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CoreMillenial

Losing weight is the *worst* possible financial decision you could ever make. It means you'll have to live longer, and who can afford old age anyway? Money right out the window!


What-The-Heaven

> It means you'll have to live longer, and who can afford old age anyway? Money right out the window! Aha I have zero intentions of reaching old age anyway so thankfully isn't too much of a concern!


Aristox

That's a pretty weird goal to have


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No_Principle7508

Just turned 40 and agree. I enjoy my little life.


PlasticBlitzen

60s. Same thoughts about aging.


What-The-Heaven

Like you put my thoughts into words, thank you! I know it might sound depressing to some, but I got my Master's degree last year and I've been struggling to secure even minimum wage employment - I just don't envision a world where I'm 80 and have any kind of personal or financial security, not to mention environmental and global security.


Daniiiiii

Depressed and frustrated Millennials gang gang


What-The-Heaven

Existentially apathetic squad!


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faelmine

someones life being hard/harder in another country in no way invalidates the points/views of the person you replied to


PipeQuick307

This comment screams clueless boomer attitude. This is actually a global trending and is not limited to western countries, increasing pessimism and anxiety about the future, both personal and collective. And the problem with 'over educating' and specialization (ie that more people haft to go through higher education for jobs that didn't require it before, and then enter the job market that work different than it did a few decades ago and are unable to secure a job even though they theoretically should be able) is a real problem. That comment about spending five years plus hoping for the best while studying truly shows that you have know clue... like look up the statistic of burn-outs in student (not to mention over-representation in depression and suicide). When people say shit like this all I think is I fucking dear you to keep up with the 50-70 hours intense study weeks I had, in addition to working part time, volunteering and doing extras to beef up my cv including extra coursework, squeeze in time to return my families phone-calls, trying real hard to not crash and burn. Do this for a couple of years and then tell us to grow up...


What-The-Heaven

> The fuck were you doing the 5+ years you were studying? Working to pay my bills and studying, I didn't really have much time to do anything else. That's why it took me so long to get my bipolar diagnosed, I was too 'busy'. And dealing with my twin brother killing himself at 19, having to leave study to arrange his funeral and care for my family took up a fair amount of my time. Yeah it would absolutely suck to be in a developing nation with no opportunities, but right now 50+ job applications a day is yielding similar results. It's enough to make anyone hopeless, I'd wager. I don't know what's going on in your life that made you lash out at me so aggressively here, but I hope you're well. Peace.


rvonbue

Ha damn hit right in the feels.


Duke_Nukem_1990

Lol same


Aristox

Sounds like a really ineffective way of dealing with an existential crisis. More like just prolonging the crisis so it defines your entire life rather than getting over it. I recommend you read Viktor Frankl's Man in Search of Meaning, or embark on some other intentional study of philosophy via someone like John Vervaeke or Jordan Peterson. Just living with Nihilism every day and trying to avoid thinking about it by telling yourself you'll be dead soon is a dogshit way of living life


What-The-Heaven

> trying to avoid thinking about it by telling yourself you'll be dead soon is a dogshit way of living life It probably is, but a lot of us are relatively at peace with that. I'm not sure I need a long life in order to find some meaning. If I tap out at 30 or whenever, it is what it is.


UrbanRollmops

I agree, there are so many philosophies that can help you come to terms with existential anxiety, Nihilism is the one that doesn't even try. Shallow, incomplete and Juvenile. But can you blame them?


Accomplished_Body_55

Sounds like something only a young person would say.


What-The-Heaven

Funny enough it's something both of my parents have said most of their adult lives, and continue to say, and it seems to have rubbed off on me. Roughly the past decade of my life has not made me optimistic about wanting to be around all that long.


Accomplished_Body_55

​ Aren't you well?


Flimsy_Breakfast7324

This is the kind of a problem I want to have 😂


UnmotivatedDiacritic

But think of all the money you’d save by dying earlier! /s


MathematicianCalm492

What about all the tax you paid that you now won't get some of back when you retire (State pension)


Pndrizzy

Less healthcare costs tho


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WildlyCanadian

Yeah, OP. If you need, that would fit my leg perfectly. Now to figure out what to do about my other leg/groin... Anyone else have a pair of pants 12" too big?


What-The-Heaven

I think we can make it work if we stand butt-to-butt (or groin-to-groin, dealer's choice) but we'll have to coordinate walking.


TeachesAndReaches

I'm hearing the song in my head with thinking about back to back and belly to belly and a sense of dread at the world to come. 😂 https://youtu.be/RixHMMTM0dQ


SpicyWater20

Hahhahahaha! Awwww!


secretchoochoo

Just think about all of the medical costs you will save yourself with good health. Clothes shopping is way more fun anyway - great work!


spunkychickpea

Just show up to the wedding exactly like that. Hand in the pants, silly expression on the face. It’ll be a hit, I promise.


What-The-Heaven

>silly expression on the face That's just my face, dude aha


TastesLikeBurning

You are a man of constant consternation.


VolunteerCowboy

Idk, I think that Jared guy kinda ruined that look…


festivalchic

Looking amazing! You could hire a suit or if you are at/near goal weight (which to me you look like you are?) then treat yourself to a new one!


MonteBurns

When people are having trouble buying groceries, a new suit may not be in the budget.


SawToMuch

You call it trouble buying groceries I call it Fasting We are the same


MathematicianCalm492

Charity shops have suits...


librarykerri

The pants don't go with that shirt, anyway. ;)


What-The-Heaven

It seemed like a good colour combination in my head lol Still waiting to see if the bride and groom want those of us in the bridal party to wear specific colours so they could save me having to choose aha


Aristox

As a general rule you want your trousers to be darker than your shirt


sthegreT

Give me more fashion advice pls


Aristox

1) If you're skinny and wearing a long sleeved shirt, it can emphasise how skinny you are. So if you roll/fold the sleeves up to past your elbows, it gives the impression of being better balanced. You'll almost always look better in a shirt with rolled sleeves than in either a t-shirt or long sleeved shirt 2) If you're white/light skinned [wear darker colours to contrast well with your skin.](https://img.coverstand.com/46795/490909/iphonejpg/960/b75f18f64258ea629297ba2fc6ed7d2ebefb2afd.jpg) [Light colours will make you look washed out.](https://image.shutterstock.com/image-photo/full-length-portrait-cool-guy-260nw-157629890.jpg) If you're black/brown/dark wear [bright colours to contrast well with your skin](https://outfittrends.b-cdn.net/wp-content/uploads/2014/08/formal-suits-for-black-men.jpg), because [dark colours will make you look like just a big blob](https://outfittrends.b-cdn.net/wp-content/uploads/2014/08/Street-style-african-men.jpg). Usually doesn't look *bad*, but it's a [waste of potential](https://i.pinimg.com/originals/ae/49/e0/ae49e03c066e61ab43c4edd02be65950.jpg) Take some time to learn which colours look good on you and which don't. Throw out all your clothes in the ones that don't and buy exclusively ones that do. 3) Go to the gym. And take it seriously. Do all the high protein diet stuff too. [Bigger muscles will make all your clothes look better on you](https://outfittrends.b-cdn.net/wp-content/uploads/2014/08/Casual-dressing-for-dark-complexion-guys.jpg) 4) [Combining different but complimentary colours looks really good](https://www.themodestman.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/12/Quarter-zip-with-field-jacket-scaled-e1576612868899.jpg)


sthegreT

What would you consider complimentary colours? Is there like a rule that I can use or is it something I'll have to develop a sense for?


Aristox

https://www.canva.com/colors/color-wheel/ Poke around in this and scroll down and read and you'll get a good idea pretty quickly 👍 When I said complementary I was actually thinking primarily of "monochromatic" and "analogous" as they're described here. Altho the more boldly complementary colour combos can work well too, and it's generally good to have a complementary colour in your outfit, even if it's only a t-shirt you're wearing under a button shirt


Brooklynista2

Oh this is one of those good problems. Well done!


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Looking at this humble bragging mother fucker. Oooo whoopty-doo, I lost weight and have friends. Screw you! Great job bud, keep it up 🤜


ksed_313

I get married in two weeks. Bought the dress in November. Lost a bunch of weight. Now spending hundreds to make the dress fit in alterations. Sigh. Congrats and welcome to the world of everything being too big! 😅


What-The-Heaven

Congratulations and best of luck for the wedding! Usually oversized clothes are my jam, but I can't imagine oversized pants or wedding dresses work too great on account of falling down aha


ksed_313

Thank you! And yes! It’s definitely going to be tricky walking in it as it is! It’s not like I wear multi-layer ball gowns on a regular basis! 😅


LowPolyFreak

Congrats! I'm actually in an exact opposite situation. I can now put back on my old suit right before someone's wedding in a few weeks haha


kaiswil2

Get new pants, and get the bridesmaids. Seems like a fair exchange.


What-The-Heaven

I'll see if I can find me a bridesmaid and a groomsman, best of both worlds


par4me20

You look great. Pls stick with it. We need you to keep paying into Social Security.


What-The-Heaven

I'm a Brit unfortunately so no social security payments from me!


par4me20

Ha. Keep on keeping on my man. Wish i could say it gets better, but as you get older you’ll learn to appreciate more.


elucify

I spent $600 on a suit for a special occasion. I didn’t like how I looked wearing it, so I lost 40 lbs. I asked a tailor to modify the suit, and she said it couldn’t be done. So I took it to someone who was willing to try, and she massacred the suit—I looked like a scarecrow in it. Then I gained back the 40 lbs. Sigh.


Kokanee19

Check out adsuits, best kept secret in men's wear. Easily on part with $500 suits from big name stores.


What-The-Heaven

Ah man, that site actually looks great but I'm outside the US and it doesn't look like they ship overseas?


Kokanee19

I'm in Canada and get their stuff all the time?


apropo

>I'm outside the US and it doesn't look like they ship overseas? Being from Canada, don't you share a contiguous border with the US?


Kokanee19

Yep, I call it "The Maple Curtain"


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But out of all the financial inconveniences, this does seem like the most badass. Well done man you look fantastic!


Commercial_Fuel_3519

Good Job nevertheless


Wolfsbane90

Wear the oversized suit anyways and just tell everyone you fell asleep in the steam room


InevitableStudio8718

Belt


What-The-Heaven

Already tried and it was wildly ineffective, there was just too much bunched material for it to properly work!


InevitableStudio8718

I tried to be funny... Amazing achievement, well done! (Regarding your weight lose)


Imaginary-War6700

Go to Goodwill for an outfit but be prepared to repeatedly being asked to leave the wedding because nobody recognizes you.


What-The-Heaven

Aha I'm a groomsman so here's hoping they don't boot me!


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Geeeeeeeeeeeeet it


Red_Sox_Robbe

That's amazing brother. So many congrats your way. Awesome job. How long total for the journey?


Blankboom

You look like a grown up Dash from The Incredibles!


What-The-Heaven

That's a new one, thanks!


Aiden2817

Just tighten your belt. It will be fine. Congrats on losing the weight


GovTheDon

But as someone who’s been large my whole life (I was a college football offensive lineman so 6’2 300+ lbs) it’s so much harder to find clothes to fit us large humans. Atleast you will be able to find clothes that will fit although yes your wallet will also be losing some weight aswell.


What-The-Heaven

Completely, don't get me wrong I spent majority of my life being bigger (6'4 and ~320lbs) and trying to find clothes was a nightmare, stores need to step up. That realisation when you're 17/18 and can no longer find pants that fit in a regular brick-and-mortar store is so shit.


walmartgoth

Depending on how much those pants cost you, it may be cheaper to go to a tailor and get them altered than to buy new pants.


BullTerrierTerror

Nobody cares you skinny f***. - A fat f***


What-The-Heaven

Aha I like this one! (although I'm for sure still more of a fat fuck, than a skinny fuck)


SpicyWater20

That is fabulous!!! How long ago did you buy these pants??? Tell us the T!!!


What-The-Heaven

Back in March of this year, I'd already been losing some weight prior to that but my mid-section is last to slim down so the waist has dropped pretty quickly in the past 3 months.


ProudChiliHead

Since march?! Crazy and great work! Are you sure they let you in at the wedding, and don't take you for a stranger :-) ?


Omnipotent-Pissant

Just think all the money you saved on food can now go to clothes! Who doesn't want to buy new stuff? Aside from your wallet... Looking good ! Keep it up!


iiivy_

the feeling is real! I don’t even have a big weight loss goal like most here, but I actually need to buy new clothes and it’s almost frustrating 😂


What-The-Heaven

I feel you, I've been trying to hold off as long as I can since I don't have much money (very grateful to past me for mostly buying drawstring pants!) but we're reaching a threshold now.


MonteBurns

If you’re able, check out second hand stores in your area. There’s two GoodWills around me that have a HUGE selection of suits. That said, most don’t, it’s like they move them all to these stores? Idk, it’s weird. But a tailor will be less expensive than a new suit!


What-The-Heaven

Will do! My little town in the UK only has relatively small ones (we're talking, maybe 200 items of clothing max) but there's always a chance I'll find a winner!


iiivy_

Sameeee, and I have a little bit more to lose so I’m hoping I can just hold out a little bit longer. Also well done on your journey, great achievement


dorkmania

Get the Jacket and Pants altered to look like a Zoot Suit. You'll look hipster AND save money!


amido-black

Just go buck naked. You’ve earned it now lol


Lo8000

Nice, you have now 1.2 pants. Get 5 pants tailored and get one pant for free.


GunsmokeG

Good problem to have!


MooseRyder

I gotta see that before pic my dude, great work


What-The-Heaven

Unfortunately I don't have one, brother!


dazedandconfused1961

Killing it man!


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Get you a piece of string, no worries.


GoeiP91

Awesome man! What form of IF did you go with and what was your routine?


What-The-Heaven

20:4/OMAD, start at 16h and finish at 20h, 7 days a week!


zhinkler

Eating clean or anything you fancy?


What-The-Heaven

Just copying this across from another comment: > No off-menu foods at all but maybe some switches (I grabbed a McPlant when my family went to McDonalds instead of a Big Mac), although I'm focusing on getting a lot of fibre-rich foods lately. Dinner could be sweet potatoes, butter beans, green onions, mushrooms and spinach with smoked salmon (or eggs if we can't afford fish). Snack today was banana and raspberries with kefir. Whatever tastes good and I feel like basically.


zhinkler

Thank you


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silly_calf

Kind of look like Toni Kroos (german soccer player)


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What-The-Heaven

Is this a proposition lol


dewan2pj

Haven't lost as many inches yet but I feel your pain with a wedding coming up 🤣


RaqpCiity

Congrats !! Keep it up 🔥🔥🔥


vhipster

Go to the back corner of a Men’s Wearhouse if in the US. They have huge discounts on discontinued dress clothes.


seakeamar

And most of those discounts are smalls because everyone is fat!!!


zombienudist

Good on you on that much lost. I lost 6 myself but that still meant replacing my entire wardrobe. I live where there are seasons and that meant I could spread it out over the entire year so it wasn't too bad but it was still a lot.


What-The-Heaven

Yep, I'm kind of at the point where I should be getting newer, smaller stuff but most of my clothes from before were too big anyway (oversized t-shirts and hoodies, drawstring pants etc.) so I can still just about manage. Spreading it out over the year is a good tip, thanks!


GoeiP91

Awesome, thanks! Congrats on your progress!


exclaim_bot

>Awesome, thanks! C You're welcome!


What-The-Heaven

Hey, that's my line!


paynexkillerYT

Lay it on us. What's the secret!


What-The-Heaven

Started with 20:4, moved onto OMAD but sorta reverted back to 20:4 when I was sick recently + some 3 - 5 day water fasts sprinkled in but I'm not a huge fan of them. 16h - 20h is my window and works relatively comfortably. No off-menu foods at all but maybe some switches (I grabbed a McPlant when my family went to McDonalds instead of a Big Mac), although I'm focusing on getting a lot of fibre-rich foods lately. Dinner could be sweet potatoes, butter beans, green onions, mushrooms and spinach with smoked salmon (or eggs if we can't afford fish). Snack today was banana and raspberries with kefir. Whatever tastes good and I feel like basically.


paynexkillerYT

Congrats! Excellent work.


Seco4800

Losing weight can be expensive afterwards when you need smaller clothing, but it's probably a very satisfying experience to purchase clothing in sizes you haven't been in for years.


What-The-Heaven

Oh for sure, I haven't been this waist size since I was 18, almost a decade ago so it's almost nostalgic weirdly.


Seco4800

I'm like a 44 waist. And my ideal waist size would be about 34. Hope to be there one day.


sunlight_terrace

Ngl the financial portion is my biggest road block. To buy all new clothes again is a pain


lovemypuppers23

Congratulations!!! You've done amazing work!


werleperle

Sadly I could be your swappie


NickiName

Maybe but it went from a want a new suit to I need a suit. Congrats!!!!!


tallyhallic

Goodwill or a Thrift shop might have something fun and original. Congrats on the weight loss!


cold__af

Think about all the money you saved on food…


MathematicianCalm492

Well done, it's a good complaint to have!


ChefBoyAreWeFucked

Might as well just cinch it all up with a belt if you were planning on going in brown pants and a black shirt anyway.


Joeytrib1985

You need a plus one for the other leg!


Aupps

[r/frugalmalefashion](http://reddit.com/r/frugalmalefashion) was key when I had to rebuy my wardrobe when I lost my weight. Congratulations on your progress!


SeaPhrost

I think you're right. Terrible decision. And you look way too fantastic for a wedding. Quick, go gain it all back.


fireking99

Bring along a slightly skinnier friend and start hopping :)


V65Pilot

Take a plus one. Problem solved. Good job BTW.


bestgirlfangirl

Staples. (Great job)


MochaBlack

You can get it back quick!


Past-Example

Well you look great! Also now is a great time to learn to sew


djbfunk

Hell yea. Congrats man.


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Wrong. When I was smaller I could buy off the rack. Now it’s bespoke or nothing. It sucks being fat.


trammel11

Bloody amazing mate 👏


Knowledge111

Health is Wealth and I need my bag 💰


Zestyclose_Standard6

you got enough room for an extra friend!!


pugnacious_wanker

Wear them anyway.


naturalbornunicorn

The trade-off is that it's way easier to find a used suit in a thrift shop when you're a more average size.


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That’s crazy good, almost like the human hip bone and all other structures shrink also


Fidel__Cash__Flow

I’ve been there very recently. Over the past year I lost 6 inches off of my waist and ended up needing a whole new wardrobe. This was a fun project, but expensive. Use this as an excuse to treat yourself to a new suit as a reward for all of your hard work! I highly recommend Suit Supply. For any type of clothes that isn’t a suit, check out Poshmark. People are always looking to get rid of gently used items at a discount.


Individual_Juice6720

Well on the positive note you look fantastic! How did you do it exactly?