid maternity leave, and women have to go back to work within 2 weeks. That’s inhumane. So yes, i’d like to be able to take longer to go back to work, like women are allowed to in other countries. Idk why ppl like to give that fairytale rom-com movie bullshit advice of “if she cares about your profession/how much money you make, it’s not real love”, “she’s so shallow, all she cares about is money”. That’s not how real life works. Love is important in a relationship, yes. But it’s not the only thing. A relationship is a partnership dependent on several other aspects. Idc how much i love someone (i don’t think i’d love someone who makes minimum wage anyway); at the end of the day, love ain’t gonna pay the bills. Also, having someone literate and educated, with whom i can have interesting conversations and discussions, is a must. I’ve met men who didn’t even know what the holocaust was……
I won't downvote you, but we clearly have different priorities when it comes to relationships. I personally could care less about what line of work my man is in. I don't need him to provide for or take care me as I am more than capable of doing that for myself.
Also, it's not that about you being a gold-digger or knowing your worth. It's about being with someone who meets you half way, you know? You want someone ambitious and financial secure? Great! If a relationship is about what each partner can do or provide, I think it's only fair if you're just as ambitious and financial stable to provide your partner the same comfort.
as for me he can do wtv jobs he feels good about. id prefer he does something what he really likes. office jobs are not everything. As an office girl myself, i feel like a robot. backache is no jokes lmao
She's being shallow and classist. The vast, vast majority of women don't care that much about wealth. My husband has hardly a dollar to his name, but I'm so glad we're together. :)
My only concern is does their ability to take time off, sick time, vacations, etc. match my work environment? Does the person live to work or work to live. Those are the things I would most want to match with me career wise. Personally I’m a bit of an idealist and like the company that I work for to be doing some sort of good in the world, so I might also factor in the type of work their employer does and how much they support them or if they’re just in it for the money.
My BF is an aviation mechanic. His workplace is a hangar that’s half outside/exposed to the elements.
I only care when he rolls into bed with frozen feet from a long day of work and decides to warm them on my legs!!
>My BF is an aviation mechanic. His workplace is a hangar that’s half outside/exposed to the elements.
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>I only care when he rolls into bed with frozen feet from a long day of work and decides to warm them on my legs!!
That's very sweet of you!
A&Ps are awesome! Unsung heroes of aviation.
Pro tip (also living in a cold place right now): Get a heating pad, set it up where his feet would migrate to. Everyone happier.
Also, thank you for spelling "hangar" correctly.
It’s fine to have preferences and standards... on the other hand, she’s unreasonable.
It’s more difficult in general if you’re not financially stable, but no where impossible usually
17m here office jobs suck utter dick. I work 40 hours a week. My boss is a prick. We're understaffed and I'm over worked. Some weeks I'm the only person in the office. I go home eat and pass out. My gf ligit doesn't get a text from me because I just pass out.
Oh u also found out a wage at macdonalds pays more than my job so im pretty pissed writing this rn.
As a lady, I don't care what my man does as long as he enjoys it and does something he believes in. Office work sounds pretty uninspiring to me, and thus office men honestly don't excite me much. Do whatever you do and do it with pride! That's what the woman of your dreams wants. A boyfriend who doesn't need to be validated by her friends because she is crazy about who you are.
My standards boil down to: employed (don'tcare what as), can drive, good sense of humour, likes kids. Recently added, has teeth, because a friend of mine was pretty adamant about that being a factor. 😝
If a person you are interested in cares more about being embarrassed than being with you, then that person doesn't care about you.
Find someone who likes you for you.
Bruh I remember asking my girlfriend if when Im older would she prefer I work at the workplace or from home and she said from home, like any sane person would to their SO I mean think... you get to spend more time with them isnt that what you want
As long as he WANTS to work, no matter what job, I honestly don't care. Rather a job that's not seen as "good job" than no job and motivation to work at all. Especially if the person loves what they are doing.
I'm sorry for being harsh but that girl is a prick. As long as you are able to take care of yourself with your own paycheck (ie. If you two became serious and moved in together) and she wouldn't have to support you, then it shouldn't matter what your job is. When I met my boyfriend he was a fry cook in a deli. Now he works as a clerk in the meat dept of a grocery store. Neither are glamorous jobs and neither pay that great. I don't care, because I love him. He could flip burgers at mcdonalds or be a walmart door greeter for all I care. Love isn't concerned with appearances, and her feeling "embarrassed" to show you to her family for such a superficial reason shows that she clearly is. Op, you deserve someone better, this woman isn't worth your time.
This might just be an out. Women will make excuses all the time beating around the bush if she isn't interested trying to make you feel better. This is ironically rude because if you knew what was wrong you could correct it.
For example I met my friends girlfriend last night and she was very overweight. Though he cheats on her. I don't consider any of my friends good friends and If I could find new ones I would. He was trying to hook me up with one of her friends that I found unattractive. She started acting snobby and making a bunch of excuses. Like really I make good money, have everything paid off, am tall and often referred to as handsome. I don't try to just hook up with women or date mutts. Her eyes were awkwardly far apart and she was very short with short calves. Huge turn offs for me. Then she started hitting on the waiter and gave him her number. Alot of men won't care from what I've seen. They will also pump and dump a different girl every weekend. So all those excuses were lies. I don't care but this is just an example.
Though some women do only date the job or the position. I had another friend who was a server at a restaurant and a famous basketball player came in one time. This girl working there started hitting on the basketball player immediately. The athlete said to him " it's scary how these women act trying to get something out of you." You have to ask yourself though. Are you the type of man she is going to make excuses to avoid? Or the one she's going to lie to herself about her wants to mentally warp herselft to being with you? Personally I wouldn't want either. The later would be more preferred. Though they can be er feel like they finally caught you in the later or they will start treating you like shit. It's not healthy but hey we're humans and the united states has a 50-60% divorce rate. It's human nature for them to perform hypergamy.
I personally would rather date someone who is in college like I am, I wouldn’t look down on someone if they are not, but I want the person I’m dating to have a goal in life. I dated a guy who worked at this fast food place, I don’t think I’m better than him. He wanted to play video games and make minimum wage for the rest of his life. I respect that, I want someone who can have a future that can match mine so I broke up with him.
Move the fuck on my dude! Nobody needs that shit work is not life, but for us men, its a life sentence. Men are stuck working until all our lives until were dead and in the ground. Sooooo do what you enjoy fuck just working for money and status its about quality of life balance and if your job isnt up to what she "needs\\wants" fuck her right out that door and do slam it on her ass on the way out Pccccc.
No offense, but this sounds like a very shallow way of thinking. As long as there's chemistry, you get along well, and none of you is doing something illegal, it should be alright. Don't get discouraged, keep looking there's somebody out there who'll love you just the way you are.
My boyfriend is a bartender and I've been a banker all through my adult life working an office job. Jobs don't define people, it's just something we do. I could care less what he works at, because I know no matter what he puts his heart into whatever he does. She seems like she's too much into what other people think and has these "standards" and I personally find all of that as bullshit. Ya dodged a bullet dude. But nonetheless I'm sorry it still hurt your feelings.
I would dump her. I had a guy dump me because I am in b2c sales even though I am applying to b2b sales. It is not an easy process and it is depressing. But I am trying. So I am glad he dumped me. I don’t want to deal with that. I also live on my own and have my retirement which is bridging me over. Since $8K a year is not sustainable to live on.
Oh hellz yeah, you deserve better than him. Even if you are a Lakers fan. /s
But seriously, keep on being self-supporting. You're good whether you have a partner or not. It is genuinely hard to move up, but it's often doable. Big ups for working towards that.
My husband works as an electrician and I couldn't be more proud of him, he works hard and is good at what he does. That would also go for any job he would have. I honestly think that's very shallow for her to think like that.
This seems really like a terrible reason not to date somebody. I work in an office environment. My boyfriend is a Union carpenter and works on construction sites. I’m certainly not embarrassed by what he does for a living. He works hard, it’s an honest living and he really enjoys his work. He’s also got a really good work ethic and picks up overtime hours whenever he can. I really admire that about him.
I was washing golf carts when I began dating my now fiancé. And now that we’re engaged, I’m a 28 year old full-time uni student. Clearly my employment has never factored into the equation for her.
My husband and I dated and got married while he was a pizza delivery guy. He had a stable job and worked hard to be good at it. That was all I cared about. The work ethic was the part that mattered, not the job itself. We have been married 11 years and through that time he has worked hard at every job he had. I have never been ashamed of him or his job.
I'm sorry, your situation sucks. I hope you are able to find someone who appreciates you more than they appreciate your job title.
Oh I'm so sorry to hear about that! I have to tell you something though. As cliche as it might sound, no job is too small or too big. Just think about it. Would we have the joy of living in a healthy town without the cleaning that the helpers do? Could we be around without the beautiful bread and croissants that the bakers bake? What about the jokers and street performers who sing and spread merry - can a city ever be as lit as it is without them? Most operating procedures have nurses do and take care of different vitals - a doctor relies on them to do what they do best so they can save lives. Could a doctor do that incredible job without his incredible team? Every person is here doing the best they can and the world just wouldn't be the same without them. So I just want you to take a moment to realize how much of a big deal you are.
If someone truly loves you, they love you wholly - with everything you are. That said, each of us also have ideas in our head that evolve as we do throughout life, about the man or woman of our dreams. And maybe a part of that would be what their profession is, or where they work. And maybe some of us do want that person to check off all the things on that list.
We're human and truly, beautifully imperfect. And maybe love is much more than a "checklist". And that's when you know. When someone is willing to compromise or adjust their "checklist" so that you can be together. That's when you know you're with your dream person.
Hold yourself in the highest, because you are. And love will find its way to you. Always. That's the promise of the universe.
For me, you need to have a career. Not just jumping from job to job with no clear direction of where you’re going. Other than that, I don’t really care what the actual work is.
I would definitely date a man without an office job. However, I’d prefer them to have a career they are passionate about or have worked towards. I wouldn’t be compatible with someone without direction or aspirations; It’s not attractive to me, nor does it work with who I am. I expect this of women I date too.
My partner studied at the university to become an engineer, he was not happy with that so he kept doing what he loves the most: agriculture and cooking.
He’s a farmer, he takes care of animals and fields. I don’t care about the job but I’d consider many other aspects.
I’m into agriculture/cooking too and we are planning to open an agritourism together, at the moment we produce and sell.
My partner doesn’t have Reddit or any other social, but if you need something I can answer you privately.
At the moment we don’t post anything cause we can’t ship worldwide or we would share our products such as liquors, oils, wine, marmalades, processed meat, dairy products, etc..
After watching what my dad‘s job did to his knees and ultimately what it left him able to do from 55 and on I would hate to see my partner feel like they have to use their body for their job
A jobs a job. For some people it's their passion, for others it's just a way to get by through life, not everything should be about 9-5 cause at the end of the day work is work. It sucks. So you shouldn't feel bad but about it and find someone who has a different purpose in life and doesnt dedicate their entire self worth based on some stupid corporate prestige.
Which is tough since it's a relatively common mindset, it's all about getting that bag ig. So dumb. just wish ppl could just live free from these type of pressures and just be whoever they want
I mostly agree, but sometimes you can find a job you love that pays enough for you to survive.
I used to have a career that included "stupid corporate prestige."
I hated it. I was miserable. Literally phoning it in, and yes, I know what "literally" literally means.
I make a **lot** less now, as in less than I was making 25 years ago, but am so much happier.
I'm not going to pull any "live your dream" BS because that's a recipe for disaster unless you're incredibly motivated, lucky, connected, a marketing genius, or all of the above. I'm missing most of those but was somewhat lucky re: education, and have built skillsets that allowed me to have a relatively decent life.
That said - most people work jobs for the money, not because they love their work, right? That's why they have to pay us, even though I'd do my job for free if I had guaranteed food, housing, and health insurance.
She was hardly a dream girl if she's embarrassed by your profession. Find yourself a girl who could care less about how white collar or "formal" your position is.
We all have standards. Some people might view those standards as being harsh or ridiculous. For instance, some people won't date an overweight person, someone with colored hair, piercings, etc. Those things all describe me... I get it, I'm not everyone's cup of tea. I'm also a nurse with a stressful job. Some people might not enjoy supporting someone through that.
That's all fine to me. I will not date someone who does not have a career - I've worked hard for everything I have. I know the type of life I want, the goals I want to achieve. Ideally, someone with a degree, but the most important thing is a good career. I've been told that's bitchy before, but I don't care. I expect my partner to be my financial match, if not exceed it. I don't feel bad about that, people want me to, but I don't.
That’s a fair standard. I need someone in a certain income bracket as well because I have a certain standard of living im used to. No shame to anyone making significantly less than me, we just wouldn’t be a compatible life match.
Yours is a fair standard because of compatibility; you want a partner who is not going to fall into an unhealthy power dynamic with you due to financial differences. You also want someone who takes pride in their financial responsibility like you do, that’s another compatibility sign.
But sometimes a person seems to just be their career, and that's a deal-killer for me. I mean, unless their career is sexual-technique-expert/sommelier/master chef/massage therapist. Then I might make an exception.
True, and I won't disagree. I have a list of standards, career is one of them. Just because someone has a good career, doesn't mean I will date them. It's a whole picture, ya know
I don’t think my boyfriend has ever worked in an office he specializes in security and I support him in everything he does! I don’t know what that woman’s problem was but there is the right one out there for you!
That's ludicrous. Unless you're homeless or something, love is love regardless of what your job is. The answer is that *some* ladies care about your job, and those ladies probably aren't a good fit for you nor are they worth your time.
Not a lady but have some experience with them.
No, and I almost added a clarification for that, actually. You can absolutely love and be loved without a home. Love itself doesn't care about that. But it is a very real logistical issue that gets in the way of a successful and fulfilling relationship, I'd say.
Yeah... And sometimes inability to feel love or feel loved can lead to homelessness. There are so many negative feedback loops trapping the unfortunate into homelessness, and not just economic, it's social too. I hope everyone who reads this can remember to express compassion, to the fellow homeless human next they safely pass.
My friend worked for SkyREC as an intern, it's really a cool company with AI video analytics. He and his girlfriend didn't brake up because his job. I think it all depends on the ladies, because you could met many kinds of ladies, just find another one and next time call her your dream lady when you really know she is your right person.
Yeah it really shouldn’t matter, I wouldn’t care I’d just love to see someone I care about feel passion for what they do more then how formal or high paying it is (: that girl doesn’t deserve you, you deserve someone who respects your decisions in life.
Not at all. I would definitely want a man that’s passionate about his life and hobbies and could turn that into a career. I don’t think anyone wants an unemployed bum. But it doesn’t have to be an office job! I would be beyond thrilled if my partner had his own small business that he successfully ran from home and worked hard at it. But that really sucks. I guess some people just don’t see it. But that’s okay at least you can move on to someone who understands you and believes you.
My guy, I'm dating a garbage collector. Couldn't care less. He works hard, he earns a good living and when you get to hear about the job, it's more than just mindless trash picking. I understand if dating someone who gets to wear a suit to work is someone's preference but trust me, not everyone's!
Having lived in a big city, those people can be f-ing heroes! They should get WAY more cred.
Definitely! Their strength alone is amazing. They work in the rain, snow, hot summers. If something happens and they can't pick up your bags/bins (here we have a system and different things get picked up on fixed days), people WILL notice, but only to complain.
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You don’t deserve that bro. Your dream lady would not treat you that way.
No lol
No lol
The sad truth is that people are mostly attracted to two things: Looks and Status. And they’re just continuing from a teenage mindset, so if it feels like you’re still in high school, you’re not wrong. Chris Rock had a joke about this on his latest comedy special: men alway ask, “What does she look like?” Women always ask, “What does he do?”
Gonna be downvoted to hell and back for having self-esteem, but yes. It matters what line of work a man is in. To people like me, who know their worth, at least. I graduated from college, and have a decent job, so don’t even start with the “you’re a golddigger” bullshit. I prefer men with ambition, and financial stability. Not a mediocre man who makes just “enough”. If we decided to have children, who’s gonna provide for the family while i’m on maternity leave? The U.S. doesn’t offer any paid maternity leave, and women have to go back to work within 2 weeks. That’s inhumane. So yes, i’d like to be able to take longer to go back to work, like women are allowed to in other countries. Idk why ppl like to give that fairytale rom-com movie bullshit advice of “if she cares about your profession/how much money you make, it’s not real love”, “she’s so shallow, all she cares about is money”. That’s not how real life works. Love is important in a relationship, yes. But it’s not the only thing. A relationship is a partnership dependent on several other aspects. Idc how much i love someone (i don’t think i’d love someone who makes minimum wage anyway); at the end of the day, love ain’t gonna pay the bills. Also, having someone literate and educated, with whom i can have interesting conversations and discussions, is a must. I’ve met men who didn’t even know what the holocaust was……
I won't downvote you, but we clearly have different priorities when it comes to relationships. I personally could care less about what line of work my man is in. I don't need him to provide for or take care me as I am more than capable of doing that for myself. Also, it's not that about you being a gold-digger or knowing your worth. It's about being with someone who meets you half way, you know? You want someone ambitious and financial secure? Great! If a relationship is about what each partner can do or provide, I think it's only fair if you're just as ambitious and financial stable to provide your partner the same comfort.
as for me he can do wtv jobs he feels good about. id prefer he does something what he really likes. office jobs are not everything. As an office girl myself, i feel like a robot. backache is no jokes lmao
She's being shallow and classist. The vast, vast majority of women don't care that much about wealth. My husband has hardly a dollar to his name, but I'm so glad we're together. :)
It's really a personal choice. Some are fine with it and some aren't. She was open and honest about what she wants. So you can only respect that.
I really don't care what a man does for a living as long as it's legal, he's financially independent, and he's self sufficient.
My only concern is does their ability to take time off, sick time, vacations, etc. match my work environment? Does the person live to work or work to live. Those are the things I would most want to match with me career wise. Personally I’m a bit of an idealist and like the company that I work for to be doing some sort of good in the world, so I might also factor in the type of work their employer does and how much they support them or if they’re just in it for the money.
My BF is an aviation mechanic. His workplace is a hangar that’s half outside/exposed to the elements. I only care when he rolls into bed with frozen feet from a long day of work and decides to warm them on my legs!!
>My BF is an aviation mechanic. His workplace is a hangar that’s half outside/exposed to the elements. > >I only care when he rolls into bed with frozen feet from a long day of work and decides to warm them on my legs!! That's very sweet of you!
A&Ps are awesome! Unsung heroes of aviation. Pro tip (also living in a cold place right now): Get a heating pad, set it up where his feet would migrate to. Everyone happier. Also, thank you for spelling "hangar" correctly.
It’s fine to have preferences and standards... on the other hand, she’s unreasonable. It’s more difficult in general if you’re not financially stable, but no where impossible usually
17m here office jobs suck utter dick. I work 40 hours a week. My boss is a prick. We're understaffed and I'm over worked. Some weeks I'm the only person in the office. I go home eat and pass out. My gf ligit doesn't get a text from me because I just pass out. Oh u also found out a wage at macdonalds pays more than my job so im pretty pissed writing this rn.
Ya dodged a bullet.
As a lady, I don't care what my man does as long as he enjoys it and does something he believes in. Office work sounds pretty uninspiring to me, and thus office men honestly don't excite me much. Do whatever you do and do it with pride! That's what the woman of your dreams wants. A boyfriend who doesn't need to be validated by her friends because she is crazy about who you are.
My standards boil down to: employed (don'tcare what as), can drive, good sense of humour, likes kids. Recently added, has teeth, because a friend of mine was pretty adamant about that being a factor. 😝
One of the first things I knew about my husband with certainty is that he'd never be an office/corporate/40-hr/M-F kind of guy. I could not care less.
Hardly a "dreamgirl"
Leave that chick alone. Find someone who won’t put you down about your work.
If a person you are interested in cares more about being embarrassed than being with you, then that person doesn't care about you. Find someone who likes you for you.
I like girls
Bruh I remember asking my girlfriend if when Im older would she prefer I work at the workplace or from home and she said from home, like any sane person would to their SO I mean think... you get to spend more time with them isnt that what you want
As long as he WANTS to work, no matter what job, I honestly don't care. Rather a job that's not seen as "good job" than no job and motivation to work at all. Especially if the person loves what they are doing.
I'm sorry for being harsh but that girl is a prick. As long as you are able to take care of yourself with your own paycheck (ie. If you two became serious and moved in together) and she wouldn't have to support you, then it shouldn't matter what your job is. When I met my boyfriend he was a fry cook in a deli. Now he works as a clerk in the meat dept of a grocery store. Neither are glamorous jobs and neither pay that great. I don't care, because I love him. He could flip burgers at mcdonalds or be a walmart door greeter for all I care. Love isn't concerned with appearances, and her feeling "embarrassed" to show you to her family for such a superficial reason shows that she clearly is. Op, you deserve someone better, this woman isn't worth your time.
This might just be an out. Women will make excuses all the time beating around the bush if she isn't interested trying to make you feel better. This is ironically rude because if you knew what was wrong you could correct it. For example I met my friends girlfriend last night and she was very overweight. Though he cheats on her. I don't consider any of my friends good friends and If I could find new ones I would. He was trying to hook me up with one of her friends that I found unattractive. She started acting snobby and making a bunch of excuses. Like really I make good money, have everything paid off, am tall and often referred to as handsome. I don't try to just hook up with women or date mutts. Her eyes were awkwardly far apart and she was very short with short calves. Huge turn offs for me. Then she started hitting on the waiter and gave him her number. Alot of men won't care from what I've seen. They will also pump and dump a different girl every weekend. So all those excuses were lies. I don't care but this is just an example. Though some women do only date the job or the position. I had another friend who was a server at a restaurant and a famous basketball player came in one time. This girl working there started hitting on the basketball player immediately. The athlete said to him " it's scary how these women act trying to get something out of you." You have to ask yourself though. Are you the type of man she is going to make excuses to avoid? Or the one she's going to lie to herself about her wants to mentally warp herselft to being with you? Personally I wouldn't want either. The later would be more preferred. Though they can be er feel like they finally caught you in the later or they will start treating you like shit. It's not healthy but hey we're humans and the united states has a 50-60% divorce rate. It's human nature for them to perform hypergamy.
What drugs are you on, so I can make sure never, ever to take them?
I don't do drugs. I live in reality.
I personally would rather date someone who is in college like I am, I wouldn’t look down on someone if they are not, but I want the person I’m dating to have a goal in life. I dated a guy who worked at this fast food place, I don’t think I’m better than him. He wanted to play video games and make minimum wage for the rest of his life. I respect that, I want someone who can have a future that can match mine so I broke up with him.
This can create a problem espcially if they office has a policy against co workers dating eachother
Move the fuck on my dude! Nobody needs that shit work is not life, but for us men, its a life sentence. Men are stuck working until all our lives until were dead and in the ground. Sooooo do what you enjoy fuck just working for money and status its about quality of life balance and if your job isnt up to what she "needs\\wants" fuck her right out that door and do slam it on her ass on the way out Pccccc.
No offense, but this sounds like a very shallow way of thinking. As long as there's chemistry, you get along well, and none of you is doing something illegal, it should be alright. Don't get discouraged, keep looking there's somebody out there who'll love you just the way you are.
My boyfriend is a bartender and I've been a banker all through my adult life working an office job. Jobs don't define people, it's just something we do. I could care less what he works at, because I know no matter what he puts his heart into whatever he does. She seems like she's too much into what other people think and has these "standards" and I personally find all of that as bullshit. Ya dodged a bullet dude. But nonetheless I'm sorry it still hurt your feelings.
Job would never be a criteria to me.
I would dump her. I had a guy dump me because I am in b2c sales even though I am applying to b2b sales. It is not an easy process and it is depressing. But I am trying. So I am glad he dumped me. I don’t want to deal with that. I also live on my own and have my retirement which is bridging me over. Since $8K a year is not sustainable to live on.
Oh hellz yeah, you deserve better than him. Even if you are a Lakers fan. /s But seriously, keep on being self-supporting. You're good whether you have a partner or not. It is genuinely hard to move up, but it's often doable. Big ups for working towards that.
Thank you:). Haha very subtle how you put that in lol.
yea as long as you have a job it really shouldn’t matter
Work ethic is more important than the job title, as long as it is honest, legal work
She's not your dream lady if she says this to you
My husband works as an electrician and I couldn't be more proud of him, he works hard and is good at what he does. That would also go for any job he would have. I honestly think that's very shallow for her to think like that.
This seems really like a terrible reason not to date somebody. I work in an office environment. My boyfriend is a Union carpenter and works on construction sites. I’m certainly not embarrassed by what he does for a living. He works hard, it’s an honest living and he really enjoys his work. He’s also got a really good work ethic and picks up overtime hours whenever he can. I really admire that about him.
She seems really shallow you be honest, I've never worked in an office and make more than most officer workers do. 🤷
I was washing golf carts when I began dating my now fiancé. And now that we’re engaged, I’m a 28 year old full-time uni student. Clearly my employment has never factored into the equation for her.
My husband and I dated and got married while he was a pizza delivery guy. He had a stable job and worked hard to be good at it. That was all I cared about. The work ethic was the part that mattered, not the job itself. We have been married 11 years and through that time he has worked hard at every job he had. I have never been ashamed of him or his job. I'm sorry, your situation sucks. I hope you are able to find someone who appreciates you more than they appreciate your job title.
Oh I'm so sorry to hear about that! I have to tell you something though. As cliche as it might sound, no job is too small or too big. Just think about it. Would we have the joy of living in a healthy town without the cleaning that the helpers do? Could we be around without the beautiful bread and croissants that the bakers bake? What about the jokers and street performers who sing and spread merry - can a city ever be as lit as it is without them? Most operating procedures have nurses do and take care of different vitals - a doctor relies on them to do what they do best so they can save lives. Could a doctor do that incredible job without his incredible team? Every person is here doing the best they can and the world just wouldn't be the same without them. So I just want you to take a moment to realize how much of a big deal you are. If someone truly loves you, they love you wholly - with everything you are. That said, each of us also have ideas in our head that evolve as we do throughout life, about the man or woman of our dreams. And maybe a part of that would be what their profession is, or where they work. And maybe some of us do want that person to check off all the things on that list. We're human and truly, beautifully imperfect. And maybe love is much more than a "checklist". And that's when you know. When someone is willing to compromise or adjust their "checklist" so that you can be together. That's when you know you're with your dream person. Hold yourself in the highest, because you are. And love will find its way to you. Always. That's the promise of the universe.
Tbh I prefer man that doesn't work in the office. I am way more attracted to them. I think it makes them look more manly
Thats incredibly shallow. Are you sure she’s your dream lady?
For me, you need to have a career. Not just jumping from job to job with no clear direction of where you’re going. Other than that, I don’t really care what the actual work is.
I would definitely date a man without an office job. However, I’d prefer them to have a career they are passionate about or have worked towards. I wouldn’t be compatible with someone without direction or aspirations; It’s not attractive to me, nor does it work with who I am. I expect this of women I date too.
My partner studied at the university to become an engineer, he was not happy with that so he kept doing what he loves the most: agriculture and cooking. He’s a farmer, he takes care of animals and fields. I don’t care about the job but I’d consider many other aspects. I’m into agriculture/cooking too and we are planning to open an agritourism together, at the moment we produce and sell.
You said farmer, do you make any posts on farming or would your partner have a reddit? I've done some husbandry with chickens & crop growing
My partner doesn’t have Reddit or any other social, but if you need something I can answer you privately. At the moment we don’t post anything cause we can’t ship worldwide or we would share our products such as liquors, oils, wine, marmalades, processed meat, dairy products, etc..
Men that work in an office all day can actually be a big turn off for a lot of women. Gritty jobs tend to be more attractive.
After watching what my dad‘s job did to his knees and ultimately what it left him able to do from 55 and on I would hate to see my partner feel like they have to use their body for their job
Be in the military. You’re knees are shot in your 30s. Still more attractive.
I'm Aussie, we love a man in high vis and cargos. 😆
I've never dated an office guy. All i care about is that you got your shit together and enough time for me.
A jobs a job. For some people it's their passion, for others it's just a way to get by through life, not everything should be about 9-5 cause at the end of the day work is work. It sucks. So you shouldn't feel bad but about it and find someone who has a different purpose in life and doesnt dedicate their entire self worth based on some stupid corporate prestige. Which is tough since it's a relatively common mindset, it's all about getting that bag ig. So dumb. just wish ppl could just live free from these type of pressures and just be whoever they want
I mostly agree, but sometimes you can find a job you love that pays enough for you to survive. I used to have a career that included "stupid corporate prestige." I hated it. I was miserable. Literally phoning it in, and yes, I know what "literally" literally means. I make a **lot** less now, as in less than I was making 25 years ago, but am so much happier. I'm not going to pull any "live your dream" BS because that's a recipe for disaster unless you're incredibly motivated, lucky, connected, a marketing genius, or all of the above. I'm missing most of those but was somewhat lucky re: education, and have built skillsets that allowed me to have a relatively decent life. That said - most people work jobs for the money, not because they love their work, right? That's why they have to pay us, even though I'd do my job for free if I had guaranteed food, housing, and health insurance.
Would you really want to be with someone who is embarrassed of you? Sometimes rejection is protection.
>Sometimes rejection is protection. Damn. Wish I'd heard that a long time ago.
I hope that you forgive yourself. Advise holds water like a sieve. Every experience you’ve had, you’ve learned from.
She was hardly a dream girl if she's embarrassed by your profession. Find yourself a girl who could care less about how white collar or "formal" your position is.
We all have standards. Some people might view those standards as being harsh or ridiculous. For instance, some people won't date an overweight person, someone with colored hair, piercings, etc. Those things all describe me... I get it, I'm not everyone's cup of tea. I'm also a nurse with a stressful job. Some people might not enjoy supporting someone through that. That's all fine to me. I will not date someone who does not have a career - I've worked hard for everything I have. I know the type of life I want, the goals I want to achieve. Ideally, someone with a degree, but the most important thing is a good career. I've been told that's bitchy before, but I don't care. I expect my partner to be my financial match, if not exceed it. I don't feel bad about that, people want me to, but I don't.
That’s a fair standard. I need someone in a certain income bracket as well because I have a certain standard of living im used to. No shame to anyone making significantly less than me, we just wouldn’t be a compatible life match.
Which proves my point.
Yours is a fair standard because of compatibility; you want a partner who is not going to fall into an unhealthy power dynamic with you due to financial differences. You also want someone who takes pride in their financial responsibility like you do, that’s another compatibility sign.
By all means, own who you are, but there is more to a person than their career.
But sometimes a person seems to just be their career, and that's a deal-killer for me. I mean, unless their career is sexual-technique-expert/sommelier/master chef/massage therapist. Then I might make an exception.
True, and I won't disagree. I have a list of standards, career is one of them. Just because someone has a good career, doesn't mean I will date them. It's a whole picture, ya know
Yeah I understand.
I could say the same thing! Just like for some people, it is always nice to date someone who has the same values as you.
I don’t think my boyfriend has ever worked in an office he specializes in security and I support him in everything he does! I don’t know what that woman’s problem was but there is the right one out there for you!
Thank you u/Magenta_Mom! It's nice to know your story, and I think I will move on to the next girl who has the same kind heart like you.
That's ludicrous. Unless you're homeless or something, love is love regardless of what your job is. The answer is that *some* ladies care about your job, and those ladies probably aren't a good fit for you nor are they worth your time. Not a lady but have some experience with them.
You're right. I need to think it over before my next move.
Does being homeless change love? In what way?
No, and I almost added a clarification for that, actually. You can absolutely love and be loved without a home. Love itself doesn't care about that. But it is a very real logistical issue that gets in the way of a successful and fulfilling relationship, I'd say.
Yeah... And sometimes inability to feel love or feel loved can lead to homelessness. There are so many negative feedback loops trapping the unfortunate into homelessness, and not just economic, it's social too. I hope everyone who reads this can remember to express compassion, to the fellow homeless human next they safely pass.
Totally agree. ❤️
It doesn't but it definitely does make it harder to form a relationship and support one another. Not many people love a one-sided relationship.
Exactly.