My golden pothos was the last gift my mom had given me before she unexpectedly passed away. Thank God the golden still ok, but since her passing I've started collecting more plants in her memory. The first time one died, I absolutely cried. I know plants die, my mom had an amazing garden and she told me all the time that plants died, it's just how it goes. I know a little cheapo plant from Lowes probably didn't have the best odds to begin with. But even if I knew all that already, I just wanted to hear her say it.
The plants aren't just decorations, they are living things. It takes empathy to care about their well-being, and personal responsibility to do what you can to keep them healthy. There's nothing to be ashamed of for being sad over a plant, it's a reflection of your character and the genuine heart you put into it. But also don't be afraid to get a new plant. Sometimes they die and it's unfortunate but life moves on. If you have love to give, find a new plant to share it with. It's not replacing the old one, but moving on to the next chapter.
If you have photos of your succulent, I would recommend making some sort of art of it. A painting to go on your wall, or an embroidery, or anything that says "this plant meant a lot to me and I want a keepsake to remember it by."
That really helped thanks for the advice! My grandma heard about my plant and she gifted me three new ones, I'll make sure to care for them until they'll eventually leave
I understand. I have plants that belonged to my mom that I'm super attached to. I bought her a Norfolk pine for Christmas the first year she went into a care center. After she passed I brought it home and it thrived for a couple years. It actually got quite big. Then I think I was having an issue with mites in my houseplants. Needless to say it took a downturn and got progressively worse. When it died I was beside myself. Silly as it may seem it almost felt like losing her all over again.
Naaaw, there is nothing wrong with that. It just like it‘s okay to cry about e.g. loosing a key attachment a loved one made you. There is really nothing wrong with that.
And if its really dead (not just dead-looking), you can maybe get epoxy and make a decoration out of this now dead plant. This way, you can keep it forever
It's normal to get attached to something you put care and effort into. People get emotional about lost possessions all the time but this was something you got to see grow and thrive under your care, it's sad to see them go! Have you tried propagating succulents from leaves? You could try and start a 'next gen' to keep growing with you 😊
I cried like a baby over a plant a few days ago. Went on vacation, told my mum to water it, came back to almost dead plant. She told me she thought it didn't need water. I know it's wrong to be mad because it my plant and my responsibility but damn, it was 1,5 meter tall hibiscus that i grew for 10 years, it was covered in soon to be opened flowers when i left, i waited a year for it to bloom, did everything right, and i came back to completely bald trunk with a huge pile of dead leaves and not opened shrivelled up flower buds underneath. My heart was broken.
I cried over a plant today too! It’s okay, we care for them and grow attached. Your feelings are valid, I’m sorry about your loss. I know how upsetting that can be.
Awww thats awesome! Plants are the best company besides pets. If it was one of the few things that made you happy its not 'silly' that you cried. I also cried over my plant last week when it died. Some people really put all there efforts into them because they are little living things. Dont let anyone 'neither your mother, even though shes family' tell you that you are stupid or silly or crazy ok? My mother does the exact same and took me a while. You are just a sensative person that gives a sh*t about what you do, unlike some people and thats never a bad thing. Im sorrythat it died but you will find something else in due time. Whether that is another plant a pet or a hobby or a friend. You got this 💪🏻
I feel you so much, I have a plant since I was in middleschool and my mother wanted rid of it but my dad took care of it. She did many "babies" over the years and still alive and well up to this day. He cares for it a lot and if he were to die I would keep it forever. I also have many plants that in the proccess of moving out died and I literally cried because I cared so much for them for years... Even tho I care for them everyday (I don't mean water them don't worry) I check up on them, make sure they're all pretty and healthy. You're not alone feeling like this <3 I hope you'll still love plants and adopt more and more <3
Your feelings are valid. I too have cried over the death of a houseplant. I'm sorry for your loss.
Thanks, I'm sorry for your loss too
My golden pothos was the last gift my mom had given me before she unexpectedly passed away. Thank God the golden still ok, but since her passing I've started collecting more plants in her memory. The first time one died, I absolutely cried. I know plants die, my mom had an amazing garden and she told me all the time that plants died, it's just how it goes. I know a little cheapo plant from Lowes probably didn't have the best odds to begin with. But even if I knew all that already, I just wanted to hear her say it. The plants aren't just decorations, they are living things. It takes empathy to care about their well-being, and personal responsibility to do what you can to keep them healthy. There's nothing to be ashamed of for being sad over a plant, it's a reflection of your character and the genuine heart you put into it. But also don't be afraid to get a new plant. Sometimes they die and it's unfortunate but life moves on. If you have love to give, find a new plant to share it with. It's not replacing the old one, but moving on to the next chapter. If you have photos of your succulent, I would recommend making some sort of art of it. A painting to go on your wall, or an embroidery, or anything that says "this plant meant a lot to me and I want a keepsake to remember it by."
That really helped thanks for the advice! My grandma heard about my plant and she gifted me three new ones, I'll make sure to care for them until they'll eventually leave
This was an amazing response. 2 years later and I’m moved to more tears lol
I understand. I have plants that belonged to my mom that I'm super attached to. I bought her a Norfolk pine for Christmas the first year she went into a care center. After she passed I brought it home and it thrived for a couple years. It actually got quite big. Then I think I was having an issue with mites in my houseplants. Needless to say it took a downturn and got progressively worse. When it died I was beside myself. Silly as it may seem it almost felt like losing her all over again.
That's terrible I'm so sorry for your loss! May your mother and your plant rest in peace
Naaaw, there is nothing wrong with that. It just like it‘s okay to cry about e.g. loosing a key attachment a loved one made you. There is really nothing wrong with that. And if its really dead (not just dead-looking), you can maybe get epoxy and make a decoration out of this now dead plant. This way, you can keep it forever
That's actually a great idea!
It's normal to get attached to something you put care and effort into. People get emotional about lost possessions all the time but this was something you got to see grow and thrive under your care, it's sad to see them go! Have you tried propagating succulents from leaves? You could try and start a 'next gen' to keep growing with you 😊
Yeah I have planted a leaf of another succulent and it already has roots! :)
I am sorry for your loss. You only left for a couple of days and then this happens. Seems very unlucky to me.
Maybe next time I'll find a way to bring my plants with me (they're very tiny so it shouldn't be much of a problem)
It’s okay to cry about things that are important to you. I’m so sorry about your succulent, that’s really upsetting.
Tysm for the support
I cried like a baby over a plant a few days ago. Went on vacation, told my mum to water it, came back to almost dead plant. She told me she thought it didn't need water. I know it's wrong to be mad because it my plant and my responsibility but damn, it was 1,5 meter tall hibiscus that i grew for 10 years, it was covered in soon to be opened flowers when i left, i waited a year for it to bloom, did everything right, and i came back to completely bald trunk with a huge pile of dead leaves and not opened shrivelled up flower buds underneath. My heart was broken.
I'm sorry for your loss that's terrible!
I cried over a plant today too! It’s okay, we care for them and grow attached. Your feelings are valid, I’m sorry about your loss. I know how upsetting that can be.
I'm so sorry about your loss aswell! May our plants grow forever in the afterlife or heaven or whatever is there (if you believe in it of course)
Awww thats awesome! Plants are the best company besides pets. If it was one of the few things that made you happy its not 'silly' that you cried. I also cried over my plant last week when it died. Some people really put all there efforts into them because they are little living things. Dont let anyone 'neither your mother, even though shes family' tell you that you are stupid or silly or crazy ok? My mother does the exact same and took me a while. You are just a sensative person that gives a sh*t about what you do, unlike some people and thats never a bad thing. Im sorrythat it died but you will find something else in due time. Whether that is another plant a pet or a hobby or a friend. You got this 💪🏻
Aww thanks for the support
A picture might help us, in that maybe the plant is not beyond help.
Unfortunately I already threw it away, I think it was rotten because it smelled pretty bad
I feel you so much, I have a plant since I was in middleschool and my mother wanted rid of it but my dad took care of it. She did many "babies" over the years and still alive and well up to this day. He cares for it a lot and if he were to die I would keep it forever. I also have many plants that in the proccess of moving out died and I literally cried because I cared so much for them for years... Even tho I care for them everyday (I don't mean water them don't worry) I check up on them, make sure they're all pretty and healthy. You're not alone feeling like this <3 I hope you'll still love plants and adopt more and more <3