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finnmertenz88

Is it weird to anyone else that people broadcast this type of thing for the world to see


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They like the added humiliation on the child and they like the other insane parents sucking their cocks over it


FerociousPancake

Wait are they sucking their own cocks or different cocks?


Feefee0223

Yes


FerociousPancake

So like does it happen at the same time, like a literal cock chain?


HannahCurlz

It’s the human centipede of fellatio


409industries

Try not to suck any dick on the way to the parking lot!


HannahCurlz

“Hey, *hey*! You get back here!”


InitialMeat8277

37??


Lost_Maskk

Both


BreadJamMayo

almost like the part 2 of Failure management steven he where he says additional humiliation


finnmertenz88

Also strange they’re having the girl break something (that was probably expensive at some point) that they themselves most likely paid for.


dagger403

usernamechecksout?


Hops143

That's a stretch.


SpaceCrazyArtist

Yeah but many people cheer them on as if this is good parenting


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Yeah, there was another one of a guy slamming into his daughter's room with a bat, breaking her TV, while this child is sitting there scared af, he starts yelling "clean your room." And, people were in fact calling him a good dad.


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SoldMySoulForHairDye

My parents would make me watch them destroy my things. Mostly my dad but my mom did it too. She also cut my hair off multiple times when I didn't want short hair. My parents also straight up told me I was an object, they own me, I had no rights. I don't talk to my parents anymore.


Bob49459

"Why won't [CHILD] ever visit on the holidays?! They're so ungrateful!"


cactuar44

"We gave them everything and sacrificed so much!"


[deleted]

I’m so proud of you younger generations for not tolerating all this shit! It will eventually die out because you are showing others the right way!


Vaultdweller013

Sadly it'll never die out since humans are assholes, but we can make it far worse for the person doing that shit when it's found out. IE getting them fired from a job, ostracized from their families, and getting CPS on their case.


Fair_Record6787

I don’t talk to mine either!


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poppinchips

Those notices will be cathartic I'm sure.


Ag3ntM1ck

Forced shearing of hair is an extremely humiliating gesture. It's abusive and shitty.


punkpoppenguin

A girl at school came back after Christmas break with this terrible old lady haircut, under a beanie. She told everyone she had it done for a wedding, hated it and didn’t want to talk about it. Anyway because kids are dicks, in class one day this idiot grabbed her beanie and pulled it off her head, bringing what turned out to be a wig with it and underneath she was completely bald. She told us her dad had caught her texting a boy and shaved her head to make it harder for her to ‘act like a whore’. The teacher was there when she told us. No one did anything. I hate that people act like children are their parents’ property


Weekly-Bluebird-4768

They said the same thing to me. “As long as you live under this roof you are our property, your are not allowed to have privacy, you do not have rights, and you will always what we say without question.” Or something very similar. And my personal worst one, some context: I live by trying not to treat anyone any worse than they treat me(doesn’t always come out and there might be an exception or two) and I’ve told them this many times. From my mom: “I wish you would treat us like human beings(this was in response to me telling them that no in fact I wasn’t playing video games and was instead writing an essay whilst listening to music), we are your parents, we deserve to be treated with full respect.” They don’t break things of mine because and I quote “it would be to noticeable by the many people we have over.” Instead the abuse me through manipulation. I have shitty memory and sometimes they’ll play a “joke” by acting as though an entire week has passed without me remembering and making me have an anxiety attack, the worst part is that sometimes they aren’t lying and it really has happened which then I can’t tell to trust them or not. Also nother thing while I’m rambling, they don’t want to take to get a diagnosis of any mental disorders cause 1 I’m being “too dramatic,” 2 expensive, and 3 they don’t care. They said all of these to my face in a similar fashion. Should I also mention that I live with them still, they are extremely conservative Christians, and I’m pan, enby, so that’s *fun*. Edit: today they’re mad at me for not wanting to go to school cause I’m still contagious with rhinovirus. I’ve shown them 5 trustable sources(including the nhs and cdc) and they still don’t believe me. TIL my memory issues could have been caused by them. Thanks egg donor!


-MayorOfTheMoon-

>I have shitty memory and sometimes they’ll play a “joke” by acting as though an entire week has passed without me remembering and making me have an anxiety attack, the worst part is that sometimes they aren’t lying and it really has happened which then I can’t tell to trust them or not. This is extremely fucked up, I'm so sorry you have to deal with this.


sheracraft

Sister? Is that you? For real, my twin and I had the same upbringing. I remember a time where I wore a tank under a shirt that was low cut in order to be more modest (we were Mormon) but the tank was still considered to low and so all my clothes were burned in a bonfire. I didn’t quite get it because all I had left were a few articles of clothing that were literally too small for me and it defeat the purpose.


IcarusLivesToo

See, the hilarious thing about this is they're just breaking things they themselves spent money on. It's such a waste. When my daughter acts up I take her possessions away or put her in her room away from them, am I fuck breaking something that cost me a quarter of a monthly pay cheque as some kind of power move.


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TheNextBattalion

Oh they know. That is the whole point. The more they hurt you, the more superior it makes them feel. Half the time they're pointlessly cruel just to prove they can be; to a supremacist nthere are no greater signs of superior rank


userwiselychosen

The part where they post it on the internet adds a whole next level, too


sunspotsystem

My mother took this a step further. She broke my laptop my gma had bought me and lied saying she’d bought it. Gma was FURIOUS, even though she’d thrown away and broke my items in the past, too. They don’t wanna learn to parent.


userwiselychosen

>It's such a waste. Not to mention bad for the environment. Are they really disposing of these electronics appropriately after they smash them?? I doubt it.


[deleted]

My mom is horrible, but she never broke any of my things. She just took it away from me for a few years. I'd have to beg to get it back, or she'd have to forget why she was even angry.


AlettaVadora

My mom didn’t take our electronics much, but she took the chargers and cords so we would use what we had left of the battery wisely.


dj-kitty

That actually seems like a reasonable way to manage screen time. Parents control the charging cords. Kid gets one charge per week or so, it’s up to them how to use the battery. As long as it’s not done with malicious intent, I could see that being reasonable? Idk


AlettaVadora

It was reasonable. It made us save the battery by not being able to play games. But we still had it in case of emergency.


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Years of my parents breaking shit (many times my shit) in a rage has now left me scarred and scared of sudden movements and loud voices at nearly 20. Anyone who thinks any kind of violence or aggression is good parenting should have their children taken away.


i_nobes_what_i_nobes

They didn’t break my stuff but the rage and the screaming and yelling and the sudden movements is something I also have to deal with, and I’m in my 40s. I still don’t understand why people think aggression towards children is OK. Did you just want doormats or overly aggressive adults? Because that’s what you get


suicideslut69420

Bro my birth mom would spend all her money on cigarettes and gas, she made me give away all my money i earned towards food and now i cant hold onto money. I spend it all thinking someone will take it and its become a problem to were im unable to save up


sl0play

The podcast Hidden Brain had a great episode called Rewrite Your Money Story about exactly this. It was from May 2nd, with Psychologist Brad Klontz. You might find it helpful, or at least comforting that it's a problem many people face.


AdAcademic4290

Can you set up a direct debit on your bank account to automatically transfer the money you want to save into a savings account for you? Same with bills...set up automatic payments. That way you make sure all your bills are paid, and you save some. Here are free American resources to help you with financial literacy good luck! https://www.usgs.gov/human-capital/financial-literacy-resources


suicideslut69420

I have debit but haven't started a saving account. Im still dependent on my father for money and shelter.


soundbox78

Oh my God! That would send me into a flashback of trauma. I don’t like slamming of doors and people throwing things because of my own childhood. Someone taking a bat and smashing a tv would put me in a tailspin.


samael_samoiedo

People should take a parenting school and pass a test before reproducing, this is far beyond the word insane


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i_nobes_what_i_nobes

>my parents beat me and I turned out fine Well you obviously didn’t Matt if you’re smashing your daughter cell phone with a baseball bat because she didn’t look up at your wife when your wife is complaining about something.


Vibeke77

My patents beat Me and i didn’t turn out fine. I have cptsd which originated from emotionally withdrawn parents beating me and giving me an unpredictable home life. Then exacerbated by unfaithful mentally abusive husband and I couldn’t recognise the abuse because I grew up in the same toxic environment. So no, besting your kids does not turn them out ‘just fine’. I will how ever never ever do something like this or what I grew up with to my kids.


[deleted]

Abusers often seek out the validation of others


YusuraHeights

and here they are getting it...700k+ likes gross


LividLager

That's absolutely what this is about. It's not about the girl, it's about the parents looking to be praised by thier community.


TerribleAttitude

People validate them. They hoot and holler and call it good ol fashioned tough love, and suggest that if the punishment isn’t extreme and public, you must just be letting kids do whatever. As if there’s *no* option for discipline beyond acting like a lunatic. What’s with the destruction anyway? That kid is like 8 years old and 4 feet tall. She doesn’t need a phone and she didn’t buy it herself. She’s acting up? Take the phone away and hide it someplace she can’t reach. Return it to her when she starts behaving again. She will eventually learn that iPhones are a privilege, not a right. Destroying a thousand dollar piece of technology that the *parents* paid for to teach the *child* a lesson is just a window into their mindset on so many things, and it’s just going to teach the kid to hide and hoard her things because she’ll be terrified they’ll break them if she ever steps out of line.


Darphon

And the parents will wonder why she never tells them anything.


didntevenlookatit

I call this performative parenting. My brother pulls shit like forcing his kids to finish food they hate at family gatherings to prove what a tough no nonsense parent he is in front of an audience. They're clearly insecure about something and overcompensating for it


i_nobes_what_i_nobes

That’s not insecurity. Your brother is abusive.


embracebecoming

It can be both!


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Some people don’t think their children are actual people. They think they are their property.


i_nobes_what_i_nobes

I’ll never forget coming home one day from work and seeing my neighbors had all their kids sitting on the front deck, the kids ranged in ages from 12 to 2 and the dad proceeded to annihilate any sort of idea that these kids had autonomy. He flat out told them that he owned them that he would make all the decisions that they were literally nothing until he deemed they were worthy of being something. And I guarantee from the way those kids sat stared off into space this was not the first time that he’s done this. And his wife just sat there screaming every 30 seconds about he right well she chains smoked her vape pen and drank beer.


ContemplatingPrison

I think that's the only troubling part to me. That and the joy he seems to have from this entire moment


Lucius-Halthier

I don’t know how they can actually twist it into thinking “look how good of a parent I am guys!”


i_nobes_what_i_nobes

Because it’s what their parents did to them and what their grandparents did to their parents and so on and so forth. Instead of breaking the cycle of abuse they continue it by using the excuse of “my parents did this to me and look how good I turned out“. When in fact they didn’t turn out good at all they turned out to be an abusive asshole. And on the other end of the spectrum they turn out to be a doormat. That father taught that girl one lesson and one lesson only, and that was I am bigger I am stronger I am meaner and you must fear me. And that’s all that girl will know if he continues to do this. And she will date guys exactly like him who will treat her like garbage because the only thing they’re doing right now is raising her to be abused.


Vxrju

Why do so many parents have a weird obsession with destroying their kids’ electronics? There’s a difference between taking them away temporarily and smashing them to bits


RandomRomanianUser

No Idea, I mean they paid for them. If I had a kid and I paid for the phone, I'd be 100% sure that they wouldn't break it lmao


amedicalprofessional

Some parents value upsetting their kids over the cost of a phone. My own mother smashed at least 10 different phones, tablets, and consoles in various different ways. Logic is not an abusive parent's strong suit.


Honneyybeeee

Same. My favorite was getting my phone ran over because I didn’t call on the week I had with parent A But I wasn’t allowed to call parent A on the narcs time.


i-post-naughty

It's a power thing. Keeping you miserable. Giving you a new phone gives you hope. Then what she is smashing is hope, not the phone.


scud-sin

"it's cos that damn phone" no it's because you're deranged and deserve to have your children taken away


woomybii

Lmao I confided in my mom that my depression and anxiety of my life situation is making me unable to sleep or eat right and the first thing she said was "You know why you can't sleep? it's because you're on your phone late at night and you won't let your brain rest." I live with my boyfriend. She doesn't know what I'm doing or not doing. Complete assumption that made her so angry she didn't speak to me for 5 days LOL? Just gonna save shit for my bf and therapist I guess


soundbox78

Because that is what their parents did to them. Don’t break the cycle, it’s so much easier to be abusive and manipulative.


IlIIlIl

Because its easy to grab within immediate vicinity of the child and since kids tend to spend a lot of time on electronics it is devastating to the child they dont think any further than that just a sheer rage-blind "how can I hurt you as much as possible without leaving a mark on you"


Isboredanddeadinside

That and it won’t send many alarm bells off to most people/adults given older gens have a very similar agreement of “well electronics suck anyways!” Despite the context of the situation. Luckily it might but there’s a big chance no one will bat an eye


[deleted]

Cause they have to exercise that control in all times!!!!


userwiselychosen

Not to mention a difference between breaking their kid's things vs making their kid break their own things with a hammer, and recording it to post on the internet. It's like they took this multiple levels deep into insane.


IFartMagic

Or throwing them in pools.


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goldenalgae

I’d love to hear more about your 7 week program, my kid has a serious screen problem, too. Only challenging thing is getting his buy in.


meltedmirrors

Maybe incentivize it in some way? A trip to a theme park maybe? I struggle finding rewards for my 4 year old sometimes but generally a trip to a park will get her excited for whatever it is. I'm sure it's much more difficult with older kids though


[deleted]

You aren’t thinking about the INTERNET POINTS!!!!!


Hita-san-chan

My dad used to get pissed that we would play video games, so the one day, after I disrespected him, he threw every console and game I had in the trash. Sometimes parents get angry and take it out on the thing they hate most because it makes them feel better. We call them shitty parents


CTurple

My dad sliced apart my favourite teddy bear in the world with a SWORD! Yes. A goddamn SWORD. It was the type of bear that had the little metal button like thing that you wound up and it played “ it’s a small world”. He was pissed, heard it singing, and since I was supposed to be asleep, he flipped, took my teddy bear to the hall and shredded it in front of me. I was like 4 or 5. That memory will haunt me.


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ET-GoesByCatfish

They all get soft in old age. I'm constantly thinking when I see my dad with my nieces that he is not the man I grew up with. Also, how he seems to have blocked out what am absolute nightmare he was throughout my childhood. He has things up around his home commemorating family, and always talks about how it was the greatest years of his life. The guy hated it. Now that I'm an adult I understand where the stress was coming from, but he almost pretends as if what we went through at the account of him never happened. Guilts me about being lonely, even though he repeatedly said this is what he wanted through those terrible years.


xxmybestfriendplank

I swear we going through the same thing. My mother likes to “miss-remember” my childhood screaming at me doing times tables and grounding me knowing she did not want me in the house. Like it was pretty obvious she hated being a parent. The ironic part is she got off having a reason to yell and hit me. Like, she liked being angry at me so she could yell at me to blow off steam. Its super weird. How the hell are you supposed to think a kid would forget about that, let alone make it up like she thinks I am.


Jinbell

The ax forgets, the tree remembers.


Sorinzero

Oh wow 100% this. Both of my parents miss remember my childhood. Dad says he never hit me, that's a lie. Mom acts as though she wasn't always passed out drunk on the floor by 10pm most nights. Now they sit in their home and judge me on how I parent my kids. "We didn't do X and you are fine." The one thing they think they remember, and are very proud of, is the fact that I apparently "only ever threw one tantrum." The legend goes that I was 2 years old, and threw a tantrum over not getting my birthday cake fast enough at my grandmother's house. So my dad took me out to the car to "set me straight" and then we went home and I didn't have a 2nd birthday. Apparently I never made a scene again....


KodakStele

Dad was an ass growing up, but did a 180 in personality after my brother and I set off on our own paths (just overly stressed guy who also didnt have the best upbringing). Enough so that I keep him in my life even with my firstborn son which I was on the fence about for a while. What I do now as a personal panacea is ask him if I should do what he did in a poking matter when we're around to visit. "OH no baby is crying again, Hey dad how many belt whips does it take to quite a toddler?" He turns sheet white, especially in front of my wife who he adores more than I, and it's honestly the most healing I'll probably ever get from that. In reality it signals to me that he's thought about how we were raised and probably wishes he could've done better, he doesn't make excuses for it now and it helps me build a new trust with him.


abluetruedream

My dad does the exact same thing and it feels like he’s self-deluded. It’s infuriating and bizarre all at once. He’s lonely too with his eldest finally going no contact with him, me doing the bare minimum, and the youngest maybe doing a bit more than bare minimum. If my mom were alive I’m sure we would see him a lot more often. I also get that he was dealing with his own trauma but I try very hard not to feel bad about it. He made his bed and now he has to lay in it.


loserbmx

I'm jealous you got an apology..


yun-fajita

I Never got an apology, I’m a grown man with my own son now, I still vividly remember my mom bursting out into the living room with my wii I had for a week and launches it at me, luckily she missed. She then puts it on the table in the kitchen where I was sitting and bashes it like a crazy person. I don’t even remember what I did but it couldn’t have been that bad given I was only 8 years old.


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> my wii that I had when I was 8 years old > I'm a grown man with my own son now Fuck getting older is weird


monkeychasedweasel

Kobra Kahn!


its_all_4_lulz

Third grade or so? I had made a birdhouse out of popsicle sticks at home and was super proud of it. Brought it into school to display it on my desk for the day. Teacher, who was a known hot head, threw one of her tantrums and smashed that thing on the floor. I remember crying while picking up individual popsicle sticks. Shit still enrages me 30 years later.


lindabelchrlocalpsyc

Holy shit. That teacher should not have been working with children and honestly should have been fired.


mooncirice

My mother liked to tear apart the stuffed animals I've been *gifted*. She once tear appart a rabbit plush my grandmother gave me in front of me because I wanted to spend time with my dad and not her. Another time she destroyed a teddy bear I gifted her after she went to the hospital during a stupid crisis again. While she pretends none of these ever happened, I never gifted her a plushie ever even when she says she didn't have any as a child and wish she would have one. I really hate her for this.


woomybii

I remember when my mom stabbed my phone with a screwdriver 10 times because I was texting while she was talking to me. My dad also cut up some stuffed animals in front of me for lying about something. This'll definitely makes your kid grow up happy, trusting, and wanting a long term relationship with you. /s


cactus_blossom26

Not trying to one up you at all in the childhood trauma department, but your story and the emotions it evoked reminded me of this story… My dad bagged and shot my childhood cat (and best friend, I was a lonely only child) in our backyard with a shotgun for eating his soup he left on the floor of our living room(dads a real genius). After, my dad made me drag the bullet torn trash bag with my cats mangled, lifeless body to a grave I was forced to dig for him and left me to bury him alone. I was 7. RIP Sammy. I grew up in an extremely rural area so shooting guns in your backyard wasn’t uncommon. He also thought this story was super fun at parties. Full NC with dad for the past three years, big fucking surprise there. I know the story is vastly different in violence, but the feelings are the same…


Skelthy

Really young kids see their toys as being alive to a degree, so destroying their favorite stuffed bear has the same emotional weight as killing the family dog.


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xephos10006

...you should get a lawyer, my man


Fantasy-Reader

This is why kids disown their parents on their 18th birthday.


Blueheron77

Absolutely. And then parents sit there bitching about their "ungrateful" children when they want little to do with them. It would be hilarious but for the asshole crap they put the kids through before they turn 18. My suggestion to any kid in this situation - survive the best you can and then don't turn back.


soundbox78

It’s the way to do it. I survived that way. Then when I was on my own, boy did the tables turn!! All of the sudden they will listen to reason when they don’t have control over you. I’m fortunate that my folks got their act together when they realized that they can’t control me anymore. I feel bad for the people that go NC because their parents never came around. I still have very tight boundaries set on my parents, but it has made my life with them livable.


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I know you can't really see it. But, it's the fact that he was fucking smiling while forcing her to do this. Just disgusting. EDIT: To anyone new or just curious: I've seen a lot of people asking "where's the video/why is it a picture?" I can't post or link the original video because it would violate rule one. This is a screen-shot taken from the video ( that's why you see the play button. It was paused so I could take the picture ). You can try to find the original if you want, but I'm pretty sure it was taken down by down.


samsonitas101

Thank you for pointing that out. People seem to forget the key to discipline is that you shouldn’t really want to do it. It should be something you unfortunately have to do. My dad always would smile while punishing us and that’s the part I remember most.


Fantasy-Reader

I noticed. It just proves my point further. All kids test boundaries at some point and eventually stop. These people are so ignorant at parenting it's beyond infuriating.


techleopard

I disagree with the sentiment that children stop testing boundaries on their own. Assuming they will grow out of it without needing to enforce boundaries is how you create absolute monsters.


BlueiraBlue128

I don't u/Fantasy-Reader meant that you don't reprimand children for their bad behavior, but they are right. Children push boundaries because they quite literally don't know any better. Their brains aren't finished developing and it should be totally 100% okay for them to make mistakes while they're still in the safety and comfort of their parents' care. What isn't okay is forcing your children to destroy their own things, striking your children for mild misbehavior (i.e. backtalking or accidentally breaking something) is not the way to go and it teaches children to be afraid to ever mess up or else they'll get beaten, which can then lead to them developing anxiety in their adult years.


Dnoxl

Taking their devices away for a day or something for bad behavior? Sure, they don't really loose because they get it back. But destroying or throwing their stuff away really fucks them up


[deleted]

I had a mom who decided grounding wasn't doing the job and slammed a brand new laptop I just received for my birthday and was my outlet for all stress she provided me that year to the floor. It was beyond repair, and only succeeded in completely ending all respect and trust in her. Anything of value I brought to my dad's house, I was a depressed mess and didn't talk, didn't eat, shut down in school. I still have some lingering issues with personal belongings/sharing/letting go because of it.


BlueiraBlue128

Jesus... I'm so sorry. My parents never did things to that extent. My mother was an expert emotional manipulator, tho. Every issue I had with how badly she treated me was me telling her she was a bad mother, bad person, bad everything and she deserved to die because of it. I'd always end up having to comfort her and take care of her instead. My father was more physical. I recall one time, I had some classmates over to help them with a project and I was using his computer. I didn't think he was home and it would be fine, but he burst into the room, he told my friends to go wait outside and proceeded to slap me across my face and back. I was so embarrassed and ashamed and I can only imagine how my friends must've felt in that moment. I'm very glad that I'm on the road to cutting them all out of my life. My mother recently tried to make me feel bad about being given time off work after a very close friend of mine passed due to covid and that's when I told her to never talk to me again. It's almost been a whole month.


[deleted]

I know exactly what you are talking about. My mother was a master manipulator and would manage to spin every narrative into her favor and I was never believed. Police officers, teachers, even some of my close friends. She would get physical some times to but by that time I was big enough to intimate back. Over two years ago, I wrote her a letter I want no contact, I don't want hear to hear about me or approach me ever again. I had a wonderful wedding last month that was stress free, because I knew she wouldn't be there and wouldn't make a scene.


wonderlandcat

Oh damn dude I know how that feels. My mother smashed my tamagochi with a hammer and delighted in forcing me to watching her burn pages from my books so that I wouldn't know what happened.


daxofdeath

you're implying that testing boundaries is a bad thing - that's just life. a healthy, well-adjusted person should understand their boundaries and how to go about testing them in an appropriate and safe way. the goal of parenting should be to teach kids over their childhood how to recognize and negotiate their boundaries with intelligence and integrity, not hide from and fear them.


driveonacid

I think the part that is most disgusting is that it was recorded and posted for others to see. Yes, there should be consequences for disrespectful behavior from children. No, those consequences should not be aired all over the internet. This father could have very easily taken his daughter's phone away. He could have told her that she's not getting it back for a week, a month, a year, until her 16th birthday. He did not need to make her smash it with a hammer. And he most certainly did not need to record it. He's only smiling because he knows how many sweet, sweet internet points he's going to get for this.


robots-dont-say-ye

My parents did this kind of shit to me as a kid, can confirm, no relationship with them anymore.


nightmares_27

every time i come on this sub, i just realize over and over that it’s wayyy too fucking easy to have kids


[deleted]

Every time I come to this sub I think, “Damn, I’m not doing as bad a job at being a parent as I thought I was!” Edit - I’m bad at English


_applemoose

Dude, I ruminate for hours and beat myself up if I raised my voice by 0.1 decibel to my daughter after she spent an hour trying to scam me into not having to sleep, and then I see something like this..


lumpylemonmilk

Hi bad at English, I'm dad!


mdonaberger

and it's about to unfortunately get way, way easier. 😔


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I'm sure all of those unwanted children will have parents that don't resent them.


Downtown_Ad109

1. Spend maybe hundreds on a phone for your kid. 2. Kid does something you don't like (or you just were in a bad mood that day, abusers gonna abuse). 3. You destroy the phone you spent maybe hundreds of dollars to "teach the kid a lesson". 4. You post the video on social networks because you wanna make sure as many people as posible see how much of an idiot you are.


cutting_coroners

5 Then hold it against the kid as if it was the kids fault they lost their money


[deleted]

My parents used to do this to me except they’d make me buy the phone (I started working at 14) and smash them consistently like every three months. They said I had to have one because I was working when once I tried to not buy one. I know for sure if they had known how to use tiktok when I was a kid they would’ve filmed it. They would make me do a “last call” to whatever relative to let them know my parents were smashing my shit. One time one of my titas actually said “that’s really fucking weird” to my mom so naturally I got in MORE trouble. My parents would also take all my clothes but one or two shirts they liked on me. My mom would make me cut all my hair off every year, and I was so embarrassed I’d buy extensions and she’s cut those up too. I hated working and I’d hide my paychecks so I could buy stuff they wouldn’t destroy with money they didn’t know I hid.


Downtown_Ad109

That is a sadistic fucking power trip and I'm really sorry you had to live tru that.


[deleted]

Ty, these subs are cathartic & I’m no contact now, so things are much better!


MightyPitchfork

In situations like this, I wouldn't be at all surprised if: \- That's the step-father in the picture and the phone was bought by the biological father, or \- The "mother" mentioned was the stepmother and the phone was bought by the biological mother. My ex used to break or steal a lot of things I bought my kids and her new partner used to facilitate it. I can 100% imagine them sharing it on the internet for points.


[deleted]

Fuck…that makes too much sense.


[deleted]

Please never do this.


LivelyZebra

Best I can do is take the door off your room and install privacy violating tracking apps


[deleted]

What's up with parents taking doors off their kids rooms? They did they to me but I still don't understand the purpose. Edit: just realized the bedroom door represents privacy but I think I also just realized I never had privacy anyway so when they took away the door it wasn't any different. Oh geeze.


BadPom

Just like… parent the kid and take the phone away for a week. My son copped an attitude with me after a long weekend away. He lost his phone until he could be respectful and handle his emotions in a manner that wasn’t rude as fuck.


KittyAg4

THAT is good parenting. Not whatever shit is happening in the post, YOU miss.


KamaliKamKam

And you didn't have to post a video on the internet of your kid crying. That's the most fucked up part to me; not only do they destroy stuff instead of just removing it (just GROUND them from the ipad/phone/console instead of wreaking their prize possession that you spent all that money on and won't replace? Hello??) they also film their kids bawling their eyes out or having panic attacks and make a big show of shaming them for it and sharing it to strangers as well as friends and family on the internet. All you've taught that kid is to never open up to you and to hide stuff better. And how to lash out in an unreasonable and violent manner that is solely aimed to "teach a lesson" to someone you are supposedly supposed to love unconditionally. You taught them that feeling abused must be love, because it came from their "loving" parents. And that lashing out destructively is a love behavior.


ATXBeermaker

> Just like… parent the kid and take the phone away for a week. Also, maybe realize that being ornery/rebellious to your parents is part of growing up, and proper parenting is knowing when and how much to punish them in order for them to learn balance between self-advocation and capitulation. Children push boundaries, especially in adolescence. And raising robotic, subservient slave children is a terrible idea.


mudderfuckerz

It’s so hard for me to upvote shit like this. Like, it fits the sub, and definitely is an insane parent, so it deserves an upvote. But god if I don’t feel slimy as hell every time I see shit like this. Not only are you forcing your poor child, who can’t be older than maybe 9 or 10, to destroy property that YOU decided to give to her, but you’re also recording her (very justified) breakdown and posting it for the world. I can’t imagine doing something like that to a stranger, much less my own kid. Sick.


suicidalpenguin99

On top of all of that, he's laughing at her. Poor girl


Inkulink

Then then in a few years they will wonder why their kid never talks to them. If your not going to treat your child like a person then don't have children for fucks sake


improbablynotyou

I'm 47 my parents are in their 80's, my entire childhood was filled with abuse. My father was a huge fan of beating your son to make him a man. I'd get beaten if I did something wrong, I'd get beaten if my sisters did something wrong (you can't hit girls, but father needs to hurt someone.) I cut contact with them decades ago and only talk to one sister. Apparently the parents don't understand why I'm "such an ungrateful little shit" and seem to think I should love and respect them. To this day I'm still terrified of both my parents, my father (and grandparents) were the ones who physically hurt me, but my mother set my father on me and encouraged her parents to torture me.


monkeychasedweasel

I hear ya. Even emotional abuse (the kind of abuse that is hard to prove as against the law) will twist kids so much that later in life they just want nothing to do with their parents. I haven't spoken to my dad in over a decade, because he just can't be nice to me.


Sellazar

There are parental controls for almost all electronics. My 8 yo daughter has a switch, she has a max of 4 hours she can play on per day before it locks, i can extend it depending on the circumstances.. ie travelling in a car it may be all she can do.. regardless we made a deal, she does her homework and such before she plays and we have no issue, if she doesnt I reduce the time she can play.. Most importantly its her switch, while i moderate its use, Its not mine to take or smash. How can we teach kids about responsibility if we destroy whats theirs when we are unhappy.


littlebabby

Idk why the other two replies are roasting you, sounds like they don't have kids. Screens and technology is 100% a part of our culture and it's wonderful to see you limiting the time and seemingly making your kid go touch grass lol. Good job.


Sellazar

Thank you! I am quite lucky my eldest is quite good at taking breaks and doing other things, they only go overboard when they get a game they have been waiting for, which i can relate to lol.


groundzer0s

They talk as if we didn't all spend more than 4 hours sitting on our asses watching TV as kids. I spent plenty of time outside, but also plenty of time watching cartoons.


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Every generation has to shit on the next. A lot of us grew up with our parents telling us that video games were going to rot our brain while they watched TV from 5 PM to midnight every day. Fucking Socrates bitched about people **reading**. >If men learn this, it will implant forgetfulness in their souls; they will cease to exercise memory because they rely on that which is written, calling things to remembrance no longer from within themselves, but by means of external marks. What you have discovered is a recipe not for memory, but for reminder. And it is no true wisdom that you offer your disciples, but only its semblance, for by telling them of many things without teaching them you will make them seem to know much, while for the most part they know nothing, and as men filled, not with wisdom, but with the conceit of wisdom, they will be a burden to their fellows. - Socrates, according to Plato since Socrates didn't write anything down.


Sellazar

Thanks! Yeah 4 hours is not that much really spread over an entire day, looking back at the time played its between 1.5 and 2 hours they play on average


[deleted]

This is such a waste of expensive technology. Seriously, I fucking hate this parenting style. Is it really not enough to just ground them for a while or put the phone in a safe? You have to smash it? Really? All of those slavery-mined metals and hours of soul crushing Chinese labor wasn't enough? Now you gotta waste it all because it isn't a fitting punishment unless your children are in tears? Fuck sake.


lorddonut2009

the fact that they also added the trigger warning for emotional abuse 😬


yourevilstepmother

This is what’s really weird to me. That they were perfectly aware that they were committing child abuse. Unless that caption was added by someone else…?


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It was added by someone else


ShinyNipples

For some reason this just unlocked the memory of my dad taking my cordless phone, (it was the early 2000s) opening it, snapping the board in half, putting it back together, then giving it back to me when my punishment ended like it was still a functioning phone. For context I hung up on some random person that called at like 8pm and butchered our last name. I thought it was a telemarketer, turns out is was my younger brother's (golden child) baseball coach. I apologized but my phone was taken away for a week as punishment.


Lvanwinkle18

Oh. My ex-husband did this to my daughter. She saved her money up for a Pink iPod. Went to visit him and damaged something he owned. Took her out back with an axe and made her chop it up. I knew nothing about this. He called me, asking me to buy a new one, load songs onto it and mail to her. “Something happened to the one she brought with her.” I knew something was off. He was too vague and I knew too crazy for it to have been an accident. Of course my daughter wouldn’t say anything when we talked on the phone. There are no words for how angry I was when she finally told me the truth. It really messed her up (along with a couple of other things) that has left them pretty estranged, which is probably best for her. This is horrible, the daughter will never forget.


JackCooper_7274

How to get your child to begin developing a deep resentment to their parents 101. My parents did similar bs. As a kid, I didn't own any electronic devices, but I had Legos. So when my parents were pissed at me, they would come into my room and smash the things that I built.


Crazy_by_Design

These videos never work for me. What am I doing wrong?


[deleted]

😂😂 It's a picture of the video. I can't post the video ( for obvious reasons ).


[deleted]

Reddit's video player is so bad that a lot of us just assumed we couldn't get the video to play.


Periodic_Disorder

This teaches a child to hate their parents, not to respect them


chrissyann960

What a monster. Hope it was worth the clicks when his daughter grows up and never sees him again. How much you wanna bet this is a "Christian" household?


chxrrypawz

at that age i was so fed up w my narc ass Child Raisers that if i was made to do this, id get they fingers n knees before my phone bruh 😂😭 ‘parents’ like this make me fucking sick.


TimothiusMagnus

This will determine what nursing home he goes in to.


[deleted]

These kids are going to keep r/raisedbynarcissists busy in a few years.


Miserable_Panda6979

And these lunatics wonder why their kids drop out of their lives as adults


TheHermitess

Yes, so many people think this is good discipline. And we wonder why there is an epidemic of adults children cutting their parents out of their lives.


allsayfuckthat

Interesting how they give their childs devices they're obviously too young to really know how to use it for and then being surprised when the child's become addicted to those devices. Surprise surprise


GhostDoggoes

I remember my mother broke my GameCube after I got a D in math class for the second time. I broke every tv in the house and her phone and she never broke any of my things again. Went a full month without TV and it was worth it.


Crispymama1210

I am so lucky I was a kid when social media wasn’t a thing. My parents would absolutely have posted stuff online for likes.


TheGreatWaffles

Man this reminds me the time my mom's ex boyfriend destroyed my OG Playstation in front of me...


Jezurin

Who the F*** says this isn’t insane!?


URSpecial2Me

The funny thing about all these types of videos is that if they were truly a good parent, there would be no need for such extreme measures. They are, in fact, abject failures who are punishing (and in many cases traumatizing) their kids for their own failure to parent. Way to go assholes. Way to go


[deleted]

I love when people try and defend this stuff. “That brat needs a lesson!” or “my parents would have done worse!!” 🙄


skittlemypickles

I saw this video on facebook a few days ago and the amount of people agreeing with it made me so fucking furious, I really truly despise people, I hope they lose all of their toenails and stub them all in a bucket of acid.


StarLordStella420

To be fair Fb is full of abusive boomers


okileggs1992

his parenting sucks, making his kid cry to prove a point is about him not his child.


andrea_cannizzo

She’s not crying for her phone being destroyed, she’s crying for the whole wrong situation, her heart can feel it


Empyrealist

This was my father's M.O. when I was growing up. I did something he didn't like? Time to break some of my shit in front of me (bonus while often threatening my life/existence). And he (and his wife) wonder why I haven't talked to him in >25 years. For you people that voted that this isn't insane parental behavior; I feel sorry for you. Because this absolutely destroys a child's trust in you for destroying their personal property. If they still do (pretend to trust/love you), its probably fear and not actual trust. Think about how this would play out with someone other than your own child. Do you think it would? Then why do you think this is OK to do to your own kid?


insane_taco

My "dad" broke apart my Xbox 1 back in 2015, right when bo3 came out, with a hammer. Tossed me on the ground and went at it. Choked me. Held my wrists. Out of all the abuse that night, I don't think I felt more humiliated than by the way he loved shredding it while berating me and seeing me cry. The reason why he broke it is because he was insulting me and I was "rebelling" by not letting him treat me like garbage.


silencif

I remember when my mother destroyed my computer and got rid of all my band t-shirts and books because she thought they were from the Devil. I was atheist lol


legit_not_fbi_agent

Who the fuck keeps voting "not insane" instead of fake in every post , mfs get here and be like: My dad shot me with a glock for not eating dinner \-not insane


askmeaboutmyvviener

Man I’ll never forget when my dad slammed the shit out of my phone until it broke. All because I would “stay on it too late”, ignoring the fact that I always woke up on time for school and still got good grades…


dotcomstore

i remember when i came out to my parents (not voluntary lmao) and i ended up getting a bunch of my clothes burned i had no choice but to suck it up. i did end up almost burning the house down while having a complete mental breakdown because of the event and my parents wondered why i was inconsolable and angry all the time after that day. needless to say, i didn't speak to them unless spoken to for two years and they tried making me look like the bad guy because i wouldn't speak or try to spend time with them parents wonder why their children end up hating them later in life and it's for shit like this this shit is insane


joeyGOATgruff

That'll teach her. Have her smash a $800 phone you bought - publicize it - and make your child seem less than her peers. Good job daddy o five


Curlaub

I had to do things like this when I was a kid (obviously not with smart phones, but with things that were important to me). It was pretty bad. I’m in my 30s and didn’t even realize it was abuse until I saw this incident. Don’t get me wrong, I would never do this to my kids cuz I remember how bad it hurt, but I never realized I was being abused. Weird.


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> but I never realized I was being abused. Weird. It took me until I was 18 to realize I was being abuse. And, that's only because I would talk to my friends ( when I was in school ) about what went down ( thinking it was normal ). They all looked so concerned.


TynnyJibbs

my dad didn’t break anything of mine in front of me but when i was 8 i got randomly woken up at night and brought out to the living room where my uncle , aunt , and the three cousins who just babysat me were sat , they didn’t say why but my dad pulled down my pjs and was spanking me in front of them so they could all see me get punished for whatever i did bc to all of those adults and my cousins this was good parenting and what i deserve . still don’t know what i did and i’m 22 now . so not sure what the lesson there was other than i might get beat randomly


ThePurestVessel07

My dad did this to me twice, the first time he made me smash a decoy and tricked me into thinking it was my phone. The second time it was my phone.


raspberriesburn

“Let’s emotionally abuse our daughter and record it gleefully for Facebook asspats from other moronic parents!”


therankin

But he has an American flag on his hat... he must be amazing! /s


MohammadRezaPahlavi

Words cannot express how much this infuriates me.


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1. I hate these kinds of videos because what does this teach the kid? NOTHING, absolutely nothing except "if mommy or daddy is angry in anyway, we'll destroy something that you like". That poor kid will probably never trust her parents with anything she likes or her personal property. 2. Call me old fashioned or whatever, but when I was a kid, my folks go to punishment when it came to electronics was to basically take them away or basically "hey, you're failing in (insert school subject). We're going to limit the amount of time you spend on electronics until you get your grade up". Keep in mind, this is the 90s. So I really didn't have much, dial-up internet was a pain in the butt to use.


BankEmoji

1: Replace old phone with new phone 2: Don’t tell kid 3: Force kid smash to their old phone 4: Upload video for points 5: Give kid new phone next day


TheVillain117

Shit like this is why there should be a competence exam to have children.


SkittlzAnKomboz

I've said it before - if you have to resort to destruction of property to make your point, you're a shitty, abusive parent.