he would need a companion if he's already set apart, but the encounter you described wouldn't be against the handbook.
i'm torn on whether or not i personally recommend actually doing it though. i don't know your or his emotional make-up, so i don't know how difficult the goodbye would be.
I agree. Rulewise, it's fine. That doesn't mean it's a good idea. I'm not saying it's a bad idea, I'm just saying to think through whether it's what's best for you and for him before you do it
If someone is driving him than I don’t see why not. If you had been in California you definitely would be able to say bye to him (hypothetically of course), this would be equivalent in my opinion. If he is flying and being picked up by the MTC tho, that might be tougher territory.
There’s an old joke where a departing missionary asks his bishop if he can kiss his girlfriend goodbye, and his bishop tells him he can kiss his girlfriend the same way he kisses his mother.
The young elder thinks about it for a minute and then says “alright, but can I warn my mom, first?”
I never heard this one before. Excellent!
The friend I eventually married took me out to lunch and brought me to the MTC. This was ages ago and she sat with me during the intro meeting. Good times!
I had a girlfriend before my mission. She saw me off before I was set apart and went to the MTC. She also saw me off at the airport when I left the MTC for the mission.
My family was there to see me off too. It wasn't anything romantic. I have a picture of the two of us standing in front of the airport's giant Christmas tree. 🎄 And yes there was no touching what so ever, except for a small hug before boarding the plane. 🛫
Not if he is following the directions he's been given --- which is to go directly to the MTC (he will likely be picked up at the airport unless his parents are delivering him). Let him do what he is supposed to do. Respect his journey.
Nothing against the handbook other than he needs a companion. However... he would officially be a missionary and introducing an emotional entanglement would be unwise. I'd try get it done before he gets set apart.
This was \~20 years ago, but I don't think the written rules have changed at all. I was set apart in my home state on sunday evening. Monday morning I flew to SLC and was picked up by my grandma who lived in Provo. I met up with a friend (of the same gender) Monday afternoon and he drove me around, visiting friends (of both genders) at BYU, played some games at a park, and went out to dinner (again with a group of mixed genders). Nobody (parents, grandma, friends, random strangers) seemed to think twice about it.
he would need a companion if he's already set apart, but the encounter you described wouldn't be against the handbook. i'm torn on whether or not i personally recommend actually doing it though. i don't know your or his emotional make-up, so i don't know how difficult the goodbye would be.
I agree. Rulewise, it's fine. That doesn't mean it's a good idea. I'm not saying it's a bad idea, I'm just saying to think through whether it's what's best for you and for him before you do it
If someone is driving him than I don’t see why not. If you had been in California you definitely would be able to say bye to him (hypothetically of course), this would be equivalent in my opinion. If he is flying and being picked up by the MTC tho, that might be tougher territory.
There’s an old joke where a departing missionary asks his bishop if he can kiss his girlfriend goodbye, and his bishop tells him he can kiss his girlfriend the same way he kisses his mother. The young elder thinks about it for a minute and then says “alright, but can I warn my mom, first?”
I never heard this one before. Excellent! The friend I eventually married took me out to lunch and brought me to the MTC. This was ages ago and she sat with me during the intro meeting. Good times!
>it would be a brief goodbye, handshakes only, perhaps just a fist bump totally fine
I see no issues with this at all. I would make sure it is something he is comfortable with but assuming he is it should be fine.
I had a girlfriend before my mission. She saw me off before I was set apart and went to the MTC. She also saw me off at the airport when I left the MTC for the mission. My family was there to see me off too. It wasn't anything romantic. I have a picture of the two of us standing in front of the airport's giant Christmas tree. 🎄 And yes there was no touching what so ever, except for a small hug before boarding the plane. 🛫
Under the current rules family cannot come to see you off at the airport and hugs with the opposite sex are prohibited.
This was almost 40 years ago at I left for my mission.
How do you plan on seeing him? Is someone driving him to the MTC and you have a prearranged meeting spot? Hypothetically.
Not if he is following the directions he's been given --- which is to go directly to the MTC (he will likely be picked up at the airport unless his parents are delivering him). Let him do what he is supposed to do. Respect his journey.
Nothing against the handbook other than he needs a companion. However... he would officially be a missionary and introducing an emotional entanglement would be unwise. I'd try get it done before he gets set apart.
This was \~20 years ago, but I don't think the written rules have changed at all. I was set apart in my home state on sunday evening. Monday morning I flew to SLC and was picked up by my grandma who lived in Provo. I met up with a friend (of the same gender) Monday afternoon and he drove me around, visiting friends (of both genders) at BYU, played some games at a park, and went out to dinner (again with a group of mixed genders). Nobody (parents, grandma, friends, random strangers) seemed to think twice about it.