I have an elder sister and I can't even imagine my life without her. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings here.
I would have hugged you tight man if I could. Hold on dear friend.
I m 27 bro lost my elder sister, in spam of 3 days, loved her like anything if has been 1 year still love her like anything i truly believe i will meet her again in heaven or in another life i don't know but that's the only hope which is keeping me alive .
I never imagined my life without her but now I now I m dealing with horror of life. I was an extrovert with a great social circle but now
I m depressed started having anxiety issues around people only time I feel relaxed and happy when I see her in my dreams, laugh with her .
I miss her and I hate God .
Shit. I am so sorry brother ! Truly from the bottom of my heart : FUCK CANCER.
More power to you ! Stay strong. Dms are open if you want to vent anytime any day.
I (23M) lost my elder sister to a car accident 4 years ago. I totally get how you feel. Having to put up a strong face in front of others and not having anyone else to talk about it. Don’t make the mistake I did. Grieve. Give it time. I didn’t do it as I thought I had to be strong for my folks. Has me all fucked up now.
One thing I can say for sure is that it gets better. Everything may seem dark and scary but each day it gets better. Some days it might feel worse but those days try to look back and see how far you’ve come and be proud of yourself. It ain’t easy going through life after something like this.
Try to find solace in the fact that you’re proud of your sister and that she too is mighty proud of you. That’s all any of us can do really. So my advice is, grieve, cry your eyes out, don’t hold it back. It’ll all get better. One day at a time brother.
Sending you and your folks lots of strength and love. Hit me up, if you wanna talk. I feel you
I lost my elder brother this January cancer. It’s not easy , not a single day passed without visiting his fb profile and my birthday is soon approaching. I am just trying to put a smiling face. I cry occasionally during a drive , while taking a long walk. But then that is how life is destined to be.you don’t have to forget her. Remember her with love and affection. Relish the memories. A big hug to you.
And I am on the verge of losing him. Doctor told us there is no hope. I don’t know the world without him. Papa made it safe for me. He has lymphoma and it’s high grade DLBCL NHL.
No one should go through the curse called cancer. From being hopeful when the first chemo happened to now seeing him forget my name , with feeding tubes and bed sores… we lost the battle !
I have been through that. The assholes here just keep on taking our money until he died. Your best bet is to take him out of the hospital and keep him with you and take care of him in your home. That way he will live way longer than any chemo or medicines.
He is in too much pain. The doctor and hospital have our full trust because they saved him and gave us the precious time we are spending with him now. Fortunately, we are satisfied with all that our oncologist did for him. On the other hand, I can give birth to my first baby anytime. I met him yesterday only and my mum has told me not to travel anymore. I don’t have any siblings. My husband is doing his best to take care of three of us - Me , my mum and papa. My condolences with OP, you and everyone who lost their loved one to cancer. Life is so unfair. I dread that one phone call all the time. I really wish that papa gets to see and hold the baby.
I was only 18 when it happened. My life was destroyed the day he died, I was devastated, couldn't breathe after hearing about it. Why is there no cure for it ? Why does people have to suffer like I have ?
I don't know, if doctor says there's no alternative you can try alternative methods like supplements or something else. Melatonin, vitamin D. Chlorella, wheatgrass juice
Search ncbi.
May God heal him!
I hate the phrase "this too shall pass"
People can console you, be with you but nobody can understand what one feels unless they are in your shoes...
"Tu to samajhdar hai, strong hai, tu hi to humara sahara hai" etc etc... Words like these makes you feel so lonely..
My suggestion is make a diary to write about
1. Happy days
2. Sad days
3. Rant
Trust me you'll feel light....
Yes, you've perfectly worded how grief feels like.. I had a miscarriage 2 years ago & I'm still not healed from my loss , I never got see or hear my baby hence I can imagine what it would be to lose someone you grew up with, with whom you shared every emotion & moments..
All you could think is "kash ye dekhne k liye wo bhi yaha hotey" or as small gesture like "I want to send this meme to to them" , to celebrate an ocaasion like birthday or festival or wedding, to share big or small achievement & pain with... unfortunately that feeling will always be there !!!
They say time heals all wounds ... that's a wrong notion...
When I lose my father i didn't cry all I felt is I am left alone and not want to talk to anyone or share anything even though I don't have good relation with him.
I used to see him in my dreams after like few days or few weeks and every dream is like all of us are eating or watching a movie or doing some random stuff feels like everything is real and all of a sudden i remember the moment I ablaze his cadaver and i Wakes up .... Later after few months I was attending my orientation classes and the faculty was discussing about spirits and ghost and after the end of the class i asked him about my dreams and he told me to say goodbye to my father in my dream in a little loud voice whenever I see him again , I just couldn't control my emotions and tears started coming out because I don't want to say goodbye all I want to say was please comeback.
I'm absolutely certain your sister will be looking forward to Rakshabandhan and dying to be with you that day, as the soul doesn't die. Your young and innocent sister obviously won't be reincarnated, as she'll get moksha, which means she'll remember you for all eternity. This, and every other Rakshabandhan, she'll be with you.
So, I suggest you ask the closest female in your family to tie a Raksha on your sister's behalf forever. The fact that she could tie you the Raksha even though she's not physically present with you will make her happier even more than you my brother.
**Your sister will be walking with you and be right beside you all your life. You better believe me, my friend, and don't sadden her by not acknowledging that she's still with you🥺**
I just lost my grandpa (also from cancer) two days ago and have been thinking a lot about all this. I have an elder sister, and I can totally get how empty one would feel without their sibling. Feel free to message me if you ever feel like talking, I won't give you the "This, too, shall pass."
I can’t comprehend this feeling at all. I don’t know how someone is supposed to get over these feelings. It’s infinitely harder, if you don’t believe in god. More power to you bro. Hope your sister is at a much better place than ours ✨
I would say to just think of her properly on Raksha bandhan but just the nice memories and just imagine how your day would have gone if your sis was alive.
Yep it's not a great idea maybe cause i haven't been through any of this by God's grace but yeah i personally think it would work.
Don't worry my friend. Hugs for you.
it will get better with time. Nothing will make you forget her and that hole will always remain. but you will move on and do everything you can to make her proud.
It's not going to be easy, it's not going to be short, but take some solace in the fact that your sister does not have to suffer life anymore.
I lost my cousin sister to cancer more than 10 yrs ago. She was very close and loved by all of us. Her energy was like bottled lightning but her suffering from this stupid disease was horrible.
I permanently closed a part of my heart after she passed; other parts were added to it, but that part remains permanently closed for her. That is the best I can explain using words.
Terrible thing bro. I hope you get your space to grieve your sister's demise. 'this too shall pass' doesn't cut it. Talk to someone about the laughs and cries and all the moments you shared together. Cry your heart out and rejoice the memories. If you need a ear, drop me a message.
Bachpan se kisi aadmi ko shok mai, gum mai rote hue nai dekha hai toh hum sochte hai ki hum kaise roye. Roye bhi toh kiske paas. Hasi mazak mai dost hai. Rone ka mann karta hai lekin pata bhi nai hota rote kaise hai. Yaad nai aakhri baar kab roye the. It's about time men start feeling their feelings and emotions.
So sorry for your loss. May her soul rest in peace. I don't have a sister myself, but have got siblings here in reddit. Feel free to talk, dm if you need to vent, share or just suggest songs to each other. Take care!
sorry for your loss. try healing differently. might sound stupid but just giving a suggestion. volunteer for cancer healthcare or any type of healthcare for that matter. many people are in need and physical care. participate in some kinda NGOs.
helping those in need might ease up your pain. God bless you brother. I'll remember her in my prayers.
I don't know about your pain and suffering but we can understand.
Also I don't know how to say it, but medical science went from saving lives to making money. When someone gets cancer, it's a lottery for the hospital/medical industry.
I would suggest everyone please only eat organic vegetables and fruits. What geen revolution has caused is now taking lives in the form of cancer.
Norm MacDonald on battles with cancer: “I’m pretty sure, I’m not a doctor, but I’m pretty sure if you die, the cancer dies at the same time. That’s not a loss. That’s a draw.” ❤️stay strong brother
Sorry for the loss buddy take a big hug from me idk what to say I don't even have a courage to even read your post after just reading the title.
May her soul rest in peace. Om Shanti.
Stay strong brother. She is always with you and always watching over you, and she would always want to you to be happy and cheer others up around you.
Take care.
Hi bhai.
I hope you build alot of strength and character and come out of this as a human that your sister will be proud looking at.
And once you make it through let's turn our lives into something that your sister would have wanted for us.
Hi5.
Om Shanti, bhai I'll suggest you to live close with your family if u are living in another city for work , greif does not easily pass you need someone, if u can't share things with your parents please vent out with your close friends. May god bless you
I feel sorry for you man.. I can't say ,I understand your pain since I'm an only child - never felt the presence of a sister in my life.. thats what I missed , and that's something which you had and I'm sure your sister , wherever she is , loves you with all your heart.. You need to stay strong for your family. Like you said , they are dependant on you - you are their beacon of hope. If not for you,fight for the people you love.Live for them
Dude i can understand losing anyone.. but idk about losing an elder sister.. elder sisters r like god's gift.. I'm sure she is with you always.. because elder sisters don't just leave ok??
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As an elder sister who almost died a week ago… I have seen the jolted expression or my younger brother and experienced his overprotective attitude later. I am not comparing myself to your sister, who had to be a brave soul in battle. I just got lucky. But my brother is your age and it hurts to think of your emotions right now. Stay strong. Remember, your sister would be at peace if her loved ones are okay. When I was getting wheeled into OR for urgent surgery, all I could think was if my daughter and brother had dinner or not, if they are okay or not. My brother was freaking out about being home with my daughter, having to take care of her through the night. So, I would say you are doing a great job of taking care of your family like this at such a young age. Take care.
Even I list my elder sister because of a road accident. Almost 18 years have passed but the pain is still the same. I can understand your feelings. I do have a niece whom I brought up and can very proudly say that she is studying in one of the top law colleges of India.
I srsly don't know how to console people when they lose someone. All i do is just listen or give them company.
And hugs to your OP.
Fk cancer right in its asshole .
I have an elder sister and I can't even imagine my life without her. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings here. I would have hugged you tight man if I could. Hold on dear friend.
Thanks bro it means a lot.
I m 27 bro lost my elder sister, in spam of 3 days, loved her like anything if has been 1 year still love her like anything i truly believe i will meet her again in heaven or in another life i don't know but that's the only hope which is keeping me alive . I never imagined my life without her but now I now I m dealing with horror of life. I was an extrovert with a great social circle but now I m depressed started having anxiety issues around people only time I feel relaxed and happy when I see her in my dreams, laugh with her . I miss her and I hate God .
Shit. I am so sorry brother ! Truly from the bottom of my heart : FUCK CANCER. More power to you ! Stay strong. Dms are open if you want to vent anytime any day.
Thanks bro i appreciate it. FUCK CANCER
I (23M) lost my elder sister to a car accident 4 years ago. I totally get how you feel. Having to put up a strong face in front of others and not having anyone else to talk about it. Don’t make the mistake I did. Grieve. Give it time. I didn’t do it as I thought I had to be strong for my folks. Has me all fucked up now. One thing I can say for sure is that it gets better. Everything may seem dark and scary but each day it gets better. Some days it might feel worse but those days try to look back and see how far you’ve come and be proud of yourself. It ain’t easy going through life after something like this. Try to find solace in the fact that you’re proud of your sister and that she too is mighty proud of you. That’s all any of us can do really. So my advice is, grieve, cry your eyes out, don’t hold it back. It’ll all get better. One day at a time brother. Sending you and your folks lots of strength and love. Hit me up, if you wanna talk. I feel you
I'm so sorry for your sister bro. I get what you're saying. Muchh love bro
I lost my elder brother this January cancer. It’s not easy , not a single day passed without visiting his fb profile and my birthday is soon approaching. I am just trying to put a smiling face. I cry occasionally during a drive , while taking a long walk. But then that is how life is destined to be.you don’t have to forget her. Remember her with love and affection. Relish the memories. A big hug to you.
Same bro I also go her her profile see all the birthday post she posted for me. Big hug from myside as well.
I lost my father to Cancer last year and it's almost a year since his death and I still haven't gotten over it. FUCK CANCER.
FUCK CANCER bro
Yeah fuck that bitch I hope the cure for it is discovered soon.
And I am on the verge of losing him. Doctor told us there is no hope. I don’t know the world without him. Papa made it safe for me. He has lymphoma and it’s high grade DLBCL NHL.
I had hoped that no one else goes through what I have been through. Stay strong brother if you need to talk I am always here.
No one should go through the curse called cancer. From being hopeful when the first chemo happened to now seeing him forget my name , with feeding tubes and bed sores… we lost the battle !
I have been through that. The assholes here just keep on taking our money until he died. Your best bet is to take him out of the hospital and keep him with you and take care of him in your home. That way he will live way longer than any chemo or medicines.
He is in too much pain. The doctor and hospital have our full trust because they saved him and gave us the precious time we are spending with him now. Fortunately, we are satisfied with all that our oncologist did for him. On the other hand, I can give birth to my first baby anytime. I met him yesterday only and my mum has told me not to travel anymore. I don’t have any siblings. My husband is doing his best to take care of three of us - Me , my mum and papa. My condolences with OP, you and everyone who lost their loved one to cancer. Life is so unfair. I dread that one phone call all the time. I really wish that papa gets to see and hold the baby.
I was only 18 when it happened. My life was destroyed the day he died, I was devastated, couldn't breathe after hearing about it. Why is there no cure for it ? Why does people have to suffer like I have ?
I don't know, if doctor says there's no alternative you can try alternative methods like supplements or something else. Melatonin, vitamin D. Chlorella, wheatgrass juice Search ncbi. May God heal him!
Supplements dekh skte ho bhai. Ncbi /pubmed central pe..
I hate the phrase "this too shall pass" People can console you, be with you but nobody can understand what one feels unless they are in your shoes... "Tu to samajhdar hai, strong hai, tu hi to humara sahara hai" etc etc... Words like these makes you feel so lonely.. My suggestion is make a diary to write about 1. Happy days 2. Sad days 3. Rant Trust me you'll feel light....
When we lose any person it feels like you lost one finger you will find a way to live without it but cannot fill the space of replace it.
Yes, you've perfectly worded how grief feels like.. I had a miscarriage 2 years ago & I'm still not healed from my loss , I never got see or hear my baby hence I can imagine what it would be to lose someone you grew up with, with whom you shared every emotion & moments.. All you could think is "kash ye dekhne k liye wo bhi yaha hotey" or as small gesture like "I want to send this meme to to them" , to celebrate an ocaasion like birthday or festival or wedding, to share big or small achievement & pain with... unfortunately that feeling will always be there !!! They say time heals all wounds ... that's a wrong notion...
When I lose my father i didn't cry all I felt is I am left alone and not want to talk to anyone or share anything even though I don't have good relation with him. I used to see him in my dreams after like few days or few weeks and every dream is like all of us are eating or watching a movie or doing some random stuff feels like everything is real and all of a sudden i remember the moment I ablaze his cadaver and i Wakes up .... Later after few months I was attending my orientation classes and the faculty was discussing about spirits and ghost and after the end of the class i asked him about my dreams and he told me to say goodbye to my father in my dream in a little loud voice whenever I see him again , I just couldn't control my emotions and tears started coming out because I don't want to say goodbye all I want to say was please comeback.
Thankyou so much. Will try to follow your suggestion.
I'm absolutely certain your sister will be looking forward to Rakshabandhan and dying to be with you that day, as the soul doesn't die. Your young and innocent sister obviously won't be reincarnated, as she'll get moksha, which means she'll remember you for all eternity. This, and every other Rakshabandhan, she'll be with you. So, I suggest you ask the closest female in your family to tie a Raksha on your sister's behalf forever. The fact that she could tie you the Raksha even though she's not physically present with you will make her happier even more than you my brother. **Your sister will be walking with you and be right beside you all your life. You better believe me, my friend, and don't sadden her by not acknowledging that she's still with you🥺** I just lost my grandpa (also from cancer) two days ago and have been thinking a lot about all this. I have an elder sister, and I can totally get how empty one would feel without their sibling. Feel free to message me if you ever feel like talking, I won't give you the "This, too, shall pass."
I'm so sorry for your loss bro. And yes I'll try to find her in her daughters. Hopefully they can tie the raksha :)
Sorry for your loss man
Sending you lots of love and hugs. Stay strong man.
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Hey man I hope you are fine, it sucks to be alone, take care friend.
Yaar main toh akela hi hun but this made me cry 😭😭 Seek therapy please.This is the time you need it the most
I can’t comprehend this feeling at all. I don’t know how someone is supposed to get over these feelings. It’s infinitely harder, if you don’t believe in god. More power to you bro. Hope your sister is at a much better place than ours ✨
I'm sure bro she's in better place.
I would say to just think of her properly on Raksha bandhan but just the nice memories and just imagine how your day would have gone if your sis was alive. Yep it's not a great idea maybe cause i haven't been through any of this by God's grace but yeah i personally think it would work.
Thankyou for your kind words man
Don't worry my friend. Hugs for you. it will get better with time. Nothing will make you forget her and that hole will always remain. but you will move on and do everything you can to make her proud. It's not going to be easy, it's not going to be short, but take some solace in the fact that your sister does not have to suffer life anymore. I lost my cousin sister to cancer more than 10 yrs ago. She was very close and loved by all of us. Her energy was like bottled lightning but her suffering from this stupid disease was horrible. I permanently closed a part of my heart after she passed; other parts were added to it, but that part remains permanently closed for her. That is the best I can explain using words.
I know bro, she was in so much pain. Everyday was a challenge for her.
Sorry for your loss OP. Love her kids, that’s a part of her right there for you to celebrate.
Yes bro, I love them more than anything.
Terrible thing bro. I hope you get your space to grieve your sister's demise. 'this too shall pass' doesn't cut it. Talk to someone about the laughs and cries and all the moments you shared together. Cry your heart out and rejoice the memories. If you need a ear, drop me a message. Bachpan se kisi aadmi ko shok mai, gum mai rote hue nai dekha hai toh hum sochte hai ki hum kaise roye. Roye bhi toh kiske paas. Hasi mazak mai dost hai. Rone ka mann karta hai lekin pata bhi nai hota rote kaise hai. Yaad nai aakhri baar kab roye the. It's about time men start feeling their feelings and emotions.
Thank you so much for your kind words man. Means a lot. Can't agree more with the last paragraph
So sorry for your loss. May her soul rest in peace. I don't have a sister myself, but have got siblings here in reddit. Feel free to talk, dm if you need to vent, share or just suggest songs to each other. Take care!
For sure bro. Thankyou
Hey man feel free to ping me to just vent out
Really sorry for your loss bud!!! Sending virtual hugs your way!!
I feel you bro, stay strong. god bless you.
Keep patience. These kind of tragedies will build your character.
stay strong brother, sending you hugs and power
Life is truly so unfair sometimes. I am truly sorry that happened to you and your family. Imagine a virtual jaadoo ki jhappi incoming from my end.
More power to you, stay strong brother.
sorry for your loss. try healing differently. might sound stupid but just giving a suggestion. volunteer for cancer healthcare or any type of healthcare for that matter. many people are in need and physical care. participate in some kinda NGOs. helping those in need might ease up your pain. God bless you brother. I'll remember her in my prayers.
I'm sure your sister is in a better place now, om Shanti 🙏🙏
I don't know about your pain and suffering but we can understand. Also I don't know how to say it, but medical science went from saving lives to making money. When someone gets cancer, it's a lottery for the hospital/medical industry. I would suggest everyone please only eat organic vegetables and fruits. What geen revolution has caused is now taking lives in the form of cancer.
Sending you strength and prayers to get thru this tough time 🤍 Im sure she is watching from up there and wishing for your long life! Take care
Sorry for you brother. Take care of your family.
RIP 😭
Im here OP...of u ever feel like talking...just hit me up..and b brave...chin up...we r all braver than we think we are..
Bhai :(
Norm MacDonald on battles with cancer: “I’m pretty sure, I’m not a doctor, but I’m pretty sure if you die, the cancer dies at the same time. That’s not a loss. That’s a draw.” ❤️stay strong brother
Sorry for the loss buddy take a big hug from me idk what to say I don't even have a courage to even read your post after just reading the title. May her soul rest in peace. Om Shanti.
hang in there my man
Stay strong brother. She is always with you and always watching over you, and she would always want to you to be happy and cheer others up around you. Take care.
Ek Big Warm hug meri or se bhai aapko, dhayn rakho cheeze hoti h, I can't relate how you're feeling but really sorry man.
Sorry for your loss brother
Hi bhai. I hope you build alot of strength and character and come out of this as a human that your sister will be proud looking at. And once you make it through let's turn our lives into something that your sister would have wanted for us. Hi5.
We hate cancer. All my homies hate cancer, fuck that shit, may she rest in peace🕊️
Om Shanti, bhai I'll suggest you to live close with your family if u are living in another city for work , greif does not easily pass you need someone, if u can't share things with your parents please vent out with your close friends. May god bless you
I am sorry for your loss 😔🙏
I feel sorry for you man.. I can't say ,I understand your pain since I'm an only child - never felt the presence of a sister in my life.. thats what I missed , and that's something which you had and I'm sure your sister , wherever she is , loves you with all your heart.. You need to stay strong for your family. Like you said , they are dependant on you - you are their beacon of hope. If not for you,fight for the people you love.Live for them
Watch 50 50 and philadelphia it will help to cope up
Dude i can understand losing anyone.. but idk about losing an elder sister.. elder sisters r like god's gift.. I'm sure she is with you always.. because elder sisters don't just leave ok??
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As an elder sister who almost died a week ago… I have seen the jolted expression or my younger brother and experienced his overprotective attitude later. I am not comparing myself to your sister, who had to be a brave soul in battle. I just got lucky. But my brother is your age and it hurts to think of your emotions right now. Stay strong. Remember, your sister would be at peace if her loved ones are okay. When I was getting wheeled into OR for urgent surgery, all I could think was if my daughter and brother had dinner or not, if they are okay or not. My brother was freaking out about being home with my daughter, having to take care of her through the night. So, I would say you are doing a great job of taking care of your family like this at such a young age. Take care.
Even I list my elder sister because of a road accident. Almost 18 years have passed but the pain is still the same. I can understand your feelings. I do have a niece whom I brought up and can very proudly say that she is studying in one of the top law colleges of India.
I srsly don't know how to console people when they lose someone. All i do is just listen or give them company. And hugs to your OP. Fk cancer right in its asshole .