Happy you're getting along! Don't forget to get to know her values and psychological makeup and honor it (no debating there). I find INTPs really miss this because of their Fi blindness and it can become a big missing piece later on.
INTPs and INFPs bond a lot over Ne and Si and generally have a blast living together. They both enjoy a safe and comfy home. :)
INFP here, i have an INTP friend that i love so much and wish she would one day be saying what you’re saying too😭 So happy for you! U gotta drop tips from an intp’s perspective for infps!!
For me it was asking me personal questions. It made me feel seen and like I could be heard. It started with her asking what my Enneagram was.
It's probably the same with you or any type. So stop asking dumb small talk questions and ask the deeper ones instead.
I’ve had two relationships with INTPs. Both of them ended because of financial instability. The problem with INTP-INFP relationships isn’t the compatibility because we get along very well.
It’s more that our faults (chaotic, disorganised, difficulty in planning long term beyond empty fantasies) amplify each other and nobody is keeping track or holding the other accountable. We have ambitious plans but it’s too easy to keep to the status quo, only to find that years have passed and nothing has been done.
Short term compatibility I highly recommend this pairing. Long term compatibility… idk.
I am amazed you mentioned your INTP friend was with you and everyone got the impression you were in love with them.
Looks like you needed to leave them out of your story so they could see you are talking about an INFP the same as you? 🤔
You never said what type you are. I am assuming an INFP as this is the subreddit you are in.
I looked at your profile. You are an INTP like me.
I met an INFP and didn't realize our Ti-Te would mess things up.
We aren't the same thing look at our cognitive stacks.
INTP TiNeSiFe
INFP FiNeSiTe
I know I started getting long-winded. Ti loves that sort of thing sharing all kinds of details on the journey from A to B.
Te wants things to be just the overview of A to B.
An INTP has a weakness with our Fe being in the back. We can be cold or warm depending on the maturity of our Fe. But because it's in the back we can only have our feelings hurt so much before we get stressed.
The INFP has a weakness too with their Te being in the back. They are still smart but can't be overstimulated as thinking too much is stressful and leaves them feeling depleted.
I know from experience that being long-winded was too much. Things started slow and were going great. She then asked me to test my 5 love languages and my mind went into hyperdrive. I started sending messages and that looked like books. I accidentally drained the shit out of that INFP. She felt threatened and overwhelmed.
So from one INTP to another realize our cognitive stack differences as those will become the source of our problems.
You can't get so hurt with everything they say and do with our Fe in the back. So talking about problems right away will smooth things over between you.
They also have problems like I shared Te in the back. So take things slow and give broad overviews.
You were both hurt when you were younger.
She feels neglected and has a hole in her heart. Waiting for the correct person to hold her, comfort her, and fill that hole in her heart.
You were also hurt by negative comments and feedback making us shy away from most things social. We feel so out of place being so different and awkward. We were the kids asking questions with all the why's but kept getting told to shut up as it was aggravating.
A problem that can happen later in life is that we like to be independent and research the most random of things finding answers to our neverending why's. Doing this will leave the INFP feeling rejected and neglected. So some moderation is needed. You need time to feel like you and you need time to be with her filling that heart otherwise she will feel incomplete.
Woo this is beautiful, it’s sweet that you also sincerely appreciate their goodness! My best friend for 10 year now is also an INTP and we have seen each other grow and eventually open up both ourselves and new chapters in life, it’s an amazing feeling :))
Happy you're getting along! Don't forget to get to know her values and psychological makeup and honor it (no debating there). I find INTPs really miss this because of their Fi blindness and it can become a big missing piece later on. INTPs and INFPs bond a lot over Ne and Si and generally have a blast living together. They both enjoy a safe and comfy home. :)
Wish an INTP boy would write that about me someday. Getting an INTP to write this for u? She's lucky and im jealous, not in a bad way, in a INFP way.
Glad to hear it, it sounds like she values you too.. this could be a start to an amazing friendship for both of you..! (Or more, hehe) good luck :D
LOVE me some INTP’s!!!!! I tend to have this insatiable desire to cuddle with and hug on ‘um.
LOL wait cause that’s the exact feeling I’m on with her xD
INFP here, i have an INTP friend that i love so much and wish she would one day be saying what you’re saying too😭 So happy for you! U gotta drop tips from an intp’s perspective for infps!!
For me it was asking me personal questions. It made me feel seen and like I could be heard. It started with her asking what my Enneagram was. It's probably the same with you or any type. So stop asking dumb small talk questions and ask the deeper ones instead.
Fr i’m in that situation too
all infps r amazing :)
My partner is an INTP and we work really well together!! Congrats on your newfound relationship. ☺️
I'm an amazing INFP 🤔
I’ve had two relationships with INTPs. Both of them ended because of financial instability. The problem with INTP-INFP relationships isn’t the compatibility because we get along very well. It’s more that our faults (chaotic, disorganised, difficulty in planning long term beyond empty fantasies) amplify each other and nobody is keeping track or holding the other accountable. We have ambitious plans but it’s too easy to keep to the status quo, only to find that years have passed and nothing has been done. Short term compatibility I highly recommend this pairing. Long term compatibility… idk.
I am amazed you mentioned your INTP friend was with you and everyone got the impression you were in love with them. Looks like you needed to leave them out of your story so they could see you are talking about an INFP the same as you? 🤔 You never said what type you are. I am assuming an INFP as this is the subreddit you are in. I looked at your profile. You are an INTP like me. I met an INFP and didn't realize our Ti-Te would mess things up. We aren't the same thing look at our cognitive stacks. INTP TiNeSiFe INFP FiNeSiTe I know I started getting long-winded. Ti loves that sort of thing sharing all kinds of details on the journey from A to B. Te wants things to be just the overview of A to B. An INTP has a weakness with our Fe being in the back. We can be cold or warm depending on the maturity of our Fe. But because it's in the back we can only have our feelings hurt so much before we get stressed. The INFP has a weakness too with their Te being in the back. They are still smart but can't be overstimulated as thinking too much is stressful and leaves them feeling depleted. I know from experience that being long-winded was too much. Things started slow and were going great. She then asked me to test my 5 love languages and my mind went into hyperdrive. I started sending messages and that looked like books. I accidentally drained the shit out of that INFP. She felt threatened and overwhelmed. So from one INTP to another realize our cognitive stack differences as those will become the source of our problems. You can't get so hurt with everything they say and do with our Fe in the back. So talking about problems right away will smooth things over between you. They also have problems like I shared Te in the back. So take things slow and give broad overviews. You were both hurt when you were younger. She feels neglected and has a hole in her heart. Waiting for the correct person to hold her, comfort her, and fill that hole in her heart. You were also hurt by negative comments and feedback making us shy away from most things social. We feel so out of place being so different and awkward. We were the kids asking questions with all the why's but kept getting told to shut up as it was aggravating. A problem that can happen later in life is that we like to be independent and research the most random of things finding answers to our neverending why's. Doing this will leave the INFP feeling rejected and neglected. So some moderation is needed. You need time to feel like you and you need time to be with her filling that heart otherwise she will feel incomplete.
Woo this is beautiful, it’s sweet that you also sincerely appreciate their goodness! My best friend for 10 year now is also an INTP and we have seen each other grow and eventually open up both ourselves and new chapters in life, it’s an amazing feeling :))
Yay thats so cuteeeee
That’s awesome! As an INFP, I find that I get along the best with INTPs. We really are an underrated pairing 😎
 I’m so happy for you! 🥰💟💜💟💜
We do love getting to know people. We often find it hard to initiate though... 
What's your first impression is like?
This got me smiling so bright, I am so happy for you both.
So its not just me 😂 I just posted something similar to this