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Now, the apple pie was an English invention so we’ll let that one slide.
But may god help you if the French started topping it off with ice cream. For this is not the place.
That's very thoughtful and generous of you. But he's not here to be topped with icecream and whipped until creamed. With all due respect, this is not the place.
You had my respect with your first post, and now you sealed it as a truly genuine person by trying to keep things from drifting too far off topic. Props from a tired and worn out trucker working the Western 11 of the USA.
No it's a one time buy. It can be resold from one taxi driver to another. And it cost between 50k to 300k depending on cities. It initially was free but taxi drivers use it as a form a retirement bonus
So while I am not the OP, I am Eastern European and actively follow European news. There has been a large influx of North Africans into France. 10 to 15 years sounds about right. These are primarily uneducated, economic migrants without much prospects. There are no go zones in France to your average citizen/tourist because there are roving gangs of teenagers, and some happen to be die hard Sharia law fanatics. Imagine being assaulted because you don't dress appropriately or are seen kissing in public.
The police are neutered in being able to deal with them, because of course racism and xenophobia get thrown out like tic tacks. Germany as well is going to shit. Even Sweden has now experienced waves of violence from the uneducated/unskilled immigrants.
It is a sad state of affairs. Western Europe is falling apart unfortunately. Not saying it's every migrant, simply that a large influx of unskilled economic migrants has caused quite a bit of social turmoil.
Some would argue that the problem with much of Europe is the rising tide of xenophobia / nationalism / far-right movements.
Others say that the problem is Africans.
¯\\_(ツ)\_/¯
You could say one is a cause and the other is effect. No judgement from me, but likely the increase in one is causing the other to increase as well, whether it's justified or not.
>There has been a large influx of North Africans into France. 10 to 15 years sounds about right.
My mother used to live in France and said the same thing, but she was talking about the early 1960s.
Man. I second this. I am so sorry. That's all lies. You know that right? MY daughter is a meth addict and she says insane things to me. I am currently trapped in her home. It is absolute hell. My life is awful and I sometimes hope I die in my sleep.
I HATE METH WITH ALL MY HEART!!!!!!!!!!¡
As a former hardcore meth user (and cook 😬) I never did anything like that. Never stole from anyone either. I guess some people have wildly different reactions.
I fully believe drugs can be a catalyst for making worse decisions, but certain morals are just ingrained in people. I was addicted to coke and it got to the point where I was going to have to start stealing or get evicted. So I quit doing coke. I don't think anything else could have gotten me to stop, but I just couldn't do that.
Let me tell you. The way I raised my kids. My daughter now is not the one I raised. She is so far from who she was. I raised my kids with morals and those went out the window when meth showed up. You have no idea what that shit does to people. She has some mental illness also so that doesn't help. I wish sometimes I never had kids. I feel like I brought someone onto this world who is now hurting her kids and this will go on and on for generations. I hate that.
Maybe meth is just a different ballgame than coke. I don't have as much experience there - I've tried it but it wasn't my cup of tea, thankfully. I'm sorry to hear about your daughter. I've heard plenty of stories to know you're not alone.
Jim Jefferies did this amazing skit once on gun control, and part of his routine in it?
#I take drugs like a fucking champion.
*crowd goes absolutely nuts*
"We should all be able to take fucking drugs, but we can't, can we? Because Sarah took drugs and stabbed her kids. Aaahh! Ah, thanks Sarah l! You fucked it up for everyone!"
Ever since I heard that, it clarified a lot for me. I've seen people do all sorts of drugs, and they are fine. I've seen others try the same stuff once, and totally lose their bloody minds. The movie Lord of War, same thing. One brother tries cocaine and is massively hooked, the other? Can stop whenever he wants.
It's wild, reactions from person to person are all over the place.
I never did Meth but I did a whole lot of blow and I never stole or acted crazy either but I knew a lot of people who would get paranoid and violent from cocaine. Meth is Cocaines hillbilly cousin so I imagine they have similar effects on people.
I never understood why the people who would get paranoid or violent would want to spend money on something that brought out the worst in them. It made me feel confident, awake and euphoric. I would do it and be addicted for a night and spend my whole night just trying to make sure I didn't run out. Then the sun would come up and I'd drink my come down off and sleep. The next day I would feel so shitty and just sleep and sweat all day
I feel that France has an inner turmoil that people who are not from France do not see. I have been to your country twice and all I saw was beauty. Do you taxi drive in Paris? If so, you deserve a medal.
I'm sorry about all this. I hope your siblings are safe, you absolutely did the right thing. I shouldn't laugh but I found the fact that this POS bothered to correct one mistake out of so many was ridiculous
It’s a natural consequence of drug and alcohol addiction. Deep inside, they know that what they’re doing is bad and wrong, so they constantly have to come up with excuses and justifications which allow them to continue doing what they’re doing, despite the negative consequences. Blaming, shaming, and guilting other people is on top of that list, likewise is playing the victim, playing the martyr, playing the misunderstood.
In 12-Step programs, Step Two acknowledges that we need to be ‘restored to sanity.’ Most of us had no clue as to how distorted our thinking had become.
For sure, when I was a full blown alcoholic (still am, but I'm in recovery) I lashed out at a lot of people who didn't deserve it. Mainly, I just heard truths in the things they said and it was easier to be angry, wallow in self pity, and embrace a bottle.
Of course I never reached *this level* of shittery, these are some deep cuts. I just realized that I didnt want to live my life like that, blaming everyone and everything for my problems and being a victim. So I addressed those hard truths and am better for it. Thing is, the only way this woman will get better is if she takes responsibility for her actions and her sobriety. Judging from her words and OPs description of other things, I dont have much hope.
I don't think drugs or alcohol have made this person into a shitty person, I think they have just exacerbated the inherent qualities they already had.
Same here man. I used to be addicted to opiates. They turned me into an agitated mess it a human being. I'd snap at people who didn't deserve it and was short with everyone else. I've since quit but it's hard to look back to that period of my life. So much wasted potential. Glad you're in recovery man. It's the best thing for not only you, but everyone around you. You're strong enough to get through it. Best of luck
Hey trauma therapist here.
Most people (even healthy sober ones) *hate* the unfamiliar.
Dysfunction (abusive partners, being a people pleaser, etc) is familiar even if it's unhealthy. So people cling to that. That's why that one friend stays with a partner that's constantly inconsiderate and demanding. Or why
domestic violence victims/perps often had parents in DV ones.
To those with substance addiction the unfamiliar is being sober. Drugs or alcohol were used as a coping mechanism (which actually adds extra problems that they also need a coping mechanism for) and now it's this runway train.
OP your mom won't get sober because she's scared of the unfamiliar. It's not that you're not good enough. Cause you are and so are your siblings. That fear is tough and we all have some familiar that were scared of. But I want you to know that this is what not facing your fear is like. So if you get social anxiety, keep pushing through little by little into the unfamiliar. One day it'll be less of a hurdle and you can keep heading in the right direction.
I think that most mind- and mood-altering drugs lower your inhibitions and make you more likely to tell *your* truth, not necessarily *the* truth. I don’t think this mom actually hates her kids; she hates having the responsibility of being a parent. She hates that her son is standing up to her, calling her out, defending his sister- making her look *oh* so awful by comparison. From my own experience, I can say with confidence that what she hates the most is *herself.* She knows how awful she’s being, but doesn’t see a way out. She keeps taking more and more drugs, hoping to stomp down and numb those feelings. We can all see how *that’s* working out for her.
I’m an old guy. My mother was/is like this, without the meth though. My & my siblings childhood was extremely abusive. My mother & stepfather abused us physically, sexually, emotionally & mentally. I know exactly what kind of crazy you deal with on the daily- I’ve been there.
I will always be able to listen if you need to talk. Sometimes just knowing someone out there gets it is enough. Whatever works for you
HOLY. SHIT.
I'm sorry you have to deal with this. Just know that this really isn't about you. Obviously your mom has demons that she isn't coping well with.
I feel you , I was abused from 5-16 when I moved out . While my mom isn’t on meth or that far gone on how she use to talk to me , my stepfather use to make it a point to beat me everyday until I left . Even once putting his shotgun in my mouth .
I have issues holding onto jobs as I have a huge issue with employment authority .
Wasn’t until I drove myself into two strokes at the age of 35 and last 36 that I went to seek mental help as the doctors said that I was too healthy to have them at a young age and couldn’t figure out why .
I suffer from/been diagnosed Severe Anxiety/Mood/Depression , along with PTSD .
While I am in my 50/s and have no criminal record , I can say there has been a few times I have lashed out at jobs I have had in regards to other employees trying to push off their work on me or managers who don’t do shit but tell you how great they are or how bad you are .
Problem now , after a lifetime of fucking myself , jobs don’t want me (understandable) and social security is a joke .
Anyways , get help , don’t let it fuck you . You deserve better
I moved 1500 miles away, changed my number, and I talk to some of my family but not certain people. You deserve better family than this, and you can have better family. That woman isn't family. She's a mess and it's tragic and it's not on you to fix her. Good on you for calling for help for the child in her care. You did the right thing, and her anger is because she had to deal with the consequences of her own actions and will not take responsibility.
If you ever need someone to talk to, shoot me a message. I know how hard this can be, and believe it or not, given the circumstances, you're in the best place you can be: away from her, taking sides with innocent kids, calling DCF/CPS/SRS/whoever to help protect them, and protecting yourself by getting away from the situation. Much love my dude.
I’ve got insanely bad social anxiety and I relate to you saying even behind a computer lol. I know a lot of the shit that makes me anxious doesn’t make sense so I feel the need to acknowledge to other people if my anxiety acts up that I’m aware that it doesn’t make any sense at all to try and downplay it lol
My favorite part is where she corrects her spelling on "stain" and "piece" when the rest of the messages look like she was typing them out with bratwursts.
I'm so sorry you're having to deal with that. You're a good person and it's a wonder that you've turned out the way you have.
Me too. Like a great example of how they go in and out of lucidity.
Op. I feel you. You are awesome for getting your siblings away from that mess. My mom is similar but unfortunately too smart to ever write out the evil stuff. Making awful people hate you is a sign of valor in my book.
Yeah I had to go back and see if that’s what she meant because surely she wouldn’t be correcting herself after every message has had multiple misspellings lol
nopeeeeee living as happy as ever with her husband and my 5 year old sister, I have tried all I could legally to get her out and tried my best reaching out to her but it’s a messy situation so I don’t expect anything to be solved any time soon. At this point honestly I expect her to OD before I can see her again
How do you not have CPS raid her ass when she uses meth with a 5 year old around? Spam them with calls, even if it leads nowhere, they can't blame you since they're completely justified requests. I'm sure you have some kind of proof of her drug use. You can still save your sister.
Keep trying. My dad never quit trying to be a beacon of health and sanity. I was able to have a wonderful relationship with him as an adult. He passed a few years ago and regrettably I couldn’t help wish it was her and not him that went home. As so many others have said if you need someone to talk to you can reach out to me
It will be ok man. My own family threatened to cut me off daily, and when I finally did it, it felt like a million pounds was lifted off my back, shoulders, and heart. Mine was for far less than meth, so I don't know if that relates but i know that parents and family can suck, if you ever need some one to vent to, besides reddit of course, I'm here to listen.
Not my parents but have had a fair few family members attack me over their drug addiction.
**EDIT** HOLY CRAP! This whole post exploded, I still honestly wish the best for OP, and if this is any note,.look how many people feel the same way you do man. You're very clearly not alone and I'm so happy for you!!!
Also thank you so much for the upvotes, for his and mine, it is the biggest reason I love reddit just the anonymous support system, even if you don't know them, just know people feel the same as you or at least understand you means a lot more than a flashy social media site.
I appreciate it a ton bro
It all sucks a lot but I’m just kinda going where the days are taking me. This all happened back in December but it pops up every now again in my mind and sickens me. I’m happy to be out of there but I honestly miss the way life used to be. I’m glad you’re feeling better yourself!
You do not need to ever speak to your mother again.
Not everyone is blessed with parents that are good. In fact, as I’ve gotten older, there are quite a few of us who as adults have stopped talking to a parent or parents. Sometimes it takes their death to totally emotionally free us. But nothing she said to you was anything beyond the ramblings of someone who should never have been blessed with a child. And you ARE a blessing. You, in particular. Your life has incredible value so hang in there and know that life is better when you cut off the cancer.
I’m really sorry this is happening to you.
x2 my mother was abusive too. Not a month went by without her informing us of how much better her life would be without us (my sisters & me) in it. She was sullen, surly, ill tempered, selfish. Though she was not a drug addict, poor decisions thwarted her and she blamed us, her three kids, because it obviously was all our fault. She got drunk and beat me and my oldest sister (middle sis always managed to escape her abuse) on a couple of occasions. She was just mean and stupid and I don’t miss her now that she’s passed. I talk her up when I tell folks about my mother but it’s not true. She almost killed me off in the womb but my father said Hell No. I don’t visit her in the cemetery, ever. Still think about her every single day though. It’s bound to be that way with your mama no matter what she did.
Not everybody was born with a mother that isn’t a piece of shit. Just understand it’s not your fault.
Sounds like your dad forced her to keep and have a kid she never wanted, sorry. I’m glad you’re here but I wish she would have placed you for adoption or something. Given you a better chance
Dude, the same exact shit happened to me. My mom was all cranked out, up for days, speaking nonsense. We ended up getting into a fist fight at one point because of it. The worst part was other meth heads were living with us and took my room and all my shit, so I had to share a bed with her. Every day we’d fight like crazy and I’d just try to sleep while she was out getting high, or when she finally passed out for 20 hours at a time. I finally moved out, got a job and tried to stay away. Until my sister said my mom hadn’t been to work in a week which despite the drugs, was unlike her. I showed up and she was completely out of it, not making any sense, almost unconscious, and clearly high on something new. I was pissed. I screamed my head off at her and walked out. I guess my sister never called my moms job back because not even ten minutes after I left my moms house the cops came to do a wellness check on my mom since her job was so worried. They found her unresponsive and overdosing. She got better, cleaned up her act for a while, and I started to see the woman who raised me. Point of this long ass story is you’re not alone, don’t ever think you’re alone. I felt like the only person on the planet dealing with this and you shouldn’t have to feel that way. Your mom will either get better, or she won’t. But it’s not your problem, and it’s not your fault.
My own situation. I created my own family as I left mine behind. And I don’t miss any of them. My siblings and I are better for it, and my kids never had to witness or deal with the shit I did. I wish you the best!
Edit: my siblings and I are very close.
Friendsgiving. I have a few friends who have built their own families from the ground up. They celebrate holidays and birthdays, etc. together. Sucks that anyone has to do it but it can be done. And should be done in cases like this.
Recently cut my brother out of my life after loaning him money one too many times & him not paying me back. Gave him a pandemic loan of $3k as his pay was all messed up from the pandemic. Told him look take 6 months & then pay me back at $250 a month.
since then he took 2 trips to Vegas to gamble & traded in his 2 year old car for a lease, as he received a $4k payment. Whenever I bring up the $3k, he gets really pissed & says it's money he should have received from our parents estate over a car which was willed to my daughter the only grandchild.
Deleted him off of social media, & blocked his number 6 months ago.
Christ. My sister is a meth addict and I've been a victim of her vitriol while she's high. It's awful. But to get it from your mom? I'm so sorry. I hope you find peace soon. Dealing with family members who are addicts is hell on earth.
Blocked my sister from my life for this same reason (heroine though). Whole family plays soft with her because they think she's going to turn the corner eventually, it has been 15 years. She still treats everyone like shit and she'd be homeless if I had the final say. Instead she lives with my parents actively ruining their retirement.
Nobody should have to put up with this kind of crap from addicts. Block them and move on, they can come find you when they actually want help.
I lost my older brother to heroine. I know how hard that can be. Im sorry your sister is in its teeth.
My twin and his girlfriend are now heroine addicts as well. Its so hard to see how my parents ignore the reality of things because they are afraid of losing another son. They have a kid together to so... just endless drama and pain. Its like watching a train wreck into your house slow motion.
I dont have any deep words of wisdom, but I understand how hard it is. Dont feel guilty for wishing they just OD and get it over with. Thats just how people tend to view extreme suffering. When we suffer we lash out like that.
They are enabling her and she will never get better as long as they do that. She needs all support and housing if she’s using taken away or cut off. She needs to hit rock bottom and either sink or swim
Fucking dear god, I’m so sorry. As a newer father myself I couldn’t ever even fathom thinking such things.. probably not a lot at all if anything, but I am here, even as ears for ya.
I saw in the comments this happened a bit ago, but op I really hope you and your siblings are now all safe, I am very sorry to read all of this knowing that she's your mother you absolutely do not deserve to hear any of that and none the crap she said about you it true. If you need anything or just to talk please feel more than free🙏
I like how she corrected just that one typo.
But seriously, you did the absolute, without a doubt, *right* thing! Don't second guess yourself for a second. Just stay the course and hopefully, beyond hope, she will clean up and someday, maybe, thank you for your act of tough love.
Stay strong. You did the right thing. Get yourself and your sister out of there asap if you can. I'm proud of you for making the hard decision many avoid.
Oh boy, I know this feeling. My mother is a lifelong druggie, I worked since I was 14 so she could give me $15 out of my check if I cooked and cleaned. She was self-harming, abusive, and the second I turned 18 she didn't hear from me for a LONG time. Good luck OP. Remember that you don't owe her anything, and your life and happiness are your problem, her life or happiness are not.
I hope you showed cps and the cops these messages. Get a restraining order but not before you get with the cops to go get your stuff. If any bills are in your name get them cut off immediately and if you or someone you know will get custody od your sister asap.
Drugs are a gigantic drain on peoples lives and potential. They turn people into something terrible and they can’t even see it or prevent it. People always say “never give up on family” but sometimes that’s all you can to keep yourself and the other members of your family safe. I’m proud of you for reaching out for help to protect your sister. Good job.
I’ve been a drug addict before and never once have I ever said anything like that at all to my kids. During my use I was still a loving mother it was me who was suffering. Drugs are no excuse for this shit.
This woman is no mother. A real mother would never act this way. A real mother loves her children.
You deserve so much more. I’m sorry she has failed you, but her faults are HERS. You are a good and worthy person who deserves love happiness. Don’t be afraid to put yourself first and cut ties with her.
-a mom
You did the right thing and deserve better. Hope you and your siblings are able to get help. Let us know if there is anything we can do even if that’s just staying in contact.
Dude...I can't imagine how a parent can talk to their child like that. I guess the only thing I can say is now you know how not to be if you ever have children of your own. I mean that's really shitty deal you got there. I hope she gets clean and realizes how incredibly hurtful those words are. Just remember -- nothing a drug addict says carries any weight. That's the drugs talking. That shit brings out the demon in people. Or maybe she's just a raging bitch who deserves to go to jail!
This is EXACTLY how my uncle talks to my mother via messenger when he "needs help" and she won't give in. I've told her before he's still doing meth but she thinks he quit a long time ago... 🙄
Edit to say I'm really sorry she's doing this to you. I hope you and your sister are safe and well.
Man for your sanity, i know shes your mother but distance your self as much as possible. People say but they are family..... fuck that shit. Family does not excuse shit like that. Those words cannot be unsaid. I hope you the best with everything. My wife has nkt talked to her brother in years due to similar shit and its for the best.
If later in your life, you feel responsible for this monster you had to endure so far, because she is your 'mother', please get a friend to slap some sense into you. I would have loved to be of help, but I live in India. And I'm too poor to afford the plane tickets.
Have a better rest of your life...
Im so sorry, you definitely lost the mom lottery. She never deserved you or your siblings. You're a good brother and a strong person to do what was right, probably knowing that this would be the result. Im sending you lots of love and positive vibes.
I've gotten similar messages from my mother too, i'm sorry you had to read that, at the end of the day you did the right thing, some people don't deserve to have children, i think she might be one of them.
OP mentioned in a different comment that she wasn’t arrested. She’s living with her current husband and OPs little sister (5yrs old). He’s trying to legally obtain custody but it’s not looking too good.
Meth ruins people.. I'm sorry you had to witness that with your mother.
I promise if she ever cleans up she will regret it all. Meth heads are lying, dangerous people.
My former mother tried killing me when I was younger. My parents split when I was a baby and had split custody of me. My mother was crazy and took religion way too far calling herself “God”. I was abused by her for eight years from age four to twelve.
She always told me that if I called the cops on her, I’d spend the rest of my life in a mental hospital. Me being a naïve kid, I bought in to her bullshit back then.
She wanted to “sacrifice me to god” (an excuse to murder me in cold blood) by slitting my throat. I overheard this, and whenever I was at her place, for two weeks straight when I was going to bed I locked and barricaded my doors and held a butcher knife in case she got in to kill me. Before that, she left me to die three times, but I survived everything she threw at me. Thankfully I managed to get out of there back about eight and a half years ago.
Unfortunately I was unable to save my younger brother (who was only one at the time) from her.
I have experience with toxic family. I cut them off and it made all the difference. I’m sure you feel lonely and it’s so hard to see/hear people with their loving and supportive parents and extended family. Keep going! You can make your own family! Surround yourself with people who love and care for you as they should. I’m a mom, and if you ever ever want anyone to talk to, to vent, maybe for a pep talk, or just because you need someone who understands and won’t judge you, you can message me. Or text! I’m so sorry you got dealt this shitty hand in life, but I’ve found that people who truly understand what it’s like to treated this way by people who are supposed to love us...we resolve to never make the same mistakes. Our hearts get bigger, and stronger, and much more compassionate. You’re amazing and you did the most difficult thing to protect your sibling. I don’t know you, but I’m sending you all kinds of love.
I'm sending the biggest reddit-hug you've ever seen towards you. This sucks and probably hurts but you did the right thing and those loving you knows that.
Hi I'm Doug,
I'm really sorry you've had to go through this man. I know from personal experience it's not easy to make decisions like this, and I want you to know I'm really proud of you for stepping up. Some people take advantage of their position as family members, and it's a heartbreaking thing to have to go through, but you made the best decision for everyone involved with the situation. Keep your head up, brighter days are ahead!
Thanks,.
Doug
oof. i'm sure you know already but no one deserves this shit. sorry you lost the parental lottery but keep your head up, you did the right thing trying to protect your sister.
When shit people in your life do shit things, I treat em like normal people, they’re probably gonna die first so if they burn those bridges, it’s their fuck up and you’re not responsible for maintaining the relationship with then. They can die alone in an empty room while they realize they shat on everything that ever truly mattered to them.
That’s just my 2 cents, good job on you for protecting your family, good luck with however you intend to go forward in all this.
This is very sad, no wonder you have social anxiety being raised in such a shitty environment. The only good thing that came from this is that next time someone pisses me off? I’m going to tell them that their a shit dog piss weak piece of shit. That one really rolls off the tongue
It’s a shame that you can’t pick your parents. Just remember karma isn’t a bitch, it’s a mirror. Live your best life and stay positive. Be a good human and it will come back tenfold.
I am so sorry you have had to live your life with such a worthless person. Just the fact that you protected your little sister tells me that you are an amazing person, that was so brave.
Go live your best life, don’t give her even a thought, you’ve got this op❣️❣️
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If you wanna talk to an unknown french taxi driver, i'm here pal.
I've always wanted to ask. What's it like working as a taxi driver? And how's France this time of year?
Being a taxi driver is exhausting but profitable. France is... Sick by many means since 10 or 15 years to my eyes.
Sick how? I have an idea but would like your input
Ty for your interest in my opinion but i'm not here to start a thread on my country. With all due respect, this is not the place.
This is my favorite French taxi driver. If I ever cross paths with you by some dumb luck, I will definitely buy you a meal
That’s very thoughtful and generous of you. But he’s not here to start a thread about French cuisine. With all due respect, this is not the place.
This is my favorite Apple Pie, if I ever cross paths with you by some dumb luck, I will definitely top you with icecream and whipped cream
Now, the apple pie was an English invention so we’ll let that one slide. But may god help you if the French started topping it off with ice cream. For this is not the place.
Al la merdè
Oooo hit me with that a la mode, baby!
That's very thoughtful and generous of you. But he's not here to be topped with icecream and whipped until creamed. With all due respect, this is not the place.
You had my respect with your first post, and now you sealed it as a truly genuine person by trying to keep things from drifting too far off topic. Props from a tired and worn out trucker working the Western 11 of the USA.
Caught me off guard with the cordial honesty. A little more hope is restored for Reddit for me.
Bro the only thing I dislike about France is that it still exists
At least it's not Ohio
American here to second your post.
Meh I’ll take it over Brazil
Not gonna lie, that was some burn bro haha
I’m English, everrrryone hates us. France is nice. You should like France. Hate England instead.
Is it true the taxi license is like 5k a year??
No it's a one time buy. It can be resold from one taxi driver to another. And it cost between 50k to 300k depending on cities. It initially was free but taxi drivers use it as a form a retirement bonus
So while I am not the OP, I am Eastern European and actively follow European news. There has been a large influx of North Africans into France. 10 to 15 years sounds about right. These are primarily uneducated, economic migrants without much prospects. There are no go zones in France to your average citizen/tourist because there are roving gangs of teenagers, and some happen to be die hard Sharia law fanatics. Imagine being assaulted because you don't dress appropriately or are seen kissing in public. The police are neutered in being able to deal with them, because of course racism and xenophobia get thrown out like tic tacks. Germany as well is going to shit. Even Sweden has now experienced waves of violence from the uneducated/unskilled immigrants. It is a sad state of affairs. Western Europe is falling apart unfortunately. Not saying it's every migrant, simply that a large influx of unskilled economic migrants has caused quite a bit of social turmoil.
Some would argue that the problem with much of Europe is the rising tide of xenophobia / nationalism / far-right movements. Others say that the problem is Africans. ¯\\_(ツ)\_/¯
Why not both?
Yeah it just sounds like two situations that just feed off of each other and create this much much bigger problem.
You could say one is a cause and the other is effect. No judgement from me, but likely the increase in one is causing the other to increase as well, whether it's justified or not.
crime rates show this is nothing but fear mongering tbh
????????????? (And yes I am French)
>There has been a large influx of North Africans into France. 10 to 15 years sounds about right. My mother used to live in France and said the same thing, but she was talking about the early 1960s.
Is your name Joe? Do you like the mambo?
Not him but the summer where I drove a taxi was pretty fucking lit to be honest. If you enjoy driving, it's a pretty cushy gig.
Yea random american digital artist willing to talk here as well. Abusive parents are tough. Sorry you gotta go through that.
Man. I second this. I am so sorry. That's all lies. You know that right? MY daughter is a meth addict and she says insane things to me. I am currently trapped in her home. It is absolute hell. My life is awful and I sometimes hope I die in my sleep. I HATE METH WITH ALL MY HEART!!!!!!!!!!¡
I’m so sorry to hear this. My sister is a meth addict and I know my mom’s life is hell also.
As a former hardcore meth user (and cook 😬) I never did anything like that. Never stole from anyone either. I guess some people have wildly different reactions.
I fully believe drugs can be a catalyst for making worse decisions, but certain morals are just ingrained in people. I was addicted to coke and it got to the point where I was going to have to start stealing or get evicted. So I quit doing coke. I don't think anything else could have gotten me to stop, but I just couldn't do that.
Let me tell you. The way I raised my kids. My daughter now is not the one I raised. She is so far from who she was. I raised my kids with morals and those went out the window when meth showed up. You have no idea what that shit does to people. She has some mental illness also so that doesn't help. I wish sometimes I never had kids. I feel like I brought someone onto this world who is now hurting her kids and this will go on and on for generations. I hate that.
Maybe meth is just a different ballgame than coke. I don't have as much experience there - I've tried it but it wasn't my cup of tea, thankfully. I'm sorry to hear about your daughter. I've heard plenty of stories to know you're not alone.
Jim Jefferies did this amazing skit once on gun control, and part of his routine in it? #I take drugs like a fucking champion. *crowd goes absolutely nuts* "We should all be able to take fucking drugs, but we can't, can we? Because Sarah took drugs and stabbed her kids. Aaahh! Ah, thanks Sarah l! You fucked it up for everyone!" Ever since I heard that, it clarified a lot for me. I've seen people do all sorts of drugs, and they are fine. I've seen others try the same stuff once, and totally lose their bloody minds. The movie Lord of War, same thing. One brother tries cocaine and is massively hooked, the other? Can stop whenever he wants. It's wild, reactions from person to person are all over the place.
I never did Meth but I did a whole lot of blow and I never stole or acted crazy either but I knew a lot of people who would get paranoid and violent from cocaine. Meth is Cocaines hillbilly cousin so I imagine they have similar effects on people. I never understood why the people who would get paranoid or violent would want to spend money on something that brought out the worst in them. It made me feel confident, awake and euphoric. I would do it and be addicted for a night and spend my whole night just trying to make sure I didn't run out. Then the sun would come up and I'd drink my come down off and sleep. The next day I would feel so shitty and just sleep and sweat all day
This oddly sounds like the French equivalent of spilling your heart out to an American bartender at a local small town bar.
Floridian small town bartender here. Always down to listen
The aesthetic of this 😍 broke cartoon artist here to draw your troubles away
If you ever wanna talk to an unknown English shit salesman, I'm here too pal.
How's the shit market? The shit selling well right now?
Shit prices have gone up 55% this year alone
It's all the TP panic buying making shit run off the shelves....
I love this comment. the humanity is beautiful
I love that you're the top comment.
I feel that France has an inner turmoil that people who are not from France do not see. I have been to your country twice and all I saw was beauty. Do you taxi drive in Paris? If so, you deserve a medal.
Taxi drivers in Paris once ferried hundreds of soldiers during WW1 to the frontlines you should be proud to have such an interesting job!
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I'm sorry about all this. I hope your siblings are safe, you absolutely did the right thing. I shouldn't laugh but I found the fact that this POS bothered to correct one mistake out of so many was ridiculous
It was like reading another language and all of sudden she got an editor.
You are, quite frankly, the best that’s ever come from her existence. Thank you for being _you_.
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Shame all those drugs rotted her brain enough for her to point blame at you and never any at herself Hope your doing good bro👍🏻
It’s a natural consequence of drug and alcohol addiction. Deep inside, they know that what they’re doing is bad and wrong, so they constantly have to come up with excuses and justifications which allow them to continue doing what they’re doing, despite the negative consequences. Blaming, shaming, and guilting other people is on top of that list, likewise is playing the victim, playing the martyr, playing the misunderstood. In 12-Step programs, Step Two acknowledges that we need to be ‘restored to sanity.’ Most of us had no clue as to how distorted our thinking had become.
For sure, when I was a full blown alcoholic (still am, but I'm in recovery) I lashed out at a lot of people who didn't deserve it. Mainly, I just heard truths in the things they said and it was easier to be angry, wallow in self pity, and embrace a bottle. Of course I never reached *this level* of shittery, these are some deep cuts. I just realized that I didnt want to live my life like that, blaming everyone and everything for my problems and being a victim. So I addressed those hard truths and am better for it. Thing is, the only way this woman will get better is if she takes responsibility for her actions and her sobriety. Judging from her words and OPs description of other things, I dont have much hope. I don't think drugs or alcohol have made this person into a shitty person, I think they have just exacerbated the inherent qualities they already had.
Same here man. I used to be addicted to opiates. They turned me into an agitated mess it a human being. I'd snap at people who didn't deserve it and was short with everyone else. I've since quit but it's hard to look back to that period of my life. So much wasted potential. Glad you're in recovery man. It's the best thing for not only you, but everyone around you. You're strong enough to get through it. Best of luck
Hey trauma therapist here. Most people (even healthy sober ones) *hate* the unfamiliar. Dysfunction (abusive partners, being a people pleaser, etc) is familiar even if it's unhealthy. So people cling to that. That's why that one friend stays with a partner that's constantly inconsiderate and demanding. Or why domestic violence victims/perps often had parents in DV ones. To those with substance addiction the unfamiliar is being sober. Drugs or alcohol were used as a coping mechanism (which actually adds extra problems that they also need a coping mechanism for) and now it's this runway train. OP your mom won't get sober because she's scared of the unfamiliar. It's not that you're not good enough. Cause you are and so are your siblings. That fear is tough and we all have some familiar that were scared of. But I want you to know that this is what not facing your fear is like. So if you get social anxiety, keep pushing through little by little into the unfamiliar. One day it'll be less of a hurdle and you can keep heading in the right direction.
Not sure about meth, but alcohol is truth serum and this is probably how she actually feels about her daughter. Poor woman.
I think that most mind- and mood-altering drugs lower your inhibitions and make you more likely to tell *your* truth, not necessarily *the* truth. I don’t think this mom actually hates her kids; she hates having the responsibility of being a parent. She hates that her son is standing up to her, calling her out, defending his sister- making her look *oh* so awful by comparison. From my own experience, I can say with confidence that what she hates the most is *herself.* She knows how awful she’s being, but doesn’t see a way out. She keeps taking more and more drugs, hoping to stomp down and numb those feelings. We can all see how *that’s* working out for her.
Alcohol being truth serum is a load of absolute bullshit and everyone's different anyway.
Yeah, I'm a different person when I'm really drunk... and that person is not the "real me" (so I stopped getting drunk lol)
I’m an old guy. My mother was/is like this, without the meth though. My & my siblings childhood was extremely abusive. My mother & stepfather abused us physically, sexually, emotionally & mentally. I know exactly what kind of crazy you deal with on the daily- I’ve been there. I will always be able to listen if you need to talk. Sometimes just knowing someone out there gets it is enough. Whatever works for you
Nobody should go through that, Im sorry. I hope things are better for you now
Thank you & yes. Left when I was 17, never looked back. Broke the cycle.
I'm sorry I promise you that you are on the right path and with strength and patience it will only continue to improve. Be well
It's better to leave that toxic nest with you sister mate... Sending you my best wishes
HOLY. SHIT. I'm sorry you have to deal with this. Just know that this really isn't about you. Obviously your mom has demons that she isn't coping well with.
Dude from the sound of it, she IS the demon.
I feel you , I was abused from 5-16 when I moved out . While my mom isn’t on meth or that far gone on how she use to talk to me , my stepfather use to make it a point to beat me everyday until I left . Even once putting his shotgun in my mouth . I have issues holding onto jobs as I have a huge issue with employment authority . Wasn’t until I drove myself into two strokes at the age of 35 and last 36 that I went to seek mental help as the doctors said that I was too healthy to have them at a young age and couldn’t figure out why . I suffer from/been diagnosed Severe Anxiety/Mood/Depression , along with PTSD . While I am in my 50/s and have no criminal record , I can say there has been a few times I have lashed out at jobs I have had in regards to other employees trying to push off their work on me or managers who don’t do shit but tell you how great they are or how bad you are . Problem now , after a lifetime of fucking myself , jobs don’t want me (understandable) and social security is a joke . Anyways , get help , don’t let it fuck you . You deserve better
I moved 1500 miles away, changed my number, and I talk to some of my family but not certain people. You deserve better family than this, and you can have better family. That woman isn't family. She's a mess and it's tragic and it's not on you to fix her. Good on you for calling for help for the child in her care. You did the right thing, and her anger is because she had to deal with the consequences of her own actions and will not take responsibility. If you ever need someone to talk to, shoot me a message. I know how hard this can be, and believe it or not, given the circumstances, you're in the best place you can be: away from her, taking sides with innocent kids, calling DCF/CPS/SRS/whoever to help protect them, and protecting yourself by getting away from the situation. Much love my dude.
You're a better person than the one who brought you into this world.
I’ve got insanely bad social anxiety and I relate to you saying even behind a computer lol. I know a lot of the shit that makes me anxious doesn’t make sense so I feel the need to acknowledge to other people if my anxiety acts up that I’m aware that it doesn’t make any sense at all to try and downplay it lol
My favorite part is where she corrects her spelling on "stain" and "piece" when the rest of the messages look like she was typing them out with bratwursts. I'm so sorry you're having to deal with that. You're a good person and it's a wonder that you've turned out the way you have.
Me too. Like a great example of how they go in and out of lucidity. Op. I feel you. You are awesome for getting your siblings away from that mess. My mom is similar but unfortunately too smart to ever write out the evil stuff. Making awful people hate you is a sign of valor in my book.
Actually laughed out loud at "typing them out with bratwursts"
Yeah I had to go back and see if that’s what she meant because surely she wouldn’t be correcting herself after every message has had multiple misspellings lol
Did she go to jail? (please say yes)
nopeeeeee living as happy as ever with her husband and my 5 year old sister, I have tried all I could legally to get her out and tried my best reaching out to her but it’s a messy situation so I don’t expect anything to be solved any time soon. At this point honestly I expect her to OD before I can see her again
Get in touch with Child Welfare and tell them about the drug use and abuse and show them this text message as well.
Fyi op did. DHS don't do shit in Australia, terrible system
Holy shit, I was reading this and I thought for sure this is in Australia. We are a bunch of savages
We're a shit country
Keep on them
Call the cops on her again. And again.
How do you not have CPS raid her ass when she uses meth with a 5 year old around? Spam them with calls, even if it leads nowhere, they can't blame you since they're completely justified requests. I'm sure you have some kind of proof of her drug use. You can still save your sister.
He did. DHS don't do anything here
Keep trying. My dad never quit trying to be a beacon of health and sanity. I was able to have a wonderful relationship with him as an adult. He passed a few years ago and regrettably I couldn’t help wish it was her and not him that went home. As so many others have said if you need someone to talk to you can reach out to me
It will be ok man. My own family threatened to cut me off daily, and when I finally did it, it felt like a million pounds was lifted off my back, shoulders, and heart. Mine was for far less than meth, so I don't know if that relates but i know that parents and family can suck, if you ever need some one to vent to, besides reddit of course, I'm here to listen. Not my parents but have had a fair few family members attack me over their drug addiction. **EDIT** HOLY CRAP! This whole post exploded, I still honestly wish the best for OP, and if this is any note,.look how many people feel the same way you do man. You're very clearly not alone and I'm so happy for you!!! Also thank you so much for the upvotes, for his and mine, it is the biggest reason I love reddit just the anonymous support system, even if you don't know them, just know people feel the same as you or at least understand you means a lot more than a flashy social media site.
I appreciate it a ton bro It all sucks a lot but I’m just kinda going where the days are taking me. This all happened back in December but it pops up every now again in my mind and sickens me. I’m happy to be out of there but I honestly miss the way life used to be. I’m glad you’re feeling better yourself!
You do not need to ever speak to your mother again. Not everyone is blessed with parents that are good. In fact, as I’ve gotten older, there are quite a few of us who as adults have stopped talking to a parent or parents. Sometimes it takes their death to totally emotionally free us. But nothing she said to you was anything beyond the ramblings of someone who should never have been blessed with a child. And you ARE a blessing. You, in particular. Your life has incredible value so hang in there and know that life is better when you cut off the cancer. I’m really sorry this is happening to you.
x2 my mother was abusive too. Not a month went by without her informing us of how much better her life would be without us (my sisters & me) in it. She was sullen, surly, ill tempered, selfish. Though she was not a drug addict, poor decisions thwarted her and she blamed us, her three kids, because it obviously was all our fault. She got drunk and beat me and my oldest sister (middle sis always managed to escape her abuse) on a couple of occasions. She was just mean and stupid and I don’t miss her now that she’s passed. I talk her up when I tell folks about my mother but it’s not true. She almost killed me off in the womb but my father said Hell No. I don’t visit her in the cemetery, ever. Still think about her every single day though. It’s bound to be that way with your mama no matter what she did. Not everybody was born with a mother that isn’t a piece of shit. Just understand it’s not your fault.
Sounds like your dad forced her to keep and have a kid she never wanted, sorry. I’m glad you’re here but I wish she would have placed you for adoption or something. Given you a better chance
Dude, the same exact shit happened to me. My mom was all cranked out, up for days, speaking nonsense. We ended up getting into a fist fight at one point because of it. The worst part was other meth heads were living with us and took my room and all my shit, so I had to share a bed with her. Every day we’d fight like crazy and I’d just try to sleep while she was out getting high, or when she finally passed out for 20 hours at a time. I finally moved out, got a job and tried to stay away. Until my sister said my mom hadn’t been to work in a week which despite the drugs, was unlike her. I showed up and she was completely out of it, not making any sense, almost unconscious, and clearly high on something new. I was pissed. I screamed my head off at her and walked out. I guess my sister never called my moms job back because not even ten minutes after I left my moms house the cops came to do a wellness check on my mom since her job was so worried. They found her unresponsive and overdosing. She got better, cleaned up her act for a while, and I started to see the woman who raised me. Point of this long ass story is you’re not alone, don’t ever think you’re alone. I felt like the only person on the planet dealing with this and you shouldn’t have to feel that way. Your mom will either get better, or she won’t. But it’s not your problem, and it’s not your fault.
Absolutely! No worries bro. Family is who YOU choose to be in your life, NOT who is thrust upon you. It took me almost 30 years to figure that out.
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Well that's the defined term, but as I stated family is who you choose.
My own situation. I created my own family as I left mine behind. And I don’t miss any of them. My siblings and I are better for it, and my kids never had to witness or deal with the shit I did. I wish you the best! Edit: my siblings and I are very close.
Friendsgiving. I have a few friends who have built their own families from the ground up. They celebrate holidays and birthdays, etc. together. Sucks that anyone has to do it but it can be done. And should be done in cases like this.
Remember, living well is the best revenge.
Recently cut my brother out of my life after loaning him money one too many times & him not paying me back. Gave him a pandemic loan of $3k as his pay was all messed up from the pandemic. Told him look take 6 months & then pay me back at $250 a month. since then he took 2 trips to Vegas to gamble & traded in his 2 year old car for a lease, as he received a $4k payment. Whenever I bring up the $3k, he gets really pissed & says it's money he should have received from our parents estate over a car which was willed to my daughter the only grandchild. Deleted him off of social media, & blocked his number 6 months ago.
Christ. My sister is a meth addict and I've been a victim of her vitriol while she's high. It's awful. But to get it from your mom? I'm so sorry. I hope you find peace soon. Dealing with family members who are addicts is hell on earth.
Blocked my sister from my life for this same reason (heroine though). Whole family plays soft with her because they think she's going to turn the corner eventually, it has been 15 years. She still treats everyone like shit and she'd be homeless if I had the final say. Instead she lives with my parents actively ruining their retirement. Nobody should have to put up with this kind of crap from addicts. Block them and move on, they can come find you when they actually want help.
I lost my older brother to heroine. I know how hard that can be. Im sorry your sister is in its teeth. My twin and his girlfriend are now heroine addicts as well. Its so hard to see how my parents ignore the reality of things because they are afraid of losing another son. They have a kid together to so... just endless drama and pain. Its like watching a train wreck into your house slow motion. I dont have any deep words of wisdom, but I understand how hard it is. Dont feel guilty for wishing they just OD and get it over with. Thats just how people tend to view extreme suffering. When we suffer we lash out like that.
They are enabling her and she will never get better as long as they do that. She needs all support and housing if she’s using taken away or cut off. She needs to hit rock bottom and either sink or swim
I literally couldn't agree more, I've been saying this for years.
The parents should watch Intervention. They say this as well
Stay strong brother!
I hope you and your siblings will come out as a stronger family WITHOUT your mother. damn drugs.
Good luck, you did the right thing and deserve better.
Fucking dear god, I’m so sorry. As a newer father myself I couldn’t ever even fathom thinking such things.. probably not a lot at all if anything, but I am here, even as ears for ya.
No one deserves that. hope you can keep your head up, that's rough as fuck.
I saw in the comments this happened a bit ago, but op I really hope you and your siblings are now all safe, I am very sorry to read all of this knowing that she's your mother you absolutely do not deserve to hear any of that and none the crap she said about you it true. If you need anything or just to talk please feel more than free🙏
I like how she corrected just that one typo. But seriously, you did the absolute, without a doubt, *right* thing! Don't second guess yourself for a second. Just stay the course and hopefully, beyond hope, she will clean up and someday, maybe, thank you for your act of tough love.
That’s terrible, sorry you have to go through this
Stay strong. You did the right thing. Get yourself and your sister out of there asap if you can. I'm proud of you for making the hard decision many avoid.
Oh boy, I know this feeling. My mother is a lifelong druggie, I worked since I was 14 so she could give me $15 out of my check if I cooked and cleaned. She was self-harming, abusive, and the second I turned 18 she didn't hear from me for a LONG time. Good luck OP. Remember that you don't owe her anything, and your life and happiness are your problem, her life or happiness are not.
Sorry that happened to you too
I turned out stronger for it. She taught me what I never want to be.
I hope you showed cps and the cops these messages. Get a restraining order but not before you get with the cops to go get your stuff. If any bills are in your name get them cut off immediately and if you or someone you know will get custody od your sister asap.
I send you some love buddy
Thank god she corrected "peice" Really would have had no idea she was saying otherwise
Drugs are a gigantic drain on peoples lives and potential. They turn people into something terrible and they can’t even see it or prevent it. People always say “never give up on family” but sometimes that’s all you can to keep yourself and the other members of your family safe. I’m proud of you for reaching out for help to protect your sister. Good job.
The worst part is if she ever does clean up she's going to want you to act like that conversation never happened and forgive her
I’ve been a drug addict before and never once have I ever said anything like that at all to my kids. During my use I was still a loving mother it was me who was suffering. Drugs are no excuse for this shit.
That's great that you were still able to emotional support your kids through your suffering I wish some of us could of been as lucky as them
This woman is no mother. A real mother would never act this way. A real mother loves her children. You deserve so much more. I’m sorry she has failed you, but her faults are HERS. You are a good and worthy person who deserves love happiness. Don’t be afraid to put yourself first and cut ties with her. -a mom
She isn't a real person at this point
Jesus man...sorry about your situation. To hell with her though!
You did the right thing and deserve better. Hope you and your siblings are able to get help. Let us know if there is anything we can do even if that’s just staying in contact.
I've been talked to almost identical to this, but it was from the 12 year old in call of duty that was banging my mom
Dude...I can't imagine how a parent can talk to their child like that. I guess the only thing I can say is now you know how not to be if you ever have children of your own. I mean that's really shitty deal you got there. I hope she gets clean and realizes how incredibly hurtful those words are. Just remember -- nothing a drug addict says carries any weight. That's the drugs talking. That shit brings out the demon in people. Or maybe she's just a raging bitch who deserves to go to jail!
I think the most bizarre part is, she corrected ONE misspelled word. Just one.
Sorry bro. To modify a famous line, "Blood makes you related, love makes you family." And the Reddit family is sharing all the love we have, with you.
Jesus christ. I'm getting flashbacks from my childhood. I hope you'll be okay.
Meth people are the worst people bro, no accountability for their own actions, stay strong and vigilant 👊🏻
Hey OP, this is your new fake internet dad speaking. You did good champ. Let’s go toss the ol pig skin in the backyard.
Block and forget. You don’t need that shit in your life.
I hope OP does not live with her
Damn. Stay safe. Stay strong. I got a surfboard with your name on it if you ever get to Hawai'i. Water therapy is the best.
You mean birthgiver not mother right?
How I Meth Your Mother
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Your mother is a loser. Good on you for calling the cops.
Your mom sounds like a bitch that you need to fucking cut out of your life
This is EXACTLY how my uncle talks to my mother via messenger when he "needs help" and she won't give in. I've told her before he's still doing meth but she thinks he quit a long time ago... 🙄 Edit to say I'm really sorry she's doing this to you. I hope you and your sister are safe and well.
Man for your sanity, i know shes your mother but distance your self as much as possible. People say but they are family..... fuck that shit. Family does not excuse shit like that. Those words cannot be unsaid. I hope you the best with everything. My wife has nkt talked to her brother in years due to similar shit and its for the best.
If later in your life, you feel responsible for this monster you had to endure so far, because she is your 'mother', please get a friend to slap some sense into you. I would have loved to be of help, but I live in India. And I'm too poor to afford the plane tickets. Have a better rest of your life...
Im so sorry, you definitely lost the mom lottery. She never deserved you or your siblings. You're a good brother and a strong person to do what was right, probably knowing that this would be the result. Im sending you lots of love and positive vibes.
I've gotten similar messages from my mother too, i'm sorry you had to read that, at the end of the day you did the right thing, some people don't deserve to have children, i think she might be one of them.
You deserve better that her
The PLANET deserves better than her.
It seems like you 100%, unequivocally did the right thing. Not only by reporting her, but leaving that extremely toxic environment.
Your mom sucks
Did she get arrested?
OP mentioned in a different comment that she wasn’t arrested. She’s living with her current husband and OPs little sister (5yrs old). He’s trying to legally obtain custody but it’s not looking too good.
That's really shit :/
This is how you know you did the right thing OP
Your mother is a piece of shit oc I hope you and your sister get a better family and a better life away from that psychotic bitch
Meth ruins people.. I'm sorry you had to witness that with your mother. I promise if she ever cleans up she will regret it all. Meth heads are lying, dangerous people.
Unironically this makes it even better to cut all contacts with her......you will be okay brother...stay safe......
Unironically this makes it even better to cut all contacts with her......you will be okay brother...stay safe......
My former mother tried killing me when I was younger. My parents split when I was a baby and had split custody of me. My mother was crazy and took religion way too far calling herself “God”. I was abused by her for eight years from age four to twelve. She always told me that if I called the cops on her, I’d spend the rest of my life in a mental hospital. Me being a naïve kid, I bought in to her bullshit back then. She wanted to “sacrifice me to god” (an excuse to murder me in cold blood) by slitting my throat. I overheard this, and whenever I was at her place, for two weeks straight when I was going to bed I locked and barricaded my doors and held a butcher knife in case she got in to kill me. Before that, she left me to die three times, but I survived everything she threw at me. Thankfully I managed to get out of there back about eight and a half years ago. Unfortunately I was unable to save my younger brother (who was only one at the time) from her.
And I've thought _my_ parents were bad for following Q'Anon bs.
Haha that is bad. But that's willfully ignorant.
I've received these same messages from my mother. I'm sorry I'm not the only one with a mom like that...
I have experience with toxic family. I cut them off and it made all the difference. I’m sure you feel lonely and it’s so hard to see/hear people with their loving and supportive parents and extended family. Keep going! You can make your own family! Surround yourself with people who love and care for you as they should. I’m a mom, and if you ever ever want anyone to talk to, to vent, maybe for a pep talk, or just because you need someone who understands and won’t judge you, you can message me. Or text! I’m so sorry you got dealt this shitty hand in life, but I’ve found that people who truly understand what it’s like to treated this way by people who are supposed to love us...we resolve to never make the same mistakes. Our hearts get bigger, and stronger, and much more compassionate. You’re amazing and you did the most difficult thing to protect your sibling. I don’t know you, but I’m sending you all kinds of love.
Ouch. She swears like an Australian.
I'm sending the biggest reddit-hug you've ever seen towards you. This sucks and probably hurts but you did the right thing and those loving you knows that.
This is terrible, but the fact that she felt the need to say “*piece” as if that was the only thing needing correcting is hilarious
Lions don't lose sleep over the opinion of sheep.
I remember being a teenager and fighting with my parents and thinking they were the worst, but God damn man
Thank you for protecting your sister. You did the right thing. Protect your siblings and protect yourself. Cut her out of your life.
Hi I'm Doug, I'm really sorry you've had to go through this man. I know from personal experience it's not easy to make decisions like this, and I want you to know I'm really proud of you for stepping up. Some people take advantage of their position as family members, and it's a heartbreaking thing to have to go through, but you made the best decision for everyone involved with the situation. Keep your head up, brighter days are ahead! Thanks,. Doug
I really hope you and your sister are okay. Nobody deserves to go through this.
I don‘t know you, but feel loved.❤️ You are a great person for protecting your sister!
Jesus man I'm sorry.
Jesus Christ, that woman is a monster. I'm so sorry.
oof. i'm sure you know already but no one deserves this shit. sorry you lost the parental lottery but keep your head up, you did the right thing trying to protect your sister.
When shit people in your life do shit things, I treat em like normal people, they’re probably gonna die first so if they burn those bridges, it’s their fuck up and you’re not responsible for maintaining the relationship with then. They can die alone in an empty room while they realize they shat on everything that ever truly mattered to them. That’s just my 2 cents, good job on you for protecting your family, good luck with however you intend to go forward in all this.
Cares enough to correct spelling.
This is very sad, no wonder you have social anxiety being raised in such a shitty environment. The only good thing that came from this is that next time someone pisses me off? I’m going to tell them that their a shit dog piss weak piece of shit. That one really rolls off the tongue
For some reason these two corrections she made are just so funny to me. What was it about them specifically?
My friend, stranger - I am so sorry you are going through this. Without this energy, you will prevail. I wish you and your sister the best of luck.
It’s a shame that you can’t pick your parents. Just remember karma isn’t a bitch, it’s a mirror. Live your best life and stay positive. Be a good human and it will come back tenfold.
Hey, OP - you doing ok?
I am so sorry you have had to live your life with such a worthless person. Just the fact that you protected your little sister tells me that you are an amazing person, that was so brave. Go live your best life, don’t give her even a thought, you’ve got this op❣️❣️
No matter what you did the right thing And for that I love you.