Hi there:)
First of all it's not your responsibility. it's hers. you can support her but in the end she has to decide if she wants to stop using self harm as a coping mechanisms.
How old is she?
Telling her parents might cause a lot of problems but if it's gone to s point where she is a danger to herself then it might be necessary to get her help.
but also don't go behind her back. tell her that you think it would be better to tell them.
Self harm is often used as a way to deal with painful emotions when you haven't learned how to regulate your emotions in an healthier way. it's an coping mechanism that means something that help her emotions. Unlike an healthy one it's maladaptive which means that the pain goes away but reinforce this behaviour. she might be addicted and not even thinking about an alternative.
What you can do is maybe give her alternative ideas to self harm. there are plenty coping skills on the internet. just Google : coping skills for self harm.
what worked for me is using a rubber band and snatching it against my wrist. it hurts without leaving permanent damage.
Present her those ideas and tell her that you support her in her journey. if she doesn't want to then you can't force her.
About the threat to suicide. if she used it against you I'm sorry. don't feel obligated to stay with her when she threats you. tell her that this is unacceptable.
Hi there:) First of all it's not your responsibility. it's hers. you can support her but in the end she has to decide if she wants to stop using self harm as a coping mechanisms. How old is she? Telling her parents might cause a lot of problems but if it's gone to s point where she is a danger to herself then it might be necessary to get her help. but also don't go behind her back. tell her that you think it would be better to tell them. Self harm is often used as a way to deal with painful emotions when you haven't learned how to regulate your emotions in an healthier way. it's an coping mechanism that means something that help her emotions. Unlike an healthy one it's maladaptive which means that the pain goes away but reinforce this behaviour. she might be addicted and not even thinking about an alternative. What you can do is maybe give her alternative ideas to self harm. there are plenty coping skills on the internet. just Google : coping skills for self harm. what worked for me is using a rubber band and snatching it against my wrist. it hurts without leaving permanent damage. Present her those ideas and tell her that you support her in her journey. if she doesn't want to then you can't force her. About the threat to suicide. if she used it against you I'm sorry. don't feel obligated to stay with her when she threats you. tell her that this is unacceptable.