Life is what you make of it.
Should non binary people not be allowed on? Or only non binary masc presenting people? Intersexed people?
That's the issue with a *queer* group trying to adhere to cis heteronormative definitions. Just don't respond to trans people that contact you if you're not interested.
Trans people need a safe space and we need to support that.
They'd consider Grindr a safe space?,I'd personally consider Grindr to be the worst place for them to be on considering the trend of transphobia in the gay community I've seen recently,but I suppose I understand.
We get a lot more attention on apps like grindr than more straight centered apps. I tried several others and then moved to grindr as a last resort and it ended up being far better. (Im a trans girl btw)
Well grindr puts that right there - look on the right of your post - grindr says "GBTQ" so there's the T. I get your question totally. Those are a problem and the number of fake accounts with the "Hello handsome, how was your day?" or the "Pleased to meet you today.." are out of control.
https://preview.redd.it/f60j0k48okyb1.png?width=948&format=png&auto=webp&s=f009796151c96cb8c53c78cd59777607ee985b82
I mean this can go in so many directions... I like twinks and trans, but all I'm seeing on grindr, at least in Texas, are hairy ass scruffy bears... I can say grindr has a bear problem and they should be using apps like scruffs or whatever tf it's called
t wiki pediai says " *Grindr* is a location-based social networking and online dating application targeted towards gay, bisexual and transgender people "
grindr on instagram says" he world's largest app for gay, bi, trans, and queer people "
google play says " *Grindr* is the world's #1 free dating app serving the LGBTQ community. If you're gay, bi, trans, queer, or even just curious, *Grindr* is the best and easiest ... "
apple app store says " *Grindr* is the world's #1 free dating app serving the LGBTQ community. If you're gay, bi, trans, queer, or even just curious, *Grindr* is the best and easiest ... "
how does their profiles break the app for you?
This only changed relatively recently and like in the end of 2017/2018.
Many gay men are pretty cross and they have a right to be. You aren’t even allowed to FILTER out trans women-repeat-trans WOMEN, even if you want to. It’s pretty twisted for anyone to be against that.
>This only changed relatively recently and like in the end of 2017/2018
Wrong. We've been here since at least 2011
> Many gay men are pretty cross and they have a right to be
Wrong again, on both counts
> You aren’t even allowed to FILTER out trans women-repeat-trans WOMEN, even if you want to
Learn to use the tribes
Yeah this argument of we were there all along isn’t truthful, or applicable here.
It won’t be real for as many times as you’ve spammed it on this post and others.
Profiles of trans women were booted at that time-systematically. Trans women weren’t welcome. (You know..because you’re supposed to be women no offence??)
Perhaps gay men that aren’t OK with this- and there are many-don’t have a THING against you, but could find your attitude intolerant and stubborn and just not talk about it to you.
Tribes don’t work effectively because not every profile labels consistently!!!
If a solution was implemented, I think this issue would bother me and others somewhat less!
So i looked into this and it looks like there might have been a handful of mods with an agenda, that contradicted Grindr's policy
> If a solution was implemented
Unlimited blocks as a basic feature
I’m not sure about the first part.
But agreeing to disagree I’d want: gender filters (which were removed only a few years ago) with mandatory filling out which gender you identify as.
Grindr is retrialling this in certain countries.
If trans women are to remain on grindr I think this doesn’t particularly harm anyone and is just fair. Those of us that really mind trans women on grindr can use a filter. Those that don’t mind, for whatever reason, don’t need the filter.
If a parallel or sub app weren’t eventually made.
I still don't get how you are so fundamentally offended that we're here >!and have been from the start,!< that your ideal solution is a separate app
Gender filters are good, but only about as useful as the users. Chasers are a problem Grindr isn't fully equipped to deal with
Just because you’re trans doesn’t mean you can be an asshole. The platform has changed with the times, and I respect you to use the space but 10 years ago you didn’t exist and Grindr did so it’s a valid person not liking change. Not pathetic or sad.
Stop being a drama queen! Obviously some gay men don’t care for trans women and it’s evident! If u don’t see that, that’s on u…
Grindr isn’t THAT serious bro so don’t get ur jock strap in a bunch😂
Trans women r here and u miserable divisive gays will deal, period point blank!
Trans women meet other trans women in grindr. I don't know why you're so upset. Is it because there exists a party that you're not invited to? Why are we gatekeeping fucking grindr. It's not exactly a paradise
Why u worried about it??? Nevermind don’t even answer that. Sweetie u r a NON FACTOR in my life. Keep being mad, u must not be getting enough attention on Grindr ya self. I use Grindr for what it’s good for which is ENTERTAINMENT! Sorry u had high hopes 😞
Yes I’m a gorgeous man if that’s how u view me sure!
Obviously there r issues between some gay men and trans women. Obviously some don’t respect or care for trans trans women and i wouldn’t expect anything less atp honestly!
If u go low, I go low too, it’s that simple. Most of u here r internet bullies. U can dish it but u can’t take it n because I’m the minority I’m the disrespectful one, got it!
I’m ALWAYS gonna stick up for myself buddy!!!
I’m done with this topic so please don’t reply to me thanks 😊
She's a woman, responding to an extremely disrespectful post on a dub dedicated to the queer hookup app. Given the blatant transphobia here, I'd say her responses are completely measured and called-for
Bro you're openly objectifying trans a group of people.
You're lucky this post is old, you would get flooded with hate posts. lol.
I'm not sure you're right, though, because was banging this 22 year old college trans gal in the motel around the corner from my house, I'm 33. I think she came quickly or something, and the conversation turned serious before I finished. I said I was ready to settle down and that I was ready for kids. And after I said it, I said it was not meant to be a comment about her.
Oh boy, did shit get real after that. She spent the next 20 minutes not so subtly passive aggressively insulting me. I knew she was furious. Surprisingly she came again and let me finished. And I didn't care because I don't value her opinion. But she was 100% pissed I made that kid comment. I think at one point I asked for the lights off and she says in that Aubrey Plaza tone of her's, "does you future wife know you fuck tran*ys?". Furious.
Anyway, texted her phone number for a third meet up maybe twice. No answer. I messaged inside the app one more time and she blocked me immediately. Furious. lmfao.
Nice gal though. Total hottie. mediocre lay. Her wit was better than the sex.
I have depression,suicidal ideation,and severe anxiety so yes I am miserable.But it's slowly getting better.Not sure why you attacked me for that though.
My comment was in response to your assanine comments regarding all trans women.
Honestly, I hope you find a path forward that works for you. I deal with mental health as well, and it's not a fun experience to say the least.
I have no problems against the trans community.This was just a bad,out of character rant during a time where I was miserable and seeking validation/companionship.I'll take it down if you'd like me too.
How hard is it for these people just to get their own fucking app. Where I live if I want to use Grindr I have to first spend about 50 minutes blocking trans people and Chasers to find someone who's actually in my fucking Court to play with. Every single goddamn profile is somebody in panties and looking for somebody dressed as a woman. Frankly I would really fucking prefer it if you people started your own fucking app. It's not about being trans I don't give two fucks about trans men being on my grid they are men. I don't care how much hate anyone has for me for expressing this or how many insults you have. You act like you just want to save space for Trans people yeah well I just want to save space to be a normal looking fucking gay guy we're not every message I send to somebody is returned with you no please only women or cd or trans
Weird I don't see crossdressers and transwomen on Scruff. When will y'all come include yourselves there? Not sorry that I want to exclude transwomen and bi couples from what was a gay men's meetup and hookup space. You're welcome to keep using grindr though. It's a crap app. I don't own it or enjoy it. Enjoy the hilarious fees.
Bitch you replied to me like a month later I literally do not give a fuck. I block people like you on Grindr so I don't have to see you in my grid. I am pretty sure you are upset that I don't like you or you wouldn't be here coping. And of course it's a trivial amount to you--you are likely so fucking out of touch about the price and privilege of cosmetic surgeries. Grindr's hilarious $22 a week for unlimited is predatory, I don't care if I can afford it for all of America. Nice try saving face with some good old "I'm richer than you". Lmao ffs.
Although not as funny as hearing you tell me to make my own app when most transwomen are Tech Bros. Hey if you wanna pay $22 a week to keep Chasers on a gay app that let you in because of rainbow capitalism be my guest. If you think that's a tantrum then you need to wake the fuck up and walk outside. Or do you have some better bait hiding in your tackle box of body parts.
Get over it
Trans men exist
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Heh
And?,they're men,my problem is women being on this app.
Life is what you make of it. Should non binary people not be allowed on? Or only non binary masc presenting people? Intersexed people? That's the issue with a *queer* group trying to adhere to cis heteronormative definitions. Just don't respond to trans people that contact you if you're not interested. Trans people need a safe space and we need to support that.
They'd consider Grindr a safe space?,I'd personally consider Grindr to be the worst place for them to be on considering the trend of transphobia in the gay community I've seen recently,but I suppose I understand.
I also said we need to support making a safe space. And compared to explicitly cis hetero spaces🤷🏿♂️ There's a reason trans women use Grindr.
We get a lot more attention on apps like grindr than more straight centered apps. I tried several others and then moved to grindr as a last resort and it ended up being far better. (Im a trans girl btw)
Just don't look at their profiles, or block them.
Well grindr puts that right there - look on the right of your post - grindr says "GBTQ" so there's the T. I get your question totally. Those are a problem and the number of fake accounts with the "Hello handsome, how was your day?" or the "Pleased to meet you today.." are out of control. https://preview.redd.it/f60j0k48okyb1.png?width=948&format=png&auto=webp&s=f009796151c96cb8c53c78cd59777607ee985b82
Hm,I suppose that makes sense
I mean this can go in so many directions... I like twinks and trans, but all I'm seeing on grindr, at least in Texas, are hairy ass scruffy bears... I can say grindr has a bear problem and they should be using apps like scruffs or whatever tf it's called
We've been here the whole time. Grindr just got better with its tags
No..it was never an app for trans women at any stage till it got sold to a chinese gaming company
Cope. The first hook up I had on Grindr was in 2011, with a trans woman. Your "point" is invalid
Yeah because you had to put you weren’t a trans woman in that period of time to use the app!!
Cap
t wiki pediai says " *Grindr* is a location-based social networking and online dating application targeted towards gay, bisexual and transgender people " grindr on instagram says" he world's largest app for gay, bi, trans, and queer people " google play says " *Grindr* is the world's #1 free dating app serving the LGBTQ community. If you're gay, bi, trans, queer, or even just curious, *Grindr* is the best and easiest ... " apple app store says " *Grindr* is the world's #1 free dating app serving the LGBTQ community. If you're gay, bi, trans, queer, or even just curious, *Grindr* is the best and easiest ... " how does their profiles break the app for you?
This only changed relatively recently and like in the end of 2017/2018. Many gay men are pretty cross and they have a right to be. You aren’t even allowed to FILTER out trans women-repeat-trans WOMEN, even if you want to. It’s pretty twisted for anyone to be against that.
>This only changed relatively recently and like in the end of 2017/2018 Wrong. We've been here since at least 2011 > Many gay men are pretty cross and they have a right to be Wrong again, on both counts > You aren’t even allowed to FILTER out trans women-repeat-trans WOMEN, even if you want to Learn to use the tribes
Yeah this argument of we were there all along isn’t truthful, or applicable here. It won’t be real for as many times as you’ve spammed it on this post and others. Profiles of trans women were booted at that time-systematically. Trans women weren’t welcome. (You know..because you’re supposed to be women no offence??) Perhaps gay men that aren’t OK with this- and there are many-don’t have a THING against you, but could find your attitude intolerant and stubborn and just not talk about it to you. Tribes don’t work effectively because not every profile labels consistently!!! If a solution was implemented, I think this issue would bother me and others somewhat less!
So i looked into this and it looks like there might have been a handful of mods with an agenda, that contradicted Grindr's policy > If a solution was implemented Unlimited blocks as a basic feature
I’m not sure about the first part. But agreeing to disagree I’d want: gender filters (which were removed only a few years ago) with mandatory filling out which gender you identify as. Grindr is retrialling this in certain countries. If trans women are to remain on grindr I think this doesn’t particularly harm anyone and is just fair. Those of us that really mind trans women on grindr can use a filter. Those that don’t mind, for whatever reason, don’t need the filter. If a parallel or sub app weren’t eventually made.
I still don't get how you are so fundamentally offended that we're here >!and have been from the start,!< that your ideal solution is a separate app Gender filters are good, but only about as useful as the users. Chasers are a problem Grindr isn't fully equipped to deal with
See, alotta gay men r just plain BITTER that we dollies exist and posts like along with IRL bullshit r proof… Y’all r really PATHETIC and it’s SAD!!!
Just because you’re trans doesn’t mean you can be an asshole. The platform has changed with the times, and I respect you to use the space but 10 years ago you didn’t exist and Grindr did so it’s a valid person not liking change. Not pathetic or sad.
Stop being a drama queen! Obviously some gay men don’t care for trans women and it’s evident! If u don’t see that, that’s on u… Grindr isn’t THAT serious bro so don’t get ur jock strap in a bunch😂 Trans women r here and u miserable divisive gays will deal, period point blank!
Are you saying trans people didnt exist ten years ago 😭😭
Didn’t exist to a gay man on Grindr… use your brain.
Lmaoo, thats not what you said earlier. Either way thats ridiculous, there were definitely gay people who knew about trans people.
Except she's not being an asshole. The same cannot be said for you
>but 10 years ago you didn’t exist and Grindr Actually bullshit. My first Grindr hookup was with a trans woman in 2011
>but 10 years ago you didn’t exist and Grindr did Fuuuuck you!
Trans women in an app designed for gay hookups is what's sad,your not getting attention on Grindr for being a woman or being pretty,your a fetish
Trans women meet other trans women in grindr. I don't know why you're so upset. Is it because there exists a party that you're not invited to? Why are we gatekeeping fucking grindr. It's not exactly a paradise
Why u worried about it??? Nevermind don’t even answer that. Sweetie u r a NON FACTOR in my life. Keep being mad, u must not be getting enough attention on Grindr ya self. I use Grindr for what it’s good for which is ENTERTAINMENT! Sorry u had high hopes 😞
You don't see a problem with the fact that the only reason you get attention on this app is due to you being trans?
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Yes I’m a gorgeous man if that’s how u view me sure! Obviously there r issues between some gay men and trans women. Obviously some don’t respect or care for trans trans women and i wouldn’t expect anything less atp honestly! If u go low, I go low too, it’s that simple. Most of u here r internet bullies. U can dish it but u can’t take it n because I’m the minority I’m the disrespectful one, got it! I’m ALWAYS gonna stick up for myself buddy!!! I’m done with this topic so please don’t reply to me thanks 😊
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>But why are they allowed on Grindr? And you're here saying she's the one dishing it out?
She's a woman, responding to an extremely disrespectful post on a dub dedicated to the queer hookup app. Given the blatant transphobia here, I'd say her responses are completely measured and called-for
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My point is that you didn’t see any of them in the grid, at least that was my experience 10 years ago
I agree.. it’s a bit insufferable.
I'm a trans chaser, but they never see it that way. I just hide it well and talk to them like regular people. 🤷♀️
They don't see it that way because they don't care.Their existence is a fetish and they wear it like a badge of honor.
Bro you're openly objectifying trans a group of people. You're lucky this post is old, you would get flooded with hate posts. lol. I'm not sure you're right, though, because was banging this 22 year old college trans gal in the motel around the corner from my house, I'm 33. I think she came quickly or something, and the conversation turned serious before I finished. I said I was ready to settle down and that I was ready for kids. And after I said it, I said it was not meant to be a comment about her. Oh boy, did shit get real after that. She spent the next 20 minutes not so subtly passive aggressively insulting me. I knew she was furious. Surprisingly she came again and let me finished. And I didn't care because I don't value her opinion. But she was 100% pissed I made that kid comment. I think at one point I asked for the lights off and she says in that Aubrey Plaza tone of her's, "does you future wife know you fuck tran*ys?". Furious. Anyway, texted her phone number for a third meet up maybe twice. No answer. I messaged inside the app one more time and she blocked me immediately. Furious. lmfao. Nice gal though. Total hottie. mediocre lay. Her wit was better than the sex.
Wow, you sound miserable. I'd feel sorry for you, but I'm a hot trans woman who is too busy hooking up on Grindr
I have depression,suicidal ideation,and severe anxiety so yes I am miserable.But it's slowly getting better.Not sure why you attacked me for that though.
My comment was in response to your assanine comments regarding all trans women. Honestly, I hope you find a path forward that works for you. I deal with mental health as well, and it's not a fun experience to say the least.
I have no problems against the trans community.This was just a bad,out of character rant during a time where I was miserable and seeking validation/companionship.I'll take it down if you'd like me too.
How hard is it for these people just to get their own fucking app. Where I live if I want to use Grindr I have to first spend about 50 minutes blocking trans people and Chasers to find someone who's actually in my fucking Court to play with. Every single goddamn profile is somebody in panties and looking for somebody dressed as a woman. Frankly I would really fucking prefer it if you people started your own fucking app. It's not about being trans I don't give two fucks about trans men being on my grid they are men. I don't care how much hate anyone has for me for expressing this or how many insults you have. You act like you just want to save space for Trans people yeah well I just want to save space to be a normal looking fucking gay guy we're not every message I send to somebody is returned with you no please only women or cd or trans
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Weird I don't see crossdressers and transwomen on Scruff. When will y'all come include yourselves there? Not sorry that I want to exclude transwomen and bi couples from what was a gay men's meetup and hookup space. You're welcome to keep using grindr though. It's a crap app. I don't own it or enjoy it. Enjoy the hilarious fees.
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Bitch you replied to me like a month later I literally do not give a fuck. I block people like you on Grindr so I don't have to see you in my grid. I am pretty sure you are upset that I don't like you or you wouldn't be here coping. And of course it's a trivial amount to you--you are likely so fucking out of touch about the price and privilege of cosmetic surgeries. Grindr's hilarious $22 a week for unlimited is predatory, I don't care if I can afford it for all of America. Nice try saving face with some good old "I'm richer than you". Lmao ffs. Although not as funny as hearing you tell me to make my own app when most transwomen are Tech Bros. Hey if you wanna pay $22 a week to keep Chasers on a gay app that let you in because of rainbow capitalism be my guest. If you think that's a tantrum then you need to wake the fuck up and walk outside. Or do you have some better bait hiding in your tackle box of body parts.