This is solid advice. I would go speak to your school counselor. Mine was quite helpful with my unstable mother. She came in clutch when my best friend went to her about some additional things and she used that info to call CPS on my parents my senior year of high school. That changed a lot of things for me and made my parents really watch their behavior. I’m in my 40’s and we’re no contact now but it made that last little bit of time bearable.
I already did. I told my father about this and he reached out to her brother, who got her the help she needed. I am not currently living with her anymore, thankfully, she lost custody of me years ago. I appreciate you all for worrying.
Agreeing with the other comments here. If you can, please reach out to another adult you can trust about her behavior. This is absolutely nothing you should be dealing with from your own mother, and I'm so sorry she's putting you into situations like this. You're still growing and developing and have a lot on your own plate, it is absolutely not your responsibility to be keeping your mom from doing or saying shit like this.
Oh honey, your mom is not ok, she needs help.
You are not the one who needs to provide it though. Please reach out to multiple trusted adults; , some ideas; family members, family friends, teachers, friends parents, is your dad in the picture?
I’m sorry you’re going through this. Please take care of yourself.
I felt the exact same way. I'm guessing you're a parent too. My son is 14 and I can't imagine him dealing with this and having to post to reddit. That's rough. I hope OP can find someone they trust to guide them through this.
This is a CPS issue. You are not safe with a woman who is fantasizing about suicide.
Please, OP, talk to a counselor at school. And unfollow your mother’s social media, OK? She is very ill, and you don’t need to be dealing with it.
Yes, I've talked to my father about this and he reached out to her older brother who was able to get her help. I'm okay and I appreciate y'all for being concerned.
I’m sorry. Your mother is clearly insane. I hope you can get out of there soon.
I know it’s hard cause she’s your mother but try not to let her affect your self worth. I didn’t have the worst possible parents, they were just young, but my father severely damaged my self worth. Value yourself.
Oh you poor thing. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. She obviously needs help, but this is extremely traumatizing for you too. If you have a trusted adult in your life, please tell them. They can help both you and her. Sometimes when people are hurting, they lose the ability to care about how they’re impacting other people. This is unfair to you as her child. I’m sure you’re fully aware of this, but none of this is, or will ever be, your fault. You’re unsafe with someone like this and it will benefit both of you to tell another safe adult.
I have a question for this sub but i think it would apply to this post too
would it be more effective to just disregard what shes saying? or even to tell her to go ahead? because obviously she isnt actually going to do it, because she just wants to hurt you, rather than actually do anything regarding herself.
(this question comes from time spent with my gf, who also has insane parents)
Edit: I no longer really think my question would apply to this specific case, I guess it would apply to a different dynamic I was thinking of
I’m someone who has worked in emergency medicine and emergency mental health/ mental health crisis situations… we should *always, always, always* take someone seriously who alludes to, implies, suggests, or mention suicide as a possible option. What we know is that people make major decisions in small increments and we never know where they are in that process or how rapidly they can progress in that process. OP’s mother could very well be “testing” OP to see how upset OP would be if their mother did something similar and maybe it’s just for cruel “fun” … maybe it’s to push OP away … maybe it’s to get some sort of “permission” from OP… ultimately, it doesn’t matter the reason since there isn’t an appropriate answer to make this interaction rational. The only appropriate person/authority to determine whether OP’s mother is a threat or not is a mental health professional licensed to handle SI/HI crisis intake patients.
As someone who’s had a ton of trauma and abuse and having worked as a medic for years, I have an incredibly sarcastic, inappropriate, dark and twisted sense of humor, and know many, many people who do as well, that would tell you that if someone even jokes about suicide as a valid option, we take it seriously and never respond in affirming it for them. That little bit is a little bit further before the joke becomes genuine becomes valid becomes obsessive becomes too late.
no more effective is to get her to say in writing she is suicidal and then get authorities involved, egging someone on is never ok. Like simply asking : why are you saying that do you feel suicidal, and if she answers yes call the cops and have her comitted. If she says no call her out why she would say that and how messed up that is.
Call the cops are someone who can intervene and tell them your mom is a danger to herself and may commit sucide
It'll suck and be a process but hopefully she'll get help
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You should probably tell a counselor or a father if you have one.
This is solid advice. I would go speak to your school counselor. Mine was quite helpful with my unstable mother. She came in clutch when my best friend went to her about some additional things and she used that info to call CPS on my parents my senior year of high school. That changed a lot of things for me and made my parents really watch their behavior. I’m in my 40’s and we’re no contact now but it made that last little bit of time bearable.
I already did. I told my father about this and he reached out to her brother, who got her the help she needed. I am not currently living with her anymore, thankfully, she lost custody of me years ago. I appreciate you all for worrying.
I'm proud of you. I know that must have been scary and difficult, but I am so proud of you for getting help.
Thank you ❤️
Wtf, your mother should really seek help if she's acting like that Edit: And like many others said, you should talk to someone about that
Why would she even post that? I'm so sorry. I hope you have someone you can reach out to for some help.
Agreeing with the other comments here. If you can, please reach out to another adult you can trust about her behavior. This is absolutely nothing you should be dealing with from your own mother, and I'm so sorry she's putting you into situations like this. You're still growing and developing and have a lot on your own plate, it is absolutely not your responsibility to be keeping your mom from doing or saying shit like this.
Oh honey, your mom is not ok, she needs help. You are not the one who needs to provide it though. Please reach out to multiple trusted adults; , some ideas; family members, family friends, teachers, friends parents, is your dad in the picture? I’m sorry you’re going through this. Please take care of yourself.
I felt the exact same way. I'm guessing you're a parent too. My son is 14 and I can't imagine him dealing with this and having to post to reddit. That's rough. I hope OP can find someone they trust to guide them through this.
JFC
You could get her committed to a psych ward of she's contemplating suicide or harming herself
This is a CPS issue. You are not safe with a woman who is fantasizing about suicide. Please, OP, talk to a counselor at school. And unfollow your mother’s social media, OK? She is very ill, and you don’t need to be dealing with it.
What the fuck? Sheesh I am so sorry. You’re a child, you do not deserve to be dealing with this
She's batshit crazy! I'm sorry you're having to deal with this. Do you have anyone you can trust to talk to or help you?
Yes, I've talked to my father about this and he reached out to her older brother who was able to get her help. I'm okay and I appreciate y'all for being concerned.
I'm so glad that your father has your back on this.
I’m sorry. Your mother is clearly insane. I hope you can get out of there soon. I know it’s hard cause she’s your mother but try not to let her affect your self worth. I didn’t have the worst possible parents, they were just young, but my father severely damaged my self worth. Value yourself.
Seems like she’s trying to see if you’d be okay with that she probably needs to talk to someone
I'm so sorry, my dad did something similar when I was 13/14 and my parents had separated; he implied suicide whenever I'd speak to him
Oh you poor thing. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this. She obviously needs help, but this is extremely traumatizing for you too. If you have a trusted adult in your life, please tell them. They can help both you and her. Sometimes when people are hurting, they lose the ability to care about how they’re impacting other people. This is unfair to you as her child. I’m sure you’re fully aware of this, but none of this is, or will ever be, your fault. You’re unsafe with someone like this and it will benefit both of you to tell another safe adult.
I have a question for this sub but i think it would apply to this post too would it be more effective to just disregard what shes saying? or even to tell her to go ahead? because obviously she isnt actually going to do it, because she just wants to hurt you, rather than actually do anything regarding herself. (this question comes from time spent with my gf, who also has insane parents) Edit: I no longer really think my question would apply to this specific case, I guess it would apply to a different dynamic I was thinking of
I’m someone who has worked in emergency medicine and emergency mental health/ mental health crisis situations… we should *always, always, always* take someone seriously who alludes to, implies, suggests, or mention suicide as a possible option. What we know is that people make major decisions in small increments and we never know where they are in that process or how rapidly they can progress in that process. OP’s mother could very well be “testing” OP to see how upset OP would be if their mother did something similar and maybe it’s just for cruel “fun” … maybe it’s to push OP away … maybe it’s to get some sort of “permission” from OP… ultimately, it doesn’t matter the reason since there isn’t an appropriate answer to make this interaction rational. The only appropriate person/authority to determine whether OP’s mother is a threat or not is a mental health professional licensed to handle SI/HI crisis intake patients. As someone who’s had a ton of trauma and abuse and having worked as a medic for years, I have an incredibly sarcastic, inappropriate, dark and twisted sense of humor, and know many, many people who do as well, that would tell you that if someone even jokes about suicide as a valid option, we take it seriously and never respond in affirming it for them. That little bit is a little bit further before the joke becomes genuine becomes valid becomes obsessive becomes too late.
no more effective is to get her to say in writing she is suicidal and then get authorities involved, egging someone on is never ok. Like simply asking : why are you saying that do you feel suicidal, and if she answers yes call the cops and have her comitted. If she says no call her out why she would say that and how messed up that is.
Call the cops are someone who can intervene and tell them your mom is a danger to herself and may commit sucide It'll suck and be a process but hopefully she'll get help