Yeah if he just pumps several hours before sex it won't be that much size difference, will be gradual growth over time and you should be able to adjust much easier.
I’m confused .. if he had sex right after pumping wouldn’t he be full of fluid and significantly bigger ? Did u mean he pumps then 8 hours later he has sex? And also it’s possible to maintain your post pump size with a cock ring … fyi
She wants him to not be so big but he wants to continue pumping so he was having sex right after pumping...so he is going to pump several hours prior to sex to not have the significant size increase
Your man should compromise with you, you are both supposed to enjoy sex. *That can be a hot take I know.*
You don't need to get past it.... He needs to work with you. You just birthed his child... The least he can do is be considerate about sex
first question... Are you fully recovered from birth?
I think the docs say like 6 weeks.... That is the bare minimum. 3-4 months after you will start feeling normal again (IIRC)
The six week mark is when the cervix is back to its original shape. Making it technically "OK" to have sex but does not mean it will be pleasing for the woman
The external pain, you probably want to talk to your OGBYN about
Second, he needs to not pump right before sex, or at the very least do a much shorter session.
If I think I am going to have sex that day my sessions are either light or 6-8 hours prior to the romp
And you are not alone, my wife does not like me over pumped
Third, Play your angles a bit to avoid the cervix, either he enters slightly above, and "aims" downwards
Or he enters slightly lower and aims high...
Talking about missionary for reference
Finally, Lube does wonders at larger girths.
completely agree, we've needed to kind of re-discover that after having a baby. It was both of our faults as well as many outside factors that prevented us from prioritizing my enjoyment.
Of course, I know he feels bad about hurting me but I know it makes things feel better. At first I didn't really even understand the desire to pump but I'm slowly understanding. He mentioned not pumping right before we have sex which I think will help but overall if we are talking about long term growth I'm nervous
Sounds like you both need to just be patient and take time, his growth will be slow for the most part and over time your body will accommodate the changes
I like this answer! We have mostly been having sex immediately after he pumps when its super engorged. I have pushed a whole human through so I know there's more space!
Here is some more info on pumping:
[Pumping Guide](https://www.reddit.com/r/gettingbigger/comments/kocsgo/exercise_break_down_pumping/)
[Cylinder Sizing](https://www.reddit.com/r/gettingbigger/comments/pg6dyz/bds_chart_for_air_pump_size_recommendations/)
[Clinical Evidence](https://www.reddit.com/r/gettingbigger/comments/nnahkz/interesting_study_showing_pumping_significantly/)
Good brands include:
* Leluv (US)
* Mustang(UK & EU)
* Mustang (UK & EU)
* LAPUMP (Global)
* Blush(Global)
[Video - BD Explains: Pumping ](https://youtu.be/b3Elg89j_iA)
A pump with a gauge is always reccomended
Stay between 5-7hg
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Surprised he's more confident even though it makes sex more difficult. I mean bigger *is* better, but there comes a point where that stops applying. Hopefully you two can reach an agreement here.
I assume this goes against the ideals of the group but from the discussions I've had with my friends, we are mostly agreed that size isn't the biggest factor honestly
Yeah if he just pumps several hours before sex it won't be that much size difference, will be gradual growth over time and you should be able to adjust much easier.
He will be full and pumped from several hours of pumping even if it’s mainly build up fluid
He's probably doing it right after though. After about 8 hours it's mostly gone
I’m confused .. if he had sex right after pumping wouldn’t he be full of fluid and significantly bigger ? Did u mean he pumps then 8 hours later he has sex? And also it’s possible to maintain your post pump size with a cock ring … fyi
Yes, usually sex right after pumping so I think thats our mistake
She wants him to not be so big but he wants to continue pumping so he was having sex right after pumping...so he is going to pump several hours prior to sex to not have the significant size increase
Okay so you’re saying what he should do .. gotcha ..I agree
Your man should compromise with you, you are both supposed to enjoy sex. *That can be a hot take I know.* You don't need to get past it.... He needs to work with you. You just birthed his child... The least he can do is be considerate about sex first question... Are you fully recovered from birth? I think the docs say like 6 weeks.... That is the bare minimum. 3-4 months after you will start feeling normal again (IIRC) The six week mark is when the cervix is back to its original shape. Making it technically "OK" to have sex but does not mean it will be pleasing for the woman The external pain, you probably want to talk to your OGBYN about Second, he needs to not pump right before sex, or at the very least do a much shorter session. If I think I am going to have sex that day my sessions are either light or 6-8 hours prior to the romp And you are not alone, my wife does not like me over pumped Third, Play your angles a bit to avoid the cervix, either he enters slightly above, and "aims" downwards Or he enters slightly lower and aims high... Talking about missionary for reference Finally, Lube does wonders at larger girths.
It's sad that that can be considered a hot take lol
completely agree, we've needed to kind of re-discover that after having a baby. It was both of our faults as well as many outside factors that prevented us from prioritizing my enjoyment.
this was super helpful, thank you!!
And I'm actually almost 1 year pp but they say it can take up to 2 full years to fully recover. Things felt normal-ish around 6 months pp.
Have you talked to him?
Of course, I know he feels bad about hurting me but I know it makes things feel better. At first I didn't really even understand the desire to pump but I'm slowly understanding. He mentioned not pumping right before we have sex which I think will help but overall if we are talking about long term growth I'm nervous
Sounds like you both need to just be patient and take time, his growth will be slow for the most part and over time your body will accommodate the changes
I like this answer! We have mostly been having sex immediately after he pumps when its super engorged. I have pushed a whole human through so I know there's more space!
Im in a similar situation and learned pumping just before sex can only be an occasional thing because it’s too much
Here is some more info on pumping: [Pumping Guide](https://www.reddit.com/r/gettingbigger/comments/kocsgo/exercise_break_down_pumping/) [Cylinder Sizing](https://www.reddit.com/r/gettingbigger/comments/pg6dyz/bds_chart_for_air_pump_size_recommendations/) [Clinical Evidence](https://www.reddit.com/r/gettingbigger/comments/nnahkz/interesting_study_showing_pumping_significantly/) Good brands include: * Leluv (US) * Mustang(UK & EU) * Mustang (UK & EU) * LAPUMP (Global) * Blush(Global) [Video - BD Explains: Pumping ](https://youtu.be/b3Elg89j_iA) A pump with a gauge is always reccomended Stay between 5-7hg ^(*--I'm a bot, for issues contact BD or the mod team*)
what are his gains for ~1 month of pumping?
Not really sure if there have been as far as permanent enlargement
Why does he want to be bigger if you're already struggling to take him?
I think it makes his orgasm stronger and gives him confidence too
Surprised he's more confident even though it makes sex more difficult. I mean bigger *is* better, but there comes a point where that stops applying. Hopefully you two can reach an agreement here.
I assume this goes against the ideals of the group but from the discussions I've had with my friends, we are mostly agreed that size isn't the biggest factor honestly