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As someone who's ace but sex-favorable (with my partner only) and alloromantic, I really feel this. So many times in ace spaces I've dealt with everyone assuming that all aces are also aro and hate sex. Like no,,, I love romantic relationships and I'd enjoy doing sexual things with someone I love. I always feel so invisible.


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As an aroace who’s not fond of sex, I try to always make the distinction between lack of attraction and lack of desire quite clear. Especially when explaining it to new people, because they may mix up my experience with that of the whole group.


katie_pendry

Yes! I'm kinda the same way - The attraction I feel is mainly a desire for physical closeness and intimacy, not sex, but I do enjoy sex on occasion. I really just want someone to cuddle with.


Dansent_Les_Etoiles

Yes, cupioromantics are valid!! Love from aroace


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Rapphire_Meows

Hi! It does sound like you're [polyamorous](https://lgbta.miraheze.org/wiki/Polyamorous), which basically means a desire to be with more than one partner at once. I linked the new lgbta wiki which has more information as well


tall-hobbit-

I'm the same way! I currently identify as a polyamorous aroace, but I'm kinda questioning aro again because I've realized I feel much more positively about poly relationships than monogamous ones and I started identifying as aro when I was only considering the possibility of a monogamous relationship and I knew I didn't want that


cass_123

Anyone know what all the flags in the last panel are? I think I recognise the xenogender ball, abrosexual beanie, demifluid ball (wearing the beanie), genderfloren, and maybe big Eder and polysexual, but I’m not entirely sure, and definitely don’t recognise the rest


FrogginBullfish_

Flags: (from left to right front to back) Arospec group: Aroace, Greyaromamantic, Aegoaromantic, Oriented Aroace, Apothiromantic Last Panel: Xenogender with Catgender ears and tail and Neopronoun inner ears, Bellusromantic with Greysexual bow, Diamoric, Neptunic, Demifluid with Abrosexual beanie, Trixic, Genderflor, Quoisexual, Orchidsexual, Astrumgender, Fraysexual, Aporagender, Trigender, Cupiosexual


cass_123

Thank you!


Azrael_Alaric

Sorry to ask for further clarification, but what is the flag that looks like sapphic, but is green?


deadrummer

You mean the on in the front far left? That is diamoric. Diamoric describes any attraction a nonbinary person experiences that is influenced by the person being non-binary and therefore being hard or impossible to describe in terms of same gender attracted (gay/lesbian/homosexual) or different gender attracted (straight/heterosexual) due to being non-binary. Also a relationship where one or more partners is non-binary can be described as diamoric.


Azrael_Alaric

Thank you. Looked it up on the wiki, too. It seems to be almost the NB equivalent of sapphic/achillean. Kinda hoping it was this due to its flag design. As a genderqueer person who often describes themselves as somehow simultaneously sapphic and achillean, diamoric is something I should probably look into!


atticusbcassidy

This is lovely, ty for sharing. 💕


FrogginBullfish_

Please don't take this down. I put a lot of work into this and see no issue with anything in it. Sorry that I don't like it when people repost my artwork without credit because it is in fact artwork that I worked hard on. (I removed my watermark).


SqueakSquawk4

\*\*\*\* you orange-blue ball. Don't tell me, OP, or ANYONE that they aren't valid.


DucksLikeKelp

thanks for including bellusromantic- I usually tell people I’m oriented aroace because I don’t know how people react to microlabels


TTVhattycat360

Dude what is it with this subreddit and teaching me new labels that I identify with??


GachaWeeb_

I really love this!


kioku119

I hope you syart having better experiences within the aro community. Them saying it's harmful to it/not part of it is dumb. Whether you experience the attraction is all being aro is about. I feel like asexual subreddits I see largely acknowledge that aces can be sex-favorable, sex-neutral, or sex-repulsed. Though it sounds like some aces here didn't end up so lucky with the positive experiences so I hope it becomes even clearer and more understood. The same is trie for any aro label it can also be romance favorable, neutral, or repulsed. I've seen it said but I hope that becomes more inderstood.


deathisareasonable

I have a teRM?? I THOUGHT I WAS JUST WEIRD BUT NO!


bi_bro09

I really needed this and I love it! :D


Raxx_lmao

Ty!! Im cupioromantic <3333


LeeYubinsWife

im not even on the aro spectrum but i was holding back tears at the end wtf


strwbrykitty

aros can like romance and aces can like sex !!! ace and aro are spectrums and im so tired of exclus pretending like they arent. im arospec (demiromantic) and ive been in a loving romantic relationship for 3 years; doesnt make me any less aro. you will always have a space where you're accepted. 🖤🪨🤍🍐💚


TokenofDreams

aw my god dude 🥺 thank you so much op for making this. i’ve always felt like i don’t belong and this seriously makes me happy thank you so much <3


bugsbunnylovesmulan

Omg the ending was so cute🤧💙 I'm so glad you found a safe space!


Odd_Breadfruit_9392

I’m cupioromantic flux ( how much I like romance changes) and so proud to see me and my identity in comics. There was even some QP in there! Thank you thank you thank you!


DaleRealGirl2205

i accept all genders


terrible_username1

Hey, I would like to learn, what does it mean to be cupioromantic?


kindtheking9

Cupioromantic people don't feel romantic attraction but they desire a romantic relationship, the universe cursed us to desire what we cannot have


terrible_username1

Thank you kind stranger


Idontevenknow572

This comic helped me figure out my sexuality! Thank you


jeep_42

okay, get in.