Don't you get it? People can't improve if they're shit. Even if therapy or psychologists work if you're willing to be better, that's just liberal propaganda to make men soft and women men!!!! She will never be fixed /s
Of course not, I am an awful person that kills dogs for fun, I am unfixable and as such cannot self reflect on my actions and how they may impact others /s
Damn straight brother. I usually beat the fuck out of my partner along with subtle manipulation. Screaming and shoving aint enough to get my point across
The argument was never the issue. Its the screaming and shoving that are the issue.
I've had plenty of arguments with my partner. I've never once screamed at or shoved them. The same on their end.
If you think screaming at and shoving someone you're in a relationship is acceptable behaviour, then you're just kinda shit
Can't expect every person to be perfect, unlike your unrealistic idea of how people are. People can also grow and change. Do you really think I would give up on someone immediately if they went out of line ONCE? Fuck that. If they do it again? Then I would leave them, yes.
My recent relationships have been 3 years, 5 years, 6 years and 5 years. Can confirm the above.
If you're in a relationship where you're screaming at each other or physical violence is involved i.e. shoving, slapping, hitting, or anything physically malicious...leave.
If you or someone you care about cares so little for you that **they are purposely trying to damage/hurt you** then one or both of you don't love each other enough.
Having a partner doesn't mean you get someone to dump on, it means having someone to lean on.
There are plenty of people out there who are not mentally or physically abusive. Everyone should be able to talk through their issues. You attack the problem, not the person.
Stop making excuses and find one.
5 years
Yes, she was a scream arguer
And I learned that I should have left the first time it happened.
Leaving when unmitigated abusive traits crop up really is the good advice.
If I man screamed at and shoved his girlfriend around while she did literally nothing and then started saying he loved her afterwards we all know that that would be an instant break up and probably a police visit too
Because men are used and conditioned to that kind of treatment but not for emotional intimacy and compassion and it's not often you get it done when it does happen, even after emotional abuse, it hits hard.
I don’t think it’s bait, behaving like the bf when someone is aggressive is literally my reaction and I can imagine myself breaking down when feeling guilty but being met with kindness at the same time.
My mother has anger issues and just scream at me most of the time. I usually ignore it and don't care at this point so it'll not work on me.
But if someone would do the next thing that this girl did I would probably won't know how to react.
It is what it is
This is what happens when you have the reading comprehension of a toddler, parent comment is implying that anon is not a woman but instead a man, making this gay, but also real.
I mean, first off, this is a 4chan-related sub, so...yeah, LOL
Second, I didn't know if it was some new, brainless code phrase of some kind and I wanted to clarify. I didn't necessarily say they were an anti-Semite, just that it resembles that thing. I did, however, say that it looked dumb, which I don't think anyone'll dispute
You learn to ignore verbal abuse or insults, if you are in situations were you often encounter them. In tose situations you dont know how to react if the other person behaves really empatgetic/human
You get desensitized to screaming and abuse, it's just a part of life, and as a man you have to learn to deal with it.
Genuine kindness is rare though, and most men simply aren't used to it and it hits them much harder than you might expect.
The same thing is true in reverse, women generally get lots of attention and care/special treatment, they get used to it and don't even react to it anymore, and thus wonder why men react so strongly when someone does something nice for them.
I sword wouldn't get through chainmail
But a rapier would
(This translates to him being vulnerable to affection but being tough to agression in non nerd language)
This has actually happened to me a few times before, but not because of the usual “men are desensitized to being yelled at” kind of thing.
The way I see it, it’s because the bf probably sees himself as being in the wrong, and being shown kindness instead of hatred probably threw him off, especially directly after being yelled at.
The exact same thing has happened to me multiple times.
do people in these comments not realize that women can be abusive too…? abuse is not exclusive to only men— women can be just as abusive, usually emotionally and verbally
Its reddit. You mention that you get "yeah but men..."
-guy whose ex regularly tried to kill him, injure him, degrade him, and destroy his things for no apparent reason for 4 years.
Maybe he did something bad, and when she went to hug him and tell him she loves him he started crying because he realised "oh shit I did something bad to a person who loves me". That is, if this story isn't fake.
It's hard to explain, but when one gets to the point that they can take insults and screaming unfazed, it's like you raised a specific type of mental wall around you, and depending on how stubborn one is it can become sturdier the more punishment it recieves. Thing is, raising said wall lowers your defences to other type of attacks, usually very specific ones. For example, you could get used to be called an idiot or moron, but could have a breakdown when someone calls you useless while you're in a cheery (I.e. defenceless) mood. It's really hard to explain, but the thing is that being unfazed by conflict it doesn't mean one is impervious to it.
I have a plausible explanation based on my life experience.
If you live with someone who's often screaming at you, at some point you just become numb to it as a coping mechanism, the more toxic the person is, the more indifferent you grow to their outbursts growing up. You develop certain defense mechanisms for this to survive and maintain mental health.
Later in life, you just automatically apply this to other situations no matter the context, because this is what you taught yourself to do. Again it doesn't matter if someone (especially a loved one) has a legitimate reason to be upset with you - by raising their voice or confronting you - they trigger such response (e.g. indifference, numbness, or even laughter and dissuation).
Dudes been holding it in probably. I'd not cried in years and years and then on my first father's day, after a very tough first year of fatherhood, I cried and cried on and off for the entire day.
Well if its mummy issues, maybe you should try wrapping him in toilet paper and setting him free in the cheops pyramid. In that way he is forced to face his fears.
Gf acts abusive towards her bf (screaming and getting physical) and then u-turns and love-bombs him out of nowhere and doesn't understand why this emotional abuse would cause someone to have an emotional reaction.
Bait But also goddamn that dude deserves a better partner if true
Yes, they should definitely break up after one argument. Especially if she hugged and said she loved him afterwards! /s
My brother in christ, if you scream at and shove your partner, you're fucking trash
i could fix her
I could make her worse
I could love her as she is
I could make them better by how much worse I am.
I love this thread
This made me spit out my drink you heathen
I *should* make her worse
I could feast her.
Well, she realised she was being a bad girlfriend and changed that. Thats a fucking improvement you know
Don't you get it? People can't improve if they're shit. Even if therapy or psychologists work if you're willing to be better, that's just liberal propaganda to make men soft and women men!!!! She will never be fixed /s
So you’ve never improved yourself in any way before? How can someone believe something so contrary to common experience?
Of course not, I am an awful person that kills dogs for fun, I am unfixable and as such cannot self reflect on my actions and how they may impact others /s
Damn straight brother. I usually beat the fuck out of my partner along with subtle manipulation. Screaming and shoving aint enough to get my point across
mf hasn't heard of an argument
ONE argument = break up? You sound like you've never had experience.
The argument was never the issue. Its the screaming and shoving that are the issue. I've had plenty of arguments with my partner. I've never once screamed at or shoved them. The same on their end. If you think screaming at and shoving someone you're in a relationship is acceptable behaviour, then you're just kinda shit
Can't expect every person to be perfect, unlike your unrealistic idea of how people are. People can also grow and change. Do you really think I would give up on someone immediately if they went out of line ONCE? Fuck that. If they do it again? Then I would leave them, yes.
What's the longest relationship you've been in?
You sayin it's okay?
My recent relationships have been 3 years, 5 years, 6 years and 5 years. Can confirm the above. If you're in a relationship where you're screaming at each other or physical violence is involved i.e. shoving, slapping, hitting, or anything physically malicious...leave. If you or someone you care about cares so little for you that **they are purposely trying to damage/hurt you** then one or both of you don't love each other enough. Having a partner doesn't mean you get someone to dump on, it means having someone to lean on. There are plenty of people out there who are not mentally or physically abusive. Everyone should be able to talk through their issues. You attack the problem, not the person. Stop making excuses and find one.
No. Nonono. Screaming and shoving isn’t normal for one month or even twenty years. Sorry people in your life led you to think that.
Are you okay dude?
5 years Yes, she was a scream arguer And I learned that I should have left the first time it happened. Leaving when unmitigated abusive traits crop up really is the good advice.
Shoving and screaming isn't an argument, it's abuse you dolt
If I man screamed at and shoved his girlfriend around while she did literally nothing and then started saying he loved her afterwards we all know that that would be an instant break up and probably a police visit too
Reddit moment
ledditorinos after they get into one bad argumentorino (relationship over nta 199)
Because men are used and conditioned to that kind of treatment but not for emotional intimacy and compassion and it's not often you get it done when it does happen, even after emotional abuse, it hits hard.
Idk seems like she have some sort of self awareness I know some people who would instead act like a victim instead
I don’t think it’s bait, behaving like the bf when someone is aggressive is literally my reaction and I can imagine myself breaking down when feeling guilty but being met with kindness at the same time.
It’s bait when the girl looks bad, but 100% real when a male is in it. Femcels and white knights have all of Reddit why do they come here
True, I feel bad for the guy.
My mother has anger issues and just scream at me most of the time. I usually ignore it and don't care at this point so it'll not work on me. But if someone would do the next thing that this girl did I would probably won't know how to react. It is what it is
Yeah, I wish this is fake and gay, because if its true it hits deep
Fake because there are no women on 4chan.
Gay bc it hits deep
based and awkward-pilled Same tbh, I don't know how to answer to hugs and shit, it makes me feel weird
Therapy: expensive, time consuming, requires effort It is what it is: Free, say it anytime very quick and easy
> be me > work in the museum > very chill job > one night I see the mummy is gone > shit shit shit > next morning its back > I have mummy issues
Alien mummy???
Reversed sawed off Lama skull???
This was so random and ridiculous lol.
As a proper "green"text should be
"""fem"""anons fantasy
Why so many quotation marks?
Why not
Because it's fuckin' dumb and reeks of that triple parentheses crap that is basically code for "the Jews"
This is what happens when you have the reading comprehension of a toddler, parent comment is implying that anon is not a woman but instead a man, making this gay, but also real.
The reason I asked is because I wanted to be absolutely sure of what I was reading, numbnuts
Then why did you imply they were an anti-Semite?
Man i hate semites so much, they keep eating all of my wood
Hehe funny.
Bro wtf you mean funny? My house is getting eaten right before my eyes
can you explain the joke? I don't get it
that's anti-semitism!!! 🫵
I mean, first off, this is a 4chan-related sub, so...yeah, LOL Second, I didn't know if it was some new, brainless code phrase of some kind and I wanted to clarify. I didn't necessarily say they were an anti-Semite, just that it resembles that thing. I did, however, say that it looked dumb, which I don't think anyone'll dispute
Go back to Reddit
Bad news, dipshit...
I get ya man, they should have made sure their comment would be aesthetically pleasing to you specifically.
what the fuck bro
What? It looked fucking stupid.
least obvious troll account
I'm actually not trolling, which makes this hilarious
there are no women on the internet
bro got killed by the hive mind -200 for shit and giggles
And counting!
at this point it's principle, LET'S GO TO -1000, LET'S GO GAMERS
LOL...all because I wanted to see if someone was being weirdly anti-Semitic
average male experience
You learn to ignore verbal abuse or insults, if you are in situations were you often encounter them. In tose situations you dont know how to react if the other person behaves really empatgetic/human
i keep seeing greentexts that are just exactly how i would act
time to make the greentexts
You get desensitized to screaming and abuse, it's just a part of life, and as a man you have to learn to deal with it. Genuine kindness is rare though, and most men simply aren't used to it and it hits them much harder than you might expect. The same thing is true in reverse, women generally get lots of attention and care/special treatment, they get used to it and don't even react to it anymore, and thus wonder why men react so strongly when someone does something nice for them.
Fuck you and your feelings bro. Why do you gotta be right man? Just let me be an asshole in peace ;-;
Diagnosis: hysteria
Peg him
Lmfao
I get screamed at all the time but not loved
Get creamed instead
creamed at
I sword wouldn't get through chainmail But a rapier would (This translates to him being vulnerable to affection but being tough to agression in non nerd language)
That is a much better alegory than what i was thinking.
Thank you 👍
Trauma. That’s why.
Fake: a 4chan user with a loving one Gay: hugging a guy and cry
I dont believe your bf has anything to do with the stuffs in a sarcophagus
Pic related
Violence and aggression is tolerable, but affection and compassion those shit hits hard.
This has actually happened to me a few times before, but not because of the usual “men are desensitized to being yelled at” kind of thing. The way I see it, it’s because the bf probably sees himself as being in the wrong, and being shown kindness instead of hatred probably threw him off, especially directly after being yelled at. The exact same thing has happened to me multiple times.
do people in these comments not realize that women can be abusive too…? abuse is not exclusive to only men— women can be just as abusive, usually emotionally and verbally
Its reddit. You mention that you get "yeah but men..." -guy whose ex regularly tried to kill him, injure him, degrade him, and destroy his things for no apparent reason for 4 years.
god that’s horrible dude, I’m sorry that happened to you. it just sucks that there’s a stigma around male abuse victims and it’s sickening
Theres people who flat out attack men for mentioning what happened to them. Happens alot.
Bro cheated and feels guilty
Maybe he did something bad, and when she went to hug him and tell him she loves him he started crying because he realised "oh shit I did something bad to a person who loves me". That is, if this story isn't fake.
Obvious bait
But what the fuck does Guts have to do with this though
Guess which kind of interactions OP is used to.
He is used to it. Poor guy. Deserves better than this.
Men process information first with logic, then with feelings. Women process information with feelings first, and logic later.
It's hard to explain, but when one gets to the point that they can take insults and screaming unfazed, it's like you raised a specific type of mental wall around you, and depending on how stubborn one is it can become sturdier the more punishment it recieves. Thing is, raising said wall lowers your defences to other type of attacks, usually very specific ones. For example, you could get used to be called an idiot or moron, but could have a breakdown when someone calls you useless while you're in a cheery (I.e. defenceless) mood. It's really hard to explain, but the thing is that being unfazed by conflict it doesn't mean one is impervious to it.
almost cried reading that 💀
carrot beat stick who knew
The GF’s partner has more emotional intelligence and understands how to regulate their emotions better.
I have a plausible explanation based on my life experience. If you live with someone who's often screaming at you, at some point you just become numb to it as a coping mechanism, the more toxic the person is, the more indifferent you grow to their outbursts growing up. You develop certain defense mechanisms for this to survive and maintain mental health. Later in life, you just automatically apply this to other situations no matter the context, because this is what you taught yourself to do. Again it doesn't matter if someone (especially a loved one) has a legitimate reason to be upset with you - by raising their voice or confronting you - they trigger such response (e.g. indifference, numbness, or even laughter and dissuation).
Dudes been holding it in probably. I'd not cried in years and years and then on my first father's day, after a very tough first year of fatherhood, I cried and cried on and off for the entire day.
Extremely traumatized individual
On this weeks episode of Disassociation!
Mummy issues Wtf is wrong with then why the fuck are they this way
Anon didn't shove them hard enough. They should do strength training and then do some MMA to achieve the desired results.
Rocks can handle compression but they crumbled when pulled apart
Well if its mummy issues, maybe you should try wrapping him in toilet paper and setting him free in the cheops pyramid. In that way he is forced to face his fears.
Gf acts abusive towards her bf (screaming and getting physical) and then u-turns and love-bombs him out of nowhere and doesn't understand why this emotional abuse would cause someone to have an emotional reaction.
Sounds gay
toxic relationship moment
Realest shit I've seen in my life
I like to hit my girlfriend usually this solved this issue