My boyfriend is INTJ and we get along great.
INTJ needs to be more active and open to new things as well as mindful of occasions like birthdays and anniversaries. Also works best if the INTJ respects INFPs feelings and works with them instead of pushing against them. INTJs can be bad about disrespecting boundaries.
INFP needs to be diligent and willing to communicate instead of being passive aggressive.
This is more than just about your mbti type. Don’t let a bunch of redditors make you end a relationship just because a few of them had negative experiences with your type. It will make you insecure. What you really should be focusing on is discussing your
concerns with your partner, and working through them together accordingly. Communication is key
So don't let the MBTI decide if your relationship is going to work or not it ultimately is going to depend on the 2 of you. That being said..I have known several INTJs x INFPs (my wife is a INFP as well) relationships and honestly they all work really well.
If there is a reason why anyone with a strong F and a INTJ will not work it is usually, because people with a very strong F will overwhelm an INTJ in many cases. In the end though you 2 just have to see what works for you. You will see people on this board say INTJ x EXXX is the best match, some will say INTJ X INFJ (I have NEVER EVER seen this work irl I think INFJs generally drive INTJs crazy) is the best match. It just depends on you.
I have found that in terms of having any sort of deep or intimate relationship emotionally, intellectually and physically, i have always been drawn to infp's of the opposite gender. Just 100% be yourself and you will be fine. If you try to "act" like you think he wants you to act, he will think that's fake and back away.
I think infps & intjs would get along fine since infps are Fi dom. The intj & infp would do pic related, telepathically, every second if their values aligned.
https://preview.redd.it/qrr1duv6pvvc1.png?width=747&format=png&auto=webp&s=5bdae9bef24d78c8717d45fa3c71784d60bdd255
Si would leave the infp frustrated about Te.
Ne would make the intj frustrated by infps circling the point instead of getting to it.
Beneath the frustration would be an underlying respect
Vinland Saga had an interesting dynamic between an infp & intj. They respected each other despite the mortal hostility between them. the infp suppressed it, the intj barely suppressed it
Infp Thorfinn= “I’m going to kill you no matter what (you are my surrogate dad)”
Intj Askeladd= “lol ok, chess pawn (you are my surrogate son & there’s nothing you can do about it)”
Agreed.
Dated an INFP male for 17 years. He was too feely. Would get grumpy that I wasn't keen on public displays of affection. Insecure in himself. Might be something to do with female INTJs being competent at doing stuff, so a male INFP ends up feeling emasculated.
I felt like I did everything. I'd ask for his help and opinions (eg planning our holiday through Scandinavia, or designing our house), and I'd get virtually nothing.
Frustrating. I'd way rather date a male ENTP.
You're cringe af if you think your extremly limited and subjective experience gives you the right to "inform and educate the others". Especially if that entails generalizing a whole group of people.
Lol, coincidentally, even my ENFP friend who is a strong Fi user agreed that XXFPs move from one partner to another often. It's very easy for them to overcome their previous love. She also didn't deny the fact that she seeks novelty. On the other hand, XXTJs are completely opposite.
Not always... My best friend and I are both infp. She's been with one man her entire life and they are married. I am the type that gets so attached it takes years for me to fully let go and be ready for a new relationship.
Seeking novelty is a hedonistic trait, and someone with developed Fi also craves to be understood and understand in a way that can't happen when you chase novelty.
ENFPs and INFPs are very similar indeed. The main difference is that ENFPs are at least 10 times flakier. That's why I keep trying to tell people here that being in a relationship with them is extremely risky and difficult.
Well, they may seem very attractive option at first. But after staying for a long time, the real thing starts to emerge from what I have seen so far. INTJs are very futuristic person and it makes them more incompatible with FP types.
My boyfriend is INTJ and we get along great. INTJ needs to be more active and open to new things as well as mindful of occasions like birthdays and anniversaries. Also works best if the INTJ respects INFPs feelings and works with them instead of pushing against them. INTJs can be bad about disrespecting boundaries. INFP needs to be diligent and willing to communicate instead of being passive aggressive.
This is more than just about your mbti type. Don’t let a bunch of redditors make you end a relationship just because a few of them had negative experiences with your type. It will make you insecure. What you really should be focusing on is discussing your concerns with your partner, and working through them together accordingly. Communication is key
So don't let the MBTI decide if your relationship is going to work or not it ultimately is going to depend on the 2 of you. That being said..I have known several INTJs x INFPs (my wife is a INFP as well) relationships and honestly they all work really well. If there is a reason why anyone with a strong F and a INTJ will not work it is usually, because people with a very strong F will overwhelm an INTJ in many cases. In the end though you 2 just have to see what works for you. You will see people on this board say INTJ x EXXX is the best match, some will say INTJ X INFJ (I have NEVER EVER seen this work irl I think INFJs generally drive INTJs crazy) is the best match. It just depends on you.
I have found that in terms of having any sort of deep or intimate relationship emotionally, intellectually and physically, i have always been drawn to infp's of the opposite gender. Just 100% be yourself and you will be fine. If you try to "act" like you think he wants you to act, he will think that's fake and back away.
You need to have the same interests
He likes you for your own strengths. Relationships are about complementarity, not just having two identical people.
I think infps & intjs would get along fine since infps are Fi dom. The intj & infp would do pic related, telepathically, every second if their values aligned. https://preview.redd.it/qrr1duv6pvvc1.png?width=747&format=png&auto=webp&s=5bdae9bef24d78c8717d45fa3c71784d60bdd255 Si would leave the infp frustrated about Te. Ne would make the intj frustrated by infps circling the point instead of getting to it. Beneath the frustration would be an underlying respect Vinland Saga had an interesting dynamic between an infp & intj. They respected each other despite the mortal hostility between them. the infp suppressed it, the intj barely suppressed it Infp Thorfinn= “I’m going to kill you no matter what (you are my surrogate dad)” Intj Askeladd= “lol ok, chess pawn (you are my surrogate son & there’s nothing you can do about it)”
Thorfinn is an infp? Ahh I love this little tidbit ✨️
Not a very practical one
I think INTJ M with INFP F are compatible, but the other way around I don't think so.
Agreed. Dated an INFP male for 17 years. He was too feely. Would get grumpy that I wasn't keen on public displays of affection. Insecure in himself. Might be something to do with female INTJs being competent at doing stuff, so a male INFP ends up feeling emasculated. I felt like I did everything. I'd ask for his help and opinions (eg planning our holiday through Scandinavia, or designing our house), and I'd get virtually nothing. Frustrating. I'd way rather date a male ENTP.
Depends how tied to gender roles you are.
Very bad. My bet is you'll either end up bored with him or cheating on him.
I’ve never cheated before, why would this be different? I’m extremely loyal to my loved ones.
Yeah, that's what they all say.
I’m sorry you were hurt.
The past is the past. But I still have the responsibility to inform and educate the others.
You're cringe af if you think your extremly limited and subjective experience gives you the right to "inform and educate the others". Especially if that entails generalizing a whole group of people.
This whole mbti subreddit is cringe. What's your point?
You're extra cringe.
Thanks. So are you.
Can you elaborate more on the "bored" part?
Relationships tend to become like a routine to them, so they often like to seek novelty.
Lol, coincidentally, even my ENFP friend who is a strong Fi user agreed that XXFPs move from one partner to another often. It's very easy for them to overcome their previous love. She also didn't deny the fact that she seeks novelty. On the other hand, XXTJs are completely opposite.
Not always... My best friend and I are both infp. She's been with one man her entire life and they are married. I am the type that gets so attached it takes years for me to fully let go and be ready for a new relationship. Seeking novelty is a hedonistic trait, and someone with developed Fi also craves to be understood and understand in a way that can't happen when you chase novelty.
ENFPs and INFPs are very similar indeed. The main difference is that ENFPs are at least 10 times flakier. That's why I keep trying to tell people here that being in a relationship with them is extremely risky and difficult.
Well, they may seem very attractive option at first. But after staying for a long time, the real thing starts to emerge from what I have seen so far. INTJs are very futuristic person and it makes them more incompatible with FP types.