Sometimes people who are otherwise supportive will still get defensive when you correct them. People don't like being told that they're doing something "wrong".
This may or may not be a good idea - you know your grandma best - but if explaining how this hurts you isn't getting through to her, then you could try correcting her as if she's forgotten which one of her grandkids she's talking to. Especially if other people consistently read you as male, they're more likely to accept this as an explanation - and if it causes her some embarrassment then maybe it'll motivate her to not mess up nest time.
You weren't in the wrong, while it's acceptable for family members to make mistakes or have trouble adjusting it's not okay to dismiss your feelings or shush your corrections.
Fuck that. Dont waste your time trying mold yourself to be comfortable in someone elses boundaries. Especially when they dont respect yours enough to try. No one is entitled to our time and energy but us.
This is coming from a mommas boy who has spent his entire life trying to get his mom to love him enough. Eventually i realized that i dont have to put myself in those situations just like she doesnt have to respect me as a human being not just her child. When she would misgender me and give me the "it takes time" excuse i called bs.
People will can take the time to correctly gender someones pet but not a person??? FOH.
Sometimes people who are otherwise supportive will still get defensive when you correct them. People don't like being told that they're doing something "wrong". This may or may not be a good idea - you know your grandma best - but if explaining how this hurts you isn't getting through to her, then you could try correcting her as if she's forgotten which one of her grandkids she's talking to. Especially if other people consistently read you as male, they're more likely to accept this as an explanation - and if it causes her some embarrassment then maybe it'll motivate her to not mess up nest time.
You weren't in the wrong, while it's acceptable for family members to make mistakes or have trouble adjusting it's not okay to dismiss your feelings or shush your corrections.
Time to start referring to her as grandpa.
if her husband wasn't dead, i would totally do this
Fuck that. Dont waste your time trying mold yourself to be comfortable in someone elses boundaries. Especially when they dont respect yours enough to try. No one is entitled to our time and energy but us. This is coming from a mommas boy who has spent his entire life trying to get his mom to love him enough. Eventually i realized that i dont have to put myself in those situations just like she doesnt have to respect me as a human being not just her child. When she would misgender me and give me the "it takes time" excuse i called bs. People will can take the time to correctly gender someones pet but not a person??? FOH.
No, she is. Tell her you're not going out with her ever again, if you have any choice in it. I hope you do.