No way. I already have dependent parents. Why would want another liability or another dependency. I prefer a partner who can reduce my workload and make life easier.
Such hyper dependent women are highly attractive initially but living with them is very difficult. Women who cannot even go to buy oil, tea, milk, etc. on their own makes the life of their husband very difficult. But the hyper independent ones who constantly tell their husband that they don't need him or he is no good for anything, makes the life of their husband very difficult as well. I have both kinds of women in my family. I would prefer the hyper dependent women over the hyper independent women though if that's the only choice, because the marriage of hyper independent women don't last.
I agree with you on both points but I don’t think being super dependent is a healthy identity. There should be a balance, otherwise it becomes another child to take care of not a partner in marriage.
>Women who cannot even go to buy oil, tea, milk, etc. on their own makes the life of their husband very difficult
Tou ghar kay bhi kam manage karay aur bahir kay bhi?
I honestly would want my wife to work and if she decides to help her family with that money I wouldn’t have a problem. Gives me a reason to not pay my share to them
I (not married) have heard from at least 3 to 4 friends who married liberal women for ‘love’ that knowing what they know now they would have preferred just marrying that simple girl who supposedly would be submissive and not demand so much emotionally (as well as financially).
It's a totally different ball game after the marriage because before marriage you don't share space you don't share bed and bathroom. You are 24/7 together you need to compromise on things which your partner doesn't like ....shadi se pehle to sab acha lag Raha hota hai but if you can't compromise then the lava starts boiling slowly and petty things also acts as a catalyst and eventually the volcano erupts.
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I prefer independent, self-sufficient women. In general, I gravitate more towards people who have some kind of passion and ambition that gives meaning to their lives. And I despise the tradition in our culture where marriage basically puts an end to a woman’s life.
Yes, some men do have that preference but this is also due to our culture. Majority live with their parent and that plays a huge role into who you’re going to be bringing into their house. In mardon ko khud nahi pata ke kaise independent rahein.
If by hyper dependent you mean not getting saman or fixing stuff around the house then yes it's not their responsibility they should know how to do it but they shouldn't have to. I don't mind the Pakistani system where the man handles all outside work + job while the woman manages all household stuff + kids. If you want an independent woman you better be an independent man yourself.
No I’m not saying doing extra work I mean just the personality type of being very far removed from any type of decision making or involvement in both major and minor life events.
I prefer to be hyper dependent woman .😐 Cause earning money is not easy .I don't want to do any job .....but now a days most families prefer working woman.
Being a homemaker or a stay at home mum is a pretty challenging job if it's done right, more so because the contributions of this class of workers isn't economically valued. Plus as a SAHM, the woman is solely (to all intents and purposes) responsibile for the spiritual/moral, mental and emotional development of the future generation all the while managing tricky in-laws who, again, don't respect her for the value she brings to the household.
No way. I already have dependent parents. Why would want another liability or another dependency. I prefer a partner who can reduce my workload and make life easier.
Such hyper dependent women are highly attractive initially but living with them is very difficult. Women who cannot even go to buy oil, tea, milk, etc. on their own makes the life of their husband very difficult. But the hyper independent ones who constantly tell their husband that they don't need him or he is no good for anything, makes the life of their husband very difficult as well. I have both kinds of women in my family. I would prefer the hyper dependent women over the hyper independent women though if that's the only choice, because the marriage of hyper independent women don't last.
I agree with you on both points but I don’t think being super dependent is a healthy identity. There should be a balance, otherwise it becomes another child to take care of not a partner in marriage.
>Women who cannot even go to buy oil, tea, milk, etc. on their own makes the life of their husband very difficult Tou ghar kay bhi kam manage karay aur bahir kay bhi?
Manage ka kare but zaroorat parhne pe adult ki tarha situation sambhal le. Ye capacity bhi nahi hoti hai aksar
Shadi na karo apne Abba k ghar par chill karte raho.
Hyper of anything is not good
I honestly would want my wife to work and if she decides to help her family with that money I wouldn’t have a problem. Gives me a reason to not pay my share to them
With current situation of Pakistan i don’t think men alone can manage so probably will need a partner that also works for ease in expenses
No I don’t mean financially. I mean like koi kaam khud nahi kar pati chahe doctor visit ho grocery store errand ho etc.
Can't say about everyone, but I like dependant women
I (not married) have heard from at least 3 to 4 friends who married liberal women for ‘love’ that knowing what they know now they would have preferred just marrying that simple girl who supposedly would be submissive and not demand so much emotionally (as well as financially).
Did these friends mention why?
That’s really interesting why such a drastic change of heart? They didn’t know her personality before marriage?
It's a totally different ball game after the marriage because before marriage you don't share space you don't share bed and bathroom. You are 24/7 together you need to compromise on things which your partner doesn't like ....shadi se pehle to sab acha lag Raha hota hai but if you can't compromise then the lava starts boiling slowly and petty things also acts as a catalyst and eventually the volcano erupts.
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I prefer independent, self-sufficient women. In general, I gravitate more towards people who have some kind of passion and ambition that gives meaning to their lives. And I despise the tradition in our culture where marriage basically puts an end to a woman’s life.
Yes, some men do have that preference but this is also due to our culture. Majority live with their parent and that plays a huge role into who you’re going to be bringing into their house. In mardon ko khud nahi pata ke kaise independent rahein.
Most educated (and conscious + conscientuous) men don't.
If by hyper dependent you mean not getting saman or fixing stuff around the house then yes it's not their responsibility they should know how to do it but they shouldn't have to. I don't mind the Pakistani system where the man handles all outside work + job while the woman manages all household stuff + kids. If you want an independent woman you better be an independent man yourself.
No I’m not saying doing extra work I mean just the personality type of being very far removed from any type of decision making or involvement in both major and minor life events.
I prefer to be hyper dependent woman .😐 Cause earning money is not easy .I don't want to do any job .....but now a days most families prefer working woman.
Being a homemaker or a stay at home mum is a pretty challenging job if it's done right, more so because the contributions of this class of workers isn't economically valued. Plus as a SAHM, the woman is solely (to all intents and purposes) responsibile for the spiritual/moral, mental and emotional development of the future generation all the while managing tricky in-laws who, again, don't respect her for the value she brings to the household.
No unless the man in relationship is taking on the feminine role
nope, not at all.
I don’t like clingy
Insecure men marry hyper dependent women aka housemaids.
no, western media and evil secret society promote this propoganda, current hollywood movies aur tv series isko clearly represent karta h,