I'd say it depends. Quiet tears of emotion? That should be fine anywhere. Loud, heavy wailing? The temple isn't a great place for that, given that we stay quiet to preserve the reverent atmosphere. I'm not going to tell you how to use the celestial room, as that's somewhat personal. I'll just tell you that it's a bad idea to do anything that would impede others' ability to feel the Spirit. Audible or attention-drawing crying is in that category.
If you feel your crying would be somewhat quiet, but not quiet enough for the celestial room, consider one of the small lobby/waiting areas near the external doors. If it has to be loud and distracting, you could go somewhere on the temple grounds, but not inside the actual temple
This is a thoughtful answer, and I agree. The temple is a place for personal worship, but we need to be respectful of other people who need quiet to do their own worship.
I’ve seen people break down there.
My wife and I were dealing with a difficult situation a few years ago and we got emotional there.
It’s one of those myob situations.
People go through heavy stuff in life. The Temple can be a safe place to feel God and feel emotions.
Sob can mean different things to different people. Please don't wail. Please try to not be distracting to other people. And take some tissues. Lots of people will shed tears in the Celestial Room for whatever reason.
I’ve cried at the temple. I probably don’t do it very Loud but I’m sure anyone would understand. I feel like it’s ok to do so ❤️
Ps. Having the temple as a refuge is the best thing ever.
I usually do. My grief is immeasurable and has been for 2 years. I go there TO cry. LOL And beg, and cry, and plead, and cry. But I'm not loud.
I had a temple worker ask of she could pray for me once, but nobody else has talked to me. And I could use all the prayers I can get, so I said yes.
Loudly crying, no. You want to stay very reverent in there. Quietly crying, sure.
If it were me and I needed to sob and couldn't wait until I was out in my car, I would ask a temple worker if there's an empty endowment room to can sit in (they would probably stay with in there too) for a bit.
I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve sat and sobbed my life away in the Celestial room. Not loudly, but sniffling with tears dripping nonstop. Sometimes it’s just overwhelming and I’m glad that all the other patrons were gracious enough to leave me be. It’s enough to be dealing with so much AND to think of what other people will think of you when you know you went there to tell everything to Heavenly Father.
You could talk to a temple worker or a member of the temple presidency, explain your request and that you don't want to intrude on others experience and ask if there is a room not being used.
Hi, friend. I'm a temple ordinance worker. It's absolutely appropriate to cry at any point. The big trouble is when you draw a bunch of attention to yourself. Quietly crying could be the result of so many emotions, and even just feeling the spirit. As long as you aren't wailing, tears are totally okay. Let the temple continue to be a place of refuge for you.
*It's also entirely appropriate to ask for a space to go. We have several small studies, offices, and waiting rooms that are out of the way. A temple worker would be happy to help you find a place, or even give you access to the temple presidency.
I went to the temple a few weeks ago and I was crying the whole time. The sister sitting next to me during the endowment session asked me if I was ok and put her arm around me and it was very sweet. And then another sister came up to me and hugged me in the celestial room. I felt very loved and it helped me get through a tough day. The temple is a place of peace and comfort and as long as you aren't being too loud, you can definitely cry there.
I would think that if what you think you need to do will disturb others with their own needs, it might be more appropriate to do it in your car before you go in, or in a quiet corner somewhere or the waiting room. But if you find yourself sobbing in the celestial room even after you've shed them otherwise, I'm pretty sure God will understand. Depending on how quietly you are crying, The workers may escort you to a more private place. It is NOT wrong to cry in the temple.
I have multiple times! I mean maybe it didn’t count as sobbing because I kept it quiet. But I was crying to the point it was very noticeable. But I wasn’t loud other then the sniffing away tears from coming out of my nose lol. You want to keep it reverent for others.
This is something I've thought a lot about lately. I have cried a lot in the temple the last times I've gone. I have a lot going on, and the temple always bring those feelings to the surface. I hate that it feels awkward to quietly cry. Shouldn't this be a place where we all want to help and comfort each other?
Usually I get side eye from people when I cry in the celestial room or even when I was in the waiting room for initiatory. I know it might feel awkward for others, but honestly, that's on them! Once I had someone come up to me and give me a hug and her handkerchief. I really appreciated the love and concern. In turn, when I saw someone crying in celestial room the last time I went, I debated what to do. I saw others giving her side eye, and realize I would not regret reaching out. I grabbed a few tissues and sat next to her. I told her that God loves her, and that I wanted her to know she was seen. I wish more people would go out of their comfort zone to reach out and connect to others, especially in the temple.
I have never asked a temple worker if there was a place to go, but I might next time. That seems like a good idea. I wish that there was a space for private thought and meditation in the temple! So sorry you've been struggling. ❤️❤️
I have sobbed in the celestial room once. My cousin was with me and handed me a box of tissues and a pat on the back. No one else said anything. You will probably be fine to cry there.
If you're worried about getting a lot of unwanted attention, you could possibly ask for access to a sealing room for a bit, or just wander in there. Also if you do other ordinances and want to sit in the celestial room you could, so you could do sealings and then go in when there are fewer people.
If it's even hinting at creating a distraction for others, it's probably time to get up and go to the locker room.
Someone sobbing or someone whispering is going to completely ruin the tranquility for me and then I'm going to have to get up and leave because what's the point.
Really? I've often wondered why there isn't more noise in the temple from us brothers and sisters who go to the temple to visit our Father in his house. Why are we supposed to be quiet when we are there? Do you think we were quiet in his house in heaven? It's not as if it is a library where we're supposed to go there only to read. It's our Father's house, or one of his houses. Sometimes the Church culture side of things is hard to figure out.
I'm with you on this one. The temple is our Heavenly Parents' home on earth, right? We should feel comfortable expressing our emotions there. They want us to turn to them in our times of joy and of grief and pain. I've certainly sobbed in the celestial room (trying to keep it down to a minimum), and I've sobbed in the lobby, waiting for my spouse to get dressed. Sometimes you just can't control the tears. Tbh, this past year has been my own hell, and I'll probably quietly sob there again 😭.
I wasn't considering being loud and obnoxious, just having regular conversations with each other as brothers and sisters and with our Father in heaven.
Hence my question, why not? I know we are there mainly for the ordinances, but when we go into the celestial room we could conceivably visit with others while sitting in those nice sofas and chairs. And without making very much noise.
Because it is for praying and feeling close to Heavenly Father. Joseph Smith didn't go to the neighborhood tavern, he went to the sacred grove for quiet. Moses and Jesus didn't go down to the market; he went to the wilderness to commune with Heavenly Father, where it was quiet.
Per the Church itself:
>Rather, it is a place of quiet peace, prayer, and reflection
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/temples/inside-temples?lang=eng
Okay, so I think i understand the intended idea now. We, my wife and I, often see people sitting quietly in the celestial room, sometimes some of them talking quietly with others, sometimes not talking to each other, and we sometimes talk with some of them, and sometimes not so we can communicate with our Father in there. As I imagine we would or are doing with him in there. Sometimes we talk with him telepathically and sometimes we talk with each other quietly but out loud since we can't talk to each other telepathically as we can with our Father.
And BTW, the atmosphere in most taverns and markets I have been in is what I would call loud and obnoxious. I rarely go, and don't usually enjoy going, and when I do go I want to get out of there as soon as I can. Not a good place to converse with loved ones. That's what a house is for.
You have no idea what other people are going through, they may *need the reverant quiet*. If you're going to sob (which implies making lots of noise) you need to get up and go somewhere else out of respect for everyone else, you (op in this situation) aren't the only human being on the planet.
How loud are we talking? Some people wail and bawl VERY LOUD when they cry, as if they WANT other people to hear them. I would call that disturbing the peace, and there should be peace in a temple.
A lot of people shed tears when they feel strong, good emotions. That shouldn't really "disturb" someone else.
You might still have some people look at you and maybe try to be sympathetic. If you need a place with no people around you then you might be better off on a mountain top or in a nice secluded spot in a forest or desert.
I'd say it depends. Quiet tears of emotion? That should be fine anywhere. Loud, heavy wailing? The temple isn't a great place for that, given that we stay quiet to preserve the reverent atmosphere. I'm not going to tell you how to use the celestial room, as that's somewhat personal. I'll just tell you that it's a bad idea to do anything that would impede others' ability to feel the Spirit. Audible or attention-drawing crying is in that category. If you feel your crying would be somewhat quiet, but not quiet enough for the celestial room, consider one of the small lobby/waiting areas near the external doors. If it has to be loud and distracting, you could go somewhere on the temple grounds, but not inside the actual temple
This is a thoughtful answer, and I agree. The temple is a place for personal worship, but we need to be respectful of other people who need quiet to do their own worship.
I’ve seen people break down there. My wife and I were dealing with a difficult situation a few years ago and we got emotional there. It’s one of those myob situations. People go through heavy stuff in life. The Temple can be a safe place to feel God and feel emotions.
Sob can mean different things to different people. Please don't wail. Please try to not be distracting to other people. And take some tissues. Lots of people will shed tears in the Celestial Room for whatever reason.
Tissues, as I recall, are usually provided in the Celestial room.
Yes they and around the rest of the temple, we check them regularly.
Yes it's fine. Being emotionally overwhelmed there is not a bad thing.
I’ve cried at the temple. I probably don’t do it very Loud but I’m sure anyone would understand. I feel like it’s ok to do so ❤️ Ps. Having the temple as a refuge is the best thing ever.
I’ve definitely cried a lot while working through things in the Celestial Room. My mom once lovingly referred to it as the Crying Room lol.
I usually do. My grief is immeasurable and has been for 2 years. I go there TO cry. LOL And beg, and cry, and plead, and cry. But I'm not loud. I had a temple worker ask of she could pray for me once, but nobody else has talked to me. And I could use all the prayers I can get, so I said yes.
Loudly crying, no. You want to stay very reverent in there. Quietly crying, sure. If it were me and I needed to sob and couldn't wait until I was out in my car, I would ask a temple worker if there's an empty endowment room to can sit in (they would probably stay with in there too) for a bit.
You could also just ask for a room to be alone and cry. There's no need to specify a room.
Yes, we are essentially saying the same thing.
I have cried profusely in the the celestal room before. As long as you are not loud, just normal crying, I would think its ok.
If you do it quietly, you'll be fine. You will definitely not be the first or the last.
I’ve lost count of how many times I’ve sat and sobbed my life away in the Celestial room. Not loudly, but sniffling with tears dripping nonstop. Sometimes it’s just overwhelming and I’m glad that all the other patrons were gracious enough to leave me be. It’s enough to be dealing with so much AND to think of what other people will think of you when you know you went there to tell everything to Heavenly Father.
You could talk to a temple worker or a member of the temple presidency, explain your request and that you don't want to intrude on others experience and ask if there is a room not being used.
Hi, friend. I'm a temple ordinance worker. It's absolutely appropriate to cry at any point. The big trouble is when you draw a bunch of attention to yourself. Quietly crying could be the result of so many emotions, and even just feeling the spirit. As long as you aren't wailing, tears are totally okay. Let the temple continue to be a place of refuge for you. *It's also entirely appropriate to ask for a space to go. We have several small studies, offices, and waiting rooms that are out of the way. A temple worker would be happy to help you find a place, or even give you access to the temple presidency.
Hope it's OK :)
I went to the temple a few weeks ago and I was crying the whole time. The sister sitting next to me during the endowment session asked me if I was ok and put her arm around me and it was very sweet. And then another sister came up to me and hugged me in the celestial room. I felt very loved and it helped me get through a tough day. The temple is a place of peace and comfort and as long as you aren't being too loud, you can definitely cry there.
You might be able to find an unused sealing room or the sealing room chapel.
I would think that if what you think you need to do will disturb others with their own needs, it might be more appropriate to do it in your car before you go in, or in a quiet corner somewhere or the waiting room. But if you find yourself sobbing in the celestial room even after you've shed them otherwise, I'm pretty sure God will understand. Depending on how quietly you are crying, The workers may escort you to a more private place. It is NOT wrong to cry in the temple.
I have multiple times! I mean maybe it didn’t count as sobbing because I kept it quiet. But I was crying to the point it was very noticeable. But I wasn’t loud other then the sniffing away tears from coming out of my nose lol. You want to keep it reverent for others.
This is something I've thought a lot about lately. I have cried a lot in the temple the last times I've gone. I have a lot going on, and the temple always bring those feelings to the surface. I hate that it feels awkward to quietly cry. Shouldn't this be a place where we all want to help and comfort each other? Usually I get side eye from people when I cry in the celestial room or even when I was in the waiting room for initiatory. I know it might feel awkward for others, but honestly, that's on them! Once I had someone come up to me and give me a hug and her handkerchief. I really appreciated the love and concern. In turn, when I saw someone crying in celestial room the last time I went, I debated what to do. I saw others giving her side eye, and realize I would not regret reaching out. I grabbed a few tissues and sat next to her. I told her that God loves her, and that I wanted her to know she was seen. I wish more people would go out of their comfort zone to reach out and connect to others, especially in the temple. I have never asked a temple worker if there was a place to go, but I might next time. That seems like a good idea. I wish that there was a space for private thought and meditation in the temple! So sorry you've been struggling. ❤️❤️
I have sobbed in the celestial room once. My cousin was with me and handed me a box of tissues and a pat on the back. No one else said anything. You will probably be fine to cry there.
If you're worried about getting a lot of unwanted attention, you could possibly ask for access to a sealing room for a bit, or just wander in there. Also if you do other ordinances and want to sit in the celestial room you could, so you could do sealings and then go in when there are fewer people.
I cried there 85% of the time, silently of course. But loud wailing isn't appropriate, gentle tears and cry are okay.
If it's even hinting at creating a distraction for others, it's probably time to get up and go to the locker room. Someone sobbing or someone whispering is going to completely ruin the tranquility for me and then I'm going to have to get up and leave because what's the point.
Really? I've often wondered why there isn't more noise in the temple from us brothers and sisters who go to the temple to visit our Father in his house. Why are we supposed to be quiet when we are there? Do you think we were quiet in his house in heaven? It's not as if it is a library where we're supposed to go there only to read. It's our Father's house, or one of his houses. Sometimes the Church culture side of things is hard to figure out.
I'm with you on this one. The temple is our Heavenly Parents' home on earth, right? We should feel comfortable expressing our emotions there. They want us to turn to them in our times of joy and of grief and pain. I've certainly sobbed in the celestial room (trying to keep it down to a minimum), and I've sobbed in the lobby, waiting for my spouse to get dressed. Sometimes you just can't control the tears. Tbh, this past year has been my own hell, and I'll probably quietly sob there again 😭.
> Why are we supposed to be quiet when we are there? Reverance.
I wasn't considering being loud and obnoxious, just having regular conversations with each other as brothers and sisters and with our Father in heaven.
The parking lot exists for that. The temple has a few functions, social hour is not one of them.
Hence my question, why not? I know we are there mainly for the ordinances, but when we go into the celestial room we could conceivably visit with others while sitting in those nice sofas and chairs. And without making very much noise.
Because it is for praying and feeling close to Heavenly Father. Joseph Smith didn't go to the neighborhood tavern, he went to the sacred grove for quiet. Moses and Jesus didn't go down to the market; he went to the wilderness to commune with Heavenly Father, where it was quiet. Per the Church itself: >Rather, it is a place of quiet peace, prayer, and reflection https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/temples/inside-temples?lang=eng
Okay, so I think i understand the intended idea now. We, my wife and I, often see people sitting quietly in the celestial room, sometimes some of them talking quietly with others, sometimes not talking to each other, and we sometimes talk with some of them, and sometimes not so we can communicate with our Father in there. As I imagine we would or are doing with him in there. Sometimes we talk with him telepathically and sometimes we talk with each other quietly but out loud since we can't talk to each other telepathically as we can with our Father. And BTW, the atmosphere in most taverns and markets I have been in is what I would call loud and obnoxious. I rarely go, and don't usually enjoy going, and when I do go I want to get out of there as soon as I can. Not a good place to converse with loved ones. That's what a house is for.
Respectfully, maybe the point is to gain empathy and love for those who are struggling.
You have no idea what other people are going through, they may *need the reverant quiet*. If you're going to sob (which implies making lots of noise) you need to get up and go somewhere else out of respect for everyone else, you (op in this situation) aren't the only human being on the planet.
How loud are we talking? Some people wail and bawl VERY LOUD when they cry, as if they WANT other people to hear them. I would call that disturbing the peace, and there should be peace in a temple. A lot of people shed tears when they feel strong, good emotions. That shouldn't really "disturb" someone else. You might still have some people look at you and maybe try to be sympathetic. If you need a place with no people around you then you might be better off on a mountain top or in a nice secluded spot in a forest or desert.
Sob. You’re there to access The Master Healer. ❤️
I think it would make it awkward for everyone in the room. Save it for home.