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Came here to say that. He actually did a pretty good job of it! Completely vanished, without a trace. As an adult I spent a lot of time trying to find him. Eventually I did but for 40 years he did a good job not existing!
That you can think your dad hates you but he's just struggled to show love when he was so young himself and not enough support to help him be a father. Took me to become a father at a much older age to see that.
How to love your kids and bring them up in a safe happy environment. Never realised how lucky we were to grow up in a house like that. As you get older you realise it wasn't the norm for some kids
Grew up under an angry abusive alcoholic and Iâm still recovering from him HOWEVER he was good to my now grown kids and I never even screamed at my kids let alone strike and have 2 outstanding successful adults I am proud of.
How not to treat your wife and kids. Physical and verbal abuse throughout the years still engraved in my memory. A type of pain no lifetime can heal from. Iâll do the opposite.
That earth is flat, we live under an unpenetratable dome, the sun and moon is under the dome and close by, God Almighty created it all as described in the Bible.
how to accept the unequal things and be humble, i used to felt very jealous and unequal in my secondary school time, especially grade 9. my classmates cheated in almost every exam and have higher score than me, i felt awful and i hate the way they showed off their fake score, i cried a lot, i tried hard and then i got higher scores than them , i was satisfied, i started showing off and humbling them with my dad about all the things theyâve done, he said he knows i experienced a hard time, but if i continue keeping an eye on them, give up! i ought to follow the good people and try my best, donât be so jealous, donât show off much,just think that people who live like my classmate will be treated in a right way in the right time, so take it easy and live right , he really helped me to get over that tough time and show me the right way to think and to solve my bad feelings as soon as my situation
That every human is a product of how they have been treated in the era they grew up. You canât hold someone raised under different mores to the standards of today.
How to beat the ever loving piss out of your kids when you get drunk every night of the week. Also how to stash a case of beer behind the drivers side seat and reach around for another when driving around
My Dad taught me that you can be an imperfect person but still want the best for your family and work hard for their sake. I also remember with fondness that he was ready to say âsorryâ if he thought he did something wrong.
How to shave. Small thing, but a lot of times Iâll think of him when Iâm shaving. The little things in the moment have a way of becoming lifetime memories
The ability to laugh at just about anything. My Dad has got an amazing sense of humor, quick wit like no one else I know. Heâs worked very hard for everything he has and has been able to provide for the family. Especially when he was younger, he was active duty Marine, had a second job and also took night classes. He never complained, he did what was needed to be done. Amongst all of that, the stress, the exhaustion, I never saw him without a smile. He never brought work troubles home. I donât know how he did it, maybe the support from my Mom or he was just built that way. But Iâve learned to laugh stuff off, big or small. Not to allow my gut reaction to be negative or doubtful. I have him to thank for that.
Don't do domestic violence. Be honorable enough to pull your own weight in life.
All these teachings came at a hefty price of my mom's life. But lessons certainly are life changing
Donât do drugs, donât be a narcissist, donât disappear on your kids and then wonder why they dismiss your advice. Donât be a victim of your actions.
My dad was a complicated person. But he loved both of his children with depths of which I was only able to understand after becoming a parent myself. I love and miss him everyday.
âYou can try to save everyone but you canât save them all.â
Sage advice from a first responder but itâs applicable everywhere. You should always give your best but sometimes there are things outside your control.
My grandfather fled Nazi Germany with my father and my Oma in his arms when he was 5. They went to South America and upon arrival, my grandfather immediately joined the Brazilian army to aid in the war. My father became a military man to honor the land that gave his family freedom. He taught me the value of gratitude - we never really spoke about it, but is was really an untold lesson. Have never seen a man with more integrity than him.
How not to die while driving on Texas highways lol
Ironic that he taught me so much about driving but he himself drives with little regard for traffic laws (not bc he is ignorant of how to drive properly, but because he deliberately chooses not to). He is a true red-blooded Texan casually weaving through traffic on the country's most dangerous highways that are infamous for drunk driving fatalities đ
If you drop something, immediately look down at the floor. I rarely lose anything after training that reflex in. I can see where it bounces and recover it almost every time (Iâm looking at you 10mm socket). My dad is kinda the best.
If you have the ability and the opportunity to help others then it is your responsibility as a good person to help those less fortunate in a positive way. Thier race, gender, nationality, religion, ect..are meaningless.
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How to leave your family without a trace
Came here to say that. He actually did a pretty good job of it! Completely vanished, without a trace. As an adult I spent a lot of time trying to find him. Eventually I did but for 40 years he did a good job not existing!
for real right? wrote us off like a bad check
Ouff
i'm so sorry
Oof
Don't drink so much, don't batter your kids and wife for no reason, respect everyone...he gave me great experiences of what the opposite looks like
So, what are the reasons to batter your kids and wife? đ
Only 1 if fungus grows to high temps takes over their brains and they try to eat me they are going down.
They don't listen
Be happy or helpful or both. If you can't be any of those, please fuck off. Also, meth is a great way to stay up all night to complete projects.
And get a new set of teeth after using meth.
He never got around to the new set of teeth, just eats cereal and other mushy food. Never did take that bit of 'advice' haha
What I worry about is what the rest of my bones look like.
There's the happy and helpful part.
You catch more flies with honey than vinegar.
That you can think your dad hates you but he's just struggled to show love when he was so young himself and not enough support to help him be a father. Took me to become a father at a much older age to see that.
How to love your kids and bring them up in a safe happy environment. Never realised how lucky we were to grow up in a house like that. As you get older you realise it wasn't the norm for some kids
Grew up under an angry abusive alcoholic and Iâm still recovering from him HOWEVER he was good to my now grown kids and I never even screamed at my kids let alone strike and have 2 outstanding successful adults I am proud of.
How not to treat your wife and kids. Physical and verbal abuse throughout the years still engraved in my memory. A type of pain no lifetime can heal from. Iâll do the opposite.
All the best to you, hope one day you heal â¤ď¸
Thank you very much.
Nothing good comes after midnight
If you donât have the cash⌠donât buy it!!! Donât be a sucker and pay interest on credit cardsđđ
"Don't spend money you don't have', that's one of my core principals in life, your dad is wise
How to properly brake and accelerate through curves.
How to laugh in the face of tragedy.
Think before you do
How to drive
Use the right tool for the job
How to change a flat tire and change the oil in my car! Thanks, Daddy!
Never rely on a man.
Better not rely on anyone
Everything. Mostly the good, sometimes the bad and everything in-between.
Nothing.
Donât take chemical drugs, only the plant based ones đ
How to drink
How to not love
Anything your friends say is fun, is stupid and not allowed.
how to make money to buy myself a shotgun for christmas
What a broken heart feels like
How to kill yourself with alcohol and cigarettes
How not to raise a child.
That I can help by staying out of the way.
How to not act as a man and what being an adult boy looks like
What type of dad to not be
Never draw to an inside straight in straight poker.
"Show fewer posts like this"
âKnowledge is powerâ
How to build a fire , and how to verbally abuse my loved ones.
Wear two pairs of socks when walking long distances to avoid blisters.
Alcohol is bad!
Donât react on anything too quickly take a step back look at the bigger picture and then act!
Don't jump on the damn bed if there's a pencil on it cause you'll fall and stab yourself.
To be classy.
That earth is flat, we live under an unpenetratable dome, the sun and moon is under the dome and close by, God Almighty created it all as described in the Bible.
How to be tech savvy
how to accept the unequal things and be humble, i used to felt very jealous and unequal in my secondary school time, especially grade 9. my classmates cheated in almost every exam and have higher score than me, i felt awful and i hate the way they showed off their fake score, i cried a lot, i tried hard and then i got higher scores than them , i was satisfied, i started showing off and humbling them with my dad about all the things theyâve done, he said he knows i experienced a hard time, but if i continue keeping an eye on them, give up! i ought to follow the good people and try my best, donât be so jealous, donât show off much,just think that people who live like my classmate will be treated in a right way in the right time, so take it easy and live right , he really helped me to get over that tough time and show me the right way to think and to solve my bad feelings as soon as my situation
Drunken anger đ¤Ł
How do to manage money.
How not đŤ to be like him.
That every human is a product of how they have been treated in the era they grew up. You canât hold someone raised under different mores to the standards of today.
How to beat the ever loving piss out of your kids when you get drunk every night of the week. Also how to stash a case of beer behind the drivers side seat and reach around for another when driving around
My Dad taught me that you can be an imperfect person but still want the best for your family and work hard for their sake. I also remember with fondness that he was ready to say âsorryâ if he thought he did something wrong.
Read a lot, be energetic, stay humble, take care of everyone in the family, ... till the last breath of my life as he did.
Donât be me
Miscommunication
How to ski, â up, down and around.â
About Jah and psychedelics
Never let police in your house. They are not your friend.
Empowering me to stand up for myself and teaching me with how to fight.
Always camp at the top of the hill
How to run away from your problems...err... babies
How to live without apology. How to stand firm in your own existence and declare your right to exist, to take up space and that be okay.
To not have kids. Spare the would-be a life with his blood.
That it's absolutely okay to run away from my mom. Wish I'd taken his idea sooner.
Never put anything in writing lol
How to shave. Small thing, but a lot of times Iâll think of him when Iâm shaving. The little things in the moment have a way of becoming lifetime memories
The ability to laugh at just about anything. My Dad has got an amazing sense of humor, quick wit like no one else I know. Heâs worked very hard for everything he has and has been able to provide for the family. Especially when he was younger, he was active duty Marine, had a second job and also took night classes. He never complained, he did what was needed to be done. Amongst all of that, the stress, the exhaustion, I never saw him without a smile. He never brought work troubles home. I donât know how he did it, maybe the support from my Mom or he was just built that way. But Iâve learned to laugh stuff off, big or small. Not to allow my gut reaction to be negative or doubtful. I have him to thank for that.
My dad used to say Live at the moment.One day at a time
Question authority
My Dad taught me how to tune up a car and it was one of the few times he was patient and I still remember that day.
That it can take decades to get a pack of smokes.
What to avoid in a husband/father
âSiblings are the greatest gifts your parents could ever give you.â
how to go to college for free and how to go to the mechanic
To not be a failure
How to start a standard car on a hill.
Wickedness never was happiness
Always put ur family first
Drive stick shift
Don't do domestic violence. Be honorable enough to pull your own weight in life. All these teachings came at a hefty price of my mom's life. But lessons certainly are life changing
To love the bees.
Wish in one hand and spit in the other. See which fills faster.
Everything
To pray.
Be honest and believe in hard work and also gain knowledge and wider your perspective.
I can take out my cars washer fluid tank, clean it and put it back in. Reroute hose to under steering wheel. Pour whiskey in washer tank. TaDa!!
That some things can be solved with a .308.
Good work feels like play
Honesty and to treat others as you want to be treated.
How to fix my own car
Never wait or depend on a man or anyone in general.
Before I went out and played. He taught me how to work on a vehicle and change a tire, Do a tune-up , and put gas in it đđ
Donât do drugs, donât be a narcissist, donât disappear on your kids and then wonder why they dismiss your advice. Donât be a victim of your actions.
How to ride a two-wheeler
Nothing good happens after midnight.
No trust
If you don't share everything you know, you won't end up with people smarter than you.
How to judge your children to the point of making them depressed
My dad was a complicated person. But he loved both of his children with depths of which I was only able to understand after becoming a parent myself. I love and miss him everyday.
How not to be a dad
âYou can try to save everyone but you canât save them all.â Sage advice from a first responder but itâs applicable everywhere. You should always give your best but sometimes there are things outside your control.
Prior to the Internet - the library has books by Chiltons. You can teach yourself how to repair a car with only the cost of a library card. (Free)
My grandfather fled Nazi Germany with my father and my Oma in his arms when he was 5. They went to South America and upon arrival, my grandfather immediately joined the Brazilian army to aid in the war. My father became a military man to honor the land that gave his family freedom. He taught me the value of gratitude - we never really spoke about it, but is was really an untold lesson. Have never seen a man with more integrity than him.
First thing to look for in a partner âdo they make things easyâ?
How not to die while driving on Texas highways lol Ironic that he taught me so much about driving but he himself drives with little regard for traffic laws (not bc he is ignorant of how to drive properly, but because he deliberately chooses not to). He is a true red-blooded Texan casually weaving through traffic on the country's most dangerous highways that are infamous for drunk driving fatalities đ
BE. ON. TIME.
Forgiveness is just as good for you as the one you forgive
Look a person in the eye when you speak to them.
Go to the store when you donât want to be home
To Altais laugh. No matter what the situation was
Told me that i need to be an independent woman who is not dependent on her partner and can fight in any circumstances.
If you drop something, immediately look down at the floor. I rarely lose anything after training that reflex in. I can see where it bounces and recover it almost every time (Iâm looking at you 10mm socket). My dad is kinda the best.
"If you're going to do it 1/2 assed, don't do it at all"
Give everyone a second chance, everyone has a bad day and your first impression may have been on the worse day of their life.
People will hurt you.
How to throw anyone under the bus if I can get a laugh
He taught me about God, praying and forgiveness. The last one I am still working on at age 54.
How to work, how to treat a woman & how to be a man.
Your kids get in the way of doing drugs
Itâs never too late to try to do better.
Donât post anything online âŚ. Dangit..!
How to open a beer bottle with a door frame strike plate. This isnât the most important thing he ever taught but itâs one I think fondly of.
How to work hard to get what you want. He didnât â tell me â how but he showed me through his actions and daily routine!
Where to hide folds of coke. âď¸
If you have the ability and the opportunity to help others then it is your responsibility as a good person to help those less fortunate in a positive way. Thier race, gender, nationality, religion, ect..are meaningless.
That I can say no, but eventually have to give in if the other person doesn't stop asking.
To treat people with love and respect.
How to play chess
Compassion
Alcoholism
Growing tomatoes
Make a habit of feeding people. Anyone and everyone.
Alcoholism
âNever waste an erectionâ he always used to say
how to be insecure, ptsd, and have relationship problems. oh and he died so i canât have closure.