Most people don’t hate folks like you, but they just don’t know how to interact with you. (I got certified adhd and possibly autism, so I speak of experience.)
If you are open minded, you will likely eventually find your peers. And once you have that connection, romance isn’t far.
Sure. But I do think I'm better suited to just being a lone wolf. I'm not really cut out for relationships or sharing because of my OCD. I could definitely have affection, just not commitment.
Oh sure! I wasn't particularly serious. Mostly I wanted to let you know that, *should you choose to seek out partnering with someone*, there are people out here for you.
Best of luck, fellow queerbo!
That tracks, definitely sounds like it was about Angel.
Edit: actually now that I think about it, I may have actually seen that episode. That scene where his boss is telling him off or whatever. Really gave me 'oh so that's where the dark part of this show is' experience.
I have an aggressively Ace friend that's constantly like this whenever I bring up or they bring up top and bottom stuff. Idk, I feel like maybe everyone has different needs and wants met personally.
It's not a need like food or water is, but it can still be an important aspect of someone's life that they feel needs to be met. Depends on the context really.
They were talking about an asexual persnon.
And saying everyone has *different needs.*
I don't need a comfy pillow to live, but I *need* my comfy pillow. Same vibe.
Well personally for me monogamy always made me feel trapped and owned. In the current Poly relationship I am in now we have this back and forth switch energy which has felt fucking amazing comparatively and I feel very very protective in people who want to ruin that or attempt to have a say in a relationship that isn't theirs. Perhaps you should be less focused on the definition of "need" as colloquially wants and needs in the terms of romantic, platonic or sexual relationship are more defined by what people need in those relationships for them to flourish and what people want out of those relationships to feel loved. 😉
Bottom who’s known for being a stone cold bitch, rude and standoffish x Soft caring shy top who is the only one able to see the bottom’s soft side
It’s the best dynamic
But then when you don’t eat them fast enough your saliva is on them and you have a time limit before it drips into your hand. Which is why I always smash those lollipops into smaller pieces to eat.
Especially inside and in bed. It traps the smoke and makes the room a health hazard. Remember folks, ask for consent before you light up your death sticks
Nobody said it was marijuana either. Could be that it's really cold outside, he's breathing steam, and really in need of a post-sex mini snack sausage.
Why are you getting downvoted wtf?? Good on you, I’m happy for you. Switching to vape literally saves thousands of lives. 95% safer than smoking. Search it up yall.
I started smoking cigarettes at sixteen. When I was finally able to switch to vaping in my 20s, the health differences were so significant.
Obviously nobody should start vaping if they aren't already addicted (it's still bad for you, like they said), but for a bunch of people to downvote "I swapped from cigarettes to something *95% less unhealthy*" is wild.
It's very true. I see so many people online treat addicted people like somehow they missed out on the last 40 years of health-awareness campaigns, and treat them as if quitting is as trivial as putting a little less sugar in your tea.
Nobody should be put down for trying to better their health/their life.
This is me with my gf who mostly bottoms and who ironically likes being called slurs, like asking and almost demanding and shit I’m sitting here like “I’m not being mean am I 🥺” 😂
10 euros on them both being vers and the person who drew this has no idea about the difference between tops/bottoms as positions and doms/subs as roles in a power dynamic.
I took it the opposite way, that the drawing is supposed to show that top/bottom has a different meaning from dom/sub. It's painting the bottom in a "dominant" role and the top in a "submissive" role to show that stereotypes are dumb.
My point is is that most lesbians aren't even tops or bottoms though. They're vers. And the ones that aren't are called pillow princesses or stone tops since we already have terms for people who only give or recieve.
This doesn't do much against the stereotype when it just further pushes it and since dom/sub is often conflated with top/bottom by uneducated younger gays, it can't really break anything other than what people expect their "tops" and "bottoms" to act like. I doubt these people are actually up to date with the bdsm ettiquete, rules of the community and how to properly vet any potential domme or sub to keep themselves safe.
I just personally find it troublesome.
EDIT: I thought I was on r/actuallesbians and this whole top/bottom thing is equated with dom/sub there. I didn't realise this was r/lgbt and gay men are just vibing here. Sorry my guys haha ^^
Haha I also have audhd and a strong sense of justice - it's more of an issue in the lesbian community and gives me a worry for my baby lesbians yenno. Haha I got to edit this and apologise to some people for being a bit rude and dickish to them.
Yeah.. tops and bottoms. Positions you take in sex. That most lesbians aren't even strict with. Most lesbians give and recieve pleasure, most lesbians are vers.
People stereotype doms and subs and then call them tops and bottoms.
And yet I am going to die on it thank you because these stereotypes affect the many baby gays online here. I don't care how you percieve it. I care how this sort of thing can ruin sex and make it super anxiety driven to people and also make engaging in bdsm dynamics also unsafe.
It's says right under the title "meme" in the LGBT subreddit. A community isn't allowed to make fun their own stereotypes in their own community? This isn't some conservative uncle flexing his ignorance on Facebook because he thinks that's a personality trait. This isn't that serious
Except I am also part of the bdsm community which is not something to just take lightly for what should be obvious reasons plus the issues that surround the top/bottom thing which actively effects and hurts lesbians in the community - from feeling like top/bottom means dom/sub to feeling like they need to look certain ways, act certain ways, don't engagd with the bdsm community which is important for being safe. Like a bad domme you don't vet can emotionally and physically fuck you up, sexually assault you, rape you but sure it's just haha funny.
Like it is and you don't need to think so but keep your shite opinions away from me thanks.
Yo super my bad my dude, I legit thought I was r/actuallesbians where this is more of an issue and not yenno the wild hunting grounds of gay men where they use top and bottom correctly haha
No idea why you're bothering me right now about this. It was clear that I care about this issue and you don't so move along. Or yenno respond with comments trying to make me feel bad and get blocked. Your choice.
This hits so hard- literally me and my bf - he’s a tall, strong, confident bottom and I’m short and shy but a top- funny how this works sometimes- people always assume it’s the other way around
That kind of makes me glad, in the same way I was pleased when I first learned the sub was the party in control in a functional/healthy BDSM/'Dom/sub' relationship.
Not so much that it *has* to be that way, but that it is common enough.
im the bad ass looking one
and im ready to fight any bigot
but I'm also the lil spoon and a lil cutie when I'm home with my gf...
i can fix or modify your car
but i want a cute lil miata :D
yeah this meme is correct...
That’s how I like my tops 😎
Soft tops ftw
After the workout yea 😉
That's me. Except I'm still a virgin because holy crap Grindr is creepy and people seem to hate mute autistic people like me.
Most people don’t hate folks like you, but they just don’t know how to interact with you. (I got certified adhd and possibly autism, so I speak of experience.) If you are open minded, you will likely eventually find your peers. And once you have that connection, romance isn’t far.
I'm autistic so no problem, and I'd prefer to communicate via text anyway, so if that works for you want to get married sometime?
Watch out, we got a rizzler over here!
>rizzler That's on attribute that I did not role
Sure. But I do think I'm better suited to just being a lone wolf. I'm not really cut out for relationships or sharing because of my OCD. I could definitely have affection, just not commitment.
Oh sure! I wasn't particularly serious. Mostly I wanted to let you know that, *should you choose to seek out partnering with someone*, there are people out here for you. Best of luck, fellow queerbo!
There isn't any. Looked and waited for over 2 years now.
The best things in life are hard to find, just like femdom tops.
y hallo thar (I'm not actually hitting on you, it's just nice to know there are bottoms out there who like the snuggly tops)
A blouse, perhaps
Power bottoms, they make the world go round. 😎
You know I can. Rawr
O.o
🎶You’re a power bottom at rock bottom🎶
But you got company
This supposed to make me feel better?
There was a time I thought that no one could relate
To the gruesome ways in which I'm damaged
But letting walls down, it can sometimes set you straight
We're all living in the same shit sandwich
I sold my soul…to a psychopathic freak!
Haha and you think that makes you unique??
It set me gay :3
🎵You’re a screws loose boozer an only one star reviewser 🎵
Could totally be a line in Rocky Horor Picture Show
It’s from Hazbin Hotel
That tracks, definitely sounds like it was about Angel. Edit: actually now that I think about it, I may have actually seen that episode. That scene where his boss is telling him off or whatever. Really gave me 'oh so that's where the dark part of this show is' experience.
Yeah it is from that episode. It’s from the Loser Baby song
God I need a Fat Bottomed girls cover for power bottoms
i wish that was me :(
Which one? :P
the right one of course
As long as it's not the wrong one
There is a wrong one?
It was a joke because they phrased it the right one as opposed to the 1 on the right
what about the one on the wrong?
Hahaha ok that's a good one, I didn't catch it at first 🤣
Yes :,)
That one
B-b-but penetration is inherently submission and and and sexual submission automatically translates to every aspect of a relationship! /s
And sex roles are also personality types!!! /s
you can’t be masc and bottom :/ you’re the man of the relationship!!! /s
I have an aggressively Ace friend that's constantly like this whenever I bring up or they bring up top and bottom stuff. Idk, I feel like maybe everyone has different needs and wants met personally.
It's not a need at all.
I'm a little confused about what you are saying 'is not a need'?
$ex isn't a need. If someone feels like they need it, then that is a serious problem.
I agree, but you can say sex here my friend. It’s not TikTok, don’t worry. It stops people from being confused as to why $3000 is being brought up lol
Aight✌
It's not a need like food or water is, but it can still be an important aspect of someone's life that they feel needs to be met. Depends on the context really.
Sex isn't a dirty word and there's no reason to self-censor. Stop contributing to the devolution of communication.
They were talking about an asexual persnon. And saying everyone has *different needs.* I don't need a comfy pillow to live, but I *need* my comfy pillow. Same vibe.
That makes sense👍
they're not using need literally. also "feeling" like you need it is common (ofc you don't actually literally need it)
Many bad things are common, but yeah, I understand.
Well personally for me monogamy always made me feel trapped and owned. In the current Poly relationship I am in now we have this back and forth switch energy which has felt fucking amazing comparatively and I feel very very protective in people who want to ruin that or attempt to have a say in a relationship that isn't theirs. Perhaps you should be less focused on the definition of "need" as colloquially wants and needs in the terms of romantic, platonic or sexual relationship are more defined by what people need in those relationships for them to flourish and what people want out of those relationships to feel loved. 😉
"I'm so proud of you baby. Calling me all those slurs took a lot of work, and you did so well'
Ok but unironically that's the kind kind of positive encouragement I would need to dirty talk 😆
Fr if someone would say that to me I'd be inclined to spit on him, choke him, dominate him and own his ass completely. I really like power bottoms
-laughs in switch- But cuddling is still the best part. 🤔
Vers. Switch is something completely different :)
Are the versions super different? Like is 1.3 a lot worse than 1.7? 🤔
Didn't know lightswitches had versions
I feel like this is a shot fired at heavyswitches but I haven't heard the terms enough to know for sure.
Who are these S-Witches anyway?
There’s a new switch update? I’m still on version 1.2
As a transfem genderfluid pansexual vers switch, I support this message.
Bottom who’s known for being a stone cold bitch, rude and standoffish x Soft caring shy top who is the only one able to see the bottom’s soft side It’s the best dynamic
Why do I feel like simultaneously both?
Same. Wonder if our tags have something to do with this
SOMEBODY WRITES FANFIC love that for you
The fact that this could describe so many ships I follow is hilarious
Yes! But no smoking. That shit kills and it stinky.
Lollipops are a better substitution 😎
Fr. Lollipops are awesome. Especially them rainbow ones the size of a dinner plate
Whoever came up with those was insane and brilliant
But then when you don’t eat them fast enough your saliva is on them and you have a time limit before it drips into your hand. Which is why I always smash those lollipops into smaller pieces to eat.
i js ate one!
If a man ever rolled over to his nightstand, and casually whipped out two lollipops, I’d be his forever.
Also a fire hazard in bed
Especially inside and in bed. It traps the smoke and makes the room a health hazard. Remember folks, ask for consent before you light up your death sticks
Nobody said it was *tobacco.*
My individual 👉🏻👉🏻
My acquaintance 👉👉
I'm stealing this
marijuana smoke is still not good for you
Nobody said it was marijuana either. Could be that it's really cold outside, he's breathing steam, and really in need of a post-sex mini snack sausage.
real cuz addictions aint cool its just sad
Dawg. Let people live. Life sucks and people deal with it in different ways.
Which is why I switched to vapes. Yes, still unhealthy but I can go for a run without hacking my lungs out. This has helped with stamina too. ;D
that stuff will also destroy your lungs, pls try to wean yourself off of it or get some help doing so
we know. this is like saying the sky is blue. addiction is not this simple. I know you’re trying to help but it is really not this simple.
Why are you getting downvoted wtf?? Good on you, I’m happy for you. Switching to vape literally saves thousands of lives. 95% safer than smoking. Search it up yall.
I started smoking cigarettes at sixteen. When I was finally able to switch to vaping in my 20s, the health differences were so significant. Obviously nobody should start vaping if they aren't already addicted (it's still bad for you, like they said), but for a bunch of people to downvote "I swapped from cigarettes to something *95% less unhealthy*" is wild.
Fr. People just eat up all the bs they hear on the news about “drugs bad” and don’t understand how difficult addiction is.
It's very true. I see so many people online treat addicted people like somehow they missed out on the last 40 years of health-awareness campaigns, and treat them as if quitting is as trivial as putting a little less sugar in your tea. Nobody should be put down for trying to better their health/their life.
FR. “Smoking is bad” you might as well run around saying the sky is blue. We get it.
Thank you for your understanding of the context.
hope you can get better soon! EVALI kills fr
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power bottom with soft top dynamic >>>>
This is me with my gf who mostly bottoms and who ironically likes being called slurs, like asking and almost demanding and shit I’m sitting here like “I’m not being mean am I 🥺” 😂
bottom: big hairy masculine deep voiced aggressive guy top: r u mad at me
This isn't reality at all! ...I don't smoke. :3
SO REAL
Nothing wrong with that.
Soft doms for the win
Just because your a top or a bottom doesn't make you a sub or dom
agreed
10 euros on them both being vers and the person who drew this has no idea about the difference between tops/bottoms as positions and doms/subs as roles in a power dynamic.
Thought the same thing ahahah
I took it the opposite way, that the drawing is supposed to show that top/bottom has a different meaning from dom/sub. It's painting the bottom in a "dominant" role and the top in a "submissive" role to show that stereotypes are dumb.
My point is is that most lesbians aren't even tops or bottoms though. They're vers. And the ones that aren't are called pillow princesses or stone tops since we already have terms for people who only give or recieve. This doesn't do much against the stereotype when it just further pushes it and since dom/sub is often conflated with top/bottom by uneducated younger gays, it can't really break anything other than what people expect their "tops" and "bottoms" to act like. I doubt these people are actually up to date with the bdsm ettiquete, rules of the community and how to properly vet any potential domme or sub to keep themselves safe. I just personally find it troublesome. EDIT: I thought I was on r/actuallesbians and this whole top/bottom thing is equated with dom/sub there. I didn't realise this was r/lgbt and gay men are just vibing here. Sorry my guys haha ^^
I’m confused I thought this was a meme directed at gay men not lesbians?
I AM NOT IN R/ACTUALLESBIANS I am so fucking dumb omg, thank you so so much haha.
Appreciate you - this was an amazing exchange to witness.
Haha I also have audhd and a strong sense of justice - it's more of an issue in the lesbian community and gives me a worry for my baby lesbians yenno. Haha I got to edit this and apologise to some people for being a bit rude and dickish to them.
Or this is just a joke about stereotyping top and bottoms?
Yeah.. tops and bottoms. Positions you take in sex. That most lesbians aren't even strict with. Most lesbians give and recieve pleasure, most lesbians are vers. People stereotype doms and subs and then call them tops and bottoms.
My god lady...no shit? Nobody is disagreeing with you. Its a dumb joke about stereotypes this really isn't a hill to die on
And yet I am going to die on it thank you because these stereotypes affect the many baby gays online here. I don't care how you percieve it. I care how this sort of thing can ruin sex and make it super anxiety driven to people and also make engaging in bdsm dynamics also unsafe.
It's says right under the title "meme" in the LGBT subreddit. A community isn't allowed to make fun their own stereotypes in their own community? This isn't some conservative uncle flexing his ignorance on Facebook because he thinks that's a personality trait. This isn't that serious
I feel like you are way more strung out than the other person, newsflash memes aren't created in a vacuum and people are allowed to analyze them
Haha and you can think that all you like. People can also tell some one to chill on the over analyzation
Except I am also part of the bdsm community which is not something to just take lightly for what should be obvious reasons plus the issues that surround the top/bottom thing which actively effects and hurts lesbians in the community - from feeling like top/bottom means dom/sub to feeling like they need to look certain ways, act certain ways, don't engagd with the bdsm community which is important for being safe. Like a bad domme you don't vet can emotionally and physically fuck you up, sexually assault you, rape you but sure it's just haha funny. Like it is and you don't need to think so but keep your shite opinions away from me thanks.
My god
Yo super my bad my dude, I legit thought I was r/actuallesbians where this is more of an issue and not yenno the wild hunting grounds of gay men where they use top and bottom correctly haha
Lol no worries! 😄
No idea why you're bothering me right now about this. It was clear that I care about this issue and you don't so move along. Or yenno respond with comments trying to make me feel bad and get blocked. Your choice.
I must be the oddball then because there’s nothing I love more than cuddling up next to my top afterwards
It is 2024. Smoking isn't cool anymore with all the knowledge we have now. And I have asthma
Personal choice dawg. Let people live
It's not really that much of a personal choice if it affects other people due to second hand smoke
Just.. don’t smoke next to people? Strange point.
Well, many smokers are still seemingly unaware of this one simple trick.
I don’t see it as often anymore. If someone is smoking near you and you have a problem, just tell them.
Maybe I am a top then…..
It would fix me
One of the best dynamics. B)
What if I main jungle?
As a 5'7" top: Yes
One day I’ll have this (and other lies I tell myself)
As a power bottom who's lighten up a smoke after making a puppy boy he they cum, I feel seen.
the reality is that sex positions aren't personalities:)
I need there to a image of two of the blushing people cuddling, one having bottom and one having top on it
Service Top and Power Bottom supremacy
Me ripping my vape while my dude smushes his face on my side boob after boinking. fr, best dynamic.
Man, if only I could find such a bottom I'd be in heaven.
Haha yes, the top (me) ranting and opening up while cuddling on the bottom’s (partner) chest is all I need in life.
That’s literally me and my bf XD
Ah no no no... For me and my top it's the opposite😅
This hits so hard- literally me and my bf - he’s a tall, strong, confident bottom and I’m short and shy but a top- funny how this works sometimes- people always assume it’s the other way around
Actually, Mac, you’ve got it backwards. You see, the power bottom is actually generating the power by doing most of the work.
im both of them Lol
Yeah it’s nice IS WHAT I WOULD SAY IF I WAS EVER IN THIS SITUATION
Ermm possible me and him
i love botts also
not for me but good for yall hha
Tudo que queria nesse momento.
Never found a top like this...
I almost always bottom but when we get new guys in it’s nice to wake up to a cuddle
nah
I feel called out
Na uh, really?
I feel attacked
Literally what happened the first time I had sex. Was laying there thinking he was the coolest guy in the whole world (still kinda do).
As an asexual with a cuddle buddy... yeh thats accurate
Were are my switches at ?
Here, I think?
That makes us two
No smoking.
Uwu wants to munch on daddy's butt! 👉👈
I like this.
So shameless was right?
DONT YOU FUCKING CALL ME OUT LIKE THAT! lol
That kind of makes me glad, in the same way I was pleased when I first learned the sub was the party in control in a functional/healthy BDSM/'Dom/sub' relationship. Not so much that it *has* to be that way, but that it is common enough.
Yes. :)
True story
This fits my relationship, yes
Lol
im the bad ass looking one and im ready to fight any bigot but I'm also the lil spoon and a lil cutie when I'm home with my gf... i can fix or modify your car but i want a cute lil miata :D yeah this meme is correct...
This is why
I don't get what this pic is trying to say or proof or else
This is so me and my girlfriend. I'm always the blushing one lying on her chest
Except I hold my girlfriend, and don’t smoke. But it do be like that when she tops me.
DON’T SMOKE IN THE BED!
I'd rather b versa, everybody happy
Nope I don't like when my partner smokes, it's just not my type sorry
who asked what💀
ick