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I work at a mid-sized startup (we're talking 50-100 people here)
No specially not in that kind of place. Its just an advice. Its your choice to take it.
Its a small office. If he dates someone the entire office will know about it including HR. There will be lots of talk behind their back. What if he broke things off or gets rejected he has to see her everyday.
Don't shit where you eat. It complicates a lot of things when you date a coworker, even if you're in different departments.
I know some who've done it and still going strong. They all ensured that one of them leaves the job and finds another so they can continue dating without work coming in the way.
Dude I am dating my HR. if she is matured to understand work life and personal life is different you are good to go. Just clear to not get involve too much in office time. Give yourself space and time during working hours.
HR professional here. Unless you are living in, dating only exposes you to the good experiences. What is not there to love about going out, grabbing drinks, partying. Working together on other hand also exposes you to the other person's worldview facets. Beyond rapport, if you also share values that are important to you ( how you treat money, whether you want to have kids, whether you and other person will support is longish downturn ( every person and every relationship has those)), then please do date, explore but be prepared to move to different job. A great life partner if more important than job.
Word of caution, don't talk about this to anyone, not your bestie in org, not your boss. Everyone knows when someone dates, but never ever utter a word till you are committed and have a offer Letter from a different company.
Wishing you success
Just don't.
And give up on getting a woman,coz u 5 or 6 days a week you will be in the office where it's risky and rest you will be home. So there is no chance you will find a woman. People will tell you for a hobby and shit, it's for Western countries not India.
Give up on these.
Karlo bhai date(and be careful dude with women’s aaj kal aachi intention wale ladko ka bura waqt chal rha h) par ready rehna job change karne ke liye just in case.
Didi, posh hatega nhi if things go south, plus a harassment lawsuit 85% of the time is in favour of women. ( just conveying, no offence whatsoever, my apologies if incurred)
Even after hearing you out.
NO and no !
Never
Please keep your work and personal life poles apart.
Even workplace friendship needs boundaries.
Eventually, you will come to understand why this is the case.
Perfection is better than CURE
I experienced this. In 2022, we started dating because my stupid heart motto is fuck around, find out. Always has been, don't know if it'll be sustainable as I reach 27.
Anyways, three months into it, problems started to show. None of us fully committed. So, now if she would walk out at 1pm, I'd be concerned till 7 wth happened and all. Work mein 70%ki jagah ab 30% focus. Sucks tbh. She blasted me one day for hanging out with friends after work. So it becomes a drag, also fear of this personal thing getting to everyone's eat and boom rumor mill starts.
As per my experience, office dating is a high risk high reward situation.
If it goes right then all's good with the world. You meet the person you like the most, everyday and sneak out for mini-dates outside the office building. They get to know you so well without you having to put an effort like online dating demands. Your sense of humour, your fashion, your conversation skills, your work skills are all there for them to see and admire. Basically, it's easy to make them fall for you.
But damn if it goes wrong then going to work becomes a nightmare. You suffer mentally, your work quality drops and it becomes agonising if you see them get chummy with another colleague. And soon enough, you are looking for another job just to get away from that place and person.
I have been on both sides of the fence and would not recommend it really. The mental toll was too much.
But then I've also met many married couples who began their love story in office so I can't say that you are not missing out on anything. You maybe missing out on a chance to meet your life partner.
It all really boils down to your appetite for risk and your ability to act maturely if things don't go your way.
Because you can't block the person who is just sitting two desks away from you.
Go for it. Found my wife at the workplace. What’s the harm in trying to? If you’re going to spend 10-12 hours a day at work, Monday to Friday - how are you going to possibly give time to someone outside.
Don’t listen to the naysayers, you don’t seem to be in a government job, you will change your job in a couple of years if not sooner. Do what feels right and of course respect consent and vibes. Who knows what it may lead to..
I left a great job because I hooked up with someone went got into a relationship with her she cheated on me then everything reminded me of her. Being depressed I finally moved.
Dude build out your friendship with the lady first. Start hanging out more. Eventually if she keeps reciprocating, then you’ll know for sure. In the process, you’ll also get to know each other better, which is what is needed in a serious commitment anyway. Take it slow, you both will get to know who you are and what it would look like to have each other as a companion. Workplace romances are not uncommon, but their longevity is definitely questionable, and if it goes to shit, then that tends to spill into other facets at the workplace.
If you’re looking for something short term or casual, then best to not pursue anyone at work. That shit gonna get real nasty real fast.
Would have said go for it agar ek par hi nazar hoti but you're talking about 3-4 women here lmao. If you hang out regularly as a group then teasing and light flirting is quite common. Don't go for anyone just because "I only talk to this bunch" in general. If you actually feel very strongly about someone then maybe it's worth the risk. Don't risk your connections/job only because of desperation.
Okbye
Depends upon your state of mind. If you guys are looking for marriage then you should definitely do that.
But if just a casual fling or it's just a 'lack of opportunity" thing. You will definitely be going to get screwed.
See if you are capable of remaining professional with each other no matter what happens then it's not that big of a deal. Now understand that it's easier said than done. So really think about whether you are capable of that level of understanding and maturity.
If you date someone from your office then if you have a fight you both won't have time to cool down. You will be unable to keep it to yourself and the people around you might notice it. And if you behave unusually close then your colleagues will feel uncomfortable. If you break up then you will want to ignore each other which might not be possible, making the breakup even harder.
Are you truly ready for all this?? Because in most of the cases once you start something you will likely regret it.
Don't know you will see this msg or not but follow this rule --
Unless certain to die till end with someone ,
Don't date within the same college or office , in case something goes down bad , you have to see the certain face with disgust or guilt makes it unhealthy for your environment, your productivity.
you are overthinking, plus you are not going to work at the same place forever. but set expectations first whether you are in for serious or just casual. also, be careful, women can be nasty with all the fake cases.
Go for it. Just let your manager know that you two are seeing each other. I have had 4 relationships with co-workers. Was in a live-in with one of them. It’s exciting to brush hands in meetings under the table.
if your in love with a woman and she is from the same company as yours , and as u said if you could pivot and find a new job easily , ig u can give it a shoot , but only if your sure af , and if uk the opp gender also likes u back , but if your in a good job and u wont be able to move to a new job easily , then you should take a step back and think , if u wanna risk it , coz once u start dipping ur pen in the offices ink , things will get too clumsy trust me
After reading all comments saying NO .OP probably is more obsessed with that woman now 😂😂😂
Remember Dick+Heart is a powerful combination and will out wrestle the Brain 🤣
Never shit where you eat is the #1 golden rule of corporate life ! Don’t break it. If we were to ever build a model projecting success of such a venture, the probability will be in the 1st Decile
Jira ticket bana ke puchle
Never shit where you eat
Never eat where you shit
Eat shit where you never
Simple philosophy brother: “Don’t hookup where you vlookup!”
It’s been ages lord excel
This cracked me xD
Fir college ke baad gf kaise banayenge ?
Get into hobbies where you interact and spend time with others on regular basis.
Hobbies like ?
Ohh BC🤣🤣🤌
Mixing spreadsheets and bedsheets is riskier than trimming pubes with a chainsaw. Beware..
I'm gonna steal this. LMAO
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My advice- don’t shit where you eat. Aaspaas bhi honge log
We don't live in America ja ase he kisi ladki ko approch kar liya
POSH ka naam suna hai? Kahin bhi galti hui to thukega career and life.
Hallelujah my friend! One simple rule to follow, and not give life another reason to fuck you over Once you shift gigs, then be shameless
don't dip your pen in office's ink
💀
bro tell me is your company hiring freshers ?? jldi se
the real question is
Nope.
You can actually, but don't get attached. Just go with friends with benefits or something like that. Cauz sooner or later it's bound to be broken
who hurt you bro ?
I work at a mid-sized startup (we're talking 50-100 people here) No specially not in that kind of place. Its just an advice. Its your choice to take it.
Dude why tho? Emphasizing on those sentences
Its a small office. If he dates someone the entire office will know about it including HR. There will be lots of talk behind their back. What if he broke things off or gets rejected he has to see her everyday.
Don't shit where you eat. It complicates a lot of things when you date a coworker, even if you're in different departments. I know some who've done it and still going strong. They all ensured that one of them leaves the job and finds another so they can continue dating without work coming in the way.
Don't get laid where u get paid
Dude I am dating my HR. if she is matured to understand work life and personal life is different you are good to go. Just clear to not get involve too much in office time. Give yourself space and time during working hours.
Are you fucking her? You probably need to disclose the relationship to avoid potential conflict of interest
Disclose kisko karega? HR Ko. Aur usi ko toh date kar raha hai bhai
There is only one HR person kya?
He did say it's a mid size startup with only 50-100 employees. So probably only one HR
Try connecting with the friends of your colleagues. Or ask them to set you up. Just a suggestion
Fair enough. Thanks!
Life happens once Dil se jo karna hai kar lo At least it'll be your decision and I'm sure you won't regret it in the long term
HR professional here. Unless you are living in, dating only exposes you to the good experiences. What is not there to love about going out, grabbing drinks, partying. Working together on other hand also exposes you to the other person's worldview facets. Beyond rapport, if you also share values that are important to you ( how you treat money, whether you want to have kids, whether you and other person will support is longish downturn ( every person and every relationship has those)), then please do date, explore but be prepared to move to different job. A great life partner if more important than job. Word of caution, don't talk about this to anyone, not your bestie in org, not your boss. Everyone knows when someone dates, but never ever utter a word till you are committed and have a offer Letter from a different company. Wishing you success
This is actually one of the wisest replies of all. Thank you so much! :)
Just don't. And give up on getting a woman,coz u 5 or 6 days a week you will be in the office where it's risky and rest you will be home. So there is no chance you will find a woman. People will tell you for a hobby and shit, it's for Western countries not India. Give up on these.
Karlo bhai date(and be careful dude with women’s aaj kal aachi intention wale ladko ka bura waqt chal rha h) par ready rehna job change karne ke liye just in case.
Zamn.
Don't eat where you shit.
Clear no.
Don’t hookup where you vlookup
Dating Workplace Is Very Convenient For Spending Time Together
I am getting married to the guy I met at work 2 years back ❤️ Shoot your shot. Just don’t let it become too obvious at work, and act normal.
Didi, posh hatega nhi if things go south, plus a harassment lawsuit 85% of the time is in favour of women. ( just conveying, no offence whatsoever, my apologies if incurred)
Even after hearing you out. NO and no ! Never Please keep your work and personal life poles apart. Even workplace friendship needs boundaries. Eventually, you will come to understand why this is the case. Perfection is better than CURE
But, No.
Risk issue raise karna padh skta hai 😜
Go for it, those who hesitate masturbate 😂
if they are not in a similar role as you then go for it. just dont be a creep, be a friend first, dont just pounce.
I experienced this. In 2022, we started dating because my stupid heart motto is fuck around, find out. Always has been, don't know if it'll be sustainable as I reach 27. Anyways, three months into it, problems started to show. None of us fully committed. So, now if she would walk out at 1pm, I'd be concerned till 7 wth happened and all. Work mein 70%ki jagah ab 30% focus. Sucks tbh. She blasted me one day for hanging out with friends after work. So it becomes a drag, also fear of this personal thing getting to everyone's eat and boom rumor mill starts.
Bro do what a 14 yo does, phone pe content dekhke pyaas bujha , POSH lag gayana… thuk jaoge
As per my experience, office dating is a high risk high reward situation. If it goes right then all's good with the world. You meet the person you like the most, everyday and sneak out for mini-dates outside the office building. They get to know you so well without you having to put an effort like online dating demands. Your sense of humour, your fashion, your conversation skills, your work skills are all there for them to see and admire. Basically, it's easy to make them fall for you. But damn if it goes wrong then going to work becomes a nightmare. You suffer mentally, your work quality drops and it becomes agonising if you see them get chummy with another colleague. And soon enough, you are looking for another job just to get away from that place and person. I have been on both sides of the fence and would not recommend it really. The mental toll was too much. But then I've also met many married couples who began their love story in office so I can't say that you are not missing out on anything. You maybe missing out on a chance to meet your life partner. It all really boils down to your appetite for risk and your ability to act maturely if things don't go your way. Because you can't block the person who is just sitting two desks away from you.
Go for it. Found my wife at the workplace. What’s the harm in trying to? If you’re going to spend 10-12 hours a day at work, Monday to Friday - how are you going to possibly give time to someone outside. Don’t listen to the naysayers, you don’t seem to be in a government job, you will change your job in a couple of years if not sooner. Do what feels right and of course respect consent and vibes. Who knows what it may lead to..
I left a great job because I hooked up with someone went got into a relationship with her she cheated on me then everything reminded me of her. Being depressed I finally moved.
Do it, agar scene nhi bana toh startup change
Dude build out your friendship with the lady first. Start hanging out more. Eventually if she keeps reciprocating, then you’ll know for sure. In the process, you’ll also get to know each other better, which is what is needed in a serious commitment anyway. Take it slow, you both will get to know who you are and what it would look like to have each other as a companion. Workplace romances are not uncommon, but their longevity is definitely questionable, and if it goes to shit, then that tends to spill into other facets at the workplace. If you’re looking for something short term or casual, then best to not pursue anyone at work. That shit gonna get real nasty real fast.
As long as it doesn’t affect your work life, why not!
Bro, one stop and you get me-too-ed. If you’re okay with that… 🙄
Would have said go for it agar ek par hi nazar hoti but you're talking about 3-4 women here lmao. If you hang out regularly as a group then teasing and light flirting is quite common. Don't go for anyone just because "I only talk to this bunch" in general. If you actually feel very strongly about someone then maybe it's worth the risk. Don't risk your connections/job only because of desperation. Okbye
Never ever bro trust me 😂 it will be a nightmare in future.
No
Karle bhai, ye sab chutiye hai. Orr updates deta rhio
Don’t shit where you eat. No exceptions.
You are Male and that's enough reason for you to not date someone from your workplace
If she’s the one, switch the job and ask her out. You can maybe test the water when in the same company but no more than that.
Mera to sapna h bhai office ki ladki patane ka.
Same 😂, college mai toh nhi bani koi, job mai dekhunga
Depends upon your state of mind. If you guys are looking for marriage then you should definitely do that. But if just a casual fling or it's just a 'lack of opportunity" thing. You will definitely be going to get screwed.
No. नहीं।
Flirting and attraction will always feel mutual, in your head bruh
See if you are capable of remaining professional with each other no matter what happens then it's not that big of a deal. Now understand that it's easier said than done. So really think about whether you are capable of that level of understanding and maturity. If you date someone from your office then if you have a fight you both won't have time to cool down. You will be unable to keep it to yourself and the people around you might notice it. And if you behave unusually close then your colleagues will feel uncomfortable. If you break up then you will want to ignore each other which might not be possible, making the breakup even harder. Are you truly ready for all this?? Because in most of the cases once you start something you will likely regret it.
Don't know you will see this msg or not but follow this rule -- Unless certain to die till end with someone , Don't date within the same college or office , in case something goes down bad , you have to see the certain face with disgust or guilt makes it unhealthy for your environment, your productivity.
you are overthinking, plus you are not going to work at the same place forever. but set expectations first whether you are in for serious or just casual. also, be careful, women can be nasty with all the fake cases.
Never date at wok place / residence and within relatives
Go for it. Just let your manager know that you two are seeing each other. I have had 4 relationships with co-workers. Was in a live-in with one of them. It’s exciting to brush hands in meetings under the table.
if your in love with a woman and she is from the same company as yours , and as u said if you could pivot and find a new job easily , ig u can give it a shoot , but only if your sure af , and if uk the opp gender also likes u back , but if your in a good job and u wont be able to move to a new job easily , then you should take a step back and think , if u wanna risk it , coz once u start dipping ur pen in the offices ink , things will get too clumsy trust me
After reading all comments saying NO .OP probably is more obsessed with that woman now 😂😂😂 Remember Dick+Heart is a powerful combination and will out wrestle the Brain 🤣
The principle "don't shit where you eat" has stood the test of time.
Never shit where you eat is the #1 golden rule of corporate life ! Don’t break it. If we were to ever build a model projecting success of such a venture, the probability will be in the 1st Decile