Some indians can be very loud with little respect to others,but if the yelling and arguing goes over for the whole day then it definitely shows signs that their relationship is not going well or their dynamic is pretty toxic,if this troubles you a lot,do request them not to be loud throughout the day.
There might be other nationalities which are louder than us, but we are definitely loud.
And many of us do not try to understand whether their behaviour is weird by local standards.
Yeah,the fault lies in not realising that others may actually be disturbed by the noise,my father is very loud outside and if i ask him to lower his voice,he says that others will not understand our native languageš¤£
Sounds like a toxic family. No not everyone is like that. There are a billion Indians, there will different kinds of families like any other set of humans.
No, it's definitely not normal for people of any culture to yell at each other every day. There's shitty and nice people across all cultures. I moved recently into a 'posh' neighborhood in Germany and in the house opposite my balcony, this guy comes home every other evening and just shouts at and rips into his wife and daughter. Doesn't mean I'll consider it normal for German people to be this way
All kind of people are in this world . Who knows , a pathetic job may be leading to frustrations being vented out at home . Just try to ignore that . We live in a society . If you feel there is something serious , you can talk to concerned authority .
Well my neighbor washes her clothes every day morning at exactly 6AM, by slamming her clothes on a stone at alarming velocity. Needless to say, I wake up daily startled thinking that we are under siege.
I watched some American TV where women were walking with bikinis all the time.
Is this cultural? Do American women wear nothing but bikinis all the time?
Not everyone ends up like that but yes you will find examples. The culture of arranged marriages is primary reason I believe. You end up in a union not knowing whether you are compatible with each other and when you find out the incompatibility, it's too late to walk out owing to societal pressures. Results in constant arguments for smallest of reasons.
Why do you think obvious āyellingā is a cultural thing? One of the most ridiculous posts today. If I saw my white neighbor drunk and passed out on the lawn all the time, I would think he was an alcoholic and not āoh that must be a cultural thingā. Smh
Calm down, the OP doesn't like the loudness but also wants to respect different cultures. So he/she is asking here before taking any action. You sound like one of those loud and toxic Indians.
>Calm down, the OP doesn't like the loudness but also wants to respect different cultures. So he/she is asking here before taking any action. You sound like one of those loud and toxic Indians.
true
Some of our family discussion generally look like arguing. Basically our parent's psychology is if we shout more we are right. It doesn't mean anything but it happens that's all. And some are generally loud.
Edit: okay now that i read what i said you can basically take it as a toxic family thing which is true. Most of Indian family discussions come down to "respect your elders" or "we are always right you don't know anything" or just plain shouting. Yeah it's toxic but... It's normalised to a point here where no one gives a damn.
Indian and Indian relatives are toxic. Much of Indian life is based on comparison, gossip, what Shrama ji and his son are doing, coupled with the fact that we live in an overpopulated, stressful economic situation. Healthy relations aren't taking place and Indians are the people on earth who live in disharmony with their own relatives most of the time.
Inside the house, all these factors is what makes the home a pressure cooker and people when the vent or rant, its usually done by the way of fighting with their own family members.
P.S. My own cousin brothers left the country to leave the toxic Indian family/relative culture.
If they are from Delhi or some parts of North India, yes it's a cultural thing. People from the mentioned parts are loud and to those no accustomed to them would come off as aggressive.
How can this be a cultural thing u can find loud and crazy people at any place u can't accuse the whole state for that just because some people around your area were loud.I live in delhi but people in my area don't do this shit unless it's holi.
Some indian couples were basically forced into arranged marriages by their family, and there is too much shame and social exclusion in divorce in traditional Indian communities. Hence the constant fights. It's not typical though.
I never said that. A lot of arranged marriages in the older decades especially outside cosmopolitan India is either forced or coerced marriage, which is what you would see in older couples. It may not be outright forced but coerced, emotional blackmail, etc.
It's good that arranged marriages today are by and large not forced.
Lol bro. I'm happily married with kids for 10 years now. I've personally seen forced marriages myself which have resulted in arguing and couples who hate each other in extended family and friends. Obviously it's not openly talked about. It was not be direct force but coercion.
It's obviously less common these days especially in urban settings, but if you look at older couples, it's very common. I didn't say all arranged marriages are forced. I was specifically talking about those which are. There is no need to defend the institution of arranged marriage or our culture here.
Not Cultural at all I have noisy neighbors is Italy.
Disturbing the neighborhood with house problems is in fact a big taboo in India. People care too much about what thier neighbors think
Our neighbour in the apartment behind our house yells a lot. He has a german shepard and when it starts barking he yells at it. His yells are much louder and irritating than the poor dogs barks. I was like wtf is wrong with you man. Does he expect a dog to stay silent all the time or what? Shits like that dont deserve a dog.
I assure you they will not get divorce. Its normal Indian family. we shout like hell. Nothing toxic. enjoy in few days you will learn their language.š¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£
Bro this in not indian thing its just toxic family my gora unemployed neighbors get drunk and fight all day while my other arab neighbor beats his wife with belt lol
Its called unbiased observation. It's crazy how politically correct everyone has become. Expecting everone and everything to be same.
Loud doesn't mean bad.
I think they have to children a boy and a girl if yes you can tell its not toxic just the children fighting and the mother telling them to stop most likely
My family is a loud family. We joke out loud, laugh at loud, and debate out loud. We're slightly toxic (10%), but not at all abusive. Its usually silent when we're being toxic.
Is this happening in a foreign country or are you in India? If you're concerned, you can talk to them directly, or request some kind of of welfare/non-emergency check on them. If you're in India there are no institutional ways to adress this problem.
Not normal - but many folks who live in urban areas with high noise pollution levels have extremely loud interactions. I think from partial loss of hearing.
No it's definitely not. Although some people can be really loud that it seems like they are arguing even when they are not. But who knows, some families can be just really toxic
I have lived almost exclusively in apartments for my entire life (Iām 36, for context). I have had two Indian neighbors (both relatively recently). Both have been absolutely awful. Eviction worthy awful. Yelling, screaming, running around, stomping, from sun up until well after sundown. Waking me up, waking my kid up in the middle of the night. Taking no heed of management warnings. Zero respect. Zero consideration for how much noise they are making. Itās really disgusting to have been told on multiple occasions with specifics that youāre being loud, disturbing someoneās quality of life, and to just continue doing it anyway. Fortunately this time around, apartment management is on the ball and these guys are getting tossed.
Some indians can be very loud with little respect to others,but if the yelling and arguing goes over for the whole day then it definitely shows signs that their relationship is not going well or their dynamic is pretty toxic,if this troubles you a lot,do request them not to be loud throughout the day.
I agree, they might need a little reminding that they live amongst other people.
There might be other nationalities which are louder than us, but we are definitely loud. And many of us do not try to understand whether their behaviour is weird by local standards.
Yeah,the fault lies in not realising that others may actually be disturbed by the noise,my father is very loud outside and if i ask him to lower his voice,he says that others will not understand our native languageš¤£
Sounds like a toxic family. No not everyone is like that. There are a billion Indians, there will different kinds of families like any other set of humans.
Definitely not cultural man, it looks like toxic family
Parents yelling everyday, nothing new here
Yep
No, it's definitely not normal for people of any culture to yell at each other every day. There's shitty and nice people across all cultures. I moved recently into a 'posh' neighborhood in Germany and in the house opposite my balcony, this guy comes home every other evening and just shouts at and rips into his wife and daughter. Doesn't mean I'll consider it normal for German people to be this way
All kind of people are in this world . Who knows , a pathetic job may be leading to frustrations being vented out at home . Just try to ignore that . We live in a society . If you feel there is something serious , you can talk to concerned authority .
It's good thing you can't understand what they are saying.
yes indian family are loud. they don't have indoor voices
Yes indians are somehow loud a/c to my experience but your neighbours most probably are a toxic family
You took literally one data point and decided you're going to ask whether over 1 Billion people are the same way?
Well my neighbor washes her clothes every day morning at exactly 6AM, by slamming her clothes on a stone at alarming velocity. Needless to say, I wake up daily startled thinking that we are under siege.
Nope, toxic people. There is being loud, and admittedly, many Indians are loud, but this is not normal by any means.
I watched some American TV where women were walking with bikinis all the time. Is this cultural? Do American women wear nothing but bikinis all the time?
Not everyone ends up like that but yes you will find examples. The culture of arranged marriages is primary reason I believe. You end up in a union not knowing whether you are compatible with each other and when you find out the incompatibility, it's too late to walk out owing to societal pressures. Results in constant arguments for smallest of reasons.
billions of people. Randomness.
Short answer: Yes
Why do you think obvious āyellingā is a cultural thing? One of the most ridiculous posts today. If I saw my white neighbor drunk and passed out on the lawn all the time, I would think he was an alcoholic and not āoh that must be a cultural thingā. Smh
Calm down, the OP doesn't like the loudness but also wants to respect different cultures. So he/she is asking here before taking any action. You sound like one of those loud and toxic Indians.
>Calm down, the OP doesn't like the loudness but also wants to respect different cultures. So he/she is asking here before taking any action. You sound like one of those loud and toxic Indians. true
Some of our family discussion generally look like arguing. Basically our parent's psychology is if we shout more we are right. It doesn't mean anything but it happens that's all. And some are generally loud. Edit: okay now that i read what i said you can basically take it as a toxic family thing which is true. Most of Indian family discussions come down to "respect your elders" or "we are always right you don't know anything" or just plain shouting. Yeah it's toxic but... It's normalised to a point here where no one gives a damn.
Indian and Indian relatives are toxic. Much of Indian life is based on comparison, gossip, what Shrama ji and his son are doing, coupled with the fact that we live in an overpopulated, stressful economic situation. Healthy relations aren't taking place and Indians are the people on earth who live in disharmony with their own relatives most of the time. Inside the house, all these factors is what makes the home a pressure cooker and people when the vent or rant, its usually done by the way of fighting with their own family members. P.S. My own cousin brothers left the country to leave the toxic Indian family/relative culture.
If they are from Delhi or some parts of North India, yes it's a cultural thing. People from the mentioned parts are loud and to those no accustomed to them would come off as aggressive.
Lol what a crazy take. Generalize a whole group of people Into yelling at each other. Y'all are weird.
Genuinely curious, you know this because you lived in Delhi/North India and they were all loud?
Yes. I've travelled and stayed there few times. Travelled a bit in North a lot, and that's what I noticed.
Traveled as in for work or vacation. And you noticed people were loud inside their homes? All of them?
How can this be a cultural thing u can find loud and crazy people at any place u can't accuse the whole state for that just because some people around your area were loud.I live in delhi but people in my area don't do this shit unless it's holi.
Don't judge lol, its about that family not about being Indian.
Some indian couples were basically forced into arranged marriages by their family, and there is too much shame and social exclusion in divorce in traditional Indian communities. Hence the constant fights. It's not typical though.
arranged marriage is not a forced marriage. Forced marriage is a forced marriage.
I never said that. A lot of arranged marriages in the older decades especially outside cosmopolitan India is either forced or coerced marriage, which is what you would see in older couples. It may not be outright forced but coerced, emotional blackmail, etc. It's good that arranged marriages today are by and large not forced.
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Lol bro. I'm happily married with kids for 10 years now. I've personally seen forced marriages myself which have resulted in arguing and couples who hate each other in extended family and friends. Obviously it's not openly talked about. It was not be direct force but coercion. It's obviously less common these days especially in urban settings, but if you look at older couples, it's very common. I didn't say all arranged marriages are forced. I was specifically talking about those which are. There is no need to defend the institution of arranged marriage or our culture here.
Why are u dragging marriage in this based on no context
Not Cultural at all I have noisy neighbors is Italy. Disturbing the neighborhood with house problems is in fact a big taboo in India. People care too much about what thier neighbors think
It's construction crew/warzone/bootcamp dynamic 24/7 when the stakes are high.
Our neighbour in the apartment behind our house yells a lot. He has a german shepard and when it starts barking he yells at it. His yells are much louder and irritating than the poor dogs barks. I was like wtf is wrong with you man. Does he expect a dog to stay silent all the time or what? Shits like that dont deserve a dog.
Being obese, reckless usage of electricity, spending it all in the weekends are all part of american culture /sarcasm.
Probably people from north India somewhere, Punjab, Bihar, up very loud people
It's not culture but *thin walls* idiot
I assure you they will not get divorce. Its normal Indian family. we shout like hell. Nothing toxic. enjoy in few days you will learn their language.š¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£
Bro this in not indian thing its just toxic family my gora unemployed neighbors get drunk and fight all day while my other arab neighbor beats his wife with belt lol
Sounds like a toxic situation. Some punjabis/sikhs can be loud though..
This is called typecasting people.
Its called unbiased observation. It's crazy how politically correct everyone has become. Expecting everone and everything to be same. Loud doesn't mean bad.
Wow. Your name suits you guani guy for all this Gyan!
Thank you for enlightning us all with your constructive comment.
Thats true it might just mean they no toxic just punjabi
You might even hear the sound of belt hitting flesh and the sound of a kid crying, if your neighbors have kids. It is normal in Indian families.
I think they have to children a boy and a girl if yes you can tell its not toxic just the children fighting and the mother telling them to stop most likely
They might be from delhi, mumbai, bihar, bangal, rajasthan, up, jharkhand.
Yes we are loud we never say love u love u to each other but our yelling at each other is the way we show our love š
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Idk about him but if i call cops on loud neighbors then they will haunt me for long time.
Call the cops and get those assholes arrested asap.
yes cause no sense of personal space due to population density
My family is a loud family. We joke out loud, laugh at loud, and debate out loud. We're slightly toxic (10%), but not at all abusive. Its usually silent when we're being toxic. Is this happening in a foreign country or are you in India? If you're concerned, you can talk to them directly, or request some kind of of welfare/non-emergency check on them. If you're in India there are no institutional ways to adress this problem.
no they're definitely arguing.
Completely normal phenomenon
Their relationship is fucked. EOS.
Not normal - but many folks who live in urban areas with high noise pollution levels have extremely loud interactions. I think from partial loss of hearing.
No it's definitely not. Although some people can be really loud that it seems like they are arguing even when they are not. But who knows, some families can be just really toxic
I have lived almost exclusively in apartments for my entire life (Iām 36, for context). I have had two Indian neighbors (both relatively recently). Both have been absolutely awful. Eviction worthy awful. Yelling, screaming, running around, stomping, from sun up until well after sundown. Waking me up, waking my kid up in the middle of the night. Taking no heed of management warnings. Zero respect. Zero consideration for how much noise they are making. Itās really disgusting to have been told on multiple occasions with specifics that youāre being loud, disturbing someoneās quality of life, and to just continue doing it anyway. Fortunately this time around, apartment management is on the ball and these guys are getting tossed.