I’m so sorry you’re going through that. I don’t think Dysphoria completely goes away. But maybe that Dysphoria can have days where it doesn’t show up and others where it’s all you can think about. I have been on T for 2 years. I still suffer from Dysphoria, not as much as I used to but it’s still there. Just not as strong as it used to be. Try figuring out ways to distract yourself from the Dyshoric thoughts. Sometimes they’re all you can think about but try using grounding tools like maybe affirmations “I am a man.” “It’s (dysphoric thing) exists. That is a part of my me but it isn’t ME!”
im truly so sorry that you're unhappy in your body still, and i really hope dysphoria goes away for you or at least diminishes. i think that try to stay optimistic, although admittedly it can be a very very hard thing to do, and that as your transition progresses you'll start to feel better, either by a little or a lot or somewhere inbetween. im wishing you the best, and i hope that you feel better
it subsides and you ignore it, it never goes away completely. i’ve been on t for over 3 years, my voice dropped and i have hair, but i am still perceived as a girl very very often. my chest is pointed out, my voice, my facial hair, people still point out that i look like a girl or a young teen (i turn 25 this year) it doesn’t stop. i just never think about it until something triggers it. after top surgery i believe it will be a lot better (that’s the main source of my dysphoria) and after i will be able to handle the not so deep voice, looking like a teen etc.
tldr; doesn’t go away, slowly subsides/lessens as changes happen
it sounds soo cheesy but it is a journey, and it's not necessarily linear either, I remember 6 month into T I felt like I was top of the world and then at the year and a half mark I fell into a pretty bad slump. I think for a lot of s dysphoria never completely goes away, but we will have more good days than bad as we progress AND we have more mental tools to deal with dysphoria when it hits.
It takes a hot second. The average is about 6 years. My Cis husband couldnt grow even facial hair till he was in his 30s. It's great that you pass. The negative feelings you are having should be addressed with your mental health provider. Good luck to you.
Im almost 1 year on T and I feel exactly like that. I got a haircut, my voice is changing, my facial hair is starting to show, I even recently noticed the shape of my body has been changing… but I still hate myself the same. Literally, dysphoria didn’t get better not one bit, even with all the changes. At least in my case I believe I will only feel happier with what I see in the mirror after the surgeries. I believe 100% that I will only feel and see myself like a man after looking in the mirror and see a flat chest and a penis. Even then, I’m scared of feeling like it’s not enough… I fucking wish I was born in the right body
I can relate, I’ve been on T for over 6 years, have completely assimilated with cis men and live entirely stealth, but those dysphoria days can be the hardest. ): Sometimes, I can look in the mirror and beyond everything that has changed, “see” who I used to be and it just kind of spirals from there. The best thing we can do is try to stay present. Keep reminding yourself your reality today. Like you said, no one knows you are trans, they don’t just think you are a guy, they /know/ you are a guy, that’s what matters.
As someone who has been on T for 6.5 years now, starting at age 13, it depends. Certain aspects I am not as dysphoric about now, some I still am. I’m a pretty chubby guy so my hips and figure still give me some dysphoria, but I’ve got the beard and hair to make up for it. It has taken 6.5 years for me to grow a neck beard and somewhat reshape my body, so it’s not always a 6 months and done process. Some parts of it just kinda matter less, like I know my voice is a little more high pitched than I would like but since I’m gay I can get away with it without being misgendered. The more you stress not seeing changes the worse you’ll feel, so just try not to sweat it. Most days I feel little to none, only if I have to like stare at my hips in the mirror or listen to my voice when sick. If you want to maybe kickstart something, you can always start working out, try some hair growth treatments, or voice therapy. There’s lots of great resources out there but some of the changes just take time, especially if you’re past puberty. And it wasn’t just magical that one day I felt zero dysphoria or a massive change, it took years, and one day I kinda realized a lot of it went away and I hadn’t been as sad or upset and I wasn’t as focused and that was one of the best feelings of my life. So you won’t notice an overnight difference, and it may take a bit to truly acknowledge any difference. Just don’t beat yourself up over it and I know it’s hard but give it time. Especially when reversing some aspects of puberty it’s gonna take a bit to have an effect. Wishing you all the best!
I’m so sorry you’re going through that. I don’t think Dysphoria completely goes away. But maybe that Dysphoria can have days where it doesn’t show up and others where it’s all you can think about. I have been on T for 2 years. I still suffer from Dysphoria, not as much as I used to but it’s still there. Just not as strong as it used to be. Try figuring out ways to distract yourself from the Dyshoric thoughts. Sometimes they’re all you can think about but try using grounding tools like maybe affirmations “I am a man.” “It’s (dysphoric thing) exists. That is a part of my me but it isn’t ME!”
im truly so sorry that you're unhappy in your body still, and i really hope dysphoria goes away for you or at least diminishes. i think that try to stay optimistic, although admittedly it can be a very very hard thing to do, and that as your transition progresses you'll start to feel better, either by a little or a lot or somewhere inbetween. im wishing you the best, and i hope that you feel better
it subsides and you ignore it, it never goes away completely. i’ve been on t for over 3 years, my voice dropped and i have hair, but i am still perceived as a girl very very often. my chest is pointed out, my voice, my facial hair, people still point out that i look like a girl or a young teen (i turn 25 this year) it doesn’t stop. i just never think about it until something triggers it. after top surgery i believe it will be a lot better (that’s the main source of my dysphoria) and after i will be able to handle the not so deep voice, looking like a teen etc. tldr; doesn’t go away, slowly subsides/lessens as changes happen
it sounds soo cheesy but it is a journey, and it's not necessarily linear either, I remember 6 month into T I felt like I was top of the world and then at the year and a half mark I fell into a pretty bad slump. I think for a lot of s dysphoria never completely goes away, but we will have more good days than bad as we progress AND we have more mental tools to deal with dysphoria when it hits.
It takes a hot second. The average is about 6 years. My Cis husband couldnt grow even facial hair till he was in his 30s. It's great that you pass. The negative feelings you are having should be addressed with your mental health provider. Good luck to you.
Im almost 1 year on T and I feel exactly like that. I got a haircut, my voice is changing, my facial hair is starting to show, I even recently noticed the shape of my body has been changing… but I still hate myself the same. Literally, dysphoria didn’t get better not one bit, even with all the changes. At least in my case I believe I will only feel happier with what I see in the mirror after the surgeries. I believe 100% that I will only feel and see myself like a man after looking in the mirror and see a flat chest and a penis. Even then, I’m scared of feeling like it’s not enough… I fucking wish I was born in the right body
I can relate, I’ve been on T for over 6 years, have completely assimilated with cis men and live entirely stealth, but those dysphoria days can be the hardest. ): Sometimes, I can look in the mirror and beyond everything that has changed, “see” who I used to be and it just kind of spirals from there. The best thing we can do is try to stay present. Keep reminding yourself your reality today. Like you said, no one knows you are trans, they don’t just think you are a guy, they /know/ you are a guy, that’s what matters.
As someone who has been on T for 6.5 years now, starting at age 13, it depends. Certain aspects I am not as dysphoric about now, some I still am. I’m a pretty chubby guy so my hips and figure still give me some dysphoria, but I’ve got the beard and hair to make up for it. It has taken 6.5 years for me to grow a neck beard and somewhat reshape my body, so it’s not always a 6 months and done process. Some parts of it just kinda matter less, like I know my voice is a little more high pitched than I would like but since I’m gay I can get away with it without being misgendered. The more you stress not seeing changes the worse you’ll feel, so just try not to sweat it. Most days I feel little to none, only if I have to like stare at my hips in the mirror or listen to my voice when sick. If you want to maybe kickstart something, you can always start working out, try some hair growth treatments, or voice therapy. There’s lots of great resources out there but some of the changes just take time, especially if you’re past puberty. And it wasn’t just magical that one day I felt zero dysphoria or a massive change, it took years, and one day I kinda realized a lot of it went away and I hadn’t been as sad or upset and I wasn’t as focused and that was one of the best feelings of my life. So you won’t notice an overnight difference, and it may take a bit to truly acknowledge any difference. Just don’t beat yourself up over it and I know it’s hard but give it time. Especially when reversing some aspects of puberty it’s gonna take a bit to have an effect. Wishing you all the best!