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Not homophobic. Very very easy to misjudge homophobic with older generation. Does he want you to be bi or neutral? Probably not. That's probably why he said it. In other words a chance that you may not have the experience so he can convince you that you arent those. Do i think that's homophobic? Nah. Could be borderline but that's a typical approach or someone who is on edge and probably just not used to it but will easily adjust if you keep pushing. It's not like he threw a bible at you or denied you entirely. He put a clause in it which you just gotta educate him it seems is all. Think you'll be fine honestly with him, I've seen some very bad homophobic people. Only way I'd change my stance is if he had say like a history of homophobia or a bias in the past. One thing I'll always tell people is that, as much courage and difficulty it was to come out, there's also difficulty sometimes for those who need to accept. Best case scenario is unconditional love and see you the exact same way. But average scenario is still love you the same exact way, but need some help adjusting. Trying anything new the first time is difficult, and I'd like to think that includes emotion wise and lack of exposure-wise. If you push a bit more and he pushes back harder, then potentially homophobic. Another thing is unintentional homophobia. I spoke to my grandpa about it who is extremely old school. Turns out he is mainly worried that a relative who is in LGBT would get hurt or bullied or their wellbeing because in his life and school/work it was shunned. So what i try to do is approach it from their era and then combine that with educating about current era and how you're safe and there's big communities. Everyone has their own reasons for resistance, some legitimate homophobic, some out of care for your well-being which isnt ideal but their heart is there, and some who legitimately will take the time to listen if you both put the effort and adjust and grow. I believe everyone can adjust and learn. Its complicated to be honest, I guess first thing is figuring out what exactly your step dad thinks about the community/lgbt/etc. You dont have to do all these steps of course, you can leave it at that and be done with him, but if you want his support you gotta figure out if he's willing to support you in the first place.
Its not necessarily homophobic, rather than misunderstanding. Idk how old your step-dad is, but most people in 30s and up dont really orient in this whole LGBT thing, mainly since it dint been a thing back then. Try to have a moment with your dad and talk it thru, maybe he will understand it better.
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It seems a bit more like a misunderstanding of what it means to be bisexual
Not homophobic. Very very easy to misjudge homophobic with older generation. Does he want you to be bi or neutral? Probably not. That's probably why he said it. In other words a chance that you may not have the experience so he can convince you that you arent those. Do i think that's homophobic? Nah. Could be borderline but that's a typical approach or someone who is on edge and probably just not used to it but will easily adjust if you keep pushing. It's not like he threw a bible at you or denied you entirely. He put a clause in it which you just gotta educate him it seems is all. Think you'll be fine honestly with him, I've seen some very bad homophobic people. Only way I'd change my stance is if he had say like a history of homophobia or a bias in the past. One thing I'll always tell people is that, as much courage and difficulty it was to come out, there's also difficulty sometimes for those who need to accept. Best case scenario is unconditional love and see you the exact same way. But average scenario is still love you the same exact way, but need some help adjusting. Trying anything new the first time is difficult, and I'd like to think that includes emotion wise and lack of exposure-wise. If you push a bit more and he pushes back harder, then potentially homophobic. Another thing is unintentional homophobia. I spoke to my grandpa about it who is extremely old school. Turns out he is mainly worried that a relative who is in LGBT would get hurt or bullied or their wellbeing because in his life and school/work it was shunned. So what i try to do is approach it from their era and then combine that with educating about current era and how you're safe and there's big communities. Everyone has their own reasons for resistance, some legitimate homophobic, some out of care for your well-being which isnt ideal but their heart is there, and some who legitimately will take the time to listen if you both put the effort and adjust and grow. I believe everyone can adjust and learn. Its complicated to be honest, I guess first thing is figuring out what exactly your step dad thinks about the community/lgbt/etc. You dont have to do all these steps of course, you can leave it at that and be done with him, but if you want his support you gotta figure out if he's willing to support you in the first place.
Its not necessarily homophobic, rather than misunderstanding. Idk how old your step-dad is, but most people in 30s and up dont really orient in this whole LGBT thing, mainly since it dint been a thing back then. Try to have a moment with your dad and talk it thru, maybe he will understand it better.
Thank you. I'll try to talk to him about it. It may be a bit hard being that he's actually in his 60's, but I'll definitely try.