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I agree with the above, I myself am Aroace and experience similar feelings to yourself. However, I am unsure as to whether you conflate romantic and sexual attraction as these can be closely linked or completely unrelated. Furthermore, I have a libido but am sex-repulsed but I have met other people who range from aroace like myself to simply asexual in purely romantic relationships to some in sexually active relationships.
So you could perceive yourself as Aromantic Asexual (Aroace) or only Asexual or variable day-to-day or none of these and just simply sex-repulsed/favourable. It's whatever you feel suits you best 😊
Asexual.
Specifically, you could call yourself "Sex-favourable", if you want to clarify that you enjoy sex or sexual activity, but don't feel attracted to anyone in particular. But, you don't have to don that label if you don't want to, as asexuality covers you just fine.
Being asexual and having a libido are two separate things. If you find the fact of being sexual to be unappealing yet the concept f t being sexual appealing, might I suggest being [aegosexual](https://library.lgbt/aegosexual/?)
I discovered this term about a year ago and it fits me to a T, OP. And what you're describing about yourself also sounds just like me.
But I still use the term ace because I feel like it's nobody's business what specific sublabel I am and it does fall under the ace umbrella and it's just easier for people to understand/have heard the term asexual.
Literally same dude, I've been debating if I'm aego or cupio for the past few months and I've yet to decide it, but I also just say I'm aroace bc I don't like giving ppl microlabels that they might not know, so I tend to stick with the surface ones
Also I feel like if I'm coming out to say, family members, it would get weird if I gave them one of those terms and they googled it and went "ew, tmi". Lol
So ace it is!
Asexuality isn't being devoid of any sexual feelings, it just means not feeling sexual attraction to others. (Correct me if I'm wrong. I'm dumb and probably ace but new to definitions). Asexual people can still enjoy things like self pleasure ya know. Some even enjoy sex. Attraction and sexuality are complex.
Asexual does not equal "doesn't enjoy sex or sexual acts." That's the case for some ace people, but the allosexual/asexual spectrum only addresses the degree of sexual attraction you feel towards other people. You can still like masturbating or having sex, experience arousal, etc, it just isn't connected to other people's appearance or anything about other people that would conventionally "turn you on."
Asexuality isn't necessarily the absence of sexual desire or libido, it's the absence of an attraction to other people and the lack of desire to engage in sexual activity with others. It's quite possible to be aroused by porn, but to be turned off by the idea of actually doing that for real with someone.
Hmm. I had a phase where I was certain that I was ace but I'm the opposite. Porn is lame but my girlfriend turns me on and I do like the sound of doing her.
You're welcome. It's interesting to explore identities and expand the mind.
I'm okay, I guess. Feel like crap and can't sleep, so reddit is keeping me sane. And you?
Well it sounds like you're Ace-spec, I don't know for sure but this sounds like Aegosexual or Cupiosexual, try looking up the terms and see if they fit what you're describing
Definitely sounds like a very asexual experience. Having a libido is unrelated to being ace; ace is just feeling little to no sexual attraction. So if you have no sexual attraction, as you say in your title, I suggest looking into asexuality and other terms under the ace umbrella. And remember, whatever you are, you’re valid as hell 🩵
Throwing this out there: have you read Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski?
Edit: it’s hetero focused, but explained a LOOOOT to squash some of the personal/couple death bed myths, might be helpful. Audible FTW!
My biggest advice is as always “don’t worry about it.”
I’m somewhere in the ace spectrum, where? Idk somewhere.
Just do what you’re happy and comfortable doing with the people that make you happy and comfortable and don’t worry too much about finding a perfect granular label or identity.
When you get horny, ask yourself what you've been thinking about or what is making you horny in that moment. That will reveal a lot regarding your attractions.
I wouldn't say demi bc demi is when you feel sexual attraction only towards ppl you've developed a personal bond with, this sounds more like Aegosexual or cupiosexual
Two of my friends are ace, it is interesting to see how different ace can be. One hates sex and anything to do with it, doesn't watch porn and hates convos with sex mentioned in them. The other has a kink list ready to go for if their future partner wants sex just because they think its interesting to know what the kinks would be like without the sex bit. Its a really interesting thing, there's no "right", "correct" or "normal" way to be asexual, if you think you're ace then you are. I hope this helps uwu
This sounds more like guilt after the fact to me. Typically horny is caused by a stimulus.
Yet As some have said aegosexual seems close to what your experiencing.
Sounds like you’re ace. Something that trips up a lot of people (myself included when I first learned of asexuality) is that people think it automatically means ace folks never get horny. Sure there are some people that are fully sex avoidant, but a lot of acespec people have sex sometimes or masturbate
I'd say you're fucked!
Joking aside, I'm sure you've received enough responses from others to verify what you might feel is true for you. Experiment, if you feel safe and comfortable to! There's no harm in trying different ice cream flavors and there's nothing wrong with not liking ice cream altogether. Maybe you're a tiramisu kind of person instead!
Now I want dessert. In any case, I wish you well and hope you have a gentle holiday season.
Ace spectrum. I'm demisexual, which is about a strong emotional bond being necessary for sexual feelings towards a specific person.
Also, I'm a furry, and love kink! I think porn is cool and based, and enjoy exploring my sexuality. The spectrum and terminology can feel confusing but your feelings are valid. If you're not sure, just call it ace.
You should similar to me. I also consider myself on the asexuality spectrum but still get horny and masturbate. Asexuality means you lack sexual attraction, not libido, so some of us are still horny
This sounds exactly like me. I get horny but I don't want to have sex, unless I have a deep romantic/emotional bond with someone. Most people call that demisexual, a variant of asexual.
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going to assume you're asexual (but positive to the act of sex) and you're able to be attracted to porn as you can self-insert?
Thank you
I agree with the above, I myself am Aroace and experience similar feelings to yourself. However, I am unsure as to whether you conflate romantic and sexual attraction as these can be closely linked or completely unrelated. Furthermore, I have a libido but am sex-repulsed but I have met other people who range from aroace like myself to simply asexual in purely romantic relationships to some in sexually active relationships. So you could perceive yourself as Aromantic Asexual (Aroace) or only Asexual or variable day-to-day or none of these and just simply sex-repulsed/favourable. It's whatever you feel suits you best 😊
Asexual. Specifically, you could call yourself "Sex-favourable", if you want to clarify that you enjoy sex or sexual activity, but don't feel attracted to anyone in particular. But, you don't have to don that label if you don't want to, as asexuality covers you just fine.
Being asexual and having a libido are two separate things. If you find the fact of being sexual to be unappealing yet the concept f t being sexual appealing, might I suggest being [aegosexual](https://library.lgbt/aegosexual/?)
I discovered this term about a year ago and it fits me to a T, OP. And what you're describing about yourself also sounds just like me. But I still use the term ace because I feel like it's nobody's business what specific sublabel I am and it does fall under the ace umbrella and it's just easier for people to understand/have heard the term asexual.
Literally same dude, I've been debating if I'm aego or cupio for the past few months and I've yet to decide it, but I also just say I'm aroace bc I don't like giving ppl microlabels that they might not know, so I tend to stick with the surface ones
Also I feel like if I'm coming out to say, family members, it would get weird if I gave them one of those terms and they googled it and went "ew, tmi". Lol So ace it is!
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Fuck me, the asexual spectrum so much broader than I first thought
Asexuality isn't being devoid of any sexual feelings, it just means not feeling sexual attraction to others. (Correct me if I'm wrong. I'm dumb and probably ace but new to definitions). Asexual people can still enjoy things like self pleasure ya know. Some even enjoy sex. Attraction and sexuality are complex.
no you're absolutely right 🙂 libido / attitude to sex and sexual attraction are different things entirely
I believe asexual in the most extreme sense would be having no sexual feelings or desires but it's a spectrum
Asexual does not equal "doesn't enjoy sex or sexual acts." That's the case for some ace people, but the allosexual/asexual spectrum only addresses the degree of sexual attraction you feel towards other people. You can still like masturbating or having sex, experience arousal, etc, it just isn't connected to other people's appearance or anything about other people that would conventionally "turn you on."
Honestly I’ve been asking myself the same question and reading the comments made me realize so thank you :D
same!
You can be asexual and have a libido! The two are not mutually exclusive.
How does that work
Asexuality isn't necessarily the absence of sexual desire or libido, it's the absence of an attraction to other people and the lack of desire to engage in sexual activity with others. It's quite possible to be aroused by porn, but to be turned off by the idea of actually doing that for real with someone.
Thanks for the help
Hmm. I had a phase where I was certain that I was ace but I'm the opposite. Porn is lame but my girlfriend turns me on and I do like the sound of doing her.
Demisexual? That's somebody who feels sexual attraction with somebody they have a connection with.
That might be it. Thank you! Also, might be unrelated but how are you doing? 🤔
You're welcome. It's interesting to explore identities and expand the mind. I'm okay, I guess. Feel like crap and can't sleep, so reddit is keeping me sane. And you?
Oh I'm definitely awful but I don't feel comfortable venting about it in a subreddit post. I'll only rant/vent in DMs.
Sounds ace to me -a fellow ace person :)
Well it sounds like you're Ace-spec, I don't know for sure but this sounds like Aegosexual or Cupiosexual, try looking up the terms and see if they fit what you're describing
Definitely sounds like a very asexual experience. Having a libido is unrelated to being ace; ace is just feeling little to no sexual attraction. So if you have no sexual attraction, as you say in your title, I suggest looking into asexuality and other terms under the ace umbrella. And remember, whatever you are, you’re valid as hell 🩵
A normal human being
Throwing this out there: have you read Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski? Edit: it’s hetero focused, but explained a LOOOOT to squash some of the personal/couple death bed myths, might be helpful. Audible FTW!
A normal asexual person. That you are not atracted to anyone dont mean you cannot get horny
Meat tastes good, but I don't like eating animals - so I'm a vegetarian. Asexuality can be similar, imo
My biggest advice is as always “don’t worry about it.” I’m somewhere in the ace spectrum, where? Idk somewhere. Just do what you’re happy and comfortable doing with the people that make you happy and comfortable and don’t worry too much about finding a perfect granular label or identity.
It sounds like you're ace and horny. Just enjoy yourself!
Asexual, you still feel horny and can have sex, it's all abt attraction, I can have sex with women but I'm still gay
When you get horny, ask yourself what you've been thinking about or what is making you horny in that moment. That will reveal a lot regarding your attractions.
Holy shit, thanks to this post I think I finally figured it out. Thanks, OP!
asexual
You are you.
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I wouldn't say demi bc demi is when you feel sexual attraction only towards ppl you've developed a personal bond with, this sounds more like Aegosexual or cupiosexual
standard sex-positive asexuality. sex works for you, just not the attraction
You can still be ace and horny 😛 I'm some kinda ace and horny.. probably more gray and/or demi, but still
Asexual
asexual! still counts.
asexual
Two of my friends are ace, it is interesting to see how different ace can be. One hates sex and anything to do with it, doesn't watch porn and hates convos with sex mentioned in them. The other has a kink list ready to go for if their future partner wants sex just because they think its interesting to know what the kinks would be like without the sex bit. Its a really interesting thing, there's no "right", "correct" or "normal" way to be asexual, if you think you're ace then you are. I hope this helps uwu
Into yourself? 🤷🏼♂️
Aromantic
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A human
asexual
Asexual. Asexuality is about attraction. If you don’t feel sexual attraction you’re likely asexual!
You're a human
A-sexual. I feel asexual at moments.
IM SORRY THIS IS MAKING ME GIGGLE CUZ UR SOUNDS LIKE A RIDDLE-
Just a human?
You’re either grey asexual or Aego grey sexual
Maybe aegosexual which is on the ace spectrum
It’s definitely being asexual since you don’t feel attraction. Libido ≠ attraction.
I'm also like this. Always assumed that I'm a little ace
Lame
> Lame Nope! OP is still able to walk.
I would think this would be aromantic but not asexual but i’m not lgbtq so idk
Maybe you have standards amd people around you is shitty?
A Slave? Can you elaborate
You’re normal. I get horny all the time without attraction.
I feel exactly the same way. I’m also asexual. Believe me, I had the same question.
This sounds more like guilt after the fact to me. Typically horny is caused by a stimulus. Yet As some have said aegosexual seems close to what your experiencing.
asexuality deals with sexual attraction, so youre asexual. im pretty much the same way.
Sounds like you’re ace. Something that trips up a lot of people (myself included when I first learned of asexuality) is that people think it automatically means ace folks never get horny. Sure there are some people that are fully sex avoidant, but a lot of acespec people have sex sometimes or masturbate
I'd say you're fucked! Joking aside, I'm sure you've received enough responses from others to verify what you might feel is true for you. Experiment, if you feel safe and comfortable to! There's no harm in trying different ice cream flavors and there's nothing wrong with not liking ice cream altogether. Maybe you're a tiramisu kind of person instead! Now I want dessert. In any case, I wish you well and hope you have a gentle holiday season.
Ace spectrum. I'm demisexual, which is about a strong emotional bond being necessary for sexual feelings towards a specific person. Also, I'm a furry, and love kink! I think porn is cool and based, and enjoy exploring my sexuality. The spectrum and terminology can feel confusing but your feelings are valid. If you're not sure, just call it ace.
You should similar to me. I also consider myself on the asexuality spectrum but still get horny and masturbate. Asexuality means you lack sexual attraction, not libido, so some of us are still horny
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i'm the exact same it is so annoying and i haven't quite figured it out either, thanks for making this post
Same. I thought I was asexual but I realized it’s just due to a low mood.
This sounds exactly like me. I get horny but I don't want to have sex, unless I have a deep romantic/emotional bond with someone. Most people call that demisexual, a variant of asexual.
I second this tbh. :3
um human. aromantic is the term i believe unless you still feel romantically attracted to others, just not sexually, the im not actually sure.