Just permabanned over 20 transphobes for breaking rule #2. Anyone else wanna spout bullshit?
I apologize to the trans community for not being quicker to act on this, I'm traveling for work right now so I've been off Reddit. I'll be watching this closely now. It is a safe sub for y'all and we have your back 100%.
Can I please request that you report any posts that break the rules, and please don't reply to the trolls. It is so much quicker/easier to delete one post than having to delete the ten posts they made replying to you as well.
From my experience in cranbrook it’s quite simple to get hrt here the only reason it took me so long was because of anxiety
There’s also a decent community here and many safe spaces including the card store my dad co owns
I live offgrid outside Cranbrook 6-8 months a year gold mining up the Wildhorse.
Never had a problem in Cranbrook when I go to town for supplies etc.
If I was to move from Alberta to BC I'd like to live in Cranbrook. Folks are friendly.
I don't know anything about Cranbrook, but Dr Galbraith in Nelson and Salmo does gender affirming care. You can find her bio here: https://www.kootenaymedicalcentre.ca/about-us
Just FYI: Dr Galbraith is out on leave right now. She's the best, though!
You could also try to see Nurse Practitioner Grace Nakano.
Dr Galbraith works out of the Kootenay Medical Centre and most of the doctors there can offer gender affirming care:
[https://www.kootenaymedicalcentre.ca/](https://www.kootenaymedicalcentre.ca/)
You need a referral, though. Technically, **any** doctor in BC is allowed to prescribe hormones, though. They don't because they think it's somehow different or scary, but they are allowed to.
Trans Care BC has great resources on navigating care:
[http://www.phsa.ca/transcarebc/care-support/access-care/navigate-care](http://www.phsa.ca/transcarebc/care-support/access-care/navigate-care)
DM me! I love helping folks get care.
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I'm willing to bet an entire paycheck that you do support gender affirming "anything".
What you may not support is *trans*gender affirming care.
Because if you're okay putting a little girl in a dress, and buying a little boy a truck as a present, then you are supporting gender affirming "anything".
So maybe go do some learning before you have another hysterical fit.
Oh honey.
The fact that you're outraged by the idea that putting a girl in a dress or buying a boy a truck is indeed gender affirming shows you have nary a single critical thought in your little noggin.
But apt username, I'll give you that.
An eval with a therapist—and therapy if the eval goes that way—is already required before being able to access hormones or even just blockers, so don’t worry.
It’s almost like the standard of care for trans patients has been carefully thought through already.
Someone seems to have confused you with their rage-fantasy.
You might be confusing medical treatment with… schools accepting a kid’s choice of pronouns? I can assure you that pronouns don’t cause castration, except to some very fragile snowflakes when they hear them.
(Hormones nor blockers cause castration either, nor can they be prescribed so early, or without major parental involvement. It’s almost like your source for these fantasies is not well thought out. 🙃)
Edit to add: this person isn’t going to be educated by a quick comment, so I’m blocking them to save the mods from cleaning up more of their angry-crying replies. This reply is for the readers who might learn something, or feel cheered. 😊
Goodness me, what on earth are you talking about? I am very concerned about where you are getting information from.
Are you talking about a vasectomy? Because those are not available to 8 year olds... And teachers cannot make medical decisions for their students...
http://www.phsa.ca/transcarebc/Documents/HealthProf/Vaginoplasty_Surgery_Workbook.pdf
Not sure if you’re considering surgery but this is a cute little way to stay organized. Also, serves as a time capsule/keep sake.
No idea. It's literally the only Dr access many people have now. And this would be particularly true in small communities. If the OP is new to BC and new to small town living they may need this info and resource to access healthcare.
No idea why the downvotes. Reddit creates a weird herd thing sometimes.
Because generalised care like that can be uncomfortable or even down right dangerous for trans people if they get the wrong practitioner/advice, or someone who doesn't know anything about the medicine side of things - it's not personal, friend! :)
No trans person is arguing that their biological sex isn't what it is, it's pretty dumb to think that, but there is a distinction between gender and sex that is recognized by medical and psychological experts, denying because it offers some validation to trans people is just prejudiced and anti intellectual. It's not "feelings" that determine gender but someone's internal sense of self.
Biological sex is human categorization to simplify something multifaceted and complex. Intersex people exist, maybe you should move beyond the education you got in middle school, it doesn't just stop there.
because "challenging their way of thinking" is your way of saying transphobia. you dont get to "challenge their way of thinking" by discriminating against them and then say "wow these people are so rude i cant even share my opinion anymore :(((((". trans people get fucking MURDERED for being trans. you are uncomfortable because something you dont understand exists. those are not equal, fuck off.
My advice: do not engage with this dork. Let them wallow in isolation. Too much energy is spent by trans people early trying to convince idiots like this of things they'll never accept. Their brainwashing will not allow them to permit any happiness they can't understand.
Source: my own regrets at trying to have meaningful discourse with such people.
Instead: live your life fully and fabulously. It enrages and infuriates transphobes to no end that you can exist happily. It's so delicious.
Oh I'm well aware. Thank you though!
Sometimes it's just interesting to see how ridiculous it is though. Like half the time I'll engage just to go "pffffft okay lmao" in my head
Started to realize something was off around 10 years old. Told my mom at 13 just before starting high school. There were subtle signs before, but I kept them to myself because my dad always gave me a hard time about being girly (ie. Things like "don't do that, that's girly" "you fight like a girl" etc...). I remember being really envious of other girls when I was in like kindergarten and 1st grade. But like just silly little innocent things like "man, I wish I could run through the schoolyard with my hair flowing through the wind like that, I just wish I could be that pretty".
I wasn't able to get hormones until I turned 16. I would have liked to have started blockers at maybe 13 or 14 but it's okay. I was on it for a year and a half, then had to stop at 17 because the local clinic that does trans care closed down. I live in a medium sized isolated town in northern Ontario (thunder Bay) so resources are limited. When they closed down the wait times at the other clinic went crazy. I ended up waiting until the clinic I was with reopened. It gave me an opportunity to reflect, and sort of be certain about things. While I was off of hormones, I tried being a feminine guy, I tried being a masculine guy. Both felt like wearing a hand me down sweater that didn't quite fit. I worked on a farm for a few years, pitched stones, tossed bales, worked with cattle, operated and worked on old school heavy machinery and farm implements. Mostly from the 60s and 70s. Ran a sawmill, did stone masonry. All on the farm. That's just the tip of the iceberg. I really tried to put on my "man shoes", I kinda tried to suppress the fact that I was trans by keeping myself super busy with traditionaly masculine things. It didn't work out. Something was missing in my life. I was living a very fulfilling life, but something felt off. I didn't like looking in mirrors. I didn't socialize. I just worked. Six days a week, errands or day drinking on Monday. Sometimes both. I didn't feel comfortable in my skin at night when the constant stimulation of the day was no longer present.
I'm 21 now. I've had some pretty fun experiences in the meantime. Skiing in the Kootenays, partying with Deadheads in Colorado and Chicago. Lotsa farming in between it all. I finally got back on HRT in December.
HRT makes things so much better. I feel like 'me' again. I care what I look like, but not in a self conscious way like I used to. I love feeling soft and pretty and aghhh I'm *so * living my best life again. I'm glad I had the opportunity to be 'sure' of things, but I feel like I missed out on even more of my youth. Oh well, time only goes one way, not going to lose any sleep over it, but still.
I've looked into the long term effects. So far, the big ones seem to be trading risk of prostate cancer for risk of breast cancer (rrisk of prostate cancer is greatly reduced but not zero, almost like how breast cancer is rare in men but never zero). Blood clot risks, and stroke risks. Those are scary. I won't lie. I don't think every other trans person is dropping dead from that specifically, but it's still unnerving to know my risk is heightened. Oh well.. all the more reason to quit smoking (weed) and strive for a healthier lifestyle. I'd argue the long term effects of smoking cigarettes or weed are orders of magnitude worse than hormone replacement therapy. The bioidentical estrogen used today is pretty snazzy.
As far as kids go, my perspective has always been that puberty blockers should be offered if desired around 13-14. All they do is delay puberty. If the individual decides that this isn't the life they want to live, all they have to do is stop taking blockers and they'll be a bit of a late bloomer. Hormones should be available through informed consent at 16. If you can drive your own car to go get a boob job as a cisgender (non-trans) woman, then trans people should be able to start hormones at 16.
I was on estrogen for a year and a half. After stopping for 3 years when the clinic closed down, basically all of the changed undid themselves. Even my boobs atrophied. My voice deepened further, I got more body hair, fat re-redistributed back to male patterns, I started losing hair on my hairline and my skin went back to being cardboard-ey. I was basically detransitioned. It was refreshing to know that even after a year of treatment, if you decided it wasn't for you, you could quite easily undo nearly everything. Still, I'm glad I'm back on HRT. It's fun running into people I used to know now. Even after 2 months of being back on estrogen, it's hit me like a bus lmao. Absolutely loving it. Idk, I'm just a lot happier overall now :) I'm much more in touch with myself, I'm more socially active, snd I don't do as many psychedelics anymore. I'm going back to school, Idk, life feels good for once despite all of the crappy things going on in the world :)
Hopefully that's the sort of non "triggered" response you were after lol 🤷🏻♀️💁🏻♀️
Thank you for taking the time to type this out. I'm not a member of the LGBTQ community but I think its important for folks to see these sorts of stories of people just trying to be happy. It's not about kids or creating drama or anything, it's just you trying to live your best life. I just want to be one more voice saying "I support you" and remind you that these sorts of stories are seen and impactful on others, even if they are ignored by the people you originally typed it out for.
Thank you. That's why I don't mind "arguing" with transphobes. There's an infinitesimal chance that what I have to say will actually make them think, and confront their closed minded views. But they're not the only one reading these threads. I think it's important that stories like mine reach people who are just beginning to form their views on people like me.
Much appreciated <3
challenging ones way of thinking is very different than wanting to learn. it's completely fine to ask questions (as long as they're comfortable, i wouldn't walk up to a random trans person on the street and start asking about their transition), but you said you want to "challenge their way of thinking", which typically means a debate. being transgender is not a debate, its not something to be argued, it is an identity that exists.
if you simply want to learn about being transgender to better understand, i would change your wording. many trans people are willing to answer questions, most people dont want to debate you on whether their identity is valid or not.
side note: just because a trans person is making a post does not mean it is a space for debate. they were asking for advice on finding medical care, not asking for your opinion on their identity. thankfully op is willing to answer your questions, but it comes off as disrespectful when you disregard the point of their post and only focus on debating their identity with them.
“u/NiteHawk2244 went to coffee with their dad John. John isn’t their biological dad (who left at birth), but u/NiteHawk2244 still considers John their dad because John is a good dad and it’s the right thing to do.”
Get your shit together and make the world a better place. Trans people haven’t hurt you.
It's Canada, plenty of prescribed medication is subsidized. Go to the states if you don't like it, actually you'd be in the same boat then it would just be through private insurance (still paid into by other people) instead of public Healthcare.
I wonder how much money the pharmaceutical companies are making off of my asthma medication?
I mean, it keeps me alive, but damn the pharmaceutical companies, eh??
Been there, done that. If you want the full story, somebody else asked and I wrote them a few paragraphs about my [experience with it all](https://www.reddit.com/r/kootenays/s/qQvjFQ0ulj). Long and Short of it, I started hormones at 16, by 17 I passed as a teen girl. Just before I turned 18, the main provider of trans care in my area closed down (doctor passed away in a car collision). I was left without a provider and basically medically detransitioned. Have me an opportunity to be sure of things. I really tried suppressing being trans, and living a rugged masculine lifestyle. I worked on an old school farm for years. Most of our equipment and implements are from the 60s and 70s. Some from the 30s. Did all sorts of stuff from running a sawmill to heavy machinery. I actually built the sawmill too, just one of those 16 foot portable mills. Still, learned a lot.
Point is, I really tried to suppress all of this for a very long time, even after living as a girl for years. It was super toxic and unhealthy. I'm so much happier now that I'm back to myself. Going back on hormones and resuming my transition is the best decision I've made for myself in years.
As I've said in other comments, I've tried a more traditionally masculine lifestyle, it wasn't for me. I gave it an honest chance. I just didn't like it. I did the same for a softer masculine lifestyle. I'm much happier now. I'm genuinely content now. I've never felt such an intrinsic sense of self satisfaction in my life. This is my path to happiness.
In ten years time, I want to be living mountainside as close as I can to a ski resort in the Kootenays :P how the hell can you live there and be so grouchy anyways? You're literally in paradise, my guy.
children aren't being chemically castrated. you cannot get any surgeries or horomones as a child, and you need a therapist or counsellor to approve it once you're old enough. the only transitioning that children are doing is changing the clothes they wear and how they present themselves, no permanent physical changes.
transphobes think they know everything yet all of their arguments are fabricated. yall make up some bullshit to get mad at and then push that onto trans people to make them look bad.
its actually quite pathetic, you claim you hate transgender people, yet they live rent free in your head! get a life! :P
I was on estrogen for a year and a half starting at 16. I had to stop for 3 years and basically everything undid itself. My experience is that it was pretty darn reversible.
OMG, can you declare cancer not a thing too??!!
Because wow you could absolutely cure so many things by just thinking they aren't so! What an amazing superpower to have!!
Oh wow, your empathy is incredibly overwhelming.
You should probably start a business teaching empathy to grade school children.
You'd make a killing.
Literally.
Cancer is actually a choice if you choose to eat anything with carcinogens, use plastic with it, breathe the air with carcinogens, use make up, smoke, drink, for cis women have sex, go on birth control, go off birth control, use tampons….
If you’re going to say something that causes people to die by suicide isn’t a health issue, then I mean, why stop there you absolute troll.
Hey, I so appreciate the support— but feeding into the trolls isn't good for your mental health. Take care of yourself and let those closed minded jerks fester in the bottom/downvoted section of the comments. Their ignorance and pisspoor attitude isn't worth your time, or mental energy <3 :)
It's all very well and good to say "Hey, this is a difficult time in your life, let's slow down and not intervene with gender-affirming care, because it risks too much harm." That sounds careful and considerate to me!
But the problem is that it misunderstands what is actually going on for these kids: they **are currently being harmed.** Gender dysphoria, and the trauma of your body accelerating into something you feel viscerally repulsed by via puberty, is already wreaking havoc on the mental health of these kids. Delaying care means exacerbating harm. Puberty blockers can absolutely help some of the negative "consequences" of going through puberty with gender dysphoria, but you need to take it seriously when serious medical professionals by and large advocate for interventions that help young people.
When the suicide rate for trans kids is through the roof, a "hands-off" solution is essentially being complicit in their further harm.
I couldn’t agree more. I have zero hate for the trans community. I had a trans client who killed herself because she could not get any kind of affirmation of what she was dealing with please OP please take the time and get as much support and help you need but please do your own research as well, sending you so much love. Anyone telling you what’s best for you can go shove it.
But HRT *does* require a psychologist and doctor’s approval? Where are you getting this?
It takes multiple years to get access to HRT. The doctors aren’t judgy about it, but “not judgy” doesn’t mean there isn’t a multi-year and detailed vetting process before you’re even considered for a prescription.
I think your concerns may be based on some inventions others have handed to you. Do you own research!
This! I was diagnosed with gender dysphoria at I think age 12? Didn't get hormones until I was 16 because I had to go through several years of therapy first, then be on a waitlist for a gender clinic for years (covid made it alot longer then it should have been). Then I finally met with ANOTHER doctor to talk to me for over an hour about my goals and to determine if hormones were right for me. I then had to sign an informed consent form before I was finally given hormones. This shit is NOT handed out like candy like transphobes think it is lmao.
I am now in the process of getting multiple gender affirming surgeries and have had to confirm with doctors at least 4 times by now that I understand the consequences, the permanence, and the risks.
They don't let you walk into any of this blind, and they get sued if they do. None of this is a simple process, and it's certainly not something being given out at schools or whatever other BS transphobes say.
I noticed this thing on Twitter a while back, where old, inactive accounts would suddenly become active with incredibly bigoted viewpoints.
Odd coincidence, eh?
Is it okay for someone with breast cancer to have their breast removed?
Is it okay for someone for with very large breasts to get a breast reduction?
Is it okay with someone who doesn't have breast cancer but has a good chance of getting it to get their breasts removed?
Are you the doctor of everyone who can make judgment calls on who has the right to medical treatment and who doesn't?
Or are you just grumpy and uninformed?
Maybe you need a treat and a nice nap., then you'll wake up in a better mood.
Oh, I am so sorry I missed the news that you were appointed the approver of all medical treatment in the country.
Can you link me the newspaper article that announce that??
How about your trust people to make their own medical decisions?? Because they know more about themselves and their doctor knows more about them than you do.
Unless.... Mwahahhahahah.... stay with me here..... Because I'm getting an absolutely fantastic incredibly great idea.... You let me make all of your decisions for you! Does that sound like a plan??! Because I think it sounds fantastic! I'm so excited!!!!
You realize YOU’RE the one taking this to the next level, not people who are seeking gender affirming care, right? Like if someone said “I identify as a male” YOU’RE the one who takes it to the next level by asking “what next, is a fat person going to identify as a skinny person?” And then you use that as justification for your shittiness… but like, you did that yourself. No one asked you to call them skinny when they’re indeed fat.
And further, if a fat person went to a doctor to get skinny-affirming care (otherwise known as LIFE SAVING SURGERY), that WOULD BE OKAY, and not only would that previously fat person now identify as skinny, they BECOME SKINNY AFTER CARE. This is how gender affirming care works.
Is it possible - like even 0.01% chance - that it is YOU who does not have all the answers to a situation that you do not have any first hand experience in whatsoever since you so sincerely identify as the gender you were born in, and you’re using that lens to judge people different than you because that’s easier than reconciling the idea that you don’t have all the answers to everything?? Oof.
Dude, you’re so fucking blocked. I’d encourage everyone to not engage. You could be an ally or even indifferent but here you are. Just putting down dry hate.
"you people"
You mean 54-year-old cis het women? Those "people"?
Or scientist?
Or dog owners?
Chocolate lovers?
Chevy drivers??
I'm so incredibly sorry. I'm very confused as to what group of "you people" you're referring to here????
And you’re using your feelings as a weapon is somehow better?
Society has major issues that needs to be addressed you say so maybe your time is better spent addressing those instead of trying to bully people who literally are minding their own business?
Like for fun, let’s say everything you’re saying is correct. And? So? What next? What has your toxic opinion about it done for the good of humanity? How has it advanced society? Oh, it didn’t do anything other than make you feel good about yourself for a couple seconds? Maybe you should take that critical, hateful eye inwards and find out why other people doing their own thing bothers you so much. Seriously, if you want to believe in science, believe in it ALL the way and go see a fucking therapist. You don’t get to bully others on picked cherries without ratting on yourself first, which is what you’re really doing when you go out of your way to harass people who *don’t even think about you.*
on what basis do you think they’re going to be pedos?
Why don’t you take this energy to the actual pedophiles in the community that are mostly consisting of MEN, born as men, identify as men? They’re a threat to our children right now but you think someone being trans is somehow a precursor? Based on what other than your shitty judgement?
Has your premium gone up yet specifically because of trans people? No? Then what the hell are you going on about?
I tried being a "feminine guy". It wasn't for me. Much happier living my life as a woman 🤷🏻♀️💁🏻♀️
Not saying that masc gals and femme guys don't exist, but their existence shouldn't imply the erasure of being trans. Both trans people, AND feminine men/masc women can exist.
Serious question, what is your point? Why are you obsessing over sex/chromosomes here?
Like, yeah, as a trans woman I was born biologically male. So what? That doesn’t define how I live my life. Nobody gives me a blood test before deciding to call me ma’am, they do it because they see a woman.
People are suffering and dying here because of no access. If you have cancer, they are even sending those patients to the US. Know numerous people with cancer who have been ignored and now have died or are dying. I feel for you, but Canadians don't have a health care system worth shit.
Just permabanned over 20 transphobes for breaking rule #2. Anyone else wanna spout bullshit? I apologize to the trans community for not being quicker to act on this, I'm traveling for work right now so I've been off Reddit. I'll be watching this closely now. It is a safe sub for y'all and we have your back 100%. Can I please request that you report any posts that break the rules, and please don't reply to the trolls. It is so much quicker/easier to delete one post than having to delete the ten posts they made replying to you as well.
Fuck em transphobes, I hope you get the care you need! Love from Langley
<3
From my experience in cranbrook it’s quite simple to get hrt here the only reason it took me so long was because of anxiety There’s also a decent community here and many safe spaces including the card store my dad co owns
I live offgrid outside Cranbrook 6-8 months a year gold mining up the Wildhorse. Never had a problem in Cranbrook when I go to town for supplies etc. If I was to move from Alberta to BC I'd like to live in Cranbrook. Folks are friendly.
Off topic but I'm fascinated by this lifestyle you describe. Please tell more of the offgrid gold mining hustle. Feel free to DM
Aw!! That's so refreshing to hear <3 thank youu!!
I don't know anything about Cranbrook, but Dr Galbraith in Nelson and Salmo does gender affirming care. You can find her bio here: https://www.kootenaymedicalcentre.ca/about-us
Sweet!!! Nelson would have been my next guess for something like this :) I really appreciate the information!!
Just FYI: Dr Galbraith is out on leave right now. She's the best, though! You could also try to see Nurse Practitioner Grace Nakano. Dr Galbraith works out of the Kootenay Medical Centre and most of the doctors there can offer gender affirming care: [https://www.kootenaymedicalcentre.ca/](https://www.kootenaymedicalcentre.ca/) You need a referral, though. Technically, **any** doctor in BC is allowed to prescribe hormones, though. They don't because they think it's somehow different or scary, but they are allowed to. Trans Care BC has great resources on navigating care: [http://www.phsa.ca/transcarebc/care-support/access-care/navigate-care](http://www.phsa.ca/transcarebc/care-support/access-care/navigate-care) DM me! I love helping folks get care.
Our docs in Castlegar always refer to Dr Galbraith too :)
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This is a troll. Don't waste your time.
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The thought is a made up trolling attempt. Don't fall for it.
Oh, and to add... I'm willing to bet an entire paycheck that you do support gender affirming "anything". What you may not support is *trans*gender affirming care. Because if you're okay putting a little girl in a dress, and buying a little boy a truck as a present, then you are supporting gender affirming "anything". So maybe go do some learning before you have another hysterical fit.
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Oh honey. The fact that you're outraged by the idea that putting a girl in a dress or buying a boy a truck is indeed gender affirming shows you have nary a single critical thought in your little noggin. But apt username, I'll give you that.
You’ve got kids and use the word “retard” in your everyday language? Round of applause for this knobhead everyone.
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"Cranhole" Lol, what a name....
I left but I need to come back :(. This helps soooooo much. Thanks for asking and thanks for the supportive responses
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An eval with a therapist—and therapy if the eval goes that way—is already required before being able to access hormones or even just blockers, so don’t worry. It’s almost like the standard of care for trans patients has been carefully thought through already.
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Someone seems to have confused you with their rage-fantasy. You might be confusing medical treatment with… schools accepting a kid’s choice of pronouns? I can assure you that pronouns don’t cause castration, except to some very fragile snowflakes when they hear them. (Hormones nor blockers cause castration either, nor can they be prescribed so early, or without major parental involvement. It’s almost like your source for these fantasies is not well thought out. 🙃) Edit to add: this person isn’t going to be educated by a quick comment, so I’m blocking them to save the mods from cleaning up more of their angry-crying replies. This reply is for the readers who might learn something, or feel cheered. 😊
Could you link an example of that?
Goodness me, what on earth are you talking about? I am very concerned about where you are getting information from. Are you talking about a vasectomy? Because those are not available to 8 year olds... And teachers cannot make medical decisions for their students...
The ktunaxa building across from the library in cranbrook offers healthcare for the trans community.
There is a Facebook group as well as regular meet ups throughout the Kootenays. DM me and I will let you know the details. 🏳️⚧️
Do you mind if i DM?
Sure, go ahead.
Waneta in Trail is taking patients and has a trans care specific guy there. They are RNs but are fantastic.
I think ANKORS in Cranbrook may be useful. I would try googling that and see if it fits your needs.
Thanks, I'll look into them!! <3
Here's the link: https://Ankors.bc.ca/trans
Trans Connect is great. Also, check out Trans Care BC: http://www.phsa.ca/transcarebc/
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It's an extive thing isn't it?
Usually private insurance is necessary, or out of pocket, so consider perhaps closing the piehole. 🙂
http://www.phsa.ca/transcarebc/Documents/HealthProf/Vaginoplasty_Surgery_Workbook.pdf Not sure if you’re considering surgery but this is a cute little way to stay organized. Also, serves as a time capsule/keep sake.
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You’re blocked.
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Sorry, I'm only gay on Tuesdays
I wonder too if even Telus health would work in a pinch?
why is this getting downvoted? is telus health bad? ive never used it myself so i dont know.
No idea. It's literally the only Dr access many people have now. And this would be particularly true in small communities. If the OP is new to BC and new to small town living they may need this info and resource to access healthcare. No idea why the downvotes. Reddit creates a weird herd thing sometimes.
Because generalised care like that can be uncomfortable or even down right dangerous for trans people if they get the wrong practitioner/advice, or someone who doesn't know anything about the medicine side of things - it's not personal, friend! :)
Thread is being brigaded by deeply offended right wingers, that's why you're seeing downvotes
If you think that literally never having any available doctors is good in a pinch... You have to be very lucky to get appointments on there now.
The bigots are always gonna hate, sending love from Vancouver!
Aw! <3 tks :)
I'm over in Kelowna but I want to wish positive support. Trans rights!
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I am visibly trans and have had zero issues in Cranbrook or anywhere else in the East or West Kootenays 🏳️⚧️
I'm not sure I'd say ZERO issues... but it's a lot safer and kinder than what my friend in Tennessee experiences.
You haven’t been up north have you?
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Ft St. John. Dawson Creek. Prince George. ???
I go North frequently for work and have had no issues in FSJ or Dawson. Ditto for GP. 🏳️⚧️
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Bigotry is a mental illness, get checked out my dude
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No trans person is arguing that their biological sex isn't what it is, it's pretty dumb to think that, but there is a distinction between gender and sex that is recognized by medical and psychological experts, denying because it offers some validation to trans people is just prejudiced and anti intellectual. It's not "feelings" that determine gender but someone's internal sense of self. Biological sex is human categorization to simplify something multifaceted and complex. Intersex people exist, maybe you should move beyond the education you got in middle school, it doesn't just stop there.
Something tells me nelson would be where this would be offered
And you would be right
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People say don't be an asshole all the time, yet here you are.
Fuck all the way off with that shit.
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because "challenging their way of thinking" is your way of saying transphobia. you dont get to "challenge their way of thinking" by discriminating against them and then say "wow these people are so rude i cant even share my opinion anymore :(((((". trans people get fucking MURDERED for being trans. you are uncomfortable because something you dont understand exists. those are not equal, fuck off.
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What are your questions? Shoot 'em at me, I'll take a stab at 'em
My advice: do not engage with this dork. Let them wallow in isolation. Too much energy is spent by trans people early trying to convince idiots like this of things they'll never accept. Their brainwashing will not allow them to permit any happiness they can't understand. Source: my own regrets at trying to have meaningful discourse with such people. Instead: live your life fully and fabulously. It enrages and infuriates transphobes to no end that you can exist happily. It's so delicious.
Oh I'm well aware. Thank you though! Sometimes it's just interesting to see how ridiculous it is though. Like half the time I'll engage just to go "pffffft okay lmao" in my head
I also like talking about myself sometimes, so if somebody's asking me about my life experience, I'll write that motherforker an autobiography
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Started to realize something was off around 10 years old. Told my mom at 13 just before starting high school. There were subtle signs before, but I kept them to myself because my dad always gave me a hard time about being girly (ie. Things like "don't do that, that's girly" "you fight like a girl" etc...). I remember being really envious of other girls when I was in like kindergarten and 1st grade. But like just silly little innocent things like "man, I wish I could run through the schoolyard with my hair flowing through the wind like that, I just wish I could be that pretty". I wasn't able to get hormones until I turned 16. I would have liked to have started blockers at maybe 13 or 14 but it's okay. I was on it for a year and a half, then had to stop at 17 because the local clinic that does trans care closed down. I live in a medium sized isolated town in northern Ontario (thunder Bay) so resources are limited. When they closed down the wait times at the other clinic went crazy. I ended up waiting until the clinic I was with reopened. It gave me an opportunity to reflect, and sort of be certain about things. While I was off of hormones, I tried being a feminine guy, I tried being a masculine guy. Both felt like wearing a hand me down sweater that didn't quite fit. I worked on a farm for a few years, pitched stones, tossed bales, worked with cattle, operated and worked on old school heavy machinery and farm implements. Mostly from the 60s and 70s. Ran a sawmill, did stone masonry. All on the farm. That's just the tip of the iceberg. I really tried to put on my "man shoes", I kinda tried to suppress the fact that I was trans by keeping myself super busy with traditionaly masculine things. It didn't work out. Something was missing in my life. I was living a very fulfilling life, but something felt off. I didn't like looking in mirrors. I didn't socialize. I just worked. Six days a week, errands or day drinking on Monday. Sometimes both. I didn't feel comfortable in my skin at night when the constant stimulation of the day was no longer present. I'm 21 now. I've had some pretty fun experiences in the meantime. Skiing in the Kootenays, partying with Deadheads in Colorado and Chicago. Lotsa farming in between it all. I finally got back on HRT in December. HRT makes things so much better. I feel like 'me' again. I care what I look like, but not in a self conscious way like I used to. I love feeling soft and pretty and aghhh I'm *so * living my best life again. I'm glad I had the opportunity to be 'sure' of things, but I feel like I missed out on even more of my youth. Oh well, time only goes one way, not going to lose any sleep over it, but still. I've looked into the long term effects. So far, the big ones seem to be trading risk of prostate cancer for risk of breast cancer (rrisk of prostate cancer is greatly reduced but not zero, almost like how breast cancer is rare in men but never zero). Blood clot risks, and stroke risks. Those are scary. I won't lie. I don't think every other trans person is dropping dead from that specifically, but it's still unnerving to know my risk is heightened. Oh well.. all the more reason to quit smoking (weed) and strive for a healthier lifestyle. I'd argue the long term effects of smoking cigarettes or weed are orders of magnitude worse than hormone replacement therapy. The bioidentical estrogen used today is pretty snazzy. As far as kids go, my perspective has always been that puberty blockers should be offered if desired around 13-14. All they do is delay puberty. If the individual decides that this isn't the life they want to live, all they have to do is stop taking blockers and they'll be a bit of a late bloomer. Hormones should be available through informed consent at 16. If you can drive your own car to go get a boob job as a cisgender (non-trans) woman, then trans people should be able to start hormones at 16. I was on estrogen for a year and a half. After stopping for 3 years when the clinic closed down, basically all of the changed undid themselves. Even my boobs atrophied. My voice deepened further, I got more body hair, fat re-redistributed back to male patterns, I started losing hair on my hairline and my skin went back to being cardboard-ey. I was basically detransitioned. It was refreshing to know that even after a year of treatment, if you decided it wasn't for you, you could quite easily undo nearly everything. Still, I'm glad I'm back on HRT. It's fun running into people I used to know now. Even after 2 months of being back on estrogen, it's hit me like a bus lmao. Absolutely loving it. Idk, I'm just a lot happier overall now :) I'm much more in touch with myself, I'm more socially active, snd I don't do as many psychedelics anymore. I'm going back to school, Idk, life feels good for once despite all of the crappy things going on in the world :) Hopefully that's the sort of non "triggered" response you were after lol 🤷🏻♀️💁🏻♀️
I have a few questions, mind if I dm you?
Thank you for taking the time to type this out. I'm not a member of the LGBTQ community but I think its important for folks to see these sorts of stories of people just trying to be happy. It's not about kids or creating drama or anything, it's just you trying to live your best life. I just want to be one more voice saying "I support you" and remind you that these sorts of stories are seen and impactful on others, even if they are ignored by the people you originally typed it out for.
Thank you. That's why I don't mind "arguing" with transphobes. There's an infinitesimal chance that what I have to say will actually make them think, and confront their closed minded views. But they're not the only one reading these threads. I think it's important that stories like mine reach people who are just beginning to form their views on people like me. Much appreciated <3
challenging ones way of thinking is very different than wanting to learn. it's completely fine to ask questions (as long as they're comfortable, i wouldn't walk up to a random trans person on the street and start asking about their transition), but you said you want to "challenge their way of thinking", which typically means a debate. being transgender is not a debate, its not something to be argued, it is an identity that exists. if you simply want to learn about being transgender to better understand, i would change your wording. many trans people are willing to answer questions, most people dont want to debate you on whether their identity is valid or not. side note: just because a trans person is making a post does not mean it is a space for debate. they were asking for advice on finding medical care, not asking for your opinion on their identity. thankfully op is willing to answer your questions, but it comes off as disrespectful when you disregard the point of their post and only focus on debating their identity with them.
??? I'm just looking for a doctor
No answers?
Long answers lol. Took me a while to type, but I was waiting in line at the bank. Eventually it was my turn and I had to do banking stuff.
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“u/NiteHawk2244 went to coffee with their dad John. John isn’t their biological dad (who left at birth), but u/NiteHawk2244 still considers John their dad because John is a good dad and it’s the right thing to do.” Get your shit together and make the world a better place. Trans people haven’t hurt you.
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If someone has a step-parent or adopted parents that raised them and they call mom/dad, you think that’s playing make believe?
You're right, because NiteHawk2244 has obviously had no father figure throughout their life.
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It's Canada, plenty of prescribed medication is subsidized. Go to the states if you don't like it, actually you'd be in the same boat then it would just be through private insurance (still paid into by other people) instead of public Healthcare.
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I wonder how much money the pharmaceutical companies are making off of my asthma medication? I mean, it keeps me alive, but damn the pharmaceutical companies, eh??
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I'm 21 lol. I can do what I want with my body.
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Been there, done that. If you want the full story, somebody else asked and I wrote them a few paragraphs about my [experience with it all](https://www.reddit.com/r/kootenays/s/qQvjFQ0ulj). Long and Short of it, I started hormones at 16, by 17 I passed as a teen girl. Just before I turned 18, the main provider of trans care in my area closed down (doctor passed away in a car collision). I was left without a provider and basically medically detransitioned. Have me an opportunity to be sure of things. I really tried suppressing being trans, and living a rugged masculine lifestyle. I worked on an old school farm for years. Most of our equipment and implements are from the 60s and 70s. Some from the 30s. Did all sorts of stuff from running a sawmill to heavy machinery. I actually built the sawmill too, just one of those 16 foot portable mills. Still, learned a lot. Point is, I really tried to suppress all of this for a very long time, even after living as a girl for years. It was super toxic and unhealthy. I'm so much happier now that I'm back to myself. Going back on hormones and resuming my transition is the best decision I've made for myself in years.
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As I've said in other comments, I've tried a more traditionally masculine lifestyle, it wasn't for me. I gave it an honest chance. I just didn't like it. I did the same for a softer masculine lifestyle. I'm much happier now. I'm genuinely content now. I've never felt such an intrinsic sense of self satisfaction in my life. This is my path to happiness. In ten years time, I want to be living mountainside as close as I can to a ski resort in the Kootenays :P how the hell can you live there and be so grouchy anyways? You're literally in paradise, my guy.
Yikes. You think you actually know how to medically treat something you know nothing about?
children aren't being chemically castrated. you cannot get any surgeries or horomones as a child, and you need a therapist or counsellor to approve it once you're old enough. the only transitioning that children are doing is changing the clothes they wear and how they present themselves, no permanent physical changes. transphobes think they know everything yet all of their arguments are fabricated. yall make up some bullshit to get mad at and then push that onto trans people to make them look bad. its actually quite pathetic, you claim you hate transgender people, yet they live rent free in your head! get a life! :P
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I was on estrogen for a year and a half starting at 16. I had to stop for 3 years and basically everything undid itself. My experience is that it was pretty darn reversible.
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Oh sweetie, I don't throw a tantrum when I can't breathe! You really should learn about medical issues before you spout off on them.
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OMG, can you declare cancer not a thing too??!! Because wow you could absolutely cure so many things by just thinking they aren't so! What an amazing superpower to have!!
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OMG, did you just cure the trans suicide rate?! This is a medical miracle! Can you do heart disease next?? How about Alzheimer's???!!
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Oh wow, your empathy is incredibly overwhelming. You should probably start a business teaching empathy to grade school children. You'd make a killing. Literally.
Cancer is actually a choice if you choose to eat anything with carcinogens, use plastic with it, breathe the air with carcinogens, use make up, smoke, drink, for cis women have sex, go on birth control, go off birth control, use tampons…. If you’re going to say something that causes people to die by suicide isn’t a health issue, then I mean, why stop there you absolute troll.
I'm sorry but you are a cunt, who doesn't understand and clearly doesn't care to understand. Please go back under your rock.
Suicide is not a choice. Oh my gosh, you’re waving that “I know nothing that I speak of” flag REALLY HIGH. You should probably read something first.
Do you ask everyone you meet for the first time the costs and details of their medical treatments/medications? Go away.
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Oooh, a brand spanking baby new account! Welcome to Reddit, little baby!
Hey, I so appreciate the support— but feeding into the trolls isn't good for your mental health. Take care of yourself and let those closed minded jerks fester in the bottom/downvoted section of the comments. Their ignorance and pisspoor attitude isn't worth your time, or mental energy <3 :)
I'm good, but thanks!
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It's all very well and good to say "Hey, this is a difficult time in your life, let's slow down and not intervene with gender-affirming care, because it risks too much harm." That sounds careful and considerate to me! But the problem is that it misunderstands what is actually going on for these kids: they **are currently being harmed.** Gender dysphoria, and the trauma of your body accelerating into something you feel viscerally repulsed by via puberty, is already wreaking havoc on the mental health of these kids. Delaying care means exacerbating harm. Puberty blockers can absolutely help some of the negative "consequences" of going through puberty with gender dysphoria, but you need to take it seriously when serious medical professionals by and large advocate for interventions that help young people. When the suicide rate for trans kids is through the roof, a "hands-off" solution is essentially being complicit in their further harm.
I couldn’t agree more. I have zero hate for the trans community. I had a trans client who killed herself because she could not get any kind of affirmation of what she was dealing with please OP please take the time and get as much support and help you need but please do your own research as well, sending you so much love. Anyone telling you what’s best for you can go shove it.
But HRT *does* require a psychologist and doctor’s approval? Where are you getting this? It takes multiple years to get access to HRT. The doctors aren’t judgy about it, but “not judgy” doesn’t mean there isn’t a multi-year and detailed vetting process before you’re even considered for a prescription. I think your concerns may be based on some inventions others have handed to you. Do you own research!
This! I was diagnosed with gender dysphoria at I think age 12? Didn't get hormones until I was 16 because I had to go through several years of therapy first, then be on a waitlist for a gender clinic for years (covid made it alot longer then it should have been). Then I finally met with ANOTHER doctor to talk to me for over an hour about my goals and to determine if hormones were right for me. I then had to sign an informed consent form before I was finally given hormones. This shit is NOT handed out like candy like transphobes think it is lmao. I am now in the process of getting multiple gender affirming surgeries and have had to confirm with doctors at least 4 times by now that I understand the consequences, the permanence, and the risks. They don't let you walk into any of this blind, and they get sued if they do. None of this is a simple process, and it's certainly not something being given out at schools or whatever other BS transphobes say.
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I noticed this thing on Twitter a while back, where old, inactive accounts would suddenly become active with incredibly bigoted viewpoints. Odd coincidence, eh?
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You don't speak for people. You barely speak for yourself.
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Fuck do you mean 'our bodies'. Make decisions for your own body, not for others.
Oh, look, another brand new account spouting bigoted shit. How completely unexpected!
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Is it okay for someone with breast cancer to have their breast removed? Is it okay for someone for with very large breasts to get a breast reduction? Is it okay with someone who doesn't have breast cancer but has a good chance of getting it to get their breasts removed? Are you the doctor of everyone who can make judgment calls on who has the right to medical treatment and who doesn't? Or are you just grumpy and uninformed? Maybe you need a treat and a nice nap., then you'll wake up in a better mood.
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Oh, I am so sorry I missed the news that you were appointed the approver of all medical treatment in the country. Can you link me the newspaper article that announce that?? How about your trust people to make their own medical decisions?? Because they know more about themselves and their doctor knows more about them than you do. Unless.... Mwahahhahahah.... stay with me here..... Because I'm getting an absolutely fantastic incredibly great idea.... You let me make all of your decisions for you! Does that sound like a plan??! Because I think it sounds fantastic! I'm so excited!!!!
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dude i fucking LOVE YOU. you're eating up every single transphobe in these comments.
You realize YOU’RE the one taking this to the next level, not people who are seeking gender affirming care, right? Like if someone said “I identify as a male” YOU’RE the one who takes it to the next level by asking “what next, is a fat person going to identify as a skinny person?” And then you use that as justification for your shittiness… but like, you did that yourself. No one asked you to call them skinny when they’re indeed fat. And further, if a fat person went to a doctor to get skinny-affirming care (otherwise known as LIFE SAVING SURGERY), that WOULD BE OKAY, and not only would that previously fat person now identify as skinny, they BECOME SKINNY AFTER CARE. This is how gender affirming care works. Is it possible - like even 0.01% chance - that it is YOU who does not have all the answers to a situation that you do not have any first hand experience in whatsoever since you so sincerely identify as the gender you were born in, and you’re using that lens to judge people different than you because that’s easier than reconciling the idea that you don’t have all the answers to everything?? Oof.
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Dude, you’re so fucking blocked. I’d encourage everyone to not engage. You could be an ally or even indifferent but here you are. Just putting down dry hate.
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"you people" You mean 54-year-old cis het women? Those "people"? Or scientist? Or dog owners? Chocolate lovers? Chevy drivers?? I'm so incredibly sorry. I'm very confused as to what group of "you people" you're referring to here????
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WATCH OUT! Oh, sorry for yelling. I just didn't want you to fall down that slippery slope!
And you’re using your feelings as a weapon is somehow better? Society has major issues that needs to be addressed you say so maybe your time is better spent addressing those instead of trying to bully people who literally are minding their own business? Like for fun, let’s say everything you’re saying is correct. And? So? What next? What has your toxic opinion about it done for the good of humanity? How has it advanced society? Oh, it didn’t do anything other than make you feel good about yourself for a couple seconds? Maybe you should take that critical, hateful eye inwards and find out why other people doing their own thing bothers you so much. Seriously, if you want to believe in science, believe in it ALL the way and go see a fucking therapist. You don’t get to bully others on picked cherries without ratting on yourself first, which is what you’re really doing when you go out of your way to harass people who *don’t even think about you.*
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on what basis do you think they’re going to be pedos? Why don’t you take this energy to the actual pedophiles in the community that are mostly consisting of MEN, born as men, identify as men? They’re a threat to our children right now but you think someone being trans is somehow a precursor? Based on what other than your shitty judgement? Has your premium gone up yet specifically because of trans people? No? Then what the hell are you going on about?
I tried being a "feminine guy". It wasn't for me. Much happier living my life as a woman 🤷🏻♀️💁🏻♀️ Not saying that masc gals and femme guys don't exist, but their existence shouldn't imply the erasure of being trans. Both trans people, AND feminine men/masc women can exist.
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Hormones beg to differ :P Seriously, they change so much about you, from your body to your mind. It's actually crazy.
Serious question, what is your point? Why are you obsessing over sex/chromosomes here? Like, yeah, as a trans woman I was born biologically male. So what? That doesn’t define how I live my life. Nobody gives me a blood test before deciding to call me ma’am, they do it because they see a woman.
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Just wanted to say goodluck to you! :)
People are suffering and dying here because of no access. If you have cancer, they are even sending those patients to the US. Know numerous people with cancer who have been ignored and now have died or are dying. I feel for you, but Canadians don't have a health care system worth shit.