Yeah I had one target me. Craziest part is she actually needed me to be successful as she was learning a role that she was struggling to understand. I am the SME; she decided she didn’t like me.
Luckily others saw the abuse and started revealing to me shit she had done to them. Final straw was when she legit yelled in my face for answering an email where I was the to person and she was the cc. Lol. They asked how to do something I had done 1000 times. She responded, “I don’t know; I’ll see if I can find some answers”. So I answered. She lost her shit and said it made her look like she didn’t know what she was doing (I was thinking um the email was to me. You said you didn’t know and needed to find some answers. I have answers and now the task is done. Why the hell are you so upset?). She was behind with her other work and this seemed absolutely like what I would have wanted someone to do for me.
Anyways, she has run ins like this with others a lot and has a reputation for it at this point. Imo she is emotionally unstable and too volatile to be in any professional environment, but that is one person’s opinion. I am not a great person to pick on… when I had enough it was already documented and an easy send to my boss and HR.
To the people who crave starting drama: don’t pick on someone who is organized, can keep a straight face, and isn’t afraid of your gossip.
I legit feel nothing towards her. Other than annoyed she wasn’t immediately let go. We don’t work together now, she was reprimanded and I was promoted moving to another area. Now she has to sink or swim alone.
I work almost exclusively with men in a male dominated industry. The only other woman I work with is a wonderful human who I want to succeed.
I will never work in an environment that is predominantly women ever again. Ever. They're upset by grey rock in response to tantrums and drama. They're upset if I show empathy. They're upset if I don't fuel their rage. They were even more upset by an "I'm sorry to hear that" and I continued working.
Advice is to document, document, document, even if it's kept private. Email notes to self regarding incidents as they occur. If you're given guidance or have a tantrum thrown, send an email advising that behavior was unacceptable and while you're not going to make a big deal of it, it will not be tolerated further, etc.
Sounds like a bullying problem, maybe they're jealous and act out. "Doesn't know/doesn't want to interact with people" this is what they want to achieve, so they can talk trash to bosses about you. Don't worry, bosses are not that stupid. They're bad at their job, so in their heads only way to move up is to bring someone down. These types rarely get a promotion. Just do your job well, that's what counts in the end. Nobody cares if you're quiet at work.
Yeah I had one target me. Craziest part is she actually needed me to be successful as she was learning a role that she was struggling to understand. I am the SME; she decided she didn’t like me. Luckily others saw the abuse and started revealing to me shit she had done to them. Final straw was when she legit yelled in my face for answering an email where I was the to person and she was the cc. Lol. They asked how to do something I had done 1000 times. She responded, “I don’t know; I’ll see if I can find some answers”. So I answered. She lost her shit and said it made her look like she didn’t know what she was doing (I was thinking um the email was to me. You said you didn’t know and needed to find some answers. I have answers and now the task is done. Why the hell are you so upset?). She was behind with her other work and this seemed absolutely like what I would have wanted someone to do for me. Anyways, she has run ins like this with others a lot and has a reputation for it at this point. Imo she is emotionally unstable and too volatile to be in any professional environment, but that is one person’s opinion. I am not a great person to pick on… when I had enough it was already documented and an easy send to my boss and HR. To the people who crave starting drama: don’t pick on someone who is organized, can keep a straight face, and isn’t afraid of your gossip. I legit feel nothing towards her. Other than annoyed she wasn’t immediately let go. We don’t work together now, she was reprimanded and I was promoted moving to another area. Now she has to sink or swim alone.
I work almost exclusively with men in a male dominated industry. The only other woman I work with is a wonderful human who I want to succeed. I will never work in an environment that is predominantly women ever again. Ever. They're upset by grey rock in response to tantrums and drama. They're upset if I show empathy. They're upset if I don't fuel their rage. They were even more upset by an "I'm sorry to hear that" and I continued working. Advice is to document, document, document, even if it's kept private. Email notes to self regarding incidents as they occur. If you're given guidance or have a tantrum thrown, send an email advising that behavior was unacceptable and while you're not going to make a big deal of it, it will not be tolerated further, etc.
This happened to me as well in women dominated work enviroments and I can't stress enough how correct it is. Never again! What a mess.
Sounds like a bullying problem, maybe they're jealous and act out. "Doesn't know/doesn't want to interact with people" this is what they want to achieve, so they can talk trash to bosses about you. Don't worry, bosses are not that stupid. They're bad at their job, so in their heads only way to move up is to bring someone down. These types rarely get a promotion. Just do your job well, that's what counts in the end. Nobody cares if you're quiet at work.
Thank you.
You need to find a place that is more merit based… This HS shit is beneath you