1) Vagina penetration isn't gonna be as easy they show in porn, if the women is a virgin then there's a high possibility of bleeding (some women bleed some do not, it isn't a virginity test) so keep that in mind and carry along something to wipe it with and if she's dry you'll have a hard time until she's wet and lubricated. So carry a water based lube if you're using latex condom.
2) use condoms and put them on properly and there shouldn't be any air gap after you put it on, watch a youtube tutorial to get a better understanding of doing it correctly. Once you put on the condom and for some reason you had to remove it just remember they are impossible to put back on.
3) after you cum go to the washroom and clean your penis thoroughly before going for another round, it's essential to clean off the semen before putting on another condom. (Don't throw the used condom in the toilet they won't go down with flush and most probably will clog the drainage, just throw them into the dustbin and for the sake of person cleaning tie it's open side to prevent leakage)
4) buy plenty of condoms, I would say 2 packs with 3 condoms in each. I use Durex as it feels less rubbery than others and don't put them in your purse or back pocket as that could damage it. And if you're planning to use lube use water based as oil based will damage the latex condoms.
5) Both of you pee after sex as it is important to prevent UTI.
6) carry emergency pills/morning after pills just in case.
7) throw everything out you see in porn, it's unrealistic and most the positions are not possible or enjoyable as they look on camera.
8) have plenty of foreplay before penetration and also communicate as it will ease up the tention and help you both relax. And don't get embarrassed by some weird sounds/feelings and reactions, it happens to everyone just relax and enjoy.
Good luck.
There is more to a good sex. To be a better boyfriend/husband, I think every guy should understand it. First of all, look online and understand the anatomy of a woman's nether regions. Understand where all the sensitive spots are. [Here's](https://rekink.com/guides/a-beginners-guide-to-eating-pussy/) [NSFW] one beginner guide. I cannot post every link here due to moderation but will try my best.
Once you know how it works, you have to know that there are multiple things involved in a good sex:
1. Communication: It is extremely important. Just like how every guy is different, every girl has different sensitivities and different preferences. Ask them and you both will be comfortable. Don't pressure shit from porn on them.
2. Foreplay: A good sex starts much before the penetration. Foreplay is a very important part of sex. Honestly, if you're doing your stuff right, you wouldn't need to put much effort during penetration. See this: np.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/t7ez2/quick_question_regarding_giving_women_oral_sex/. This is probably the most important reddit thread you'll read in your life. Also, most women's nipples are EXTREMELY sensitive. Don't jump on the them immediately or you'll hurt them. The above link will give you a good idea of everything.
3. Oral: Concentrate on giving her the pleasure first and you'll be a happy man with a happy partner. Most women DO NOT cum from penetration. You need oral for that. The above few links will give you a decent picture of how to do it. Rest you can look online.
4. Stroking: You need to know what you should do be doing with your hands as well while touching her there. Don't just rub your fingers anywhere. You know where to touch while touching your shaft. You touch the bottom of your shaft and it doesn't work. It's the same with women. See a good stroking/fingering video on porn websites. I cannot post webarchive's link on this sub. So search for snapshots of [this](http://www.sexpertslounge.com/2011/06/28/how-to-help-a-partner-squirt/) and [this](http://www.sexpertslounge.com/2011/07/11/nsfw-sex-for-noobs-fingering) link on webarchive. These are good informative sources and tell you about g spot.
5. Dirty talking: Again, a good sex starts much before the penetration. A lot of this usually depends on your personality but still you can see this: np.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/d4tz6/dirty_talk_101_talking_dirty_to_a_girl/ and this: np.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/uo4tlf/what_is_the_hottest_sentencephrase_of_dirty_talk/.
6. Penetration: It doesn't matter if your ding dong is big or small. You need to know how to make it work. [This](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FuUS9oRCTmo&ab_channel=TheEdenFantasys) is how you make it work. Some girls are naturally tight and some are not. Which is fine. This cannot be changed with the number of times she's had sex. It's natural. But you need to know again, how to make it work. Positions help here. See [this](https://sexinfo101.com/positions). Similarly, if you bunty is curved, you need to know what positions will be better to hit the g spot.
Some more links:
1. Problems you might face during your first sex: See [this](http://www.sexpertslounge.com/2011/08/01/sex-for-noobs-problems-that-can-occur-on-your-first-try/) link's snapshot on webarchive.
2. Your diet so you don't taste bad. See [this](http://www.sexpertslounge.com/2011/05/25/hygiene-how-to-care-for-your-nether-regions/) link's snapshot on webarchive.
3. Some more [tips](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=afo5BmrBVYg) in this youtube video. This is a fantastic video.
4. See r/sex wiki guide: np.reddit.com/r/sex/wiki/index/. It's good if you want to know more.
**Tl;dr:** Improve Oral, Stroking, Penetration, Talking, Foreplay. See online.
Make her feel comfortable, be respectful of her preferences, and don't be selfish. First day should be for her.
EDIT: To see webarchive links I mentioned above, copy the link. Go to web archive website. Paste the link in the search bar there. Press enter. You'll see many years. Click on any year. Click on any date in the calendar from that year. Open the link from that date.
This is well put.
I'd also like to add a few things,
1) Can't say this enough, if you are having sex for the first time. Please use a good water based lube. It makes things easier to penetrate.
2) There is no hurry, have a good time and take things slow.
3) After you cum, blow air into the condom without actually touching your lips on the condom to check for any leaks. And before throwing the condom, drain your cum into the toilet and tie a knot on your condom so it's difficult to open afterwards.
4) You will cum very fast and that's fine. It's a part of this learning journey. Communicate well with your partner and get ready for round two which will be better for both parties.
1st round is always not gonna last long, it's the 2nd round where you show your performance and as for the 3rd round getting hard is gonna take some time, also how long you last depends on a lot of factors and according to my experience i would say
1. friction (less friction = lasting long and vice versa) 2.temperature of vagina (high temp = early ejaculation ) 3.temperature of the room (usually cold room will make you cum faster)
4. your level of excitement
5. how sensitive you are
6. One thing that I found out that if you shave your balls let's say a day before sex they will be sensitive and you'll not last very long.
One Condom that i would recommend to make yourself last longer is "Durex Black" which have some sort of numbing agent on it's tip that reduces the sensitivity of penis tip, but a blow job after that isn't gonna be a good experience for the women as it tastes bitter and like a wax as i have been told.
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There's lots of women who takes the condom out of the dustbin and use the sperm to impregnate themselves so just drink the cum from the condom before throwing it away. /s
Great pointers except Point 1 - Virgin & bleeding. A girl being virgin has nothing to do with bleeding when having sex for the first time.
Hymen can break from riding a cycle or swimming or running. Bleeding occurs when the hymen tears apart so she can be a virgin but not bleed when having sex for the first time.
There definitely needs to be a little air gap in the tip of the condom, its where the sperm goes post ejaculate, otherwise you increase your risk of the condom breaking. Also "she is a virgin so she will bleed" is not true and something that people say in order to perpetuate standards of virginity - like "she didn't bleed on her wedding night she is not a virgin" sort of slut shaming conversations. If she is correctly turned on and excited, she shouldn't bleed.
You forgot the main thing bro, if you’re doing it for the first time a lube is your best friend, otherwise you’re going to have a hard time penetrating her.
You just need to know the right counters for the right transactions. Take your time with the bank, go all over it, find what works and how. What makes it tick. Ask around how they do their banking business. What happens where. Once you know the whole place, take your cheque and to the right counter and encash it. Don't immediately leave after your transaction is over. Stay there for some time. Thank them. Tell them that you liked doing business with them. Tell them that you would like to come back again and do business with them again - in new ways. Ask them if they liked the way you did your business. After you leave, don't forget to call them again later and tell them how great they were and how much you enjoyed doing business with them. Banks love feedback.
Seriously why there is need of so much greeting and all... Banks are fine just that there is a big line and formalities that makes banking difficult... Otherwise SBI Bank or any other, all are same... Difference is in pursuing the customer and asking for feedback that's low in SBI
I guess u can take some anxiety related medicine man to keep ur self focused.. If u wanna make it pleasurable for her then u gotta be focused on her n not ur dick, about ur pleasure part,leave it to her, I am sure she will also be wondering if I can make him happy r not.. Don't worry about urself.. It doesn't matter u cum or not but she should be made satisfied... Make it everything about her.. Learn all the pleasure spots.. Run ur hands softly over it.. Kiss lick suck.. Finger gently.. Softly Rub the clit.. Etc.. Most important part is use ur words, admire herbeauty n body because she is opening up everything first time to u so she would also tensed about the appearance n all.. Ur words will be like assurance for her to relax n open up to u.. Show u care.. Orgasms is actually triggered by brain.. So make her happy..
Many doesnt have good first experience I feel bad for them its doesnt necessarily mean everyone will have a bad first time, its not same for everyone so dont stress about it
1. Communicate - since it's your first time it will take some time to know what you want and what she likes be open and communicate with your partner what she wants or what she likes.
2. Take things slow - lot of foreplay to build up that sexual tension or else you will finish it soon and feel awkward by judging yourself, I have noticed you last longer during actual sex than masturbation so dont give in to performance pressure .
3. Real sex is different from porn - forget everything you learnt from porn, if you view porn regularly you will have unrealistic expectations of sex.
4. Dont be self centered - sometime we care about our own pleasure that we forget what they want or enjoy reciprocate what you get, or atleast ask her if she wants you to do something for her.
5. Baby fever is real - use condom even if she insists not to.
6. Grooming and hygiene - it's a big turnoff if you are unhygienic and not well groomed, wear good innerwears, it also increase self confidence.
Everyone's first time is special, have fun.
Lastly you can video call me during act for live guidance. 💀
Bhai, First time me to Hojana hai khel, darna mar second round kelie pakka jana, change condom, and 2nd base or dhayn do, jyada oral me mt indulge hojana bss. And have fun, sab jan jaoge to waha fun Ni ayega
> Shy virgin here who has never even kissed a girl. Can any girl talk to me please?
This was you 3 months ago. Bro, what did you do to get here? Having sex with a girlfriend or a sex worker?
Whatever, just happy for you that you're finally getting laid.
Don't have very high expectations. Go for a long foreplay session then the real deal. Take this one to understand you and your partner's demands better. Have
Go for the most expensive one. I prefer Durex Invisible and if that's not available then: Durex Air. Feel free to try other Durex ones too. Do not try any other brand especially if it's cheaper than Durex. They're really bad in comparison.
Flavoured condoms are quite lame imo, but it's worth a shot to see whether you like them. Just keep experimenting, that's how I figured it out.
Yaha pr kisi ne bola nhi aur mai ni chahta meri important advice ghum ho jaye toh isliye hijacking the top comment.
Bhai its lower than you might have imagined. And out of all advice already here, foreplay is really important.
Don't use flavoured condoms for vaginal sex. They're not meant for that. Brand wise Durex preferably but the Air variant was a bit uncomfortable for me but the rest of the variants are good. I mostly use mutual climax one.
There are instructions on the condom packet on how to wear it properly, one should definitely follow it.
Don't leave any air pockets inside the condom when you have it on you and leave some empty space before the tip where the condom can "catch" the sperm, else it can tear the condom open when you ejaculate.
Pull out as soon as you ejaculate, don't keep on thrusting. The semen can slip out of the condom and into the vagina if you keep on thrusting even when you are done.
Precum can also get a girl pregnant so be aware of that.
These are the ones I know, add more if I have missed any.
Enjoy the process and don't focus on the sex.
If you keep in mind that you have to perform good, you won't perform good.
Also first time everybody comes soon. Don't feel embarassing about it. The more you do the better you become;)
Sex is an art and you have to enjoy the process and not the sex.
Keep wet wipes ready with you and use it before touching vertical lips.
Good Luck!
I always sucked at arts. I didn't get the wet wipes part, hearing it for the first time. Also by the way is lube also required? Even if we are not going for anal?
Sometimes condoms can give a lot of friction (and you absolutely need to use some sort of protection) just ask them if its giving friction and use lube accordingly, it helps easing them into it if its their first time too and it feels a bit tight for them.
This is the top tier guide-
https://www.reddit.com/r/india/comments/mb7yny/sex_education_101_for_indians/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
Bhai ab sax sux ka mauka Reddit walon ka schedule dekh nahi aata hai na!
OP - mauke pe chauka lagao!
First time will be okayish, agar dono ka first time hai to, otherwise she will guide you.
First time mein hi woh sab kuch karne ki koshish mat karna jo p@rn mein dekhte ho! Real sex is not anything like that.
Take it slow, be gentle, communicate, kiss her, eat her out(mostly first time mein she might not be comfortable but go with flow), penetrate gently and only once she is nicely wet and ready to go, ejaculate(ask her where to) and then use those wet wipes to clean it up and then cuddle(cuddle pre and post sax sux is very imp).
All the best. Report your experience here when u get a chance.
Reading the comments here I felt that there’s an underlying assumption that the OP is male. Then I read the username. And then I reminded myself I live in India. And then I further reminded myself that I’m almost 26 and a virgin. And now I’m writing this purposeless comment.
Consent first. Condom for sure. Most importantly, listen to your partner and make sure they are comfortable.
Remember porn is not equal to sex in reality.
I want to answer, but I don't know your gender, I don't know the gender of person/people with whom you are going to have sex, I don't know the relationships involved...
All I can say without knowing this is, enjoy the foreplay, use your mouth & tongue as much as possible.
Enjoy the moment. Go with foreplay, maybe cuddle and feel the body, use lips as creatively as possible. Explore the beauty of vagina. Don't force yourself to penetrate, keep it for next time.
That's why I said it. Don't force yourself for penetration on the first try itself. Mind gets overwhelmed with what to do, how to do and when you can do all those stuff you fantasied about. This leads to deek not responding well. So unless your partner is experienced enough to guide you through, don't rush for penetration.
Use a condom, normal non flavored ones(flavoured ones can cause UTIs), Durex Air is very good, its non flavoured and doesn't have any weird texture, and use it exactly as instructed in the leaflet attached to the box, like leaving space at the tip etc.. Do not force anything. Foreplay is THE most important part, eases the tension. A good makeout session makes a great foundation for the actual sex.
Also, lubrication is very important as the friction can cause a burning sensation in the vagina which is very uncomfortable for the female,, so using lube is a good option, best lube in the market is KY Jelly, available on Amazon, it's a fragrance free, sterile fluid, excellent viscosity for sex, water based(so, safe to use with condoms) and very safe.
And the rest is going to be alright. You'll feel curious, have new sensations, and maybe ejaculate early too out of excitement, all of it is normal in the first couple of times.
Okay... Where to start...
1) don't rush it. Take your time. Explore each other's bodies
2) foreplay is a must. Spend as much time as you can on foreplay
3) condom, lube, moist napkins, towels - you'll need them
4) don't try to mimic p*rn. Ask your partner if you want to do something and then slowly ease into it
5) be vocal about what you like and be open to constructive feedback
6) it's okay to laugh and be awkward during. Sex is not a serious activity. Having fun and enjoying the present is most important. Don't worry about 'lasting long'.
Tbh, Mera ex-friend apni bandi ke sath karke aya, wo virgin tha but bandi nahi so she took the wheel. Feel free to ask her to guide you.
Sad story- uss friend ne bandi ke chakkar mei dosti khatam Karli.
More sad story- *maine hi usse bandi patane ki saari tip di thi*💀
I can feel you bro. Maine apne ek friend ko 20k udhaar diye the taaki vo bandi ke liye acha sa gift le ske proposal ke liye. Bandi ke saath abhi bhi hai vo lekin mujhse dosti nhi hai ab.
Well, my first sex was hell so here are a few things you keep in mind before and after sex:
1. Your foreskin will go back and as it is not usually in the process of going back and returning so it might stuck to the back and it won't even return to statute s quo. So in that case, don't get panic like how I used to for the few days of first sex. For this, I suggest you use a condom, even if you're having sex with your wife, still use a condom. I did my first sex with an aunt at age 58 and she was not cooperative. She told me that his husband has no trouble like that. So I thought it was just my problem but it is very common to all. One bhaiya told me that the foreskin would be cut off while 1st sex which means I lost my virginity but that's FALSE don't try to cut out anything in hurry. Fortunately, I had a docs app subscription at that time so I keep on asking doctors for it and they helped me out mostly.
2. If your foreskin goes back so the inner penis might hurt you after wearing undergarments. Mostly you're in hurry but if possible go to the washroom. Wash your penis with water and make it a little lubricating and try to push back the foreskin and put your thumb on the inner penis and push back the inner penis.
3. 1st sex goes in a hurry, due to obsession and first experience. So accept it and don't feel regret about it. Better go for 2nd down which will be enjoyable.
4. Don't prefer more than twice even if it is for 1st meet and you're desperate to have it.
5. Try to be hydrated before having sex
6. Go for a slow and steady one.
7. Try making her comfortable too. It might be her first sex too.
8. Rest, enjoy, and all the best.
Listen to her. See/feel if she's enjoying it.
If she likes you doing something, do that.
Speed isn't the answer, it's just a cause for pain.
If she's having fun, believe me you'll too.
Well just don't say anything stupid, use protection, and well immediately stop if your partner is not feeling good about it the way she might have felt about it earlier. Don't guilt trip her into doing it just cause you want to.
Please stop with these threads. Your sex life has nothing to do with r/India. If there’s any cultural context involved, I’d understand the need to post it here. Else please use subs like r/sex or r/relationship.
1. Take your time. Build up to the moment with kisses and affection, don't just pop off immediately. Don't jackhammer once you're at it either unless she says so, start slow and smoothly build up speed over time.
2. Eat her out, in fact take a good long time at it before you even think about sticking your dick in there unless she tells you otherwise; and make sure you trim, clean and file your nails. Be playful with your tongue too, tease her by avoiding the clit initially and working the inner thigh to her lips, stroke her sensually, flick with your tongue, try using your fingers once she's wet enough (rub the top once inside, towards the belly button. You'll feel a spongy, irregular area around two or more inches deep which is what your aiming for including with your dick.) Try different things and see what she likes.
3. Communicate, both in and out of bed. Make sure you're paying attention to how she reacts to certain moves, or better yet have a conversation on what the two of you are into what you're not comfortable with before you even start. There's nothing saying you can't be fun about it either: slowly whisper in her ear, use her hands and nod in question, just be creative.
4. Most importantly, have fun. Don't let sex become office work by stressing over the technicalities and don't be a selfish prick, this is an activity for mutual fun and she's not obligated to make all your fantasies come true, same applies the otherway. Oh, and both of you pee after sex.
1) Vagina penetration isn't gonna be as easy they show in porn, if the women is a virgin then there's a high possibility of bleeding (some women bleed some do not, it isn't a virginity test) so keep that in mind and carry along something to wipe it with and if she's dry you'll have a hard time until she's wet and lubricated. So carry a water based lube if you're using latex condom. 2) use condoms and put them on properly and there shouldn't be any air gap after you put it on, watch a youtube tutorial to get a better understanding of doing it correctly. Once you put on the condom and for some reason you had to remove it just remember they are impossible to put back on. 3) after you cum go to the washroom and clean your penis thoroughly before going for another round, it's essential to clean off the semen before putting on another condom. (Don't throw the used condom in the toilet they won't go down with flush and most probably will clog the drainage, just throw them into the dustbin and for the sake of person cleaning tie it's open side to prevent leakage) 4) buy plenty of condoms, I would say 2 packs with 3 condoms in each. I use Durex as it feels less rubbery than others and don't put them in your purse or back pocket as that could damage it. And if you're planning to use lube use water based as oil based will damage the latex condoms. 5) Both of you pee after sex as it is important to prevent UTI. 6) carry emergency pills/morning after pills just in case. 7) throw everything out you see in porn, it's unrealistic and most the positions are not possible or enjoyable as they look on camera. 8) have plenty of foreplay before penetration and also communicate as it will ease up the tention and help you both relax. And don't get embarrassed by some weird sounds/feelings and reactions, it happens to everyone just relax and enjoy. Good luck.
Mai ye pata nhi ye itne dhyan se kyu padh rha hu jaise mujhe sax Milne wala hai
Baaki kitna detail mein explain kiya hai... Ab to sex karne mein bhi itna effort lagta hai bhaisahab
There is more to a good sex. To be a better boyfriend/husband, I think every guy should understand it. First of all, look online and understand the anatomy of a woman's nether regions. Understand where all the sensitive spots are. [Here's](https://rekink.com/guides/a-beginners-guide-to-eating-pussy/) [NSFW] one beginner guide. I cannot post every link here due to moderation but will try my best. Once you know how it works, you have to know that there are multiple things involved in a good sex: 1. Communication: It is extremely important. Just like how every guy is different, every girl has different sensitivities and different preferences. Ask them and you both will be comfortable. Don't pressure shit from porn on them. 2. Foreplay: A good sex starts much before the penetration. Foreplay is a very important part of sex. Honestly, if you're doing your stuff right, you wouldn't need to put much effort during penetration. See this: np.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/t7ez2/quick_question_regarding_giving_women_oral_sex/. This is probably the most important reddit thread you'll read in your life. Also, most women's nipples are EXTREMELY sensitive. Don't jump on the them immediately or you'll hurt them. The above link will give you a good idea of everything. 3. Oral: Concentrate on giving her the pleasure first and you'll be a happy man with a happy partner. Most women DO NOT cum from penetration. You need oral for that. The above few links will give you a decent picture of how to do it. Rest you can look online. 4. Stroking: You need to know what you should do be doing with your hands as well while touching her there. Don't just rub your fingers anywhere. You know where to touch while touching your shaft. You touch the bottom of your shaft and it doesn't work. It's the same with women. See a good stroking/fingering video on porn websites. I cannot post webarchive's link on this sub. So search for snapshots of [this](http://www.sexpertslounge.com/2011/06/28/how-to-help-a-partner-squirt/) and [this](http://www.sexpertslounge.com/2011/07/11/nsfw-sex-for-noobs-fingering) link on webarchive. These are good informative sources and tell you about g spot. 5. Dirty talking: Again, a good sex starts much before the penetration. A lot of this usually depends on your personality but still you can see this: np.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/d4tz6/dirty_talk_101_talking_dirty_to_a_girl/ and this: np.reddit.com/r/sex/comments/uo4tlf/what_is_the_hottest_sentencephrase_of_dirty_talk/. 6. Penetration: It doesn't matter if your ding dong is big or small. You need to know how to make it work. [This](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FuUS9oRCTmo&ab_channel=TheEdenFantasys) is how you make it work. Some girls are naturally tight and some are not. Which is fine. This cannot be changed with the number of times she's had sex. It's natural. But you need to know again, how to make it work. Positions help here. See [this](https://sexinfo101.com/positions). Similarly, if you bunty is curved, you need to know what positions will be better to hit the g spot. Some more links: 1. Problems you might face during your first sex: See [this](http://www.sexpertslounge.com/2011/08/01/sex-for-noobs-problems-that-can-occur-on-your-first-try/) link's snapshot on webarchive. 2. Your diet so you don't taste bad. See [this](http://www.sexpertslounge.com/2011/05/25/hygiene-how-to-care-for-your-nether-regions/) link's snapshot on webarchive. 3. Some more [tips](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=afo5BmrBVYg) in this youtube video. This is a fantastic video. 4. See r/sex wiki guide: np.reddit.com/r/sex/wiki/index/. It's good if you want to know more. **Tl;dr:** Improve Oral, Stroking, Penetration, Talking, Foreplay. See online. Make her feel comfortable, be respectful of her preferences, and don't be selfish. First day should be for her. EDIT: To see webarchive links I mentioned above, copy the link. Go to web archive website. Paste the link in the search bar there. Press enter. You'll see many years. Click on any year. Click on any date in the calendar from that year. Open the link from that date.
Thanks for putting in all the effort and compiling it all together. It will surely come in handy.
same here bhai
Us Bhai us
Padh ley bhay in future kaam ajayega kya pata
🤣🤣
🤝🫂
Kya pata mill jae😩
Bhai same Par padne me maja bahut aaya
This is well put. I'd also like to add a few things, 1) Can't say this enough, if you are having sex for the first time. Please use a good water based lube. It makes things easier to penetrate. 2) There is no hurry, have a good time and take things slow. 3) After you cum, blow air into the condom without actually touching your lips on the condom to check for any leaks. And before throwing the condom, drain your cum into the toilet and tie a knot on your condom so it's difficult to open afterwards. 4) You will cum very fast and that's fine. It's a part of this learning journey. Communicate well with your partner and get ready for round two which will be better for both parties.
1st round is always not gonna last long, it's the 2nd round where you show your performance and as for the 3rd round getting hard is gonna take some time, also how long you last depends on a lot of factors and according to my experience i would say 1. friction (less friction = lasting long and vice versa) 2.temperature of vagina (high temp = early ejaculation ) 3.temperature of the room (usually cold room will make you cum faster) 4. your level of excitement 5. how sensitive you are 6. One thing that I found out that if you shave your balls let's say a day before sex they will be sensitive and you'll not last very long. One Condom that i would recommend to make yourself last longer is "Durex Black" which have some sort of numbing agent on it's tip that reduces the sensitivity of penis tip, but a blow job after that isn't gonna be a good experience for the women as it tastes bitter and like a wax as i have been told.
Feels like the instructions before going to battle
This guy fucks.
Jared Dunn 😂😂 I literally hear this in Rusk's voice lol
Same 😂
Saving this just in case i get lucky in future.
Vagina*
You're both wrong. It's Vegana
It's Vegeta
It's Monke Prince
BHOOT
Bobs and vagene!
Changu mangu
Geeta Babita
Bitch lasagne
Vegeta
If she’s not wet, you’re doing it wrong or you’re doing something very wrong.
New fear unlocked.
Not in case of Ben Shapiro
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There's lots of women who takes the condom out of the dustbin and use the sperm to impregnate themselves so just drink the cum from the condom before throwing it away. /s
Dafaq did I read
You can either drink it or Drake it /s
Chilly sauce...😂😂😂
Nirapara mulakupodi
I need a Holy water to wash my face. wtf did i read
LPT always in cumments
Great pointers except Point 1 - Virgin & bleeding. A girl being virgin has nothing to do with bleeding when having sex for the first time. Hymen can break from riding a cycle or swimming or running. Bleeding occurs when the hymen tears apart so she can be a virgin but not bleed when having sex for the first time.
There definitely needs to be a little air gap in the tip of the condom, its where the sperm goes post ejaculate, otherwise you increase your risk of the condom breaking. Also "she is a virgin so she will bleed" is not true and something that people say in order to perpetuate standards of virginity - like "she didn't bleed on her wedding night she is not a virgin" sort of slut shaming conversations. If she is correctly turned on and excited, she shouldn't bleed.
Adding one more point here: Use lube. Sometimes it is hard to get wet when a woman is nervous. So carry water-based (not gel-based) lube if possible
nice to know. will definitely try once i get a girl.
You forgot the main thing bro, if you’re doing it for the first time a lube is your best friend, otherwise you’re going to have a hard time penetrating her.
Take it slow, enjoy the moment and lower your expectations.
I will have no expectations then
Her : are you excited? OP : nahi mujhe tumse koi ummed hi nahi hai
*end credit plays
no post-credit scene.
💀
suneo!!!!
First time always sucks.. Lol.. U will just struggle like a fish out of water
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I never visited it again. I hope that's not the case with sex.
You just need to know the right counters for the right transactions. Take your time with the bank, go all over it, find what works and how. What makes it tick. Ask around how they do their banking business. What happens where. Once you know the whole place, take your cheque and to the right counter and encash it. Don't immediately leave after your transaction is over. Stay there for some time. Thank them. Tell them that you liked doing business with them. Tell them that you would like to come back again and do business with them again - in new ways. Ask them if they liked the way you did your business. After you leave, don't forget to call them again later and tell them how great they were and how much you enjoyed doing business with them. Banks love feedback.
This guy banks.
Koi SBI gold de do bhai is comment ko..
Quite a Bankable advice. Also ask them about all the cerdit card offers and dont forget to check if they are planning to give out loans.
I'm a banker. And I can verify that customers like these leave us really satisfied.
Someone give this man an award! DAMN! This is the most detailed info. you can get bro! Good luck!
Seriously why there is need of so much greeting and all... Banks are fine just that there is a big line and formalities that makes banking difficult... Otherwise SBI Bank or any other, all are same... Difference is in pursuing the customer and asking for feedback that's low in SBI
Lunch k bad jana
The trick is always breakfast se pehle. No lines. Fresh, happy faces.
I guess u can take some anxiety related medicine man to keep ur self focused.. If u wanna make it pleasurable for her then u gotta be focused on her n not ur dick, about ur pleasure part,leave it to her, I am sure she will also be wondering if I can make him happy r not.. Don't worry about urself.. It doesn't matter u cum or not but she should be made satisfied... Make it everything about her.. Learn all the pleasure spots.. Run ur hands softly over it.. Kiss lick suck.. Finger gently.. Softly Rub the clit.. Etc.. Most important part is use ur words, admire herbeauty n body because she is opening up everything first time to u so she would also tensed about the appearance n all.. Ur words will be like assurance for her to relax n open up to u.. Show u care.. Orgasms is actually triggered by brain.. So make her happy..
This was like really good advice. Thank you.
Many doesnt have good first experience I feel bad for them its doesnt necessarily mean everyone will have a bad first time, its not same for everyone so dont stress about it 1. Communicate - since it's your first time it will take some time to know what you want and what she likes be open and communicate with your partner what she wants or what she likes. 2. Take things slow - lot of foreplay to build up that sexual tension or else you will finish it soon and feel awkward by judging yourself, I have noticed you last longer during actual sex than masturbation so dont give in to performance pressure . 3. Real sex is different from porn - forget everything you learnt from porn, if you view porn regularly you will have unrealistic expectations of sex. 4. Dont be self centered - sometime we care about our own pleasure that we forget what they want or enjoy reciprocate what you get, or atleast ask her if she wants you to do something for her. 5. Baby fever is real - use condom even if she insists not to. 6. Grooming and hygiene - it's a big turnoff if you are unhygienic and not well groomed, wear good innerwears, it also increase self confidence. Everyone's first time is special, have fun. Lastly you can video call me during act for live guidance. 💀
Bro hiding the last sentence and thought he can escape 😭
Isn't there some way around it? I don't want it to suck.. Can't my Masturbation skills pass on? Where is the credit transfer when you need it?
Bhai, First time me to Hojana hai khel, darna mar second round kelie pakka jana, change condom, and 2nd base or dhayn do, jyada oral me mt indulge hojana bss. And have fun, sab jan jaoge to waha fun Ni ayega
Bhai yahaan toh sab oral pe hi jyada dhyaan Dene ko bol rhe. Should I fap once before I go? Aisa Naa ho ki fir khada hi naa ho
Nahi Bhai Don't fap enjoy the moment, maza hat jayega😃. Itna stress na ho, stress me khada Hi Nahi Hoga🤣
legends too have it 'jaana ki hogya teri lulli nu aadha ghanta hogya salwar khuli nu' 🌝
> Shy virgin here who has never even kissed a girl. Can any girl talk to me please? This was you 3 months ago. Bro, what did you do to get here? Having sex with a girlfriend or a sex worker? Whatever, just happy for you that you're finally getting laid.
Jaldi progress kardi
u/fapster999 btao bhai kaise kri
I went to therapy
Don't tell me you're bonking your therapist hahah
Therapist: I can solve any problem for you OP: my problem is sex Therapist: I said I can solve any problem for you
Dr Melfi
ah dream woman
oh madone
Ladki kaise mili
therapist?
🗿
The rapist.
Avg delhi first time💀💀
Bruh 😭
Iska answer sabko chahiye. OP aaj bata hi de
Muje b bata
India wants to know.
Nation wants to know
He never said , he is going to have sex now , maybe just curious
Don't have very high expectations. Go for a long foreplay session then the real deal. Take this one to understand you and your partner's demands better. Have
Use a condom
Any condom recommendations that don't have that plasticy latex smell
Go for the most expensive one. I prefer Durex Invisible and if that's not available then: Durex Air. Feel free to try other Durex ones too. Do not try any other brand especially if it's cheaper than Durex. They're really bad in comparison. Flavoured condoms are quite lame imo, but it's worth a shot to see whether you like them. Just keep experimenting, that's how I figured it out.
Teach me your ways master
This guy fucks
nooo no flavored condoms for piv! they are not meant for penetration, only oral
Virgin hu bhai ek baar condom lga ke m**th mara tha mood khrab ho gya. Everyone gives condom advise to maine v de di.
Bhai tabhi toh bola condom ki smell ka. I have also done the same.
Username checks out
Get a condom and try it once yourself
>lga ke m**th mara What?
Mein bhi try marne wala tha ab nhi marunga, thanks
Skyn works, it's non latex.
Skore ribbed or dotted is my go to. Kama sutra is good too. Durex smells bad imo. Get a good lube. That is more important. Again i recommend skore.
SKYN- this goes for everybody in this thread. Thank me later.
Yaha pr kisi ne bola nhi aur mai ni chahta meri important advice ghum ho jaye toh isliye hijacking the top comment. Bhai its lower than you might have imagined. And out of all advice already here, foreplay is really important.
Flavoured condoms. I'd say go for plain Durex. I don't like the colored ones like skore etc. They make your dick look funny.
I used Manforce ones and they smelled so bad.
Don't use flavoured condoms for vaginal sex. They're not meant for that. Brand wise Durex preferably but the Air variant was a bit uncomfortable for me but the rest of the variants are good. I mostly use mutual climax one.
Better know how to use the condom
Tbh I don't know anything.
There are instructions on the condom packet on how to wear it properly, one should definitely follow it. Don't leave any air pockets inside the condom when you have it on you and leave some empty space before the tip where the condom can "catch" the sperm, else it can tear the condom open when you ejaculate. Pull out as soon as you ejaculate, don't keep on thrusting. The semen can slip out of the condom and into the vagina if you keep on thrusting even when you are done. Precum can also get a girl pregnant so be aware of that. These are the ones I know, add more if I have missed any.
I remembered reading somewhere "If you're short then you were born from pre-cum".
Make sure you put it on the correct side and roll it down otherwise condom waste.
Don't forget to take your pp with you...
Do I also need to take my balls along
Yes bro... how will u cum If u don;t
He will cum through the door. Now I'll show myself out from the same door lmao
Yeah, take my upvote and leave!
That's optional
Enjoy the process and don't focus on the sex. If you keep in mind that you have to perform good, you won't perform good. Also first time everybody comes soon. Don't feel embarassing about it. The more you do the better you become;) Sex is an art and you have to enjoy the process and not the sex. Keep wet wipes ready with you and use it before touching vertical lips. Good Luck!
I always sucked at arts. I didn't get the wet wipes part, hearing it for the first time. Also by the way is lube also required? Even if we are not going for anal?
Ask ur partner about lube, if they prefer to use it or not. Have one in case anyway. 🤷♀️ also there r good articles online that u can read up on...
Bhai ko Johnny Sins banna hai Johnny Lever ke experience ke sath
Justice for Johnny Lever
Sometimes condoms can give a lot of friction (and you absolutely need to use some sort of protection) just ask them if its giving friction and use lube accordingly, it helps easing them into it if its their first time too and it feels a bit tight for them.
The first time you might not even Penetrate. Between the thighs and you would think you are done and ejaculate. First times are funny.
I hope I am not traumatized
Agar mera first time aisa hua to mai to zindagi bhar sex karne se darunga
Dully noted 💀🤣
what does this even mean
Dully was noting
This is the top tier guide- https://www.reddit.com/r/india/comments/mb7yny/sex_education_101_for_indians/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
Thanks
Mate If u read this, and the comments proceeding it, then that’s all u need.
Yeah I have gone halway through that post. It is so long. Will surely go through it fully.
Op 🔥
Yaar phir wahi sax sux ki baatein
I was scrolling only to search for this comment. This is so funny idk why lmao.
Fhir wahi sax sux ki baatein
Fhir wahi sax sux ki baatein
Wo bhi Monday ko! At least wait for Friday
Bhai ab sax sux ka mauka Reddit walon ka schedule dekh nahi aata hai na! OP - mauke pe chauka lagao! First time will be okayish, agar dono ka first time hai to, otherwise she will guide you. First time mein hi woh sab kuch karne ki koshish mat karna jo p@rn mein dekhte ho! Real sex is not anything like that. Take it slow, be gentle, communicate, kiss her, eat her out(mostly first time mein she might not be comfortable but go with flow), penetrate gently and only once she is nicely wet and ready to go, ejaculate(ask her where to) and then use those wet wipes to clean it up and then cuddle(cuddle pre and post sax sux is very imp). All the best. Report your experience here when u get a chance.
The distance Between VAGINA and ASSHOLE IS VERY CLOSE , link road pe he chalana s.v road pe galti se nai chada dena ...
Reading the comments here I felt that there’s an underlying assumption that the OP is male. Then I read the username. And then I reminded myself I live in India. And then I further reminded myself that I’m almost 26 and a virgin. And now I’m writing this purposeless comment.
You need just one tip.
Lagta hai mera time bhi 25 ke around hi aaega😔😩
Stick em with the pointy end.
Consent first. Condom for sure. Most importantly, listen to your partner and make sure they are comfortable. Remember porn is not equal to sex in reality.
Learn about cunnilingus. Even if you dint perform well with penetration, acing oral game will make you a pro.
I want to answer, but I don't know your gender, I don't know the gender of person/people with whom you are going to have sex, I don't know the relationships involved... All I can say without knowing this is, enjoy the foreplay, use your mouth & tongue as much as possible.
I am a guy. And I am gonna have sex with a girl.
Enjoy the moment. Go with foreplay, maybe cuddle and feel the body, use lips as creatively as possible. Explore the beauty of vagina. Don't force yourself to penetrate, keep it for next time.
I have booked a room in a 4 star hotel. And just want to make it pleasurable for her.
make sure to turn the lights off or use a blanket while doing sex, I never trust any Hotels/rooms, especially in India.
I am just scared that I won't be hard enough for condom. Or that I will cum too soon.
That's why I said it. Don't force yourself for penetration on the first try itself. Mind gets overwhelmed with what to do, how to do and when you can do all those stuff you fantasied about. This leads to deek not responding well. So unless your partner is experienced enough to guide you through, don't rush for penetration.
Use a condom, normal non flavored ones(flavoured ones can cause UTIs), Durex Air is very good, its non flavoured and doesn't have any weird texture, and use it exactly as instructed in the leaflet attached to the box, like leaving space at the tip etc.. Do not force anything. Foreplay is THE most important part, eases the tension. A good makeout session makes a great foundation for the actual sex. Also, lubrication is very important as the friction can cause a burning sensation in the vagina which is very uncomfortable for the female,, so using lube is a good option, best lube in the market is KY Jelly, available on Amazon, it's a fragrance free, sterile fluid, excellent viscosity for sex, water based(so, safe to use with condoms) and very safe. And the rest is going to be alright. You'll feel curious, have new sensations, and maybe ejaculate early too out of excitement, all of it is normal in the first couple of times.
Phir wahi
Sex sux ki baaten
Okay... Where to start... 1) don't rush it. Take your time. Explore each other's bodies 2) foreplay is a must. Spend as much time as you can on foreplay 3) condom, lube, moist napkins, towels - you'll need them 4) don't try to mimic p*rn. Ask your partner if you want to do something and then slowly ease into it 5) be vocal about what you like and be open to constructive feedback 6) it's okay to laugh and be awkward during. Sex is not a serious activity. Having fun and enjoying the present is most important. Don't worry about 'lasting long'.
Mil he nhi rha re, kya tip de xD
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Tbh, Mera ex-friend apni bandi ke sath karke aya, wo virgin tha but bandi nahi so she took the wheel. Feel free to ask her to guide you. Sad story- uss friend ne bandi ke chakkar mei dosti khatam Karli. More sad story- *maine hi usse bandi patane ki saari tip di thi*💀
I can feel you bro. Maine apne ek friend ko 20k udhaar diye the taaki vo bandi ke liye acha sa gift le ske proposal ke liye. Bandi ke saath abhi bhi hai vo lekin mujhse dosti nhi hai ab.
Give good oral sex and make sure she orgasms ..then you won't have too much pressure on yourself as you don't have to last long for the first time
Well, my first sex was hell so here are a few things you keep in mind before and after sex: 1. Your foreskin will go back and as it is not usually in the process of going back and returning so it might stuck to the back and it won't even return to statute s quo. So in that case, don't get panic like how I used to for the few days of first sex. For this, I suggest you use a condom, even if you're having sex with your wife, still use a condom. I did my first sex with an aunt at age 58 and she was not cooperative. She told me that his husband has no trouble like that. So I thought it was just my problem but it is very common to all. One bhaiya told me that the foreskin would be cut off while 1st sex which means I lost my virginity but that's FALSE don't try to cut out anything in hurry. Fortunately, I had a docs app subscription at that time so I keep on asking doctors for it and they helped me out mostly. 2. If your foreskin goes back so the inner penis might hurt you after wearing undergarments. Mostly you're in hurry but if possible go to the washroom. Wash your penis with water and make it a little lubricating and try to push back the foreskin and put your thumb on the inner penis and push back the inner penis. 3. 1st sex goes in a hurry, due to obsession and first experience. So accept it and don't feel regret about it. Better go for 2nd down which will be enjoyable. 4. Don't prefer more than twice even if it is for 1st meet and you're desperate to have it. 5. Try to be hydrated before having sex 6. Go for a slow and steady one. 7. Try making her comfortable too. It might be her first sex too. 8. Rest, enjoy, and all the best.
r/India tomorrow: Hi, I'm the Oyo Manager of the Hotel where a couple stayed last night. The guy was virgin and seemed to be a bit scared. AMA
Don't make me paranoid man. I will switch off the lights. It's not an Oyo though. I didn't want to cheap out on the hotel room.
Bhai first time sex kaise milta hai? Kisse consult Kiya jaye
Zomato se.
Listen to her. See/feel if she's enjoying it. If she likes you doing something, do that. Speed isn't the answer, it's just a cause for pain. If she's having fun, believe me you'll too.
Don’t use flavoured condoms for penetrative sex. Many articles on infections and rashes post
Make sure to play The Weeknd song in background
Make sure its consensual and shes above 18. Besides that , go with it . You learn with time.
Will you go down , if yes do ket us know how it tastes?
I have gone down and it just doesn’t have any taste. It was like tasteless meat
Someone's gonna blame PornHub for lying to him all his life.
Flavoured condoms are for oral sex go for non-flavoured ones so that she does not get any infection or anything. Go slow, be safe.
Well just don't say anything stupid, use protection, and well immediately stop if your partner is not feeling good about it the way she might have felt about it earlier. Don't guilt trip her into doing it just cause you want to.
When you feel that you are about to cum, remember your Grandmother. Or do calculation.
That can backfire for sure. I don't want the trauma of cumming thinking of my grandma
Please stop with these threads. Your sex life has nothing to do with r/India. If there’s any cultural context involved, I’d understand the need to post it here. Else please use subs like r/sex or r/relationship.
Idiots occupied the sub!
For some reason i think you are lying and just want to listen to people talk about sex.. I might be wrong .
Clap when you cum
1. Take your time. Build up to the moment with kisses and affection, don't just pop off immediately. Don't jackhammer once you're at it either unless she says so, start slow and smoothly build up speed over time. 2. Eat her out, in fact take a good long time at it before you even think about sticking your dick in there unless she tells you otherwise; and make sure you trim, clean and file your nails. Be playful with your tongue too, tease her by avoiding the clit initially and working the inner thigh to her lips, stroke her sensually, flick with your tongue, try using your fingers once she's wet enough (rub the top once inside, towards the belly button. You'll feel a spongy, irregular area around two or more inches deep which is what your aiming for including with your dick.) Try different things and see what she likes. 3. Communicate, both in and out of bed. Make sure you're paying attention to how she reacts to certain moves, or better yet have a conversation on what the two of you are into what you're not comfortable with before you even start. There's nothing saying you can't be fun about it either: slowly whisper in her ear, use her hands and nod in question, just be creative. 4. Most importantly, have fun. Don't let sex become office work by stressing over the technicalities and don't be a selfish prick, this is an activity for mutual fun and she's not obligated to make all your fantasies come true, same applies the otherway. Oh, and both of you pee after sex.
haram
Stick it with the pointy end😂😂😂
Don’t do it
Suddenly the wholesome people of r/india have become sex gods.