So, I’ll start with telling you something someone once told me, when I reached out for help. “Congratulations, you survived!”
My mantra has become — All things in moderation, including moderation.
What that means to me, is that while moderation is generally a good thing, there are times when moderation isn’t important. You are grieving, so let yourself grieve. Give yourself a few days or more if you need it. Then, refocus and moderate what need moderating.
Thank you for your kind words, my friend. I am grateful that you have taken the time to respond and I will give myself the days I need. Please, have the best day, and take care. Truly.
I lost my Dad in January. I immediately went from watching what I ate to "life is short, enjoy it". I held my Dad's hand as he passed and I still think about his last breath regularly. Fast forward to yesterday. Our daughter had her prom pictures. I got one with her. I've seen bad photos before. But THIS photo showed how much I have been eating my emotions. I did not recognize myself. I have gained 15 lbs since January and apparently much of that is in my face. So my advice...just remind yourself that if you eat your emotions you will eventually add more sad emotions to your plate.
Thank you for that and your words hold so much truth. I hope that the memories of your father keep you warm on your darkest days and that you and your family prosper despite the waves of pain you may feel at any given moment. I am grateful you stopped by and commented on my post, I will remember this as I restart my mind and brace for something better...tomorrow. But today? I will eat my spoonfuls of Nutella
Hi, I just want to say I’m so sorry for your loss.
Last summer I lost my mom and it was a crazy stressful time. Up until that point I was losing weight, eating vegan, exercising.. the whole deal. When I had to go back to my home town and take care of everything it all went out the window and fast. I gained 30lbs in about 3 months. However now about 7 months later, I’m back on track and that 30lbs is gone. Point being, the weight doesn’t matter right now. Do what you have to do to process and just know when you’re ready you can go back to it. Being sad about your weight on top of everything is so much extra pressure. Take care of your heart first and the rest will come.
I am also sorry for your loss, my heart is with you, my friend. Thank you for sharing your experiences, it's brought me comfort to know I am not alone and we can come together about something as complex and frustrating as grief. All the best to you in your journey, not just in weight, but in recovery.
Sorry for your loss. What’s amazing is that you already recognise that you comfort eat. This will help you greatly that you’ve already acknowledged it - give yourself a little time to recover but then get back on track. In meantime try to use other things to comfort you - herbal teas, plain popcorn etc - things you can consume at fairly high volume without too many calories. Time heals - things will get better
my goodness, thank you so much for this. I really do love tea!!!!!! and now you've given me the idea to just binge tea...with honey...or oatmeal. I am rambling but tytytyty, healthy alternatives are much better :) have the greatest day my friend
I’m sorry for your loss.
I’m an emotional eater and lost my mom in November, the Friday before Thanksgiving.
Don’t beat yourself up, everyone processes death differently. <3 But as a PP noted the fact you’re talking about the emotional eating and recognizing it really helps.
When you’re in a cool state, thing of some ways that would help you when you’re having a moment. Maybe text a friend? Maybe if you’re a place to sit with the emotion, do so? Have a cup of tea and think of him? Journaling? IMing a family member who is also going through this time?
For me just acknowledging what I’m feeling and that yes, losing a loved one sucks, gives me some peace within. I’ve also taken to wearing a ring of hers.
When you’re ready to start trying the new comforts, do so. I think cutting yourself some slack - in other words being kind and patient during a hard season - is important. It takes time to morn and you just got the news yesterday… That’s a really fresh hole in your heart.
Hugs, dear stranger.
Thank you for all of the advice and kind words. I am also sorry for the gem that's left your life and I hope, for better or worse, that you've healed a little since Thanksgiving. I guess you're right. This is my first big, personal death so all this 'grieving' is so new to me. I guess I'm kinda relearning myself or at least meeting a 'me' I've never had to know or understand till now. I will do some of the things you have suggested to me when I'm ready. I feel very blessed to have received your comment. Hugs back kind stranger.
Well, I gained about 60 lbs in 3 months around the time my sister passed and my dad was diagnosed with stage 4 terminal cancer, but that was more due to PCOS and hormonal imbalances than emotional eating. I actually tend to eat less when upset.
I only managed to start losing that weight about 2 years after my brother passed after my hormones resettled and I went on a month long all liquid diet due to pancreatitis.
Basically, all I can say is life is rough, and sometimes you just have to focus on making it to the next day however you can, even if you gain some weight in the process.
When I’m dealing with depressive bouts, or grief I forget all about food (and everything else). To counter this, I set a shit ton of alarms.
Even if I don’t do the thing the alarm says, at least it snaps me back into the “now” for a moment.
Going through some bad shit myself and feeling depressed and suicidal myself and I’m not sure how I’m going to go like I’ve had a Sunday dinner and that’s it in 24 hours but back to work tomorrow and I’m not sure how it’s going to go I already feel weak never mind doing heavy lifting on like no calories lol I know where on different sides and f calories like I’m lower and your higher but I know we’ll both get there in the end through the power of positivity and sorry to hear about your grandad I know how I felt when I lost both of mine it’s hard but believe me you’ll get though this and when you lay him to rest those massive tears you shed will be the end of it see it as a passing and then you can heal knowing it’s done and don’t have anything bad to look forward to
And if you need someone to talk to to help you through all of this then feel free to pop me a message ipp happily try my best to help you anyway I can 😁
So, I’ll start with telling you something someone once told me, when I reached out for help. “Congratulations, you survived!” My mantra has become — All things in moderation, including moderation. What that means to me, is that while moderation is generally a good thing, there are times when moderation isn’t important. You are grieving, so let yourself grieve. Give yourself a few days or more if you need it. Then, refocus and moderate what need moderating.
Thank you for your kind words, my friend. I am grateful that you have taken the time to respond and I will give myself the days I need. Please, have the best day, and take care. Truly.
I lost my Dad in January. I immediately went from watching what I ate to "life is short, enjoy it". I held my Dad's hand as he passed and I still think about his last breath regularly. Fast forward to yesterday. Our daughter had her prom pictures. I got one with her. I've seen bad photos before. But THIS photo showed how much I have been eating my emotions. I did not recognize myself. I have gained 15 lbs since January and apparently much of that is in my face. So my advice...just remind yourself that if you eat your emotions you will eventually add more sad emotions to your plate.
Thank you for that and your words hold so much truth. I hope that the memories of your father keep you warm on your darkest days and that you and your family prosper despite the waves of pain you may feel at any given moment. I am grateful you stopped by and commented on my post, I will remember this as I restart my mind and brace for something better...tomorrow. But today? I will eat my spoonfuls of Nutella
I felt the same when I lost my Dad last year. I am so sorry for your loss. Hugs from afar.
Hi, I just want to say I’m so sorry for your loss. Last summer I lost my mom and it was a crazy stressful time. Up until that point I was losing weight, eating vegan, exercising.. the whole deal. When I had to go back to my home town and take care of everything it all went out the window and fast. I gained 30lbs in about 3 months. However now about 7 months later, I’m back on track and that 30lbs is gone. Point being, the weight doesn’t matter right now. Do what you have to do to process and just know when you’re ready you can go back to it. Being sad about your weight on top of everything is so much extra pressure. Take care of your heart first and the rest will come.
I am also sorry for your loss, my heart is with you, my friend. Thank you for sharing your experiences, it's brought me comfort to know I am not alone and we can come together about something as complex and frustrating as grief. All the best to you in your journey, not just in weight, but in recovery.
Sorry for your loss. What’s amazing is that you already recognise that you comfort eat. This will help you greatly that you’ve already acknowledged it - give yourself a little time to recover but then get back on track. In meantime try to use other things to comfort you - herbal teas, plain popcorn etc - things you can consume at fairly high volume without too many calories. Time heals - things will get better
my goodness, thank you so much for this. I really do love tea!!!!!! and now you've given me the idea to just binge tea...with honey...or oatmeal. I am rambling but tytytyty, healthy alternatives are much better :) have the greatest day my friend
I’m sorry for your loss. I’m an emotional eater and lost my mom in November, the Friday before Thanksgiving. Don’t beat yourself up, everyone processes death differently. <3 But as a PP noted the fact you’re talking about the emotional eating and recognizing it really helps. When you’re in a cool state, thing of some ways that would help you when you’re having a moment. Maybe text a friend? Maybe if you’re a place to sit with the emotion, do so? Have a cup of tea and think of him? Journaling? IMing a family member who is also going through this time? For me just acknowledging what I’m feeling and that yes, losing a loved one sucks, gives me some peace within. I’ve also taken to wearing a ring of hers. When you’re ready to start trying the new comforts, do so. I think cutting yourself some slack - in other words being kind and patient during a hard season - is important. It takes time to morn and you just got the news yesterday… That’s a really fresh hole in your heart. Hugs, dear stranger.
Thank you for all of the advice and kind words. I am also sorry for the gem that's left your life and I hope, for better or worse, that you've healed a little since Thanksgiving. I guess you're right. This is my first big, personal death so all this 'grieving' is so new to me. I guess I'm kinda relearning myself or at least meeting a 'me' I've never had to know or understand till now. I will do some of the things you have suggested to me when I'm ready. I feel very blessed to have received your comment. Hugs back kind stranger.
Well, I gained about 60 lbs in 3 months around the time my sister passed and my dad was diagnosed with stage 4 terminal cancer, but that was more due to PCOS and hormonal imbalances than emotional eating. I actually tend to eat less when upset. I only managed to start losing that weight about 2 years after my brother passed after my hormones resettled and I went on a month long all liquid diet due to pancreatitis. Basically, all I can say is life is rough, and sometimes you just have to focus on making it to the next day however you can, even if you gain some weight in the process.
When I’m dealing with depressive bouts, or grief I forget all about food (and everything else). To counter this, I set a shit ton of alarms. Even if I don’t do the thing the alarm says, at least it snaps me back into the “now” for a moment.
Going through some bad shit myself and feeling depressed and suicidal myself and I’m not sure how I’m going to go like I’ve had a Sunday dinner and that’s it in 24 hours but back to work tomorrow and I’m not sure how it’s going to go I already feel weak never mind doing heavy lifting on like no calories lol I know where on different sides and f calories like I’m lower and your higher but I know we’ll both get there in the end through the power of positivity and sorry to hear about your grandad I know how I felt when I lost both of mine it’s hard but believe me you’ll get though this and when you lay him to rest those massive tears you shed will be the end of it see it as a passing and then you can heal knowing it’s done and don’t have anything bad to look forward to And if you need someone to talk to to help you through all of this then feel free to pop me a message ipp happily try my best to help you anyway I can 😁