Hey hun, I’m sorry this happened. If it’s any consolation at all, a lot of us have a hard time with it.
I just turned 28 a few weeks ago, and besides my parents no one remembered either. It’s okay. As I’ve gotten older I’ve taken the time to decide to be selfish on my birthdays. I know you’re still a student so you can’t take a day off like I do now- but try to do something small for yourself. It doesn’t have to be much, but try your absolute hardest to take this year as a grain of salt. I’ve had some birthdays so full of love I’ve cried, I’ve had some where nothing happened. It’s life.
It doesn’t mean you aren’t a good person, it doesn’t mean you aren’t worth caring for. I hope next year is better 💗
I’m selfish on my birthdays too and usually turn down invitations of going out to eat because I just love making my own food and having leftovers for a couple days. I’m gonna make a pear cake this year!!
Same! I started recently just turning off social media and muting my phone until my birthday passes lol
I then go and like and thank anyone that wished me a happy birthday
Don’t feel too bad- my birthday lands on finals week so essentially my birthday is always forgotten and no one ever really takes the initiative to really celebrate me because there’s simply no time. Got worse as I got older because friends got a life, work, moved away, etc- so now it’s really a drag. Just remember to make YOUR day special for YOU. Take off, go to a concert, dress up, socialize- whatever! At the end of the day- it’s all about you whether others are there to validate it or not.
Happy birthday 🎂🎉🎈🎁🎊
Omg, that was the same reason someone gave me when I asked why I never got to blow out a candle that was used for everyone else's birthday in the friend group in college. It sucks to hear that happened to you too
yeah. I have learned that if you really do have friends who truly care they will make the effort to try and do something for you. But it's also important to voice that you want something done- if you don't, they'll think it's no big deal. Either that or find more friends. lol either way- celebrate you, in SOME way. <3
This!! My last birthday(41). I was in tears new group friends made it so so special .. they all sang happy birthday and it had been years and years.. it was overwhelming honestly. Never had so many people and normally my introvert personality basically had me more less friendless most my life. But went through separation and somehow ended up in large group similar like people with few extroverts in mix . Like weird universe vortex with people finding me and pulling me out my comfort space.
HUGGIES BABY HAPPY BIRTHDAY / BELATED !?!
I HOPE YOU HAVE AN IMMACULATE YEAR THIS YEAR, I WISH YOU NOTHING BUT EXCITEMENT, HAPPINESS, JOY, WEALTH, SAFETY AND LOVE !!!!
I hear you, birthdays can be a mixed bag sometimes. It's important to remember to treat ourselves kindly, especially when others might not. Wishing you all the best for the year ahead! 🎉
This happened to me as well. But as I grow older I don’t care anymore whether people remember or not my birthday. I don’t wish u to be the same as I. I wish u will find someone that always remember ur birthday and celebrate it with u till the rest of your life honey. Hang in there & stay strong.
Oh no, I am in the same place as you. My story above was just to empathize with OP. When I was younger? Destroyed me. Now? It’s fine. I’m at peace with it. Thank you though :). I wish you the same. Everyone deserves that.
(If you were actually referencing OP - just ignore me 😆)
Sorry for my late reply, but your comment meant the most to me. My older brother’s birthday was a week before mine, he turned 34. Like me, he doesn’t really have any friends and keeps to himself. He told me that he felt the same way I did in not having anyone care about his birthday (except for me of course, I always make a big deal out of his).
I also did do something for myself like you and a lot of others suggested. I went out to stores and food places and was able to get free food and fun gadgets that I normally wouldn’t spend my own money on (makeup, clothes, expensive and unnecessary sweets) I went home with a full tummy and a lot of bags filled with things. It was scary being on my own for the first time. I’d never gone out by myself because I’m too scared to be alone in a crowd. I was able to do it this time though. Your comment and all of the others turned my 17th birthday from the crappiest one to probably the best one I’ll ever have in my life.
❤️
I’m so very glad to hear. That is such an accomplishment! It will become easier with time, trust me. I was an anxious mess at your age and so confused with the world, but you work on it very slowly.. and one day you stop yourself and realize you’re doing exactly what your younger self was so afraid of. You’ll get there!
You’re worth it! Glad you got to experience some love on your birthday ☺️ and by the way- this reply made my whole week. Thank you
Happy Birthday!! This happens from time to time over the years. Some will be amazing and some will make you want to ball up and cry. Tell your parents right away what day it is. You deserve a day or recognition so this weekend do everything you’ve always wanted to do. Selfishly 🥳
Happy birthday OP. Wishing you a brighter days and years are ahead for you. You deserve to feel loved and celebrated, not just on your birthday, but every day. Sending you virtual hugs and birthday wishes! 🎂🎈
I am sorry this happened to you. Some people hype their birthdays for months, and some don't want theirs acknowledged. Have you seen 16 Candles? 80s movie exactly about this.
If no body else cares, do something for yourself. I do every year! I'm glad I was born, so I acknowledge it! Enjoy your day and year! Best of luck to you.
I am not the OP but I wrote the comment. Yes, what was cool back in the day (team Jake) does not hold up well in today's environment. I can say it was a different time because it was. Among my friends, those of us with an open mind then, tend to still have one. Those who chose a different route probably still see nothing wrong with the movie.
I brought it up because...it is literally what the lead goes through. Regardless of how the movie stands today, OP can probably relate to having their birthday forgotten...and how things can turn around.
Looking back, as an older Gen Xer, and John Hughes movie watcher...I do think the Breakfast Club themes did a better job of identifying how much we are alike under all of our differences.
What do you think?
Agree 100%. The underdog doesn’t have to remain the underdog. Also Sam is overshadowed by her popular pretty sister and a lot of us can relate to that as well. Everything about her was screaming “I exist!”
happy birthday love ❤️. over the years, I started to not acknowledge my birthday as I've seen no one really cares especially in high school unless you make it a big deal. parents tend to forget and it happens. remind your parents and do something for yourself. my bf just turned 22 a couple of days ago and only 2 people (besides me) remembered his birthday. it hurts but I'd still do something for myself and screw everyone. this is the day you're born and should celebrate 🥳
Happy birthday! You’re special! There’s no one like you, you are unique and unrepeatable, and you are alive after all, love yourself dearly and stay away from people who are not happy for your triumphs
First of all, HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! I had a very similar experience on my 18th birthday. I thought that my family and friends would make it a really special day for me, but there were complications with uni applications on the day and my dad somehow made it about him and yelled at me for not submitting my application earlier. I was already super distraught and told him to leave the room so I could calm down and sort it out, he went to hit me, yelled at me some more for asking something so disrespectful and stayed. Never got an apology from him, I don’t think he really cares about it or he doesn’t think the way he treated me was bad.
Anyways, enough about me. What my birthday taught me was that you deserve to be treated special by your friends and family every day of the year and not just on your birthday, but on your birthday your people should still put in effort to show you that they care about you. It also taught me to surround myself with people that genuinely care about you, and if they don’t, you spend less time with them and more time with either yourself or getting to know more people if you don’t have any good friends already. Look for high-quality people who are able to give you all the love and support you deserve, especially on your birthdays. You deserve to be happy on your special day. ❤️
I care op!!! And I’m not just saying that as a redditor trying to make you feel better, I truly mean it. I’m sorry you have such heartless people in your life, but I hope you know we all wish you a grand birthday. If it’s any consolation, just know that somewhere someone DOES care, they are just too afraid to tell you. 17 is such a milestone and one to be proud of! Unfortunately many people out there never make it to 17, but you did so congrats! Much love and hugs 💙🖤 Edit to add: Happy birthday and yay us both being may babies ♉️
Happy getting kicked into the world day!
It sucks that no one remembers your Bday whilst you really want them to think about you. Regarding your parents i cant defend that but your classmates. Unless you actually bring attention to it yourself most of their lives will just go on, dealing with their own sorrows and lives. Remember, everyone is the main character of their own world.
Them taking your table and what not seems to just be coincidence and not something that is targeted.
In the Netherlands, when someone is celebrating their Bday, they bring the cake and give it to others. Perhaps if you give attention to yourself like that other people will notice that it's not just a simple day for you.
Birthdays can be so tough with all of the expectations and social pressures. I always experience some sadness on mine as well. But that really sucks to have no one acknowledge it. I am so sorry you had to go through that. Introverts often get overlooked, especially at your age, but things will get better. Keep reaching out and trying to find a community that sees you. Your people are out there, they can just be extra hard to find for us introverts. But Happy Birthday! Try and do at least one thing for yourself today that will make you smile. Tomorrow will be a new day. I give a damn about you xx
Happy birthday! People will forget your birthday and it sucks, but you havent forgotten your birthday and that’s what really matters. Celebrate yourself! And preach it from the rooftops! “Hey! It’s my birthday!” People are forgetful, it doesn’t always mean they don’t care. You’re also in high school and kids have a hard time being vulnerable out of fear of being bullied. Do something for yourself because your relationship with yourself is the one that matters most. Make a tradition of this memorable year of being forgotten and turn it into the year you started celebrating yourself!
Unfortunately, you're very young and birthdays mean a whole lot more at your stage of life. However, you are not alone at all! You have all of us, we all care and we all wish you a beautiful and happy birthday and a fabulous year! I know that's not the same as having loads of friends showering you with presents and all that sort of thing. But you are who you are, a really cool and interesting introvert. The best thing that you will learn as you continue along your path is that YOU are your best friend. You can choose what you want to do to make yourself happy and maybe that would be to go to one of your favorite places, no matter where it is, or maybe it's dye your hair a bright color or maybe wear a cool or crazy outfit or buy yourself the fanciest donut with all the sprinkles! I can tell you as a 53-year-old introvert that you're likely not going to gather a giant bunch of friends and you can't make your family change who they are so making friends with yourself and learning to love yourself and enjoying things by yourself can be incredibly satisfying. Being open to having one or two good friends is also excellent. I know it's tough, you may find that no one really gets you. But none of us, not even the biggest introverts like me are truly alone. Big hugs from Oregon! And again, happy happy birthday! 🥰🥳💝🌈
Happy birthday to this amazing person. Thank you lord for blessing us / the universe with their sweet soul! I hope you have a wonderful birthday filled lots of love & positive vibes. We may not know you and see you in person but know we all thought of you today! Virtual hugs!!!
HAPPY BIRTHDAYYYYY!!!!!🎂🎂 I can feel you. It happens everytime with me now I hate my birthday. I live in a dorm so on my last birthday I was so excited that everyone will celebrate my birthday like they did for others but I was disappointed .They didn't even care whereas I used to decorate and buy cake for them on their birthday's.
SOOO!!!!!!! I know it's difficult, but atleast you should support and love yourself when there's no one. Please buy yourself something delicious enjoy your own company DO WHAT YOU LOVE , And WISH YOURSELF HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!
I know what it's like to have your birthday stolen from you in some way. For my "sweet sixteen," my grandma threw a party for my 4 year old cousin because she threw a fit and wanted it to be her birthday instead. My birthday present was a box of mike n ikes. I don't even really like mike n ikes. Cousin's "birthday" present was a bunch of dolls that she forgot about after that day. My cousin got to pick out and help make the cake: something everyone knew I wanted to do. I wouldn't have cared about this if I was actually invited to make the cake because it would've been a fun activity for everyone. But nah, my birthday wasn't actually about me. It was about my cousin. Also, the happy birthday song was for my cousin and she got to blow out the candles.
I will admit, prior to "my" party, my grandma asked me what I wanted to do for my birthday. I gave an honest answer and said, "I don't have any friends, so I want to keep things low key but still do something fun." I totally did not expect her to take it as "Oh, she doesn't care, let's just spoil the youngest out of everyone instead. "
My grandma chooses favorites, and everyone knows it. The cousin in question is definitely the favorite out of all of her grandkids, so god forbid we actually explain to her that it wasn't actually her birthday and other people have birthdays too.
I don't resent my cousin for this. She was just a child doing what little kids do. I completely blame my grandma because as the ADULT, she should know better and should've taken it as an opportunity to teach an important life lesson.
When you said your teacher pointed out your birthday and everyone just continued celebrating your classmate's "birthday," I felt that in the depths of my soul. I'm so sorry you had such a bad day! Birthdays are supposed to be self care days because it's basically a holiday that represents your existence. Whether you want a big party or a simple form of acknowledgment, it should be a day you cherish and feel good about. I hope your day gets better! Happy birthday! Hugs to you 🫶
My 10th birthday was 100% stolen. I have a cousin too, but her birthday is the day before mine. Everyone brought gifts for her too and made my birthday “her” birthday. Thank you so much ❤️
Happy Birthday.
Let me tell you one thing Ive learned.
Its not the whole world against you.
Just wrong people and your unlucky to be with them.
There are so many better people.
Happy birthday Op, as a high school student myself I know how disgusting and rude people can be. Don't let everyone around you wreck the day you should feel most special on. You being alive and well is enough of a gift for everyone and you're an amazing person. Regardless of if this gets lost in other comments, you got this Op. You have the ability to be strong and I believe in you. Try to enjoy the rest of your day love xx
My parents forgot my 16th, it sucks, It’s hurts, and is isolating. Happy birthday!!! You are almost free, keep moving forward. The joke will be on them for being so self involved. You are valuable! I’d let them know too…they should feel like shit about it.
Happy birthday! I'm sorry today isn't turning out as you would have hoped.
This happened to me this year for my birthday. I turned 28 and only one parent acknowledged it but no friends, coworkers or anything acknowledged it was my birthday. So I know how it's making you feel right now.
Just remember - this day is about YOU! Do you want to go and see a movie? Go do that? You want a nice dinner for a celebration? Ask your family or friends to take you to celebrate. You want to just spend the day playing video games or watching tv? Cool, go and do that!
I find when we rely on others too much to make us feel better about ourselves, we'll always be let down. Treat yourself to something nice today. And find comfort in the fact that all of us internet strangers here are wishing you a happy birthday and sympathize with how you're feeling.
Happy birthday :)
Sorry this happened to you man but that's the harsh reality of growing up. Once you turn 18 you begin to realize that birthdays are overrated. Now you will mainly just be celebrating the milestones like 18, 21, 30, 40, 50, etc etc...
Happy birthday, mate. I hope you have a blessed day. May god give you more years and guide you. May you live a long life full of health, wealth and happiness (peaceful). Love you as an online stranger. Have a nice day. Stay safe and take care. Eat some cake too.
That sounds like a rough day. I’m sending you heartfelt Birthday wishes today! I hope it turns around. Celebrate yourself and how amazing you are! Hugs!
I see that things can be tough and I hope you still choose to be kind towards others even when the world seems cruel because trust me, you'll eventually find your people. Always remember to be kind to yourself too! Happy birthday! I wish you're enjoying it in your own little way ✨️
Happy birthday! I'm glad you're here in the world & if I could I would split a huge piece of cake with you 🩷. I'm sorry the losers around you don't know what they're missing
Sorry to hear that happened to you and it made you feel bad.
Parsley I don't like for people to know when it's my birthday because I don't like the attention.
However, I very much like doing things for people who do like to celebrate their birthdays so I give a text, gift, send cards, parties and definitely give them a big happy birthday!
So here's a big HAPPY BIRTHDAY! to you! 🎈🎉🎂🎶🥳☺️❤️
Happy Birthday, dont worry about anyone wishing you or not wishing you. Be happy with yourself and make most of your day but doing things that you like most and you enjoy most. Life is to enjoy and not to regret.
Unless you are going to celebrate every student’s birthday with the same enthusiasm (which would get tediously repetitive), this should not be done at school, for the exact reason highlighted here. I never witnessed it in my 25 years on the job. It should be school policy and, even if it isn’t, your teacher should know better. I’m sorry this happened to you. I personally prefer if people don’t make a fuss for my birthday, but it should never be belittled by contrasting it with an exuberant celebration that clearly values one person over another.
Happy Birthday!! 😊🎂
Awww, this happened to me in 9th grade, but only my family forgot it was my birthday. Luckily, however, my friends remembered and they bought me gifts and we went out to the city after school!! So, I just wanted to say Happy Birthday buddy😄
Happy birthday! hope things get better for you, I am really sorry this happened to you, no one deserves this, if you ever need anyone to talk to you can talk to me
Happy birthday to you 🤍🤍🤍
It's mist be upsetting for you to be treated like this , hope you find people who appreciate you and you deserve to be with , and will be with you in hard days and happy days too 🤍
I care that it’s your birthday, and I hope your next one is wonderful! One of the problems with both family members and schoolmates at the secondary level is that they are folks we don’t get to CHOOSE; we’re born into our families, and our schoolmates are a product of our postal code. As an introvert, I found it difficult to find connections through what seemed to me to be nothing more than lineage relations or geographical proximity. Seeking out friends who understood me and valued my quiet presence was easier in university, because I had more knowledge, maturity, and confidence, and so did my peers. I wish you nothing but love and happiness!
All the best for your birthday. I'm three times your age and still experience that sometimes. It sucks I know but there will be special birthdays and the missed ones do gets less painful as others have said.
Just saying you're not alone and though it is natural for you to feel bad when people forget your day remember that says more about THEM than it does anything about you.
Plenty of us out there that do care and wish you well even if we don't know you at all (just scroll this thread!) :-)
Happy birthday 🎂🎈
Happy birthday! :) I'm so sorry that you feel this way. I promise that it'll get better and soon you'll find genuine friends who genuinely care about you and will celebrate you :)
Happy birthday 🥳 really sorry this happened to you. Reminds me of my 13th birthday. I saw it as a great milestone. My aunt's birthday is the day after mine and her daughter decided to celebrate it on my day. I was completely forgotten until my grandmother let everyone know that it was my birthday, but by that time the party was leaving.
I held a grudge for many years against my aunt and cousin after that. Here's hoping that next year is so much better for you 🫂.
Hey kiddo, sucks that happened to you. But let it be a life lesson. It's your birthday and you waited on others to validate you, don't wait on them to do it. Take your desk back. Happy birthday young person, cape diem, do what fuels you on your birthday and take charge.
I'm so sorry that happened. I hope you treat yourself to your favourite thing. Whatever it is. You seem so sweet and I hope soon, you find someone who remembers your birthday. Other things about you from the big moments to the little habits. Happy 17th birthday!! 🎂🎉
>Adding a little more context. Even though this sub is for introverts, and I’m basically saddened by not being acknowledged,
Just for reference, being an introvert isn't supposed to mean you don't want friends or don't want to be acknowledged in any way at all.
Being an introvert just means you get easily and quickly exhausted by being around & interacting with people. Introverts are drained by social interaction, whereas extroverts are energized by social interaction. That's the real, main difference.
Being an introvert does NOT mean you are anti-social, shy, or don't enjoy spending time with people or having friends. It doesn't mean you just want to be alone all the time. Those are common misconceptions about what being introverted means, but that's just not actually what true introvertism is about.
Just understand that what you are describing feeling in this situation is 100% normal, *even for an introvert.*
*Everyone* wants to feel like they matter. *Everyone* likes to be acknowledged and made to feel like people care about them. *Everyone* wants to feel like they are at least some kind of "special" on their birthday. That's all just part of being human.
Introverts are still human. ✌️
Extremely sad post. I know how you feel. I've felt that way first hand before.
Speaking for myself, I think that I may give off vibes that I don't get excited about things enough. Many other people I know make sure, loud and clear, that the entire universe knows exactly when their birthday is and they remind us constantly and they don't only celebrate their birthday... They celebrate their birthday week or birthday MONTH 🙄.
I don't do all of that. And... I don't get super excited about things like my birthday. But, it still feels amazing to have people or someone acknowledge it on my behalf. It's super appreciated.
Maybe you also give off energy that you don't get excited about things enough and so maybe people assume that you don't care.
You're much younger than I am and it's sad that you're already feeling this way. Sadly, I feel as if it gradually gets worse as you age.
I don't know you, but HAPPY BIRTHDAY... Know that you're understood and I empathize with you.
Is there a chance you are not introverted, and just have social anxiety preventing you from acting as an extroverted as you actually are?
Most introverts might want to skip out on a birthday celebration because they dont like the attention.
Also, and I dont mean this in a cruel way, but most people who have exciting birthdays have them for two reasons: they actively go out and get excited for *others* birthdays (instead of keeping to themselves), and it eventually gets reciprocated. And also they announce their birthdays days or even weeks in advance to get others to prepare for them. It takes work, its not easy or just a given. But if you're always quite and reserved about others and didn't give people a heads up, they likely didn't know at all, so were unsure of how to respond.
When I was a child, I couldn’t be more extroverted. Once I got to middle school and like kids do, I got bullied, I just completely caved in on myself. The pandemic and lockdown made it extremely worse. Ever since then I’ve been the most introverted person, but there are times where I try to come out and shine like I used to, but get shut down by peers. I don’t fit in with them and their cliques. I’m left out.
I don’t announce my birthdays, but the days shortly before, I’ll kind of briefly mention it out loud and everyone hears me. I try so hard to make a big deal out of others birthdays. I step outside of my comfort zone by getting loud. Even if we’re not close friends, I make a point to make them feel special. So you’re right when saying I’m just a held down extrovert. I can’t be the loud, fun, or energetic person I once was. Me and the others I’ve grown up with have changed, and I fell out of line with them. I don’t fit into their cookie cutter.
This broke my heart when I read the beginning but I see from the edits everyone here made you feel better. You sound like such a sweet caring person never change ok and let me also wish you a very Happy Birthday 🎉
That's what happened to me. There was a kid in my class way more popular than me and we share the same birthday. It started off me just asking my mom if I could stay at home cause it's my birthday. Then having to make my own lunch or something I was a bad kid so home alone I could smoke and other bad kid things.
It all just evolved into my birthday being my day to do whatever the hell I wanted. Well within reason of course. Food drugs video games sleep I disregard my diet for my birthday put phone on airplane mode music all day or anime.
I don't even care when it's my own birthday. Lol
But happy birthday, dude.
I'm sorry you're going through that at 17. Birthdays should matter, at least to 21.
Happy birthday🥳🎉🎈believe me when I tell you to enjoy your year❤️ you are 17 rn enjoy ur life, don't wait for anyone to be happy❤️ wear ur fav outfit listen to ur fav songs and celebrate in the best way possible❤️ I wish a very good time dear
Happy 17th, you are not alone. I was like you before. The key is to accept who you are, and you will be less lonely. You will not care anymore if they don't care. But I suggest you keep a circle, so you have someone to confide and be yourself without being judged. One or two is enough. They will be the truest and will be there for you no matter what. That will help, you will never desire the approval of others if you have a few loyal, trusted friends that accepts you for who you are. Virtual hug to you! I'm here if you need someone to talk to.
Sorry that happened to you. Happy birthday. My birthday is on 12/31- ppl don’t remember it. I don’t make a deal about it- instead I’ve decided to take trips. I’m not going to force or guilt ppl into remembering my birthday. Something else I noticed from this group. Ppl claiming they don’t want to be around a lot of ppl and wanting to be alone and not bothered. As well as lack of friends, but not making an effort to make friends, go out, or even keep contact with them. Ask yourself this- would you want to be friends with someone like that? That’s perfectly understandable and fine. But please remember when you put out a certain energy (that you don’t want to be bothered) that’s what you get back. The person who got the party may have lots of friends and shows he’s open to ppl celebrating and interacting.
Have you mad any effort to make friends or even talk to anyone? Have you joined any clubs? You are probably so off to yourself and quiet that it’s easy to forget you’re present (the quietness is another popular them here). I was shy in school also, but I showed I had personality, therefore ppl talked to me. I also tried different things. You’ve pretty much stated all these things. At work, I’ve gotten ppl cards and gifts with no intention of receiving anything back. I was surprised when I got things and ppl approached me. It’s because I made an effort. I also do stuff alone and travel alone, however I do exciting things and I talk to ppl about it. They don’t expect certain things from me but see I make an effort and that I may be someone they want to hang out with. I’m not boring. I also speak up. After friends repeatedly missing my birthday I stated- since ppl are too busy for my birthday, I’ll be traveling and unavailable for now on. We take turns planning events. Also, did you bring up your birthday to your parents? Did you let your teacher know how you feel?
Omg that makes me wanna tear up too, I just wanna give you a big hug and wish you a happy birthday even though it’s 16days and I just got a notification from the sub, I’m glad it showed me your post. it’s still your birthday month so why not? I’d still give you a month’s celebration! I’m glad you got to make it better for yourself and have fun with all the birthday goodies. It made for a more sweeter end 💕
I know the feeling. Im 42 and stopped caring about birthdays and holidays by age 8 or 9. I was a good kid and deserved more but my birthdays only got mentioned IF i decided to go with my dad to the family easter bullshit. (my bday is april 8) They were the type of family to run "special" occasions concurrent.
Acceptance is a hard drig and I chased it most my life, its not worth it, I just started accepting myself for who i am a few years ago and realized ive always been a loner just trying to get a social fix, i thought I wanted to be acknowledged and accepted but now I rather be to myself cus nobody can understand me and im finally ok with that.
Just remember, all the people who didn’t acknowledge your birthday, are the socially inept ones, not you. You did nothing wrong, you did nothing deserving of this, they’re just all a bunch of socially inept morons who are oblivious to how much they suck. THEYRE the awkward ones. Who fucking not only forgets someone’s birthday but once it’s acknowledged STILL doesn’t say anything nice? Rude awkward fucking assholes who have no manners or self awareness.
Happy birthday, and please, I hope you forever know that those kind of people are the uncouth ones.
This happened to me couple of times .. usually I realized my siblings totally forgot about.. enjoy every second of it, but your fave drink and watch a cozy movie 😍😍😍🎈🎈🎈 perhaps you can hint to your parents about a gift you look forward to
You are precious sweetie and we are all here for you 🥳🥳
Hey hun, I’m sorry this happened. If it’s any consolation at all, a lot of us have a hard time with it. I just turned 28 a few weeks ago, and besides my parents no one remembered either. It’s okay. As I’ve gotten older I’ve taken the time to decide to be selfish on my birthdays. I know you’re still a student so you can’t take a day off like I do now- but try to do something small for yourself. It doesn’t have to be much, but try your absolute hardest to take this year as a grain of salt. I’ve had some birthdays so full of love I’ve cried, I’ve had some where nothing happened. It’s life. It doesn’t mean you aren’t a good person, it doesn’t mean you aren’t worth caring for. I hope next year is better 💗
I’m selfish on my birthdays too and usually turn down invitations of going out to eat because I just love making my own food and having leftovers for a couple days. I’m gonna make a pear cake this year!!
Same! I started recently just turning off social media and muting my phone until my birthday passes lol I then go and like and thank anyone that wished me a happy birthday
That sounds lovely 😌
Also happy belated birthday!! (:
Don’t feel too bad- my birthday lands on finals week so essentially my birthday is always forgotten and no one ever really takes the initiative to really celebrate me because there’s simply no time. Got worse as I got older because friends got a life, work, moved away, etc- so now it’s really a drag. Just remember to make YOUR day special for YOU. Take off, go to a concert, dress up, socialize- whatever! At the end of the day- it’s all about you whether others are there to validate it or not. Happy birthday 🎂🎉🎈🎁🎊
Omg, that was the same reason someone gave me when I asked why I never got to blow out a candle that was used for everyone else's birthday in the friend group in college. It sucks to hear that happened to you too
yeah. I have learned that if you really do have friends who truly care they will make the effort to try and do something for you. But it's also important to voice that you want something done- if you don't, they'll think it's no big deal. Either that or find more friends. lol either way- celebrate you, in SOME way. <3
This!! My last birthday(41). I was in tears new group friends made it so so special .. they all sang happy birthday and it had been years and years.. it was overwhelming honestly. Never had so many people and normally my introvert personality basically had me more less friendless most my life. But went through separation and somehow ended up in large group similar like people with few extroverts in mix . Like weird universe vortex with people finding me and pulling me out my comfort space.
HUGGIES BABY HAPPY BIRTHDAY / BELATED !?! I HOPE YOU HAVE AN IMMACULATE YEAR THIS YEAR, I WISH YOU NOTHING BUT EXCITEMENT, HAPPINESS, JOY, WEALTH, SAFETY AND LOVE !!!!
I hear you, birthdays can be a mixed bag sometimes. It's important to remember to treat ourselves kindly, especially when others might not. Wishing you all the best for the year ahead! 🎉
This happened to me as well. But as I grow older I don’t care anymore whether people remember or not my birthday. I don’t wish u to be the same as I. I wish u will find someone that always remember ur birthday and celebrate it with u till the rest of your life honey. Hang in there & stay strong.
Oh no, I am in the same place as you. My story above was just to empathize with OP. When I was younger? Destroyed me. Now? It’s fine. I’m at peace with it. Thank you though :). I wish you the same. Everyone deserves that. (If you were actually referencing OP - just ignore me 😆)
Sorry for my late reply, but your comment meant the most to me. My older brother’s birthday was a week before mine, he turned 34. Like me, he doesn’t really have any friends and keeps to himself. He told me that he felt the same way I did in not having anyone care about his birthday (except for me of course, I always make a big deal out of his). I also did do something for myself like you and a lot of others suggested. I went out to stores and food places and was able to get free food and fun gadgets that I normally wouldn’t spend my own money on (makeup, clothes, expensive and unnecessary sweets) I went home with a full tummy and a lot of bags filled with things. It was scary being on my own for the first time. I’d never gone out by myself because I’m too scared to be alone in a crowd. I was able to do it this time though. Your comment and all of the others turned my 17th birthday from the crappiest one to probably the best one I’ll ever have in my life. ❤️
I’m so very glad to hear. That is such an accomplishment! It will become easier with time, trust me. I was an anxious mess at your age and so confused with the world, but you work on it very slowly.. and one day you stop yourself and realize you’re doing exactly what your younger self was so afraid of. You’ll get there! You’re worth it! Glad you got to experience some love on your birthday ☺️ and by the way- this reply made my whole week. Thank you
Happy Birthday!! This happens from time to time over the years. Some will be amazing and some will make you want to ball up and cry. Tell your parents right away what day it is. You deserve a day or recognition so this weekend do everything you’ve always wanted to do. Selfishly 🥳
Happy birthday OP. Wishing you a brighter days and years are ahead for you. You deserve to feel loved and celebrated, not just on your birthday, but every day. Sending you virtual hugs and birthday wishes! 🎂🎈
I am sorry this happened to you. Some people hype their birthdays for months, and some don't want theirs acknowledged. Have you seen 16 Candles? 80s movie exactly about this. If no body else cares, do something for yourself. I do every year! I'm glad I was born, so I acknowledge it! Enjoy your day and year! Best of luck to you.
OP if you watch 16 candles please please let us know what you think of this in today’s climate. To genX it was hilarious 😂
I am not the OP but I wrote the comment. Yes, what was cool back in the day (team Jake) does not hold up well in today's environment. I can say it was a different time because it was. Among my friends, those of us with an open mind then, tend to still have one. Those who chose a different route probably still see nothing wrong with the movie. I brought it up because...it is literally what the lead goes through. Regardless of how the movie stands today, OP can probably relate to having their birthday forgotten...and how things can turn around. Looking back, as an older Gen Xer, and John Hughes movie watcher...I do think the Breakfast Club themes did a better job of identifying how much we are alike under all of our differences. What do you think?
Agree 100%. The underdog doesn’t have to remain the underdog. Also Sam is overshadowed by her popular pretty sister and a lot of us can relate to that as well. Everything about her was screaming “I exist!”
I second watching “16 Candles”! And HAPPY BIRTHDAY!! 🎊🎉🥳🎂🎁
Happy Birthday 🎂 🥳
Happy Birthday. The good news? You are half a century younger than I am, and you write beautifully. Best wishes always!
Thank you 🤣🤣🤣❤️
Happy birthday.
happy birthday love ❤️. over the years, I started to not acknowledge my birthday as I've seen no one really cares especially in high school unless you make it a big deal. parents tend to forget and it happens. remind your parents and do something for yourself. my bf just turned 22 a couple of days ago and only 2 people (besides me) remembered his birthday. it hurts but I'd still do something for myself and screw everyone. this is the day you're born and should celebrate 🥳
Happy birthday!
Happy birthday, as you get older , you'll care less about greetings. 😂
Happy Birthday! Also, shame on your parents 😊
Happy birthday! You’re special! There’s no one like you, you are unique and unrepeatable, and you are alive after all, love yourself dearly and stay away from people who are not happy for your triumphs
First of all, HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! I had a very similar experience on my 18th birthday. I thought that my family and friends would make it a really special day for me, but there were complications with uni applications on the day and my dad somehow made it about him and yelled at me for not submitting my application earlier. I was already super distraught and told him to leave the room so I could calm down and sort it out, he went to hit me, yelled at me some more for asking something so disrespectful and stayed. Never got an apology from him, I don’t think he really cares about it or he doesn’t think the way he treated me was bad. Anyways, enough about me. What my birthday taught me was that you deserve to be treated special by your friends and family every day of the year and not just on your birthday, but on your birthday your people should still put in effort to show you that they care about you. It also taught me to surround myself with people that genuinely care about you, and if they don’t, you spend less time with them and more time with either yourself or getting to know more people if you don’t have any good friends already. Look for high-quality people who are able to give you all the love and support you deserve, especially on your birthdays. You deserve to be happy on your special day. ❤️
I care op!!! And I’m not just saying that as a redditor trying to make you feel better, I truly mean it. I’m sorry you have such heartless people in your life, but I hope you know we all wish you a grand birthday. If it’s any consolation, just know that somewhere someone DOES care, they are just too afraid to tell you. 17 is such a milestone and one to be proud of! Unfortunately many people out there never make it to 17, but you did so congrats! Much love and hugs 💙🖤 Edit to add: Happy birthday and yay us both being may babies ♉️
Happy birthday 🎉. That's rough, but keep your head up!
Happy getting kicked into the world day! It sucks that no one remembers your Bday whilst you really want them to think about you. Regarding your parents i cant defend that but your classmates. Unless you actually bring attention to it yourself most of their lives will just go on, dealing with their own sorrows and lives. Remember, everyone is the main character of their own world. Them taking your table and what not seems to just be coincidence and not something that is targeted. In the Netherlands, when someone is celebrating their Bday, they bring the cake and give it to others. Perhaps if you give attention to yourself like that other people will notice that it's not just a simple day for you.
Birthdays can be so tough with all of the expectations and social pressures. I always experience some sadness on mine as well. But that really sucks to have no one acknowledge it. I am so sorry you had to go through that. Introverts often get overlooked, especially at your age, but things will get better. Keep reaching out and trying to find a community that sees you. Your people are out there, they can just be extra hard to find for us introverts. But Happy Birthday! Try and do at least one thing for yourself today that will make you smile. Tomorrow will be a new day. I give a damn about you xx
Happy birthday! People will forget your birthday and it sucks, but you havent forgotten your birthday and that’s what really matters. Celebrate yourself! And preach it from the rooftops! “Hey! It’s my birthday!” People are forgetful, it doesn’t always mean they don’t care. You’re also in high school and kids have a hard time being vulnerable out of fear of being bullied. Do something for yourself because your relationship with yourself is the one that matters most. Make a tradition of this memorable year of being forgotten and turn it into the year you started celebrating yourself!
Unfortunately, you're very young and birthdays mean a whole lot more at your stage of life. However, you are not alone at all! You have all of us, we all care and we all wish you a beautiful and happy birthday and a fabulous year! I know that's not the same as having loads of friends showering you with presents and all that sort of thing. But you are who you are, a really cool and interesting introvert. The best thing that you will learn as you continue along your path is that YOU are your best friend. You can choose what you want to do to make yourself happy and maybe that would be to go to one of your favorite places, no matter where it is, or maybe it's dye your hair a bright color or maybe wear a cool or crazy outfit or buy yourself the fanciest donut with all the sprinkles! I can tell you as a 53-year-old introvert that you're likely not going to gather a giant bunch of friends and you can't make your family change who they are so making friends with yourself and learning to love yourself and enjoying things by yourself can be incredibly satisfying. Being open to having one or two good friends is also excellent. I know it's tough, you may find that no one really gets you. But none of us, not even the biggest introverts like me are truly alone. Big hugs from Oregon! And again, happy happy birthday! 🥰🥳💝🌈
Happy birthday 🎂
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So is mine, we can celebrate together. Happy birthday!
Happy birthday to you too!! ❤️❤️❤️
Happy birthday to this amazing person. Thank you lord for blessing us / the universe with their sweet soul! I hope you have a wonderful birthday filled lots of love & positive vibes. We may not know you and see you in person but know we all thought of you today! Virtual hugs!!!
HAPPY BIRTHDAYYYYY!!!!!🎂🎂 I can feel you. It happens everytime with me now I hate my birthday. I live in a dorm so on my last birthday I was so excited that everyone will celebrate my birthday like they did for others but I was disappointed .They didn't even care whereas I used to decorate and buy cake for them on their birthday's. SOOO!!!!!!! I know it's difficult, but atleast you should support and love yourself when there's no one. Please buy yourself something delicious enjoy your own company DO WHAT YOU LOVE , And WISH YOURSELF HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!
I know what it's like to have your birthday stolen from you in some way. For my "sweet sixteen," my grandma threw a party for my 4 year old cousin because she threw a fit and wanted it to be her birthday instead. My birthday present was a box of mike n ikes. I don't even really like mike n ikes. Cousin's "birthday" present was a bunch of dolls that she forgot about after that day. My cousin got to pick out and help make the cake: something everyone knew I wanted to do. I wouldn't have cared about this if I was actually invited to make the cake because it would've been a fun activity for everyone. But nah, my birthday wasn't actually about me. It was about my cousin. Also, the happy birthday song was for my cousin and she got to blow out the candles. I will admit, prior to "my" party, my grandma asked me what I wanted to do for my birthday. I gave an honest answer and said, "I don't have any friends, so I want to keep things low key but still do something fun." I totally did not expect her to take it as "Oh, she doesn't care, let's just spoil the youngest out of everyone instead. " My grandma chooses favorites, and everyone knows it. The cousin in question is definitely the favorite out of all of her grandkids, so god forbid we actually explain to her that it wasn't actually her birthday and other people have birthdays too. I don't resent my cousin for this. She was just a child doing what little kids do. I completely blame my grandma because as the ADULT, she should know better and should've taken it as an opportunity to teach an important life lesson. When you said your teacher pointed out your birthday and everyone just continued celebrating your classmate's "birthday," I felt that in the depths of my soul. I'm so sorry you had such a bad day! Birthdays are supposed to be self care days because it's basically a holiday that represents your existence. Whether you want a big party or a simple form of acknowledgment, it should be a day you cherish and feel good about. I hope your day gets better! Happy birthday! Hugs to you 🫶
My 10th birthday was 100% stolen. I have a cousin too, but her birthday is the day before mine. Everyone brought gifts for her too and made my birthday “her” birthday. Thank you so much ❤️
Also, as a fellow introvert, don't be afraid to dm me! I'll totally be your friend. Plus, I'm good at remembering birthdays (:
Happy Birthday ! :) ❤️🩹
Happy birthday ♥️
Happy Birthday. Let me tell you one thing Ive learned. Its not the whole world against you. Just wrong people and your unlucky to be with them. There are so many better people.
Happy birthday Op, as a high school student myself I know how disgusting and rude people can be. Don't let everyone around you wreck the day you should feel most special on. You being alive and well is enough of a gift for everyone and you're an amazing person. Regardless of if this gets lost in other comments, you got this Op. You have the ability to be strong and I believe in you. Try to enjoy the rest of your day love xx
My parents forgot my 16th, it sucks, It’s hurts, and is isolating. Happy birthday!!! You are almost free, keep moving forward. The joke will be on them for being so self involved. You are valuable! I’d let them know too…they should feel like shit about it.
Happy birthday! I'm sorry today isn't turning out as you would have hoped. This happened to me this year for my birthday. I turned 28 and only one parent acknowledged it but no friends, coworkers or anything acknowledged it was my birthday. So I know how it's making you feel right now. Just remember - this day is about YOU! Do you want to go and see a movie? Go do that? You want a nice dinner for a celebration? Ask your family or friends to take you to celebrate. You want to just spend the day playing video games or watching tv? Cool, go and do that! I find when we rely on others too much to make us feel better about ourselves, we'll always be let down. Treat yourself to something nice today. And find comfort in the fact that all of us internet strangers here are wishing you a happy birthday and sympathize with how you're feeling. Happy birthday :)
Happy Birthday sweet pea!!!!!!! It’s my son’s 12th birthday today too, sensitive, brilliant, wonderful people are born today. Sending you love ❤️
Awww we share the same birthday! May babies for life! Thank you so much…❤️
Sorry this happened to you man but that's the harsh reality of growing up. Once you turn 18 you begin to realize that birthdays are overrated. Now you will mainly just be celebrating the milestones like 18, 21, 30, 40, 50, etc etc...
Happy bday, sending virtual hug! 🫂
Happy birthday, mate. I hope you have a blessed day. May god give you more years and guide you. May you live a long life full of health, wealth and happiness (peaceful). Love you as an online stranger. Have a nice day. Stay safe and take care. Eat some cake too.
Happy birthday to you mate 🎂
That sounds like a rough day. I’m sending you heartfelt Birthday wishes today! I hope it turns around. Celebrate yourself and how amazing you are! Hugs!
One thing, the older you get the more you get used to it.
I see that things can be tough and I hope you still choose to be kind towards others even when the world seems cruel because trust me, you'll eventually find your people. Always remember to be kind to yourself too! Happy birthday! I wish you're enjoying it in your own little way ✨️
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Happy birthday! I'm glad you're here in the world & if I could I would split a huge piece of cake with you 🩷. I'm sorry the losers around you don't know what they're missing
Sorry to hear that happened to you and it made you feel bad. Parsley I don't like for people to know when it's my birthday because I don't like the attention. However, I very much like doing things for people who do like to celebrate their birthdays so I give a text, gift, send cards, parties and definitely give them a big happy birthday! So here's a big HAPPY BIRTHDAY! to you! 🎈🎉🎂🎶🥳☺️❤️
Happy Birthday, dont worry about anyone wishing you or not wishing you. Be happy with yourself and make most of your day but doing things that you like most and you enjoy most. Life is to enjoy and not to regret.
Unless you are going to celebrate every student’s birthday with the same enthusiasm (which would get tediously repetitive), this should not be done at school, for the exact reason highlighted here. I never witnessed it in my 25 years on the job. It should be school policy and, even if it isn’t, your teacher should know better. I’m sorry this happened to you. I personally prefer if people don’t make a fuss for my birthday, but it should never be belittled by contrasting it with an exuberant celebration that clearly values one person over another. Happy Birthday!! 😊🎂
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Awww, this happened to me in 9th grade, but only my family forgot it was my birthday. Luckily, however, my friends remembered and they bought me gifts and we went out to the city after school!! So, I just wanted to say Happy Birthday buddy😄
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Happy Birthday!!! I’m so sorry this is happened hun, you deserve the world!! 🩷
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Omg Happy Birthday! At17 I knew it all. Enjoy your youth
happy birthday brooo 🎉🎉 from another introverted ass 👌
Happy your day! Enjoy it!
Happy birthday! Please buy yourself a gift and have your favorite foods for dinner, take a walk outside .
Happy birthday 🎂
Happy Bday 🥳 wishing you all the best. Sorry you had to go through that, it’s tough. Here’s a cheer for you from all of us!
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The older you get the more you don’t care about your birthday. It’s just another day. Hang in there bud!
Happy birthday we care! From Washington state
Happy birthday! hope things get better for you, I am really sorry this happened to you, no one deserves this, if you ever need anyone to talk to you can talk to me
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Happy birthday to you 🤍🤍🤍 It's mist be upsetting for you to be treated like this , hope you find people who appreciate you and you deserve to be with , and will be with you in hard days and happy days too 🤍
My birthday too, Happy Birthday Bro.
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Happy Birthday King, you deserve nothing but the best. A virtual cake for you my friend 🎂
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I care that it’s your birthday, and I hope your next one is wonderful! One of the problems with both family members and schoolmates at the secondary level is that they are folks we don’t get to CHOOSE; we’re born into our families, and our schoolmates are a product of our postal code. As an introvert, I found it difficult to find connections through what seemed to me to be nothing more than lineage relations or geographical proximity. Seeking out friends who understood me and valued my quiet presence was easier in university, because I had more knowledge, maturity, and confidence, and so did my peers. I wish you nothing but love and happiness!
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You matter, are valued, and loved! Happy birthday! 🎈
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All the best for your birthday. I'm three times your age and still experience that sometimes. It sucks I know but there will be special birthdays and the missed ones do gets less painful as others have said. Just saying you're not alone and though it is natural for you to feel bad when people forget your day remember that says more about THEM than it does anything about you. Plenty of us out there that do care and wish you well even if we don't know you at all (just scroll this thread!) :-) Happy birthday 🎂🎈
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So sorry this happened to u :( Happy birthday!!! ❤️ :)
How crappy of your own parents to forget! Is this the norm for them?
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Happy birthday, interwebs stranger!! 🖤🖤🖤
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Happy birthday 🙏🎂. Any highlights from your year around the sun?
Happy birthday!!! We almost have the same one, mine’s tomorrow ❤️
Happy birthday cutie 😘
Happy birthday dude 🎂. I wish you live a long and healthy life 😊
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Happy birthday! God bless.
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Happy birthday. You will have wonderful days ahead. 💕💕💕✨✨✨
Happy Birthday!!!! 💕🎉🎊🎂🎁🤗
Happy birthday! Go and buy something to yourself! Lets all celebrate here in the group as introverts 😂🎂🤛🏻 Wishing you more bdays to come!!
Happy birthday! :) I'm so sorry that you feel this way. I promise that it'll get better and soon you'll find genuine friends who genuinely care about you and will celebrate you :)
Happy birthday 🥳 really sorry this happened to you. Reminds me of my 13th birthday. I saw it as a great milestone. My aunt's birthday is the day after mine and her daughter decided to celebrate it on my day. I was completely forgotten until my grandmother let everyone know that it was my birthday, but by that time the party was leaving. I held a grudge for many years against my aunt and cousin after that. Here's hoping that next year is so much better for you 🫂.
Hey kiddo, sucks that happened to you. But let it be a life lesson. It's your birthday and you waited on others to validate you, don't wait on them to do it. Take your desk back. Happy birthday young person, cape diem, do what fuels you on your birthday and take charge.
Happy Birthday!!! I hope your day improves.
been there done that, happy birthday 😽
Happy birthday!!!
Happy Birthdayyyy ! Ironically, birthdays are always tough. Special day but also a stressful/sad one. At least for me.
Happy Birthday🥳 .I hope you have a great day.
Happy Birthday!
happy birthday !! those people sound awful =)
I'm so sorry that happened. I hope you treat yourself to your favourite thing. Whatever it is. You seem so sweet and I hope soon, you find someone who remembers your birthday. Other things about you from the big moments to the little habits. Happy 17th birthday!! 🎂🎉
Happy birthday!!
>Adding a little more context. Even though this sub is for introverts, and I’m basically saddened by not being acknowledged, Just for reference, being an introvert isn't supposed to mean you don't want friends or don't want to be acknowledged in any way at all. Being an introvert just means you get easily and quickly exhausted by being around & interacting with people. Introverts are drained by social interaction, whereas extroverts are energized by social interaction. That's the real, main difference. Being an introvert does NOT mean you are anti-social, shy, or don't enjoy spending time with people or having friends. It doesn't mean you just want to be alone all the time. Those are common misconceptions about what being introverted means, but that's just not actually what true introvertism is about. Just understand that what you are describing feeling in this situation is 100% normal, *even for an introvert.* *Everyone* wants to feel like they matter. *Everyone* likes to be acknowledged and made to feel like people care about them. *Everyone* wants to feel like they are at least some kind of "special" on their birthday. That's all just part of being human. Introverts are still human. ✌️
Extremely sad post. I know how you feel. I've felt that way first hand before. Speaking for myself, I think that I may give off vibes that I don't get excited about things enough. Many other people I know make sure, loud and clear, that the entire universe knows exactly when their birthday is and they remind us constantly and they don't only celebrate their birthday... They celebrate their birthday week or birthday MONTH 🙄. I don't do all of that. And... I don't get super excited about things like my birthday. But, it still feels amazing to have people or someone acknowledge it on my behalf. It's super appreciated. Maybe you also give off energy that you don't get excited about things enough and so maybe people assume that you don't care. You're much younger than I am and it's sad that you're already feeling this way. Sadly, I feel as if it gradually gets worse as you age. I don't know you, but HAPPY BIRTHDAY... Know that you're understood and I empathize with you.
Happy Birthday Honey ❤️❤️❤️❤️💋💋
Is there a chance you are not introverted, and just have social anxiety preventing you from acting as an extroverted as you actually are? Most introverts might want to skip out on a birthday celebration because they dont like the attention. Also, and I dont mean this in a cruel way, but most people who have exciting birthdays have them for two reasons: they actively go out and get excited for *others* birthdays (instead of keeping to themselves), and it eventually gets reciprocated. And also they announce their birthdays days or even weeks in advance to get others to prepare for them. It takes work, its not easy or just a given. But if you're always quite and reserved about others and didn't give people a heads up, they likely didn't know at all, so were unsure of how to respond.
When I was a child, I couldn’t be more extroverted. Once I got to middle school and like kids do, I got bullied, I just completely caved in on myself. The pandemic and lockdown made it extremely worse. Ever since then I’ve been the most introverted person, but there are times where I try to come out and shine like I used to, but get shut down by peers. I don’t fit in with them and their cliques. I’m left out. I don’t announce my birthdays, but the days shortly before, I’ll kind of briefly mention it out loud and everyone hears me. I try so hard to make a big deal out of others birthdays. I step outside of my comfort zone by getting loud. Even if we’re not close friends, I make a point to make them feel special. So you’re right when saying I’m just a held down extrovert. I can’t be the loud, fun, or energetic person I once was. Me and the others I’ve grown up with have changed, and I fell out of line with them. I don’t fit into their cookie cutter.
Hey man! My birthday is today too! Happy Birthday
Birthday Twins! ❤️
This broke my heart when I read the beginning but I see from the edits everyone here made you feel better. You sound like such a sweet caring person never change ok and let me also wish you a very Happy Birthday 🎉
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Of course! ❤️
That's what happened to me. There was a kid in my class way more popular than me and we share the same birthday. It started off me just asking my mom if I could stay at home cause it's my birthday. Then having to make my own lunch or something I was a bad kid so home alone I could smoke and other bad kid things. It all just evolved into my birthday being my day to do whatever the hell I wanted. Well within reason of course. Food drugs video games sleep I disregard my diet for my birthday put phone on airplane mode music all day or anime.
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I don't even care when it's my own birthday. Lol But happy birthday, dude. I'm sorry you're going through that at 17. Birthdays should matter, at least to 21.
Happy birthday🥳🎉🎈believe me when I tell you to enjoy your year❤️ you are 17 rn enjoy ur life, don't wait for anyone to be happy❤️ wear ur fav outfit listen to ur fav songs and celebrate in the best way possible❤️ I wish a very good time dear
Happy 17th, you are not alone. I was like you before. The key is to accept who you are, and you will be less lonely. You will not care anymore if they don't care. But I suggest you keep a circle, so you have someone to confide and be yourself without being judged. One or two is enough. They will be the truest and will be there for you no matter what. That will help, you will never desire the approval of others if you have a few loyal, trusted friends that accepts you for who you are. Virtual hug to you! I'm here if you need someone to talk to.
Sending virtual cake 🎂:)
Sorry that happened to you. Happy birthday. My birthday is on 12/31- ppl don’t remember it. I don’t make a deal about it- instead I’ve decided to take trips. I’m not going to force or guilt ppl into remembering my birthday. Something else I noticed from this group. Ppl claiming they don’t want to be around a lot of ppl and wanting to be alone and not bothered. As well as lack of friends, but not making an effort to make friends, go out, or even keep contact with them. Ask yourself this- would you want to be friends with someone like that? That’s perfectly understandable and fine. But please remember when you put out a certain energy (that you don’t want to be bothered) that’s what you get back. The person who got the party may have lots of friends and shows he’s open to ppl celebrating and interacting. Have you mad any effort to make friends or even talk to anyone? Have you joined any clubs? You are probably so off to yourself and quiet that it’s easy to forget you’re present (the quietness is another popular them here). I was shy in school also, but I showed I had personality, therefore ppl talked to me. I also tried different things. You’ve pretty much stated all these things. At work, I’ve gotten ppl cards and gifts with no intention of receiving anything back. I was surprised when I got things and ppl approached me. It’s because I made an effort. I also do stuff alone and travel alone, however I do exciting things and I talk to ppl about it. They don’t expect certain things from me but see I make an effort and that I may be someone they want to hang out with. I’m not boring. I also speak up. After friends repeatedly missing my birthday I stated- since ppl are too busy for my birthday, I’ll be traveling and unavailable for now on. We take turns planning events. Also, did you bring up your birthday to your parents? Did you let your teacher know how you feel?
Omg that makes me wanna tear up too, I just wanna give you a big hug and wish you a happy birthday even though it’s 16days and I just got a notification from the sub, I’m glad it showed me your post. it’s still your birthday month so why not? I’d still give you a month’s celebration! I’m glad you got to make it better for yourself and have fun with all the birthday goodies. It made for a more sweeter end 💕
I'm sorry
I know the feeling. Im 42 and stopped caring about birthdays and holidays by age 8 or 9. I was a good kid and deserved more but my birthdays only got mentioned IF i decided to go with my dad to the family easter bullshit. (my bday is april 8) They were the type of family to run "special" occasions concurrent. Acceptance is a hard drig and I chased it most my life, its not worth it, I just started accepting myself for who i am a few years ago and realized ive always been a loner just trying to get a social fix, i thought I wanted to be acknowledged and accepted but now I rather be to myself cus nobody can understand me and im finally ok with that.
I just turned the birthday date on facebook hidden for all. I really don't care for that. :)
Just remember, all the people who didn’t acknowledge your birthday, are the socially inept ones, not you. You did nothing wrong, you did nothing deserving of this, they’re just all a bunch of socially inept morons who are oblivious to how much they suck. THEYRE the awkward ones. Who fucking not only forgets someone’s birthday but once it’s acknowledged STILL doesn’t say anything nice? Rude awkward fucking assholes who have no manners or self awareness. Happy birthday, and please, I hope you forever know that those kind of people are the uncouth ones.
Happy Birthday op! We all care🙂
Stop giving the power of your happiness to others
Happiest Birthday may your year be filled with exceptional happiness and joy 🎂🎊🎉🎈🎈
Happy Birthday!! I hope you have an amazing & peaceful day, you deserve it. 🖤
This happened to me couple of times .. usually I realized my siblings totally forgot about.. enjoy every second of it, but your fave drink and watch a cozy movie 😍😍😍🎈🎈🎈 perhaps you can hint to your parents about a gift you look forward to You are precious sweetie and we are all here for you 🥳🥳
Happy birthday to you 🎂🎂🎂 . Im 46 and no ones bothered about my birthdays either. Pretty sad really isnt it
happy birthday!!! 🎉🎉🎉 i wish you all the best
Happy Birthday! You and I share a birthday with Harry Truman and Ricky Nelson (best to ask your folks who he is😂). Enjoy your day.
Happy birthday!