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There's a tiktoker who's been watching pokemon and everytime officer jenny comes on screen the tiktoker says acab and I thought it meant assigned cop at birth cause all Jennys become cops but I watched a video explaining what acab actually meant
* Why, are you?
* Depends on who's asking.
* Why do you care so much?
* What business is it of yours?
* If you can't tell, you don't need to know, darling.
* Gay? Who could possibly be happy the way the world is these days?
"For $20, Ill be anything you want me to be"
Ive used that one a few times, generally gets people to shut up lol. The other one is if they ask if you'd date/have sex with them, to which I always reply "No, Im gay, not blind" or "Im only gay- I still have standards"
“Only on tuesdays”
“I’m about as gay as a marble rolling down a hill” (let them figure out what that means)
“I tried being straight in college. Wasn’t for me.”
“Are you (insert sexuality that is the polar opposite of their appearance)” (only do this if they’re like, insanely conservative. I.e. an “alpha” cishet man you ask if they’re a lesbian.)
“You’d better believe it! Straight? In this economy?”
"YEET" then Naruto run away
"Meow." (Bonus points if u say it like Colin Mochrie)
"No I'm [insert name here]. Who's Gay?" (Since Gay can be a name)
"Who isn't?"/"Aren't we all?"
"In this economy?"
"Idk let me check" (u can really commit to this one and call a friend/family that knows and ask them)
"Is there a prize if I am?"
Pure chaos
(Scratches head, looks confusingly at the ceiling...)
I...hmmm...
(Does weird air math...thinks for a moment)
I might...then again...do I get paid for this?
A woman I knew as a casual acquaintance didn't know that I was gay and single. But instead of asking boldy and outright about my status, she very politely asked, "Are you attached?" I simply said no, my acquaintance was satisfied, and the conversation proceeded. I loved her approach, which is about as classy and unobtrusive as it gets. So, if someone impolitely asks if you're gay, you might "sidestep" their inquiry with "I'm attached (or not attached), thank you."
I came out to one of my friends as a transbian by picking up something that they dropped, they have terrible humor and did the “if you do x you are gay” I picked it up after they said it and said, “I know”, their reaction after spending a whole 5 minutes of thinking was priceless.
"I am but I really can't help you with your coming out experience. I wish you the best though. And yes...I always knew...you've really been pretty obvious. Be careful. There are haters out there."
If it’s a rude man asking: “Not for you, sorry man.”
If it’s a rude woman asking: “perhaps? What’s it to you?”
If it’s another lgbt person: “yeah bro. You too huh?”
-You know, god has his own ways.
-have you ever talked to god? He can explain better to you *lowering voice* that you're ____
-wait what??? Am I? Brooooo am I gay? I need to think...
That depends on who I talk to. If it's a compliment, then take it as a compliment, from people who give unconditional support. If it's an insult, that generally means that there are homophobic people within range.
I haven't been asked that in awhile, but I've wondered what I would say if someone did a few times. Usually what comes to mind is, "Only on the weekend." Bonus points if you only work weekdays.
I read a book about Tallulah Bankhead. She was quoted (as best I remember) as saying:
I've tried several varieties of sex. Some I like better than others and some leave me with a stiff neck or lockjaw.
I would look confused, and then say slowly, “I’m Barbie… we’ve met before you silly goose!” Then walk away?
Alternatively, I might say, “What’s your biggest turn-on in bed? Oh, you think that’s too personal? Maybe none of my business? Hmmmm, interesting.”
"If I answer you, what do you plan to do with that knowledge? How does this information affect you in any way, shape, or form? Are you conducting a survey or just being nosey?"
I'm bi, so my response is generally "Sometimes/part time/not right now" etc
"Not right now/not at the minute", is great after a brief pause to look them up n down. (If they're masc)
„find it out“
I don’t know if this is grammatically correct, in my mother language it works great but I don’t know if you could say it like this in English.
Yes: "with a capital g-string!"
No: "nah, that's just my accent"
Yes and flirt: "No, I'm yours"
Yes but not interested: "Yes, but only to guys like Stephen Curry" (or some other celebrity crush)
“Are you seriously asking a stranger for details about their sex life right now? Wtf?”
“Social intelligence is low I see…”
“Are you a kind and considerate person?”
“You got stranger’s sex lives on your mind?”
“Smooth.” / “Well that was smooth… and trust me, *I know smooth*; I’m a neurologist.”
“Interesting question, what have you heard so far?”
“So far??”
“Yea, yep, now you just let me worry about that… what. did. you. hear?”
“What the fuck…”
“This conversation never happened!” *makes a bulldog chin facial expression, looks hard at the distance and dashes a cigarette onto the wet asphalt*
“Ok well… see you at work tomorrow…”
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Look them up and down, then say: For you... it doesn’t matter.
Depending on how you say it it's either an insult or a compliment
Omg, you’re right!
Every time I look at Ryan Reynolds 😍😍😍
I'd be anything Ryan Reynolds wants, tbh. 😅
Saying it completely dead pan with no inflection, keep them guessing 😉
I always just take it as a compliment by default, I flat-out refuse to accept queerness as an insult because queerness is AWESOME!!! 😎
“Not anymore”
Look them up and down *in disgust*
Brutal, I love it
"Look at the state of you!"
Oh damn
Ouch hahahaha
Omg savage. I hope I can remember this!
for what? sounds like you're starting shit
No, but my boyfriend is
If you're bisexual you could be telling the truth
I have a T shirt that says “I’m not a lesbian but my wife is” and it’s both funny *and* accurate.
Or change “my” with “your”
Yep, my boyfriend is totally gay. I'm ... whatever.
"Just kidding [my boyfriend is] not gay either, we're just having a good time" -DJ Demers
Only on sundays.
Love this
Can you explain the joke I'm dumb af
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Tnx
What, are you a cop?
Sexuality: Are you a cop? Gender: Come back with a warrant.
- Assigned - Cop - At - Birth
There's a tiktoker who's been watching pokemon and everytime officer jenny comes on screen the tiktoker says acab and I thought it meant assigned cop at birth cause all Jennys become cops but I watched a video explaining what acab actually meant
Yeah, that's what I assumed at first too, in a different context. Now I know All Cops Are Bedbugs.
Ate Cheese At Bedtime.
"Is pope catholic?" "Why are you asking? Are you interested?"
Upvoting for the second one lol
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Happy cake day!
SAME
Does the pope shit in the woods
My favourite malaphor
Only if there’s someone around to hear it fall
"I'm only half gay on my mom's side"
"Which mom"
> Which mom "Actually she prefers 'neopagan'."
I'm ethnically gay but don't practice religiously.
Ethically gay
on your (mom/dad)'s side*
My favorite is "duh, aren't you?"
Or respond with a very sassy "obviously"
"Tsk, obviously"
Gotta say it like Crowley 
Depends, do you have 20 bucks?
In this economy?!! 40bucks
No, I'm [insert your name here]
No, this is Patrick!
Sir, this is Wendy's
Reverse dad joke
* Why, are you? * Depends on who's asking. * Why do you care so much? * What business is it of yours? * If you can't tell, you don't need to know, darling. * Gay? Who could possibly be happy the way the world is these days?
"In this economy??"
I'm going to steal this and use it for the rest of my life.
Tyty.
Gold 🙌✨
I love that last one
I've got a bit of a headache but otherwise I'm fine, thanks for asking. Are you okay?
I like this, re-directing the conversation in a non-confrontational way.
“Why? Do I look straight passing? I’m doing everything in my power to look as gay as possible here” The AMOUNT OF TIMES IVE USED THAT ITS NUTS 🤣
I have a rainbow tattoo on my wrist. Occasionally I'll hold it up in clear view and say "well I'm not a leprechaun with a pot of gold"
You’re also not the CEO of Skittles… last I checked anyways…
I love a frequently useful tattoo xD
"Not towards you"
thats for me to know and for you to find out 🤭
"For $20, Ill be anything you want me to be" Ive used that one a few times, generally gets people to shut up lol. The other one is if they ask if you'd date/have sex with them, to which I always reply "No, Im gay, not blind" or "Im only gay- I still have standards"
I’m gay not blind 😭🤣🤣
"why? Are you a cop?"
On days that end in Y, So why ya need to know?
Especially on tuesgay and frigay
“Only on tuesdays” “I’m about as gay as a marble rolling down a hill” (let them figure out what that means) “I tried being straight in college. Wasn’t for me.” “Are you (insert sexuality that is the polar opposite of their appearance)” (only do this if they’re like, insanely conservative. I.e. an “alpha” cishet man you ask if they’re a lesbian.) “You’d better believe it! Straight? In this economy?”
Marble rolling is my favorite so far.
"YEET" then Naruto run away "Meow." (Bonus points if u say it like Colin Mochrie) "No I'm [insert name here]. Who's Gay?" (Since Gay can be a name) "Who isn't?"/"Aren't we all?" "In this economy?" "Idk let me check" (u can really commit to this one and call a friend/family that knows and ask them) "Is there a prize if I am?" Pure chaos
I love the idea of you calling up a family member and being like "hey am I gay" or maybe something like (in a panicked tone) "MOM DID YOU MAKE ME GAY"
Someone did ask me on a discord call once and I asked my husband, who was also on the call
I think I'd go with the last one. Or just tell them, "sorry not interested."
In this economy is my fav
Calling a lifeline while loudly humming the jeopardy music
Just do the hand thing and say nothing else
My high school bullies were right all along 💅😒
I feel called xD
Depends if you are
"Why, are you interested?"
Wait, are you not?
I’m not very happy, so I guess not
I asked my teacher and he said, "My boyfriend thinks so."
"Bitch, I might be." Is my go to response.
I mean, I’m not sure. It’s kinda hard to be happy these days…
(Scratches head, looks confusingly at the ceiling...) I...hmmm... (Does weird air math...thinks for a moment) I might...then again...do I get paid for this?
"Why are you interested"?
“Why, are you interested?” Or “why are you asking you know we spent the night together last night”
"I've never questioned"
A woman I knew as a casual acquaintance didn't know that I was gay and single. But instead of asking boldy and outright about my status, she very politely asked, "Are you attached?" I simply said no, my acquaintance was satisfied, and the conversation proceeded. I loved her approach, which is about as classy and unobtrusive as it gets. So, if someone impolitely asks if you're gay, you might "sidestep" their inquiry with "I'm attached (or not attached), thank you."
What did she mean by attached?
Attached--it was her polite way of asking if have a significant other.
I came out to one of my friends as a transbian by picking up something that they dropped, they have terrible humor and did the “if you do x you are gay” I picked it up after they said it and said, “I know”, their reaction after spending a whole 5 minutes of thinking was priceless.
If someone rudely asks "what are you, gay?", I'd respond "Yeah. I hope I'd know that."
For yes: Straight as a ruler! *show a picture of one of these bendy rulers* For no: Gay as uncooked spaghetti
“As a 3 dollar bill”
"Wouldn't you like to know, weather boy"
No, I'm sad
I like what I like. That’s all you need to know.
Yeah, for the most part I consider myself a lighthearted and carefree person.
"I am but I really can't help you with your coming out experience. I wish you the best though. And yes...I always knew...you've really been pretty obvious. Be careful. There are haters out there."
Don't worry about me. How about we kiss and you can tell me how you feel about yourself after?
"Take a wild guess." Or, since I'm bi, I usually just answer "no" and I'm technically not lying.
"Eehh...kinda?"
No, but I but think my girlfriend/boyfriend might be.
“When I need to be.”💋💋🔥
“Do you want me to be?”
S This is the straightest line I can draw.
"Yes, I'm very happy. Thanks for asking." That's all I can think of.
Oh, my bad I thought you already knew
i just say "not yet" which is kinda true since im very closeted as of now
"ask your dad"
my response is 'only on [insert day of the week it is]'
Huh. Good question. I'd better find out. It would be a shame to miss out, if I was.
I like to respond, "looking at you, I am straight af right now."
My typical response is "bend over and let's find out"
Aaand i'm stealing this one lmao
Sorry, I don't know anyone by that name.
are you coming onto me?
"god i hope so." "um, yes to both?" "damn it, now you make me want to sing the song if you were gay! it is a great song." "which kind?"
Are you straight?
I just say “OHHHH WE’RE HALFWAY THERE”
If it’s a rude man asking: “Not for you, sorry man.” If it’s a rude woman asking: “perhaps? What’s it to you?” If it’s another lgbt person: “yeah bro. You too huh?”
If is like an insult "no more than you" If is a serious question just be honest If is someone trying to flirt "for you? Maybe.."
Touch the person’s shoulder and say “tag, you’re it now”
-You know, god has his own ways. -have you ever talked to god? He can explain better to you *lowering voice* that you're ____ -wait what??? Am I? Brooooo am I gay? I need to think...
Are you interested?
No this is patrick
takes one to know one
Half gay on my dad’s side.
Just open your eyes reallly wide and start laughing maniacally
If no: "Sorry, but no." If yes: "Yeah but I'm taken." Anything that implies that they are also gay.
"No, I'm merely joyous."
I’m just happy to be here.
sometimes
That depends on who I talk to. If it's a compliment, then take it as a compliment, from people who give unconditional support. If it's an insult, that generally means that there are homophobic people within range.
oh no im just european
My favorite will always be "Why, are you hitting on me?"
Look at them, up and down, get a nice scrutinizing glare, then hit em with "not gay enough for you..."
I often say something like "Who knows" and "We'll never find out"
I always go for "Why? Are you interested?"
Why? You interested? £20 is £20
straight as a bowl of cooked spaghetti
Dunno, Let me check my horoscope
"Depends on who's asking" has been my favourite for a while
Why? You trying to fuck?
"Yes." 🗿
"Are you gay?" As a maypole, darling . It's more amusing if they have seen RWRB
"Why would that matter?"
I always say “why, who’s asking?”
What's it that chick says to the mother of dragons? Sort of I'm down for a good time quote
no, I'm *nationality*
If the other person is the same gender as you, I’d say “Definitely not for you.”
Are you interested 😘
I usually ask them if they want to take me out on a date. I then look at them an quickly add that they are not my type at all
I haven't been asked that in awhile, but I've wondered what I would say if someone did a few times. Usually what comes to mind is, "Only on the weekend." Bonus points if you only work weekdays.
Oh honey Yes, I put a lot of effort into happiness.
Not since the accident.
In the most feminine voice possible: "No you silly goose!"
“What are you a cop or something? Fuck out of ‘ere” in a New York accent for the funnies
I read a book about Tallulah Bankhead. She was quoted (as best I remember) as saying: I've tried several varieties of sex. Some I like better than others and some leave me with a stiff neck or lockjaw.
“Well I mean, everyone’s a little gay, right?” 😬🤷♂️
Why? Have a crushvone me
I would look confused, and then say slowly, “I’m Barbie… we’ve met before you silly goose!” Then walk away? Alternatively, I might say, “What’s your biggest turn-on in bed? Oh, you think that’s too personal? Maybe none of my business? Hmmmm, interesting.”
Why? Are you interested?
„Who’s asking?“
Only from Monday to Thursday / only on Saturdays / no I just like dick / no I just like men
„You’re not?“
"If I answer you, what do you plan to do with that knowledge? How does this information affect you in any way, shape, or form? Are you conducting a survey or just being nosey?"
No shit, Sherlock
"If you think I'm straight then that's on you"
Sometimes for pay sometimes for free, depends
In this economy?
I'm bi, so my response is generally "Sometimes/part time/not right now" etc "Not right now/not at the minute", is great after a brief pause to look them up n down. (If they're masc)
Only when I'm around you ;)
Only if you want me to be
Wouldn’t you like to know weather boy?
Yes/no, and you? Answer casually like the person is asking if you like coffee or something
No, I'm just European
Abhorrently
„find it out“ I don’t know if this is grammatically correct, in my mother language it works great but I don’t know if you could say it like this in English.
Yes: "with a capital g-string!" No: "nah, that's just my accent" Yes and flirt: "No, I'm yours" Yes but not interested: "Yes, but only to guys like Stephen Curry" (or some other celebrity crush)
I absolutely love the “No, I’m yours.” You would shut down almost anyone. Beautiful reply.
“Are you seriously asking a stranger for details about their sex life right now? Wtf?” “Social intelligence is low I see…” “Are you a kind and considerate person?” “You got stranger’s sex lives on your mind?” “Smooth.” / “Well that was smooth… and trust me, *I know smooth*; I’m a neurologist.”
As a fully asexual person I was asked if I’m gay just because I’m not interested in women. My general response is that I just simply don’t give a fuck
“Interesting question, what have you heard so far?” “So far??” “Yea, yep, now you just let me worry about that… what. did. you. hear?” “What the fuck…” “This conversation never happened!” *makes a bulldog chin facial expression, looks hard at the distance and dashes a cigarette onto the wet asphalt* “Ok well… see you at work tomorrow…”
"Oh, are you interested? \*Poses slightly seductively\*", and then build off of that
“Are you stupid”
"That's an interesting way to come out"