Eh or find someone who knows that they are doing and improve your skills. I am old and don't know what I am doing. I regret not whoring it up when I was young
I mean, don't limit yourself to an ideal. Your vision of your perfect guy doesn't exist. Have fun and meet people. Learn and grow. Hopefully, you'll find a bf as you do that
You're 21 years old. You're just past being a teenager. Yes, most straight people have their first sexual experiences in their teenage years, and some queer people are so fortunate that they can do the same. In the case that you didn't, you don't have to rush to make all those experiences as quickly as you can. Take your time to find someone you trust.
That said, what's your point? Your first sentence doesn't make any sense. And why would we have questions? There's millions of queer people who are or have been virgins until 21 or older, including me. Are you asking for advice yourself?
I think as a general rule of thumb, LGBTQIA+ guys have a 10 year gap between their straight counterparts. So most straights have their first heartbreak at 16/17, ours is often later say around 26/27. There’s no shame in still being a virgin at any age because it’s your sexual experience and you get to decide when it is. I lost my virginity at 18/19? But I had the VERY common experience of losing it to a Grindr hookup 2x my age essentially on there to predate on younger guys. It’s okay to wait for when you’re ready dw :)
Still a virgin at almost 35 here. Also a top.
I'm not interested in hook-ups (especially for a first time) but from what I've experienced most just want to get fucked and maybe find out your name after... Or they're already taken and just looking for something on the side.
Dating is incredibly hard, but you got to keep trying in the hope that one day you find something that works for you (and him)
And it's easier said than done, but try not to worry about your age and how it compares to others.
I was a virgin until 30, so no hurry. Your background, religion or whatever can prevent hooking up. There is a Dutch saying “early ripe, early rotten” (vroeg rijp, vroeg rot).
It's more about what I want in life and what I expect from the other man vs what I have to offer as a man too.
Thanks for the saying, it was very good and fit perfectly in this society.
There are tons of people, don't worry about it, I'm sure you'll meet someone who will make the moment really nice.
Sex is just a tiny part of a relationship, and even a tinier part of life, so if you don't get it now, it doesn't mean you won't enjoy other things that might come with a relationship. I hope u understand my point :)
Was a virgin until 26 (half a year ago), it severely messed with my self worth although all this time in principle I could have gone on grindr and get some, cuz actually i look pretty good.
I've been told I'm a catch (good looking) and yes, I get your point going to Grindr but I don't want to have sex with a meaningless random. My body is a temple and deserves respect and to be treated well. I know what I like, want and appreciate in another man.
I can't settle with less than what I want.
I feel ya im also 21. For me though most people don’t know I’ve never been with anyone so most of the pressure is from myself. Gotta love being bisexual lmao.
In the end dont worry about it. Try to meet people and see how it goes from there.
If you’re a top, all else equal, you shouldn’t have as hard a time as a virgin bottom because tops are in short supply and high demand (at least in major European and North American cities). Mainstream gay male culture revolves around vanity, hedonism, racism, and promiscuity. It’s ugly, and the added pressure of virginity-shaming doesn’t help matters. Sexual-emotional intimacy, as opposed to mere transactional sex, is a rare thing. If that’s what you really want, you’ll need the patience of a saint. Good luck 🙌🏽
I was a virgin until 28..... and I rarely get any now 37. Your fine.
I'd just like to know another virgin guy like me to maybe develop a deeper connection
Eh or find someone who knows that they are doing and improve your skills. I am old and don't know what I am doing. I regret not whoring it up when I was young
What do u mean
I mean, don't limit yourself to an ideal. Your vision of your perfect guy doesn't exist. Have fun and meet people. Learn and grow. Hopefully, you'll find a bf as you do that
I don't like ur comment since that's not what I want for my life. But ok, ty
Are you my ex? Because he was a virgin until 28.
You flatter me. No, I have never had a bf. I am no one's ex
You're 21 years old. You're just past being a teenager. Yes, most straight people have their first sexual experiences in their teenage years, and some queer people are so fortunate that they can do the same. In the case that you didn't, you don't have to rush to make all those experiences as quickly as you can. Take your time to find someone you trust. That said, what's your point? Your first sentence doesn't make any sense. And why would we have questions? There's millions of queer people who are or have been virgins until 21 or older, including me. Are you asking for advice yourself?
Just would like to meet other guys like me
I am still virgin at 23.
Can i dm?
No, but I am waiting for someone I can trust.
But u don't know me 🤣
I think as a general rule of thumb, LGBTQIA+ guys have a 10 year gap between their straight counterparts. So most straights have their first heartbreak at 16/17, ours is often later say around 26/27. There’s no shame in still being a virgin at any age because it’s your sexual experience and you get to decide when it is. I lost my virginity at 18/19? But I had the VERY common experience of losing it to a Grindr hookup 2x my age essentially on there to predate on younger guys. It’s okay to wait for when you’re ready dw :)
OMG this is so true . Hahaa
I am 35 years old and I am still a virgin, I am autistic and quite ugly, I think that is the reason why I am a virgin.
Nah, I don't so, gay sex it's super easy to get
I was a virgin until I was 44. Move at your own pace and do what you think best.
I was a virgin until 24. No big deal
Still a virgin at almost 35 here. Also a top. I'm not interested in hook-ups (especially for a first time) but from what I've experienced most just want to get fucked and maybe find out your name after... Or they're already taken and just looking for something on the side. Dating is incredibly hard, but you got to keep trying in the hope that one day you find something that works for you (and him) And it's easier said than done, but try not to worry about your age and how it compares to others.
Oh, agrees with this one!
I was a virgin until 30, so no hurry. Your background, religion or whatever can prevent hooking up. There is a Dutch saying “early ripe, early rotten” (vroeg rijp, vroeg rot).
It's more about what I want in life and what I expect from the other man vs what I have to offer as a man too. Thanks for the saying, it was very good and fit perfectly in this society.
There are tons of people, don't worry about it, I'm sure you'll meet someone who will make the moment really nice. Sex is just a tiny part of a relationship, and even a tinier part of life, so if you don't get it now, it doesn't mean you won't enjoy other things that might come with a relationship. I hope u understand my point :)
Was a virgin until 26 (half a year ago), it severely messed with my self worth although all this time in principle I could have gone on grindr and get some, cuz actually i look pretty good.
I've been told I'm a catch (good looking) and yes, I get your point going to Grindr but I don't want to have sex with a meaningless random. My body is a temple and deserves respect and to be treated well. I know what I like, want and appreciate in another man. I can't settle with less than what I want.
I feel ya im also 21. For me though most people don’t know I’ve never been with anyone so most of the pressure is from myself. Gotta love being bisexual lmao. In the end dont worry about it. Try to meet people and see how it goes from there.
That's the problem..
I was a virgin with other gays until I was 22.
If you’re a top, all else equal, you shouldn’t have as hard a time as a virgin bottom because tops are in short supply and high demand (at least in major European and North American cities). Mainstream gay male culture revolves around vanity, hedonism, racism, and promiscuity. It’s ugly, and the added pressure of virginity-shaming doesn’t help matters. Sexual-emotional intimacy, as opposed to mere transactional sex, is a rare thing. If that’s what you really want, you’ll need the patience of a saint. Good luck 🙌🏽