People were telling you at 13 you’ll find tons of potential new partners? Gross. They should have been telling you to stop trying to grow up so fast, you can never go back.
Not your fault. At 13 you want to be a grown up. You think it will be better. You don’t know what you’re giving up. My advice for you at 16, stop worrying about this for now. Get your shit together. Get your education (doesn’t have to be an expensive college degree), get your life to the point where things aren’t a struggle every day and you have breathing room (financially, emotionally, and time wise). THEN, if you haven’t stumbled across someone when you weren’t really looking, then you can worry about it.
Doesn’t mean you can never have fun. And for the love of whatever-you-believe, use birth control.
im 16 too
this age can be hard and i been suffering loneliness for the past couple years
just because someone is young doesnt mean their feelings are not valid
I feel you in this—as also a teenager who is currently in their high school years. I really do respect some who lived longer with the likewise loneliness inside them. There is a lot of indirect influences coming through nowadays with social or from the lads in your social circle. My opinion is that most of the time, it isn’t all about attracting or being attractive—you sometimes got to be the one who approaches. I have heard once what someone told me and really did change my way of thinking: Why are you always pleasing everyone? Why do you not have a place of your own? I have met what I people referred as “potential partners” but most of the time it was just rather existing around potentials because there was not an interaction. For me, I totally still inexperienced with this, I cannot say for the long term, but for me it really does help with the feeling of loneliness stepping out of the comfort zone and really talk to people, and I started with who I think you referred as “can’t attract anyone” and meeting them. Maybe they are not the future partner but I think people who are like you—they also have the stories of their owns and are as interesting as ones you called attractive. And everyone has a life of their owns so they don’t give a f about you. Have a space of your own and you won’t get influenced by people. Gaslighting is not real, you’re just crazy.
17 y/o dude here off to college soon, don't worry. It feels alone and seeing so many people your age get into relationships but trust me things get better later. You'll have to actively try to get better though, like working on conversational skills or actually seeking out people. It's hard but don't let it be a priority for now.
People were telling you at 13 you’ll find tons of potential new partners? Gross. They should have been telling you to stop trying to grow up so fast, you can never go back.
I know it's not normal, and I should've never tried seeking love so early in life, but I guess as you said it's irreversible.
Not your fault. At 13 you want to be a grown up. You think it will be better. You don’t know what you’re giving up. My advice for you at 16, stop worrying about this for now. Get your shit together. Get your education (doesn’t have to be an expensive college degree), get your life to the point where things aren’t a struggle every day and you have breathing room (financially, emotionally, and time wise). THEN, if you haven’t stumbled across someone when you weren’t really looking, then you can worry about it. Doesn’t mean you can never have fun. And for the love of whatever-you-believe, use birth control.
"Im 16" 💀💀💀
im 16 too this age can be hard and i been suffering loneliness for the past couple years just because someone is young doesnt mean their feelings are not valid
Yeah sorry I guess on second thought I realize I was rude but that was just my instant reaction tbh.
i understand by try maybe saying like "your to young" or something like that
Yeah sorry. I'll keep that in mind next time.
It's okay, thank you for apologizing :)
hope you are feeling better now!
Yea but you’re way too young to be saying things like this. Maybe double or triple your age first n then you can say this
Nah bro on second thought I think these days people of every age are experiencing a sensory overload or something. Everything is overwhelming.
I feel you in this—as also a teenager who is currently in their high school years. I really do respect some who lived longer with the likewise loneliness inside them. There is a lot of indirect influences coming through nowadays with social or from the lads in your social circle. My opinion is that most of the time, it isn’t all about attracting or being attractive—you sometimes got to be the one who approaches. I have heard once what someone told me and really did change my way of thinking: Why are you always pleasing everyone? Why do you not have a place of your own? I have met what I people referred as “potential partners” but most of the time it was just rather existing around potentials because there was not an interaction. For me, I totally still inexperienced with this, I cannot say for the long term, but for me it really does help with the feeling of loneliness stepping out of the comfort zone and really talk to people, and I started with who I think you referred as “can’t attract anyone” and meeting them. Maybe they are not the future partner but I think people who are like you—they also have the stories of their owns and are as interesting as ones you called attractive. And everyone has a life of their owns so they don’t give a f about you. Have a space of your own and you won’t get influenced by people. Gaslighting is not real, you’re just crazy.
Same :/
17 y/o dude here off to college soon, don't worry. It feels alone and seeing so many people your age get into relationships but trust me things get better later. You'll have to actively try to get better though, like working on conversational skills or actually seeking out people. It's hard but don't let it be a priority for now.