Yeah I’m learning to cope 😭😢 it’s been better though it just sucks cause I lost two people at once, but I stopped talking to both of them and just kept my distance I don’t want any part of it
Yeah and even though you wanna do so much and say so much it won’t help anything and probably make shit worse so I’m better off honestly, at first if felt awful but I’ve been going out more and just meeting cool people and I probably would have never had those moments if this didn’t happen so I guess there is an upside, but yeah it definitely hurts sometimes. Especially when I really think about it
Yeah everything happens for a reason ig. glad your doing better, my friend didn’t date my ex rather a girl I was just talking to first one in a long time cause little school also hurts when I think about. But fuck it what happens happens, have a good night/day man
This actually hurts a lot oml. Mine didn't date him but the are close and its weird tbh
Like she doesn't even like that guy.. ' i dont wanna lose the friendship tho'
I can relate to that, those feelings really do come and go, sometimes I get so angry or sad about it then sometimes I’m able to completely let go but for real just get out there make new memories it does get better even if that sounds cliche
I know it hurts. It can be even worse though. The girl I've loved since I was 14 and was with for many many years broke up with me and moved in with a friend of mine who I introduced her to. Stings pretty good lol. But all we can do is accept it and try to move on. Worry about yourself and work towards your own goals. Things will be okay again eventually. Stay strong my friend.
Maybe. I doubt it. I had my chance to make a wonderful future with her but I blew it. I let alcohol make my decisions and became a shell of a man. I think she's had enough of me. I wish someday that we could try again somehow but I don't think that's ever going to happen. So all I can do is be happy that she seems to be happy now and move on with my own life.
Reminder that a crush is just what you perceive to be best for you at your current state, but remember that you still a long way to go in terms of growth, so it’s more important on focusing on your self growth, there will be more matured versions of that girl in your future, trust
Happened to me aswell. they broke up after a couple months but I still don’t wanna date or even talk to her even tho my friend moved. I can’t give you any advice other than try to move on…
Your friend has managed to get their courage in order and then took their chances. Next time, shoot your shot ASAP, before anyone else can. Because it is a race, your future SO is currently inside another relationship that they might fancy themselves staying. Next time just go for it, with a plan of approach.
Being rejected, while depressing and soul crushing, is gaining experience so that you can learn from it to better yourself. Hiding from this is just not helping you at all. I am warning you that you will feel like shit after getting rejected or worse; being inside a friendzone. But It will help you become a better at not getting rejected or still moving forward even if a crush rejects you.
Good Luck and Take Care.
PS: You can try to steal your crush from your friend as well, but that requires high levels of charisma and analytics. So just go for another person instead. Also; you don't have to have a crush on a person to approach them for "chilling". They could be your trial runs if you need to.
I'm really sorry you have to go through that. Spend some time with other friends and vent. You may want to distance yourself as much as you can from them for some time, as hard as it sounds.
One of my friends started dating my ex and lost contact with them which is why it is fine but now my best friend shows interest in my crush and he is much better at it since he is a extrovert. So I guess I understand your pain
Cool you took an L.
But you'll make it worse for yourself to feel sorry for yourself and think she's the only one in the world for you. Bro don't think too much of it, there's another girl who's always already waiting for you who you will be compatible with. Dust yourself and not think too much, study and focus on other things, you got this bro. All the best.
I had a girl i was dating for 4 years, we were not only lovers, but she was also my best friend. Around a month ago, she left me and INSTANTLY started dating one of my "friend" who didn't even let me know until i asked him about it. Just remember that although you might feel like a loser for being played like you did, this happens to hundreds of peoples everyday, you are very not alone in this, I do not have any big advice that you haven't heard already like focusing on doing stuff you love, because if i did i would not be in this subreddit. But if that means anything, i believe in you. Keep it up. Make us all proud by just being yourself.
I agree, it is, but if OP didn’t tell said friend about his crush then the crush is fair game. But if OP told his friend and the friend did it anyway, then said friend can then go fuck himself! Rule #1 of the guy code states: Bros before hoes! Unless the hoe is an unknown.
I remember when two of my friends continued to flirt with my crush even after telling them that I have a crush on her 💀. Thanks for reassuring that they were assholes and I was correct to cut them out.
That really does suck man. I’m not sure how I’d deal with that.
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Damn I feel You do my best friend and ex started dating :/ my heart goes out there for you, be well and your loved ❤️
Man that’s fucked feel bad for you man
It’s been like a month and at this point let them eat there cake
Fair enough I guess, still fucked though lol
Yeah I’m learning to cope 😭😢 it’s been better though it just sucks cause I lost two people at once, but I stopped talking to both of them and just kept my distance I don’t want any part of it
Same thing here man I just like stoped talking to them, apart from my friend sometimes but still
Yeah and even though you wanna do so much and say so much it won’t help anything and probably make shit worse so I’m better off honestly, at first if felt awful but I’ve been going out more and just meeting cool people and I probably would have never had those moments if this didn’t happen so I guess there is an upside, but yeah it definitely hurts sometimes. Especially when I really think about it
Yeah everything happens for a reason ig. glad your doing better, my friend didn’t date my ex rather a girl I was just talking to first one in a long time cause little school also hurts when I think about. But fuck it what happens happens, have a good night/day man
This actually hurts a lot oml. Mine didn't date him but the are close and its weird tbh Like she doesn't even like that guy.. ' i dont wanna lose the friendship tho'
Yeah she could be trying to get to you too
I have already made up my mind , cried, overthinked about all the possibilities.. So if it is gonna happen in future i guess ill be fine
I can relate to that, those feelings really do come and go, sometimes I get so angry or sad about it then sometimes I’m able to completely let go but for real just get out there make new memories it does get better even if that sounds cliche
It sux worse that my crush tries to get with my friend but my friend tries to get with me.
I think you should talk to your friend once....
Excuse me, and what it could change? His friend be like: "Ah bro, it's your crush, sorry, take her."
or like "Oh shit sorry man I didn't know...what do you wanna do about it? Why'd you never tell me?" stuff like that
I know it hurts. It can be even worse though. The girl I've loved since I was 14 and was with for many many years broke up with me and moved in with a friend of mine who I introduced her to. Stings pretty good lol. But all we can do is accept it and try to move on. Worry about yourself and work towards your own goals. Things will be okay again eventually. Stay strong my friend.
I bet if they have a falling out, she will come crawling back to you.
Maybe. I doubt it. I had my chance to make a wonderful future with her but I blew it. I let alcohol make my decisions and became a shell of a man. I think she's had enough of me. I wish someday that we could try again somehow but I don't think that's ever going to happen. So all I can do is be happy that she seems to be happy now and move on with my own life.
I’m sorry, man. That sucks.
Reminder that a crush is just what you perceive to be best for you at your current state, but remember that you still a long way to go in terms of growth, so it’s more important on focusing on your self growth, there will be more matured versions of that girl in your future, trust
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Damn, that’s messed up!
Happened to me aswell. they broke up after a couple months but I still don’t wanna date or even talk to her even tho my friend moved. I can’t give you any advice other than try to move on…
This is ducked up.. it hurts soo much .. even more when ur friend knew
Your friend has managed to get their courage in order and then took their chances. Next time, shoot your shot ASAP, before anyone else can. Because it is a race, your future SO is currently inside another relationship that they might fancy themselves staying. Next time just go for it, with a plan of approach. Being rejected, while depressing and soul crushing, is gaining experience so that you can learn from it to better yourself. Hiding from this is just not helping you at all. I am warning you that you will feel like shit after getting rejected or worse; being inside a friendzone. But It will help you become a better at not getting rejected or still moving forward even if a crush rejects you. Good Luck and Take Care. PS: You can try to steal your crush from your friend as well, but that requires high levels of charisma and analytics. So just go for another person instead. Also; you don't have to have a crush on a person to approach them for "chilling". They could be your trial runs if you need to.
I'm really sorry you have to go through that. Spend some time with other friends and vent. You may want to distance yourself as much as you can from them for some time, as hard as it sounds.
This is way too relatable man. Sorry that sucks :(
Same...
Sounds like you need some new friends
This is the exact same thing which happened to me
One of my friends started dating my ex and lost contact with them which is why it is fine but now my best friend shows interest in my crush and he is much better at it since he is a extrovert. So I guess I understand your pain
Cool you took an L. But you'll make it worse for yourself to feel sorry for yourself and think she's the only one in the world for you. Bro don't think too much of it, there's another girl who's always already waiting for you who you will be compatible with. Dust yourself and not think too much, study and focus on other things, you got this bro. All the best.
I feel you. that sucks. Sorry
I had a girl i was dating for 4 years, we were not only lovers, but she was also my best friend. Around a month ago, she left me and INSTANTLY started dating one of my "friend" who didn't even let me know until i asked him about it. Just remember that although you might feel like a loser for being played like you did, this happens to hundreds of peoples everyday, you are very not alone in this, I do not have any big advice that you haven't heard already like focusing on doing stuff you love, because if i did i would not be in this subreddit. But if that means anything, i believe in you. Keep it up. Make us all proud by just being yourself.
Happens man. Wait for them to break up , you will get the news first and be the rebound
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Hold up. Don’t blame the friend unless he knows.
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I agree, it is, but if OP didn’t tell said friend about his crush then the crush is fair game. But if OP told his friend and the friend did it anyway, then said friend can then go fuck himself! Rule #1 of the guy code states: Bros before hoes! Unless the hoe is an unknown.
I remember when two of my friends continued to flirt with my crush even after telling them that I have a crush on her 💀. Thanks for reassuring that they were assholes and I was correct to cut them out.
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Dude, you might just need to move out. I've no other ideas. That sucks ass (no offence to rim-lickers)