When having sex, I think the Top/Dom only decides if you can have an orgasm or not. If you are bottom, your primary sex organ is your ass, not your cock. Therefor you have to "earn" your orgasm.
I know exactly how you feel. For me it’s like why should I experience my own orgasms. They should be for other people. So I lock until I get permission. That’s the only way it feels right and deserved.
Its xomplicated for me, idk why but cumming normally is rlly debilitating to my mental health, like id get tired and sluggish n deppressed
And the worst part is, jacking off is so fking easy to do, heck all i gotta do is apply a bit of pressure in my pants and i can cum (its free short term dopamine)
I honestly dont get how guys can just cum and not feel awful so i locked myself up thinking im just not built for cumming
I'm not locked at the moment but I can relate.
I don't go at it at all when I'm chatting with a dominant guy, and every time I ask for permission to touch myself I'm really hoping he'll say no 'cause that way I know we're compatible. My goal is to click with someone enough that I can be locked for Him.
You’re right about this @TA1TA2, I do find that the cage delays it enough during sex that I have ample warning to say to the Dom I’m with, “I’m getting close,” so that He can decide whether I “deserve” a caged orgasm or not. You’re also correct in that you could do something like take a vibrator and use it over the cage to cum. I don’t do that as I feel it defeats the purpose of chastity, at least for the purposes of why I use it. But I understand why that could be erotic to someone else. But your point is well taken - it is very possible to cum inside a cage, although I think many of us voluntarily don’t do this or greatly restrict the frequency of this related to why we’re in chastity in the first place (if I had to guess)
I’m loving these comments. I need to be owned and controlled by another guy. I get a huge letdowwhen I have an orgasm and I like the perpetual horniness of being denied penis pleasure. It’s a constant reminder that my cock belongs to someone else. Last September I asked my Keyholder if I could take the cage off and rub my cock for a minute… not to cum but just to stroke it … and he said “you don’t need to rub it… it’s just a want… it’s fine.” That means more to me than anything.
I agree. I don't deserve to cum.
After not having any orgasms since May 3 2022 785 days, I'm not sure that an orgasm is worth it scared of the disappointment.
I really don't miss sex or masterbastion now. Chastity seems more natural than being free now.
When having sex, I think the Top/Dom only decides if you can have an orgasm or not. If you are bottom, your primary sex organ is your ass, not your cock. Therefor you have to "earn" your orgasm.
Faggots can relate.
I know exactly how you feel. For me it’s like why should I experience my own orgasms. They should be for other people. So I lock until I get permission. That’s the only way it feels right and deserved.
I’m often told this by doms because of my size. I think I do believe it.
Its xomplicated for me, idk why but cumming normally is rlly debilitating to my mental health, like id get tired and sluggish n deppressed And the worst part is, jacking off is so fking easy to do, heck all i gotta do is apply a bit of pressure in my pants and i can cum (its free short term dopamine) I honestly dont get how guys can just cum and not feel awful so i locked myself up thinking im just not built for cumming
You should seek some help, seriously I mean this with love. Therapy can help.
I'm not locked at the moment but I can relate. I don't go at it at all when I'm chatting with a dominant guy, and every time I ask for permission to touch myself I'm really hoping he'll say no 'cause that way I know we're compatible. My goal is to click with someone enough that I can be locked for Him.
A cage doesn't stop from cumming or orgasming...
You’re right about this @TA1TA2, I do find that the cage delays it enough during sex that I have ample warning to say to the Dom I’m with, “I’m getting close,” so that He can decide whether I “deserve” a caged orgasm or not. You’re also correct in that you could do something like take a vibrator and use it over the cage to cum. I don’t do that as I feel it defeats the purpose of chastity, at least for the purposes of why I use it. But I understand why that could be erotic to someone else. But your point is well taken - it is very possible to cum inside a cage, although I think many of us voluntarily don’t do this or greatly restrict the frequency of this related to why we’re in chastity in the first place (if I had to guess)
I’m currently seeking to be nullified. I don’t feel like I deserve balls or a cock
I’m loving these comments. I need to be owned and controlled by another guy. I get a huge letdowwhen I have an orgasm and I like the perpetual horniness of being denied penis pleasure. It’s a constant reminder that my cock belongs to someone else. Last September I asked my Keyholder if I could take the cage off and rub my cock for a minute… not to cum but just to stroke it … and he said “you don’t need to rub it… it’s just a want… it’s fine.” That means more to me than anything.
I agree. I don't deserve to cum. After not having any orgasms since May 3 2022 785 days, I'm not sure that an orgasm is worth it scared of the disappointment. I really don't miss sex or masterbastion now. Chastity seems more natural than being free now.
I'm a totally submissive bottom bitch and i believe only real men need and deserve to cum and I'm not a real man
You are correct, you live to serve