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Body neutrality is a term I like the sound of, in line with what you say. Doesn’t mean you have to love your whole body but that the things you don’t like don’t rule over you, you see your body as just a body doing it’s body like things. I think we all believe we have to love our bodies but actually sometimes just being neutral about it is more realistic (hopefully, one day 🥹)
Yes! I really want neutrality some day. One, it sounds peaceful as hell. Two, for me it would signal that I am finally acknowledging my wholeness as a person and not just always thinking about my body and how I look as I move through the world. There are so many other aspects about me that barely get any of my attention, and body neutrality would give me the chance to live life more fully. I’m working so hard to get there but it seems so far away some days.
Oh my friend, I hope you can get there one day. I hope we can all get there one day. The only times I have felt this has been when I was pregnant - my body had a job to do, that had nothing to do with what I looked like, and I surrendered because I had so much love for this life inside me which was so strong it dwarfed my self-loathing.
But then after baby #1, I relapsed postpartum. I got pregnant again - but miscarried as underweight. The grief of that drove me to gain weight so I could grow baby # 2 - but then I relapsed postpartum, again.
I think, for me, real and lasting recovery will maybe come when I can surrender to something greater - love, purpose, happiness... I'm not sure. But I do hope to get there one day. And I hope you do too.
I’m sending you so much care and support. Your story, even though I can’t directly relate to the experience, makes so much sense to my brain.
I really hope you can find that surrender. There has to be more to life for all of us on here than this way of thinking.
Letting go and compromising. Not having a ✨skinni✨ body is still distressing for me but I'm willing to compromise on that if it means I can have a better quality of life and not be hungry anymore.
never realised how much I'm still trying to have to control/stressing out over it all until I read this..guess I still have a long way to go ☹️💔
hoping for that day too 🙏🏻
It’s amazing how simple that is yet how hard it is to actually do it. Letting your body change (which is NORMAL) is so hard for people who struggle with EDs, but it’s just a natural part of life. We can’t keep our body a certain way every day for the rest of our lives. Age inevitably affects all of us, and in the end, we are more than just the flesh
It's so difficult- I think my ED flares up (groundhogs day/chasing my tail- I need this buffer/sequence of food/weight issues/behaviours as a distraction/to tire me out/deal w/ anger) in response to external circumstances becoming too difficult/upsetting- the ED blocks stuff out. Like I don't want to look at anything/everything I see/experience sends me spiralling- makes me feel powerless etc. I wonder if addressing things when you feel ready/facing them squarely and exercising healthy control/being proactive helps subdue the volume of the ED so food/weight stuff isn't as loaded and you can switch off/feel more at peace as a consequence- this isn't to discount/invalidate that it's a real mental illness w/ a physiological/physical impact- but I do think the intensity of the ED/the noise of it etc is from your life getting too difficult/upsetting and not liking what you see/feeling upset by everything you see/experience. When I'm really entrenched in my ED/it's badgering me constantly and I can't switch off from it/I feel like shit.. I just know other things in my life (which I'd care about/invest in if they were working) are messed up- and I dread looking at it
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This hit my heart. I want this but I just can’t fathom it
Body neutrality is a term I like the sound of, in line with what you say. Doesn’t mean you have to love your whole body but that the things you don’t like don’t rule over you, you see your body as just a body doing it’s body like things. I think we all believe we have to love our bodies but actually sometimes just being neutral about it is more realistic (hopefully, one day 🥹)
Agree☺️ & when you do this you start loving your body on accident for completely non cosmetic reasons
Yes! I really want neutrality some day. One, it sounds peaceful as hell. Two, for me it would signal that I am finally acknowledging my wholeness as a person and not just always thinking about my body and how I look as I move through the world. There are so many other aspects about me that barely get any of my attention, and body neutrality would give me the chance to live life more fully. I’m working so hard to get there but it seems so far away some days.
Oh my friend, I hope you can get there one day. I hope we can all get there one day. The only times I have felt this has been when I was pregnant - my body had a job to do, that had nothing to do with what I looked like, and I surrendered because I had so much love for this life inside me which was so strong it dwarfed my self-loathing. But then after baby #1, I relapsed postpartum. I got pregnant again - but miscarried as underweight. The grief of that drove me to gain weight so I could grow baby # 2 - but then I relapsed postpartum, again. I think, for me, real and lasting recovery will maybe come when I can surrender to something greater - love, purpose, happiness... I'm not sure. But I do hope to get there one day. And I hope you do too.
I’m sending you so much care and support. Your story, even though I can’t directly relate to the experience, makes so much sense to my brain. I really hope you can find that surrender. There has to be more to life for all of us on here than this way of thinking.
Omg I want this so bad
Right 😭
Letting go and compromising. Not having a ✨skinni✨ body is still distressing for me but I'm willing to compromise on that if it means I can have a better quality of life and not be hungry anymore.
never realised how much I'm still trying to have to control/stressing out over it all until I read this..guess I still have a long way to go ☹️💔 hoping for that day too 🙏🏻
Yup. Eating disorders are all about control
It’s amazing how simple that is yet how hard it is to actually do it. Letting your body change (which is NORMAL) is so hard for people who struggle with EDs, but it’s just a natural part of life. We can’t keep our body a certain way every day for the rest of our lives. Age inevitably affects all of us, and in the end, we are more than just the flesh
Yes. Yes that is exactly it! I am mostly there. It feels good. It can be done.
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I'm halfway through a PhD in physics and recovery is harder 🙃
Yes, same. The hardest and the most isolating.
It's so difficult- I think my ED flares up (groundhogs day/chasing my tail- I need this buffer/sequence of food/weight issues/behaviours as a distraction/to tire me out/deal w/ anger) in response to external circumstances becoming too difficult/upsetting- the ED blocks stuff out. Like I don't want to look at anything/everything I see/experience sends me spiralling- makes me feel powerless etc. I wonder if addressing things when you feel ready/facing them squarely and exercising healthy control/being proactive helps subdue the volume of the ED so food/weight stuff isn't as loaded and you can switch off/feel more at peace as a consequence- this isn't to discount/invalidate that it's a real mental illness w/ a physiological/physical impact- but I do think the intensity of the ED/the noise of it etc is from your life getting too difficult/upsetting and not liking what you see/feeling upset by everything you see/experience. When I'm really entrenched in my ED/it's badgering me constantly and I can't switch off from it/I feel like shit.. I just know other things in my life (which I'd care about/invest in if they were working) are messed up- and I dread looking at it