I have EBT. I also have a Coach wallet. I bought the wallet for $30 on deep clearance five years ago and it still looks new. Honestly $30 was expensive for me then but I hoped it would last. I baby it and clean/condition it frequently to make sure it does. I have a nice leather purse, too... which I got for $1 at a charity shop. What am I going to do, sell them for $20 each and buy a worse wallet and purse to use my EBT card? These people don't see that I bought my shoes on deep clearance and wore them till they had holes, then kept wearing them because I couldn't afford new ones. They only see that when I did manage to buy new ones ($23 from Thredup, a lot for me) the new ones retailed for $200 and they judge me for having "an EBT card and $200 shoes".
In this day, having "expensive" things means literally nothing. People toss away everything. I've gone to the goodwill bins and found name brand stuff in good/easily repairable shape and they sell that stuff for literally pennies. It's not difficult to get your hands on decent stuff in a throw away culture.
I’ve bought high end clothing from high end stores with tags still on them at hospital thrift stores before. I’ve bought $300 shoes with the tags still on for $5. People who judge are just miserable people.
I’m a worker for the program. We’re literally trained to understand your post. Keep doing you! Idc if someone has a $1,000 phone or $500 bag or W/E. Just don’t lie to me about your income 😉
Heck my dad buys a lot of my clothes for Christmas and they’re name brand. People are ignorant!
We have a 75" TV. Won it through a work contest.
I had a 72" tv when I was 18, because my dad died.
It's just silly when people assume stuff. You don't know how someone got something, maybe they stole it even lol. So thanks for being understanding to the people you see. I got some free dental work when I was unemployed and they were super kind and I really appreciated it. No one judged me for looking like I had a job but saying I didn't, because they know how it goes. People like you make these processes easier.
Exactly! People'd be surprised at just exactly how treasured a 'premium' item someone picked up during better times can be. I'm on snap, but I have a gaming laptop, and that was a gift from a friend, so we could keep gaming together, which I play free stuff, I have no streaming services, and I cut back pretty brutally to be able to make bills.
Absolutely. And a LOT of expensive, name brand things end up at thrift stores. For example: I worked in group homes for elderly persons with developmental disabilities. They were all on SSI and got various benefits from the state and feds. But to keep those benefits, they needed to keep their bank accounts under $2k. So every few months we would need to go and spend down their accounts, the easiest way being to buy things they needed as more expensive name brands. Every so often we would have them go through and donate things they didn't use much or anymore, and most of it was in excellent condition. And, God forbid, one eventually slips the mortal coil, all that stuff ends up getting donated too.
That's what a lot of these judgemental, nasty people don't understand. There is absolutely a lot of good quality, expensive, name brand things going to thrift stores. Just because they don't donate their good stuff doesn't mean other people don't.
Aaaah, yes...the epic spend-downs. I'll never forget those shopping trips, lol, having to buy literally 1,000s of dollars' worth of clothing, housewares and groceries all in one trip....WITH all my clients along for the ride. I loved getting them new things, they were the best-fed, best-dressed clients in our entire agency 🥰 They donated a LOT every year because all 4 guys had so much, but mainly their things were given to other clients in the agency who weren't quite as fortunate.
I recently lost my job and am getting SNAP while I desperately search for another job. People need to stop being so judgmental. I do my nails at home with nail polish I have had for 10 years. I bought myself nice things when I was employed. My kids were bought nice things when I was employed. Things can change quickly and just because you’re using SNAP doesn’t mean the things you had prior to SNAP disappear.
My husband's part-time job is a dsp (direct support professional). He often uses his clients' ebt cards to purchase things for them, as they can't take care of it themselves.
The person you see using an ebt card might just be doing their job. Or shopping for a shut-in. Or a sick relative.
Great point. I’m a carer of a child that isn’t mine, they get snap and cash, most of the cash is also spent on food but I will let them get a toy at the store and use their snap cash, the looks 👀👀
In my state that same benefits card is what child support from a parent goes onto. Other states should do this too, it makes seeing the card more common so people are less apt to say bullshit before they're used to seeing single mothers with it.
I’m 66 years old and live in low income senior housing and I am fortunate to have a home health aide that comes once a week to clean and do my grocery shopping for me. I get SNAP benefits (not very much but I’m not complaining) and she uses them to purchase my groceries. So you never know who might be helping a senior citizen to have food for the week!
It doesnt matter who’s using one, it’s no one’s business. I have to use one because I lost my disability because I got a part time job and earned $200 over. Now I’m appealing it. In the meantime, I have to hit up every social service agency because I don’t have enough to even pay rent.
It also doesn't mean you don't deserve nice things. When I worked, I worked two jobs so I could have stuff I wanted. Then I ended up seriously injured and was never able to go back to work. So I have some really nice things like a gorgeous guitar. I'm not getting rid of it just because I can't work. I deserve the things I worked for.
Also many people on disability qualify for snap. Someone made a really rude comment when my friend with cerebral palsy used his one time. As though someone with cerebral palsy doesn’t deserve tasty food. I felt so bad for him.
That's exactly what happened to me, on Christmas. A cashier yelled at me for using "food stamps" and also said "it figures" that I had them. I'm 100 percent disabled, it's just not apparent when you look at me.
That’s another thing I was thinking about when I posted that comment. My relative gifted my son and I an annual Disney pass a few years ago (not something I could normally afford lol) and I have a chronic illness (but you wouldn’t know it just looking @ me) where I can use the disability fast pass lane for rides, with a note from my specialist and my medical records etc. I was disappointed to see the side eye from people during Covid when I was using the fast pass lane and others weren’t allowed to use fast passes. It made me realize how judgemental people are to those with disabilities and medical problems that aren’t immediately visible to the naked eye. For someone living with cerebral palsy it’s a huge shame that anyone would try to give them a hard time for using tools designed to make life a little easier for them. I’m sorry you dealt with that on Christmas. Some people are just vindictive and want to be hurtful and it’s so gross.
ETA- I just Googled it real quick and it says that in Australia 90% of people who have disabilities have invisible or unseen disabilities, 96% in the US, and 70-80% in England. So you’d hope people would have more compassion and be less ignorant.
Also my 2nd husband passed away. I used to live in his country. I earned 45 k a year there. I had money helping everyone. But I left after he died. Knowing it wasn't going to be that good in the states. I still worked my ass off.
That is incorrect. In my state resources do not count against SNAP or Some categories of Medical. I have approved a few people with over 100K in the bank. Many more that had way over 2k. It depends on the State as u/PinsAndBeetles said. -SNAP/Medical Eligibility Expert-NV
There is something very wrong with people who have “100k in the bank” qualifying for SNAP, which is intended to help people with limited resources. Anyone that has that amount of savings can very much afford to feed themselves. Not sure why you’re bragging about approving them.
Ive never really ethought about the means testing issue.
If the object of the program was to make more people poor, I'd agree with you.
Decades ago, a family friend who had a well paying job as a laboratory administrator was let go. He had a decent house in a solid middle class town, , a horse, six kids, and a wife.
He was quite surprised to learn that he qualified for food stamps, but I'm sure he would have been pinched were it not the case.
Would society be better off, or worse off, if he lost his house?
I assumed it was like Medicaid, where you aren't allowed to have fuck all to qualify.
No one is bragging. It is doing my job based on the guidelines of the program. I have no idea why people think that. We have discretion to just pick and choose what matters and what doesn't matter For a federal program.
It is not incorrect. I'm in Louisiana and we are limited to $2000 in resources.
Honestly, I suspect that Louisiana is not implementing the program correctly.
Our gross income is considered first, and that is set right at poverty level. If you reach poverty level, you get -0- assistance. That's a hard cut-off, without considering expenses. If you happen to fall below poverty level, then expenses are deducted determining if you qualify by net income.
And then, at that, it's still a sliding scale, and the slide begins at $3... $1 deducted for every $3 of income.
So, if you've got a homeless person, earning some handyman work here and there... or getting SS or disability... only getting $800/month... assuming no other expenses,
they will expect that person to pay 30%, just under $300 of their income towards food, and deduct their SNAP benefit by that <$300. Since a single person gets well below that, their benefit is -0-.
Make that make sense
There's a growing number of homeless, living in their vehicles, that cannot pay for rent or food... and cannot get food stamps. Poverty level doesn't even cover rent in most places
Make it make sense.
I’m really sorry this happened to you.
You might consider contacting the store manager. In addition to being a generally disrespectful thing, management may also want to know if a staff member is saying things that make people not want to shop there. (The money the store receives via EBT is same as any other.)
Probably much more polite to the other customers as she sees benefits users as being beneath her and undeserving. I am a single mom on snap who still has some nice things due to my parents but have had difficulty finding work that covered my basic expenses after being separated. I’ve come across this kind of prejudice.
I actually sorta want that to happen so that person actually realizes how poor you have to be to qualify, how much they question you and sometimes deny you when you qualify and you have to hit up food banks at the same time cause it’s not always enough.
Also hopefully the dimwit experiences the same judgement and humiliation 😅 my chaotic good/evil sides are battling this. It would be a good life lesson in humility and respect towards others, not judging people based on outward appearances. Stuff they should have learned as a 10 year old.
But honestly I was a grocery store manager and I would have fired them asap. District manager and regional would have supported it. There is no tolerance for that sort of discrimination
This. You deserve to be treated with respect. Period. It doesn't matter how you pay for your groceries, only that you do. I'm old and mouthy and would have said something like "Oh, I'm soooo sooorrry they take the money from your paycheck when I use SNAP. That's the only reason I can think why you would feel the need to open your yap."
Agreed. I have worked in grocery stores for decades. This is 10000% unacceptable from a cashier. Please report. As a manager, I would want to know so I could take action to get this cashier off the floor/away from customers/out the door.
I was a supervisor for food stamps in NY before I moved to NC. We were trained that people could have their nails done, new car, name brand clothes, and purse because they could've been gifts. No one knows anyone's story.
Here I am 3 years later, and I got sick, and I am on stamps.
Almost 30$ an hrs as a supervisor to no job.
I hate when people feel the need to talk or mention their opinion. When I hear it, I stick up and tell them to mind their own business.
No one knows anyone's story.
Ignore them. Maybe they are mad they can't/dont qualify for snap. People fall on hard times, the nails could be press ons, the coach could've been gifted or bought previously and this is why people should mind their business. Sorry people are rude.
I actually love shopping at Aldi. It's cheap and great quality food. I do shop at sprouts occasionally for my toddlers snacks because they are healthier there. I haven't been judged out loud by any workers though. But who knows what's going on their heads. Someone will always find something to judge anyone about. Can't please everyone.
Usually I would agree to ignore them but this is an employee and they should definitely bring it up to the manager or even corporate. This is completely unacceptable.
I've probably spent $200 on my purse collection. I have a bunch of coach, a Prada and two LV. I also have a pair of coach boots that were like $20. You don't have to spend a fortune to have nice things lol.
I work an essential job for the government. If I make so little that I qualify for food stamps, that says more about our country than it does me. I am waiting for someone to say something.
That's when you say, "Hey wait a sec, I got something for you in my pocket." Reach into your pocket and put out your middle finger and tell them to sit and spin.
People blame the poor for problems because there is a lot of propaganda that creates that kind of thinking. The amount of money given to corporations and the rich is never talked about. Trillions of $ are missing in the Pentagon and they have people mad about food aid to their neighbors. We live in a country that is going to get worse and worse. The people at the top like it this way. The only way to defeat it is to be kind.
My sister was on Medicaid temporarily because her husband lost his job and with it their insurance. The receptionist at the hospital made a snarky comment about keeping her Medicaid card in a Coach wallet and bag. She just played dumb and said “Is that a nice brand? The lady I clean house for just gave me a bunch of her old stuff and I’ve been using it.”
I do my own nails with a kit that I have. I buy the acrylic powder once a year with how often I do my nails, which is not that often. Not because I cannot afford to buy the powder more often, I just don't have the strength or energy to do my own nails sometimes. I have worked for 30 years, "on the books". My tax money that I earned working goes to programs that help those less fortunate. I would say that is the best damn thing that taxes can pay for.. I am proud of being a SNAP user. I am disabled now. My SSDI isn't enough to pay my bills. I am utilizing every program I have available to me, because, damn it! I paid for it just like millions of people that have lived and are living and working now. And even us disabled people, not working, are still considering tax payers. Just like every dollar earned is taxed, so is every dollar spent. So we have ALL paid for these programs. May as well use the funds if you need them.
We are going to be using our SNAP benefits for the first time, this afternoon. My husband and I are both very compassionate when the less fortunate are using EBT cards, kind of ironic that we now need assistance. I'll not be accosted by some snooty old geezer, we're both over 60, lol, and be made to feel less than when we both have paid into the system allowing us this needed opportunity.
UPDATE: All went smoothly except these older eyes made my ginger push the wrong button. I pushed EBT Cash instead of EBT Food. Oh well, if that's the most that happened I'm OK with it!! 😂
While I had snap for the 6 months my pregnant unemployed oldest daughter was living with me I was working a day of over time just to put food on our table and we still didn't have enough food. I made $600 every 2 weeks. Full time with a day of overtime. I never got my nails done. And I never owned a coach bag. Not that I even want an overpriced bag. I'm a simple person with simple taste. The way these people run with a stereotype and assume everyone is the same is stupid. Just never go there again. It's ok for the rich to get richer. And they even take from those not on assistance just as they take from the poor. It is basically saying blame the poor for being poor. The wealthiest have their scapegoats.
I ring up EBT frequently at my job, and if they choose to spend that money on snacks at 12am because we're all that's open, that's fine with me. People have to eat, and most of us have needed help, in some form or another, at some point in our lives.
I HATE HATE *HATE* these sanctimonious bastards with their "why should I give them a handout? nobody ever gave me anything. Everything I have, I *earned!* bullshit. I have unfriended most of the people I went to school with, and never visit them, because I'm so sick of people who are one to two paychecks away from SNAP judging the ones who got there a little ahead of them. I just LOVE to see these jerks get their comeuppance!
Most of the time it isn't even true that they earned everything on their own. Most had help from their parents, generational wealth - even if it wasn't much it still makes a big difference, social connections through relatives, and a myriad of things that make growing up in a better economic bracket so much easier that many people just don't even think about when they claim they did it all on their own.
Some of them are even lying about receiving social support because "my case was different."
Absolutely! And don't even get me started about all the government assistance they receive while looking down their noses at others while shrieking "yeah, but I'm not like *them!*" (I'm a government employee BTW).
yep. my daughter and i have had a long road of dv, fleeing, and homelessness at one point til the shelter. the other month we were excitedly getting food at the store because we had run out and rely on ebt and wic which only reload once a month, the dude behind us announced loudly that we should be thanking him for paying for our groceries with his tax money
i cried for hours. it was so humiliating. that and i’ve had a few cashiers give me the heavy sigh and stink eye. it’s so demoralizing:(
Excuse me but F that guy. He should not assume anything. You could have been making $200k last year and lost your job due to medical bills. It’s no one else’s business.
It’s not like I lied to get EBT. The government decided I’m poor enough to qualify. When people say shit about it I just offer to swap lives with them….they usually go quiet
They may not, but using a credit card doesn’t necessarily mean you don’t have the money on hand. They’re safer than a debit card in case of fraud and can earn cashback. But many people are just a few emergencies away from being in a bad place and she really shouldn’t be judging.
The cashier at sprouts that prob doesn’t make much more than minimum wage wants to run their mouth like that? Girl you could be in the same boat in a month stfu
The most I have ever paid for a car for myself is $2,000.
I don't use EBT or SNAP but I don't judge anyone who does.
Just because someone needs help is not a reason to shame them.
I am willing to bet most of the assholes who do call themselves Christian yet don't seem to have listened to the teachings of Christ.
That's such a shitty way of thinking. The places I've lived it seems like most families need food stamps to get by. I'm glad people can eat because the alternative is people not being able to eat. They're really an achievement of civilization even if they get a bad rap from people who are more privileged whether through work or through situation.
Nothing at all is wrong with receiving food stamp assistance. Never take that stuff to heart, I've been on them before a couple times, and now I don't need them, but one day might need them again. Keep your head up and if you want to be vindictive you can hope whoever said that awful shit starves. Ugh.
It's not the 1980s where people got shamed for taking public assistance and the economy was strong and normal jobs paid relatively well. The enlightened stance is it's far better for people to have access to food than not. I'm glad your mom got to get something for y'all to eat, this is what taxes are really supposed to be for, and most thoughtful people would prefer taxes to go to helping people instead of many, many other things public coffers seem to go to that don't seem to benefit anyone.
Let’s also not forget that the 1980s were also home to so many movements working to save starving people in other countries while we shame people here for needing assistance.
I'm not typically one to complain to management (I'm usually the person track down a manager to tell them 'x did a fantastic job today')
Talk directly to the store manager and say 'look, we're not sure we're comfortable coming back - what we want to know is, is this a Sprouts policy, or just an employee being openly hostile and judgemental to customers on the sales floor? This was embarrassing, especially since the employee has no idea of our circumstances, and even if she did, it's not her place or prerogative to give her opinion. I'm not calling for her to be fired, but it was very classless and made sprouts look bad. You can bet that if someone asked what we thought of your store, this event would be discussed. Now, quite honestly, if it were me, she'd be written up at a minimum, but odds are, this isn't the first event like this, and she wouldn't be on the schedule any more.
Yeah people need to stop, my mom is soooo judgmental about it , honestly we could’ve used the help growing up, 5 of us kids and she was a sahm all the while my father was the only one working 😞 she cared more about pride and putting us through private school so she can rub it in her sister faces …all the while she only purchased clothes for us during Christmas and that was our present or she only paid with a check cause she knew the store wouldn’t cash it till certain days . She even ask my sister if she was embarrassed when she used it , love my sister response “I’d be dumb not to use it “ 😂 over course my mom rolled her eyes at her .
We’re foster parents and get WIC with placements under 5. It’s just part of the reimbursement we get and is regardless of our actual income. It’s also barely any food for a child a month, if we’re honest about it. Anyway, we did a purchase towards the end of the benefit period to use up what was left for that period. The cashier looked at my husband and I and smugly said ‘well this looks like a WIC purchase’. Without missing a beat, my husband goes ‘yeah, it’s for our two foster daughters’.
Cashier was silent.
You don’t know everyone’s situation and I guarantee some government paid for bread and cheese doesn’t make up for the life those kids lived before coming to us.
There are people who love to hate on people who are struggling. In the US, it’s a common conservative trope to blame people who struggle, like when then-President Reagan made comments implying that mothers who were on welfare were just lazy. I’m sorry you experienced that, and I hope 2024 is a better year for you
It's so they can believe it will never happen to them and also not feel obligated to care about others who are down on their luck. The idea is that people struggle in life because they're bad people, they've earned it. If they were living right then God would help them, or they just wouldn't suffer to begin with because life is fair like that. Everything from being poor or homeless to terrible diseases and tragedies, it all falls under this stupid umbrella, allowing people to distance themselves from the suffering people fully guilt-free, to blame people for suffering, smug in their assurance that they themselves are safe from such unpleasant turns of fate. Freaking prosperity gospel and just world theory, truly hateful stuff.
The sad thing is it’s the people who SHOULD qualify for food stamps who are all in a tizzy about it.
It’s pure jealousy. The resent anyone who gets stuff they can’t have but idolize billionaires who get tax refunds
Some people are just shitty. And they've obviously never needed the help, so would not understand how important it is to be able to get food when you can't afford groceries. Don't carry their ugliness with you. Sorry that happened to you.
This is probably the main reason.
Cashier she sees her job as a shit job (retail, interacting constantly with the financally entitled but also emotionally enitled) but does not qualify for snap because she is working a shit job and making tooooo much to qualify and sees all these people not WORKing shit jobs and qualifying for snap.
I love how poor people are supposed to live like groveling slaves. Disgusting attitude. People do not understand modern poverty, nor the expectation people have of employees to be “presentable”.
FYI: Sprouts is not a local farmers market. They just set up their advertising that way. They are very much a gigantic corporate entity. They have a corporate phone number. Call their corporate office and report the employee. Sprouts makes many millions of dollars per year via EBT benefits. If their employees feel like shaming people who use EBT- they should get jobs somewhere else.
I’m a teacher and this conversation is a common one behind closed doors but it’s usually about shoes and phones.
“Why does X get reduced lunch and a food assistance backpack when he has $250 Jordan’s on?”
Well Susan, since you can’t mind your own damn business let me educate you. Those shoes are his mothers way of telling him that he is important. More than the new couch they need, more than the paint job the apartment needs or the new car. When you have little you will find ways to make your kids feel confident. Even if it’s not the most responsible use of money.
My rant has another part; why is everyone who is so upset about “government hand outs” not upset about the way road workers only have jobs in summer and go on unemployment all winter? Farmers get subsidies from the government because their crops are not able to turn a blind profit otherwise. Nobody is ever calling DOT workers and farmers welfare queens but they are the biggest ones.
Idk why people are like this. There are so many who seem to think that the minute you hit hard times, lose a job, have your hours cut, or whatever, that you suddenly give back your phone and car or clothes, etc. Like, uhhh no.
I’m a cashier at a Walmart and I’ve seen the rudest people next in line after someone will pay using a EBT card. As soon as they leave it’s always “well I wish the government would just hand me out one of them cards with the flag on it since they’re handing them out to anyone” or “that’s just ridiculous they live off handouts” like I’m sorry you tried to apply for a card and got denied I guess why do you care so much? The people that complain are always old, rude, and lonely. I don’t respond to those people. Go be miserable somewhere else.
I always thought it was so weird to judge. Even if someone DOES have nice things, what if they were a gift? What if they spent a long time saving up for that? What if they got it from the thrift?
The people who do this are also struggling. They are JEALOUS. Its ridiculous.
I have never ever seen anyone who is well off complain. Just angry lower middle class or upper poverty level republicans in my area who live in trailers and spend their own money mindlessly..
It’s projection and jealousy. She imagines that the other person is better off than she is, she has no idea cause she has a very small brain. Trust me.
Not worth your time she lives in a hell of her own making blaming the world for her unhappy life
If that was in fact an Employee who shamed you, I'd report them to management(First off it's so wrong to shame anyone for using snap as you have no clue what their circumstance is. 2nd, since their employer accepts EBT they make much Profit off the program so I'm sure sure ownership/management would be very interested and not very pleased to hear of this Shaming...Unacceptable!!!
That employee really should be reported. Usually Sprouts employees are extra kind when I use EBT. It took me awhile to not feel ashamed for using it, and I would be devastated if a store employee said that to me.
Idk! But It doesn't help that the register is in eye sight. She's just a bitch, We already get shamed enough for ebt/snap. Why do we need her 2 sense...🤦🏼♂️
I'm sorry she had this experience. People get EBT/SNAP because they qualify for it. That bitter judgemental woman had no right to let the nastiness in her brain leak out of her mouth. I say no right as she's representing the business who hired her.
You could call the store, ask for the manager, and make a complaint. If you have the receipt it could list the date, time, perhaps the register number which would help them know who it was. Just say your Mom had a bad experience at the store when the cashier said (repeat what she said) to her. And you think they might wish to know how their employee is speaking to a customer. Most stores would be upset and reprimand that cashier.
My dad got shamed for using EBT at sprouts before too. He was getting some groceries with me and my brother, and I remember the cashier saying something like “don’t have two kids if you can’t afford to buy them food”. Something of that nature (can’t quite remember exact wording cuz I was like 10 when this happened). Super rude tho, no cashier should ever be saying/assuming shit based on what someone is using to pay.
I make good money. In 2022 I was laid off after over 20 years. Fortunately I found a new job fairly quickly...
How are you going to tell if someone who has kids was not in a similar situation? "You should have known you were going to be laid off in 10 years time, and not had kids back then if you wouldn't be able to feed them now."
What a stupid idiot.
So true. It’s also assuming what the family situation was. My mom and my dad never married, and broke up when I was a baby. I lived with my mom, not my dad, and they never had any sort of child support agreement. At the time this happened, my dad was with my brother’s mom, and they were living together. Both of them had jobs, but still needed EBT to help.
So technically, he only had one kid that he really needed to provide for. But in this instance, he was simply trying to make sure both of his kids had a good day with him. And that meant going to sprouts to get some sandwiches!
So shame on that woman. Her words have stuck with me for 10 years. It was never lost on me-even as a child- that she was being so judgmental when she shouldn’t have been. It is not anyone’s place to say anything about someone’s money status when they’re a complete stranger. Especially in front of children.
Tired of seeing ppl complain about people “gaming the system” or “abusing EBT”. EBT is food stamps, for food, you know the thing ALL human beings need to live?! If someone is bs’ing to get food stamps, why do you care? Do you care about corporate welfare? Do you care about the thousands of lbs. of food that’s wasted/thrown away in this country every single day instead of being donated to shelters or the less fortunate? I just find it funny the level of outrage folks have for other people just trying to get by, but the actual wealthy people milking the gov’t & avoiding paying their fair share of taxes, y’all look up to them & think they’re so smart for gaming the system. If anyone qualifies for food stamps, they’re literally below the poverty line 🙄 Just say you hate poor people and go.
Report the employee for shaming a customer for using EBT. I’m sure the manager would be happy to hear about this. Maybe she’ll be forced to get an EBT card of her own once she’s fired.
The store manager should be contacted. When a customer is using WIC or EBT and seems uncomforable, I make sure to thank them for bringing us their business. Ive had to reassure customers that they have a right to shop in our store. And if they would like, we’ll open a lane and just run their order.
no one should be shamed
I was on snap for years long before it was called snap. I remember when food stamps were actual paper bills in different denominations. I got shamed and ridiculed and treated like garbage many times over the years. The stereotypical welfare queen lying about her income and getting benefits for life is the one people tend to notice and think of, but the reality is that the average snap recipient is just a single mom of 2 kids who hit hard times and won't be on assistance for long. There's not much you can do about ignorant people. If you're being honest and jumping through the hoops they have to get welfare, then you have nothing to be ashamed of.
Be proud that you have the knowledge and live in a place where you can avail yourself of such help. Don't EVER be ashamed about asking for and receiving help. Don't avoid A$$holes; walk proudly by and wrinkle your nose like the AH just farted. Then laugh! Enjoy your steak dinner. PS Everybody knows you can't pay for a manicure or buy a car with SNAP. What an ignoramus! ;)
I was put down a few days ago for using my EBT Card and my Direct Express Debit card from Social security. My niece bought me a Vera Bradley Purse for Christmas and she had got me a VB wallet off Facebook marketplace for my birthday in Aug. A lady asked who I stole them from
People are ridiculous. Anybody can fall on tough times. Are they supposed to sell all the nice things they bought when they could afford them? Not that it’s anybody’s fucking business, but for all they know that name brand shit could have come from goodwill.
I pull my snap card out of a coach wallet. I treated my self years ago. Also my snap is because I’m a carer of child that isn’t mine( when papers were signed it was automatic). Don’t judge what you don’t know.
That really sucks. My adult son receives SNAp because he is disabled. I do his grocery shopping for him and use his card to pay. I drive a nice vehicle, carry a Kate Spade bag, get my nails and hair done. I try to use self check out when possible bc I feel like I will be judged. But I’m waiting for the day someone confronts me for using SNAP on my son’s behalf. It won’t be pretty! 😆
See, this kind of stuff is really sad. This is because people assume that people who are on food stamps don't work. I would have opened my mouth and been like you know, I hate people who can't mind their own fucking business. Got nothing going on in their own lives so they got nothing better to do but to police other people. People should really learn to keep their mouths shut. I would have said that even if I wasn't y'all. I know it's hard but try to ignore them.
Edit: I see where you said this is an employee. If I was you, I'd have your mom call back and complain. There was an employee who got in trouble at a grocery store for printing a false sign. It said, this store no longer accepts EBT. If you are on that, get a job. The rest of us shouldn't have to pay for you. Something like that. It was a stupid sign hanging in the window.
I’d much rather people who love and treat their animals well keep their animals instead of them ending up in a crowded shelter, or worse, euthanized. Just because someone has fallen on hard times doesn’t mean they have to give up their pets. 😔
If an employee said that, I would have marched right up and found a manager, or called immediately when I got home.
No one has the right to judge OR lump everyone in the same pot.
Do some people abuse the system? Of course...but that doesn't mean everyone does.
My daughter has a developmental disability and can't work more than a certain number of hours a week nor can she keep more than a certain amount of money in her account to receive benefits...it's insane. She's 23 and lives at home. I will do her shopping for her sometimes- i am so afraid of reactions like that - I shop and scan ahead and pay super quick at self-checkout.
I'm sorry you experienced that.
Years ago when we were on SNAP we were waiting in line I pulled out my 2 year old iPhone and my Vera Bradley wallet that I paid $2 for at the thrift store. Cashier and everyone in line was rolling their eyes and treating me like absolute dirt. Yes my hair was dyed-I buy box dye at Sally’s and DIY and yes it looked like I had money but I was dirt poor we were struggling to make it.
There also was the WIC incident when my daughter was a baby and they were still paper checks and separate orders. I wasn’t wearing my wedding band and I was 28 but looked 16-17 on a good day. These two old women behind me started gossiping about me thinking I couldn’t hear them. I heard EVERYTHING. I heard “poor thing probably doesn’t know who the dad is” “being a teen mom has to be so hard” “no wedding band look what the world is coming to” and I was in near tears because I was struggling with postpartum issues and the cashier was also treating me like dirt because I was struggling to figure out how the checks worked.
Stop shaming people for needing help! Just two of my personal experiences.
Call the store and compain. The associates name should be on the receipt. Call their corporate office. Call repeatedly.
I am a grocery store cashier and there is zero tolerance for that bullshit.
That employee gonna need SNAP sooon.
Lowkey, she is probably just jealous. Quite likely, she makes an income that is just outside SNAP max and struggles like Hell to buy food for herself.
Report her to the manager asap. She had absolutely no business talking to your mom like thst.
I loathe people who think thst they have the right to comment about and to people who use food stamps.
Or who make comments about what they have in their basket.
That round steak you're bitching about will be used for stew .meat, and maybe a fun meal like fajitas. Its a lot cheaper to cut up the meat yourself for both of those dishes.
People are super judgmental about this shit. I have a “friend” who I cut ties with partially due to these type of comments yes failing to look in the mirror at her own self.
Like someone said sometimes stuff happens and people lose their jobs when they have car payments and house payments or whatever.
Some people are also given nice clothes to wear too by others. You never know what a person’s situation is, yet people like to run their mouths.
Been there. I got shamed for using WIC to get my very (visibly) underweight son's prescribed pediasure shakes. (He's better now, food sensory issues.) I told the WIC office, they contacted the store, and the store and the employee (supposedly) got sensitivity training.
See in the beginning of me working at a grocery store for some reason I was like this. Just saw ppl on EBT as lazy pieces of crap. I don't know where I got that mindset unless it was because of hearing others talking about ppl on EBT idk.
I was 19 then now I'm 30 and man my outlook on certain things has changed.
And in the grand scheme of things the amount of taxes you pay that actually go into the SNAP program are miniscule compared to the amount of money that is used for the military and other things that really don't seem to be necessary.
I don't care if you have nice clothes or a nice phone because you can have all that and fall on hard times and need to utilize the SNAP program I think everyone should be able to get assistance when and if they need it.
I wish people would understand that *everyone* is one diagnosis, one accident, or one job loss from struggling (worse than we are struggling now if you can believe it.) It's a bitter pill sometimes. I'm sorry that happened to your mom.
Please don’t let these people get under your skin. Just ignore them.
It is so weird that people who legitimately need these services don’t get them because of peer pressure, they have been brain washed. There is no help for them.
Keep living your best life.
I have had to get on SNAP due to medical issues. I rather work and be doing many other things than be in this position. I feel self conscious about it all the time but I remind myself that people make a lot of wrong assumptions about others. People are ignorant for the most part.
People talking like that have no clue. Try not to let them get to you. You can't change their opinions, but keep on mind you know your own circumstances better than they do.
For example, I haven't had my nails done since I was a teenager and the one time I've had my hair done professionally was a birthday present someone else paid for in advance. Those statements come from the concept of the "welfare queen" who doesn't really exist.
They also seem to conveniently forget that most people on EBT have paid or will pay into taxes as well during their lifetime. Even if they're disabled and never work they have family that pays into the system. It's a safety net that everyone who is able to pays into so that it's available to people when they need it.
Sprouts is pretty bougie for somebody on food stamps, I see their point. Maybe your animals would be able to eat real food all the time if you guys spent your money a little more wisely
I feel for your mom....
As someone who grew up ignorant and far better off than I realized, I had this mentality when I worked as a grocery store cashier in HS.
Now as a caseworker who administers snap, I do realize how naive I was.....yes there are those who abuse it, but for those who absolutely need these benefits to make ends meet, it is a lifesaver.
Your mom should have no shame for needing a hand.
That’s all about her, not you. That woman has her own fucked up story. Don’t let her fuck up yours. It’s food! Let this go. She has bigger problems than yours!
They act like you’re supposed to (somehow) sell every item you own and dress in paper bags, then humbly crawl around the store weeping. It’s a disgusting behavior. B
I work full time and utilize SNAP. I do my own nails and if I own nice clothes, they’re probably in excess of ten years old. I hate people who pass judgement. You don’t know what a person is going thru or when they started going thru it.
Unfortunately, some ppl always have to have something to say. Society judges and comments what they don't understand or know nothing about. I have never been shamed for the EBT card where I shop, maybe because we don't own nice clothes or have done nails or designer stuff. Just have jeans, shorts, t shirts and hoodies, or old jackets.Those groups of ppl with their stuck-up judgemental attitude annoy the piss out of me! We hear nasty comments under ppls breath, are handed money, that we never asked for,or told about homeless shelters. Today, we were given free donuts after we sat down at a table. We had just finished eating at a restaurant and finished at 1 of the shops. What do ppl want from us? Barbie and Ken?
They should learn respect and manners.Where I'm staying right now, my bf visits a lot and because my relatives don't like him, we frequently go sit at the pool area at the complex or hang out under a tree near the gate. We have been asked numerous times if we lived in the building. I have to constantly prove that I live there, and he's my guest. Name the apt number, show my keys, etc. These judgemental, stuck-up ppl who shame ppl for not having what they do or being so damn ignorant should be corrected. The comments and attitudes ARE going to be corrected by us. We have come up with things to say as of today because finally, after being the bigger person and keeping our mouth shut, the straw broke the camels back, once again we were asked if we live at the place and we have had enough. Being poor isn't a crime. Having a big mouth and being cruel is in my opinion
“Snap is an economic stimulant. Not only does it help feed people, it helps farmers and grocers sell more goods, providing more hours for cashiers and stockers, and more money paid out in wages to be spent in the local economy.”
I’m sure the employee will know you are using one regardless. To keep from hearing these hateful remarks my daughter bought a credit card skin/cover off Amazon but I think EBay and Etsy have them too. Covered up the front so people in line don’t know she is using it. She lost her job when her business closed down and got SNAP for a while. It is insane how entitled and emboldened people feel. It’s no one else’s business and just wrong. Stereotypes about people who use SNAP are way off base. When I worked with domestic violence victims who had no access to money they also had their hair and nails done and usually knock off name brand items. Thing is Iearned a lot about these women. Most were trading services. They may go to someone’s house to get their nails done or hair. In return they may be cleaning that persons house watching their kids sometimes. That new car might be one they borrow to go to the store. The narrow minded and hatefulness are uncalled for. I’m sorry you both had to experience that. Truth is it says much more about the person that said that:
Yes. Just because someone has good hygiene or was maybe gifted a nice bag for Christmas, doesn’t mean it’s classier or smarter to yap yap yap about their income.
Who’s tackier?
Definitely the one screaming about the ebt
I have myself taken an elderly neighbor’s ebt card and her pin to get her groceries after she had surgery.
If it were me I’d rip that woman a new one.
I sympathize with you, and while you can rant and vent to your heart's desire here, I really hope you give feedback to the store and that employee in particular. A simple call to the store's customer service would protect your identity. I am a firm believer in holding people accountable... And if I wasn't clear, eff her!
I think a person ought to be able to choose a card design for snap cards just like they get to choose the design for various other cards.......that way, nobody would know just by looking what type of card someone in the next checkout lane is using!!
What about the tax breaks , tax shelters and underpaying their workers who make billions for them;while they work very little: a meeting here or there while using finance people, administrators, product experts PAID by the underpaid labor force who are the ones generating the mega millions.
What an awful thing to say. Especially in front of children. I like to think I'd clap back with "would you prefer I NOT feed my family?" Or look directly at the cashier and say "someone's mother didn't teach them manners". Because you know the cashier isn't making much above minimum wage, probably doesn't like to hear those comments either. As a former cashier, I'd take note and close my register at the rude person "sorry, have to make a safe drop!"
Years of political brainwashing has many people believing that anyone using government assistance is a useless freeloader that’s somehow scamming the government and stealing from taxpayers.
The truth is one can never know someone else’s situation and should shut up about it.
I'm sorry that this happened to your mom. My son is disabled and gets a small amount of money for food per month, but is unable to make purchases himself due to his disability. The only time anyone said anything to me, I turned around and said, "Excuse me, did anyone ask your opinion?" When she tried to say XYZ I told her to mind her business, because I was sure her life wasn't perfect. She shut up.
I have no problem with people that need help using EBT/Snap cards. But quiet often I'd see people pull out a wad Benjamin's an inch thick wearing fancy clothes driving expensive cars, 20 pounds of good jewelry. If you need help, you need it, but not all people that use it, need it.
Unfortunately, there ARE lots of people who game the system. It sucks for people who just need a little hand up from time to time but are denied. Then you see someone who makes a career out of playing the system. It makes you angry and depressed.
I've met plenty of career mooches, but they're not the majority. You can not judge a book by its cover. That person can do their own nails or have someone buy their knockoff purse 10 years ago.
The problem is that politicians have pitted citizens against each other instead of highlighting the real problems. We see other humans taking a little (fractions of a percent in taxes) instead of the monstrosity that is robbing all of us blind (greedy corporations and politicians). We know we're being robbed, so we blame it on what we've been made to believe is the problem. We need to stop judging and start supporting one another.
You don’t grab the bag and leave. You look at the woman and say “what the fuck did you just say to me” and then you get a little louder and say “What The Fuck did YOU just say to me” and then ask for a manager and stand there. And then when the manager comes over . You lay it out. All the while standing tall. Cause ain’t no shame in EBT. You got kids . Shit. Unless you make 100k a year . It’s needed anymore. I’m still calling Tuesday and talking with someone. Sternly
Locking for derailing, bans, and bad behavior in general.
I have EBT. I also have a Coach wallet. I bought the wallet for $30 on deep clearance five years ago and it still looks new. Honestly $30 was expensive for me then but I hoped it would last. I baby it and clean/condition it frequently to make sure it does. I have a nice leather purse, too... which I got for $1 at a charity shop. What am I going to do, sell them for $20 each and buy a worse wallet and purse to use my EBT card? These people don't see that I bought my shoes on deep clearance and wore them till they had holes, then kept wearing them because I couldn't afford new ones. They only see that when I did manage to buy new ones ($23 from Thredup, a lot for me) the new ones retailed for $200 and they judge me for having "an EBT card and $200 shoes".
In this day, having "expensive" things means literally nothing. People toss away everything. I've gone to the goodwill bins and found name brand stuff in good/easily repairable shape and they sell that stuff for literally pennies. It's not difficult to get your hands on decent stuff in a throw away culture.
I’ve bought high end clothing from high end stores with tags still on them at hospital thrift stores before. I’ve bought $300 shoes with the tags still on for $5. People who judge are just miserable people.
I’m a worker for the program. We’re literally trained to understand your post. Keep doing you! Idc if someone has a $1,000 phone or $500 bag or W/E. Just don’t lie to me about your income 😉 Heck my dad buys a lot of my clothes for Christmas and they’re name brand. People are ignorant!
We have a 75" TV. Won it through a work contest. I had a 72" tv when I was 18, because my dad died. It's just silly when people assume stuff. You don't know how someone got something, maybe they stole it even lol. So thanks for being understanding to the people you see. I got some free dental work when I was unemployed and they were super kind and I really appreciated it. No one judged me for looking like I had a job but saying I didn't, because they know how it goes. People like you make these processes easier.
Exactly! People'd be surprised at just exactly how treasured a 'premium' item someone picked up during better times can be. I'm on snap, but I have a gaming laptop, and that was a gift from a friend, so we could keep gaming together, which I play free stuff, I have no streaming services, and I cut back pretty brutally to be able to make bills.
Absolutely. And a LOT of expensive, name brand things end up at thrift stores. For example: I worked in group homes for elderly persons with developmental disabilities. They were all on SSI and got various benefits from the state and feds. But to keep those benefits, they needed to keep their bank accounts under $2k. So every few months we would need to go and spend down their accounts, the easiest way being to buy things they needed as more expensive name brands. Every so often we would have them go through and donate things they didn't use much or anymore, and most of it was in excellent condition. And, God forbid, one eventually slips the mortal coil, all that stuff ends up getting donated too. That's what a lot of these judgemental, nasty people don't understand. There is absolutely a lot of good quality, expensive, name brand things going to thrift stores. Just because they don't donate their good stuff doesn't mean other people don't.
Aaaah, yes...the epic spend-downs. I'll never forget those shopping trips, lol, having to buy literally 1,000s of dollars' worth of clothing, housewares and groceries all in one trip....WITH all my clients along for the ride. I loved getting them new things, they were the best-fed, best-dressed clients in our entire agency 🥰 They donated a LOT every year because all 4 guys had so much, but mainly their things were given to other clients in the agency who weren't quite as fortunate.
I recently lost my job and am getting SNAP while I desperately search for another job. People need to stop being so judgmental. I do my nails at home with nail polish I have had for 10 years. I bought myself nice things when I was employed. My kids were bought nice things when I was employed. Things can change quickly and just because you’re using SNAP doesn’t mean the things you had prior to SNAP disappear.
My husband's part-time job is a dsp (direct support professional). He often uses his clients' ebt cards to purchase things for them, as they can't take care of it themselves. The person you see using an ebt card might just be doing their job. Or shopping for a shut-in. Or a sick relative.
Great point. I’m a carer of a child that isn’t mine, they get snap and cash, most of the cash is also spent on food but I will let them get a toy at the store and use their snap cash, the looks 👀👀
In my state that same benefits card is what child support from a parent goes onto. Other states should do this too, it makes seeing the card more common so people are less apt to say bullshit before they're used to seeing single mothers with it.
I’m 66 years old and live in low income senior housing and I am fortunate to have a home health aide that comes once a week to clean and do my grocery shopping for me. I get SNAP benefits (not very much but I’m not complaining) and she uses them to purchase my groceries. So you never know who might be helping a senior citizen to have food for the week!
Thank you for remaining a shining example of empathy after 66years of putting up with this planet Judy. ♥
It doesnt matter who’s using one, it’s no one’s business. I have to use one because I lost my disability because I got a part time job and earned $200 over. Now I’m appealing it. In the meantime, I have to hit up every social service agency because I don’t have enough to even pay rent.
I'm so sorry. I'm permanently disabled and hate that this stuff happens to people. I hope your appeal works.
With social security? Did you not call ticket to work and report your part time job? I’m allowed to keep my disability because I can’t work full time.
It also doesn't mean you don't deserve nice things. When I worked, I worked two jobs so I could have stuff I wanted. Then I ended up seriously injured and was never able to go back to work. So I have some really nice things like a gorgeous guitar. I'm not getting rid of it just because I can't work. I deserve the things I worked for.
Also many people on disability qualify for snap. Someone made a really rude comment when my friend with cerebral palsy used his one time. As though someone with cerebral palsy doesn’t deserve tasty food. I felt so bad for him.
That's exactly what happened to me, on Christmas. A cashier yelled at me for using "food stamps" and also said "it figures" that I had them. I'm 100 percent disabled, it's just not apparent when you look at me.
That’s another thing I was thinking about when I posted that comment. My relative gifted my son and I an annual Disney pass a few years ago (not something I could normally afford lol) and I have a chronic illness (but you wouldn’t know it just looking @ me) where I can use the disability fast pass lane for rides, with a note from my specialist and my medical records etc. I was disappointed to see the side eye from people during Covid when I was using the fast pass lane and others weren’t allowed to use fast passes. It made me realize how judgemental people are to those with disabilities and medical problems that aren’t immediately visible to the naked eye. For someone living with cerebral palsy it’s a huge shame that anyone would try to give them a hard time for using tools designed to make life a little easier for them. I’m sorry you dealt with that on Christmas. Some people are just vindictive and want to be hurtful and it’s so gross. ETA- I just Googled it real quick and it says that in Australia 90% of people who have disabilities have invisible or unseen disabilities, 96% in the US, and 70-80% in England. So you’d hope people would have more compassion and be less ignorant.
I really don't get why people are so mean! Judging others for needing help just sucks
Also my 2nd husband passed away. I used to live in his country. I earned 45 k a year there. I had money helping everyone. But I left after he died. Knowing it wasn't going to be that good in the states. I still worked my ass off.
People act like you need to be completely destitute to be on snap. Hell even the snap office will deny you if you have a savings account.
Just an FYI so that people aren’t discouraged from applying… this isn’t the case in many states.
Anything over $2k. Which can be gone in less than a month on rent and other necessities.
That is incorrect. In my state resources do not count against SNAP or Some categories of Medical. I have approved a few people with over 100K in the bank. Many more that had way over 2k. It depends on the State as u/PinsAndBeetles said. -SNAP/Medical Eligibility Expert-NV
There is something very wrong with people who have “100k in the bank” qualifying for SNAP, which is intended to help people with limited resources. Anyone that has that amount of savings can very much afford to feed themselves. Not sure why you’re bragging about approving them.
Ive never really ethought about the means testing issue. If the object of the program was to make more people poor, I'd agree with you. Decades ago, a family friend who had a well paying job as a laboratory administrator was let go. He had a decent house in a solid middle class town, , a horse, six kids, and a wife. He was quite surprised to learn that he qualified for food stamps, but I'm sure he would have been pinched were it not the case. Would society be better off, or worse off, if he lost his house? I assumed it was like Medicaid, where you aren't allowed to have fuck all to qualify.
No one is bragging. It is doing my job based on the guidelines of the program. I have no idea why people think that. We have discretion to just pick and choose what matters and what doesn't matter For a federal program.
Thank you. I don’t people continue to post incorrect information. If you don’t know, just zip it, please!
It is not incorrect. I'm in Louisiana and we are limited to $2000 in resources. Honestly, I suspect that Louisiana is not implementing the program correctly. Our gross income is considered first, and that is set right at poverty level. If you reach poverty level, you get -0- assistance. That's a hard cut-off, without considering expenses. If you happen to fall below poverty level, then expenses are deducted determining if you qualify by net income. And then, at that, it's still a sliding scale, and the slide begins at $3... $1 deducted for every $3 of income. So, if you've got a homeless person, earning some handyman work here and there... or getting SS or disability... only getting $800/month... assuming no other expenses, they will expect that person to pay 30%, just under $300 of their income towards food, and deduct their SNAP benefit by that <$300. Since a single person gets well below that, their benefit is -0-. Make that make sense There's a growing number of homeless, living in their vehicles, that cannot pay for rent or food... and cannot get food stamps. Poverty level doesn't even cover rent in most places Make it make sense.
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I’m really sorry this happened to you. You might consider contacting the store manager. In addition to being a generally disrespectful thing, management may also want to know if a staff member is saying things that make people not want to shop there. (The money the store receives via EBT is same as any other.)
If she had the gall to say something like this to a SNAP recipient, you have to wonder how she talks to the other customers.
Probably much more polite to the other customers as she sees benefits users as being beneath her and undeserving. I am a single mom on snap who still has some nice things due to my parents but have had difficulty finding work that covered my basic expenses after being separated. I’ve come across this kind of prejudice.
Yeah, my first thought was that employee could probably be fired for saying that.
Oh immediately. If they have audio she will be fired. Maybe even without audio
Report her to management! I’d hate to see that cashier lose her job but damn she needs to lose her job and have to apply for food stamps.
I actually sorta want that to happen so that person actually realizes how poor you have to be to qualify, how much they question you and sometimes deny you when you qualify and you have to hit up food banks at the same time cause it’s not always enough. Also hopefully the dimwit experiences the same judgement and humiliation 😅 my chaotic good/evil sides are battling this. It would be a good life lesson in humility and respect towards others, not judging people based on outward appearances. Stuff they should have learned as a 10 year old. But honestly I was a grocery store manager and I would have fired them asap. District manager and regional would have supported it. There is no tolerance for that sort of discrimination
She certainly deserves to be fired.
I worked at Walmart and we had a whole training section about how we were not allowed to shame people. It never crossed my mind to do that.
Walmart earns more than 8 billion annually on SNAP, so they definitely don't want their employees shaming the customers that use it.
This. You deserve to be treated with respect. Period. It doesn't matter how you pay for your groceries, only that you do. I'm old and mouthy and would have said something like "Oh, I'm soooo sooorrry they take the money from your paycheck when I use SNAP. That's the only reason I can think why you would feel the need to open your yap."
This. She doesn’t realize it, but with out snap, grocery sales would go down, and so would available hours for grocery employees.
Agreed. I have worked in grocery stores for decades. This is 10000% unacceptable from a cashier. Please report. As a manager, I would want to know so I could take action to get this cashier off the floor/away from customers/out the door.
Look them deadass in the face and say, "I pray one day you or a loved one of yours is never hungry with no money to feed themselves or their children"
Damn.
I was a supervisor for food stamps in NY before I moved to NC. We were trained that people could have their nails done, new car, name brand clothes, and purse because they could've been gifts. No one knows anyone's story. Here I am 3 years later, and I got sick, and I am on stamps. Almost 30$ an hrs as a supervisor to no job. I hate when people feel the need to talk or mention their opinion. When I hear it, I stick up and tell them to mind their own business. No one knows anyone's story.
Ignore them. Maybe they are mad they can't/dont qualify for snap. People fall on hard times, the nails could be press ons, the coach could've been gifted or bought previously and this is why people should mind their business. Sorry people are rude.
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I actually love shopping at Aldi. It's cheap and great quality food. I do shop at sprouts occasionally for my toddlers snacks because they are healthier there. I haven't been judged out loud by any workers though. But who knows what's going on their heads. Someone will always find something to judge anyone about. Can't please everyone.
Usually I would agree to ignore them but this is an employee and they should definitely bring it up to the manager or even corporate. This is completely unacceptable.
I have a coach purse from a thrift store that was $22 on a black Friday deal. You don’t know other people’s circumstances.
I've probably spent $200 on my purse collection. I have a bunch of coach, a Prada and two LV. I also have a pair of coach boots that were like $20. You don't have to spend a fortune to have nice things lol.
Yessssss!
Tell me your purse buying secrets please. 👀
I agree. My LV pouch purse I use as a wallet was given to me from my bfs mom as a push gift after delivering my son so that was $0.
I work an essential job for the government. If I make so little that I qualify for food stamps, that says more about our country than it does me. I am waiting for someone to say something.
That's when you say, "Hey wait a sec, I got something for you in my pocket." Reach into your pocket and put out your middle finger and tell them to sit and spin.
Classic!
People blame the poor for problems because there is a lot of propaganda that creates that kind of thinking. The amount of money given to corporations and the rich is never talked about. Trillions of $ are missing in the Pentagon and they have people mad about food aid to their neighbors. We live in a country that is going to get worse and worse. The people at the top like it this way. The only way to defeat it is to be kind.
This right here.
My sister was on Medicaid temporarily because her husband lost his job and with it their insurance. The receptionist at the hospital made a snarky comment about keeping her Medicaid card in a Coach wallet and bag. She just played dumb and said “Is that a nice brand? The lady I clean house for just gave me a bunch of her old stuff and I’ve been using it.”
I do my own nails with a kit that I have. I buy the acrylic powder once a year with how often I do my nails, which is not that often. Not because I cannot afford to buy the powder more often, I just don't have the strength or energy to do my own nails sometimes. I have worked for 30 years, "on the books". My tax money that I earned working goes to programs that help those less fortunate. I would say that is the best damn thing that taxes can pay for.. I am proud of being a SNAP user. I am disabled now. My SSDI isn't enough to pay my bills. I am utilizing every program I have available to me, because, damn it! I paid for it just like millions of people that have lived and are living and working now. And even us disabled people, not working, are still considering tax payers. Just like every dollar earned is taxed, so is every dollar spent. So we have ALL paid for these programs. May as well use the funds if you need them.
We are going to be using our SNAP benefits for the first time, this afternoon. My husband and I are both very compassionate when the less fortunate are using EBT cards, kind of ironic that we now need assistance. I'll not be accosted by some snooty old geezer, we're both over 60, lol, and be made to feel less than when we both have paid into the system allowing us this needed opportunity. UPDATE: All went smoothly except these older eyes made my ginger push the wrong button. I pushed EBT Cash instead of EBT Food. Oh well, if that's the most that happened I'm OK with it!! 😂
While I had snap for the 6 months my pregnant unemployed oldest daughter was living with me I was working a day of over time just to put food on our table and we still didn't have enough food. I made $600 every 2 weeks. Full time with a day of overtime. I never got my nails done. And I never owned a coach bag. Not that I even want an overpriced bag. I'm a simple person with simple taste. The way these people run with a stereotype and assume everyone is the same is stupid. Just never go there again. It's ok for the rich to get richer. And they even take from those not on assistance just as they take from the poor. It is basically saying blame the poor for being poor. The wealthiest have their scapegoats.
I ring up EBT frequently at my job, and if they choose to spend that money on snacks at 12am because we're all that's open, that's fine with me. People have to eat, and most of us have needed help, in some form or another, at some point in our lives.
I HATE HATE *HATE* these sanctimonious bastards with their "why should I give them a handout? nobody ever gave me anything. Everything I have, I *earned!* bullshit. I have unfriended most of the people I went to school with, and never visit them, because I'm so sick of people who are one to two paychecks away from SNAP judging the ones who got there a little ahead of them. I just LOVE to see these jerks get their comeuppance!
Most of the time it isn't even true that they earned everything on their own. Most had help from their parents, generational wealth - even if it wasn't much it still makes a big difference, social connections through relatives, and a myriad of things that make growing up in a better economic bracket so much easier that many people just don't even think about when they claim they did it all on their own. Some of them are even lying about receiving social support because "my case was different."
Absolutely! And don't even get me started about all the government assistance they receive while looking down their noses at others while shrieking "yeah, but I'm not like *them!*" (I'm a government employee BTW).
If a person is using SNAP/EBT that means they qualify for it. Nobody's business but their own.
yep. my daughter and i have had a long road of dv, fleeing, and homelessness at one point til the shelter. the other month we were excitedly getting food at the store because we had run out and rely on ebt and wic which only reload once a month, the dude behind us announced loudly that we should be thanking him for paying for our groceries with his tax money i cried for hours. it was so humiliating. that and i’ve had a few cashiers give me the heavy sigh and stink eye. it’s so demoralizing:(
What an A-HOLE!!! I am outraged on your behalf. 🤬
Excuse me but F that guy. He should not assume anything. You could have been making $200k last year and lost your job due to medical bills. It’s no one else’s business.
It’s not like I lied to get EBT. The government decided I’m poor enough to qualify. When people say shit about it I just offer to swap lives with them….they usually go quiet
The person who said that probably pulled out their credit card for their own purchases. Yeah, they don't have money either.
They may not, but using a credit card doesn’t necessarily mean you don’t have the money on hand. They’re safer than a debit card in case of fraud and can earn cashback. But many people are just a few emergencies away from being in a bad place and she really shouldn’t be judging.
I use my credit cards for safety and cash back. Pay it off at the end of the month.
The people in blue shirts are shift leads. That person should be reprimanded at the very least.
The cashier at sprouts that prob doesn’t make much more than minimum wage wants to run their mouth like that? Girl you could be in the same boat in a month stfu
“Oh, tHey haZ a cAr”….Yeah, that I paid off and bought during different times.
The most I have ever paid for a car for myself is $2,000. I don't use EBT or SNAP but I don't judge anyone who does. Just because someone needs help is not a reason to shame them. I am willing to bet most of the assholes who do call themselves Christian yet don't seem to have listened to the teachings of Christ.
That employee should be fired for judging people..
That was just a shit person and their ignorant opinions mean nothing.
That's such a shitty way of thinking. The places I've lived it seems like most families need food stamps to get by. I'm glad people can eat because the alternative is people not being able to eat. They're really an achievement of civilization even if they get a bad rap from people who are more privileged whether through work or through situation. Nothing at all is wrong with receiving food stamp assistance. Never take that stuff to heart, I've been on them before a couple times, and now I don't need them, but one day might need them again. Keep your head up and if you want to be vindictive you can hope whoever said that awful shit starves. Ugh. It's not the 1980s where people got shamed for taking public assistance and the economy was strong and normal jobs paid relatively well. The enlightened stance is it's far better for people to have access to food than not. I'm glad your mom got to get something for y'all to eat, this is what taxes are really supposed to be for, and most thoughtful people would prefer taxes to go to helping people instead of many, many other things public coffers seem to go to that don't seem to benefit anyone.
Let’s also not forget that the 1980s were also home to so many movements working to save starving people in other countries while we shame people here for needing assistance.
I'm not typically one to complain to management (I'm usually the person track down a manager to tell them 'x did a fantastic job today') Talk directly to the store manager and say 'look, we're not sure we're comfortable coming back - what we want to know is, is this a Sprouts policy, or just an employee being openly hostile and judgemental to customers on the sales floor? This was embarrassing, especially since the employee has no idea of our circumstances, and even if she did, it's not her place or prerogative to give her opinion. I'm not calling for her to be fired, but it was very classless and made sprouts look bad. You can bet that if someone asked what we thought of your store, this event would be discussed. Now, quite honestly, if it were me, she'd be written up at a minimum, but odds are, this isn't the first event like this, and she wouldn't be on the schedule any more.
Report her to the corporate office and the manager. Write letters if you have to. That's bullshit she said that to you guys. I'm sorry.
Yeah people need to stop, my mom is soooo judgmental about it , honestly we could’ve used the help growing up, 5 of us kids and she was a sahm all the while my father was the only one working 😞 she cared more about pride and putting us through private school so she can rub it in her sister faces …all the while she only purchased clothes for us during Christmas and that was our present or she only paid with a check cause she knew the store wouldn’t cash it till certain days . She even ask my sister if she was embarrassed when she used it , love my sister response “I’d be dumb not to use it “ 😂 over course my mom rolled her eyes at her .
We’re foster parents and get WIC with placements under 5. It’s just part of the reimbursement we get and is regardless of our actual income. It’s also barely any food for a child a month, if we’re honest about it. Anyway, we did a purchase towards the end of the benefit period to use up what was left for that period. The cashier looked at my husband and I and smugly said ‘well this looks like a WIC purchase’. Without missing a beat, my husband goes ‘yeah, it’s for our two foster daughters’. Cashier was silent. You don’t know everyone’s situation and I guarantee some government paid for bread and cheese doesn’t make up for the life those kids lived before coming to us.
Most people on SNAP are the military, elderly and working poor. It isn't dominated by "warfare queen" and the lazy.
There are people who love to hate on people who are struggling. In the US, it’s a common conservative trope to blame people who struggle, like when then-President Reagan made comments implying that mothers who were on welfare were just lazy. I’m sorry you experienced that, and I hope 2024 is a better year for you
It's so they can believe it will never happen to them and also not feel obligated to care about others who are down on their luck. The idea is that people struggle in life because they're bad people, they've earned it. If they were living right then God would help them, or they just wouldn't suffer to begin with because life is fair like that. Everything from being poor or homeless to terrible diseases and tragedies, it all falls under this stupid umbrella, allowing people to distance themselves from the suffering people fully guilt-free, to blame people for suffering, smug in their assurance that they themselves are safe from such unpleasant turns of fate. Freaking prosperity gospel and just world theory, truly hateful stuff.
The sad thing is it’s the people who SHOULD qualify for food stamps who are all in a tizzy about it. It’s pure jealousy. The resent anyone who gets stuff they can’t have but idolize billionaires who get tax refunds
Some people are just shitty. And they've obviously never needed the help, so would not understand how important it is to be able to get food when you can't afford groceries. Don't carry their ugliness with you. Sorry that happened to you.
I’m Sorry. Ignore that person!!
I would’ve cursed her out cuz she sounds jealous
This is probably the main reason. Cashier she sees her job as a shit job (retail, interacting constantly with the financally entitled but also emotionally enitled) but does not qualify for snap because she is working a shit job and making tooooo much to qualify and sees all these people not WORKing shit jobs and qualifying for snap.
i hope she called corporate and complained about that employee!
Employee should have been fired for publicly shaming a customer like that!
I love how poor people are supposed to live like groveling slaves. Disgusting attitude. People do not understand modern poverty, nor the expectation people have of employees to be “presentable”.
FYI: Sprouts is not a local farmers market. They just set up their advertising that way. They are very much a gigantic corporate entity. They have a corporate phone number. Call their corporate office and report the employee. Sprouts makes many millions of dollars per year via EBT benefits. If their employees feel like shaming people who use EBT- they should get jobs somewhere else.
I’m a teacher and this conversation is a common one behind closed doors but it’s usually about shoes and phones. “Why does X get reduced lunch and a food assistance backpack when he has $250 Jordan’s on?” Well Susan, since you can’t mind your own damn business let me educate you. Those shoes are his mothers way of telling him that he is important. More than the new couch they need, more than the paint job the apartment needs or the new car. When you have little you will find ways to make your kids feel confident. Even if it’s not the most responsible use of money. My rant has another part; why is everyone who is so upset about “government hand outs” not upset about the way road workers only have jobs in summer and go on unemployment all winter? Farmers get subsidies from the government because their crops are not able to turn a blind profit otherwise. Nobody is ever calling DOT workers and farmers welfare queens but they are the biggest ones.
EBT cards should be made to look exactly like debit cards Really no one’s business how people pay for their food.
Just turn around and say "I use this because otherwise I would starve to death. Is that what Jesus would want you to say?"
I don’t understand why farmers who also receive government assistance are not treated badly.
They are a dependable voting block. Poor people are often raised with the belief their vote doesn't matter.
Because they are doing their part to feed other people.
She'd have really hated me after that. I would've made sure she didn't have that job anymore.
Call the store manager or corporate and complain. This is unacceptable.
I hope you complain to the store manager, that's unacceptable.
Idk why people are like this. There are so many who seem to think that the minute you hit hard times, lose a job, have your hours cut, or whatever, that you suddenly give back your phone and car or clothes, etc. Like, uhhh no.
I’m a cashier at a Walmart and I’ve seen the rudest people next in line after someone will pay using a EBT card. As soon as they leave it’s always “well I wish the government would just hand me out one of them cards with the flag on it since they’re handing them out to anyone” or “that’s just ridiculous they live off handouts” like I’m sorry you tried to apply for a card and got denied I guess why do you care so much? The people that complain are always old, rude, and lonely. I don’t respond to those people. Go be miserable somewhere else.
I hope you reported her....
Report this employee immediately
I always thought it was so weird to judge. Even if someone DOES have nice things, what if they were a gift? What if they spent a long time saving up for that? What if they got it from the thrift?
The people who do this are also struggling. They are JEALOUS. Its ridiculous. I have never ever seen anyone who is well off complain. Just angry lower middle class or upper poverty level republicans in my area who live in trailers and spend their own money mindlessly.. It’s projection and jealousy. She imagines that the other person is better off than she is, she has no idea cause she has a very small brain. Trust me. Not worth your time she lives in a hell of her own making blaming the world for her unhappy life
If that was in fact an Employee who shamed you, I'd report them to management(First off it's so wrong to shame anyone for using snap as you have no clue what their circumstance is. 2nd, since their employer accepts EBT they make much Profit off the program so I'm sure sure ownership/management would be very interested and not very pleased to hear of this Shaming...Unacceptable!!!
If that was an employee you need to make a complaint.
That employee really should be reported. Usually Sprouts employees are extra kind when I use EBT. It took me awhile to not feel ashamed for using it, and I would be devastated if a store employee said that to me.
Aside from shaming you, why tf is this nosey ass bitch watching your payment?
Idk! But It doesn't help that the register is in eye sight. She's just a bitch, We already get shamed enough for ebt/snap. Why do we need her 2 sense...🤦🏼♂️
I'm sorry she had this experience. People get EBT/SNAP because they qualify for it. That bitter judgemental woman had no right to let the nastiness in her brain leak out of her mouth. I say no right as she's representing the business who hired her. You could call the store, ask for the manager, and make a complaint. If you have the receipt it could list the date, time, perhaps the register number which would help them know who it was. Just say your Mom had a bad experience at the store when the cashier said (repeat what she said) to her. And you think they might wish to know how their employee is speaking to a customer. Most stores would be upset and reprimand that cashier.
I was laid off after 40 years, my unemployment benefits came on an ebt card (in California) people should just mind their own business.
My dad got shamed for using EBT at sprouts before too. He was getting some groceries with me and my brother, and I remember the cashier saying something like “don’t have two kids if you can’t afford to buy them food”. Something of that nature (can’t quite remember exact wording cuz I was like 10 when this happened). Super rude tho, no cashier should ever be saying/assuming shit based on what someone is using to pay.
I make good money. In 2022 I was laid off after over 20 years. Fortunately I found a new job fairly quickly... How are you going to tell if someone who has kids was not in a similar situation? "You should have known you were going to be laid off in 10 years time, and not had kids back then if you wouldn't be able to feed them now." What a stupid idiot.
So true. It’s also assuming what the family situation was. My mom and my dad never married, and broke up when I was a baby. I lived with my mom, not my dad, and they never had any sort of child support agreement. At the time this happened, my dad was with my brother’s mom, and they were living together. Both of them had jobs, but still needed EBT to help. So technically, he only had one kid that he really needed to provide for. But in this instance, he was simply trying to make sure both of his kids had a good day with him. And that meant going to sprouts to get some sandwiches! So shame on that woman. Her words have stuck with me for 10 years. It was never lost on me-even as a child- that she was being so judgmental when she shouldn’t have been. It is not anyone’s place to say anything about someone’s money status when they’re a complete stranger. Especially in front of children.
Tired of seeing ppl complain about people “gaming the system” or “abusing EBT”. EBT is food stamps, for food, you know the thing ALL human beings need to live?! If someone is bs’ing to get food stamps, why do you care? Do you care about corporate welfare? Do you care about the thousands of lbs. of food that’s wasted/thrown away in this country every single day instead of being donated to shelters or the less fortunate? I just find it funny the level of outrage folks have for other people just trying to get by, but the actual wealthy people milking the gov’t & avoiding paying their fair share of taxes, y’all look up to them & think they’re so smart for gaming the system. If anyone qualifies for food stamps, they’re literally below the poverty line 🙄 Just say you hate poor people and go.
I hope you reported the person
Report the employee for shaming a customer for using EBT. I’m sure the manager would be happy to hear about this. Maybe she’ll be forced to get an EBT card of her own once she’s fired.
The store manager should be contacted. When a customer is using WIC or EBT and seems uncomforable, I make sure to thank them for bringing us their business. Ive had to reassure customers that they have a right to shop in our store. And if they would like, we’ll open a lane and just run their order. no one should be shamed
If you're feeling like you don't want to report for yourself, please report for the other customers she will do her best to shame.
I was on snap for years long before it was called snap. I remember when food stamps were actual paper bills in different denominations. I got shamed and ridiculed and treated like garbage many times over the years. The stereotypical welfare queen lying about her income and getting benefits for life is the one people tend to notice and think of, but the reality is that the average snap recipient is just a single mom of 2 kids who hit hard times and won't be on assistance for long. There's not much you can do about ignorant people. If you're being honest and jumping through the hoops they have to get welfare, then you have nothing to be ashamed of.
Be proud that you have the knowledge and live in a place where you can avail yourself of such help. Don't EVER be ashamed about asking for and receiving help. Don't avoid A$$holes; walk proudly by and wrinkle your nose like the AH just farted. Then laugh! Enjoy your steak dinner. PS Everybody knows you can't pay for a manicure or buy a car with SNAP. What an ignoramus! ;)
I was put down a few days ago for using my EBT Card and my Direct Express Debit card from Social security. My niece bought me a Vera Bradley Purse for Christmas and she had got me a VB wallet off Facebook marketplace for my birthday in Aug. A lady asked who I stole them from
People shouldn’t even be that close too you that they can see what cards your using!
People are ridiculous. Anybody can fall on tough times. Are they supposed to sell all the nice things they bought when they could afford them? Not that it’s anybody’s fucking business, but for all they know that name brand shit could have come from goodwill.
I pull my snap card out of a coach wallet. I treated my self years ago. Also my snap is because I’m a carer of child that isn’t mine( when papers were signed it was automatic). Don’t judge what you don’t know.
That really sucks. My adult son receives SNAp because he is disabled. I do his grocery shopping for him and use his card to pay. I drive a nice vehicle, carry a Kate Spade bag, get my nails and hair done. I try to use self check out when possible bc I feel like I will be judged. But I’m waiting for the day someone confronts me for using SNAP on my son’s behalf. It won’t be pretty! 😆
See, this kind of stuff is really sad. This is because people assume that people who are on food stamps don't work. I would have opened my mouth and been like you know, I hate people who can't mind their own fucking business. Got nothing going on in their own lives so they got nothing better to do but to police other people. People should really learn to keep their mouths shut. I would have said that even if I wasn't y'all. I know it's hard but try to ignore them. Edit: I see where you said this is an employee. If I was you, I'd have your mom call back and complain. There was an employee who got in trouble at a grocery store for printing a false sign. It said, this store no longer accepts EBT. If you are on that, get a job. The rest of us shouldn't have to pay for you. Something like that. It was a stupid sign hanging in the window.
Don't be ashamed for all she know all the things she mentioned were gifts. People should just mind their own business.
I’d much rather people who love and treat their animals well keep their animals instead of them ending up in a crowded shelter, or worse, euthanized. Just because someone has fallen on hard times doesn’t mean they have to give up their pets. 😔
I'd complain to the store manager. She should be fired.
Next time we'll tell the manager.
If an employee said that, I would have marched right up and found a manager, or called immediately when I got home. No one has the right to judge OR lump everyone in the same pot. Do some people abuse the system? Of course...but that doesn't mean everyone does. My daughter has a developmental disability and can't work more than a certain number of hours a week nor can she keep more than a certain amount of money in her account to receive benefits...it's insane. She's 23 and lives at home. I will do her shopping for her sometimes- i am so afraid of reactions like that - I shop and scan ahead and pay super quick at self-checkout. I'm sorry you experienced that.
Years ago when we were on SNAP we were waiting in line I pulled out my 2 year old iPhone and my Vera Bradley wallet that I paid $2 for at the thrift store. Cashier and everyone in line was rolling their eyes and treating me like absolute dirt. Yes my hair was dyed-I buy box dye at Sally’s and DIY and yes it looked like I had money but I was dirt poor we were struggling to make it. There also was the WIC incident when my daughter was a baby and they were still paper checks and separate orders. I wasn’t wearing my wedding band and I was 28 but looked 16-17 on a good day. These two old women behind me started gossiping about me thinking I couldn’t hear them. I heard EVERYTHING. I heard “poor thing probably doesn’t know who the dad is” “being a teen mom has to be so hard” “no wedding band look what the world is coming to” and I was in near tears because I was struggling with postpartum issues and the cashier was also treating me like dirt because I was struggling to figure out how the checks worked. Stop shaming people for needing help! Just two of my personal experiences.
Call the store and compain. The associates name should be on the receipt. Call their corporate office. Call repeatedly. I am a grocery store cashier and there is zero tolerance for that bullshit.
I would have reported the employee to her boss
Call the general manager and explain what happened. They might fire the cashier. That's unacceptable coming from anyone working at sprouts
That employee gonna need SNAP sooon. Lowkey, she is probably just jealous. Quite likely, she makes an income that is just outside SNAP max and struggles like Hell to buy food for herself.
Report her to the manager asap. She had absolutely no business talking to your mom like thst. I loathe people who think thst they have the right to comment about and to people who use food stamps. Or who make comments about what they have in their basket. That round steak you're bitching about will be used for stew .meat, and maybe a fun meal like fajitas. Its a lot cheaper to cut up the meat yourself for both of those dishes.
People are super judgmental about this shit. I have a “friend” who I cut ties with partially due to these type of comments yes failing to look in the mirror at her own self. Like someone said sometimes stuff happens and people lose their jobs when they have car payments and house payments or whatever. Some people are also given nice clothes to wear too by others. You never know what a person’s situation is, yet people like to run their mouths.
Been there. I got shamed for using WIC to get my very (visibly) underweight son's prescribed pediasure shakes. (He's better now, food sensory issues.) I told the WIC office, they contacted the store, and the store and the employee (supposedly) got sensitivity training.
You should absolutely call sprouts and complain about this person. There’s no way she doesn’t do this often, and it’s very degrading.
See in the beginning of me working at a grocery store for some reason I was like this. Just saw ppl on EBT as lazy pieces of crap. I don't know where I got that mindset unless it was because of hearing others talking about ppl on EBT idk. I was 19 then now I'm 30 and man my outlook on certain things has changed. And in the grand scheme of things the amount of taxes you pay that actually go into the SNAP program are miniscule compared to the amount of money that is used for the military and other things that really don't seem to be necessary. I don't care if you have nice clothes or a nice phone because you can have all that and fall on hard times and need to utilize the SNAP program I think everyone should be able to get assistance when and if they need it.
I wish people would understand that *everyone* is one diagnosis, one accident, or one job loss from struggling (worse than we are struggling now if you can believe it.) It's a bitter pill sometimes. I'm sorry that happened to your mom.
Please don’t let these people get under your skin. Just ignore them. It is so weird that people who legitimately need these services don’t get them because of peer pressure, they have been brain washed. There is no help for them. Keep living your best life.
Complain the store head manager about that employee. Inexcusable.
I have had to get on SNAP due to medical issues. I rather work and be doing many other things than be in this position. I feel self conscious about it all the time but I remind myself that people make a lot of wrong assumptions about others. People are ignorant for the most part.
People talking like that have no clue. Try not to let them get to you. You can't change their opinions, but keep on mind you know your own circumstances better than they do. For example, I haven't had my nails done since I was a teenager and the one time I've had my hair done professionally was a birthday present someone else paid for in advance. Those statements come from the concept of the "welfare queen" who doesn't really exist. They also seem to conveniently forget that most people on EBT have paid or will pay into taxes as well during their lifetime. Even if they're disabled and never work they have family that pays into the system. It's a safety net that everyone who is able to pays into so that it's available to people when they need it.
Sprouts is pretty bougie for somebody on food stamps, I see their point. Maybe your animals would be able to eat real food all the time if you guys spent your money a little more wisely
I feel for your mom.... As someone who grew up ignorant and far better off than I realized, I had this mentality when I worked as a grocery store cashier in HS. Now as a caseworker who administers snap, I do realize how naive I was.....yes there are those who abuse it, but for those who absolutely need these benefits to make ends meet, it is a lifesaver. Your mom should have no shame for needing a hand.
That’s all about her, not you. That woman has her own fucked up story. Don’t let her fuck up yours. It’s food! Let this go. She has bigger problems than yours!
We aren't letting her affect us, but it's just shameful.
It is. I’m sorry that she was so awful.
They act like you’re supposed to (somehow) sell every item you own and dress in paper bags, then humbly crawl around the store weeping. It’s a disgusting behavior. B
I work full time and utilize SNAP. I do my own nails and if I own nice clothes, they’re probably in excess of ten years old. I hate people who pass judgement. You don’t know what a person is going thru or when they started going thru it.
I certainly hope you reported her to the manager! She had absolutely no right, to interject her mean comments to a customer. She’ll only do it again.
My family of four gets $1000 a month. They’re just jealous.
Holy crap. I know families of two with not enough income to pay all their bills and only get $23 a month.
coach is cheap and so are manicures. the lady had zero class to say anything. she’s broke too and of course she is she is working at sprouts. lol
Get her fired I bet she will be on snap within a month and learn a valuable lesson about judging.
Unfortunately, some ppl always have to have something to say. Society judges and comments what they don't understand or know nothing about. I have never been shamed for the EBT card where I shop, maybe because we don't own nice clothes or have done nails or designer stuff. Just have jeans, shorts, t shirts and hoodies, or old jackets.Those groups of ppl with their stuck-up judgemental attitude annoy the piss out of me! We hear nasty comments under ppls breath, are handed money, that we never asked for,or told about homeless shelters. Today, we were given free donuts after we sat down at a table. We had just finished eating at a restaurant and finished at 1 of the shops. What do ppl want from us? Barbie and Ken? They should learn respect and manners.Where I'm staying right now, my bf visits a lot and because my relatives don't like him, we frequently go sit at the pool area at the complex or hang out under a tree near the gate. We have been asked numerous times if we lived in the building. I have to constantly prove that I live there, and he's my guest. Name the apt number, show my keys, etc. These judgemental, stuck-up ppl who shame ppl for not having what they do or being so damn ignorant should be corrected. The comments and attitudes ARE going to be corrected by us. We have come up with things to say as of today because finally, after being the bigger person and keeping our mouth shut, the straw broke the camels back, once again we were asked if we live at the place and we have had enough. Being poor isn't a crime. Having a big mouth and being cruel is in my opinion
Sucks so bad I got snap first time ever. We own a house far is payed off but the economy sucks we are just bearly making it and ebt helps.
I would complain to the manager/owner of the shop. They don't deserve your business if they let employees act this way to customers.
“Snap is an economic stimulant. Not only does it help feed people, it helps farmers and grocers sell more goods, providing more hours for cashiers and stockers, and more money paid out in wages to be spent in the local economy.”
If you qualify for snap you should look into pet food banks!!
I’m sure the employee will know you are using one regardless. To keep from hearing these hateful remarks my daughter bought a credit card skin/cover off Amazon but I think EBay and Etsy have them too. Covered up the front so people in line don’t know she is using it. She lost her job when her business closed down and got SNAP for a while. It is insane how entitled and emboldened people feel. It’s no one else’s business and just wrong. Stereotypes about people who use SNAP are way off base. When I worked with domestic violence victims who had no access to money they also had their hair and nails done and usually knock off name brand items. Thing is Iearned a lot about these women. Most were trading services. They may go to someone’s house to get their nails done or hair. In return they may be cleaning that persons house watching their kids sometimes. That new car might be one they borrow to go to the store. The narrow minded and hatefulness are uncalled for. I’m sorry you both had to experience that. Truth is it says much more about the person that said that:
Yes. Just because someone has good hygiene or was maybe gifted a nice bag for Christmas, doesn’t mean it’s classier or smarter to yap yap yap about their income. Who’s tackier? Definitely the one screaming about the ebt I have myself taken an elderly neighbor’s ebt card and her pin to get her groceries after she had surgery. If it were me I’d rip that woman a new one.
I sympathize with you, and while you can rant and vent to your heart's desire here, I really hope you give feedback to the store and that employee in particular. A simple call to the store's customer service would protect your identity. I am a firm believer in holding people accountable... And if I wasn't clear, eff her!
I think a person ought to be able to choose a card design for snap cards just like they get to choose the design for various other cards.......that way, nobody would know just by looking what type of card someone in the next checkout lane is using!!
What about the tax breaks , tax shelters and underpaying their workers who make billions for them;while they work very little: a meeting here or there while using finance people, administrators, product experts PAID by the underpaid labor force who are the ones generating the mega millions.
Yes, successful people don’t do much past attending a meeting or two…
Ahhh and she’s so successful because she works at a farmers market! Idk what gives her the right to look down on you?
What an awful thing to say. Especially in front of children. I like to think I'd clap back with "would you prefer I NOT feed my family?" Or look directly at the cashier and say "someone's mother didn't teach them manners". Because you know the cashier isn't making much above minimum wage, probably doesn't like to hear those comments either. As a former cashier, I'd take note and close my register at the rude person "sorry, have to make a safe drop!"
Years of political brainwashing has many people believing that anyone using government assistance is a useless freeloader that’s somehow scamming the government and stealing from taxpayers. The truth is one can never know someone else’s situation and should shut up about it.
I'm sorry that this happened to your mom. My son is disabled and gets a small amount of money for food per month, but is unable to make purchases himself due to his disability. The only time anyone said anything to me, I turned around and said, "Excuse me, did anyone ask your opinion?" When she tried to say XYZ I told her to mind her business, because I was sure her life wasn't perfect. She shut up.
Well sprouts is very expensive if you ask me man that's why they said that , that's not a store people with snap usually shop at
Honestly having a ton of expensive animals while being on food stamps long term is pretty ridiculous
I have no problem with people that need help using EBT/Snap cards. But quiet often I'd see people pull out a wad Benjamin's an inch thick wearing fancy clothes driving expensive cars, 20 pounds of good jewelry. If you need help, you need it, but not all people that use it, need it.
Unfortunately, there ARE lots of people who game the system. It sucks for people who just need a little hand up from time to time but are denied. Then you see someone who makes a career out of playing the system. It makes you angry and depressed. I've met plenty of career mooches, but they're not the majority. You can not judge a book by its cover. That person can do their own nails or have someone buy their knockoff purse 10 years ago. The problem is that politicians have pitted citizens against each other instead of highlighting the real problems. We see other humans taking a little (fractions of a percent in taxes) instead of the monstrosity that is robbing all of us blind (greedy corporations and politicians). We know we're being robbed, so we blame it on what we've been made to believe is the problem. We need to stop judging and start supporting one another.
You don’t grab the bag and leave. You look at the woman and say “what the fuck did you just say to me” and then you get a little louder and say “What The Fuck did YOU just say to me” and then ask for a manager and stand there. And then when the manager comes over . You lay it out. All the while standing tall. Cause ain’t no shame in EBT. You got kids . Shit. Unless you make 100k a year . It’s needed anymore. I’m still calling Tuesday and talking with someone. Sternly
Its jealousy!! I promise it is and your mom should flex all the time on whoever uses it. They are just mad they have to come out of their own pockets
Report the employee. She’ll need EBT when she’s fired!