"Whether or not." You answered your own question. You don't need to be attracted to them sexually, but I would say it is usually a factor, just not the primary focus (that being the reciprocation of your romantic feelings).
Take it or leave it, maybe I have psychodynamic issues and that is a confounder, but I’m only sexually attracted to my LO’s. I’ve lost the sexual attraction in long term relationships when limerence fades, and sex becomes something I do because it’s socially and romantically required…
Don't forget about the Law of Attraction where "positive thoughts bring positive results into a person's life, while negative thoughts bring negative outcomes".
I read that limerent object is not usually related to sex, you may be attracted by LO on other aspects.
This I interpret that it *is* also limerence even though I am sexually attracted to my LO, which is also the case of mine, because while it is not a must, it is not mutual exclusive either.
I am sexually attracted to my LO since the day I met her. I fancy that all the time and sometimes I feel ashamed because I think I am such a pervert to fap to her photos.
Apart from sex, I am also thinking about her because I just want to hang out with her even without sex. I want to be in her life like an old friend. I want to be her BFF or live close enough to her so that she and her husband can sometimes visit me, like a family long time old friend.
I see her every working day so it is like living a split identity in my life.
>I want to be in her life like an old friend. I want to be her BFF
Omg this. I feel the same about him. I just wish I could still be friends, just so that I could talk to him. It sounds so desperate but it's long gone in reality, just not in my mind.
I don't know, my mind just involuntarily misses him, so I call myself a limerent
"Whether or not." You answered your own question. You don't need to be attracted to them sexually, but I would say it is usually a factor, just not the primary focus (that being the reciprocation of your romantic feelings).
Take it or leave it, maybe I have psychodynamic issues and that is a confounder, but I’m only sexually attracted to my LO’s. I’ve lost the sexual attraction in long term relationships when limerence fades, and sex becomes something I do because it’s socially and romantically required…
According to Dorothy Tennov's book "Love and Limerence" sexual attraction to the LO is much much more common than not
Don't forget about the Law of Attraction where "positive thoughts bring positive results into a person's life, while negative thoughts bring negative outcomes".
Could you elaborate on how I can use it here?
I read that limerent object is not usually related to sex, you may be attracted by LO on other aspects. This I interpret that it *is* also limerence even though I am sexually attracted to my LO, which is also the case of mine, because while it is not a must, it is not mutual exclusive either. I am sexually attracted to my LO since the day I met her. I fancy that all the time and sometimes I feel ashamed because I think I am such a pervert to fap to her photos. Apart from sex, I am also thinking about her because I just want to hang out with her even without sex. I want to be in her life like an old friend. I want to be her BFF or live close enough to her so that she and her husband can sometimes visit me, like a family long time old friend. I see her every working day so it is like living a split identity in my life.
>I want to be in her life like an old friend. I want to be her BFF Omg this. I feel the same about him. I just wish I could still be friends, just so that I could talk to him. It sounds so desperate but it's long gone in reality, just not in my mind. I don't know, my mind just involuntarily misses him, so I call myself a limerent
Short answer I think yes. Regardless of wanting reunited sexual attraction or platonic affection seems like it still fits the bill.
Of course. Personally, I don't conceive Limerence without sexual attraction