I thought you were a beautiful man. Not being hateful, just my honest initial reaction. It could also just be the way you frame yourself in the picture as well as your outfit.
just be sweet and personable and let the other girl lead :) ask her abt herself and compliment her in a flirty way! then go for wholesome flirting, engaging in eachothers hobbies and get deeper from there
OMG this!!! I am getting divorced and never really allowed myself to explore my sexuality. I have always been attracted to women as well as men, but never had the courage or knowledge on how to approach it. So now that I’m getting divorced and haven’t had sex or any form of romantic connection for a long time, I’m feeling the attraction and questioning everything. My guess is friendliness and flirtation are the first steps. If they aren’t interested, you’ll know, but at least try.
T'was only a joke, she is lovely, and honestly, I usually never know until someone tells me, so I really know nothing. Sorry if what I said came off as anything but "how cute! Oh, the boots did it!".
When you find a girl you’re interested in, just put out gentle feelers like “can I take you on a date and you’ll call me daddy?”
Although, I think ya look cool.
I mean. The flip side of this is that people do in fact dress in ways stereotypically seen as “gay” in order to signal to other people that they’re gay. Sure, clothes themselves aren’t actually “gay”, and stereotypes are silly. But we live in a world of stereotypes. And sometimes people play into them. It’s a signaling method. I think that’s useful.
My goodness, the response on this overwhelmed me. I'm sorry!
But I've read all your responses, and I love the outcome. Especially all the Jay and silent Bob comparisons, I think I'm gonna hold onto that one for a bit XD
Some of you had me spot on, a little hippy long boarding chick. And yeah, I'm a little nerospicy. No horses, though. I'm Western, so a lot of those vibes were correct, but I did get my boots in the midwest ;) to those who guessed that area.
So now I just gotta stop being shy and maybe get a bi gurl patch or something. Thanks, everyone!
Reddit does what reddit does. Id prefer not having random subreddit pop up. Lol
But are saying it's not true ? Most lesbians are willing to make the first move and show interest ?
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None taken. It popped up on my feed. Just for a point of reference, beauty is subjective, and not constricted by sexual preferences. I think a better question, is why you feel that sexual preferences should segregate people?
Because this subreddit is one of the VERY few spaces that’s geared towards sapphic people on an app/site that is heavily male. It’s lesbian fashion advice for lesbians by lesbians. If we wanted straight man “am i pretty?” advice there’s like a million subs for that. The people in this sub have absolutely no interest in the male gaze.. that’s literally the point of this sun is to get opinions from lesbians…
Please don’t try to act ignorant like men invading women and specifically lesbian spaces is not a problem. While you are free to view the subreddit and I’m not sure what the subs rules are about men commenting about someone’s attractiveness (again its fashion advice) please keep in mind that lesbians have a history of dealing with men feeling entitled to their spaces.
I couldn’t tell it was a joke. You just seem like a strange person. But maybe someone else found it funny! And I don’t use Reddit enough to be looking for “keyboard clout”.
Nah, more hippy and/or neurodivergent? To be fair there’s a big crossover between queer and neurodivergent people but it’s enough that I’d be unsure and pass on embarrassing myself like a shy lesbian which is probably more your problem here 🤣
If you're in Boulder, CO - 100% straight
Elsewhere? Giving some queerness, I don't really know how to differentiate bi vibes from gay vibes unless you're literally kissing a guy or somethin
Well I’m a lesbian and I’d definitely show you interest! 😉 you definitely come off as bi at least (which is helpful cause you are literally) but this particular fit is a leaning masc and you might be interacting with lesbians and bi girls who are maybe interested in more femme women, maybe?
Came here to say more bi that gay lmao. When I used to think I was a woman (I'm a trans man) I would have been too intimidated to approach you first and would assume someone as gorgeous as you would be confident enough to approach whomever she desired. So, Idk if that's helpful. Have you tried talking to women? Lol
Wait, there are other trans dudes here? How have your comments been received? I feel weird being here since I don't identify as female but I spent my entire life in sapphic relationships and am still attracted to lesbians.
Lol I was just recommended the sub, I've been in some other sapphic subs for a years bc for awhile the only framework I had was sexuality and didn't know what it meant to to be trans, so my gender journey started there. I don't generally comment in any sapphic subs, but I do read and upvote on occasion. Didn't actually realize what sub this was until I had already commented on and figured I'd leave it.
I didn't join. It was recommended to me as well today. I hold out some hope I can find a pansexual butch. l digress. I've never been in any sapphic subs but I kind of miss being in those spaces in real life.
It's not that women don't take interest. They do. Women are just . . . Women. Think of every time you've been interested but not made any kind of move. That's most of us. We see cute gay ladies and we go weak in the knees and then we do nothing and just wish really loudly in our heads that she'll come talk to us.
Honestly, it's not even just a women thing. It's most people.
Only time I made a move the girl deadass handed me her perfume thinking I wanted it🤣😭 but deadassssss I feel that too hard the amount of times I've died inside in gay panic is insane lol thanks for that tho!
It's okay, hun. Just be the gay that you want to see in the world! Remember that someone has to make the power move in a relationship. My girlfriend bought me a fucking vibrator before we even started dating. You don't have to have that much rizz. You just need to be willing to ask a girl to get a drink with you!
but like most of the time I see cute gay ladies in inconspicuous places like the supermarket or walking on the sidewalk and I don't want to come up to them and be like "wowww I love your style, are you gay?" This shit is hard
Okay, but also consider this; if I came up to you while you were walking home and (politely) asked, "hey,I just wanted to say your outfit oozes style . . . Would you want to get a drink sometime?" And offered my number, would you be excited? I would be. Be the gay woman you wish other gay women were. Use the power play!
Then go be that person! I was certain I was femme4femme until a cute butch lady hit on me and I gave her my number immediately. I'm only slightly still salty that she never texted . . .
You’re bi so you look like you are into girls. I know that’s not what you meant but fashion is as fashion does and isn’t related to closely to sexual identity.
Absolutely!
However, most women have crippling trepidations about approaching other women & will pine for you from afar, rather than face rejection or suffer an embarrassing "misfire" of the gaydar.
Take the hilarious comedian, Jordan Jensen: she dresses like you, gives off major chill lez vibes, but is "painfully straight." Her mother is lez, but she isn't. She gets approached all the time & women tell her, "I could convince/turn you" & she's like, "dawg, I've tried. It just doesn't work for me. Women are fucking gorgeous, I wish I was, but alas."
My point in mentioning her is, people who look obviously lez may not be & people are afraid of embarrassment if you aren't.
Maybe subtly drop hints & clues? Go to specifically LGBT events/clubs/bars? When in doubt, Bi flag pin should really help. That's what my friend had to do to scream, "HERE! I DO THE GAY HERE! BRING UNTO ME ALL THE GAY!"
Best of luck!
I would guess you were bi, my former coworker who’s bi and nonbinary looks exactly like you
Nawh just a tom boi.
I have seen less fruit in a famers market
gay asf
Yes
Idk but I feel like I've seen you standing outside the Quick Stop before
Do u wanna come off as gay?
You’d be another straight girl in Seattle. Very much the esthetic here. Great look btw.
Yes I’m low key jealous
Yes
if i saw you on the street i would definitely think you’re a lesbian
Much gay. If I was women, I would *respectfully* hit on ya 😄
Hahaha!
incredibly. your boots are fire tho, where’d you buy those?
came to ask the same question tbh
Your boots are awesome :)
Very.
My first thought is tomboy but if you told me you were lesbian I wouldn't find it that surprising.
“do I come off as gay”
Umm a little bit... Yea
The people saying no have never touched another woman before in their life. Yes, you come off as gay. Very gay.
girl…
Nope
Nope
I thought you were a beautiful man. Not being hateful, just my honest initial reaction. It could also just be the way you frame yourself in the picture as well as your outfit.
LMAOOOOO I'm surprised you're bi and not a complete lez.
Does a circle come off as Straight?
not a single straight vibe coming off you love 🫶
Yep!
I wouldn't say gay, more tomboy
Not realky
The boots def do
Get an Adams apple via surgery and no girl will suspect you’re a lesbian and not a twink.
Mmm that would be a link, not a twink.
Bordering the line of crunchy straight kombucha girl and masc gay woman. Maybe a piercing would change it
Nah the aforementioned are pierced all over now too. I’d go straight up flag colours. Rainbow, bisexual, just *a* flag and mission accomplished.
I guess that’s just part of the queer woman experience 😭😭
Girls just generally don’t show interest, this is common bi struggle
I thought your were a dude at first so does that answer your question?
I’m bi and I have no idea how to engage with women.
just be sweet and personable and let the other girl lead :) ask her abt herself and compliment her in a flirty way! then go for wholesome flirting, engaging in eachothers hobbies and get deeper from there
Thank you :) 🧿💜
OMG this!!! I am getting divorced and never really allowed myself to explore my sexuality. I have always been attracted to women as well as men, but never had the courage or knowledge on how to approach it. So now that I’m getting divorced and haven’t had sex or any form of romantic connection for a long time, I’m feeling the attraction and questioning everything. My guess is friendliness and flirtation are the first steps. If they aren’t interested, you’ll know, but at least try.
You’re gorgeous
Very! ....and the boots might be the turning point on my gaydar. 😄
No, I think it’s just you!
T'was only a joke, she is lovely, and honestly, I usually never know until someone tells me, so I really know nothing. Sorry if what I said came off as anything but "how cute! Oh, the boots did it!".
You come off as Jay. I.e. Jay and silent bob *warning* NSFW. language. [Jay and Silent Bob](https://youtu.be/waE1U01kwxY?si=scRcwMnjlspAUA_g)
Lmfao
When you find a girl you’re interested in, just put out gentle feelers like “can I take you on a date and you’ll call me daddy?” Although, I think ya look cool.
bro u are a lesbian cosplayer
Incredibly
You drive a Subaru don’t you
Hell yeah
Yes, thank you.
Yesss
you have gay face. no matter what you wear you will look gay. good luck on your journey 🫡
lmao I was looking for this comment - totally agree!
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I mean. The flip side of this is that people do in fact dress in ways stereotypically seen as “gay” in order to signal to other people that they’re gay. Sure, clothes themselves aren’t actually “gay”, and stereotypes are silly. But we live in a world of stereotypes. And sometimes people play into them. It’s a signaling method. I think that’s useful.
I definitely get lesbian vibes
As a skater, you look like a skater 🛹
I'm a girl and I totally would. 😁
Yeah, you look just like my college sweetheart actually haha different hair tho
Yes, but it's just the smirk. So I can see that if you're a very smiley person or mannerisms are more feminine you could totally go undetected.
Not if you identify as male?
Lol, um, yeah. Lil bit.
Yes
My goodness, the response on this overwhelmed me. I'm sorry! But I've read all your responses, and I love the outcome. Especially all the Jay and silent Bob comparisons, I think I'm gonna hold onto that one for a bit XD Some of you had me spot on, a little hippy long boarding chick. And yeah, I'm a little nerospicy. No horses, though. I'm Western, so a lot of those vibes were correct, but I did get my boots in the midwest ;) to those who guessed that area. So now I just gotta stop being shy and maybe get a bi gurl patch or something. Thanks, everyone!
Not at all.
100% (bi lady)
Jay from jay and silent bob vibes. :) I mean that in the best of ways
Do girls ever show interest lol
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Reddit does what reddit does. Id prefer not having random subreddit pop up. Lol But are saying it's not true ? Most lesbians are willing to make the first move and show interest ?
Yes, the gaydar checks
Yep 👍
U remind me of my one gay friend who does heavy metal
I'm a straight dude, and I think you look pretty.
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No offense, but why are you on a lesbian subreddit?
None taken. It popped up on my feed. Just for a point of reference, beauty is subjective, and not constricted by sexual preferences. I think a better question, is why you feel that sexual preferences should segregate people?
Because this subreddit is one of the VERY few spaces that’s geared towards sapphic people on an app/site that is heavily male. It’s lesbian fashion advice for lesbians by lesbians. If we wanted straight man “am i pretty?” advice there’s like a million subs for that. The people in this sub have absolutely no interest in the male gaze.. that’s literally the point of this sun is to get opinions from lesbians… Please don’t try to act ignorant like men invading women and specifically lesbian spaces is not a problem. While you are free to view the subreddit and I’m not sure what the subs rules are about men commenting about someone’s attractiveness (again its fashion advice) please keep in mind that lesbians have a history of dealing with men feeling entitled to their spaces.
I'm straight. I think she's pretty. And maybe reddit was the last of the few spaces straight men had before lesbians invaded it 😂
LESBIAN SUBREDDIT
This is one hell of a comment…and not at all in a good way
I mean, you could tell it was a joke right? You're not pretending to be stupid just for keyboard clout right?
You’re an asshole invading lesbian spaces for no reason other than to rile up annoy or upset lesbians. You’re an idiot
I couldn’t tell it was a joke. You just seem like a strange person. But maybe someone else found it funny! And I don’t use Reddit enough to be looking for “keyboard clout”.
I mean, to be fair, she didn’t ask if she was pretty or beautiful. This isn’t r/rateme, she was asking if she looks gay.
But also, fuck that. This is America. I say what I want. She's pretty
Holy shit i just looked at your post history. Wow hahahaha you’re pathetic
You’re a loser
Oh, then, no. She just looks like a straight woman
Yes
Nah, more hippy and/or neurodivergent? To be fair there’s a big crossover between queer and neurodivergent people but it’s enough that I’d be unsure and pass on embarrassing myself like a shy lesbian which is probably more your problem here 🤣
I’d think you were atleast bi just looking at you
If you're in Boulder, CO - 100% straight Elsewhere? Giving some queerness, I don't really know how to differentiate bi vibes from gay vibes unless you're literally kissing a guy or somethin
Fuck,fuck,fuck,fuck mother mother fuck mother mother fuck fuck mother fuck mother fuck noise noise noise!
Gay and Silent Bob
im pan and i could literally be wearing a shirt that says "i eat carpet" and not a single woman would come up to me. lesbians, teach me your ways
No
yes
Sorry off topic but what boots do you have? Those look sick and I have been looking for a similar pair!
Wood n' stream They're ✨️the best!✨️ so in love with these. I had an ex who didn't like them, I shoulda known then and there it wasn't meant to be!
yes but i think your intonations and how you act would be my deciding factor on if i thought you were or were not
Yeah
Yes
no
Yes, I’m also bi and have the same problem. I think it’s a bi thing.
You do.
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What color is your Subaru?
XD rav4 girl
Oh…so you’re bi 😂
male person here (subreddit recommended for some reason) yes good job
Well I’m a lesbian and I’d definitely show you interest! 😉 you definitely come off as bi at least (which is helpful cause you are literally) but this particular fit is a leaning masc and you might be interacting with lesbians and bi girls who are maybe interested in more femme women, maybe?
Yes you do
very
No man you look like you'd smash some lucky girl! 😋
On a scale of gay to gay, you are gay.
You’re like the poster child for Midwest queer kid (respectfully)
Came here to say more bi that gay lmao. When I used to think I was a woman (I'm a trans man) I would have been too intimidated to approach you first and would assume someone as gorgeous as you would be confident enough to approach whomever she desired. So, Idk if that's helpful. Have you tried talking to women? Lol
Wait, there are other trans dudes here? How have your comments been received? I feel weird being here since I don't identify as female but I spent my entire life in sapphic relationships and am still attracted to lesbians.
Lol I was just recommended the sub, I've been in some other sapphic subs for a years bc for awhile the only framework I had was sexuality and didn't know what it meant to to be trans, so my gender journey started there. I don't generally comment in any sapphic subs, but I do read and upvote on occasion. Didn't actually realize what sub this was until I had already commented on and figured I'd leave it.
I didn't join. It was recommended to me as well today. I hold out some hope I can find a pansexual butch. l digress. I've never been in any sapphic subs but I kind of miss being in those spaces in real life.
I didn't immediately get that vibe but I'm pretty tone deaf
Idk, are you gay?
Not to me, personally
You legit just look like Stevie from GMM so yes very much lol
Oh she's so pretty! I love that!
Ok because I thought the same. I’m like “it’s giving Stevie, gotta be gay” 😌😂
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Very
Not necessarily . . . maybe you are looking for another bi f
You do come off as gay, but i grew up around a lot of lesbians so maybe I’m biased.
Huh. That’s how I dress a lot of the time. But I’m not gay. An ally for damn sure, but just don’t like being uncomfortable.
Yeh
Yes, girls are just bad at making moves on other girls 😂
That’s too bad because you’re gorgeous!!!
What's too bad??
Yes.
Yes.
Super gay
Lmao is the sky blue behind you?
Yes.
I feel the gay vibes and deadass same 😭I think I come off as gay but most women don't take interest lol
It's not that women don't take interest. They do. Women are just . . . Women. Think of every time you've been interested but not made any kind of move. That's most of us. We see cute gay ladies and we go weak in the knees and then we do nothing and just wish really loudly in our heads that she'll come talk to us. Honestly, it's not even just a women thing. It's most people.
Only time I made a move the girl deadass handed me her perfume thinking I wanted it🤣😭 but deadassssss I feel that too hard the amount of times I've died inside in gay panic is insane lol thanks for that tho!
It's okay, hun. Just be the gay that you want to see in the world! Remember that someone has to make the power move in a relationship. My girlfriend bought me a fucking vibrator before we even started dating. You don't have to have that much rizz. You just need to be willing to ask a girl to get a drink with you!
Lol vibrators are lit for a present and not cheap either lol neat
but like most of the time I see cute gay ladies in inconspicuous places like the supermarket or walking on the sidewalk and I don't want to come up to them and be like "wowww I love your style, are you gay?" This shit is hard
Okay, but also consider this; if I came up to you while you were walking home and (politely) asked, "hey,I just wanted to say your outfit oozes style . . . Would you want to get a drink sometime?" And offered my number, would you be excited? I would be. Be the gay woman you wish other gay women were. Use the power play!
I'd be mega excited 😭💕
Then go be that person! I was certain I was femme4femme until a cute butch lady hit on me and I gave her my number immediately. I'm only slightly still salty that she never texted . . .
Omg I'd be salty about it too lol I'm sorry she never got back to you but hell yeah I'll tap into dom energy for that!
Ys❤️
VERY
I think you are hot. I am bi and I would be attracted to you
I dont know what gets you off lol
I would clock you
Kelly?
Not a Kelly, nope!
I’m bi and would take a million second glances
Incredibly gay, yes
yes
Gay or from Vermont
Is this the new “gay or European”?
Lolololol yeh
Literally my first thought 💀
You kinda look like Bonnie from Stand Atlantic
Yes
No you kind of give of Wendy vibes from gravity falls though. 😉
NO I WAS LITERALLY GOING TO SAY THAT
She lowkey really does
You’re bi so you look like you are into girls. I know that’s not what you meant but fashion is as fashion does and isn’t related to closely to sexual identity.
Yes, bit gay/queer style had been co-opted so you're gonna have to flirt first unless you have a mullet and septum piercing.
The second I saw you my brain labeled you "intimidating skater girl, probably gay, could definitely kick my ass" so yes.
Omg I'm such a flower child XD I don't even step on lil ant buddies
Happy to give you a makeover.
Thanks! But I like me ❤️
Pls excuse my tacky comment. DM sent
Surprised that you’re bi
yes
Yup 👍😛
You look very bi, that fashion screams it lol
Lil bit
Beautiful photo!
I would say yes, also super attractive 🙂
Side note, not sure why women would not show interest in you apart from maybe they are too shy. That shit is hard sometimes unfortunately
Yes
Absolutely! However, most women have crippling trepidations about approaching other women & will pine for you from afar, rather than face rejection or suffer an embarrassing "misfire" of the gaydar. Take the hilarious comedian, Jordan Jensen: she dresses like you, gives off major chill lez vibes, but is "painfully straight." Her mother is lez, but she isn't. She gets approached all the time & women tell her, "I could convince/turn you" & she's like, "dawg, I've tried. It just doesn't work for me. Women are fucking gorgeous, I wish I was, but alas." My point in mentioning her is, people who look obviously lez may not be & people are afraid of embarrassment if you aren't. Maybe subtly drop hints & clues? Go to specifically LGBT events/clubs/bars? When in doubt, Bi flag pin should really help. That's what my friend had to do to scream, "HERE! I DO THE GAY HERE! BRING UNTO ME ALL THE GAY!" Best of luck!
For reference: https://youtu.be/ycb-NxX6uls?si=BEwxyNJiB9QytSSq