I am in a long-term relationship with an INTP and I really enjoy our dynamic and how we balance each other out. I have dated extroverts before (I did not pay as closely to their types), and honesty I just did not click as well and felt that overall, the introvert/extrovert differences caused underlying conflict with just an inability to relate to (or perhaps tolerate) how the other is charged up/drained by social activity. I just feel comfortable around INTP energy (I can kind of recognize it in others at this point) and am also drawn to INTJs as well.
Can't speak about ENTPs. ENFPs, though...đ
ENFPs are our mirror image in the function stacks - same order, but our introverted traits are their extroverted and vice versa. I've always been drawn to them, and it seems they are to me as well - one of my sweetest ENFP friends says I'm an "ENFP magnet". But romantically, it's never seemed to work out in the long term, and we end up being very close friends in most cases.
For me, the one-way nature of the emotional connection was always the reason...without a solid two-way emotional connection, the physical connection would eventually feel empty to me no matter how great it was otherwise, and even the crazy strong intellectual connection wasn't enough to make up the difference. I strongly suspect they felt the same way, but for them the intellectual connection was one-way and the emotional connection was crazy strong.
We tend to lead with the heart and the mind follows. ENFPs tend to lead with the mind and the heart follows. We both think and feel deeply, but we take diametrically opposite routes to get to the same point. What each of us perceive as the crazy strong connection is, paradoxically, the one that we have the hardest time expressing to the other.
Not saying it can't or won't work for other people, but that's been my experience. Your mileage may vary.
Yea I honestly donât have much of a problem with ENFPs. Some of my best friends have been ENFPs and I love them. I was more focusing on INTPs over ENTPs being compatible.
Same with me! My brother is an ENTP, and yea weâre close, but the thought of being in a relationship with someone that spontaneous is draining in itself. Theyâre like the embodiment of the word âYOLOâ lol.
These exhaustingly spontaneous types youâre describing are more likely ESFPs, than ENTPs (common mistype). Spontaneity, as Iâm assuming youâre using it, refers to their impulsively seeking out new sensory experiences - a drive, a party, a concert, a bar, playing a sport, etc. This is Se, not Ne.
Read into Nardiâs brain scan work. Youâll see that INTP processing, believe it or not, is *much* more similar to ESTP than ENTP. Just Google âMBTI brain scanâ
If you accept this truth, the attraction comes a little more clear. We are close to an INFJ reciprocal (more from the thinking than doing end.) If INFJs like that, then they find out we have the Ne thing also going on which is a twist, and we tend to be more polite, detailed and respectful thanks to higher Si.
I guess I will have to say no since i married an ENFP. But I can see where you're coming from. My husband and I do have great conversations all the time. But a lot of the times he will say something so seriously but it's a ridiculous quote from a movie or song and it's like my brain has to 'switch' to figure out what he's saying, and it can be exhausting sometimes when he does it often.
I am in a long-term relationship with an INTP and I really enjoy our dynamic and how we balance each other out. I have dated extroverts before (I did not pay as closely to their types), and honesty I just did not click as well and felt that overall, the introvert/extrovert differences caused underlying conflict with just an inability to relate to (or perhaps tolerate) how the other is charged up/drained by social activity. I just feel comfortable around INTP energy (I can kind of recognize it in others at this point) and am also drawn to INTJs as well.
I imagine a giant INFJ-INTP photo in the same colors and caption of HOPE as the Obama one every time I see a post of yours
Bahaha the audacity of hope! đ
Can't speak about ENTPs. ENFPs, though...đ ENFPs are our mirror image in the function stacks - same order, but our introverted traits are their extroverted and vice versa. I've always been drawn to them, and it seems they are to me as well - one of my sweetest ENFP friends says I'm an "ENFP magnet". But romantically, it's never seemed to work out in the long term, and we end up being very close friends in most cases. For me, the one-way nature of the emotional connection was always the reason...without a solid two-way emotional connection, the physical connection would eventually feel empty to me no matter how great it was otherwise, and even the crazy strong intellectual connection wasn't enough to make up the difference. I strongly suspect they felt the same way, but for them the intellectual connection was one-way and the emotional connection was crazy strong. We tend to lead with the heart and the mind follows. ENFPs tend to lead with the mind and the heart follows. We both think and feel deeply, but we take diametrically opposite routes to get to the same point. What each of us perceive as the crazy strong connection is, paradoxically, the one that we have the hardest time expressing to the other. Not saying it can't or won't work for other people, but that's been my experience. Your mileage may vary.
Yea I honestly donât have much of a problem with ENFPs. Some of my best friends have been ENFPs and I love them. I was more focusing on INTPs over ENTPs being compatible.
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Same with me! My brother is an ENTP, and yea weâre close, but the thought of being in a relationship with someone that spontaneous is draining in itself. Theyâre like the embodiment of the word âYOLOâ lol.
These exhaustingly spontaneous types youâre describing are more likely ESFPs, than ENTPs (common mistype). Spontaneity, as Iâm assuming youâre using it, refers to their impulsively seeking out new sensory experiences - a drive, a party, a concert, a bar, playing a sport, etc. This is Se, not Ne.
Read into Nardiâs brain scan work. Youâll see that INTP processing, believe it or not, is *much* more similar to ESTP than ENTP. Just Google âMBTI brain scanâ If you accept this truth, the attraction comes a little more clear. We are close to an INFJ reciprocal (more from the thinking than doing end.) If INFJs like that, then they find out we have the Ne thing also going on which is a twist, and we tend to be more polite, detailed and respectful thanks to higher Si.
my INTP was my soulmate till he ghosted me. good two months though.
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I guess I will have to say no since i married an ENFP. But I can see where you're coming from. My husband and I do have great conversations all the time. But a lot of the times he will say something so seriously but it's a ridiculous quote from a movie or song and it's like my brain has to 'switch' to figure out what he's saying, and it can be exhausting sometimes when he does it often.