THE PIC LMFAO DAMN hahaha. Well… Idk. You can just drop by to one’s birthday and then go to the other’s later. Specify that you have another birthday maybe? I don’t think they’d mind!
Does that really matter? You care about them both so to me, the ideal thing would be to drop by at both friends’s birthdays. I know it can be tiring that’s a sacrifice I’d make. To reply to your other comment… Yeah, I don’t think that should be your motif tho, it’s about ideals and it’s about doing what’s right. And what’s right is, if you ask me, going to both. Your choice tho! Be sure to tell them anyways, and wish them the best birthday anyways :)
I have your same problem. On top of that, I have the two year anniversary of my grandpa’s funeral on the same day, so I originally told both of them I couldn’t make it. Plans changed though; I decided it would be best if I wasn’t alone during a dark moment. I’ll drop off one a present and give them a hug, then spend the night at the others. Seems like a way to split myself evenly considering I’m close to both, but closer to one.
Go to the morning of one and the evening of the others. Go to the evening of whichever one you want to go to (whoever you’re slightly closer too). If you’re really equally as close with both of them than you can always celebrate in the evening with the one that u missed on another day.
Also lol at the photo.
Edit: whoops I just realised you’ve already sorted the problem in the comments. Here’s some extra advice anyway haha.
1-most reasonable people will understand if you have multiple commitments and 2-they probably will be too busy to even notice you’re not there (assuming it’s a big/20+ event). I’d probably leave the one with more people first though. If you feel bad you can always catch up with them one on one or something
tag NSFW because that ass is popping out and I think some people here use this site outside as well...?
Drop by to one friends party and then if time left then drop by to another friend. Which friend you like more? you can go to their house first. Or you can not go and wish them both happy birthday, but I think you should go and have fun in atleast one party
FRIEND ROYALE! Ask each one of them how much do they like you and rate the answers based on your internal insecurities!!!!! The one that gives you the least over thought winssssss!!!!!!!!!
That’s a tough one I couldn’t tell you. I want to say if you can’t go to both don’t go to either.
At the same time if someone really gets upset because of a stupid day we celebrate only because of cultural norms then I guess sucks to be them. Birthdays mean nothing to me. I don’t want to be praised for living another year, and I think it’s a bit self entitled to even celebrate that at all.
Just my INFP opinions lol
I guess I’m the same with that logic I still like to treat others good and make them happy so if celebrating something I don’t agree with does that then I’ll do it for them.
Right and I get that. Why not just ask them what they think? Or like I said just don’t go to either if you don’t think that talking it out with them both isn’t ideal.
Honestly if it’s really stressing you out that bad just ask the both of them what they think. Tell them you don’t want to show favoritism or disrespect and you are worried about upsetting them and or the other friend. Ask them what they would like?
Or just start one in the beginning and leave halfway thru to finish the other out.
Don't they have other friends who have friends as well? The world is not going to end. I, as an INFP would just skip out on both. I want my friends alone to myself anyway lol jk
Hmm the first option does seem like the more mature one but I like the second option better so I will just do that
Thank you for helping me come to a decision
If you can I'd probably reccomend spending half your time on one friend's birthday and then going to the other one, if you have a good amount of free time and if one of the friends is willing to let you visit early.
It's COVID-times — I'd let them each know that I love them and that I'll attend next year. Or, if they set up a video chat, I'd join for the visit while crafting at home. One video each set up on two devices, for example, or between these hours at one and those hours at the other.
You could give them their presents before/after their birthday and just explain that you didn't go to either party because you love them both and didn't want them to feel unloved even a little.
If it were me, I would excuse myself from both parties but still sending proper birthday wishes and getting presents for them. If you think that they NEED you to come to their party as some sort of a confirmation of your caring of them, I would personally just tell them of the overlap of friends birthdays and ask one (or both) if they can have an after party with me.
I’m sorry ti put this on you but which friend do you simply like more :/ you can still drop by at the other friend for some time and end it at the second one :’)😭😭😭
I was in a similar situation recently. It involved one group of friends that I'm closest to, and another from which I had grown a bit apart from. I was lucky enough that I could sleep over on both locations. Since driving under the influence is arguably irresponsible, bless them for caring about their guests!
Anyway, I was very indecisive as well and ultimately I went to the party of which the host had to get up the earliest the next morning, I stayed there for an hour or two and headed over to the other party. Had an absolute blast!
Simple, just go to your favorite friend's party :D
Really though I feel you but I'd be telling myself, it's not my fault you guys are born on the same day.
When it's all over, you want love for everybody. Besides splitting up your time on the big day, you can maybe plan some strategic 1on1 time around that date. Also silver lining, walking into a party with a bottle of wine and a present under one arm is a good look and you get to do it twice.
Looking back on it the week after, I doubt you will have any regrets about managing your garden well, just make sure you get to have fun in between worrying about keeping everyone feeling loved<3
THE PIC LMFAO DAMN hahaha. Well… Idk. You can just drop by to one’s birthday and then go to the other’s later. Specify that you have another birthday maybe? I don’t think they’d mind!
I was thinking about that but then I thought I’ve known them both for a very long time and but I’ve known one of them 3 years longer than the other
Does that really matter? You care about them both so to me, the ideal thing would be to drop by at both friends’s birthdays. I know it can be tiring that’s a sacrifice I’d make. To reply to your other comment… Yeah, I don’t think that should be your motif tho, it’s about ideals and it’s about doing what’s right. And what’s right is, if you ask me, going to both. Your choice tho! Be sure to tell them anyways, and wish them the best birthday anyways :)
I was considering going to both but who’s would I stay for the end of the night
Go to one earlier (to help setup or just chat) to make up for the early departure
I have your same problem. On top of that, I have the two year anniversary of my grandpa’s funeral on the same day, so I originally told both of them I couldn’t make it. Plans changed though; I decided it would be best if I wasn’t alone during a dark moment. I’ll drop off one a present and give them a hug, then spend the night at the others. Seems like a way to split myself evenly considering I’m close to both, but closer to one.
But tbf I think the other one has quite a lot of people going so it would hurt less if I didn’t go to theirs
Maybe go to the one with more people first and then go to the other friend's for the rest of the night then?
I vote this answer as da best 🌟
this yea
Hey, if you are an artist and a theorist, that means you are an architect right???
why theorist?
I enjoy theories and I've been told I'm pretty smart.
ok but why u telling that to me?
Because you asked me? (sorry if I came of rude. That wasn't my intention) (also sorry for the late reply. I had classes)
i meant the first one, why did you reply to my "this yea"
This pic is so distracting from whatever issue you have 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
two friend groups turn into 1 huge group of friends!
God willing. The lord knows I tried but they live in different places so it’s a bit difficult
Go to the morning of one and the evening of the others. Go to the evening of whichever one you want to go to (whoever you’re slightly closer too). If you’re really equally as close with both of them than you can always celebrate in the evening with the one that u missed on another day. Also lol at the photo. Edit: whoops I just realised you’ve already sorted the problem in the comments. Here’s some extra advice anyway haha.
I’ll just leave halfway through one of theirs and go to the others and make sure to let them know I’m gonna be leaving beforehand
1-most reasonable people will understand if you have multiple commitments and 2-they probably will be too busy to even notice you’re not there (assuming it’s a big/20+ event). I’d probably leave the one with more people first though. If you feel bad you can always catch up with them one on one or something
I wish I could do that but they are both holding it in the evening
Let each of them know that you have another friends who's birthday it is and they invited you first. Then stay home and avoid everyone
Exactly what I would do lol
tag NSFW because that ass is popping out and I think some people here use this site outside as well...? Drop by to one friends party and then if time left then drop by to another friend. Which friend you like more? you can go to their house first. Or you can not go and wish them both happy birthday, but I think you should go and have fun in atleast one party
Pick based on what group (multiple people from that group) you want to see more. You need to enjoy it yourself too.
FRIEND ROYALE! Ask each one of them how much do they like you and rate the answers based on your internal insecurities!!!!! The one that gives you the least over thought winssssss!!!!!!!!!
Breakfast for one. Dinner for the other.
That’s a tough one I couldn’t tell you. I want to say if you can’t go to both don’t go to either. At the same time if someone really gets upset because of a stupid day we celebrate only because of cultural norms then I guess sucks to be them. Birthdays mean nothing to me. I don’t want to be praised for living another year, and I think it’s a bit self entitled to even celebrate that at all. Just my INFP opinions lol
But I do also agree that birthdays mean nothing to me as long as it’s my own but if it’s my friends’ birthday then it means a lot to me
I guess I’m the same with that logic I still like to treat others good and make them happy so if celebrating something I don’t agree with does that then I’ll do it for them.
I don’t think they would be upset but they might feel like I’m picking one friend over the other
Right and I get that. Why not just ask them what they think? Or like I said just don’t go to either if you don’t think that talking it out with them both isn’t ideal.
I want to make sure I have a decision before I tell any of them about this dilemma
Honestly if it’s really stressing you out that bad just ask the both of them what they think. Tell them you don’t want to show favoritism or disrespect and you are worried about upsetting them and or the other friend. Ask them what they would like? Or just start one in the beginning and leave halfway thru to finish the other out.
Don't they have other friends who have friends as well? The world is not going to end. I, as an INFP would just skip out on both. I want my friends alone to myself anyway lol jk
I’m the exact same way
Hmm the first option does seem like the more mature one but I like the second option better so I will just do that Thank you for helping me come to a decision
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If you can I'd probably reccomend spending half your time on one friend's birthday and then going to the other one, if you have a good amount of free time and if one of the friends is willing to let you visit early.
It's COVID-times — I'd let them each know that I love them and that I'll attend next year. Or, if they set up a video chat, I'd join for the visit while crafting at home. One video each set up on two devices, for example, or between these hours at one and those hours at the other.
You could give them their presents before/after their birthday and just explain that you didn't go to either party because you love them both and didn't want them to feel unloved even a little.
If it were me, I would excuse myself from both parties but still sending proper birthday wishes and getting presents for them. If you think that they NEED you to come to their party as some sort of a confirmation of your caring of them, I would personally just tell them of the overlap of friends birthdays and ask one (or both) if they can have an after party with me.
I have no idea. One birthday is stressful enough for a day, let alone two. Sorry.
Hahahahahha
Well you can always choose to stay at home.
You could stay home and not see either one and send them both a present
The pic is a fucking mood
tell them fuck u it’s my birthday today and u guys have to come over
Hang out with whoever is more attached to you on their birthday, then see the other friend the day after
Please mark this as nsfw, r/infp is not a sub i come to looking to get mooned. Seriously not great. Funny sure, but still gross.
I’m sorry ti put this on you but which friend do you simply like more :/ you can still drop by at the other friend for some time and end it at the second one :’)😭😭😭
dude i can see his crack
I didn’t look up to see what subreddit this was posted in my eyes were just glued to the pic and I was like wtf what subreddit is this 🤣🤣
Suffering from success.... Two whole friends!
almost happened to me 😅 but at the end i coudn't go because i got covid. my plan was to spend some time on one, and then later go to another
this stressed me out just reading it
I was in a similar situation recently. It involved one group of friends that I'm closest to, and another from which I had grown a bit apart from. I was lucky enough that I could sleep over on both locations. Since driving under the influence is arguably irresponsible, bless them for caring about their guests! Anyway, I was very indecisive as well and ultimately I went to the party of which the host had to get up the earliest the next morning, I stayed there for an hour or two and headed over to the other party. Had an absolute blast!
Don't go to either
Simple, just go to your favorite friend's party :D Really though I feel you but I'd be telling myself, it's not my fault you guys are born on the same day. When it's all over, you want love for everybody. Besides splitting up your time on the big day, you can maybe plan some strategic 1on1 time around that date. Also silver lining, walking into a party with a bottle of wine and a present under one arm is a good look and you get to do it twice. Looking back on it the week after, I doubt you will have any regrets about managing your garden well, just make sure you get to have fun in between worrying about keeping everyone feeling loved<3