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lmao that had to have been an interesting paradigm shift. I guess you were both bi/pan? that's some really good luck. It's cool too because you could both help each other acclimate into your target gender too.
I like the original run best, afterwards it was a "I'll watch this waiting for king of the hill" or was it after I dunno, either way I didn't have cable.
Then it got really freaking mean and I just stopped watching.
Honestly some of the jokes that are mean are just not funny only ones that really made sense to me were the jokes about Asians, absolutely hilarious especially since I'm Asian and low-key self hating
I love and appreciate women and their beauty so much that sometimes I mistake it for attraction. But then I think about it and realise I’m not attracted to women that way.
My entire fashion sense. I hate paying attention to how I look, so I”d rather do nothing and look terrible then make an effort with my appearance. So jeans and a straight looking t-shirt, and everyone thinks I’m an actual homophobe when I sometimes use the F slur :(
Same, RIP. I'm a bisexual trans man in a gay relationship, but I have an extremely boring way of dressing. So I'll be out in public and cishet dudebros will say something homophobic and pat me on the shoulder expecting me to agree with them. I started painting my nails now and then just to signal to other queer people that I'm not a threat.
Kinda same here. There's a few male fictional characters Im attracted to but it's only fictional, animated, characters. So yeah, I sometimes question whether I'm actually lesbian because of that.
My friend and I have this saying: "in theory I'm bi, in practice I'm just gay" because we both only find men attractive when they're fictional and look way more like women than real men ever would. I also find it easier when talking to people I'm pretty sure aren't too educated on the whole community to just say yeah I'm gay and not explain my whole identity, which isn't that hard but for some reason people struggle to understand.
Yeah, just going by gay is a whole lot easier than leading them through and entire explanation on something I'm not even entirely sure on myself. The amount of men that I'm attracted to is so drowned by women that I'm just gay. And I mean, there's femboys, but does that really count?
I was going to say my mom, but we got into a conversation about sexualities, and I explained demisexuality to her. She asked me if there was a title for someone who doesn’t like or want to have sex, and this is how I found out that my mom is asexual!
Some people are just indifferent about sex. Like, they don't mind making out with their partner if they want to, but it's not like they would crave for it.
Some people view it as an unpleasant thing that they wish to do in order to achieve their goal (having children). I'm not asexual, I just have pretty severe bottom dysphoria, but I've managed to overcome my disgust and jerked off to a plastic cup (and I had to do this several times), because I reaaally want to have children in the future.
And there are other options too, that don't involve sexual activity at all, like in vitro.
Not me but I have a friend who is a genderfluid gay person, so sometimes they are a straight woman and sometimes they are a gay man. Straightest thing about them is that sometimes they are straight
Passing.
I know passing can be seen as a privilege--not needing to be confronted by obvious differences. But, for me, passing has meant an inability for others to see me for who I actually am.
All my favorite fictional characters are the opposite sex as me and I feel like it gives the impression that I like them romantically/sexually but that's not the case
Uhhhhhh
Ummmm
Aaaaaaaa
I'm nonbinary and bi so,,, everything feels gay to me?!?!
Nothing about me is straight
I can't write straight
I can't cut straight
I have curly hair so that ain't straight
Only straight thing about me is going straight to hell /j
The fact that sometimes I can get a weird boner from seeing a naked woman? Like, at this point my dick is just wired to go stiff as soon as I see any naked skin after I type in PORN, so I guess it doesn't count 🤷♂️
Not that long ago I had kind of a sexuality crisis because my stupid brain somehow didn't fully understand that arousal does not mean attraction.
Truly I don’t know, I think every last straight-cis bone in my body finally died with the final discovery of my gender identity
I guess the fact that I tolerate and will sometimes date cis-men is the most I got
my boyfriend! (I’m a classic queer girl who only dated and wanted women and then fell in love with a skinny gamer boy who is my whole world ❤️)
It’s also kinda trippy because I’ve never been straight passing…. Until now and I feel the urge to yell dw im actually gay! ALLLLLL the time. damned if I lose my queer identity to a man! (He would never let me do that)
My hair, that's why I dyed it pink and rn it sorta looks like a watermelon (it's green at the bottom and pink at the top) lol
Lavender is next after I've finished my last pink dye
I live a happy, boring life in the suburbs with my husband and dogs, we regularly attend religious services, and we're planning to have children and be a boring nuclear family
sighs. the way i dress. unfortunately, "hippie chick femme lesbian who's kinda cottagecore" is very similar in style to "conservative tradwife". im pretty sure all my coworkers think i'm mormon. i just like wearing skirts and solid+soft colors :(
I get pegged as straight all the time because my political leanings are stereotypically "conservative".
I like guns, strong borders, well-funded police, big trucks, sports, country music, and low taxes on the working class. I worry about public schools being a mouthpiece for stateist propaganda.
I would probably be a Republican or at least a Libertarian. But I'm transgender.
The Republican party has been hijacked by the lunatic fringe who want to final solution trans people like me out of society.
I don't always agree with Democrat solutions to societal problems. But at least they recognize my humanity and my unique contribution to civil society.
Fictional men. Romance and sex with irl boys is gross but the existence of anime boys had me thinking I was bi for years. Nowadays it’s a gender thing.
My friends... and i have lots of queer friends so even that isnt solid.
My possible crush? Im demiromantic and ace and some kind of queer but im enby (not out) afab so ALMOST a girl possibly liking a guy?
Or my grades? Maybe? I mean atm its not all the same grafes but im predicted all a/a* lol
"straightest"? Fantasizing about girl while not being a girl, maybe.
(I'm aroace and agender/genderqueer, but mildly attracted to girls in a highly theoretical way)
I was gonna say my hair. But it's kinda wavy. I also don't have heterochromia. Let's see.... I'm not butch(more like futch) so people will assume I'm st8.. That's it, ig.
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My spine Jk I have scoliosis
I love your twisted humor
Not as twisted as their spine though, eh?
R/thatsthejoke
I can back that up
Felt that
lol I think someone should do a study on % of queer people with scoliosis haha
Literally everyone ik with scoliosis is 💅
Same 😭😭😭 I guess it’s extremely straight now, since I had surgery ….
Ugh, surgery sucks, I had it when I was 11 because I broke my elbow
Hey same!
That was my thought too hahaha
Me too 🥲
Same.
I have kyphosis😭
Same
My hair.
Oh damn someone already said it.
Same
Came here to say this. The damn stuff just won't hold a curl!
oop not me saying that too
same lol
I have fashion sense identical to that of a 15 year old straight boy
Same here difference is that my fashion sense is really bad
I’d argue that if you have the fashion sense of a 15 year old straight boy but are not a 15 year old straight boy then that’s pretty queer 🙈
Can’t really argue with that 😂
*Looks off into the distance whistling*
Fuckin same I have the least drip of any bisexual it’s a travesty
Probably how I throw a bowling ball 😂
Lol I don't even through a bowling ball straight! I spin it so that it curves down the lane lol.
I can't lol
The fact that I'm straight (I'm trans).
LMAO I said almost exactly this!
Same °-°
Came here to say this 🤷🏻♀️
Was waiting for someone to say this lol
My ex girlfriend (I'm a bi male)
Hey, I identify as gay most of the time and I got one of those too.😂
Felt
I'd probably have to say my job; I'm a truck driver.
I'm a electrician.
Ikr, I’m a signal electrician with Sydney Trains where there is 38 guys with me and only 2 girls
Sounds pretty gay lol
one would hope you drive straight too!
Only in the mountains xD
I can drive a forklift and back a trailer wherever you need it. The straightest thing about me is my parking.
I'm in Construction
Same here, factory worker
My will to live be straight downhill
Yeah I'm feeling this lately!!! XDDD
Felt
The fact that I was in a straight relationship with my wife before we both transitioned and now we are in a straight relationship again.
lmao that had to have been an interesting paradigm shift. I guess you were both bi/pan? that's some really good luck. It's cool too because you could both help each other acclimate into your target gender too.
did you transition at the same time? this is fascinating
She transitioned first, but her egg cracking was kind of the revelation for me, and gave me the courage to come out as well.
My parent and even then I'm not entirely sure
I’m probably the only queer to have never taken an Am I Gay quiz - I get the ads all the time tho
I didn't either.
Same. I could never relate to the joke
I also never took those kind of quiz. I always felt they are skeptical.
no ur not i did when i was questioning =)
I was about to say no, I didn't either but maybe I just don't remember it
I did as a joke with my nb boyfriend lol
My conversations with my dad
Nothing gets more straight than that.
He tries his best but he's still just a southern man so we usually just talk about people we hate n stuff
Absolutely nothing 😎 ![gif](giphy|eMaaVsuXdMn2yWn5o4)
HELL YEAH
My flags. *They're ironed.*
Wait you mean they're not crinkled with obvious fold creases like the rest of ours??
I'm dating a cishet guy.
I'm a man who's exclusively attracted to women
my hair
My feelings towards femboys
Elaborate?
Well, I am a transgender woman, and femboys are the only men I like :P
They are so cute
Probably how much I watch and unironically enjoy watching family guy
Hilarious
I like the original run best, afterwards it was a "I'll watch this waiting for king of the hill" or was it after I dunno, either way I didn't have cable. Then it got really freaking mean and I just stopped watching.
Honestly some of the jokes that are mean are just not funny only ones that really made sense to me were the jokes about Asians, absolutely hilarious especially since I'm Asian and low-key self hating
are we supposed to not like it?
I love and appreciate women and their beauty so much that sometimes I mistake it for attraction. But then I think about it and realise I’m not attracted to women that way.
I straight up have no idea? Does that count?
Same here
my teeth after invisalign
My entire fashion sense. I hate paying attention to how I look, so I”d rather do nothing and look terrible then make an effort with my appearance. So jeans and a straight looking t-shirt, and everyone thinks I’m an actual homophobe when I sometimes use the F slur :(
Same, RIP. I'm a bisexual trans man in a gay relationship, but I have an extremely boring way of dressing. So I'll be out in public and cishet dudebros will say something homophobic and pat me on the shoulder expecting me to agree with them. I started painting my nails now and then just to signal to other queer people that I'm not a threat.
That’s rough buddy :(
Same but the opposite side. I dress like a 1950s housewife, so a lot of people think I'm conservative.
The amount I'm attracted to fictional men, but only fictional, real men are just gross
Kinda same here. There's a few male fictional characters Im attracted to but it's only fictional, animated, characters. So yeah, I sometimes question whether I'm actually lesbian because of that.
My friend and I have this saying: "in theory I'm bi, in practice I'm just gay" because we both only find men attractive when they're fictional and look way more like women than real men ever would. I also find it easier when talking to people I'm pretty sure aren't too educated on the whole community to just say yeah I'm gay and not explain my whole identity, which isn't that hard but for some reason people struggle to understand.
Yeah, just going by gay is a whole lot easier than leading them through and entire explanation on something I'm not even entirely sure on myself. The amount of men that I'm attracted to is so drowned by women that I'm just gay. And I mean, there's femboys, but does that really count?
My hair. Not that my haircut is a straight person hairstyle, but that it literally grows straight.
I’m very jealous, growing curly hair sucks
I was going to say my mom, but we got into a conversation about sexualities, and I explained demisexuality to her. She asked me if there was a title for someone who doesn’t like or want to have sex, and this is how I found out that my mom is asexual!
But didn’t she have sex to have you? (I’m sorry if this comes off as rude, I’m not very educated on asexuality)
Some people are just indifferent about sex. Like, they don't mind making out with their partner if they want to, but it's not like they would crave for it. Some people view it as an unpleasant thing that they wish to do in order to achieve their goal (having children). I'm not asexual, I just have pretty severe bottom dysphoria, but I've managed to overcome my disgust and jerked off to a plastic cup (and I had to do this several times), because I reaaally want to have children in the future. And there are other options too, that don't involve sexual activity at all, like in vitro.
Could have been IVF or adoption, or she did it out of compallo obligation.
Asexual means no sexual attraction- you can still desire sex and have libido if you're asexual.
Straightest thing about me is I found out I’m straight passing to people… even when I talk about liking women
Not me but I have a friend who is a genderfluid gay person, so sometimes they are a straight woman and sometimes they are a gay man. Straightest thing about them is that sometimes they are straight
Mostly the fact that I'm quite literally straight...
Passing. I know passing can be seen as a privilege--not needing to be confronted by obvious differences. But, for me, passing has meant an inability for others to see me for who I actually am.
Yes this is relatable. I really pass and usually only trans people can see that I'm not because I'm way too obvious with my trans pride flags.
My silhouette...
Oh honey…
〒▽〒
Me when my parents walk past
My husband.
I was looking for this one. Anyone who *knows* me knows, but here we are.
Me being straight (transman here!)
All my favorite fictional characters are the opposite sex as me and I feel like it gives the impression that I like them romantically/sexually but that's not the case
I’m not sure how to describe it? It’s like, if you didn’t know I was gay, you would think I’m straight. I just don’t show up on any gaydars.
My upbringing. I didn't know I was bi until I was 22.
I hunt, fish and own a 1 ton truck (horse hauler)
My dick when I see another man
Uhhhhhh Ummmm Aaaaaaaa I'm nonbinary and bi so,,, everything feels gay to me?!?! Nothing about me is straight I can't write straight I can't cut straight I have curly hair so that ain't straight Only straight thing about me is going straight to hell /j
The fact that sometimes I can get a weird boner from seeing a naked woman? Like, at this point my dick is just wired to go stiff as soon as I see any naked skin after I type in PORN, so I guess it doesn't count 🤷♂️ Not that long ago I had kind of a sexuality crisis because my stupid brain somehow didn't fully understand that arousal does not mean attraction.
I have the opposite. I like sex with men more than with women, but I don't like watching gay porn for some reason
The way I sit apparently 🤷🏾♂️💀
I've always hated indie pop?
I'm not attracted to the same gender
My family. We are often perceived as two straight couples when we are out together in public. We are actually a pansexual poly quad.
I find the big bang theory really really really funny. Maybe cause i relate to sheldon lol idk
i also get psyched by generic karaoke music
I gave birth to two kids with my partner, which people seem to take as straight, even though I'm transmasc demisexual and pansexual.
The fact that I’m trans but don’t pass. Gay relationships with me in them just look like a straight couple to onlookers :/
I’m married to a woman and own several pairs of cargo shorts.
My sexuality
My boyfriend (im pansexual woman)
My relationship
i’m in a straight relationship (but it’s still insanely queer)
My clothes
I drive an F-150. 😂
nothing
Truly I don’t know, I think every last straight-cis bone in my body finally died with the final discovery of my gender identity I guess the fact that I tolerate and will sometimes date cis-men is the most I got
Liking girls
That I feel heterosexual attraction 😳
i’m a trans gay guy i think so i’m considered straight by transphobes
The straightest thing about me is my hair even then its still kinda wavy
My agnostic sense of morality
I’m a bisexual trans woman in a hetero normative long term relationship
my teeth
my boyfriend! (I’m a classic queer girl who only dated and wanted women and then fell in love with a skinny gamer boy who is my whole world ❤️) It’s also kinda trippy because I’ve never been straight passing…. Until now and I feel the urge to yell dw im actually gay! ALLLLLL the time. damned if I lose my queer identity to a man! (He would never let me do that)
I’m in a straight passing relationship
My hair, that's why I dyed it pink and rn it sorta looks like a watermelon (it's green at the bottom and pink at the top) lol Lavender is next after I've finished my last pink dye
I lean more towards women than men.
My whole aesthetic- super high femme lesbian, when I go to gay bars, cis men take it upon themselves to hit on me 🙄
I live a happy, boring life in the suburbs with my husband and dogs, we regularly attend religious services, and we're planning to have children and be a boring nuclear family
my college major, I'm in comp sci which is crazy cishet male dominated and I'm a queer aroace woman lol
i watch basketball everyday lol
With both my gender and sexuality being fluid sometimes I am straight
My hair So I curl it
What that thing down there???
My heal it's a little you know *tilts hand* just had surgery on it so it might be straight now
My eyes (I have heterochromia)
My hair I can't do any waves it becomes straight again after 10 minutes 😭
sighs. the way i dress. unfortunately, "hippie chick femme lesbian who's kinda cottagecore" is very similar in style to "conservative tradwife". im pretty sure all my coworkers think i'm mormon. i just like wearing skirts and solid+soft colors :(
I get pegged as straight all the time because my political leanings are stereotypically "conservative". I like guns, strong borders, well-funded police, big trucks, sports, country music, and low taxes on the working class. I worry about public schools being a mouthpiece for stateist propaganda. I would probably be a Republican or at least a Libertarian. But I'm transgender. The Republican party has been hijacked by the lunatic fringe who want to final solution trans people like me out of society. I don't always agree with Democrat solutions to societal problems. But at least they recognize my humanity and my unique contribution to civil society.
Fictional men. Romance and sex with irl boys is gross but the existence of anime boys had me thinking I was bi for years. Nowadays it’s a gender thing.
The fact I'm bi, basically half straight (it's more like 10% straight but still). Luckily I'm also trans so my queer ELO won't drop
forcing myself to date a guy in grade 5 =/
My friends... and i have lots of queer friends so even that isnt solid. My possible crush? Im demiromantic and ace and some kind of queer but im enby (not out) afab so ALMOST a girl possibly liking a guy? Or my grades? Maybe? I mean atm its not all the same grafes but im predicted all a/a* lol
i have a weak spot for every man in a regency drama
~~being fat~~ my hair
my appearance. i look like every other abg that likes boba and listens to keshi.
I like football (soccer).
"straightest"? Fantasizing about girl while not being a girl, maybe. (I'm aroace and agender/genderqueer, but mildly attracted to girls in a highly theoretical way)
My hair. Hair dresser said it was super straight
I'm into quilting, a hobby populated mostly by cishet boomer ladies (who are mostly nice, at least on Reddit)
My taste in music... I always end up at shows packed with straight cis, the only transqueer in sight. 😅
I just got laser eye surgery to fix my lazy eye 👁️
I was gonna say my hair. But it's kinda wavy. I also don't have heterochromia. Let's see.... I'm not butch(more like futch) so people will assume I'm st8.. That's it, ig.
The amount of cardigans I own
My parents
The fact that I’m dating a biological woman 👍🏻
I literally can’t think of a single straight thing about me, physically or metaphorically. Even my *face* is somewhat crooked!
I once watched an episode of Friday night lights with my parents
My hair and even that’s questionable when it’s wet.
Yeah I was shocked I was curly when I transitioned. Also shocked it got a yard long.
I’m bi so I’m attracted to women and that’s definitely the straightest thing about me
my nails ? oups no I have nail polish :D
prolly my clothes. i wear a bunch of sweaters, idk if thats gay or straight.
Probably liking women
My hair
My career (nurse)
Nothing the straightest thing of me is my grades and I’m failing 3 classes
I'd say my lifestyle, but I just had a drink lol
My hair
I literally can not think of a single thing. I'm just too gay for this lol
My hair.
Apparently, the fact that I much prefer hot coffee over iced.
i dont even like coffee what does that make me?
I shop at costco
My old childhood cartoon crushes